#sorry i don't have a better advice!

[balkanradfem]

weird question but any remedy for a growing wisdom tooth that has given heightened body temperature, runny nose, pain in the eyes, brain fog? For a few days now

oh I'm seeing this a day late, sorry! I don't know any specific herb for the situation you're describing, but this sounds pretty serious, I believe medical help would be warranted in a tooth that is causing this many symptoms! It sounds like it's making half of your head inflamed and that's not normal.

[queermasculine]

vulnerable q from an anon but do you have posts or wisdom to comfort someone like…guys with fat boobs who like their bodies and voices as they are and don’t want to change, even though it’s a bummer to always be read as a woman in public. how can I (or my lover) affirm how I see myself without me having to change for other people

thanks for your blog

buddy so sorry to hear you're struggling with that! not really sure what to say that might help, other than that i've personally always loved the masculinities of the husky (and/or) big-chested trans men and butches in my life. on those guys it always felt like a masculine quality in itself, to be big around the chest – barrel-chested was the word that'd often come to me (and i still think big-titted butches and trans men everywhere should adopt that)

i always liked our boyish voices too, the youthfully masculine tones we get to keep well into adulthood.. the world at large is narrow-minded and does not see these things the way i see them, but every year i find that matters to me less and less. what i care about is the community of people around me who do see, who do understand – and i hope you can surround yourself with people like that too!

[batsplat]

your posts are as illuminating as always thank u for ur work... i was watching route 46 route 93 from 2021 recently and sete showed up in that (as in, they gave vale an ipad and made him watch a video of sete lmao) and i thought of you.. i loved that even in that vale is still.. agitated about qatar... ends the segment with "if i had to give sete some advice... it's better if he hadn't done it." about qatar lmfao

omgggg I love this soooo much..... I haven't been able to watch that documentary so I'm immediately incorporating this into all my lore about them... like yes!! see!! he's STILL not over it, he can joke and laugh in the press and pretend this whole thing of 'oh I've actually made up with all my rivals With One Notable Exception' but he hasn't!! certainly not with sete, because that's valentino's whole deal - okay it's one thing to have a rival who kinda annoys him, but a friend who crossed him? oh it's over

this randomly reminded me, there's a bit of the mugello 2006 race commentary I find fascinating (in between all the bits where they were talking about how if sete beat valentino at his beloved mugello then it'd be the 'greatest day of his life' and 'better than any christmas present' which is very funny to me) (obviously he did not beat valentino):

I'm sorry that's a BONKERS level of feuding, like apart from valencia 2015 and cota 2018 even valentino and marc managed to sit next to each other - and even there it was dorna who were like 'yeah no we can't do this lads' not them.... the commentators didn't even mention a specific precipitating event, they just hated each other that much. "they didn't feel comfortable around each other" okay?? what does that MEAN. why are you even letting them decide this. is this not a little silly. remember these men used to go on holidays together!!

thing is I do understand why valentino has mostly shut up about this rivalry when he's not being shown sete's face on an ipad, but also he is giving up on insane bragging rights. I do think the most horrifying aspect of sete's fall beyond the literal 'no more race wins for you buddy' is the kind of... god, he never got revenge! nothing! every time they got close to each other after jerez 05 it was always 'oh sete wants revenge so badly' and he never got it! idk about sete gibernau but I'd be FUMING, even the thought makes me shudder. valentino detonated that entire relationship and sete never even finished ahead of him for the rest of 2004 and 2005. in 2006, he technically did so twice with two valentino dnf's, but was himself in ninth and eighth - when they both finished a race he was not ahead of valentino once after qatar 2004. can you imagine losing that rivalry that badly? no wonder he couldn't bear to see valentino's face for a while there

anyway the fact that valentino's going 'oho he shouldn't have done that!!' about qatar in 2021 and sete's going on three hour long podcast interviews to air his jerez grievances in 2023 does make it kinda funny they were posing together for photos together in 2009 to pretend like war was over. like you people did not mean this come on

[coquelicoq]

after spending the last week very stressed out and losing sleep over how much i regretted giving my number to a stranger, and after talking to several friends who all gave me the same very wise advice ("decide first what YOU want out of this and make decisions based on that" sounds obvious now but honestly blew my mind), i saw food truck man again today and he asked me if i have a boyfriend, told me he's all alone, hugged me twice, and tried to kiss me. i texted him after to be like just to be clear, i don't want a boyfriend, but i hope you find somebody! and he texted me back: i don't need a girlfriend. i'm married.

[theflyingfeeling]

tomorrow-me: I'd really appreciate it if you could drag your arse to the grocery store so that I won't have to get up early tomorrow morning to do it you know?

now-me, wrapped in a blanket with tears in my eyes: but I'm just a baby?? 😭

[tj-crochets]

Actually I was wondering if you have some advice on quilts! I use just a domestic machine, but I have an opportunity to make some throw quilts to give away. They need to be cozy, so my plan is to give them a fleece backing and make them self-binding. I want to use scraps, but I want the quilt blocks to be fairly simple so I can do several blankets. Do you have a favorite pattern thats pretty quick to do but can use smaller scraps? Im aware this may be impossible 😅 but i figured i’d ask!

I'm going to tag in @creations-by-chaosfay here for pattern advice because I have to admit I almost never use quilt patterns For my style of mostly-improvisational quilting, it kind of depends on the scrap size you're talking about? Some people call anything less than a FQ a scrap, some people call anything less than 2.5" a scrap I guess if I had to say a favorite pattern it would be the cat block??? but that takes like a little over half a fat quarter, so not necessarily scrap-friendly

[your-queer-lil-sib]

Why the hell is love so fucking confusing? I'm pretty sure I'm aroace but I'm the same age as you so I'm not a hundred percent sure and it could also change in the future. Anyway i have a best friend of 4 years and I think I might be in love with her but idk I don't really get butterflies or anything. I just kinda want to be in a relationship with her. But also it's scary because I don't want to ruin the friendship or what if she doesn't feel the same and then it's awkward and then she treats me differently. Also don't get me started on kissing. I had one kiss (with some other girl) but before the kiss when I thought about kissing her (the other girl) I didn't really have an opinion. And now I don't know if I want to kiss my best friend.

Also I vented to my little cousin (she's 11) and I talked about some heavy topics and now I feel bad

Sorry for venting. I hope you have a good day

- Maya

💜

[xoshepard]

fucking vindication man

my sister was just minding her business in the basement eating breakfast and my stepdad came down and asked "why do you have the light on" and she was like "so i can see?" and the thing about my stepdad is that he's incapable of softening his tone (and will pretend he doesnt understand that his tone is aggressive even though he can understand when YOUR tone is aggressive/rude) so even an innocuous question like that sounds like an attack, so my sister's response was also super subdued and irritated. this isn't the first time an exchange like that has happened but it was the first time that he kinda hesitated and was like "wait what did i just say that upset you?" and she started to speak like she was going to explain, then thought better of it and just said "it's nothing"

LIKE YEAH DUDE. WHEN YOU CREATE AN ENVIRONMENT WHERE PEOPLE FEEL LIKE THEY CONSTANTLY HAVE TO EXPLAIN THEMSELVES TO YOU AND AT THE SAME TIME THEY CAN'T BE COMFORTABLE BRINGING UP THINGS YOUVE DONE OR SAID TO UPSET THEM WITHOUT YOU JUST ARGUING WITH THEM TO JUSTIFY HOW THEYRE WRONG FOR BEING UPSET AND YOUVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING WRONG, THEN PEOPLE ARENT GONNA FUCKIN TALK TO YOU. ITS SO SIMPLE.

[nerdyfangirlingbooks]

Every now and then I remember the times I would mention to my flatmate that I was thinking of buying myself something reasonably expensive (that I had been eyeing up for months and had budgeted for) and she'd tell me that I shouldn't spend that much money on something I didn't need and it would be stupid etc etc while she regularly impulse bought things that cost at least as much and she would use once (while complaining that she was under a lot of financial stress and couldn't afford <$3/week for 2 months for a rental washing machine when ours broke). She is... perhaps not my first call for financial advice

[inkykeiji]

hiiii clari 😚 not to be too sad and messy on main but i feel really weird rn 😭😭 i have feelings for a professor and i just failed to turn in a final for him on time because of crazy last minute personal stuff that really made it impossible for me to finish my work and i feel so pathetic about it 😭😭 like i just wanna crawl into a hole bc it’s not a big deal but i hate feeling like im disappointing someone or myself and i cringe at the idea of me being a bad student :// like ive been debating continuing school for a masters but im also someone who runs away when i feel uncomfy and i kinda just never wanna talk to him again bc i don’t like feeling vulnerable. it just sucks bc id rather burn a bridge than confront the fact that i messed up ☹️☹️

hi hi!! <3 aw sweetpea i’m so sorry!!! i actually ended up in a similar situation during my undergrad—there was this PhD graduate student that was teaching one of my courses and i really, really admired him. we had a lot of the same tastes when it came to film + a lot of the same views in general, and he always left such marvellous and thoughtful comments on my papers. fast forward to the very end of the semester, our massive final paper is due and, exactly like you, i end up being unable to finish it on time because of personal reasons. i emailed him to explain—i wasn’t concerned about the late penalties to my grade, but i was so goddamn upset because i valued his opinion of me so much and i didn’t want this incident to soil it. i admitted this to him in my email, and he messaged me back SO SWEETLY, said something like this could never impact his view of me and that he still thought i was a wonderful student, and decided to waive the late penalties for me.

if you haven’t already, i’d definitely suggest sending your prof an email to explain—and be authentic in it. it’s not an excuse, it’s merely an explanation of what happened. i know it’s scary, and i get not wanting to feel vulnerable or look incompetent, but if you can muster up the courage to do so it is often worth it!! you can still keep your issues private (i did), but it definitely doesn’t hurt to explain yourself! and, honestly, i think there’s a good chance your prof might respect you even more if you’re able to open up and admit to your mistake. it demonstrates that you can acknowledge the fact that you messed up and feel remorseful for it, and it also shows how important your work is to you.

i completely understand how you’re feeling and it’s such an awful thing to experience—school was incredibly important to me and to this day still is, so i 100% understand where you’re coming from. but!! also!!! shit happens! you’re only human, and you can’t be perfect all the time. this can be a hard thing for us perfectionists to accept, but the sooner we can swallow that pill and grant ourselves some grace, the better we will feel and the easier it’ll be to do these things.

[thecrowperson]

Kaidou manga panels I like: (pt 359)

Fatality: feat. Rifuta, Yumehara, and Saiki

From: vol 19 ch 203

[medicinemane]

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[dykegirlfriend]

who said i was happy......

leave.

[aparticularbandit]

the real indicator that chisa has given into despair is that she's wearing pink.

she is a ginger. she is a redhead. we do not look good in pink.

it's not even just a hair thing; it's a skin tone thing. gingers usually have red skin undertones. we don't look good in pink. it clashes and it makes our skin look redder.

[sensitivegoblin]

For those that get their period; does orgasming help?

Maybe it's cus of my pcos but I feel like the periods I m*sterbate through are easier than the ones where I don't (pls feel free to add your two cents!)

[running-in-the-dark]

I just had to see this comment on that 'how anxious are you while driving' poll:

and tbh... haha shut your mouth :)