#that doesn't invalidate anyone

[bilesproblems]

My biggest problem as an mspec lesbian is being in inclus spaces and seeing "labels don't have meaning" or "gender is fake" yes the fuck they do and no the fuck it isn't.

If labels meant nothing, no one would use them. Saying labels mean nothing is invalidating to mspec lesbians and lesboys because our use of the lesbian label isn't "lol it means nothing anyway." Lesbian means something and that meaning means something to us. Just because our relationships with the label and the ways we use them are complicated doesn't mean it means nothing. Just because an increased understanding of gender and orientation can allow labels to encompass different experiences doesn't mean they mean nothing. If they meant nothing we would just avoid the drama and not identify this way.

If gender is fake I wouldn't feel it so strongly. "Social construct" has never meant fake, never meant it can't exist in your brain. We're social animals, and social constructs can greatly impact our brain. Saying gender isn't real invalidates everyone that isn't agender, genderless, gendervoid, or cassgender. Gender is complicated but it's real. (ETA: I found this post again. As an anon pointed out, it also invalidates genderless people who consider not having a gender, refusing to be gendered, or refusing to care about their gender to be important parts of their identity by taking away the thing that makes their identity unique in the first place.)

Just because something is complicated and isn't perfectly linear doesn't mean it's right to say it means nothing. That's not a justification, if it meant nothing we wouldn't need to defend our labels, it just invalidates people. Stop.

[tadpoles-and-daydreams]

hello! i'm new to witchcraft in general. how do you talk to deities using tarot cards? i saw your post about hekate and i want to learn more

Hello! I hope you have fun and find fulfillment in your craft and all that :D

I personally don't have a formal way of doing it. I just... Speak their name in my head, and ask them to use the cards to communicate with me. I don't do it out loud but you can.

After that I ask if they're there, and once I get a yes I ask them whatever I need to ask. The actual questions themselves vary depending on the situation. My way of using tarot cards is pretty casual and intuitive- I don't do spreads and instead just asked what vibes right, and the answers are what fall out of the deck as I shuffle.

I use a mix of tarot cards and what I just call "direct communication" which not everyone does, so that's why I talk about more specific answers than you'd see on the cards- sometimes they aren't using the cards. But I find the cards to be an irreplaceable tool in my deity work, and I hope this at least sorta helped! Feel free to ask me to clarify or elaborate on anything.

[dragonpikachu]

I think my favorite thing about the noise update is that none of it actually happened, these motherfuckers just decided to profit off the fact peppino fucking destroyed the lot of them, but the petty fucks wrote peppino out because they fucking hate him

[my-current-obsession]

FE Engage: makes it very difficult to use and level every character since the bonus battles meant for grinding scale to be above or on par with your strongest units, and also the entire map immediately charges and dogpiles you.

ALSO FE Engage: shames you by having characters you haven’t used for a while notice and ASK to be used.

[felucians]

white women who can't handle woc (especially black women) being better than them are so dangerous.

an entire hate campaign investigating if a woc is really a woman?

[caffeinatedopossum]

"I feel like the abuse I went through wasn't bad enough :( I don't even remember it"

Yeah so... are you prepared to hear information that could potentially hurt you

[sevicia]

I'm gonna be so honest RN when I say that I love seeing lgbt ppl out in the wild like yes girl exist ETC but I'm kinda nervous about interacting w/ another gay person and just being different types of gay YK 😭 Like you think Taylor Swift is a lesbian icon, I spend all day thinking of men and women with sweaty hairy pits. WE ARE NOT THE SAME‼️

[viridian-coffer]

i may just only open Genshin to leave a complaint in the survey, cause the longer i think about it the worse i feel about the Natlan cast 😬

[actual-corpse]

You can't be an ally to anyone (LGBT+, religion, race, etc) and then say a group of people "should die".

[salsa-di-pomodoro]

Alright. Guess the submas tag is still full of angst 👍🏼

[swamp-world]

like i think that we really really really need to actually gain the social literacy and compassion to understand that. not tipping your server isn’t praxis, but the fact that it’s expected that the customer pay the wage of the server also doesn’t mean that the customer (often also stiffed and a victim of wage theft) isn’t obligated to do so, and that while this is within our own economic system a great injustice and act of violence that needs to be rectified, it is in fact not the greatest injustice in the world and seeing people comparing getting screamed at for war crimes to not being tipped demonstrates a drastic lack of any sense of proportion. this is me speaking as both a service worker and someone engaged in organizing. let me be absolutely clear that I am not saying that not tipping your server is praxis. if you are able to tip i think that you should. i also think that “it’s the social contract in america to tip your server” needs to be read as “the structure has been built so that resisting it is tantamount to being a class traitor, and there are no winners in this situation”. i make less than 1k a month. tipping at 15% is straight up not viable all of the time if i want to pay rent. that’s not praxis, that’s me trying to keep a roof over my head, same as the service worker who i can’t always tip. so much analysis of this matter on social media tends to boil down to brute utilitarianism that causes further fragementation among the working class, and not for unjust reasons.

but just as not tipping my server isn’t praxis, tipping my server also isn’t praxis. not because it doesn’t help the individual (it does) but because it functionally validates the extant system in which the customer directly pays the wages. especially in the digital age: whereas cash tips are often considered nontaxable income, digital tips are administered as directly taxable income by the employer. when tips are paid out as wages i think it’s a little unfair to consider them to be “gratuities”.

again: not tipping isn’t praxis, but i wonder often about how many people who parrot this point are engaged in labour organizing or support in any way other than tipping. everyone deserves to be paid for their labour. but likewise, putting the onus on the working class customer to do so doesn’t actually help anyone except for the employer.

if you’re getting pissed at other working-class people for not tipping high numbers, especially impoverished and/or marginalized people, i hope that you are also engaged in literally any form at all, no matter how intense or dedicated, to any kind of action or organization that supports increasing minimum wage and shifting this responsibility from the customer to the employer (i.e. working class to owning class).

[bl00dh0rs3]

the way i have absolutely no business being the way i am

[born-to-lose]

Not my nurse sister saying ADHD doesn't exist when I mentioned that some symptoms apply to me 🥲🥲🥲

[blunderpuff]

put on tshirt after doing yardwork (cuz i got hot) and my mom immediately commented "look at YOU in bArE aRmS"

so i put on my long shirt again

[hussyknee]

"pre-civilization" is a racist term all by itself, as is the idea that migratory populations cannot be indigeneous. indigeneity is not genetic and not innate. it is a relationship with a colonizing entity.

literally every other definition of indigeneity can be weaponised to either 1. justify colonizing a certain people who don't meet the arbitrary standard, for example under your definition palestinians and domari are not indigeneous because they are post-civ and dom are migrants to the region, and 2. can be used to cloak revanchist, reactionary fascism in post-colonial societies in the language of liberation.

i do not know why you need a scholar to tell you this. i usually respect your willingness not to center yourself in these topics as someone who is not currently living under a settler colonial occupation. it is very tiresome to see people opine about indigeneity when they cannot even get the definition of the word right, and then argue with indigeneous people when we correct them.

I agree I shouldn't have used pre-civilization. I honestly feel like "civilization" is a very colonial term that reinforces the myth that societies evolve in a linear progression. I meant the fact that they remained distinct from the kind of later agrarian society that can pack up, migrate and settle elsewhere, whose technologies created expansionism and competition for resources.

I live under extractive colonialism, the Global South exists under colonality, we also need a way of describing that colonization without infringing on the colonization we inflict on others. There has to be a difference between native and indigenous. I want to be clear on what that is and whether it changes with context, because this is not the definition I have understood all my life. I never dispute that you are indigenous because you know your own struggle.

Please understand that I associate the term indigenous that something that when misapplied turns into bloody ethnic violence against your own neighbours. Eelam Tamils are colonized by us but their claim of indigeneity involved massacring Muslims praying in their mosques and forcible assimilation and displacement of Indigenous Tamils. Sinhalese who had also been in the North since the British took over and were part of their communities were expelled by them— were they indigenous? Malayyiah Tamils are kept ghettoised and indentured to the tea plantations they were brought here from India to work a hundred years ago. Many of them are not remaining in Sri Lanka by choice, others feel this is their homeland now. They're indisputably colonized yet I have never heard the term indigenous applied to them. The Veddahs were turned into a freak show by the British which was continued by the Sinhalese post-independence, or forced to leave when the agriculture of the locals deforested their lands— by the natives who had also been there for untold generations and also called themselves indigenous under British colonization. I can't imagine calling them settlers.

So yes, I want to figure out whether I have misunderstood the definition I have seen used specifically to protect the people who have been rooted in to the land they live off of and can't migrate to another place without losing their entire way of life, unlike the rest of us. I want to understand whether it's different according to the ways people are colonized. I'm sorry but neither your identity nor mine confers authority on whether other people conceptualize indigeneity differently and why. This is me telling you why what you tell me doesn't gel with what I know, not that I'm appointing myself the final authority on the subject. Please give me the space to learn about it on my own with academics and sources I know and trust.

[lionydoorin]

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