#sorry to anyone who disagrees im just opinioning over here

[pixeljade]

finished my rewatch of ATLA and LoK and here's my takeaways this time:

• Actually it makes perfect sense that Toph and Aang would grow up to be bad parents. The entire Aang Gang was basically parentless! Zuko and Toph both had parents but they were abusive (Toph's being too strict and Zuko's, well, you know), and Katara and Sokka had one dead parent and one that went off to war when they were little. Aang outright had no regular familial structure, but even the family he had was lost to him when he was frozen. Add on top the horrendous traumas they all experienced and being thrust into celebrity status, and of COURSE they'd have flaws in parenting! I get that we want to reject it because we love these characters and they're caring, but caring alone does not a good parent make.

• However, Toph becoming a cop makes ZERO sense! She was SERIOUSLY anti-rules the entire first series! It would have been much more believable if she'd ended up inventing pro-bending. Also she woulda come out as trans and become a big buff dude, but obviously there was no way they coulda gotten away with that. Still, they could have at LEAST made her not a cop!

• Zuko's arc is 90% of what makes ATLA the great story it is! Its incredible how perfectly his story mirrors Aang's, and how the two of them slowly begin to accept the other. They're both trying to reclaim something they feel they've lost, and they both must confront their pasts to do it. Its a shame that it happens off-screen, but the fact that LoK confirms that Aang and Zuko became best friends eventually made me so happy.

• The plot writing in LoK was KINDA terrible! They covered it up with good character writing and of course flashy bending sequences, but Season One was a mess and Unavattu was only defeated by a bunch of deus ex machinas. I could go on! Not the worst writing but after rewatching ATLA it really is a step down in that department

• Also, the first-series cameos were a BIT gimmicky by the end! I'd say that in particular, Zuko and Iroh (the original Iroh not the general of the united forces Iroh) were unnecessary to still be around. Both of their roles could have been completed by other characters easily. Toph made sense, as did Katara, and flashbacks to Sokka and Aang, but Iroh should have died peacefully in his tea shop instead of going to the spirit world, and Zuko should have died peacefully after fixing the Fire Nation's problems.

• The number of characters who show up regularly in LoK are about double the number of characters that show up in ATLA. I think that might be why the character arcs for so many (cough cough Mako) are so unsatisfying, theyve got too many character arcs to complete.

• The mech-suits were EYE-ROLLINGLY cheesy. Sorry, I know its a nerdy nitpick I just think that if everything else is 1920's-1940's style technology, having something thats completely not doable by modern standards just kinda breaks the world for me a bit.

• I know I know, they were limited by the executives and breaking new ground, but the Korrasami ending was REALLY underwhelming compared to subsequent examples! They LITERALLY just hold hands to hint at it. Still important that it happened, but wow, how far we've come, you know?

• The politics of LoK were so very clearly neoliberal centrist its EXTREMELY eye-rolling. Cops are treated like superheroes instead of oppressors, and those who do call them that are shown to be villains. Amon and Zaheer are both VERY CLEARLY shown to be right about their respective ideologies, but are made into villains by having them be wildly zealous, and their ideologies are never really defeated. And neither of them are treated with compassion, yet Kuvira, the fascist dictator with an atomic bomb-analog, DOES. Exactly like centrists who think we should be nice to cryptofash conservatives but treat anyone seeking a more equitable world as monsters.

At least, those are my takeaways this time. Admittedly I was watching while working on homework 90% of the time so i may have missed key moments which change this all, but gosh it was overall a little underwhelming of a rewatch for LoK! For ATLA though it was like revisiting a bunch of old friends.

[oceanwithouthermoon]

i think its weird that i have to make this disclaimer but the internet is crazy so wtvr,, anyway,,

if i say i dont like something, that doesnt mean "that thing is bad and nobody should post it.."

i swear literally every time i even mention that i dislike something, people will go "wow does that mean u fucking hate me cuz i post that thing? ur a fucking stupid bitch and all ur opinions r wrong" LIKE ?? er.. no. just because i say i dont like certain characterizations of certain characters (the saiki k fandom is CRAZY about this cuz i can state an opinion on literally any character and a group of people will still go 'well only we're allowed to post our opinions about them because we're always right!1!1!'), or certain ship tropes (mentioned my hatred of toxic yaoi maybe once or twice on here months ago and people STILL get mad at me as if i said toxic yaoi lovers r evil or something), or certain ships, or WHATEVER, does not mean that i HATE the people who are posting them or that i think they shouldnt post them at all, NO, im just posting about my personal tastes on my personal blog and it would be extremely weird and hypocritical if i decided that i was the ONLY person that was allowed to do that,,

i think the only reason people assume that is because there are a lot of other people on here who ARE like that, and a lot of people toe the line between posting that they dont like something and posting that they think everyone who likes that thing is stupid, annoying, and wrong,, so i guess all i can say is, sorry for whatever made you make these assumptions but they arent true about me so plz leave me alone ʘ‿ʘ ur doing the same thing to me that ur accusing me of but i didnt do it in the first place so ur just actively being a dick for no reason

[metanarrates]

honestly how are you so smart? How do I become smart? My entire life I was put in the gifted classes and I really think it made me think I was smarter than I am. I'm "intelligent", sure. But I'm also really dumb and it's a huge sore point for me :( I'm always falling victim to believing anyone who sounds the most convincing and I never have my own opinion. It's like those discourse posts where I'll have whiplash reading them thinking "OK this is the most morally correct stance on the matter got it!" And then there'll be a new response and I'll go "OK scratch that! This is what I should believe and parrot back!". I'm really worried that I don't have any firm stances on anything and I'm a sheep who just follows the most ""correct"" sounding take. Sorry to dump this on you, I'd just like to hear your thoughts on it!

that sort of thing is more common than you think, anon. lots of people have trouble not following a herd mentality. it's scary to go against the grain! and i do think the educational system can reinforce that in certain people, since having the "correct" thought as determined by educators is prioritized more than a student having their own independent opinions.

my advice is to start small. if you see a post on your dash talking about a certain topic, really take a moment to step back. does this argument seem convincing? does it seem accurate? if so, why? do you have all the information? if you don't know enough about a topic to formulate your own opinion, maybe you should do some research!

and im not saying you should by default disagree with everything you see. that creates its own host of problems. I'm saying that whether you agree OR disagree with something, you should take a step back and evaluate why. can you explain your own opinions to others outside of "people I want to agree with have this opinion?"

it's also perfectly fine to not have an opinion on certain topics. if you don't know very much about something, there's no shame in waiting to form an opinion until you have more information. don't be afraid to ask questions. don't be afraid to investigate the trustworthiness of sources!

but if all that is overwhelming, and stepping in discourse sounds scary, you can even try this with fiction you read or watch. (im primary a media analysis blog, so i really do think fiction is a great practice ground to practice your analytical skills.) how does this story make me feel? can I identify why it does that? do I like this character? why? can I pick up on any subtext here? can I identify any literary devices the author is using? small questions like that.

in my opinion, a lot of my seeming intelligence comes from my ability to know and explain myself. I spend a lot of time reflecting on why I hold certain opinions, and seeking out further information when I don't understand something. you're probably here because you like my opinions on media analysis - those opinions are formed by not only reading and watching a wide range of things, but by seeking out different lens of analysis, and yes, seeing what other people have to say, and evaluating whether or not I think their opinions are well-supported. I try my best to expose myself to a lot of different types of thought. and I try my best to understand my own mental mechanisms, and to challenge them when necessary. I do think that's crucial to being an independent thinker.

I am sorry if this comes across as a lot. this stuff is overwhelming! you don't have to take all my advice at once. if you can pick even one suggestion from this post, and make an honest effort to try it, you'll start getting better at confronting your fear of being wrong, or the odd one out. over time, it will get easier for you to understand yourself as an independent person.

[tonydaddingham]

the reading comprehension on this godforsaken website is genuinely insane. it's such shit ppl went after you for responding. fwiw you singlehandedly restored my faith in the GO fandom a little while back, some of the only well thought-out takes for miles (til i started clicking on the reblogs n found more). there was nothing wrong with defending yourself from people who didn't even read the meta. for something you put this much effort into, it'd be weirder not to be defensive

ive sat on the whole thing over the last dozen or so hours now, with a good mixture of upset, anger, some kind of numbness, and incredible amounts of anxiety. i posted that response out of the second; i was really angry, and i flew off the handle. whilst i don't appreciate being told by the other anon that i shouldn't be so attached/shouldn't have been so upset, they have a point, and were right to highlight (intentionally or not) at the very least that that is the root of the problem. i likened the fiasco to some secondary school bullshit, but i didn't realise - or want to acknowledge - that that applied to me too. the whole thing has reawakened ancient history that i thought i had gotten over years ago - more than a decade ago, even - and it very much turns out that that isn't the case, and was simply buried. the uncomfortable thing i also ran into is that the incident has made me re-examine myself with a little more, and definitely overdue, scrutiny - the post attacked at what i now think was my ego, and my over-confidence, and sense of entitlement. that's so uncomfortable to admit, but here we are.

i don't mind people disagreeing with me, but i still stand firm that i don't think sending an ask ridiculing someone, or adding tags that equally can be interpreted as being plain unkind, is a nice thing to do. it's shit - i felt humiliated, and self-conscious in a fandom that until this point, for all my controversial takes 😂 - had made me feel that i had a space to share them, and whilst may not be agreed with, would still be valued by nature of them belonging to a person. i have no doubt that everything on that post wasn't at all personal, but it still felt that what i had spent a lot of time, excitement, and joy writing was worthy of being laughed at, as if i were stupid for writing it (let me be clear - idc if people think the original post and the take within it is wrong, that's absolutely fair enough). it then called into question - what else have people been nice to me about, politely interacting with me about, and yet elsewhere those same people are being horrible about it?

that line of overthinking is entirely my issue, that's noone else's fault, but i do think that had these people just simply kept their opinion to a DM, or somewhere else where the original poster is unlikely/not going to see it, it might have all been avoided. people are entitled to share their opinion, i have no issues with that fact, but it can have consequences... just like the consequences of me rb'ing it once the anger had set in, and i ceased to think rationally. i am sorry that i reacted out of anger, without much - if any - rational thought; that it was bitchy as fuck, and - without the maelstrom of emotion attached to it, as it was from my perspective - it was objectively uncalled for. im embarrassed i reacted like that, and im aware that its only served to make me come across as even more ridiculous than the original post ever could 😂 but i want to settle in with what this has brought up, especially the shitty stuff that i thought i had long gotten over, and look at why i reacted the way i did - i think i was right to defend myself, but perhaps not in the way that i did.

as a separate note, and just really as a PSA to anyone waiting on me in my ask box or has sent me messages - im going to halt on posting any original posts/asks for a while (knowing me, because i can't help myself, a 'while' will probably be like a day). that's in part because im shitting bricks about posting anything in general (this ask response included), but also because - like i said before - i don't want to continue posting stuff when im now wondering how much is coming from a less-than-humble place - im worried that it's a lot more than i ever thought, which is vulnerable, but that's how it goes.

[vryivs]

Shipper tag game

tagged by @tiesanjiaoshenanigans <33

What ship were you completely obsessed with when you were a teenager, but now you don't care about anymore?

oh god i dont even know. probably any silm ship i liked since i just outgrew that part of my life organically and also dennor probably?

Which ship would you consider your first one?

percabeth easily

Your first fanfic was about which couple?

it was dennor hetalia

Do you remember the first couple you saw fanart of?

most likely percabeth since i got tumblr literally just to follow viria for the art

Have you ever gotten into ship discourse?

yes i was 13 and i didnt like fruk. i made an apology drawing that said 'im sorry fruk shippers' on a sign being held up by a sad girl. i was 13. since then? not really. i dont tend to have the time or energy to actively argue with people i disagree with. to me theres no point + it doesnt matter

Did you use to have any NOTP or have one currently?

im opinionated so absolutely!! didnt like hk/iceland (hetalia) or fruk (hetalia again lol). didnt like yuri/otabek (yoi), most byleth/student ships (femblem), jeanluc (when i was into genshin). currently dont like renheng (it's just not my thing), jing yuan/fu xuan (also not my thing) or dan heng/anyone tbh (although i make exceptions for tb). i dont have any massive reasons for disliking them theyre just either not my thing or dont align with my hcs (shrug)

any jing yuan/hcq feels vaguely icky to me because they knew him as a teenager while they were adults (aside from yingxing since his age is more ambiguous and it seems like he mightve grown up at the same time jy did?)

Who were the couple in the last fanfic you read?

brb checking my ao3 history

oh my god is was a fucking dddne dabi/hawks fic i found when i was looking through trans tags. i havent read or watched mha it just sounded interesting. i liked it and its here if you want to read it (mind the tags)

Currently, do you have any OTPs?

weirdly no massive ones for hsr which is my main fandom. i have ships i like tho!! kafblade, stellemarch and bronseele. also i think clara/yanqing is adorable in concept. arranging playdates between my daughter and jing yuans son. i also think voidwelt would be really interesting

Is there any couple that, to this day, you are extremely mad about not getting together?

not rlly!! i tend not to care too much about canon when it comes to shipping, so i hardly even pay it attention

Is there any ship you used to dislike but now you think they are kind of interesting?

not rlly!! if there is i cant remember them

Do you have any ship that, in the past, would've been considered normal but now you would be cancelled over?

any rpf ship tbh. i honestly think rpf is fine as long as you dont project its contents onto the very real people it's based off of.

What is your favorite crack ship?

velite/argenti

What is the couple you read the most fanfics about?

i dont read fanfic v often (combination of bad attention span, really specific tastes, etc) but when i do its usually sansang, seongjoong, or whatever ship fic @tiesanjiaoshenanigans or @kireinalix ask me to beta are hehe

What do most of your ships usually have in common?

this is a good question and i dont really know the answer. my taste tends to favour characters who make a good parental unit (seongjoong, jingliu/baiheng), but i also enjoy the dynamics of amoral pairs (kafblade), as well as goofy lesbians having a good time (stellemarch)

What you absolutely hate in a ship?

if its boring tbh. if something feels boring or overdone im p much guaranteed not to like it. like jeanluc? theyre just boring to me. i also really dont enjoy the 'i knew you when you were a kid and then you grew up hot and now we're dating' thing

tagging @himbodevotee @morifiinwe @shineoftherainbow @kireinalix @aowyn and anyone else who follows me :3

[heliianth]

Ohh im glad i didn't bother you <3 (also i ate the word where i meant he's not a sweetheart lol doesn't mean he goes out of his way to be mean to people either i wil die on that hill)I love discussing characterizations and such or analyzing trends that why i mentioned from my pespective shadow fans always mischaracterize him the most(more that sega)</3 they take him to extremes where he's too water down or he's idw shadow(sorry). Years ago it seem like people said "he's and edgy mean vegeta i hate him" and now the difference is "he's such an asshole, mean bastard lame loser i love him <3 has always been get over it". All the characters get a bad deal especially the introverts(sonic im so sorry) in favor of thing that are "funny" "relatable" "loveable lame" more to people tastes in general, is very interesting(and not my preference at all). Anyways poor guy hope someday they can set him up better(06 feels more truthful to me) there's lots of potencial for this one introvert, asocial guy(all of them please)if you want to check this blog fukurou-hoseki talk a lot about the games and analysis, especially sonic himself, bye have a good week

i agree that a lot of mischaracterization happens within fan spaces as well. i think bad portrayals, like in boom, which had a shadow with very little depth and an excess of edge, caused a lot of people to "pendulum swing" in the extreme opposite direction by insisting that shadow isn't like that at all—that he's actually very shy and nice and has friends, and all that. and while not all of that is bad, it also means lots of his flaws arent acknowledged. now we see other fans try to push back against that by insisting that hes a COMPLETE asshole, that he was always meant to be and insisting otherwise is woobifying, etc etc. like u said. very little room for middle ground sometimes. i also agree that 06 is a very good representation, and i like it mostly because it feels like a good culmination of the other games' work on his character arc

i also agree that sonic gets hit with the fanon stick really hard over here, i tend to have unpopular opinions about him and so i dont really open my mouth bc i feel like that will ruin peoples fun. shadow seems to be a more divisive character so i feel more comfortable poking fun at ideas i disagree with or stating my opinion, but theres seemingly such a wide "consensus" abt sonic that i feel like i would risk swinging at a hornets nest, even if i dont think anyone who would see it would actually be mean like that :')

i have heard of that user, i think ive scrolled thru their blog a few times so i kind of understand what they get at. i may follow in the future & i may not, i often get really anxious following first especially if its an analysis blog and i also do my own analysis (though i wouldn't consider my one-off jokey-tone posts serious analysis). but i agree with a lot of their sentiments, sometimes i disagree but thats just life

have a good week as well! i really loved talking with u <3

[mashed4077]

🌃 intro post! 🌃

(bit late but i didn’t want a cluttered bio anymore so here’s this)

hiii im shay! i fixated on mash back in november and i officially finished it on march 22nd 2023!! im gonna rewatch soon tho

about this blog

this is a side-blog!

tags: i tag pretty extensively for the sake of categorization; here’s hoping my character tags prove fun to scroll through!

queue: as of the day i’m writing this, i have a very full queue, because i have a habit of liking literally every post i see related to a fixation, and then spam-queuing it later to clean my likes out. so i hope you enjoy all the content! lots of funny scenes and textposts, well-made gifsets, wonderful fanart, and insightful meta, if i do say so myself. mashblr is a talented bunch!

original posts/content: i don’t contribute much on my own, but i love to ramble and i hope some of my lengthy tags prove an interesting or at least entertaining read :) i do dabble in fanfic writing and i’ve got a few mash works in my drafts, but i’m not sure if they’ll ever see the light of day. i’m also fond of meta and character analysis, so if i ever work up the courage maybe ill put out some moderately thought-provoking posts in that realm.

some of my opinions relating to mash characters & ships can be found under the read more!

these are all subjective and i completely respect anyone who disagrees :) we’re all here to have fun!

summarized thoughts on the characters (kinda sorted by fav to least fav)

mulcahy has been driving me bonkers for months (and my jewish ass has been putting far too much thought into catholicism lately bc of him😒)

frank,,,, listen. i’m sorry. but listen, as baffled and/or disgusted as you are, i’m the mf stuck being the only one in this entire fandom who flails over frank burns. so how do you think i feel. ik he’s absolutely awful, but he’s just so damn pathetic, i can’t help but like him and find him fascinating

radar is a bubby to me, i dont rlly have complex thoughts on him hes kinda just a comfort character to me n ilhsm

charles... he snuck up on me. i didnt expect to like him, much less relate to him (-_-) i just exposed myself as a charles winchester kinnie how will my reputation recover

i love hawkeye a lot, as we all do <3

i love trapper john mcintyre!!!!!!!!!!

i love margaret!!! i love klinger!!! i love henry!!! 

im pretty neutral on potter and bj

in short: i love them all a lot but mulcahy and frank have each driven me particularly mad in different ways and radar with his animals has made me cry and charles would probably drive me nuts if i let him but i am keeping him at arm’s length.

summarized thoughts on ships (again, strongest first)

(yes i have frank ships. no i am not proud of it)

my mash otp is hawkahy. it’s been slowly draining the remainder of my sanity. i havent slept in months. send help

i am a sucker for enemies/rivals to lovers and hawnk kinda makes me a little nuts.

i know he’s not good for her but i think margaret x frank have a rlly interesting relationship and they can be cute sometimes, and i think about them more than i’d like to admit. i am not immune to het ships consisting of badass women with control issues and their toxic pathetic purse-dog boyfriends.

henry x klinger is literally canon idc

pierceintyre... ;-; hh

i love semi-niche trapper ships. trapcahy is a little bit 👀 and i really like trapper x margaret

hawkeye x henry... shh...

bonus trios i think about sometimes😳: hawkeye x margaret x frank, margaret x frank x flagg (SHH), hawkeye x trapper x mulcahy. do u see my evil vision

aaand some platonic dynamics i particularly enjoy

mulcahy & klinger are besties :)

mulcahy & margaret have a sibling dynamic that i absolutely adore, esp in the potter seasons, particularly the later ones.

charles & margaret are a fun duo. the ship tease they did a little was... idk how to feel about it, but i like them as buddies.

margaret & klinger... the girlies

hawkeye & klinger!!! the el jibbities are flocking together..

hawkeye & margaret :)

i do very much enjoy hawkeye & bj’s friendship

not friendship but charles & mulcahy’s animosity is sooo funny i will never tire of it

notps: klinger x charles, and hunnihawk. do not doxx me.

i think thats all for now. enjoy my nonsense!

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[destinyc1020]

while I dont agree with your take on banshees ( I enjoyed it and I felt colin delivered a really good perfomance and I found his performance to be much stronger than austin tbh) I can actually see why someone may not like it, its structured like an irish fable and its comedy is very bleek, mundane and absurdist which is not something someone might be looking for in a comedy. I can see how that comedic style may not connect with everyone as opposed to the romanitic comedy or a buddy comedy. My sister had a similar opinion where she couldnt connect with the film and lost interest in it real quick.

But to that one anon, its unfair to expect everyone to understand the allegory of irish civil war, if the viewer couldnt see the connections then it may be because the film didnt truly contextualize the setting or the histories of the characters or maybe the viewer just wasnt invested in the film.

Also art in general has multiple meanings, the allegory to civil war is one of many themes the film presents.

I agree women king should have been there but dont hate me but Im taking out elvis.

while I dont agree with your take on banshees ( I enjoyed it and I felt colin delivered a really good perfomance

I definitely felt like Colin's acting was strong in this film. The entire cast was great imo. Very believable. 😊👍🏾 I've just seen Colin in other films where I felt like his acting was more noteworthy. There wasn't really anything that really stood out to me that made me say that his acting was much BETTER than Brendan's or Austin's. I'm sorry. 🤷🏾‍♀️ That's just my opinion.

and I found his performance to be much stronger than austin tbh)

Yeeeaaa see, I'm sorry but this is where I'm gonna have to disagree with you here lol 😆

In all honesty, I actually think that Austin probably had the hardest job out of all the other nominees. I venture to guess he probably worked the hardest as well. He and Baz poured their blood, sweat and tears into that film...a prep and filming that took all in all about 2 and a half years in the making...

Having to not only act, but also sing, play piano, play guitar, work with a vocal coach who not only had to train him on speaking with a southern drawl, but also how to SPEAK like Elvis spoke, SING like Elvis sang, MOVE like Elvis moved, have the same mannerisms that Elvis had, etc... and this is someone who's larger than life that everyone knew/knows, so the pressure to nail it must have been immense!

Add on top of that, thanks to covid, they could no longer film the movie in chronological order, so one day, Austin had to be 1968 Elvis, and the very next day be Elvis from the 50s.... including having to tweak his singing AND speaking voice for those various decades because Elvis' voice changed over the years. 🥴 I mean, to make sure you don't get confused with all of that... That in itself is amazing.

Austin's acting may not have been Shakespeare lol, but imo he did a very excellent job, and really stood out (even above Tom Hanks) in the role, and that's very hard to do since Tom is a GOAT. They have some very TENSE scenes together in the film which I think Austin did beautifully imo. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Colin's acting was good too (don't get wrong), but imo just about anyone could have been in the role and it would have been the same. Nothing really stood out to me. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Imo, Brendan's acting in "The Whale" is the best, with Austin being a close second based on the top 3 contenders that I've seen so far of nominated "Best Actors".

I haven't seen EEAAO yet, so my mind might change after that. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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I can actually see why someone may not like it, its structured like an irish fable and its comedy is very bleek, mundane and absurdist which is not something someone might be looking for in a comedy. I can see how that comedic style may not connect with everyone as opposed to the romanitic comedy or a buddy comedy. My sister had a similar opinion where she couldnt connect with the film and lost interest in it real quick.

I actually don't mind dry humor, or even films from a foreign perspective. I actually like some foreign films, and I did find some of the scenes in the church confessional to be pretty funny lol 🤣

I just wouldn't really call it a "comedy", but to each his/her own 🤷🏾‍♀️

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I agree women king should have been there but dont hate me but Im taking out elvis.

Lol I'm not gonna hate you lol 😂 Everyone is entitled to their own opinions! That's the beauty of art!

I mean, the way "Woman King" has just been completely IGNORED by the Academy, when this is usually the type of movie based on historical elements that they typically seem to like.... is just very very interesting to me. 😒

I looked through the list of Best Picture again and I tried to find a "weakest link" lol, but I honestly can't find one tbh. Of all the films I've seen, I think they ALL have smthg great about them.

I personally wouldn't take out "Elvis" because to me it was probably one of Baz Luhrmann's Best films (jmho lol), and the film itself said a lot about a time in US history, fighting for civil rights, amongst an artist and singer blended into the very fabric of American living, and how the music really touched different aspects of people's lives. Not to mention, the fact that Elvis wouldn't be anywhere without black music, which I felt the film tried to highlight beautifully.

It was hard to cram 30 years of someone's life into a 2.5 hour movie, but I felt like Baz did the best he could do!

Honestly? You're probably going to hate me lol, but if I had to take out one film I've seen so far and put "Woman King" in for BP nomination, I would actually take out "The Banshees of Inisherin" 👀 I'm sorry!! 🙈😅😅

Compared to the other films on that list? 👀 Like, c'mon lol 😆

[peachyteabuck]

Thank you for being so open to receiving this ask. I know my own experiences and know that I might disagree with your opinions/advice if you reply, but I don’t really have anyone IRL who has changed their name for non-marriage related reasons. And I just wanted your perspective, if you’re willing to give it. (Also, I’m so sorry for how long this is in advance. If this is too much, please feel free to ignore it.)

For some backstory, as long as I can remember, I haven’t liked my first name/birth name. I never really felt it fit me. I thought it was too frilly for someone like me, I guess? I just didn’t see myself as someone who has this name (it’s a semi-popular, more traditional one). But I’ve never felt as feminine(? that’s not quite the right word, maybe girly?) as the name connotes.

Recently, I’ve been musing about changing my surname (for other personal reasons) and I thought over the surname Dust (I liked the combination of Rose Dust or Star Dust, I don’t know). Which then transformed into the name Dusty as I kept thinking. I don’t know what happened in my brain, something just went ‘click’. But I don’t exactly know what it means or how I feel. I mean, as far as I identify, I’m about 98% sure I’m a cis woman (which grappling with gender is a whole other thing) and think Dusty is kinda a strange name with some less than stellar connotations—like dust is gross. So I don’t even know what my brain is doing. 

I’ve always gravitated toward more androgynous/unisex names, so I don’t know if that’s what’s happening right now or if it might be something deeper. You chose your own name, so I guess what all this word vomit is asking is if you could sorta describe what it was like for you to pick yours? Like, how did you know it was right? Or was it just something that you stumbled into? It’s very possible that I’m making a mountain out of a mole hill. I’ve just never seen someone deal with this in my personal life and everyone online seems to have this sort of thing figured out.

(Also, on a side note, I hope your student teaching is going well! I work at a school so I know it’s a different experience for everyone, especially depending on grade level. Best of luck in that, though!)

okay, two things:

know my advice comes from the perspective of me never changing my name legally. i likely won't until i get married for real (because im probably also changing the last name as well), if i even get married at all

the real story is I was using fake names online (online safety y'all) and was moving slowly through the names of 5sos band members and, suddenly, got the gumption to email my art teacher to call me by a different name than my birth one. he promptly outed me to the vice principal who outed me to my parents. i got here on luck and luck alone.

to me, you just have to hope what you've picked is decent enough to hear it all the time.

what's in a name? do you want friends smiling when they say it? do you want baristas yelling it out into a crowded coffee shop in front of everyone and god? do you want lovers to moan it? do you want stupid AI on streaming services and websites and your email wishing that name a good morning? do you want it on birthday cards and post cards from friends and your contact in people's phones? do you want it on medical bills and paychecks and the biceps of those you've wooed?

you don't have to like your name, a lot of people don't and live with it just fine. for me, a lot of identity is in my name. it represents a hardship that changed me forever. it represents my ability advocate for myself. it represents my lesbianism and gender conformity in a way i can't hide. it is here, always, in 25 pt font at the bottom of every email i send. it is a promise to myself at 11 and 13 and 18 and 21.

[stupid-o-clock]

i still feel shitty around my friends. i ranted about this to my best friend earlier but i want to put this here so i'll basically copy paste my feelings.

i'm gonna call my friends P & V bc typing "friend"/"other friend" etc gets confusing after a while.

i was playing huniepop bc it's a fun game when u have nothing to do, but my P saw it in my discord status and immediately dmed the gc "BRO [me] IS PLAYING HUNIEPOP" and we started arguing about it bc she thinks these type of games are weird, idc lol. if u don't like them, don't play them, why get into my business? we have the most opposite opinions on so much shit like why even bother trying to start this

she complained about genshin nsfw popping up on her tl a while ago and told me to stop liking it, no? dont interact, click "not interested", block, even unfollow me idc not like we interact much anyway. gosh

she was so much better to have as a friend before we got close, i started having this feeling recently like once i get to know someone well it becomes weird. like damn, you know my trauma and ik yours? weirdo.. bye-bye! my gf, two best friends + two also pretty close friends are the only exceptions. but that's maybe because i got to know them before i started feeling like this?

tbh with these two it always feels like they've got something against me for no reason, that "no reason" also being im a dude. with all the shit they say n do it's a really toxic women>men type thing LOL and i can never say anything bc they'd team up on me!!

i don't think i'm ever included in those messages but thats bc im trans. if i was a cis dude theyd bully me into the ground, but i dont wanna be treated diff bc im a TRANS guy, im just a guy. the trans doesnt matter. treat me the same youd treat a cis one. and if you cant then we shouldnt be friends!

now this is about V and her boyfriend, theyve got a thing like he unfriends/blocks anyone she doesnt like going on. n one night he wanted her to unf all the dudes shes friends with, including me. personally idgaf but P got really pissed about it.

P said smth like "what did we say about not controlling women in relationships?" and like.. what? V is essentially controlling her boyfriend, so why can't he do the same? P just brushed it off tho bc V is an angel! and she could never do anything bad! her bf don't know that lol?

just like how i'm deffo not a love interest for her, everyone she makes him unfriend probably also isn't! maybe she got bad vibes or whatever that's ok! but god

also P used the r-slur when going off at V's boyfriend and that just rubbed me the wrong way. she's definitely "allowed" to use/reclaim it but it feels like an awful word, AND she was using it to insult someone which makes it even worse.

i feel like i can never disagree with P either bc she'll pull a "shut up ur a man" card. like- she's done that. she's done it as a joke but she'd deffo do it in a serious manner too-

also, i got into a fight- like- not a fight but i genuinely said smth really LOL i feel bad about it but P was shit talking me to xiya and then pulled up in my dms like Hey [me] i care aout you! You fucked up but it's ok u ust have to learn how to communicate

Like what is this? u can't tell me u care about me after spewing this shit into my girlfriends dms.

"i dont go out of my way to hurt people. he needs help lol" like bitch ik i need help. i did say the "joke" with intent to hurt V but it was in the MOMENT. yk how fucking frustrating it is explaining anger issues to someone who doesn't get it whatsofuckingever?

P has a load of her own issues that i dont ge tbut i at least TRY to understand her. also, first screenshot i wanetd to explain myself so V could see where im coming from?? LOL explaining ursef =/= makinf urself the victim.

i always overexplain shit, like my mistakes and why i think i made them. im also bad at explaining so i go on and on to try and make it make sense. i was literally blaming myself for hurting V and syaing sorry over and over again, how the hell was i making myself a victim?

[valenteal]

Okay so I just have to start by saying: thank you so much for having an actually constructive discussion here. So often people I engage with on this site think im being argumentative when I am really not so I seriously appreciate your approach here.

One thing that seems to be causing this conflict of opinions tho is that I don’t read the manga. Idk how different it is from the anime but I have to throw that out there because that could definitely cause a difference in understanding.

About Tomura, I feel really deeply that he’s an INFP. Because, as an INFP myself, I relate to him so much. And I’ve posted about it before and other INFPs have agreed. I think you’re underestimating the control AFO had over him, even after his arrest. Also you’re overestimating how organized he was during the mva arc. They were homeless and drifting after kamino until Garaki pointed them at machia, when they had no real plan or strategy except wear him down. Everything that went down with the mla wasn’t really his choice or plan, and it certainly wasn’t long term. Yes he decided to lure machia there as a secret weapon but there wasn’t really a long term strategy there. His goals at this point amount to protecting his family and destroying things that piss him off. He beats re-destro in a fight and the guy swears the allegiance of his entire army to Tomura and he just… goes with it. Then like immediately after he fucks off to let garaki do crazy experiments on him and is out of commission for the entire planning and strategy phase. Does he get better at recognizing opportunities and taking them? Yes absolutely. Does he have a long term plan beyond what AFO told him? Not at all.

Dabi. who this conversation is really about, sorry.

Imma be honest, I definitely don’t know as much about mbti as you do. It’s really interesting to read your takes even if I still disagree with your understanding of Dabi’s character. Because you definitely know what you’re talking about and I’m sorry but I’m sticking to my guns about the bad writing here. Not because that makes analysis impossible or meaningless because obviously I dedicate an absurd amount of thought to this, but because we just don’t get enough material to work with. The story is all over the place and there isn’t enough focus on the internal journeys of anyone other than Deku. It’s all speculation for the most part, except for scattered thoughts here and there. Understanding of characters other than Deku is almost impossible without making a lot of assumptions, which we both have done with Dabi.

But I really do see him as an ENTJ. A major thing for me though is analyzing not only his personality but also his mental health and what you’re seeing as unhealthy expressions of personality traits and functions I’m seeing as an entirely separate issue of severe and untreated BPD and/or C-PTSD. So, there’s that.

For me, Dabi seems like a natural leader and someone who gets fulfillment from others and not himself. He needed to talk to Natsuo about his feelings because they weren’t really if they weren’t validated by someone else. He’s charismatic and while he tries to come off as cold and distant he still surrounds himself with people and cares a lot about what they think of him.

A lot of what he says that makes it seem like he’s got strong personal values and convictions just reads to me as that leadership and charisma. He’s motivating his team. I’m not saying he doesn’t believe it at all, but it’s not guiding him. Emotions about large scale problems and injustices aren’t a factor. He’s motivated by a personal grudge that has warped his psyche. His feelings towards Shouto prove that to me. Also just the fact that he literally says he doesn’t feel anything anymore and backs that up with his actions.

When looking at Dabi’s thought processes and motivations it’s easy to label him as a feeling type, but looking at the big picture and at his actual methods it reads very differently. If you forget for a moment that his trauma and mental illness is dictating his path and focus instead on how he goes about achieving his goals it looks much more logical. He sets his goal and doesn’t waver from it, both before and after his “death.” When he was chasing his father’s attention it was done covertly and with immense dedication and discipline. He was able to hide that he was still training for years and he was able to teach himself what is basically a martial art without instruction. Then after he woke up, despite everything, that goal didn’t change. His focus didn’t shift for a second despite the incredibly emotional situation of waking up after three years of your family thinking you’re dead. He went home immediately, and while his goal did shift after seeing with his own eyes that his death hadn’t mattered and splitting, he bounced back with pretty much the same plan and discipline. Just, instead of getting Endeavor’s approval he wanted to expose and kill him.

Idk how into fanfics you are but most things I read where Dabi didn’t die on Sekoto Peak seem to characterize him similarly. He’s and extrovert in pretty much everything in which he’s got healthier relationships.

I admit that that isn’t the best argument but it’s a common vibe people get from him. He’s a difficult to understand character and pinning down what about him is trauma and what’s just his personality can be nearly impossible so I rely a lot on vibes that I can’t pinpoint where they come from. So even though you present a lot of evidence in a really thought out way I can’t agree with you based on my own conflicting read on his character. Not because I think you’re wrong necessarily.

Sooooo like, I really appreciate what you’re saying and how much thought you put into this but I don’t think we’re going to agree on this simply because we just have very different interpretations of the same things. Any evidence we present one another is just going to solidify both our arguments to ourselves. We looked at the same character and just saw completely opposite things. Partially because I don’t take anything he says at face value. Partially because I’m not basing everything off of mbti because I think mental illness and personality are very different things even in “personality disorders.”

I’m sorry this is such a mess I once again did not take my adhd meds and this is pretty much just stream of consciousness so it’s a complete wreck but whatever. I do think it’s unfortunate that we aren’t going to come to an agreement, and I know that’s my fault for being stubborn. I might come back to this and try to write an actually cohesive argument at some point but for now I’m really tired and my brain is a mess and you deserve a prompt response so… but I really do have a cohesive argument somewhere in the mess I swear. I just can’t untangle it at the moment lol.

I think both Shoto and Fuyumi Todoroki are INFJs

Dabi is def an ENTJ

And I don’t know enough about Natsuo to say what he is

I don’t know why I spent time figuring this out and idk why I’m posting it but here you go.

[stormblessed95]

Hey! I have been a Jikooker for a few years but since the past year, I’ve transitioned into thinking that Jikook are just close friends with no romantic association. During my time as a dedicated Jikook supporter, I’ve found a bunch of lovely Jikook blogs (you included) and I have closely followed and interacted with many of ya’ll for a while. Since my opinions on Jikook have changed and don’t necessarily match the blogs that I still follow, the logical thing for me to do was to move on and stop being so tuned in to Jikook Tumblr right? Wrong! I blame you Jikookers for keeping me coming back by writing a variety of interesting and complex posts based on BTS topics, Kpop-esque topics and random other topics. And Jikook topics too because I still enjoy their bond even though I don’t think they’re dating. I can’t seem to let go of the community aspect y’all have built here. I feel like I’ve gotten to know a lot of you bloggers well (as much as you can know a stranger online lol) so completely leaving this space kinda feels suspiciously like ending a friendship. Not me building a parasocial relationship with Jikook bloggers 😂. No but seriously I still love reading y’all’s thoughts on things even if I might skip past some of the posts that go heavy and deep into Jikook relationship dynamics/analysis. 💟

Here's my thing. You are welcome here on my blog if you just love their friendship. You are welcome here if you enjoy my BTS content and like Jikook, but you ship vmin or taekook, or jinmin, or yoonmin or namkook or whoever. You are welcome here if you just like my timeline posts but aren't as interested in anything else (and if that's you, sorry im always so slow on those lol). You are welcome here if you are just here because I'm really good at getting sent a random screenshot and finding you guys the content it comes from. Lol you are welcome here if you are an anti shipper but still enjoy my posts on all things BTS. You are welcome here if you just like how I organize my thoughts and aren't against shipping or don't think jikook are dating but find them cute regardless. You are welcome here if you just like my bookish posts every once in a blue moon. You are welcome here if you just stick around for my LGBTQ posts too. Lol I'm good if you are here solely because you like me/the way I write and nothing else. As long as you aren't being disrespectful to anyone, people here, me and the members, I don't care if we disagree on things. Even if it's who we think are romantically involved or not involved.

I follow plently of blogs that I don't necessarily agree with their opinions, and I often find some that I think take things too far. And that's fine that I don't agree with them. Just like it's fine if people don't always agree with me. I skip posts over topics im uninterested in or if i think they are taking shipping too far often at this point. The world would be an incredibly uninteresting place if everyone around you agreed all the time. Imagine how boring the conversations would be. Regardless. You are free to bow out if you want or stick around if you want too. I'm friends with someone on here who doesn't ship jikook, isn't even a huge ARMY, we exchange music of theirs occasionally though and mostly talk books/fics in DMs and have a great time and it's fine! So you know, do whatever you want. And if you want to stick around snd just send in asks or DMs about BTS in general or other topics, feel free to do so. I'm in general a pretty friendly person! Lol

I also think it's lowkey funny there is someone on here who had followed/unfollowed then refollowed like 4 times in the past 3 days. I think they can't decide if they like it here or not 🤣 it's kinda cute and funny.

[remcycl333]

hey rem! ☹️ anon here! im doing great, ive actually been taking time off tumblr and just flipping negative thoughts and thinking as if i have my desires and adding self concept into there too. im sorry about all the drama and impersonating that’s going on! i hope you’re ok! i found a really good youtuber named @/electrasoul , watch her vids and tell me what you think because i really like her. now onto my question, sammy dropped a new video and i have a few questions / opinions https://youtu.be/VmCwGwgDzIA , i personally think she’s sorta wrong and sorta right. affirming 24/7 doesn’t imply lack and it isn’t going to cause your subconscious to reject it, but affirming 24/7 because you think you don’t have it is what i disagree with. finding a manifestation routine that works for you LIKE THE ONE YOU GAVE ME WHICH I LOVE is basically all you need tbh. i would only advocate for repetition if you’re repeating negative thoughts and you’re combatting it with your affirmations but even at that, you don’t need to repeat the exact same affirmations either and you can just distract yourself from thinking negatively. it’s taken me a bit of time to realize that manifesting is only hard when you try to manifest like everyone else and not figure out how to make it fun. for someone who usually thinks and repeats the same thoughts, ofc repeating affirmations is gonna be fun for them. but just having a general idea on what to affirm on and going awol is my thing personally and you helped me see that. i know feelings don’t manifest, but ive been feeling a lot less anxious about deadlines and manifesting and ive been persisting A LOT better even when i feel extremely sad and want to walllow in self-pity. anyways this is just an update. ive noticed ive been manifesting a lot faster. like someone saying something i was thinking of or me finding something i lost by just ranting about how i found it in my head. im just trying to flip more opposing thoughts and work on my self concept concerning manifestations i care about more. this is just a little update 😭

omg ☹️ anon!!!! im so happy to read this! your growth just in the last week has been so beautiful to see 🥺

i love electrasoul! sometimes i just play her videos in the background of whatever im doing and let her hype me up.

i watched sammy's new video and i definitely agree with a lot of her points. for instance the part where she says that your subconscious mind doesnt have an opinion and isn't gonna decide that you are affirming out of lack lmaoo. that had me giggling lowkey

i will say however that affirming on a loop isn't for everyone. i've mentioned before that i went through a period of time where i was obsessively affirming all day every day on a loop bc i thought that that was the only way for me to manifest something. and i was barely seeing results or progress bc personally for me that method just didn't work out. it got to a point where i wouldn't let myself listen to music anym cuz then i would get distracted and couldn't affirm. i was seriously affirming 24/7. and it wasn't until i adapted the routine that i gave you that i started seeing progress bc i let go of that obsession and need for control that i had built up within myself. im not saying that everyone will start feeling obsessively towards affirming bc obviously this is a method that works for a ton of people, but personally for me i needed to find something else.

but thats why i say a lot that manifestation can be a lot of trial and error. i tried affirming on a loop and it did NOT work for me but that doesnt mean it wont work for anyone else!!

i definitely agree with what you said about not needing to repeat affirmations over and over unless you're having negative thoughts u need to combat. i've manifested so many things so quickly by just delclaring i have it once and completely forgetting about it (on accident lol) until it shows up a day or two later.

also the thing you said about someone saying something you were thinking of! that's what happens when you work on your self concept i've noticed. u begin manifesting things so quickly without putting in any effort at all. this has happened to me so many times where i just think of something once (sometimes without even the intention of manifesting it) and my 3d instantly reflects it back to me. self concept is just rlly that bitch ugh

anywayz seeing your progress really makes me happy and brightened my day :) im rooting for u!!! <3

[plan-d-to-i]

i liked this twitter mutual so much but these days they are so unreasonable like i saw they subtweet a jyl criticism twt and quote other ppls own twt that disagree w their interpretations and it was wild how much credit they give to a barely there chara.

like im sorry but jyl isn't the most oppressed and didn't marry out of obligation bc her betrothal was called out early on the novel.

links, links, links and here

I feel you. You're not the only one who suffered through those takes! here.

The first link was 🙃🥲. I didn't always agree with them 100% but that whole qrt thread was beyond absurd. The second link group I haven't fw for ages ଘ(੭ˊᵕˋ)੭* ੈ✩‧₊˚.

It's wild when you've seen people set out with good takes in the fandom and then veer off more and more into fanon territory, just reinforcing poor opinions back and forth until they're low key unrecognizable from the stans they started out criticizing. At this point I'm almost more shocked when I see good takes.

Anyway it's always cringe how defensive people who stan jyl get about her. Like : u don't ApPreciaTe that shE made SouP !?! and TrieD on a WedDing dRess?! >:0. If ppl crave female leads so badly why are they in this genre... Even so, Mianmian told a room full of the most powerful ppl of the cultivation world that they're hypocrites for a dude she met for a few days... A Qing clung around to protect ppl for years from Xue Yang even though she was terrified of him. Wen Qing is Wen Qing <3. I'm sorry you chose the most boring ass self insert and are mad ppl find her boring 😀. Maybe they should just have some soup instead of getting so pressed 🌝. I don't see anyone crying over Ling Wen.

[txbbo]

I've been debating making this because this is definitely not what my blog is known for and I was worried that people wouldn't want to see it, but with the amount of shit im seeing on twitter it's compelled me to make this because I'm so frustrated.

I feel like I could make 100 posts about 'Cancel Culture' and it wouldn't be enough, so I'm just going to focus on what caused me to write this tonight - the Tommy situation. *Warning for a VERY long post below*

To be clear, Tommy has been in 'hot water' on twitter for the past couple weeks, roughly starting with the KSI collaboration where he made a joke about dream stans.

Last week, when the SBI 'exposing account' got made and twitter hyped it up, someone made a Tommy account and made a thread of things he needed to be '''educated''' on: https://twitter.com/idktommyinnit/status/1379158964148002821?s=20

I'll let you read it for yourself (and come to your own conclusion) but to me.... half of this stuff does not require a twitter thread? Breaking it down accusation by accusation:

1) 'The Mexican accent' - the clips show he is clearly only doing it when copying big Q (who famously exaggerates his own accent) and there is zero malicious intent (Big Q is also IN the 3 clips mentioned in the thread, and obviously didn't tell Tommy it was offensive). There's debates in the comments from people who think it is offensive and people who don't, so I'm not trying to pick a side. To avoid accidentally offending anyone, maybe it is best for him to stop, but the way twitter acts as if he was purposefully doing this to offend people is just not true.

2- 'Making a slave joke' - Even saying that feels wrong, because it suggests Tommy is doing something awful. Instead, they are referring to the 'bit' that Tommy, Techno, Tubbo and Ant were involved in, when Tommy and Techno took Tubbo and Ant as their slave. People are taking this vod and using it to accuse Tommy of being insensitive to Black people, but I think people are just assuming the worst. Slavery existed long before the transatlantic slave trade and still exists today. This is a role-play server - Tommy 'forced' Ant to work for him and used the word slave, which to me is exactly what was happening? People 'murder' others on the SMP, people 'kidnap' on the SMP, people are 'terrorists' on the SMP, and all happen without issue. To add, Ant is a WHITE man. Tommy taking a WHITE man as a slave is not something uber problematic.

3- 'His reply to Techno's 'murder is bad' tweet'. - I get people saying that Techno's initial tweet was insensitive, but saying Tommy's agreement to this from almost over a year ago is something notable and worth addressing is just super nitpicky and is clearly only in there to pad out the thread. It also makes me wonder what other CC's interacted with it and if THEY should be cancelled too (according to twitter).

4 - 'The saying slurs' tweet / jokes about 'whats the worst word you know' - This one I can kinda see how people might not like it. However, it's clearly a 'poke' at his friends, making them seem like bad people. To me, its in the same vein as 'Tubbo is a Tory' or when Tubbo shoots back that 'Tommy is a Nigel Farage fan'. They're obviously not, but its making fun of your friends by saying they are, and mockingly making them out out to be bad people.

5- 'Covid jokes' - People are taking jokes he made about him 'having covid' and saying he shouldn't joke about this, even going as far to linking it to asian hate crimes. I don't even know how to explain that that this is just? not a 'cancellable offence'? I'm sorry but if I hear anyone in my family coughing I make a little joke that 'they better not have covid' and I know other people do. I have someone in my family who is extremely vulnerable to Covid and if they caught it, would quite literally die, but I can understand that jokes like these are harmless. The whole internet had a running joke that we were in a 'panoramic' or 'Panera' or 'insert any word that sounds like pandemic.

This thread got a lot of attention and anything he tweeted afterwards was spammed with the link and there were so many people upset that he hadn't addressed it. I saw so many people say how 'upset' and 'disappointed' they were in him.

Going on to today, this happened: https://twitter.com/khasiid/status/1380611890104139776?s=20

I get it, it looks bad. But for context (which the tweet doesn't give), the reply was only up for less than a minute. It was obvious to me, even BEFORE Tommy addressed it in his stream (clip here: https://twitter.com/cowrpse/status/1380640046202593283?s=20 ) that it was a mistake. In the clip, he clearly acknowledges his mistake and seems embarrassed. To me, this situation should just be laid to rest because a mistake does not need this much attention, but twitter disagrees.

In case it wasn't obvious by now, the tide is turning against Tommy and people are less willing to ignore genuine mistakes and assume the worst.

Today, during his birthday stream people were clearly already waiting for him to mess up. Around half way through, he started saying 'finna' out of context and Tubbo joined in. This led to tons of tweets telling him he was misusing AAVE, and while there were plenty of people willing to be patient and educate, there were also people seeing this as an example of him being a 'bad person' and someone who should be 'without a platform'. I think people forget that not everyone has the same internet upbringing as they do. In general, I think its noted that the misuse of AAVE is something that has just recently been brought to attention. I learned about it through tiktok and stan twitter, and I don't think it's unimaginable that a British 17 year old boy (who is not active on either) has never heard of 'African American Vernacular English'.

Just for a fuller picture, today has also brought about another 'criticism' that I just had to address.

1) 'Tommy made a KKK joke' - Like the 'slavery' point, saying this is extremely misleading. It makes people think the worst. Here's the clip: https://twitter.com/ghostburz/status/1380673589612011522?s=20

Here, Tommy and Tubbo are both joking about Tubbo's 'bit' of naming his alt streams 'aaaaaaaaaa', 'bbbbbbb', 'cccccc', etc and how it would've been bad if it was 'kkkkkkkk' (for obvious reasons). That is literally it. It is a less than 20 second clip. Acknowledging that people woulda thought about the 'KKK' is not him 'not understanding Black issues', its a throwaway joke about the obvious.

Lastly, someone on twitter has made a tommyinnit (address asap) doc - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1tZEZtBzikS-EYYkssfFtwVOoFqOwCK0zhStLe6H1wCc/edit

I've basically already covered everything in this document, but I wanted to mention how extremely 'guilt trippy' the whole thing is. I struggled to come up with the perfect word for the situation, and I am open to hearing other peoples opinion, but as I have mentioned none of these things Tommy has been accused of were done with malicious intent, and some I believe don't even need addressed at all.

'slavery is a source of astronomical trauma for black people, and isn’t something to be taken lightly if you’re to look into the horrors of the slave trade."

and "Oftentimes they are the last words we hear before we die and it really is not Tommy’s place to joke about words that affect us so negatively."

Are extremely emotional words for a 17-year-old boy to hear on his birthday, for stuff that I believe has been taken out of context and blown out of proportion.

I really feel bad for him, because such a large proportion of twitter (which ofc is the loudest side of the fanbase) is angry at him and is demanding (as the document says) ''either a stream or twitter thread/twitlonger to addressing this' and 'a long and serious apology instead of a short statement pre-stream'.

We all know how twitter works, and unless his apology is perfect (which to me means apologising for stuff that he should't have to, as explained in the thread), twitter will continue with this weird hyper focus on everything he does, and it's not going to end well.

Twitter's mentality of 'putting everything this person has done that could ever be considered problematic' into one neat little thread is so unhelpful and counter intuitive. I got overwhelmed reading some of the stuff people were saying about him, I can't imagine how he feels.

I feel like I have more to say but at risk of writing an essay longer than my actual work I have to do, I'm going to end here.

[kadssp]

im ngl, i just found this page. but ive spent like two hours scrolling on it 💀 my opinion may not be as valid as some older content enjoyers here, but i offer this as a contribution to the ‘afab/amab’ dispute. i truly do understand the want for trans inclusion. it’s hard to find for someone who is trans, but it’s equally as hard to interpret what is acceptable to then trans identifying. there are many factors to work into it, such as if you were to write in an in-transition-currently character, or pre-transitioning character, etc. as author kandi is not trans, it could be very hard for author kandi to interpret the trans perspective of it all. in addition, you all show so much aggression when author kandi tries to avoid offending or hurting someone this way and also staying true to the style kandi prefers. what happens if author does try and gets it wrong? youve only proven that it wont end well, and it’s safer to stick to what kandi DOES know. but!! this does jot mean author kandi is unknowing of anything outside of being cis. kandi is afab (i think so i havent read that anywhere but if it is and im just blind im so sorry if im wrong), and is still female. they know what thats like, they fully can write on that and have it make sense. and i have a final point to touch on- i am a nb afab. do the “good girl’s” not register as well in my mind? no, but it’s not borderline cyber bullying worthy. you can read past it. there are also other options like the gender neutral posts. do those not cater to what you want to read just as well as gender-specified? and if it’s about to horny, then for ffs, if it’s not good enough for you then write your own. author kandi is trying her best to captivate as large of an audience as possible while still staying true to her nature as an author. authors have driven themselves to madness over the tiniest details brought up by scrutiny. but when authors, like kandi, have alternatives to fix what you believe to be the issue, why are you still complaining? your problem has a solution, just stop being a jackass. and like others have said, you CAN and have FULL RIGHTS to be specific in your asks. it’s that easy to just mention a “im a trans reader, is there anyway you could incorporate more feminine/masculine details in this piece of writing youre going out of your way to write for me and a couple hundred other people?”

(im so sorry this is lengthy 💀)

i dont have anything to add to this, you’ve said it perfectly and i couldn’t agree more. thank you for writing this out and explaining it very well, im grateful truly.

yes i am afab and still female. yes i do go with what im most comfortable writing by default, what i can write that i know enough knowledge of and can make sense with. that happens to be afab(fem!reader for those would need it anymore specific) since it’s the easiest for me to understand of course.

however like you said in this, if i did try to portray a trans!reader, what if i did it wrong? what if i was misrepresenting, i feel like that alone would hurt someone more than when im writing something i know how to write easily. im not against writing for trans or anything! even if it‘s difficult im willing to try it because i want my blog to be open and welcoming for everyone. it’s why my second option was gn!reader and that should’ve been enough for you (the ones that got pissed at me) but you focused on one smut fic you read that showed up in the tags, that happened to be an afab fic i wrote that you immediately assumed would be what you’re looking for. and it can be, if you’re willing to read it and replace terms, titles and words used.

so thank you for writing this out. nothing i could add or disagree with. i’ll always try to be a open blog now and in the future, even if my works dont target every audience. anyone is welcome here, and anyone can request as long it specifies what needs to be known for me, the writer.