#something something anger is a secondary emotion etc etc

[ptsdangeldust]

i'm thinking about this moment here. where alastor was visibly annoyed already and did NOT want to talk to husk and husk just had like an honest question to ask about why alastor is being so shady. and alastor is just like haha shut up. shut up stop talking about it. and the little ear pet comes off as cute aggression but it really feels like just straight up aggression-aggression.

[waitingtobreatheagain]

One of my favorite parts of the argument outside the Modiste scene is one although it starts harsh/angry…it becomes vulnerable and communicative very quickly. This is due to the core of their relationship. They are each other’s favorite person. No one understands the other more or in the way they do. Even through the hurt, the love is so so apparent.

It is a great example of how anger is a secondary emotion and in this case the primary emotion are emotions related to feeling emotionally hurt.

People say all they had was miscommunication and that is absolutely not true. You wanted them to be all good in five seconds and that was never going to be the case. Two weeks to process what felt like a betrayal, work through it, and work through your own insecurities that could impact your relationship in the future is NO SMALL THING. Not to mention, Colin repeatedly shows his love even in his anger hurt and confusion.

My absolute favorite thing about the scene (and proof of them still having good conversation even while being on the outs) is Colin doing something that Eloise never did. He actually asks Penelope WHY she wrote what she wrote. Even in feeling his most hurt, he seeks understanding. He knows Pen better than anyone (as she does him) and he really needs to identify how and why his most favorite person in the world, the love of his life, could do this. After discussing it, he is still upset which again is fair but he does understand and knows that she is still who he has always know her to be.

To be vulnerable when you’re hurt instead of hurtful also so emotional maturity. Yes, we know their first time seeing each other after the reveal he says something hurtful but he immediately regrets it which is made evident by Luke Newton’s skill in facial expression. He even asks Pen’s questions which she agrees with and identifies why she couldn’t do those things back when she wrote about specific things (I.E. “why didn’t you just tell me to my face” “I know I should have I didn’t have the confidence to then”).

And the part where we see his insecurity about his writing skill and the biggest insecurity being deserving of her on full display. Colin has grown up feeling as if he has to be so many things for so many people to be able to feel worthy. Just being himself has never felt like enough so it makes complete sense that he cannot honestly fathom that his favorite person…the love of his life…loves him simply for being him. That’s beyond belief for him. That is why the “what good am I to you, then (if I can’t protect you) and Pen’s response of I love you is so important. We see Pen’s face go from on guard, defensive, and some indignation to soft and empathetic. She is truly seeing the insecurity and similarly to how Colin couldn’t believe that Pen had no chance of romance when she asked him to kiss her…Pen can’t believe that Colin thinks he can only be loved by her if he is in service of her or has utility. His reaction to her I love you also support Colin is demisexual theories. The affirmation that she does not need him to protect her or do all these things for her and instead just has to be the man she loves is the catalyst for the passion and desire we see him kiss her with afterwards As to say, that’s right. This is the only relationship in my life where I am able to fully be myself, where I am loved for who I am, where I am uplifted, understood, seen, and valued based on my true self not based on who society says I should be, where my vulnerability and emotional intelligence is seen as a strength and not a deficit, etc.

That is so beautiful to me.

This goes back to why for me Polin will always be the pinnacle. The depth of their relationship following years of friends especially as they got closer sets up how they work through conflicts. There are so many parallels when looking at Colin helping Pen work through her insecurity with her confidence and appearance and Pen helping Colin work through his insecurity with self doubt and feeling deserving/worthy of his love.

Truly, a love that is a beautiful as it is rare.

[superherogeeky]

So here are my ALTA hc for 2003 tmnt:

Warning I get controversial

Leo: Fire

Explanation- Leo is driven by his ultimate goal of protecting his family. His training and dedication to his role as leader shows that. His will is strong and is ultimately what pulls him through.

Donnie: Air

Explanation- PUT THE FRUIT DOWN THIS ISN’T EVEN THE ‘BAD’ ONE. Iroh once said that air is the element of freedom, and what embodies freedom better than Donnie? He’s an inventor and he’s always the first one to fight for freedom (SAINW, the Kirby episode etc). Also he’s funny.

Raph: Earth(possibly Fire)

Explanation- I debated this one a lot because putting him as fire along side Leo would be great to look at how their personalities and goals mirror each other (both will driven) even if they think differently. But Raph is incredibly strong and that trait should be given it’s due. He’s the most emotional one anger is a secondary emotion it comes from something. And being able to weather those strong emotions his whole life? That takes strength. Plus he’s stubborn. Never gives up for good and ill (read: petty arguments).

Okay so here’s where I’m probably going to lose everyone.

Mikey: None

Wait!!

I went over and over in my brain and no bending style really makes sense for Mikey. 2003 Mikey’s strength lies in his natural talent for martial arts and fighting improv (a super high level skill most people struggle with). While in Rise they pivoted to having Mikey be the most naturally talented with Ninpo that doesn’t fit 2003 Mikey’s character,

He’s fun loving but he’s perceptive able to see what Leo’s responsibilities must weigh like on his brother’s shoulders. The ability to bend would not make Mikey a better fighter. In many ways I think the reliance on it would make him worse off. And he doesn’t really fit the bill for any of the elements.

And oh my fucking god he’d probably learn chi blocking and further the practice why did it take me so long to think about that.

[blue-blurrrr]

to esc anon:

as a person who frequently feels anger very deeply, it's definitely the most challenging emotion i can think of. here's a piece of advice i've learned:

anger is usually a 'secondary' emotion. that means that we feel anger as a result of feeling another feeling. the easiest way to deal with anger is to ground yourself the best you can and try to acknowledge that core feeling. some common ones are betrayal, feeling misunderstood, feeling unappreciated, etc.

anger is the strongest form of passion. we feel angry when we feel passionately about something. it deserves to be treated with kindness, just like any other emotion. journaling is the number one piece of advice i have, seriously. write down a completely unfiltered version of every single thing you're thinking and don't let anyone see it. connect the dots with red string if you have to.

also, confrontation is incredibly important in situations like this, but not until you have calmed yourself down.

I think this anon has said what i was trying to say, but they said it better :3

[s3xtones]

is there such a thing as being to understanding?

As someone who’s learning to deal with their own mental issues I feel as though I can understand how difficult and quite literally impossible it can be to do the right thing at certain times. I find myself unable to do some things when my brain flares things up and although I myself have never used this as an excuse to open fire at a friend or partner/loved ones etc, I understand that it can happen and that it genuinely isn’t something that a person means to do. I say this because a lot of my friends and people that I’ve dated suffer with bpd and I recently got told by another friend (who does not struggle with this disorder or any disorder as far as I know) that I am ‘too understanding’ in regards to a situation with a friend of mine with bpd saying unsavoury things to me. The truth is I view it as something they can’t control and so I don’t blame them and I think that everybody should be accepting of that but recently, if I’m being honest, I’ve had my own doubts about how understanding I tend to be. The person I love struggles too and I don’t blame them for how they can make me feel sometimes because they can’t help it, but they recently told me (with regret and sadness and certainly with care, they didn’t say this to be mean) that there are times when they know what they’re about to do will hurt me and they’ll do it anyway in the midst of an episode or a bad time. Maybe I haven’t been as respectful to myself as I’d thought? The truth is I just know when a person is a good person, down to their soul and I just don’t know why I’m supposed to take a stand for myself when, the way I see it, they obviously don’t intend on being malicious? I don’t know.

anyways sorry for dumping this on you i just thought maybe you’d know something about this!

thx big sis!

all love <333333

They intentionally disrespect you because they do not believe they are worth your love.

U are not ‘too understanding’ , mental illness or not, they are intentionally trying to push u away. I need you to remember they can control it and it is intentional.You are perfect. Anger is a secondary emotion, at heart they are sad, most times with themselves. You are seemingly a great friend but when you watch words AND actions, you will see it is all intentional whether consciously or unconsciously. energy does not lie. People can be good at heart, yes but don’t project your good heart on other ppl, I’ve made that mistake before and they will always try to taint your soul because they are deeply unhappy.

They have their individual mission to figure out and if you wanna be there with them while they go thru PLEASE guard your heart!!

Don’t put anything past anyone cause they will definitely do that thing in the dark and smile in the light. It’s human nature.

[profutured]

equally important to turo's strengths are his weaknesses! and, since I have yet to list out exactly what they are, I figured this would be a neat and easy-to-reference way to do so

he is limited to area zero. this is obvious, but bears repeating nonetheless. he physically cannot leave the crater for more than a limited amount of time, and any exit immediately removes any and all abilities he had within it

another obvious one: being a machine, free will isn't a thing that exists for him. he's always acting under someone's control, be it that of his protocols or his new administrator's instructions. his own desires come secondary to anything he's been told to do, especially when overrun by something like PPP

he is not immune to viruses. while ones that attack his database will not last long, his cannibalisation is not entirely foolproof. should his own foundational code be compromised, all function will be affected until he is able to identify the problem and rewrite the affected string/s. in most cases he will need to go through a necessary shutdown, removing all lab protection for as long as he is unavailable

heat extremes. I've mentioned he controls the zero lab temperature, and can withstand a wider internal temperature range than humans, but all machinery will overheat eventually. extended exposure to extreme heat or cold will, again, force a shutdown and release of all lab security

spikes of energy become difficult for his processors to handle, especially when concentrated within a single area. this applies to tera energy (seen with his malfunction in station 04), but can be applied to mega, z-, or dynamax energy. any sudden influx will mess with his systems and leave him temporarily confused and unable to function

he has the physical strength of turo, so... not very much. he's not going to go around hefting up cars or buildings

aldrés is highly emotional and very much lead by them. his anger, jealousy, possessiveness, etc. all leave him unable to correctly analyse the situation in front of him, and often lead to rash decision making with very little logic behind it. he's as emotionally manipulatable as anyone else, especially when it concerns his son

potential =/= action. just because he can do, know, or access something, doesn't mean that he automatically will. it's impractical to look deep into everyone he ever meets and talks to, and this inaction can mean he's missing out on important information. not everyone can be trusted, but aldrés prefers to let people prove themselves untrustworthy and worth investigating, rather than assuming that as the default position

[amyintherapy]

A spectrum of disassociation

The main focus of my therapy the last month or so has been related to trying to reconnect with my healthy anger. Healthy anger being when you get mad because someone has made you uncomfortable or violated a boundary, etc. The core function of healthy anger is to let us know when we should set boundaries.

I've never really gotten angry. In situations where I've been mistreated and should feel angry, I feel scared or sad instead. I do feel low levels of anger sometimes (it's probably accurate to classify it as like...frustrated, irritated, etc) - but it's usually a feeling that I only feel after time has passed from the event I experienced. So if someone were rude to me at a social event, I'd feel a surge of anxiety in the moment, and then sort of mostly feel nothing else about it while at the event...but then after getting home and talking to my partner about it, I'd start to feel irritated when recalling what happened.

While I don't have any conscious memories of trauma causing me to have to disconnect from feeling angry, I've learned that this is attachment trauma. Something that happens to people who basically aren't allowed to be angry. If getting angry as a baby or very young child makes your situation worse, especially if it seems to threaten the attachment dynamic between the parent and child, the child will stop feeling anger to preserve the relationship. If fear or sadness are more acceptable, they might be able to outwardly express those emotions and get those needs met by their caregiver. Or they still might not result in emotional support from their caregiver, but they might be able to handle sadness/fear emotions better on their own, internally where anger may actively threaten the attachment dynamic (such as get them in trouble) - I believe this is the camp I fell into.

[Side point, but some people experience attachment trauma similar to me but with an opposite effect. They convert sadness and/or fear to anger because anger is more tolerated (or more respected?) by their caregivers than the other emotions. Or, if they are sad or fearful they'll be neglected, but anger might get them the attention/connection they need which can result in them converting more things to anger to get more of their needs met. People who are angry a LOT are likely experiencing this type of "secondary emotion" anger rather than core-emotion anger. Where I have a lot of anxiety which is a secondary emotion as I convert things to anxiety...and some people are sad/depressed a lot as a secondary emotion due to converting other emotions to sadness.]

Anyway. What I wanted to share in this post was that a realization I've had this week about my lack of anger. This idea was shared to me by a therapist and he was sharing from Gabor Mate's book When The Body Says No. But basically, he said this sort of automatic conversion of healthy anger into sadness/fear/some other emotion can be a form of disassociation.

I was diagnosed with PTSD at 13 or 14. I've known for a long time that I sometimes disassociate...but I thought it was a pretty rare thing for me. This week I've learned that what I was classifying as disassociation is disassociation, but it's a really intense form of it. My therapist explained it as being similar to anxiety in that you can feel a little nervous, or you can have a panic attack and both are anxiety. Disassociation has a similar scale ,but I was only really recognizing my disassociation as disassociation when it was at that extreme end.

This has helped me to understand why I need such a long period of decompressing after spending time around my family. I've always been a bit annoyed with how it tends to take up my whole day, rather than me being able to come home and jump into some project or something else I want to do. I've never really understood why it bogs me down. But I think it makes sense that it's because I'm having to process my disassociation and start to really feel the feelings that I wasn't actually feeling during the event.

And so I think part of what this means for me is...I might continue to really struggle to recognize when I should set boundaries with jerks in the moment. Because when I disassociate, I disconnect somewhat from my thoughts and feelings, so I can only fully make sense of them after the fact. And so part of figuring out some of the tricky relationships in my life (basically my stepdad and my mom) will likely mean getting okay with bringing things up after the fact.

Which feels pretty awkward to me, given how talking about feelings just isn't really a thing to begin with. My knee-jerk thinking is that if I am going to call out how someone treated me, it "should" be immediate. But that might not always be realistic for me. And there's no rule that says things can't be brought back up later even though I feel like there is. So, I'm going to try to keep that in mind for the future.

[vexingly-verbose]

The anger thing is hard and embarassing after the fact. It's like, hello, welcome to feeling guilty for acting out over something other people wouldn't even be that annoyed by.

Personally, I found DBT helpful for the anger piece. That and going on medication.

One thing I covered in talk therapy was that Anger can be a primary emotion or a secondary one. For me, my anger manifested because of a fear response. Something made me anxious or overstimulated? Anger.

Being able to recognize the primary emotion before the anger set it was really helpful because it was like defusing a bomb before it exploded.

Recognizing my emotions before they get intense, tho? As complex as defusing a bomb 💣

YMMV, everyone is different etc.

autistic anger issues are So Much. i have my temper more under control now in that i rly dont yell/lash out anymore but i do regularly boil inside with incandescent uncontainable rage over something inconsequential and then it evaporates in the span of ten minutes. incomparable

[brujamala-aka-gigi]

a tarot reading just in case you need to remember this: it's okay to be a bitch.

we all know good vibes, kindness and empathy are amazing traits and etc BUT... there's shitty people who don't deserve that and some of us can't pretend like we are not full of anger. "negative" emotions are just as valid as "positive" ones, they contribute to our growth and our character, and they also keep us same from further harm.

pile 1 pile 2 pile 3

pick a pile and let's find out what type of "bitch" behavior can bring something good to your life.

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xoxo gigi <3

images from pinterest and dividers by @ithemes 

plz excuse the shit quality pictures of the cards, i'm working on that but i didn't realize how bad they were until i uploaded them :(

btw I'm doing a poll so you can pick a day when its convenient for you and me to do an ask game on here, answer some questions with my tarots and give away readings from my menu.

Pile Number One

Hello there! So, the cards on this reading are mostly “positive” if we take a superficial approach, and ignore the prompt of this reading. What I see here is that, although there’s a sense of brightness, joy and enthusiasm that is typically associated with your identity, there’s a lot of your inner world that it’s not getting any chances to be manifested into your daily life. I think many people assume you are happier than you actually feel, and many people think the joys and blessings of your life came to you out of nowhere, they think you’re naturally successful, when in reality you are quite the hard worker. Nobody likes to be realistic in the struggle to achieve anything, so it's understandable to some extent that people are not seeing the actual strength and patience that it took you to be where you are. 

Personally, I think that sometimes it’s really hard to fight back against misconceptions on how hard do we actually have to work in order to get something, it’s even harder when people don’t allow you to express anger, and belittle any feeling that it’s not as comfortable to be around as your usual “good vibes”. You are the type of person who everyone is too lazy to understand beyond their own romantic ideas of you. Don’t let others dehumanize you like that, you are a person, not a secondary character in someone’s love life, or the sweet innocent sidekick, or the girl next door, or whatever. Embrace everything that makes you complex and misunderstood, as these are the things that will bring you closer to people who are actually interested in your true self. 

But, there’s absolutely nothing wrong if you’re being strategic about who gets to see your most genuine version and who doesn’t. I see a lot of prosperity for you in the future, and you might not be able to appreciate this now, but your career choices will make you quite happy eventually. Take a lot of time to reflect on the people you want to keep around you, trust your intuition and prioritize your mental health, don’t be afraid to communicate your emotions in ways that others might find uncomfortable, in the worst case, by doing this you will find out who actually deserves your time and energy. And please, don’t fall for the first person who shows any kind of romantic interest, this is not a great moment for you to deal with a relationship, as there’s some emotional work to do first. Be persistent with how you take care of yourself, be patient and kind to you in the same way you are with others. 

Pile Number Two

What I’m seeing a lot on these cards is a lack of closure and proper communication about it. I’m not necessarily talking about a situation that hasn’t been settled yet, but more so about the fact that you are able to perceive things deeper than the average person and whenever you can, you do go ahead and take the actions necessary in order to get things going in the way you know best. You are someone who moves quickly and efficiently, but others who are more dogmatic in their ways are beginning to find issue with this, forcing you to conform to spaces where everyone knows you are too overqualified to be in. 

I don’t think you are someone who is submissive or someone who allows people to walk all over you, but I see that you’re trying to find less conflictive approaches to issues and situations that you are used to solving in more explosive ways. Behaving in a more “diplomatic” or “assertive” way is not exactly what works for you, but at this point it is necessary that you learn to tolerate being put in this position. I don’t see you losing your values or your ideals, not even your personal strength. But I am concerned that you might be doubting yourself with things that are so bonded to your nature that you haven’t even thought twice about so far, and rightly so! You’re lucky that your determination and passionate ways, even when proving an inconvenience to others who don’t get it, has been channeled in such proactive ways. 

At this point, all I can tell you is that whenever you are being forced to remain in stagnation due to self doubt, you shouldn't attribute this to your lack of will to stick to norms and traditions, but more so, this situations happen because people around you need to catch up with what you already saw and processed. This means that many times you will have to choose between waiting or moving on by yourself. Be strategic about this, and always make sure that there are comfortable places for when you need to reflect and relax. Yes, many things have gone right for you by moving impulsively and following your gut, but imagine how much more you could accomplish if you took some time to plan. 

There’s nothing wrong with your creativity thriving in chaotic environments, there’s nothing wrong with being confrontational and hot headed, absolutely nothing bad about being perceived as hot headed and impulsive… just be more mindful on how to channel these parts of yourself. 

Pile Number 3

Okay, this is a complex set of cards for a complex and sensitive person.  What I'm seeing here is this sort of nostalgia other people have for a version of you that was painful to live for yourself. I think plenty of people were feeling too comfortable with you when you were not on top of your game or working towards your own personal happiness. I feel like you are now beginning to find new ways of questioning and deconstructing ideas and actions that are no longer serving your deeper desires, and you are sharing this with people who are not willing to join you in this path, while also alienating you from your own power to manifest into existence the person you want to become. 

As you are beginning to move away from spaces of comfort that were designed for a weakened version of yourself, you will realize there’s plenty of facades and deceitful half truths. It’s a shame that all you have during this moment is your own emotional intelligence and a well justified sense of hope, nobody should face things like this on their own. But being realistic, solitude is a strength in your case, and you will soon find out that this journey was meant to give you consciousness about the powers and strength, many have tried to hide from you in order for them to keep the spotlight. 

Don’t let others force you into being someone who is only an ornament or a tool for keeping a facade. Even if you are naturally generous, kind, empathetic, and altruistic, it’s not a betrayal of those values to focus on growing outside places that don’t deserve all your sensitivity. This is a moment where you will find plenty of personal characteristics that many have ignored or belittled, cultivate those and nurture your ability to exist on your own terms. You have more control than you think, and far more tools than you imagine. It takes bravery and intellect to take the steps you are taking into finding new ways of being yourself, while also being celebrated and respected. 

Always remember that many times, others will make you believe something crucial to you is a defect, or a disadvantage, but it’s up to you if you’re taking into consideration the thoughts of someone who doesn’t know why you are who you are, and who you are trying to be. (You shouldn't).

[wovetherapy]

Resentment: To Be or Not To Be

Resentment is a fascinating concept. It is defined by Webster’s Dictionary as “a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury.” The meaning of the word resentment comes from the Old French word resentir, which translates to “the re-experiencing of a strong feeling.” Distinguishing features of resentment include repeatedly going over the situation in our minds, or rumination, and that it lingers over time. It has been attributed as the “emotion of justice,” speaking towards the moral stance of resentment against unacceptable behavior.

Resentment is a valid and often justifiable feeling in response to a real or perceived event. There often lies a connection to harmful, violent acts and trauma. This can include experiencing physical or emotional neglect, being excessively controlled, restricted, invalidated, criticized, or scapegoated, or receiving inadequate attention, love, care, support, and reassurance as a child (Reforming Trauma Coaching & Counselling, 2024). It is important to recognize and identify these factors for oneself as an act of self-value. This process of allowing oneself to feel and become aware of one’s childhood abuses, injustices, mistreatments, etc. symbolizes becoming aware of the fact of oneself as a person with rights, needs, and worth. It also becomes one’s personal responsibility to protect those rights, meet those needs, and develop and grow one’s sense of self-worth… which can be a difficult transition, in part due to the ruminating and lingering inherent within resentment and feelings of injustice.

Why it’s so difficult to let go of resentment (a limited list.)

You don’t want to “lose” - Letting go of resentment may feel like you are surrendering and allowing the other person to win, or letting them off the hook. It may feel like you are admitting that the emotional stance you took was a waste of time, or that the cause of your resentment was not all that bad.

It’s unfair - You have recognized the toxic, invalidating, abusive environment you were subjected to and the consequences of this environment on various aspects of your life. You can envision an alternate outcome from being in a nurturing, loving environment and how this could have been achieved. Your hurt and struggles feel like they could have been avoided entirely.

It feels protective and arming - It may feel like by holding onto resentment you are maintaining psychological advantage and protecting yourself from future harm. It allows you to feel a sense of power and control within a dynamic in which you felt powerless.

Lack of closure or resolution - Moving forward from resentment may feel like it requires some sort of ending. It is natural to desire a sense of closure before letting go of negative feelings. It may feel like you are waiting for a deserved apology, explanation, or recognition of the harm done to you. This may be or feel impossible.

It requires a lot of work and effort - It may feel easier to hold onto resentment than to work towards confronting and mending the relationship. You have convinced yourself that you are better off without this relationship and do not need to address it or have any conversations within the relationship.

Consequences of resentment

Although your feelings of resentment may feel justifiable and empowering, you are most likely harming yourself the most. From an old adage, “holding onto resentment is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.” You end up holding yourself back and allowing fear to control you and your relationships, and you suffer the consequences to your physical, cognitive, and mental health and wellbeing along the way.

Resentment has been described as an “impotent form of anger.” In emotions research, resentment is considered a tertiary emotion - stemming from the primary emotion, anger, and secondary emotion, rage (PsychCentral, 2020). Resentment is held within a person, often having a greater impact on the one resentful than it does the offender. Philosopher Robert Roberts’s analysis on the concepts of gratitude and resentment shows that they are mirror-opposite states, or ways of being. This also comes with the accompanying negative, opposite effects of resentment on well-being compared to the effects of gratitude. Reflected in the casual use of language such as stating that someone is a “pain in the neck” or describing feelings of being hurt by someone as residing “in the pit of my stomach” or having “hardened my heart,” studies have revealed short and long term consequences of resentment on physiological, mental, behavioral, and emotional wellbeing as well as relationships with others and oneself (Howells, 2021).

Feeling anger, bitterness, and resentment often shows up in relationships indiscriminately. Resentment can push others away, even if they are not the source, or target, of resentment (Gould, 2023). It may result in further feelings of being wronged and contribute to isolation and perpetual bitterness towards others and oneself. Research shows that holding onto resentment causes stress in the body. One study showed prolonged anger and hostility in adults over the course of a decade resulted in greater cognitive decline than those who were more apt to forgive. Another study revealed significant impacts on participants’ abilities to complete a physical test, with those thinking of a conflict in which they held onto resentment perceiving tasks to be more difficult than those thinking of a time when they forgave another person. Additional studies show that resentment could be implicated in the development of ulcers, gastric disorders, heartburn, cardio-respiratory symptoms, cardiac disease, intolerance to exercise, headache, backache, joint pain, insomnia, and stress (Howells, 2021). Further, a study on older adults showed resentment can impact blood pressure, heart pressure, and the immune system. Resentment can increase stress and eventually affect digestion, blood circulation, and sexual performance. In regards to mental health, resentment can trigger the continued resumption of past memories and activate depressive, anxious, phobic, and psychosomatic processes (Almeida and Cunha, 2023). All of these symptoms have very real consequences on various relationship dynamics and contexts, including the way one perceives themself and their own self-worth.

Letting go of resentment

Resentment can be extremely difficult to let go of for a multitude of valid reasons, but it is beneficial for your own health and wellbeing to feel through your emotions and work towards overcoming and letting go of feelings of resentment. Here are a few ways to help you get started:

Understand the source: Where is your resentment coming from? What feelings may be underlying or encompassed within resentment? Identifying what is keeping you resentful can help you confront and work through those feelings. It may allow more of an opportunity to gain agency and control in your life in order to move forward in the direction you want to go.

Be real with yourself:What are your needs at this time? What needs have and have not been met? Are you helping or hurting your chances of fulfilling your needs? Realistically, what can be done for you to feel less resentment?

Practice empathy and gratitude at your own pace: This can be particularly difficult, so take your time in opening up to the possibility of considering where the other person may have been coming from when they did you wrong. Recognize the conditions they may have been operating under and how they got to where they are as you know them.

Speak with a therapist:A mental health professional can help you to process your experiences related to your feelings of resentment and explore your thoughts and feelings in a nonjudgmental space. Speaking with a therapist may help to identify your wants and needs and keep you accountable for how you are treating your own health and wellbeing, including your interpersonal relationships and your relationship with yourself.

Check out some of the sources here.

[aroseofice]

I think that Radiance/Belladonna/etc are in a sort of different world. I think there's a world of magic that Rose is swept into (Radiance, Lux, Spiceberry, etc) and the normal world where she's from (Kivan, Carter, etc) and Lily is the link between the two who's always kind of known about the magic world. Bella and Rose meet after Rose is taken to this secondary location- and immediately she treats Bella differently then anyone ever before. Suddenly, she feels a spark of- of something, a flicker of rage and anger and some sort of terrifying, burning connection between the two of them. Rose doesn't touch people unless the touch her first. But she punches Bella. And something about her is different after that

And Lily can see it- she can see that Bella is both hurting and helping Rose. When Rose leaves out of fear, Lily is scared for her too- She doesn't know what Rose will become around Bella. And maybe she's even a little jealous that Bella has gotten Rose to show more outward emotion in a few months than over the course of their entire life.

There is a connection between Bella and Rose, and it's not romantic but it's not-not romantic. It's something that scares both of them.

At the end, Bella and Rose don't stay together. They go back to stable people who can help them. But I think one day in the future Bella shows up where Rose just happens to be and they hold hands under the table and something sharp and angry is back in their hearts, just for a second. A good sharp, though. A good angry.

Rose is the Rose of Ice and Bella is the summer sun.

I think before Lily is the one who brings snacks all the time and Kivan is the one who always makes sure everyone is okay and carries around band-aids. And Rose is someone you can always go to be quiet with. And now Kivan is scared and trying to work up the courage to interfere and Lily is reaching out but falling just short of touching Rose. And Rose is just off like a rocket ricochet in the direction of Bella's summer sun and glinting teeth and pathetic girl demeanor.

I think Radience introduced them and Bella made a snide comment and Rose was surprised at how that actually made her a little pissed. She had literally never been upset by what a stranger thought before- but something about this stranger set Rose's teeth on edge. Not in a nervous way, in an animal way. Like she could bite Bella. But she kept her fave impassive, and bowed.

[rozxavier]

Meet Roz

Face Claim: Kelsey Calemine

General Information

Full Name: Rozlyn Jeffries (Xavier)

Nickname: Roz (preferred)

Age: 24

Birthday: July 1st (Cancer)

Species: Mutant

Gender/Pronouns: Female, She/Her

Sexual Orientation: Heterosexual

Relationship Status: Engaged to Pyro (John Allerdyce)

Family

Mother: Morgan Jeffries

Father: Charles Francis Xavier

Siblings: Too many to list

Mutation

Roz has the ability to break down non-living matter, always reducing it to ash. She can also turn living matter to stone.

Ash (breaking down matter): Roz has to physically touch the object she wants to break down. She can break something down after turning it to stone.

Stone: Roz can turn (living) things to stone with her eyes. Her irises gray out when she's using this power. With flora, all it takes is a look (and concentration). With fauna and people (or other humanoid entities), Roz has to make eye contact. Things she has turned to stone can be reverted to their natural state as long as they haven't withstood fatal damage.

Weaknesses: Roz's biggest weakness is her lack of control. She has a tendency to stonify things when she's experiencing a negative emotion (anxiety, anger, etc.). Her powers are also conditional in that she either has to be touching something or making eye contact. Reverting something (or someone) from their stone form is hit or miss.

Biography

Roz was born in a small town in Seattle, Washington. The product of what her mother, Morgan, liked to call a "fun mistake", Roz never knew much about her father. Her mother had already had three kids at the time, and with the help of her (Morgan's) grandparents, she was trying to put herself through school. Morgan graduated when Roz was a little over a year old, but the death of her grandparents caused her to stagnate. While Morgan loved all of her kids, she had never really been much of a caregiver. Roz's older siblings were basically the ones who raised her.

Morgan went on to have another two children after Roz, and the family lived meagerly. Roz's eldest brother dropped out of high school to help their mom with bills despite being quite an academic. Roz herself, despite being the middle child, sort of faded into the background. She was an average girl, there was nothing overly special about her, and she was content enough even if she felt lonely at times.

However, she was anything but average. Roz's mutation manifested when she was sixteen, in her sleep. Instead of waking up in the bottom bunk of her shared bunked bed, she woke up on the floor, her and the sibling that slept above her both covered in ash and stunned beyond belief. Strapped for cash (as usual), her mother and eldest brother demanded to know what had happened, and when Roz couldn't explain, she was met with disappointment. She was made to sleep on the couch, and the same thing happened again; the couch had been reduced to ash by morning. Connecting the dots, Roz's mother was less than thrilled to conclude that her daughter must be a mutant. She told Roz what she knew about Charles, which wasn't much, but she hoped that perhaps Roz would want to find and live with him. Roz instead elected to stay home, used to the familiarity of her family and their cramped apartment.

Unfortunately, just shy of her eighteenth birthday, Roz's secondary mutation presented itself. She and some of her younger siblings were walking home from school when they began being taunted by a few other neighborhood kids. While this wasn't an uncommon occurrence, Roz was already feeling particularly overwhelmed, and their jeering did nothing to help the situation. Roz did try to walk away but was shoved back by one of the bullies, tripping over her own feet and falling to the ground. And then it happened: one second, the kid was looming over her and hurling insults, and the next it was quiet, the kid's body completely solidifying before her eyes. Her siblings ran home as did the other bullies, but Roz was frozen, horrified by what she knew she had done. Her mother found her like that, followed by police officers who had been called by the kid's parents.

Roz spent three weeks in a holding cell trying to process the many emotions she was feeling and dealing with officers who wanted her to do nothing but confess to being guilty. While she did feel guilty, she wasn't unaware of what happened to mutants while imprisoned. So she kept her mouth shut and waited. Her mother (with the help of Charles) was able to afford a fancy lawyer, and she was found not guilty.

Roz was happy to be able to go back home to her family, hoping to just forget everything that happened. However, a day before her eighteenth birthday, her mother asked her to leave home and not come back.

So, Roz wandered. She bounced from state to state, working odd jobs and often getting into trouble, all while trying to get a handle on her growing power. When she was twenty-two, she finally made her way to Weschester, New York, hoping to find her father and maybe get a fresh start at life.

Fun Facts

She can fall asleep just about anywhere, but her favorite place is underneath the stars. She's also a light sleeper.

She has a scar on her left forearm from cutting it on a piece of glass while running from the police.

She got a tattoo on the inside of her lip to complete a dare.

She smokes when she's anxious.

An ex-friend tried to frame her for murder.

She always has a bag packed in case she needs to leave quickly.

She's not a breakfast person.

Her favorite candy is Swedish fish.

[defendglobe]

don't get me wrong, i love the shit out of SNW. its writing is more consistent and it starts out with a much clearer idea of what it wants to be while disco's revolving door of showrunners left the first two seasons pretty messy. it's the difference in philosophy between the two shows that pushes disco ahead for me, despite how flawed it is.

SNW really has a "back to basics" approach to star trek. it goes back to the old school episodic style and lets its characters get a bit goofier than in other modern star trek shows (thank god). there's also the fact that for all intents and purposes, SNW is a remake. most of its main cast originally appeared in TOS it pulls a lot of ideas/concepts from that show. i mean, the SNW episode "a quality of mercy" is literally an AU of "balance of terror" from TOS. and that's fine! especially since AOS is pretty much dead and all. i like seeing more of spock and uhura and the original enterprise.

even in its inconsistent first seasons, discovery takes the opposite approach and tries to do something different. its the first trek show to be fully serialized and there are a lot of things like the spore drive or the more tense vibe among the crew that are unique. it adds things to the franchise like the kelpiens as a species, a different take on section 31, and a new dimension to spock's fucked up family that have had a lot of influence on star trek as a whole. this pattern of trying to do something different continues when discovery travels to the future. the 32nd century is wildly different than what has been shown up to this point and it builds on ideas from older trek shows in really interesting ways (the vulcan-romulan reunification, earth leaving the federation, etc). so rather than filling in the gaps of previously established canon like SNW, discovery pushes the franchise forward.

what's more important about the shift to the 32nd century is that it allows discovery to find its own voice in a way that it couldn't before. the show had dealt with themes of trauma and loss since it began but it was more of a secondary thing and wasn't always dealt with well (hello ash tyler, lol). but with the crew having to leave everyone they've ever loved behind and finding themselves in a world they don't understand, those themes really become foundational. pretty much everyone agrees that what makes discovery unique is its focus on the emotions of the crew. i mean, people who hate the show complain that it's just people talking about their feelings for 40 minutes straight. other star trek shows have dealt with trauma before (especially DS9) but there's something about how discovery does it that's different, even if i can't put my finger on what it is. maybe its how openly characters admit to being not okay or going to therapy or having PTSD? i dunno. either way its something that sets disco apart from all the other star trek shows. that's why an episode like "stormy weather," which has a very classic trek setup, still feels like it couldn't happen in another show. there's scenes like zora and michael comforting each other while the bridge is in flames or saru and book talking about grief and anger that are quintessential discovery.

discovery's take on the typical star trek optimism is also something that makes it unique. out of all the trek shows, DS9's attitude of "a better world is possible but its not perfect/there will always be problems and we have to try to deal with them" is probably closest. but discovery is different becuase it's about rebuilding. you see that on an interpersonal level with characters like michael and hugh+paul hitting rock bottom and then slowly putting their lives back together. it's also there on a larger scale with the effects of the burn. the federation collapses, long range travel/communication is no longer an option, familiar planets become isolationist (even xenophobic) in response to violence, etc. and yet S3 and S4 are both about trying to pick up the pieces and reconnect. discovery seems to be saying "a better world is possible but it's not linear and even if everything falls apart we can still try again" and i fuckin love it for that.

because it's functionally a remake, SNW doesn't have that sense of uniqueness. its an extension of TOS (and discovery) so you don't really get those moments of "oh this is such a SNW moment, this would never happen in another show" and all that. which is fine, especially since its only its first season. really, it's a matter of personal taste but in my mind a somewhat messy show that engages with the core ideas of the franchise in new/interesting ways constitutes a better show than a fun remake of what already exists.

anyway my bat at a hornet's nest star trek opinion is that discovery is a better show than strange new worlds.

[cheers-mdears]

To clarify what I mean when I say I don't think Ed is an angry person--

Anger is a secondary emotion that's a defensive response to a primary emotion. Emotions that can lead to anger include grief, frustration, annoyance, hurt, embarrassment, anxiety, shame/guilt, etc. Anger comes into play as a defensive reaction to those emotions--you've been emotionally injured in some way and anger helps alert you into protecting yourself. That's why anger management isn't about not feeling angry-- anger is helpful and important, after all-- it's about learning to manage the underlying emotional triggers in a more soothing way when possible.

And I personally don't see a lot of Ed getting to that secondary step outside of when he's provoked in a way that would make most people angry. Angry People™ are short-tempered and have out of proportion emotional responses to minor what-they-view-as-slights against them. I don't see particular evidence that that's a persistent, go-to state for Ed.

When he gets upset at the Blackbeard illustration, I'd argue that he's not angry, he's just tiredly frustrated. When he elaborates, it's about how bored he is now that everyone's so intimidated, which the illustration expresses and perpetuates, rather than a "how dare they" (defensive) response.

When Izzy gets up in his face, he's mostly just kind of baffled. I would expect an Angry Person™ to have a fairly intense reaction to someone insulting them, flipping them off, and yelling at them that they're a twat-- Izzy is literally verbally attacking him; a baseline angry person would probably react to that in defense. Hell, even a lot of people who aren't angry as a general character trait would react to that.

I would expect an Angry Person™ to have a much more volatile reaction to their impending doom because their plan fell through (i.e. lashing out due to feeling stupid or frustration that it was all left up to them, challenging the Spanish to fucking dare try to kill them, etc.) than just resignation and lamentation that their death is going to be uninteresting.

The first time we see Ed angry is when the French captain insults him. And note that even then, he asks "what's that supposed to mean" as checking if this is something that warrants getting upset about. And it turns out it is and that hurt from an insult that taps into deep trauma sets him to protecting himself by lashing out. Anger in this case is a reasonable response, not him being thin-skinned in the way Angry People™ are, and the flashback shows us the trauma that he's protecting himself against. The only issue is that due to being a fuckin' pirate, his response is physical violence, which is cathartic and protective but doesn't address the pain underneath.

And then sure enough on the other side of that flashback we see him contemplating the silk. He's emoting hurt and sorrow and possibly shame and hopelessness. He's not angry anymore, which we see clearly when Stede brings the guy up again and Ed just tries to save face. Anger isn't a persistent state for him even when he's hurting emotionally.

At the party before the dinner, Stede multiple times tries to stop Ed from defaulting to pirate-y stories so as to not be ostracized. But pirate stories are all Ed has, and an Angry Person™ would likely interpret that censorship as rejection and be much more snappish than the slightly desperate and frustrated confusion we see him go through when trying to save his "killed a Prussian once" line. And when Stede tries to warn him not to trust the aristocrats, he again doesn't take that as a slight against him.

And then dinner. He gets a bit flustered and panicked when they laugh at his flinch when Antoinette touches the bow in his beard but he recovers quickly, doesn't get angry. When Gabriel passive aggressively insults him, Ed is at first just assertive on calling him out on being a dick. And then when Gabriel doubles down, pretends that Ed is overreacting and he's innocent, that's when Ed gets angry-- and not even that angry at first! Sure, he threatens to kill them but again, he's a fuckin' pirate, that's how you reestablish respect. He doesn't cuss them out, he doesn't pull a weapon, he just tries to put his foot down pirate-style. Then they laugh at him even worse and he gets upset, embarrassed, panicked, and flees. He's not angry at first when he finds Stede, he's just humiliated and hurt. He has to work up to his anger and even then he's easily talked down.

The next time I would expect more reaction from an Angry Person™ is when Izzy leaves him literally hanging and then tells him he's letting his emotions get in the way of his job and he needs to kill Stede. Hanging from a harness for 20 minutes is probably embarrassing, Ed had expressed discomfort even before Izzy accidentally tightened it, and Ed's response isn't so much "what the fuck" (how dare you, defensive) as "what gives, man?" (mildly annoyed, chiding). And when Izzy puts his foot down about killing Stede, Ed doesn't take it as a slight against himself even though Izzy's basically giving his captain orders and calling him emotionally compromised. An Angry Person™ could easily take that as a challenge and insult, especially when it's about something that's going to be painful, but Ed just gets thoughtful and sad.

When Frenchie tells him Stede has reimagined the raid, Ed isn't like "why the fuck would he do that? especially without telling/asking me?" He's just like ??? and goes with the flow.

When Stede inadvertently triggers him (and as some have pointed out, it wouldn't have been a trigger or at least would have been much more manageable on a less emotionally fraught day), an Angry Person™ in a violent flashback space would absolutely lash out. But, despite the anger we see when he choked his father, Ed's not angry in the present even though Stede did something that hurt him and isn't giving him space, both the kinds of slights a characteristically angry person would jump at. He's forlorn, lonely, ashamed, and incredibly vulnerable. But he's not defensive.

Ed is definitely kinda angry at the start of the treasure hunt (treasure hunting is embarrassing, flies are annoying, dangerous snakes falling out of the sky into your arms is nerve-wracking). But he's also starving and had been planning to nap instead. And as we know from Snickers commercials, we're not ourselves when we're hungry 😉. And sure enough once they've had lunch, Ed is much more patient and can even take in Lucius' reprimand without taking it personally or getting defensive. Him threatening to stab Lucius in the face is, again, how pirates reestablish respect (and in this case, boundaries).

Then fucking Calico Jack. Ed goes quiet and haunted when Jack ignores his trying to shut down the gruesome recounting--doesn't even go for the usual threat, I'd argue because he's ashamed whereas the other times he was mostly embarrassed. When Stede tells him he doesn't like who he is around Jack, Ed can't really *not* take it personally but he still doesn't get defensive. An Angry Person™ would easily be *at least* at the "the fuck is that supposed to mean" stage in prep for being angry, but could easily blow right through that into anger. But Ed's just confused and a little hurt, which grows and shifts later in the day into resignation (bitterness? hopelessness? sorrow?) rather than anger. And then we see him angry again but not (just) in defense of himself, but in defense of Stede and fearing for his safety 🥺 And when he sees Izzy again, he's angry at Izzy for betraying them and getting Stede sentenced to death. And as Izzy himself says: that's fair.

He's not angry at being captured or sentenced to death himself, he's not angry about signing ten years of his life over in order to save Stede's, he's not angry at the British officers joking about what a catch he is (just uncomfortable and hurt), he's not angry about being at the privateering academy (the dork is excited about soap, I love him), he's not angry that Stede doesn't respond well to his beard being gone.

He's not angry at Stede for standing him up.

He's incredibly hurt and confused, but he's not angry. He's actually doing a decent job at self-soothing, especially once he accepts Lucius' help.

Then Izzy says Ed would be better off dead than in a place of healing. And Ed gives Izzy a very calm chance to take it back before reacting, something that's incredibly difficult for angry-as-a-personality-trait people to do. And Izzy doubles down with insults, reducing Ed to nothing but his violence, dehumanizing him, disrespecting him and what he enjoys, and mocking his pain over Stede's rejection, and Ed goes on the defensive by lashing out. Again, anger is a healthy defense response to a very hurtful attack here. The issue is Ed defaulting back to violence to demand respect, which feels like a relapse to him at that stage, and it seems to give Izzy what he wanted: a proper pirate. Ed doesn't yet have the tools to handle the anger once it does come up in a way that actually helps him work through the hurt. So Izzy wins the interaction and leaves with essentially a threat to kill Ed if he doesn't go back to what Izzy wants.

I'm on the fence about whether there's anger in his transition into the Kraken. It's very much a defensive response, but it feels too hollow to be angry. And when we see him alone, not having to perform or compartmentalize or codeswitch, he's expressing anguish, sadness, and heartbreak, not anger.

Way too long; didn't read: there are so many instances where Ed could have gotten angry and just didn't. I can't find any evidence that there's a persistent anger in him just below the surface. The few times we do see him angry are when it's a reasonable emotional response or when he's very hungry. Getting angry occasionally as an appropriate, adaptive response does not an Angry Person™ make.

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(5/23/22 edit: changed most instances of "angry person" to "Angry Person™" to help with clarity)

[early20sfailingplenty]

i’m here to ask a question that’s been bugging me for awhile, what would the sinclair brothers do if you took a bullet for them? like would you officially be a sinclair after that 👀

TW; GUNS, BLOOD, READER TAKES AN ACTUAL BULLET FOR THE SINCLAIR MENTIONED IN THE PARAGRAPH, ANGER, MURDER (NOT READER), DEHUMANISATION OF VICTIMS (REFERRED TO AS 'CANVASES' ETC.), VIOLENCE, CANON TYPICAL DARKNESS. GORE!!!! GORE!!!! SAYING TWICE BECAUSE IMPORTANT!!!!

Shoutout to @hersweetrevenge, who practically wrote Lester's portion of this ask! Mwah mwah beloved, your mind is amazing and ilyyyy ~ 💖✨ aaaand additional shoutout to @pharmacykeys for helping me too hasdfghjk this blog wouldn't be what it is without the two of you😭😭😭

Vincent would be angry at you and at the person who shot you. That bullet was meant for him, Y/N, what the fuck are you doing???? Don't be fooled by the way he looms over you menacingly; anger is a secondary emotion which most often hides fear or pain, and when it comes to something happening to you, Vincent has both of those primal emotions in spades. He picks you up gently, cradling you in his arms, and the way his shoulders are dead tight despite the slight tremble in his hands tells you the reality of it. Muffled gasps of worry are coming out from behind his mask, his nose nuzzling at the top of your head as he stalks you over to safety, setting you down carefully. Hands flutter over your body like butterflies, landing but never staying as his critical eye sweeps over your body, analysing you, assessing you. He is a physician now. You're not going to die, you'll be fine, so he holds a hand up - "stay" - and leaves. He rips to shreds the person who shot you, fucking their face with bullets and making them so unrecognisable that Lester could easily put them on the very top of his pit and nothing bad would come of it. They're just a lump of meat, sinew and bone. Not even dental records would be enough identification. But Vincent doesn't care. He's back beside you just as quickly, blades and hands dripping with blood, and he washes himself carelessly, hands cupping your face as he tilts your head this way and that, checking you over. Assuring himself of your safety before he clinically wipes the blood away from the injury site, patches you up, sits down with you in his lap and then lectures the everloving fuck outta you for being so fucking stupid. Don't you know that you're a Sinclair even if you don't take a bullet for him? Don't ever do that again, Y/N, you almost gave the poor man an aneurysm.

Lester can barely see for the tears. He's angry, he's upset, he's scared, he's worried, he's in love... he's everything all at once and the poor man can barely function for the panic. You've just taken a non-fatal bullet for him (he can tell at a glance, a hunter is he) and all he can do is stare at you. That knocks him out of it quick and there's a voice in his head (which sounds suspiciously like Bo) telling him to, "get a fuck'n move on, would'ya? Get 'em outta there!" So he does. Lester darts over, your name on his lips like a litany, a battle cry, and wraps a tight arm around your waist as he pulls you up and towards him, into the safe cage of his embrace and away from the person who just shot you. "C'mon, darlin', we gotta, I gotta - " he can't talk, his chin is wobbling, his bottom lip is trembling, his hands are shaking, he can barely think. He can only think of you, bleeding, and of his brothers. Home. Safe. Get you looked after. You let him get you to the truck - in truth, you could walk yourself but you can't deny that you're leaning more and more on Lester as the adrenaline wears off and the pain starts to set in. It fucking burns, as does the rubber on the dirt road as Lester almost throws himself into the driver's seat and puts the pedal to the metal. He floors it to Ambrose, rolling the window down as he drives. The closer he gets to the house, the more he starts to yell for Bo, Vincent. Fucking anyone. "Please, it's, it's Y/N!" Is all he says, accompaniments to his brother's names, which become Bo n' Vincent rather than two separate people. After all, they were born together, so their names are almost double-barrel, too. Bo and Vincent. Vincent and Bo. Bo n' Vincent. Vin n' Bo. Lester shakes himself out of it when the thought turns to 'BoVin', his tears burning like acid through his skin as his brothers come out of the house like a bat out of hell. Bo is on the warpath, shotgun loaded, and he takes off in the direction Lester floored it from. He'll take care of the soon to be canvas, and Vincent already has you in his arms. He'll take care of you. And Lester? He'll sit in the bed of his truck with Jonesy in his lap and together they'll howl and cry until word reaches them that you're safe, alive and well.

Bo is... the poor man freezes. Bo.exe has broken, please turn the brain off and on again. He just freezes in place, icy blues unblinking, jaw slack, hands by his sides. He's just totally stuck on the fact that you got shot. For him. Fuck, darlin', he ain't worth that. It's only when he hears you scream as the pain sets in that Bo jumps into action, emptying his shotgun into the person who attacked you and then stomping on their head so hard and so many times that he almost slips on the grey matter that leaks out of their skull, sickening cracks almost perfectly matched in sync with the widening smirk on Bo's lips. As he looks up at you, though, that smirk slides into a grimace and Bo shatters. His face crumples and he drops the shotgun. You idly register the fact that you're glad he emptied it; it could've gone off again with how carelessly he dropped it. In an instant, he's before you, bloodied hands cradling your face. The scent of blood, yours and the shooter's, fills your nose but you try not to gag, making yourself focus on your Bo's face. "Fuck, darlin', y'all righ'? They get'cha anywhere else?" He shuffles towards you, almost dropping to his knees as one hand hovers over the injury site. You tell him no, it was just that one bullet, and all at once Bo is angry again. Nostrils flare and deep breaths are taken as he helps you to stand, an arm around your waist like a vice as he walks with you to his truck, scooping up the useless shotgun on his way past. He can always bash faces in with the butt. Anyone who hurts his loved ones isn't worth the shit in his toilet. "Gotta get you home, get Vincent to take a look at'cha." You dare not protest; Bo is protecting you for you as well as for himself. He'd never forgive himself if anything happened to you and as it is, he's angry at himself and at you and at the shooter and at the world and at Vincent for not taking better care of you... he's a fucking mess. Once you're all patched up, there's a cuddle so tight you have to make a concerted effort to breathe, a lecture so mean that Vincent will step in to calm Bo down (even you can't get to Bo as deeply or as quickly as Vincent can), and a possessiveness so strong that even Lester can't be alone with you for at least a week or two 'til Bo's got himself calm. He's got too many fucking emotions and no time in the world to process one before the next one has him by the throat.

[ragnarokhound]

#jason is angry—what is anger but a response#a secondary emotion triggered by rejection / hurt / loss / etc#the beast is a beast it devours it rages#it will make everyone else hurt the way it has been hurt#aaaah#that’s why i love those fairytales / folktales where werewolves are cured by love#esp the one where ur loved one says ur name?#this is who you are it says; this is who i love#howEVER i am also a sucker for stories in which the monster isn’t cured—bc the monster doesn’t NEED to be cured#just loved/accepted for who they are#so now i am Thinking Thoughts about the cure being for the rage itself#the soft reminder that there’s more to the beast#which—u said on another post that’s what tim’s bite does for jason#a reminder that here is someone who chose him (& who NEEDS him; who he can provide for with his very being)#idk!!#i will probs have more Thoughts after i read the fic (smth i will do when i finish my writing today! i’m taking a break for food rn lol#jaytim#replies - via @ladytauria

sobbing crying throwing up, yes...YES OTL T_T I could not have put this better oh my god. oh my god. yes.

if you find that fic PLEASE send it to me, that sounds so much like my cup of tea OTL TuT

there's so much monster media that would fit Jason tbh, he's GOT THE RANGE fjdslfja I'm susceptible to werewolf jason because. well. *gestures at myself, my blog, my whole fucking aesthetic* obviously fjdslfjsal (ragnarokhound said what)

but my god these tags. I HAD to pull them out into the light of day because YES. SO much yes, rage as a symptom of pain and fear, of past hurts that send you into monstrous rampages, lashing out to make something hurt as much as you do...ough. What is Jason's initial return to Gotham if not that? It's not 100% about his hurt feelings but it's also not 100% about his moral code - it boils down to that moment of feeling abandoned to victimhood, the perpetrator left unpunished in any way that mattered.

But having love be the cure, or rather not needing a cure but being loved anyway - YES ;O; i'm a sucker for that shit, okay, hence *gestures at the fucking fic lmao

OTL tauria i love your additions so much, i scream, i cry, i rend my garments

Okay okay listen Tim would never understand Jason’s need to provide but he recognizes the devotion of it all and when he finally gets it… he’s never letting go. A different kind of devotion. That’s something they can both understand

yessss. YES. they initially have completely different views on it! Tim hates the part of himself that Jason craves to feed - he sees it as parasitic, a reason for shame, and the possibility that he could go too far one day and kill what he loves. For Tim, it's something to hate; for Jason, it's something to love.

But Tim understands devotion. He understands wanting to be claimed, wanting to belong wholly and utterly to someone, and he starts to see Jason's obsession with it as akin to that feeling. He wants it too, he feels it too OwO

Because what makes me insane about it is just...their problems are the same. Jason hates the wolf; Tim loves the wolf, because the wolf is Jason. Tim hates his thirst; Jason loves his thirst, because the thirst is Tim. It's so... if we have to hurt to live, then let me bear it with you. i'm not normal about it