#specifically grayromantic or bellusromantic

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i headannon ace on the arospec

[cristi-makes-userboxes]

•──⋅☾ Arospec userboxes ☽⋅──•

Userboxes for all arospec orientations I could find.

Arospec - aromantic or are closely related to aromanticism when placed on a spectrum ranging from aromantic to alloromantic.

Aegoromantic - those who enjoy the concept of romance but do not have a desire to participate in romantic activities.

Apothiromantic - does not feel any romantic attraction and is repulsed or disgusted by it.

Aroflux - fluctuating between experiencing and not experiencing romantic attraction, or that attraction is being experienced to alternating or changing degrees.

Aromantic - do not experience romantic attraction, or experience little-to-no romantic attraction.

Autoromantic - elicit romantic attraction from themselves, by themselves.

Bellusromantic - having an interest in conventionally romantic things without desiring a relationship.

Cupioromantic - do not experience attraction but do desire a romantic relationship.

Demiromantic - do not experience romantic attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone.

Desinoromantic - do not experience "full-on" romantic attraction, but do experience "liking" someone instead of loving them romantically; the attraction then goes no further.

Frayromantic - only feel romantic attraction to people that they do not have a strong emotional bond with.

Grayromantic - low amounts of romantic attraction, rarely feel romantic attraction, only feel romantic attraction under specific circumstances, or are not sure if they experience romantic attraction.

Lithoromantic - feels romantic attraction but does not want that attraction reciprocated or loses attraction when it is reciprocated.

Nebularomantic - unable to or has a hard time distinguishing romantic attraction from platonic attraction due to being neurodivergent.

Quoiromantic - not being romantically categorizable, being unable to tell the difference between differing kinds of attraction, being unsure about experiencing romantic attraction or not, and/or not feeling the concept of "romantic attraction" to be relevant to oneself.

Recipromantic - only experience romantic attraction after knowing that the other person is romantically attracted to them—that is, when it is reciprocated.

[lesvegas]

Okay just humor me here

No alloromantic/see results/other option you must diagnose him. Don't know what most of these mean? Here are their definitions:

Aromantic: Describes people who do not experience romantic attraction, or experience little-to-no romantic attraction.

Aroflux: People who identify as aroflux may experience their romantic orientation as fluctuating between experiencing and not experiencing romantic attraction, or that attraction is being experienced to alternating or changing degrees.

Aegoromantic: Describes those who enjoy the concept of romance but do not have a desire to participate in romantic activities. Aegoromantic individuals may have romantic fantasies or enjoy romantic media, but they tend to feel little to no romantic attraction in real life and typically do not desire a romantic relationship.

Cupioromantic: Describes those who do not experience attraction but do desire a romantic relationship.

Bellusromantic: Involves having an interest in conventionally romantic things without desiring a relationship.

Desinoromantic: People do not experience "full-on" romantic attraction, but do experience "liking" someone instead of loving them romantically; the attraction then goes no further.

Demiromantic: Describes people who do not experience romantic attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone.

Grayromantic: Includes, but is not limited to, people who feel low amounts of romantic attraction, rarely feel romantic attraction, only feel romantic attraction under specific circumstances, or are not sure if they experience romantic attraction.

Lithromantic: Describes someone who feels romantic attraction but does not want that attraction reciprocated or loses attraction when it is reciprocated. They may enjoy romantic relationships in theory, but may stop feeling romantic attraction or enjoyment in a relationship.

Quoiromantic: Describes not being romantically categorizable, being unable to tell the difference between differing kinds of attraction, being unsure about experiencing romantic attraction or not, and/or not feeling the concept of "romantic attraction" to be relevant to oneself.

Recipromantic: People who only experience romantic attraction after knowing that the other person is romantically attracted to them—that is, when it is reciprocated.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Hello! I was wondering if you could help me figure something out. I've only ever had a few crushes (more if you count the feeling of "I'd like to study that person under a microscope like a bug", but I think that's different lol). I definitely don't want to date anyone right now, and the idea of kissing specifically seems really gross. Usually when I imagine my goals for the future, I want to be living in a small apartment by myself. However, sometimes I think that it would be nice to have someone, usually after I've just been to a wedding or something. Additionally, I'm in some fandoms where x reader type stories are really popular, and I enjoy reading those.

So. The labels I've been considering — if I am even on the a-spec — are aroflux, grayromantic, orchidromantic, lithromantic, and bellusromantic. Thoughts on which one, if any, I should use? Thank you~

None of these labels would necessarily be wrong, at this stage it might be more helpful to think less in terms of 'is it accurate' (technically they all are), and more in terms of aspects of how I experience my identity is important to me to describe. What do I want to communicate to others with my labels? Do I feel a connection to any of these labels? How specific or how broad to I want to be with my identity?

So for example someone who prefers to define themselves more broadly might prefer to use a label like grayromantic but not want to use more specific labels than that while others might find it more useful to use labels that are more detailed. Someone who feels the crushes they've experienced are an important part of their identity might prefer to use orchidromantic or lithromantic. etc.

Another label you might want to look into if you haven't considered it already is aegoromantic. Which means someone who has romantic feelings or things they find romantic, but they don't want to be a participant in romance themselves. People who like romance in theory (for example romantic fantasies, romance in fiction, etc.) sometimes find this a useful label too.

There's no rules when picking labels, just what works for you. You can use one or a combination, you can try them out temporarily, you can adjust later if something isn't working for you or doesn't feel right. The important thing to remember at this stage is that things are more subjective, so the most important thing is what works for you and feels right for you.

All the best, Anon! Good luck!

[yannig]

First, the necessary disclaimer: you don't have to find precise labels. You can just go "i'm aspec" or "i'm ace and arospec/aro-questioning" and that's perfectly fine.

It's also perfectly fine to try and change labels; it's okay not to find the "right" one on the first try, and it's okay if the "right" one changes.

Now if you want more specific labels:

Grayromantic / gray aromantic: you rarely experience romantic attraction and/or only under certain circumstances Cupioromantic: you don’t experience romantic attraction, but desire a romantic relationship Bellusromantic: you have an interest in conventionally romantic things without desiring a relationship Alicoromantic / Agnoromantic: you know you are somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, but your romantic orientation doesn't fit in any aromantic spectrum label. Can also mean that you have not figured out yet which label fits best. See also Quoiromantic.

Those are just a few of the most generic ones that I thought could apply to what you described.

There are of course other well-known ones: Source 1, Source 2, Source 3, Source 4

And then an infinity of micro-labels if you want to go down that rabbit hole (label coining as an art-form)

List of Arospec Identites [1]

List of Arospec Identities [2]

Very very detailed list of arospec labels

Hope this helps! Have fun on your journey <2

I’m pretty sure I’m asexual, but I’m not sure about my romantic orientation. I’ve never felt romantic attraction in my life but I’m still open to the idea of having a romantic partner. I thought that the label greyromantic fitted the best but I’m not entirely confident.

Aromantic tumblr any advice please?

[aro-culture-is]

(not aro culture! i would like to ask for advice, if that's possible. also so sorry if this is long!)

i was looking at some of the asks, and it had me thinking. the way i experience attraction is a little... uncommon? i haven't seen many people mention experiencing it, if any. i've been trying to figure out my romantic orientation, but it's been hard.

so i've been wanting to date people... but i don't know if this is my desire to be close to them and in a kindof relationship with them or not? it's been for some people in specific too, which makes me believe it isn't cupioromantic. whenever i hear about crushes, i hear it's thinking about them all day. i hear its feeling nervous or suddenly behaving differently than you would to others. that jazz. i have no idea if thats allo dumbassery (/lh) or not since i dont experience what i hear described. it seems romantic, but is it really when i dont experience what is described to be 'crushes'?

i dont experience what they describe a crush to be like... but i do experience feeling affectionate/attracted to them and wanting to date them. but then why doesnt it feel like crushes do?

im also not romance repulsed either... and fine with the idea of romance. but i wonder if i am a romance favorable aro with some other kind of attraction or not? it's difficult

if any of you are able to answer this then thank you! (i know theres probably a lot of asks so i will wait a while for it anyway)

(i am so sorry this has taken so long, the ask box just... spat this back out after presumably having eaten it when it was sent.... last year...)

honestly, i feel like you or anyone who feels like you have a lot of possible options for labels, and that's where i'm going to base this discussion since i think checking out the communities around those labels will provide better insight. that said, I also want to emphasize:

you have no obligation to solely relate to the aro or alloro communities.

first of all: our buddy, our pal, our good ol' "what the fuck is this anyways" companion, quoiromantic! the distinction between platonic and romantic isn't clear cut for everyone, and that's okay. this is an aro-spec identity.

secondly: have you heard of alterous attraction, or queerplatonic attraction? if not, looking into how people describe that, and considering if queerplatonic relationships sound more like what you're considering. these relationships can take many forms and are inherently defined by the people in the relationship rather than cultural/social norms that can influence romo relationships.

thirdly: grayromantic, aroflux, frayromantic, bellusromantic, cupioromantic, and lithromantic are all some other labels to look into.

Consider that for some grayro people, this identity can be a comfortable label for what feels like a watered-down romantic attraction. If you think it's possible you have some fluctuating levels of attraction, maybe aroflux or similar labels can provide a home for you!

i include frayro because while it's opposite term, demiromantic, is a more known identity, frayro isn't talked about a whole lot. if you think you find someone romantically attractive when you don't know them, but get to know them / think about getting to know them and lose that attraction, frayro may be something worth considering.

bellusromantic can help to explain the desire to do "romantic" things with others, while not necessarily experiencing romantic attraction to them. cupioromantic - not feeling romantic attraction but wanting a romantic relationship - could also be a possibility. lastly, lithromantic describes feeling romantic attraction but not wanting it reciprocated and/or losing attraction if it is reciprocated.

this is mostly a terminology dump, but i hope even if i'm far too late for the original asker, this can help others!

[wish-ful-thinking513]

Since I’ve had too much caffeine and need something to do, I’m gonna make definition list for the orientations in the Januaro prompt list!

(Disclaimer: some of these terms are new to me. If I get anything wrong, please correct me.)

Aromantic: Someone who feels no/little romantic attraction. Can be an umbrella term for the entire aromantic spectrum.

Aroace: Someone who doesn’t feel both romantic and sexual attraction.

Aroallo: Someone who is aromantic but not asexual/acespec. They experience sexual attraction, but not romantic.

Aplatonic Aro: Someone who is aromantic and doesn’t experience platonic, queerplatonic, or alterous attraction.

Polyaffectionate: An aromantic who wants multiple partners (not necessary romantic).

Queerplatonic: A type of relationship that is neither romantic or platonic. A queerplatonic aromantic is someone who wants that kind of partner/relationship.

Greyromantic/Grayromantic: Someone who experiences romantic attraction very rarely and/or under very specific circumstances.

Demiromantic: Someone who doesn’t feel romantic attraction unless they form a deep emotional connection with them.

Aroflux: Someone who fluctuates on the aromantic spectrum.

Arovague: Someone who’s aromantic identity is heavily influenced by their status as neurodivergent.

Neu Aro: An aromantic person who isn’t sure if they are asexual.

Frayromantic: Someone who feels romantic attraction with folks they know less. It fades once they form a bond.

Akoiromantic/Lithromantic: Someone who who experiences romantic attraction, but stops feeling it when it is reciprocated.

Cupioromantic: Someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction but has a desire to form a romantic relationship.

Bellusromantic: Someone who is fine with doing cute fluffy stuff but don’t want a relationship.

Quoiromantic: Someone whoes attraction can’t be distinguished into romantic and platonic.

Oriented Aroace: A person who is an aromantic asexual and also feels another kind of attraction — it is strong enough that it feels worthwhile to mention (ie: an aroace woman who experiences strong alterous attraction might identify as a lesbian aroace).

Angled Aroace: A person who is arospec and acespec and feels another kind of attraction — like oriented aroace.