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uncanny-tranny · 2 years ago

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I wish it were more common for people to accept that trans people are often going to have very complex relationships with a lot of things - sexuality, gender, presentation, even growing up.

I'm just really disheartened when I see people expecting trans people to neatly fit into boxes that ridgedly force us to conform. I'm really disheartened with the idea that in order to "really" be a true man, woman, or person, you have to have the right experiences rather than authentic ones. And oftentimes, the "right" experiences for us to have are whatever make cis people (or even other trans people) the most comfortable. It's never truly about the individual's experiences or comfort.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #it just reminds me of this post i saw where this trans woman joked that she will always see her relationships with men as gay because...#...of her complex interaction with society and i really felt that #and it makes sense why she feels that way. why does she need to have conforming experiences to be respected and treated as the woman she is #why does conforming matter more than the trans person? why does being 'correct' and inoffensive to cishet sensitivities the gold standard?#because you don't ever have to understand *why* a trans person feels the way they do. but don't be transphobic or an ass about it #and certainly don't use it as a weapon to try and 'prove' that that trans person cannot know who they are #like i say... trans people don't have to be cis people in order to be recognized as their gender #as in trans and cis people of the same gender can have different experiences WITHOUT it meaning the trans person is 'wrong' about themself #sometimes trans and cis people will have different outlooks and opinions and experiences and that is OK #like... cisness isn't what makes manhood or womanhood or hell just personhood in general

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