#stop bringing shipping discourse to my door. i am on record as being pro-every devi pairing

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I’ve been seeing ur blog for a while and i love how you talk abt devi’s agency and how important it is which is why some of the reactions to devi going to ben at the end of s3 annoys me. i keep seeing “imagine ur first time being w ben when you had paxton and des” yeah, they’re pretty but this isn’t about trying to self insert into devi which unfortunately i feel is the case for most (not all) daxton shippers. it’s like they just want the steamy scenes because darren is hot and that’s it.

devi wasn’t ready to have sex w paxton or des. for pax it was because she thought it needed to happen so he could continue dating her. she bailed the moment it got too close multiple times. with des, she was overthinking it and preparing everything meticulously. so i actually really like the fact that devi going to bens and gives her that ridiculous free boink voucher and they don’t even have to say anything feels very inevitable. devi has a lot of agency making that choice and i love that she goes “yeah i want to have sex” and just goes there without any doubt. without overthinking her looks or if the mood is right. ben makes her feel comfortable and herself. so he makes sense as her first time. we don’t know if it happens i guess we’ll find out but the fact is she made the choice of involving ben in the new part of her evolving dream. i believe maitreyi said something similar about liking how team devi it is.

so here's the thing. i agree with the fundamental argument you're making - ben has always represented accountability-to-self in the triangle so it's very thematically rich that he be the love interest devi goes to for her first time - but i don't care for the way you talk about people who would have preferred a different ship outcome in order to make your point. makes this ask kind of a bummer to read, if i'm being honest, because i like paxton and i cared about the devi/des chapter of devi's development. like, read the room.

also, i don't even agree that devi was overthinking things with des. the whole point of them was that she was freed from her identity-related anxieties because he didn't know sherman oaks dork devi and she was totally ready to round one base or another with him by the end of 3.08. circumstance stopped them from getting it on, not any absence of readiness.