#something something average canadian lesbian

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[kirkwallguy]

They sanitized being queer so much in Veilguard and for what. Your Inquisitor still needs to be binary, and god forbid if they transitioned between games. And for what, Cullen and Solas? Girl, dump him and take his gender. It won't fix you but it'll make shit funnier.

IF more than one romance actually mattered id understand it being too complicated to allow for transition, but seriously? only solas gets more than a codex entry afaik, how hard it would have been to have the m inquisitors record voice lines and have gareth david lloyd record alternate versions of like..any gendered lines which i assume there aren't many of. they should have dropped the illusion that romances had content and just done a 'did you romance solas?' toggle that any inquisitor could turn on lol

[abigailcathleen]

TAG GAME!

RULES: answer 20 questions (+6) and then tag people you wanna know better!

i was tagged by @lesbianferrissbueller fuckin legend..... thank u :* :*

1. NAME: abigail! also cathleen lol it’s my middle name

2. NICKNAME(S): abby, but only a couple close friends and family call me that. i prefer abigail lol although when ppl call me abi sometimes on tumblr it really makes my heart warm it’s just real cute. also my dad (and sometimes  @grabmyboner who is my other dad) calls me abadabadoo (like the flintstones [an aside: i just had the most surreal experience realizing there’s 2 Ts in flintstones])

3. ZODIAC: taurus!! 

5. HEIGHT: 5ft ~~~ i am wee

6. LANGUAGES: english & francais kinda lol

7. NATIONALITY: canadian

8. FAVORITE SEASON: holistically, fall, but i look forward to spring the most

9. FAVORITE FLOWER: tulips, probably, but really any flower!!

10. FAVORITE SCENT: anything baking, my amber vanilla candle, coffee, fresh cut grass. 

11. FAVORITE ANIMAL: sharks!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just love em

12. FAVORITE FICTIONAL CHARACTER: jude from a little life, i think about him all the time

13. COFFEE, TEA or HOT COCO: coffeeee but i love all 3

14. AVERAGE AMOUNT OF SLEEP: seven ish?? but i wish like 9 lol

15. FAVORITE COLOR: green!! yellow close second

16. DOG OR CAT PERSON?: dog for sure, but i love cats too

17. NUMBER OF BLANKETS: one unless it’s really really cold, and im usually only half under it, or just not covered by it at all lol i’m a sleeping space heater

18. DREAM TRIP: i want to spend like 3 months going to the theatre in london, that’s the dreeeeam. italy and scotland so i can meet my family. and omgomgomgomg anywhere where you can see the northern lights really well, like churchill or alaska or the yukon. 

19. BLOG ESTABLISHED: 2014 i think?? maybe 2013 i used it a lot for like 2 years the went off for a while then slowly started using it this year before smashing into this fandom lol

20. FOLLOWER COUNT: 539 but i dont think most of them are legit lol at least half are probably dead accounts from 2014 or pornbots or something lol 

21. RANDOM FACT ABOUT ME: i donated bone marrow a few months ago! was pretty neat. also i’m super into theatre and currently rereading nick payne’s ‘if there is i haven’t found it yet’ ~~ (this is facts plural but im 2 stoned 2 care ,, third fact about me is that i love 2 be stoned on my couch)

22. GENDER: i’m a woman, but i don’t think i’m a very good one lol

23. SEXUALITY: lesbian but i mostly just use gay which maybe is internalized lesbophobia but, , ,, who knows lol

24. HOGWARTS HOUSE: hufflepufffffff but like i wish i was literally any other house lol i admittedly think hufflepuff is a lil boring

25. WHERE ARE YOU FROM?: canadaaaa

26. WHY DID YOU START THIS BLOG?: i deleted my first blog when i was 13 lol but then in high school my friend (who later became my girlfriend then my ex girlfriend lol) had it and i wanted to have more excuses to talk to her lol the lesbian experience am i right

27. MOST RECENTLY PLAYED ALBUM: ‘habit’ ep - snailmail. banger after banger honestly

i tag anyone who wants to do this!! 

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Family.

“We’re trying to say: stop thinking about Manson as the embodiment of all evil. If he got a record deal, maybe nobody would have died.”

Jack Moulton talks cults, Trump and noise-cancelling headphones with American actress and screenwriter Guinevere Turner. Charlie Says is her latest film with frequent collaborator, Canadian director Mary Harron.

Of the serial-killer films currently in release, Charlie Says is the one that puts a strong focus on the women who often remain in the background of these retellings. Leslie Van Houten (Hannah Murray), Patricia Krenwinkel (Sosie Bacon), and Susan Atkins (Marianne Rendón)—the three women who killed for Charles Manson (Matt Smith)—are imprisoned in isolation in a California penitentiary, as well as psychologically imprisoned by Manson’s delusional ideas.

Then graduate student Karlene Faith (Merritt Wever) is given the job of rehabilitating the young women—as long as they are prepared to confront the horrors of their actions.

Turner co-wrote the 90s urban indie lesbian feature Go Fish directed by Rose Troche, which preceded her meeting with Harron. Charlie Says is their most recent collaboration, having partnered previously on American Psycho and The Notorious Bettie Page.

What interested you in writing a film about Charles Manson? Guinevere Turner: When the producers met with me they said they wanted to focus on the women as we definitely never got a sense of a story told from their perspective before. Once I found Karlene Faith’s book The Long Prison Journey of Leslie Van Houten [Faith’s study of the rehabilitation process and elongated incarceration of the three Manson Family girls], I saw a whole side of the story that literally never gets represented.

I got very excited that I could make a good movie out of this and it would also be an interesting commentary on what it says about society that we always treated these women like they’re interchangeable. Nobody’s ever asked “what happened to them?��, “what made them do what they did?” and more importantly “why did we stop talking about them?”. We never stopped talking to Charlie! There was a real opportunity to talk about men and women, who and when we pay attention to historically.

Did you get the chance to work with Karlene Faith in person before she passed away [in May 2017]? Yes, she was fantastic. It took a while to persuade her into talking to me at first. I slowly gained her trust via email, then we would talk on the phone, and eventually I would be visiting her apartment in Vancouver and we became friends. For about two years we were as thick as thieves.

Her book was obviously a huge resource but she was also useful for research as she was a woman of that time. She gave me a great visual, listening to her activist life outside of prison. When she met the girls for the first time she had all these assumptions that they were gonna be freaky psycho-killers and she was blown away by how sweet they were. She was immediately turned by them and she wanted to help them.

What were some of the unexpected realities of living in a cult environment that you wanted to portray? So I grew up in a cult environment as you probably knew so I assume that’s why you ask that question. [Ms. Turner spent the first eleven years of her life as part of the Lyman Family. They were devotees of Mel Lyman who believed he and his commune members would eventually live on the planet Venus. Though parted from her mother after birth, she and her younger sister were ejected from the Family when her mother eventually decided to leave. Ms. Turner considered returning at eighteen but chose to go to college instead.]

Yes, I read the article in The New Yorker. For me, I was excited to bring this knowledge in my DNA of what it’s really like living in that environment to represent both the good and the bad parts. You have those semi-orgy scenes and people doing acid, but also scenes where everyone is sitting around for dinner. That grounds it a little more. At the end of the day, it is a family—albeit an infamously weird one—but it is a bunch of people trying to live together.

While there’s the “everyday” quality to it I also wanted to show the volatility. It can be beautifully tranquil one moment and then turn on the dime into something scary and destabilizing. I feel like those things were true of my childhood. Mary Harron heard me talking about my upbringing for decades and she would always say “you should write about it”. I didn’t want to write about it specifically, but when I found this movie I thought I could bring something personal to the project that no other screenwriter could.

We’re curious about how you like to write. What music do you listen to while you work and are there any films you used as inspiration? I can’t listen to anything when I’m writing. I have noise-cancelling headphones that don’t cancel noise enough. I could live in an actual sensory deprivation tank while I write and I would be so happy, but unfortunately you can’t bring computers underwater. So, no music.

I watched a lot of movies of the era, especially unconventional movies about Jesus such as Jesus Christ Superstar (1973). Those were interesting aesthetically.

There’s a shot in the movie where they’re walking up the side of this mountain and I just loved that iconography. We were short for time on the day and I pleaded with Mary to make it happen. It made me so happy that it became one of the images they use for the promotion of the film. It does feel like this biblical journey and we were trying to capture that vibe.

What do you do to ensure the female gaze is considered from the script? I find a lot of that is intuitive. For example in this script, there has to be nudity but you notice that every time someone is naked in this movie it’s really uncomfortable. That’s one thing in terms of subverting male gaze, is that there’s no way that any person could see those scenes as objectifying the body for more than a nanosecond because of what’s happening.

It’s all about power, so I like that it’s portrayed as being uneasy. Even when Matt Smith is naked, Charlie is exerting power over someone else and she’s repulsed by him. That’s one of my favorite scenes in the movie.

How does your acting background feed into the way you write your characters? I think because I’m an actor I deeply feel the reality of what’s available for the average female actor to play. There’s tons of “someone’s girlfriend” and all the tropes, so for me when I’m writing I’m asking myself what about this is going to make an actor say “yes please, let me play that part!”.

I need to present something complex and challenging that they don’t often see. As someone who’s auditioned for many characters that I thought were poorly written, I try and give even the small parts something that will make an actor excited to play them.

What makes your creative partnership with Mary Harron work so well? It’s funny because we’ve never really asked ourselves that. Of course in the last week we’ve been asked that a lot while we’re in the same room and we look at each other like confused animals going “why does it work?”.

We realize that we have a similar sense of humor so we laugh a lot even while we’re writing all this dark stuff. The main factor is that we really trust each other. One of the hardest things about collaborating is that you’re not sure if someone is shooting down your idea because it doesn’t work or they’re jealous that it’s good. You need to trust that you can test stupid ideas with them.

When we first met in 1996 [shortly after Harron’s directing debut I Shot Andy Warhol and Turner’s writing debut Go Fish] we immediately had an affinity for each other and started writing together. It was as easy the first time we tried it as it is now. There’s not even much of an evolution. I feel really lucky for that because as a screenwriter it certainly means I have a lot more access to the movie than usual because the director is always checking in with me.

Despite all of the bleakness, it’s clear in the film that these women just wanted to be loved. There’s such a deep sympathy for them. What interests you about the line of responsibility for those influenced by dangerous charismatic leaders? I’d say everything about that interests me.

I’m drawing parallels to politics today such as the alt-right people that Trump influences, for example. We’re seeing echoes where people are mindlessly following a person who is validating evil, dangerous, and disgusting ideas. For these women I had to constantly remind myself that they did commit these horrible crimes.

I feel like Charles Manson and Donald Trump are apples and oranges except for the fact that they strike me as people where their only real fuel is power and that half the time they don’t know what they’re doing or saying, they’re just terrified of losing it. They almost have no internal life. They just feel when they have the power and when the power may be taken away and what they do to keep it makes people do terrible things. It’s like an addiction.

Matt Smith as Charles Manson in ‘Charlie Says’.

I’m sure you’re painfully aware that we have four Charles Manson films coming out in a short space of time. There’s Tate, The Haunting of Sharon Tate, and Once Upon a Time in Hollywood, though I’m certain Charlie Says was conceived before all of these. How do you feel about being a part of this cycle? I started writing the movie in 2014 and most of the time movies are made two years later but that’s not how it worked out for various logistical reasons. So on the one hand, I cringe that it’s the 50th anniversary [of Sharon Tate’s murder] and that’s when our movie’s coming out—it feels tacky but it’s definitely not on purpose.

Which seems to be very deliberate on Tarantino’s part… But the way independent films work is that you try and get them made until you get them produced. You don’t have these luxuries of when exactly they’re going to come out. That said, we have landed in a zeitgeist moment which is nice in terms of people paying attention to the movie. I don’t know much about Once Upon a Time in Hollywood but I’m sure Tarantino has a radically different approach from ours.

While they share some similarities, your depiction of Charles Manson doesn’t work in quite the same way as American Psycho’s Patrick Bateman. How did you decide the ways you wanted to humanize Manson? I think the first thing that’s similar between how we portrayed these two characters is that while they’re these powerful frightening people, we’re demystifying them and grounding them in an essential pathetic loserness. Mary and I don’t talk about how we can make another movie that takes down toxic masculinity, that’s just where we end up sometimes.

With American Psycho the stakes of social responsibility were different. We were asking people to put your baggage with the book away, we’re women making this, and we are trying to turn it into something that’s a critique of masculinity in a funny and dark way.

For Charlie Says we’re trying to say: stop thinking about Manson as the embodiment of all evil. We want to stop giving him that power and show that he was a conman who was just a failed musician. If he got a record deal, maybe nobody would have died.

Christian Bale as Patrick Bateman in ‘American Psycho’ (2000).

I have to say, American Psycho holds up really well for the Trump era. One could argue that it works better now than when it came out.

How do you respond to the way you’ve already satirized these sociopaths in power and how that affected the increasing appreciation for the film over the years? It’s gratifying, because [American Psycho] was not particularly well loved when it came out. That’s disheartening when you work hard on a project that you think is more worthy. That said, it being more relevant now is terrifying. I watched the movie again recently and there’s a little part of you that cringes when we make Trump jokes because Donald Trump was a different kind of funny at the time.

‘Charlie Says’ is in US cinemas now, and available on VOD and digital from May 17.

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name :     carling.

nickname/s :     you magnificent bitch / That Bitch / That One Murdoc Roleplayer.

height :     5′7.

nationality :     canadian.

favourite fruit :     strawberries, pineapple, peach, kiwi, raspberries, blackberries, cantaloupe, coconut, lemon, pomegranate.

favourite season :     probably autumn.

favourite scents :     i really like flowery scents, like sweet pea or lavender. i find them soothing.

favourite animals :   sphynx cats, bats, pigs, frogs, most birds, most dogs, raccoons, possums, alligators, sharks.

tea, coffee, hot cocoa :    herbal tea, but i do love hot chocolate when i’m craving something sweet... which is often.

average hours of sleep :     7 - 8.

when my blog was created :     november 2nd, 2017.

random fact :     i can’t stop listening to this stupid fucking song and i fully acknowledge it’s stupid but it’s So Catchy and i don’t understand why i didn’t hear it everywhere when it first came out. why am i only discovering it now. why did it take me so long to find it. why don’t more people acknowledge girls aloud as a successful pop band when they put out tons of fun songs. in this essay i will

favourite food :     fettuccine alfredo, seafood ( especially shrimp ), potatoes ( especially mashed with gravy, baked with cheese sauce & bacon bits, or hash browns ), mozzarella sticks, hot fudge sundaes, brownies, freshly baked chocolate chip cookies, really crispy fish and chips, medium steak, stuffed mushrooms, deep-fried mars bars, chocolate-covered strawberries.

favourite t.v. shows :     i don’t watch a lot of tv ( not because i dislike it, but because it’s difficult for something to hold my attention that long unless i’m really invested ) and when i do, it’s usually to revisit stuff i’ve been into for a long time, like digimon tamers or the kirby anime. shows that have managed to capture my heart over more recent years include orange is the new black, buffy the vampire slayer, the beetlejuice cartoon, gargoyles, and friends. i’m a super casual fan of stranger things, gravity falls and brooklyn 99, but i’m not great at keeping up to date with them. i used to love my little pony and rick & morty, but kind of fell off those bandwagons for various reasons.

favourite movie :     basket case 1 & 2, the devil’s rejects, jeepers creepers 1 & 2, the fly ’86, ginger snaps, the leprechaun series, beetlejuice, gremlins, hocus pocus, monsters inc, casper, disney’s hercules, the great mouse detective, killer klowns from outerspace, the hills have eyes ’06, watchmen... to name a very small handful.

favourite vine :   WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME!!!

sexuality :     lesbian!!! i love girls & fem-aligned people.

pronouns :     she / her.

favourite book series :     i used to read avidly and unfortunately i don’t really do that anymore - at least, not right now. i love stephen king’s work and grew up with r.l. stine’s goosebumps series. i was really into harry potter & the hunger games in my younger years and still like them, too.  s.e. hinton’s ‘the outsiders’ also holds an extremely special place in my heart; i don’t think i’ve been the same since i read that book. and yes, i was a warrior cats kid, don’t @ me.

favourite video game/s :     the wolf among us, mass effect, mortal kombat, the walking dead, telltale batman, spiderman 2018.

favorite band/s :     gorillaz ( of course!! ), white zombie, marianas trench, shinedown, fleetwood mac, die mannequin, sleigh bells, fall out boy, mother mother, the prodigy, icon for hire, duran duran, depeche mode, glass animals, royal blood, wham!, dorothy, creedence clearwater revival, lynyrd skynyrd, electric light orchestra, hall & oates, garbage, awolnation, ms mr... again, just to name a fraction of what i’m into.

favourite subject :     H O R R O R . . . i don’t think there’s any genre on earth that gets me more giddy than horror.

guys or girls :     in terms of romance & dating? absolutely girls. in terms of friends? both.

last time I cried :     tonight because i’m a tender b*tch

what I should be doing :     looking for a job, working on my latest article, catching up on horror films i haven’t seen yet, writing up verses, writing up character bio stuff, working on threads, learning how to cook. i’ll get to all these things eventually, i swear.

favourite fandoms :     oh man i don’t touch fandoms with a fifty foot pole. especially not this fandom. no thanks. i find the character(s) i like and someone to talk about them with and after that, i’m perfectly content.

TAGGED BY :     @clawedevil​  !! TAGGING :     steal it and say i tagged you !!

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CHARACTER INTERVIEW

BASICS  !

NAME: rose solano NICKNAME: ---no. AGE: 38 SPECIES: human

PERSONAL  !

MORALITY: lawful | chaotic | good | neutral | evil | true RELIGION: spiritual | neutral | no faith | questioning SINS: greed | gluttony | sloth | lust | pride | envy | wrath VIRTUES: chastity | charity | diligence | humility | kindness | patience | justice KNOWN LANGUAGES: german, english, italian, french, romanian spanish SECRETS: way too many to be listed here.  rose collects secrets and uses them against people; it is inevitable that she has a multitude of her own on top of that.

PHYSICAL  !

BUILD: scrawny | bony | slender | fit | athletic | curvy | herculean | pudgy | average**      **bridget regan is by no means average build, but rose by nature must be, otherwise         her body shape would make her blatantly recognizable, regardless of whomever’s         face she is wearing. HEIGHT: 5′9″ SCARS / BIRTHMARKS: none of the above.  emilio would have asked about any scars under the guise of being a somewhat caring husband, and both scars and birthmarks would make her more easy to catch.  anyone she slept with would know her body by her marks.  so, no, she has none. ABILITIES / POWERS: she can out drink luisa.  refer to the secrets part: her ability to gain and maintain a hold over people has its roots in her ability to find out other people’s secrets and to convincingly threaten them.  also being able to slip into and out of personas as needed for her job, for lengthy periods of time.  also her access to masks and voalizers to maintain the appearance of an entire other person separate from herself. RESTRICTIONS: the aforementioned uncomfortable facial masks after she is outed as sin rostro.

FAVORITES!

FOOD: noodles.  not spaghetti as we might conceive of it with red sauce and meatballs,; although she does like that kind of noodle, rose tends more towards cream sauces, whether a pure butter/milk/flour base or mixed with other flavors (basil pesto sauce, for instance, or almonds).  throw in some spinach and not beef but small bits of chicken or shrimp (the latter is far preferred here) and perhaps some tomatoes (as long as they do not stain the sauce) or peas (not in the pesto sauce) and top it with the proper sprinkling of cheese (not too much or you risk overwhelming it), and you will have a very content rose.  she also especially likes almonds, and where ice cream is concerned - gelato, first of all, is far superior to ice cream - rocky road is her preference.  she could eat most of a tub in one sitting and, in fact, has done so on more than one occasion.  (don’t tell luisa.  she’ll want a rom-com night.)  also when she was younger, she loved sloppy joes, but they’re so messy now she rarely, if ever, eats them.  it seems like it would appear childish.  (but she still loves them.) DRINK: wine, although she is fairly particular with its taste and make.  outside of that, clear sodas.  lemon-lime, ginger ale (which isn’t clear, but close to it).  fruity drinks - smoothies are a definite favorite, particularly with berry bases (stawberry, blueberry, raspberry, although strawberry is the favorite). PIZZA TOPPING: pineapple and canadian bacon.  rose is a heathen. COLOR: black, although she won’t admit it and rarely wears it. MUSIC GENRE: much to my dismay, rose is attached to german folk yodeling. note that she loathes american yodeling as it is far too country and twangy for her tastes.  rose vastly prefers artists over particular genres - dresden dolls or sixpence none the richer are neither particularly iconic of a genre, but she enjoys both. BOOK GENRE: rose actually prefers poetry and retold fairy tales.  also lesbian pulp novels that she steals from libraries and forgets to return them.  (she hides all of these from emilio.  tends to put them in luisa’s old bedroom, where she doubts they are out of place.) MOVIE GENRE: horror.  there’s something about intimidating or terrifying situations that are unreal as opposed to ones that are very real. CURSE WORD:  rose prefers to use german, even if she is using words that aren’t necessarily foul language because so few people in america would know they weren’t bad.  with emilio, she often uses spansh language that she picked up from him (or luisa), but as far as favorites, she vastly prefers german. SCENTS: the open sea.  strawberries (they remind her of her mother, although her scent was very faint and mixed with lavender).  vanilla.

FUN STUFF  !

BOTTOM OR TOP:  yes.  canonically we have implication that she both topped and bottomed for luisa. SINGS IN THE SHOWER:  whistles.  she hums when she is in a good mood, otherwise she is deathly silent. if she hums, it is more often than not a german folk song she remembers from her youth, minus the potential yodeling parts. LIKES PUNS:  rose loves a good word play.

tagged by: @deincs tagging: at this point, i’m unsure who has done this and who has not, especially since i took so long to do mine, so if you see this and would like to do it, feel free to take it from me, just tag me in it?  or not.  you do not have to tag me, but i do vastly enjoy reading them for the insight they can give into other characters.

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Answer 20 questions, tag 20 followers that you want to get to know better. Tagged by: @wowie-its-laurel, @iamaratfan and @fountainpenaddict thanks y’all

Tagging: @repulsion-gel @stilldoingscience @periscully @socksandbuttons @capthawkeye @zerrace @waterwinged @miraculoussparrow @sam-shut-up @engxxii @milishearted (If you guys want!) 

1) Name: I mean yall can probably find it if you dig through my blog but it’s not something I’d like to just publicly put anywhere 

2) Nicknames: Yaya, yunyun, Neu

3) Height: 5′2 I think???

4) Orientation: Lesbian, Queer, somewhere there

5) Nationality: Canadian

6) Favorite Fruit: Oranges, peaches, strawberries, etc. Fruits are good

7) Favorite Season: Spring

8) Favorite Flower: ??? idk man, though I guess hibiscus are nice. 

9) Favorite Scent: lavender’s real good

10) Favorite Color: green, but honestly any colour is good

11) Favorite Animal: Red tailed hawk hehe but all animals are real cool

12) Coffee, Tea, or Hot chocolate: Hot chocolate yum

13) Average Sleep Hours: 7 hours on weekdays, 10 on weekends

14) Dog or Cat Person: Cats!

15) Favorite Fictional Character: Uuuuuu Rachel, Fanny, Riza, I can’t pick one??? Tobias is also real good, I love Rosalind Lutece, GLaDOS has brilliant writing yeah there’s a lot of favourite fictional characters

16) Number of Blankets You Sleep With: 2

17) Dream Trip: A place with lots of cats, or forested area. But yeah with friends or stay home sounds nice

18) Blogs created: too many

19) Number of Followers: 80s 

20) Random Fact: If you have a bounded function with measure zero discontinuities (ie. if you make intervals to cover each discontinuity, there’s a way to make the intervals so small that the sum of the length of the intervals is less than ε for any ε >0), the function is then integrable.

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my fave everything @marrieddorks tagged me ♥♥

Nicknames: Jan, snorts

Gender: Female

Star Sign: capricorn on the cusp of aquarius

Height: 5′7′’

Time: 4:10 PM

Birthday: January 20

Favorite Bands: Rasputina, the Smiths, chvrches, BTS, NCT127, the Tragically Hip, Loona, Modest Mouse, the Cure, oh just stop me here ok

Favorite Solo Artists: Amanda Palmer, Ben Nichols

Song stuck in my head: Up the Wolves - Mountain Goats

Last movie I watched: I just watched the Tom Hardy Wuthering Heights which was a mini series but it counts, right? I just DVR’d it from a late night PBS airing and omg Andrew Lincoln was so lovely I had no idea! Otherwise it was pretty lacking, idk.

Last show I watched: I am watching season 3 of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmitt

When did I create my blog: a long fucking time ago? Like 2010 or something even longer ago.

What do I post?: Mostly Supernatural crap, side of porn and lesbians and other attractive human beings.

Last thing I googled?: How to cure hiccups bc I had terrible hiccups last night

Do you have other blogs?: I have a personal blog ( @turtlemushroombicep ) and a porn blog ( @peachbottompie ) and I used to have an RP blog but no one wanted to do it haha.

Do you get asks?: Occasionally. I have a few unanswered in my box but I don’t get that many, really. Like once or twice a week now. I was very popular a few months ago until everyone realized how lame I actually am.

Why did you choose your URL?: I had a poll and this won over a few other wet Sam based URLs. I really want to change it to ‘sammysbutthole’ one day.

Favorite colors?: All of them?

Average hours of sleep?: About seven or eight hours, depending. 

Lucky numbers: I have none?

Instruments: Mediocre piano skills, very long ago clarinet skills, and I can play the guitar and mandolin. 

What am I wearing?: Grey tweed aerie harem lounge pants, a t-shirt from woot that says ‘living on the edge, scissor run 5k’ and my favourite gross oversized green cardigan.

How many blankets I sleep with?: Winter is upon us, so there is a sheet, a fleece Rick Grimes blanket that my husband got when someone donated it to his work (this is how we get most blankets and honestly that thing is like $20 at Target, I saw it) and then a larger faux fur blanket on top of that. And there is also usually a cat on me. 

Dream Job: I would like to get paid for writing professional and also own a yarn store and run knitting and crochet classes.

Dream Trip: Rhode Island, going to Lovecraftian places.

Ethnicity: White Canadian with obligatory indigenous mixed in somewhere, as per an old diary my grandmother found. Further back, we were polish jews on one side, and the generic white UK mix otherwise.

Favorite song right now: I honestly have no idea, I’m really kpop trash right now, we don’t need to talk about it.

Put your music library on shuffle. What are the first 6 songs that popped up?:

Flipside - Lana Del Rey

Don’t U Wait No More - Red Velvet

Neverending Circles - Chvrches

Satisfied - Hamilton soundtrack obv

U-Turn - Tegan & Sara

All the Pretty Girls - Kaleo

Grab a book nearest to you and turn to page 23. What is line 17?: Oh my god I’m so fucking lazy rn, you’re making me get up? The only thing I have nearby is the IKEA catalog. 

Who is your celebrity crush?: I just rewatched the beginning of Fear the Walking Dead, so I’m real back into Alycia Debnam-Carey. Punisher got me going on Ben Barnes, the little shitfuck. Otherwise, the usual suspects.

Do you drive? If so, have you ever crashed?: I do not know how to drive, I am far too gay, but I am required to learn to get around at all in suburban New Jersey, where public transport is terribly limited. So we’re working on it. 

The last book you read?: I re-read Annemor Sundbo’s book about traditional Norwegian mittens. That’s right.

Worst injury you’ve had?: I am sooo lucky that as clumsy as I am, I haven’t had any terrible injuries. I’ve broken both little toes so many times, and a few fingers. Otherwise that’s it, somehow.

Do you have any obsessions right now?: As always with this time of year, I’m frantically knitting and crocheting so I don’t have to be alone with my thoughts. I’ve made a lot of stuff. Really into Korean cooking too, which is time consuming but delicious and healthy.

Do you tend to hold grudges against people who have done you wrong?: I wish I could say that I don’t but I’m a pretty black and white person when it comes to people doing me wrong or treating me poorly or anything like that. I wouldn’t say I hold grudges but I do cut people out of my life when I have to.

aaah who to tag, just everyone do it

[failedprototype]

Ma'am collecting a list on a group of people as random people doesn't sit well with me. It's one thing to block the tags. But to say you and a few certain individuals are the one to determine who someone else can talk to says a lot about about your movement.

I really don't understand your group's motives other than simply thinking they are the ones to determine what is socially acceptable to say. Because a lot of your group's actions scream authority needs respect. But only TRA authority. Its extremely short-sighted in the long run.

Something about the TRA movement has way too much clout to bully people in leftist and minority spaces. Especially for individuals claiming its representing the whole LGBTQ community yet acting on LG (lesbian and gays) attraction can invalidate the Ts (trans) perspective. Saying to the B (bi) who just doesn't want to date the T their boundaries are bigoted is bizarre. Saying you dont want to date someone doesnt take away resources. When those of us that a SSA want to make LGB spaces it always gets the T shoved in it even if the T individual is mainly attracted to the opposite sex. I'm wondering how much of the movement is actually just straight people larping for fun. Because there are so many people identifying irl under the T and nonbinary umbrella that even by your own statistics there is something not adding up.

Also you are a Canadian. I get that you fall under tribal law that lets you travel around in the US because of treaties but that's a whole different thing than saying your perspective is the same as an average american (as in a citizen in the country of the United States of America) based. Granted I'm more up to par on laws affects non indigenous individuals so i could be wrong on what exactly happens legally with you. Tribal law isn't something the average person deals with and the bits I do know vary tribe to tribe and it would be inappropriate for me to speculate on yours. History is easier to read up on overall.

I find it odd how many of these anti terf individuals including yourself want to be judge and jury. To say you are protecting people from reading another's words online? Hmm I wonder what happens when someone has power to says certain writings should be thrown out. What does that mean about that particular individual's position?

Terf is used as catch all term now a days for someone who tells you your biological sex exists.

The TRA movement constantly steals words those of us SSA need to describe to describe ourselves. If they had their own words and terms for their experiences this wouldn't be a problem.

Roe Vs Wade is in danger because of the fact that people are vulnerable and right now if you say things about women needing abortions it's transphobic or bigoted. TRAs are using trans rights as a social battering ram to silence anyone saying women (as in AFAB women, nonbinary, and transmen) are having problems. Or if their problems don't match the experience of transwomen (males) they arnt problems.

Since the TRA movement makes it so talk is between males only aka conservative man that is male versus transwomen and nonbinary AMAB individuals you risk people taking sides with others out of fear. This kind of fear just makes desperate AFAB individuals go with the person who they think will hurt them less.

There is a sadness I've felt learning places where I expected to be at least okay as a lesbian is just filled with mostly aces, trans, nonbinary and maybe the rare bi individuals. Then to add insult to injury this newer gender attraction as a spectrum thing terrifies me. Because one of the things many conservatives would say in the past to me is that being gay is a temporary thing for people.

I'm sick of both conservative and liberal people saying to SSA individuals like myself and others our attraction isn't politically correct.

The right want you to marry and make children. No matter how repulsive you find the opposite sex's body is. Or the fact some of us don't want kids either. No bodily autonomy here. They are also so pro corporations that it's sucking the life out of the country. So much is done for business and not enough done to help actual people. The Trump administration's lack of environmental safe guards and their dismantlement of them at breakneck speed makes me anxious. Im honestly kind of scared of the damage they have done and what it will mean in the future. Not to mention the clown car that is the Qanon looney tunes. It's a train wreck.

The left attempts to appease TRAs cause confusion. And this gives homophobic individuals on the left who even though they understand Republicans will sell them and their country for a corn chip a way to make their gay kid go "straight" in a politically correct way.

So many people have to live with other people to survive in the Unites States because of cost of living that it sucks you can't just exist as an individual. This unfortunately includes myself. It's frustrating beyond belief. So it sucks that other people can determine your fate in the long run even as an adult.

I really do not understand TRAs (trans rights activists) sometimes.

Like starting fights for a block list makes no sense to me.

There are actual problems to worry about especially stuff like attacks on Roe vs Wade eroding bodily autonomy and women's rights needing to be secured worldwide. Climate change or even the whole covid situation causing havoc.

Yet here TRAs are trying to argue any talk about women's rights is harmful because it makes tranwomen (males) upset?

Sometimes it feels like they are badgering just for brownie points to show off to their friends. It sucks that since so many of them want to treat being gay or in their own words "queer" as a counter culture. Because for those of us actual gay, bi or lesbian we get stuck with the mess TRAs make. It's so frustrating.

I also get very concerned TRAs keep insisting straight relationships are possible for those of us completely same sex attracted. Its only a matter of time before some conservatives try out TRA talking points. Or worse some homophobic "liberal" familes start getting ideas on for a socially acceptable conversion therapy thanks to TRA propaganda to give transwomen their "validation".

[ameliacareful]

Neurotribes

“Absent the context of a psychiatric case history, the story of a boy who reads the Narnia books in kindergarten, cracks jokes about being “dimensionally challenged,” and spends his grade school years hanging out with his fellow geeks could be the biography of practically anyone destined to become a successful entrepreneur in Silicon Valley. Thus, clinical accounts of Asperger’s syndrome tended to reframe neutral or even positive aspects of behavior as manifestations of deficit and impairment. Intense curiosity became perseveration. Precociously articulate speech became hyperlexia. An average score on a test became a relative deficit—evidence of an uneven cognitive profile.”

I’m reading a book called NEUROTRIBES by Steve Silberman. It’s about autism and the spectrum, how the ‘epidemic’ happened. It’s really smart about the history of the pathologization of autism.

I was taken aback recently when someone was giving a list of things that were good indicators that a person or organization was more about pathologizing autism and people on the spectrum, more focused on parents and caregivers. (They were talking about Autism Speaks, an organization I don’t support.) One of the things the poster identified was people who use ‘people with autism’ rather than ‘autistics’.

I use 'people with dyslexia’ or 'people with…’ because I want to emphasize that the person I’m discussing is a person. I am leary of 'othering’ people. Jews in Germany in 1937 were not people, they were Jews, something 'other’. Referring to people by a signifiers like 'Jew’ 'Colored’ or even 'Mexican’ can be used to make them feel less human (and have been used that way in the US). The autism spectrum is really large and two people on it can differ profoundly both as people and in the way they fit the diagnostic criteria for the autism spectrum.

But I’m aware I don’t describe someone as 'a person from India’, I say 'Indian’ (and because I live in the US I often clarify, 'Asian Indian’ versus 'Native American’ or 'Canadian First Nations’. If I’m talking about someone who is Native American I try to use a tribal affiliation. The Navajo are culturally pretty different than the Chippewa.) I do not describe myself as a person who is queer.

I’m curious about how people on Tumblr who identify as someone with autism feel about this. Queer, gay, lesbian, and Black were reclaimed as things to be proud of. What does the identity 'Autistic’ mean?

[alicesoneandonly]

RULES: answer these and tag 20 followers you’d like to know more ! TAGGED BY:  @hairbeat, @thecrystalizeddemongirl TAGGING: You

NAME: Saki NICKNAME: Sakimakiroll, others SIGN: Capricorn HEIGHT: 5′7 NATIONALITY: Canadian ORIENTATION: something (maybe bi or lesbian)- ace FAVOURITE  FRUIT: None FAVOURITE  SEASON: Spring/Fall? FAVOURITE  FLOWER: None. FAVOURITE  SCENT: Fresh bread FAVOURITE  BOOK: Prisoner of Azkaban FAVOURITE  COLOUR: Purple FAVOURITE  ANIMAL: Cats COFFEE, TEA, OR HOT CHOCOLATE:  Hot chocolate AVERAGE HOURS OF SLEEP: Depends CATS OR DOGS: Cats NUMBER OF BLANKETS YOU SLEEP WITH: 1-2 DREAM TRIP: Tokyo, vising places in Europe BLOG CREATED: 2012 or something NUMBER OF FOLLOWERS: 1,729

[robinmizoguchi]

ahh so i was tagged in this by @napolllya (thank you!!!) like two weeks ago and have only done it now and yet ive put it in my queue???

rules: Answer the 20 questions and tag 20 amazing followers you’d like to get to know better

so idk im tagging mutuals semi-randomly, so if you dont want to do it or it makes you uncomfortable dont worry about having to do it! @expectopatronuts @dqrthvader @nbdraco @expectogranger @straight-as-a-curly-fry @avooda-kedoovra @sirriusly @howlingremus @mendedpixie7 @nomaj @agenthartwin @paint-the-wall-with-bullets @eggsywin @amilyn @n00tscamander @fireflies-in-dresses @neriine @survivingonmars @disregardcanon​ @wotcherlupin​

name: eleanor nicknames: ellie (but only three people call me that) zodiac sign: cancer height: 167 cm / 5′6″ (i think i haven’t measured my height in ages) orientation: idk ace? lesbian? who knows nationality: canadian/english favourite fruit: raspberries favourite season: autumn favourite book: so many. harry potter and inkheart are both up there, definitely favourite flower: roses maybe?? favourite scent: vanilla, or petrichor favourite colour: blues and greens favourite animal: dogs coffee | tea | hot cocoa: coffee in the morning and tea in the evening and hot chocolate when i really want a treat average sleep hours: heck knows, 8ish hours a night? less? cat or dog person: dog favourite fictional character: ahhhhhh well percy weasley is high key relatable lets say him number of blankets you sleep with: one dream trip:  “all the capitals of the ancient states of Central and Eastern Europe” (loll) and also the western bits i guess blog created: uh something like the 29th december 2013? idk the exact day number of followers: 443 random fact: my ideal date starts at the national portrait gallery where i explain the history behind all the paintings and my date finds it really interesting even if she knows it all already

[rebels-without-applause]

get to know me meme!! answer the 30 questions and tag 30 followers that you would like to know better tagged by: @afterdearest​ (sorry this is so late I just got back from vacation!)

nickname: Clare gender: female star sign: scorpio height: 5′9  time: 12:36 AM birthday: November 13th favorite band(s): Brand New, Marilyn Manson (sort of a band), AFI favorite solo artist(s): Adore Delano, Kate Bush song stuck in my head: Negative Nancy by Adore Delano last movie i watched: Get Out last show i watched: The Office when did i create my blog: August 2012 I think? what do i post: lesbian stuff, animals, and memes mostly last thing i googled: something about my college residence house I think do u have other blogs: yep! @a-goddamn-mermaid​ for drag race stuff and @vandervonoddity​ for Vander Von Odd content as well as some other secret/defunct ones do u get asks: occasionally  why did u choose this blog name: it was a working title for a Marilyn Manson song and it stuck following: 182 followers: 630 (hasn’t budged for like six months other than the porn bots that i block) favorite colors: sea green and periwinkle  average hours of sleep: now that it’s summer 8 hours but more like 6 during the school year lucky number: 13 (so edgy) instruments: bass guitar and piano what am i wearing: my dyke march volunteer shirt and pajama pants how many blankets i sleep with: i can never keep track of more than two dream job: fiction writer! dream trip: ireland or finland favorite food: mexican food, indian food, seafood, or anything with coconut  nationality: canadian-american favorite song now: i have like twenty at any given time but to mix it up i’m going to say Arsonist’s Lullabye by Hozier

i tag @moodyvirgo666 @9oceansaway and @questioning-violet and anyone else who wants to do it. no pressure though!

[femmingway-blog]

“I Know You” : On visibility and support for LGBTQIA+ youth and children

Today I want to discuss welcoming spaces, supporting LGBTQIA+ children, and the importance of queer visibility.

My partner and I recently had the pleasure of being invited to speak at two churches in the small village in which I grew up. Long Reach United Church, and its sister congregation Westfield United Church, form part of the Two Rivers Pastoral Charge. They invited us to speak as part of their efforts in becoming an “Affirming with a capital A ministry” (as the minister put it when speaking to us about the invitation). As part of the Affirming Ministry application process, they have accepted the challenge to bring in people from various backgrounds and walks of life to discuss what it feels like to not always belong, and ways that they have felt welcome and belonging, so that the congregation may learn to do it more adeptly.

[Image description: A wooden table outside the Sanctuary of Long Reach United Church. On the table is a cream coloured cloth with floral embroidery in earth tones, a vase, guest book, pamphlets, and in the foreground of the photo is a sheet of cream paper with the words “Entering Guilt-Free Zone” in large, bold capital letters.] This was not only an incredibly admirable and humbling goal to consider, but we could not possibly have felt more welcomed, loved, and appreciated while we were there. The focus of our particular talk was on welcoming transgender people, and I touched on the subject matter of LGBTQIA+ children, particularly trans children.  It occurred to me as we spoke that I have a lot to say about finding ways to make sure that young queer people have something positive to look up to or envision for the future.  I think it is so important that no matter what, whenever we are discussing issues to do with LGBTQIA+ people, that we be aware that children hear these conversations happening. While children may not currently have the necessary vocabulary, understanding, and self-knowledge it takes to actually put a label to their identities or experiences, LGBTQIA+ adults will remember and look back on the times they were allowed to feel joyful and safe in their ways of expressing attraction and gender identity, rather than ashamed or abnormal.  Children may not have the language to identify the problem, but they do still know when something doesn’t feel quite right about themselves - and that feeling is a direct result of a world that has been built without them in mind.

These experiences will shape the ways they engage with those identities later in life, and how safe they will be able to feel in any given situation. In a world that is still so full of hostile stances on queer and trans people, it is difficult to feel secure in trusting that silence could mean quiet support; when one is accustomed to being excluded, they will rarely make the assumption that they are invited in.

In terms of consequences for a lack of support and visibility for queer and trans youth: according to the TransPulse research project done in Ontario , strong family and parental support can account for a 93% reduction in suicide attempts for a trans youth, who are already at an astronomically high risk for attempting suicide:

Consideration of suicide was common [among youth participants], and was reported by 35% of youth whose parents were strongly supportive and 60% of those whose parents were not strongly supportive. Particularly alarming is that among this latter 60%, nearly all (57%) had actually attempted suicide in the past year. In contrast, only 4% of those with strongly supportive parents attempted suicide. While 4% is still far too high, the impact of strong parental support can be clearly seen in the 93% reduction in reported suicide attempts for youth who indicated their parents were strongly supportive of their gender identity and expression. 

These numbers show that having a supportive family has an unfathomably deep connection to a desire to continue living for young children facing a scary and unfamiliar existence. They can be compared to the general national average, which shows that over the course of a lifetime, 14.7% of Canadians think about ending their own lives, and 3.5% ever make an attempt. 

Something that I mentioned to the Churches’ minister when we spoke to her last week about what to focus on in our talk was the issue of how to address someone who expresses the somewhat common the fear that their child may become gay or trans themselves. I believe that it is important to have honest discussions with people who express this kind of worry, to help them to identify where it may be coming from, and to question its foundations. We must also question any assumptions we hold that this kind of fear is founded in something inherently negative, unsupportive, or harmful, or that it something impossible to change. We must consider whether, for example, it founded on the fear of a hostile world’s effects on a child who grows up to adopt a non cis-heteronormative identity, or if it is a fear that is based in stereotypes and assumptions about what kind of person holds those kinds of identities. It is not enough to answer that question, because that doesn’t help anyone cope with or confront their fear; after naming it, we must consider what can be done to alleviate it. In the examples above, if it is the former, we have a responsibility to make the world safer for the child in question; if it is the latter, we have a responsibility to learn to engage with people as individuals, rather than walking embodiments of something we dislike or with which we are unfamiliar.

Support can come in the form of having conversations, and discussing the basic fact that other kinds of people, other kinds of families, other ways of seeing the world, all exist and can all simultaneously be genuine, beautiful, and worthwhile. When I considered what it meant to me to be given the chance to speak to a group of people about our perspective and experiences, I was struck by the idea that there have more likely than not been times when a young child listening to me - or a friend of mine, or another out and outspoken member of the community - has learned something more about themselves, or has potentially been given, for the first time, an opportunity to see a possible future as a queer person that isn’t frightening or lonely. Consider the way trans people  are represented on tv and in the news. As well as bisexual people, and queer people of all kinds. The choices available through the mainstream media are: extremely unstable, tragically lonely, dead, and/or a criminal of some sort. Choose at least one. And it’s usually dead. This ties into some work that my partner did a while back for a queer literary magazine called Vitality - the premise of the magazine was to publish creative content (stories, art, poetry) by and/or about queer people, and the only other criteria was that it had to be happy or positive - no sad endings, no deaths of one partner leaving the other completely alone, no “overcoming harassment” narratives, and no focus on deviance or criminality. The magazine eventually shut down, unfortunately, for lack of funding.

Consider our cultural narratives about LGBTQIA+ people, often the first exposure young LGBTQIA+ children have to a world where these kinds of people exist. Often, they are demonizing, and even when trying to supportive, they often rely on a form of tragedy porn that necessitates the death and sacrifice of a noble queer character who may serve as an example to us of the importance of acceptance. While it may be humbling and inspirational for onlookers, what we teach our children is that queer people can expect to grow up to be freaks or to be dead. We need to expect better for them.

This idea also ties into a number from a musical that is very close to my heart. Based on the illustrated strip-comic-style memoir of prolific lesbian cartoonist Allison Bechdel of the same name, Fun Home the musical is the story of a young girl growing into a woman who is forced to confront the very real effects of queer invisibility in our families and communities.  Alison Bechdel is also known for her famous comic strip Dykes to Watch out For and as the creator of the now-familiar “Bechdel Test” used to gauge a given film’s portrayal of women.

Bechdel’s memoir in Fun Home focuses on the reality she knew as a young girl growing up in Pennsylvania, never really feeling that she fit with the role that she was told to strive for - one of femininity, softness, attraction to men, and a desire to fit in. The book spends a good deal of time focusing on her feelings of confusion and alienation with the ideas that she was taught to value, when she felt that the things she liked were perfectly legitimate as well, especially when she saw young boys being encouraged to do the very things she was barred from. When Bechdel finally came out to her parents after going away to university, she was immediately confronted with the revelation that her father was also gay, and had been secretly (and clumsily) concealing his affairs with men (and sometimes young boys) from his family and peers for decades. Not only was this a complete surprise to Alison, but she was thrown into further chaos and confusion when her father took his own life only a few months later, before ever having the chance to truly speak to her about their unique yet similar experiences of living as an LGBTQIA+ person living in a world that denies their very existence.

The musical contains a scene between Allison at 43 and her younger self at age 7 or 8, which I consider to be one of the more powerful and moving vignettes I have ever seen. This scene stuck with me for a good deal of time after first seeing it, and comes to mind for me often. I had to do a good deal of unpacking in order to process the emotions it brought up to me, and I would like to share it. Here is a video copy of the scene being performed at the Tony awards in 2015.

This scene in particular is made up of so many subtle and important details, not the least of which is the strong sense of recognition and joy expressed by Young Al when she sees an adult exhibit a way of existing she hadn’t even known was viable until that moment. This scene is so important to me personally because it perfectly embodies the ideas behind why queer people know that visibility is important. We all know at this point that Allison does not know she is gay yet - she will not know this about herself for more than a decade to come. But she knows that there is something about her that she isn’t able to name, but with which she is familiar enough to recognize when she does see it in another person.

[Image description: two panels from the Fun Home book. The first panel shows a large, butch woman with short curly hair, a plaid button up shirt with the sleeves rolled up and tucked into jeans with a belt and a large ring of keys hanging from the belt. She is speaking with a server at a cafe who takes her order with tired, uninterested eyes. The woman stands with her back straight and her hands on her hips. In the background of the first panel, Young Al can be seen in a booth, looking right at the woman with her hands between her knees and a fixed, interested expression. She has a bob that goes to her chin, held out of her face with a barette. She wears a striped long-sleeved cotton shirt and blue jeans. Across from Al, her father looks back over his shoulders at the woman as well. The caption at the top of the panel reads: “I didn’t know there were women who wore men’s clothes and had men’s haircuts.” at the bottom of the panel, the caption reads: “But like a traveler in a foreign country who runs into someone from home -- someone they’ve never spoken to, but know by sight -- i recognized her with a surge of joy.” In the second panel, young Al and her father are facing each other in profile. they are sitting in the booth of the cafe but are shown from the neck up (Young Al) and shoulders up (her father). The Caption at the top reads “Dad recognized her too.” and there is a speech bubble in which her father says “Is THAT what you want to look like?” in a strong suggestion that she should not, in fact, want to look like that. ] Not only is this a charming demonstration of the intangible internal struggle that comes with having experiences that aren’t reflected in the stories and examples given to us in narratives our society tends to produce, but it is also one of a very few LGBT coming-of-age narratives that are not heavily reliant on sex and sexuality. In fact, it is the only one I can personally remember encountering that is not. This small scene, meant to represent just a few seconds’ worth of real time, is able to express a very intangible concept about identity, representation, and innate self-knowledge combined with a profound sense of alienation, all the while not relying on the imagery or act of sex - or even romantic attraction - just because the subject of the story is gay.

Ring of Keys is an excellent reminder to us that children pay attention to the world of adults; they do not live in a world that is separate from our own, nor are they sheltered from the values and prejudices we hold as adults. I think Young Al is an excellent reminder to all of us that we don’t need to have the “right” vocabulary, or any of the answers, in order to make children feel safe and values regardless of how they like to dress or what excites and pleases them. Making an effort to acknowledge and celebrate difference, including exposing children to different ways of being an adult, different ways of shaping a loving family, and different ways of structuring one’s life, can do and incredible amount of good to that child’s own self-esteem. At the end of the day, kids may not know exactly who they will grow up to be, but if they know that the possibilities are only limited by their creativity, and if they know that their families and communities will celebrate them as long as they keep a caring heart and are honest to themselves, they will inevitably be more equipped to handle the world they will travel through.

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[Image Description: The sanctuary at Long Reach United Church. The pews are a warm golden brown colour and sunlight streams through tall windows to the far right. The Church is empty and service has not yet started.]

On Sunday March 26th, a young child walked to the front of Westfield United Church’s sanctuary and helped an adult light a white pillar candle brightly banded by the seven colours of the rainbow. The first point of order in the church bulletin was to acknowledge that the church stands on unceded Wabanaki territory, and the microphone system and electronic display of readings and song selections demonstrated an active effort to include people with disabilities or impairments. From the moment we walked in the door, we were warmly welcomed with smiles, handshakes, and hugs from strangers and family friends alike. We heard from many adults who expressed a desire to find ways to show LGBTQIA+ people that they are welcomed and loved in their community. They spoke of wishing to find ways to show that support, to make it real and tangible to those who otherwise may not even be fully open about their identities.  The longer we spent there the clearer it became that this was an example that, while communities may not have as much access to information and resources they can clearly understand about LGBTQIA+ people, the first and most important step is seeking it out in the first place.

[punk-rock-trolls]

tagged by: @aciess-kolhis​

Name: Rowan

Nicknames: Some of my friends call me peaches

Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius 

Height: 6′7 now or somethin

Orientation: Bi or pan or something. Idc about gender tbh

Ethnicity: Canadian with an Italian background

Favourite Fruit: Kiwis are nice

Favourite Season: Fall

Favourite Book: I Am Legend by Richard Mattheson

Favourite Flower: Never really thought about it to be honest. Carnations I guess?

Favourite Scent: I like the smell of apple cider

Favourite Colour: Used to be really into blue and black. I still am but I lean more towards earthy colors and dark red. I just don’t have a whole lot of clothes or anything in those colors.

Favourite Animal: I think probably pangolins or maybe ferrets. Oh and cuttlefish

Coffee, tea, or hot chocolate: All three

Average Sleep Hours: Anywhere from 4-10. Depends on my work schedule

Cat or dog person?: Both. But I’m also allergic to both so it kinda sucks.

Favourite fictional character: Caboose from RvB, Terezi, Maya/Athena from Borderlads, Toska/Leona/Bella from Prague Race, Molly Moon, and lots more.

Number of blankets you sleep with: One really big one

Ideal trip: Uuum. Something lowkeye and relaxed. I like camping and stuff so maybe something like that.

Blog Created: About October of last year.

Tagging: 

@trollcollective, @spooky-smol-trolls, @kronnoandfriends, @lesbian-trolls

If y’all want to

[ladiesiveloved]

tagged by @mountaindave​ for the “get to know you meme” 

rules: answer the questions and tag [20] followers you’d like to get to know better

name: Elise

nickname: People super close to me call me “Lisey” or “Lisey Marie”. tbh its probs just my dad that actually calls me that, but i can always hope it catches on with more people 

zodiac sign: Leo

hogwarts house: definitely hufflepuff

height: 5′3″

sexual orientation: lesbian

ethnicity: white (German Canadian)

favourite fruit: mandarin oranges or really anything thats easy as a grab and go snack (no bananas)

favourite season: when ever its warm enough i dont need a jacket, but not so warm I sweat just standing outside

favourite book series: this i Definitely Harry Potter, although I was really into Percy Jackson and The Darkest Powers when i was younger

favourite fictional character: Mickey Milkovich, Remus Lupin, or Asami Sato

favourite flower: daisies, sunflowers, wildflowers

favourite scent: baby powder and rain (Im sort of scent sensitive and get headaches easy, so my favourite scents are the softer ones)

favourite colour: yellow.

favourite animal: I can’t even answer that. There are so many good animals.

favourite band: Autoheart <3 5sos, kodaline

coffee, tea, or hot chocolate: tea. I dont do coffee or dairy, so my hot beverage choices are limited

average hours of sleep: it varies so much. anywhere from none to 15 hours

number of blankets: one at least one. if im feeling daring (too hot), I’ll use a sheet instead of a blanket, but there’s something about the weight of an actual blanket that makes it easier to sleep

dream trip: New Zealand or Australia! I’m hoping to study abroad there soon

last thing i googled: “Nickelback edmonton” because my auntie is getting me to keep her company when she goes to their concert and I couldn’t remember the date to book it off work

how many blogs i follow: 429

number of followers: 74. I dont put a lot of effort into this and forget about it, so thanks. Its mostly just so i can look at pics of pretty girls

what i usually post about: girls and lesbians

do i get asks regularly: nope. I’m not one of the cool kids