#some people find that a slur

[desirtips]

The paraphilia thing is so funny from that anon. Do they realize they're technically categorized as intrusive thought disorders lmao. Even then it's something you can get help for (despite being unable 2 "cure" it)

I bet you're still ableist !!!!! By the way I hate people with disorders for a reason that is very specifically the disorder even if the person has never brought harm apon another !!!! You ableist freak!!!!!

[funishment-time]

as i've gotten older i've prized sincerity in fandom/content spaces more. i find it harder and harder to watch, for instance, Let's Players who are clearly trying to find reasons to shit on a game and pretend like they're not invested. i used to think it was funny in a schadenfreude kind of way, and now it's just kind of sad, especially if those content makers are Middle Aged. if you're like 40 and making videos where it's apparent you're hiding your excitement over FNAF Lore and using slurs to refer to anyone who does dare to get excited, that's, i think, way "cringier" than just being 40 and openly into FNAF. why do we police ourselves like this

[seaweedstarshine]

Sometimes I think of Amy Pond, who grew up being called mad by those who wielded the word as a tool of exclusion and shame —

Amy Pond, who though forced into the hands of four psychiatrists, still clung to that which they called madness until those systems which elevate psychosocial conformity above humanity stripped it from her —

Amy Pond, whose imaginary friend reappeared for a single hour after twelve years and reignited that faith before disappearing for two more years —

Amy Pond, who spent those those two years under the same implicit threat ingrained in her through psychiatric violence, and thus began to believe the man who stopped the invasion was “just a madman with a box,” only for him to agree, and to also call her “mad, impossible Amy Pond,” reframing madness as non-negative for the first time in her life —

Amy Pond, who ignored the disembodied voice of her imaginary friend even as she ran away with him for real, who still lived each day with the traumatic internalization of deviancy dictated upon her by the psychiatric-industrial complex that shaped her from childhood —

Amy Pond, who wouldn't acknowledge the Doctor's voice, such that it took an Angel in her eye that was literally killing her to ensure she couldn't reality check herself —

Amy Pond, who stood before a room which muttered about “the psychiatrists we brought her to,” and though afraid, escaped their rigid parameters of acceptable existence.

[cheriecoke]

it takes less effort to keep your mouth shut than it does to be a horrible person, and i hope people are aware that cruelty gets you nowhere.

[not-poignant]

I feel like the folks who are like 'yeah but queer has been an actual slur whereas gay and homosexual have not' should maybe learn some queer history.

They were both considered such slurs for such a long time that university papers couldn't use them, because they were too derogatory. They had to say 'men who have sex with other men' because gay and homosexual were too derogatory, too much of a *clears throat* slur if you will, to put them in academic papers as anything other than hate speech.

I beg. Please learn some queer history. No word for us has ever not been a slur against us. We reclaim. We move on.

[princess-marths-princess]

Do you ever read a post where op claims to not be a terf or a radfem but then you look at their blog and first you see the acephobia and then the arophobia and then the 'q slur' tag and then the comments about hating men and then transandrophobia and you're like hm. Right. Not a terf or radfem 🤔

[not-the-coffee-machine4]

“Guns N Roses shouldn’t have been at the FMTC” this and “why were Guns N Roses even invited after the homophobia blah blah”

IT WAS ON PURPOSE. THEY WERE INVITED ON PURPOSE. ROGER. DID IT. ON. PURPOSE. And put him with Elton ON PURPOSE. To bridge that gap and it WORKED.

Axl Rose and Elton John practically held hands singing Bohemian Rhapsody in front of the entire world and if you watch Roger’s face in the background you can tell he knows his mission was accomplished

[filthy-rat]

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[dream-sans-mogai]

This will probably get looks from performative and ultimately harmful non-transfems despite my being transfem but-

Some y'alls only interaction with feminist history and theories, radical feminism regardless of its intersectionality and really any feminism deeper and louder and meaner than blatant choice feminism like the barbie movie and whatever TF taylor swift thinks shes got going on is through your occasional and short interactions with terfs and it shows. You call vagina art terfy and it fucking isnt. Its feminist art. Your brainrot is making you a fucking mra. The fact y'all think talking about the man vs bear situation is about/started/ran by terfs (and encouraged some really questionable other transfems shitting on it despite it clearly just being about women's safety and yes all men, not transphobia.), everything from questioning wether certain groups belong in our community to thinking a word is a slur or having a lesbian icon (I have sources don't test me) or not to not liking a certain band has been called "terf rhetoric". I'm all for us Transmascs talking about how terfs affect us cause they absolutely do and their harm to the transmasc community can not be understated but like.... Y'all are not allowed to call Jack shit terf rhetoric anymore. Like nothing. You don't know what it means, you litterally call transmedicalism and sysmedicalism terf rhetoric. Do you mean exclusionist? Say exclusionist. Terfs are not the end all be all hate group. They have a very specific complex mindset that affects so many people in specific ways. Someone hating Neopronouns is not fucking terf rhetoric. It's nbphobia. Holy fuck. Learn what words mean.

(intersectional trans radfems exist, radical feminism isn't terfs and swerfs and historical radfems would laugh in their faces for their idiocy)

[shopcat]

just on my mind is all since my niece came out to me as a trans (girl) it's the side of my family i'm essentially all but estranged from except for my sister on that side bc of idk abusive mother who i haven't seen properly for basically a decade now i don't have a mother but i mean she's alive. you know. anyway. and it's that maternal sister's daughter and all well obviously but i know my sister is lovely / loves me / incredibly supportive but literally part of what my niece told me is when she described what trans people are to her back when i came out in like... 2015? is like one of the first "oh" moments for her and that me existing as casually as i do where it wasn't a big thing helped her get rid of a lot of preconceived notions or internalised things as time went by and like i wasn't the first person she's TURNED to or anything but she very much wanted to talk to me and reached out to me and all to ask a lot of questions and stuff and basically like.

all this to say from all the stories i've heard about the transphobic shit my mother says about me bc she despises me is now a) also going to be aimed at my niece which sucks and then b) i imagine my sister is going to distance herself even more from my mother bc obv she loves her daughter as well and it's not like my siblings ever tolerated the transphobia from my mother to begin with (like every time she tries to go on a rant they're like you say his name or don't talk about him at all / you say shit like that and we leave and they generally do) but yeah i just feel like she's not gonna realise how big of a hole she's digging herself by being a bigot lol.

anyway. and then c) i'm going to be "blamed" for it and i imagine when people start finding out more it's going to come up more even though really i didn't have any hand in it but i feel like i'm on the precipice of being accused of a lot of things maybe esp bc my niece is of course younger than me still a teenager but an adult and idk. the thought is making me very very queasy in the way that it's not like a paranoid thought it's 100% going to happen... there cannot be a big new transgender drama without them thinking of the old transgender drama. it's not like i have any possible POSSIBLE contact with her but i'm sure my sister does so yeah it's bleh. and my niece has already been like yeah i hate her about my mum which is funny no one likes her almost bc she's a horrible person 😭 so there's at least that single saving grace of at least she's slightly prepared but i know for sure she isn't prepared for the backlash she may receive and all the things involved with that. and i guess it is different if it's your grandma and not your actual mum but losing a family member like that bc they hate you always sucks and the weight of it is felt for well i'm still feeling it now and i'm sure i will until she finally kicks it and then even after it'll probably just be an awkward Thing but w/e at this point i've lost two brothers a mother and the majority of my aunts and uncles and cousins (there's 22 aunts and uncles 😗) basically all this just to say i'm worried for her and for me

[batcavescolony]

I'm back talking about Harry Potter and Snape's worst memory because while I hate the author y'all bug me.

Snape worst memory isn't James bulling him or string him up in front of the school, (that was bad I'm not saying it wasn't) it was Lily ending her friendship with him because he called her a Mudblood. With evidence.

To prove my point we have to go read the Deathly Hallows when Snape gave Harry his memories! We get to see the scene again but this time the thing that sticks out the most is Snape calling Lily a Mudblood. Now if that's not enough proof the next memory goes like this.

*Outside Gryffindor Tower*

Snape: I'm sorry

Lily: I'm not interested

S: I'm sorry!

L: save your breath... I only came out here because Mary told me you were threatening to sleep here.

S: I was. I would have done. I never ment to call you a Mudblood it just-

L: Slipped out? It's too late. I've made excuses for you for years. None of my friends can understand why I even talk to you. You and your precious little Death Eater friends- you see, you don't even deny it! You don't even deny that's what you're all aiming to be! You can't wait to join You-Know-Who, can you? I can't pretend anymore. You've chosen your way, I've chosen mine.

S: No-listen, I didn't mean-

L:-to call me a Mudblood? But you call everyone of my birth Mudblood, Severus. Why should I be any different?

*Lily leaves. Memory ends*

The next memory is Snape becoming a turn coat for Dumbledore so he could keep Lily safe because Voldemort wouldn't spare her.

Snape has had worse experiences then a teenage James Potter being a bully (even if it was shitty). so we look at the rest of the memory and lo and behold what do we see? The actual worst moment of Snape life, the moment he lost Lily forever.

[cutemeat]

i need Sunny’s women like i need blood in my veins

[softpine]

i have to tell you guys i’m not a skeptic anymore, i believe in ghosts now and my cousin can see dead people for real :D

[featherymainffins]

Sometimes I think I must be a weird author because everyone keeps making "haha writing the middle part of the story is so hard haha the start and the ending are so easy baba" jokes but I never know how a story will end.

I start and then I write the middle, and then a logical conclusion happens.

[ghostpunkrock]

well I think the watcher update was very mature for the circumstances. it probs would have been better if it came out this weekend, but they apologized, addressed all the (valid) criticism, and massively walked back the streamer launch, what more could you want them to do? I just feel really sad for them now after receiving such a vitriolic explosion of hate, esp the really nasty things people were (and still are) saying about stephen. the damage this has done to their reputation is going to be so much harder to recover from and it just makes me sad for them

[earthstellar]

excuse me, my Spanish language skills are not good at all, but Kup just called Blurr a f*ggot in this scene

he says something like “there’s always a f*ggot in TV shows” when he’s trying to make Blurr shut up :( 

old school homophobia right there, fucking yikes, but somehow even more yikes because it’s a borderline fourth wall break (as far as I can understand it anyway), which makes this an attempted nod to the audience. 

which means children were supposed to laugh along with this. I mean, they were supposed to enjoy watching this either way. fucking yikes! 

uncomfortable!!! 

I mean it was the 80s so of course homophobia was in everything to some degree pretty much everywhere, so when watching any 80s cartoons it’s entirely possible to run into shit like this, I’m not entirely surprised. SIGH. but god damn 

on the other hand, canonical gay Blurr in Spanish????? (even if by accident/part of a shitty homophobic one-liner? idk it’s hard to find a silver lining on this one) 

granted, it’s not the worst I’ve ever seen/heard, especially for an 80s cartoon, but it’s still pretty fucking bad (especially paired with the animation here, please don’t strangle him while calling him a slur, the implications are SO fucking bad) and it’s always just so yikes whenever shit like this just pops up in the middle of anything 

I mean, view media as a product of it’s time etc. but also, what the fuck, Kup! 

also I’m obviously not a native Spanish speaker and my Spanish skills are in fact very bad so I’m sure I might be missing something here, that’s entirely possible 

but I grew up in a majority Spanish speaking part of the USA and I sure as fuck remember getting called like every variant of f*ggot that there was, including marica (the word Kup uses here), which is roughly like calling someone a pansy in the homophobic sense of like, calling a gay dude a sissy, so it’s also like vaguely sexist on top of being homophobic (at least in English, where the translation implies that feminine traits in men are bad) 

I was looking up clips of Transformers media in multiple different languages because I like to do that and I just found this one when trying to find G1 stuff 

sigh 

I don’t even know what to tag this one with, I’m probably gonna leave it minimal because uhhhhh what the fuck 

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Note: I’m censoring the word f*ggot here because I know a lot of people are legitimately offended by it. personally I’m queer, old enough to have been bullied severely with this slur myself on a pretty regular basis back in the day, and I don’t care if it’s censored or not because I’m tired-- but please don’t give me any shit for trying to meet people halfway on censoring/not censoring, because it is used in an offensive manner in this example linked above and That’s Fucked Up. 

my Spanish language skills are shitty, so native Spanish speakers, feel free to chime in-- I may be missing something here!! 

there’s no way to talk about this kind of thing in a way that every single person will be 100% okay with, but I feel like it’s important to talk about how older media will often unavoidably contain shit like this, because it can prompt a lot of reflection and insight in considering old vs current vs potentially future culture, society, etc. 

that having been said I don’t want to fuck up anyone’s day so please let me know if there are better tags/etc. for this because I think it’s worth mentioning things like this clip but IDK how to do that in a way that will be OK for the majority of people, I have PTSD myself and I don’t even know 

idk I just got off work and I’m exhausted but JESUS KUP