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Subtype Trait Structures: sp7

Bon Vivant

As an expression of a life dedicated to hedonism, this character has the facility to feel good and to feel that everything is fine, to seek pleasant terrain for himself and for others. His image is usually neat, elitist, friendly, in polite ways, with which he reinforces the power of his seduction. He likes to drag others into what he considers a good life: he wants them to have fun with him. This is the nicest aspect of your handling, as well as a way to keep the image narcissistic.

Ironic, Cynical, and Sarcastic

The conservation E7 usually has a great sense of humor; have fun and laugh. He laughs happily about almost everything; when it comes to laughter, nothing is sacred. The problem is that the sense of humor is put at the service of contempt for the interlocutor, with what is put above, in a clear display of narcissism.

He is irreverent, arrogant, mentally aggressive, and in this way he expresses his rage, almost as an alternative to physical aggression, since he does not allow it. He is able to put his finger on the sore spot with every word. He also knows how to laugh at himself, thus distancing himself from his true emotions.

But above all, he is not afraid of others, which prevents him from taking them seriously. Etymologically, “irony” has to do with dissimulating and playing dumb; “cynicism,” with behaving like a dog; “sarcasm,” with cutting or biting a piece of meat. All this refers to a disguised sadistic behavior and a tendency to mistreat trying to appear cordial.

Fear of Suffering

The mantra of a conservation E7 might be: “First of all, avoid being uncomfortable.” There is in this an anesthetic behavior in the face of suffering, a need to disconnect from the harshness of life in order to maintain the fiction that the “childhood paradise” has not been lost. He despises suffering as a thing for “unintelligent” people and, deep down, underlies an enormous fear of returning to the deprived place of childhood, in which he experienced a strong sense of threat to conservation.

Entitlement

As an extension of his narcissism, we can cite entitlement: a feeling of superiority rights because of his talent and personal charm. It's subtle: the attitude of the E7 in a love relationship is different from that of those who go through life important and assume a role of authority. In this case, it is of a more subtle importance: it is not that he expects to be obeyed, but to be heard and recognized as a person who is in the know. The man may expect the woman to be his audience; the same happens with a father regarding his son. Correlative to the charlatan's need to be heard is, naturally, his inability to hear, although he may not be aware of this himself, since he offers great empathy through an attentive “countenance.”

Insatiability and Envy

A fundamental polarity in this character, is the opposition between the greedy insatiability, in the foreground, and the fear of lack, which is denied.

Although it seems contradictory to the oral optimism of the E7, the conservation E7 tends to compare himself and, therefore, to feel, unconsciously, envy. Who compares, suffers. And although, unlike E4, there is a strong tendency to overcompensation that turns envy into insatiability, the background sensation of lack and disadvantage is common, probably due to having felt excluded or disadvantaged in childhood, which explains the voracity in their relationships and the aggressiveness with which they take on the world. Feeling that his starting conditions are less advantageous, he tells myself that he needs more and more to catch up or win.

Excessive and Aggressive

This measurement and comparison causes stress and anguish, and is a source of compulsive behavior and all kinds of excesses. “Just as the miser does not want to part with something that he feels is precisely scarce, the greedy person distracts himself in abundance: faced with the fear of lack.” Excessiveness is the door to dispersion and, therefore, an inexhaustible source of problems for this character.

The greater the gluttony, the greater the orientation to compare, and the greater the contact with the feeling of insatiability, thus creating a feedback loop that lays the groundwork for the usual manic co-depressive phases that this character usually goes through.

It is usual for the E7 to retain a certain degree of aggressiveness and a tendency to possessiveness, seizure and even looting, which sometimes leads to confusion with the E8 character. They are tendencies related to their disposition: narcissism and impulsiveness, acting before reflecting, risking everything to an art and, in general, a counterphobic attitude, even psychopathic.

Utilitarian and Strategist

A good friend of the powerful, an effective propagandist, a highly perceptive planner and strategist, the conservation E7 usually surrounds himself with people with the ability not only to help him, but to make him prosper and carry out his projects and ideas. His utilitarianism occurs in personal accounts, and could be defined as a feeling that friendship is only worth cultivating if the friend is useful to his plans or interests, or if he finds it suggestive enough.

He usually deals with information, and uses strategies and tactics to position himself comfortably. Look for ways to get what you want without asking directly and, above all, without counting on others. And he is accustomed to making his responsibilities lighter by allowing others to deal with them, charging them to such, in order to reach pleasure earlier.

Impatience and Boredom

He suffers predisposition and intolerance to boredom, allergy to everyday life and routines. You need constant stimuli and new or extraordinary experiences, to the detriment of feeling pleasure in everyday life. As background, a difficulty to connect with the emotion that causes a feeling of dryness in life.

Obligation and responsibility, predisposed to flight or abandonment, no: there is a desire to return to pleasure and freedom as soon as possible. It is also difficult for him to contact the slowness, that is, with the natural flow of life, which is constantly forced, accelerated by the planning ego, so as not to contact what is there, so as not to feel. Difficulty sustaining frustration and giving space to emotions, immediacy and constantly accelerating walking (antagonistic to the harmony of natural rhythms) are tools to avoid coming into contact with anguish and other unpleasant emotions.

Insubordinate and Rebellious

The feeling is that accepting limits creates suffering. The authority has to demonstrate its reasons or logic, so it ceases to be an authority: internally, the conservation E7 underestimates and disqualifies it, despising and disobeying it. There is a fundamental distortion: “accepting the authority of others limits my personal autonomy.”

He has a narcissistic taste in presenting himself as a rebel, while avoiding direct confrontation with authority, to that: dodges or seduces, thus avoiding the consequences that entails would contradict him.

Indiscipline and procrastination are inextricably linked to insubordination and rebellion. As a background, the invalidation of the father in childhood is the engine of the invalidation of all other authority, always identified as repressive or imposing. The limited capacity for self-criticism further contributes to this scenario: there is difficulty in repenting, as well as little tolerance for criticism from others. All this, reinforced by its aggressive mentality and its tendency to be elusive.

Egotistic and Individualistic

The absolute priority is to satisfy one's own desires, with the feeling that others have to adapt to their times and needs. In the conservation E7, narcissism has a lot to do with objectifying others.

There is a difficulty in seeing the wife as an entity separate from her own ends of exchange, especially the couple as another separate from her interests and desires. The rest of the people, those who do not belong to their own circle of trust, can be seen as a limit or a hindrance to their plans (or, simply, they are not seen).

The inner feeling is that of a need for self-preservation. The crazy idea that “I can handle everything, I don't need anyone” contributes to this scenario. And as background, search for immediate pleasure without assessing the consequences for those around him. There is also the crazy idea that giving oneself emotionally makes one gregarious and makes one lose independence, as well as stop being “special” or “unique.”

Prone to Corruption

Not even for some representatives of this character does this descriptor sound too strong, we can subject the term “corruption” to a process of euphemization (typical of this character) and go on to call “the tendency to take legal shortcuts” or to interpret the laws as indicative instead of to respect its mandatory compliance. Underlies the light attitude towards life typical of all E7, and especially the conservation E7.

“If one does not believe in anything, if one implicitly thinks that the authority is useless, that the system is corrupt, then one must do what is best for oneself. And with a lot of people like that, it's impossible for the community to function. When Socrates was offered to flee, he preferred to give his life as an example of support for the ideal of democracy, to strengthen faith in the idea that the people can govern themselves; that, even if he is wrong, one can in principle arrive at a system in which wisdom prevails. How far we are today from that attitude!”

What would have done, instead of Socrates, a conservation E7?

Fraudulent and Charlatan

This character uses any available resource to achieve an end, both words and actions. Some of the most used resources are lying, stealing, confusing others, cheating, intriguing others…

He has his own morality where benefits are imposed on acts or, in other words, he does not pay attention to the means to achieve certain goals: purposes. For this, there must be a high degree of self-indulgence, own laws, personal interpretations of good and evil; and, as they are laws of their own, they can change so as not to sustain states of guilt, to adapt to each moment according to the greedy need that arises. Added to this is his great ability to arrogate merits that do not correspond to him, a strong desire for protagonism and a frequent imposition, mythomania and fantastic pseudology, especially in the intellectual field.

The conservation E7 has become an expert at getting what he wants without asking for it. His basic conception is that things are not achieved by asking for them: either they take them, or they cheat or speculate to obtain them. You believe that asking puts you in a vulnerable position and brings you closer to pain and frustration. There is in it, again, a disregard of the other. The childhood experience of loneliness, isolation, abandonment, and survival contributes to promoting this scenario.

Schizoid Austerity vs. Seductive Waste

At times, the E7 conservation shows a simplicity bordering on the greed of the E5. It tends to have a great deal of control over the economy and go, as well as a constant calculation of costs and benefits. He attaches great importance to money, and feels dizzy when he sees himself in financial trouble. But his difficulty in spending is tempered by a great facility to invest, to do “business,” sometimes a hint of megalomania. His practical sense permeates everything: he does not want to complicate his life and tries to avoid everything that could be a source of displeasure. In the background, there is a great ski fear mile to deprivation.

On the other hand, everything said is invalidated when, in his manic state, he pursues his objects of desire. Then he can be foully wasteful, throw the house out the window, commit... Nothing will be enough until he reaches the object of his gluttony. Again, this behavior has a lot to do with his bipolar tendency.

Dryness

The intense mental life causes a physical disembodiment and a semiotic embodiment, bodily and emotional dissociation where life is confused with words and speeches. Impervious to pain makes you less permeable to emotions. There is a great fear of vulnerability that deprives you of being receptive. In the background of so much excitement and noise of thoughts and words, there is a frozen emotional world and the experience of a nuclear coldness. In the background, we find the schizoid origin of this character. At the same time, the difficulty with admiring love, with the spontaneous wonder at creation, complicates this panorama. Consequently, his attitude is more openly pseudo-social or even antisocial than in the other subtypes of E7.

Sometimes he devotes himself to work to the point of becoming a worker, all based on his manic or depressive mood. After moments of excessive workload, usually getting sick or going into periods of depression or nervous breakdown. It is very difficult for him to trust the relationship, and it usually takes a long time to establish deep bonds (when they are allowed), which can quickly mutate a couple relationship from one first phase of strong seduction to another of great emotional dryness, testing the patience of the other or another.

Untrustful and Skeptical

He feels distrust in the flow of life. He questions everything and has a certain degree of anger with life, little manifested. Basically, it underlies the difficulty of character for devotional love and recognizing the other. Similar to the E1, in the feeling that others are not trustworthy, that people are imperfect, but without taking the trouble to try to correct others, conservation E7 isolates itself from the world in its particular garden: that of the “family” or the feeling of involvement with a network to link, as a defense against a life that it understands as chaos and that reinforces its idea that pleasure and non-stop are the only possible escape routes.

In addition, in someone who is a profiteer and lacks a broad sense of community, it is logical that there is mistrust. He thinks that everyone acts like him and that, since there is no law that is worth it, everyone will act with the same contempt for the rules. When he leaves aside for a moment his manic tendency to worldly pleasures, a nihilistic background appears: he narcissistic balloon is deflated, the schizoid background becomes clear, and disbelief and basic distrust of life appears even more strongly.

Stubborn and Earthly

Beyond the tendency of all E7 to procrastinate, the conservation E7 often demonstrates tenacity in overcoming obstacles and standing up to adversity based on nerve, will, and fury. An irrational idea underlies: “I can handle everything.”

He has an obsession with being efficient, with obtaining the maximum rewards with minimal effort. His mental agility helps him in this and his capacity for strategy.

Combat is split halfway between mental activity and physical action. He likes to feel that he is in control of the situation, which not only reinforces his narcissism, but it also helps to drain the anguish.

His tenacity can lead to disconnection from the body and its emotional needs, in addition, is the most realistic variety of the E7, with a great predisposition towards skepticism, the material and the earthly fruit of self-preservation. All this, in relation to its utilitarianism and advantage in social relations. He doesn't behave like an idealist, but rather as someone disappointed with the ideals, a pseudo-idealist or even an anti-idealist. He believes that by organizing himself well he will be able to avoid the return of deficient states experienced in his childhood, and with this he tries to annul the feeling of threat to conservation.

Source: PDB Wiki

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