#sucks to be your friend then lmao

[holy--milk]

ngl when i see people shit on LXC for like. not immediately believing that his best and closest friend of two decades murdered their sworn brother, i'm like "you sound like you would make a really shitty friend".

i mean. if all it takes for you to turn on someone you claim to love is some random guy's accusation (that isn't even backed up by any actual evidence at this point), then ummm. there's kinda something deeply wrong with your concept of "friendship" i guess.

[amlugon]

There's no way some fans on twitter are saying Silco deserved to be drowned/murdered because he threw a molotov (at enforcers who were arresting Benzo at a RIOT no less). There's actual wrong doings you can focus on, my goodness, and non were done before the drowning. Some arcane fans think they're really progressive because they like the lesbian couple and then turn around and say they should have just co operated with Piltover 😭

[cozylittleartblog]

small PSA: if you shop at craft shows or artist alleys, please bring more than apple pay or a virtual card - especially if you're not comfortable entering your card number manually. not all of us have fancy card readers, so please also bring your physical card or cash, even if it's only as backup 👍

[pnfc]

i haint watched the dang chibisode and idk if ill actually watch it with sound on sdfjk but i have a hurt feeling about them casually imbuing perry with speech for a one off gag because the idea that he needs to talk to communicate is fake. we had 4 seasons of wacky magic hijinks cartoon where perry never needed verbal speech to communicate. they couldve done this gag at any point in the show but they didn't, and the fact that they didn't felt significant. perry's muteness is such a core part of his character, to me, to the way i conceive of him/write him. i don't wanna overreact to a goofy little side cartoon (even tho i'm doing it anyway) but it's still the characters, and it still upsets me! ok that's it i've said my piece

[revvethasmythh]

So I went and watched all the possible endings, and it confirmed something I had been thinking, which is that the redemption ending choice is, perhaps, the most immediately regretful one--but that they all come with some form of regret. In the redemption ending, Rook has to knowingly deny themselves the catharsis of retribution (should they desire it, which, at least for me it felt difficult not to) in order to offer Solas one last, painful chance to do the right thing. That willful denial of your own catharsis feels like an immediate regret. Giving Solas the opportunity to pursue atonement might very well be the best choice all around, but it is also incredibly painful to offer that to someone who has done so many terrible things (not a small amount to you personally). Why does he deserve another chance? Especially when so many dead (including a beloved mentor) lie in his wake? Which, I suppose, is the point: he doesn't. But you offer it anyway and it SUCKS ASS, because how could it not?

I don't know how this plays with other story choices (a sacrificed Davrin or a Harding who embraced her anger, for example), but within the context of my own choices, I can imagine an immediate satisfaction to either tricking or fighting him--especially the trick ending, where you can actively name drop Varric--but it feels like the sort of thing that would feel worse as more time passes. Once you've calmed down and are able to ask yourself if that's what the people you've lost really wanted. Varric, in Regret Superhell, didn't want vengeance. He just wanted his friend to walk a better path. And Harding always believed there was another chance for anyone, so long as you kept reaching a hand out for them--even when it sucked ass. So the redemption ending feels like a sort of indignance, an instant regret for not doing worse, for not getting comeuppance, for being forced to eschew satisfaction (related: I wonder if the Inquisitor feels those things as well coming out of this ending, considering how long they've lived under the shadow of Solas' actions). Conversely, the other two endings feel like an immediate satisfaction, because you got to trick the trickster with all the wits Varric taught you, or because you finally got to punch him in the face and it felt really good. But I feel like those endings would come with a creeping regret, something that sneaks up on you later, especially when remembering the fallen and what they would have wanted you to do. Ultimately, because of that, it feels like no ending is devoid of regret. Which I suppose, is rather thematic.

[lord-squiggletits]

I'm not completely opposed to making Pharma a weird guy in general pre-Messatine, the main issue I have with it is that a lot of that type of fandom is less "what if he was just a weird little guy" and more seems to be written with the implication that Pharma went crazy because he was just always a little crazy (or a little evil, or a little heartless, etc). Basically, to me it downplays the fact that Pharma underwent massive trauma for two years straight that other characters barely survived for a few hours/days and instead frames Pharma snapping as some sort of... I don't know, genetic/fated downfall because he was just weird, he was always off, is it really any wonder Pharma ended up Like That because I mean there was always something a little weird about him.

It just seems to accidentally imply that Pharma snapping under the pressure of years of torture was some sort of moral failing or sign of him being weak/immoral. You know, Pharma was always kind of a little creepy/insane/evil deep down which is obviously why he killed people. If he were just a normal, not-weird, good person then he would've been mentally strong enough to Not Go Insane. Like uhhhh it just seems kind of fucked up to imply that the reason some people are unable to cope with long-term trauma and have violent/unhealthy coping behaviors is because there's just something innately wrong with them, and then try and look back on their whole life trying to contextualize how they were actually unstable and evil all along instead of just accepting that like. Normal people (tm), yes normal and good people, can be put in situations where they're slowly turned into broken monsters because they had no escape and no good choices.

And also it's equally fucked up to imply that like. Whether or not you can deal with psychological torture without snapping is some sort of function of how innately moral or mentally strong you are. Incredibly victim-blamey to basically go "well the reason Pharma went insane is because he was just always cracked in the head, unlike our good buddy-pal-friend-hero Ratchet who's the perfect doctor and a good Autobot who's never done anything wrong which is why when he's an asshole/hurts people he's not nearly as destructive or Weird About It."

It's not that "Pharma was always kind of crazy" can't be done, because anything can be written well with enough thought. But I think in terms of writing, it's a very difficult and nuanced line to balance and most people literally just can't do it without implying that trauma victims/mentally ill people are evil or something. And Pharma is already unfairly villainized enough as-is, and in canon his trauma was already downplayed in favor of "haha crazy doctor chainsaw go brrr look how weird and quirky and craaaazyyy he is." So it's one of those things where 1. Most people just aren't good enough to write it and 2. "Always a little crazy" Pharma is already oversaturated enough in the fandom anyways and it's enough of a battle to get people to recognize that he's a tragic character and not just an evil asshole.

[pochapal]

some of you haven't experienced true hell until you end up drowning in Horrors and your only lifeline is an individual who completely sucks and only views you as a feelgood accessory to augment their own life and you can't seek anything better for yourself because there is a rot inside your body that you cannot fix and scares literally every other human being away no matter what you do so it's either settle for being shoved into someone else's myopic fantasy mold or let every minute of your life be ruled by unfathomable loneliness and terror. as you do.

[waterlilyvioletfog]

Like let’s be real Mei Changsu rocking up to the emperor’s birthday party like “I’m gonna end this man’s entire career” was really really funny. Okay yeah he was sad and pathetic but TO BE HONEST, I enjoyed seeing a sixty year old (or whatever) man throw a fit like “ITS MY BIRTHDAY!! ITS MY SPECIAL DAY!! YOU CANT MAKE ME FACE CONSEQUENCES FOR MY ACTIONS AT MY BIRTHDAY PARTY!!! WHY IS EVERYONE BEING SO MEAN TO ME!!” Alright Mei Changsu left that man in SHAMBLES

[mistyscenter]

Let me bitch and moan before posting positivity for a sec because Derek DLC doesn't make you feel like you're cheating on Cove if you're dating him because Derek is actually yours and Cove's friend so spending time with him and crashing to his place doesn't feel weird if you do a platonic route. Which is not the same for Baxter DLC because WDYM I CRASH TO BAXTER'S PLACE AFTER INTERACTING WITH HIM FOR 3 DAYS AFTER 5 YEARS HE GHOSTED ME WHAT THE FUCK-

[skitskatdacat63]

And now my art has been reposted on tiktok, have I finally made it as a creator? 🥺 But like seriously my god, I didn't think I had to say but don't repost??????? I think I've been pretty safe from it cause I normally just draw AU art but ahh making relevant art, it's a dangerous game....I just yeah, don't necessarily know what to do about it, but yeah just don't please?

[kohakhearts]

i think fundamentally one of the biggest reasons why internet discourse, even about the most asinine things, tends to get out of control is because people don’t actually get what “boundaries” are and so expect other people to do things to appease them, rather than taking actions for their own peace of mind

that is to say, boundaries are not things you put up and expect people to maintain for you. they’re actions you take and decisions you make to protect yourself from situations you don’t want to be in, up to and including harmful ones but also including shit that just…annoys you

the example my therapist gave when i learned this (genuinely very difficult skill!) years ago was if you’re trying to leave work at the time you normally leave and someone asks you to stay (whether to work more, or for a social event. one example will be more topical for some than the other, depending on your priorities obviously!). many of us have the gut instinct to defend WHY we’re saying no. but a boundary would be just saying no and not letting the person force a justification out of you. not even “i have something else i have to do, sorry.” just saying “no.” that’s it

this is kind of the thesis behind “don’t like, don’t read,” actually. you, the reader, impose a boundary not by telling the creator of something you’re uncomfortable and they should really take this work down (something you have no control over, no matter how badly you wish you did) but by going “hey, i don’t like this - i’m not going to engage anymore” and blocking, muting, or just straight-up moving on

you don’t have to agree with everything about everyone. and yes, sometimes people are acting like assholes and you want to tell them so. fine! but don’t expect them to STOP acting like assholes just because you called them an asshole. the only way to avoid their assholery is to take an action for YOU. namely, unfollowing or blocking them. you can’t control their behaviour and you shouldn’t be trying to. have a conversation with them if you like and you want to help them self-reflect, but if the behaviour continues then well…it’s time to establish your boundary, say “no,” and get out of there

the point is - boundaries don’t need to be SAID, they need to EXPRESSED. saying “i don’t like this thing you’re doing” is good if it’s someone you know and are close to and it’s a behaviour you know they can change. for a stranger online? it doesn’t serve much of a purpose for either party…and if you say it once and they refuse to change, then it’s time to look at actions you can take to not have to deal with their behaviour anymore. of which you have plenty of options that don’t involve continuing to fight in an argument that’s making you unhappy and isn’t changing anything, for anyone

[verysmallcyborg]

[jicklet]

hoooo yeah Alistair's romance still hits 🥹🌹

[shokupanda]

sonaposting? :3

turns you into a glitter sticker and rotates you in my mind

[stellewriites]

really fucking grinds my gears how my dad knows just how to make me feel fucking guilty for putting up boundaries and saying no

[mintaikk]

When they were teens, Blitzø was definetly the type of guy to complain thst no one had a crush on him while Fizz, currently crushing on Blitzø, just sat there looking at him like this