#so people who dont want to be bothered by them dont have to be

[fipindustries]

a thing that took me a long time to figure out is that the type of person that does this doesnt care so much about you doing the thing in itself.

What they truly want is for you to be the kind of person who notices these things and goes out of their way to help. What they want is to feel that you are paying attention to them and their needs because they see that as a sign that you care about them. And of course all of that is busted if they have to actually ask for it. The fact that they have to actually ask means that you didnt notice on your own which in their mind means you are innatentive and inconsiderate. Because, they reason, someone who truly cares would notice these things.

Now of course by the time you are doing stupid mind games its already too late, this is the person you are with abd you have to recognize that they are not the kind of person you want.

So with that in mind i dont think the solution is actually to ask for the specific thing that bothers you on a given time such as "please do this chore" or "it bothers me when you do X" because if they have to keep asking for every specific thing the real underliying problem of the other person not noticing is still there and the other person is going to continue to be angry every time they have to explicitly ask for every detail.

i think they real thing they need to verbalize is "please, i need you to be more attentive to my needs"

I know its horrible to be given such a broad and unspecified request that is almost asking you to become a completly different person but i think there is a limit to how much you can say "well i just dont notice these things ('these things' being other peoples needs) but is not for a lack of caring, im just blind to it due to [neurodivergence/too distracted by my own stuff/used to different living standards]"

because, i feel, at some point caring for another person means having some theory of mind about the other person, and thus some capacity to anticipate what bothers them and what doesnt. I dont think its that big a standard to expect someone to have some kind of awareness about the wants a needs of a close one that you are living with.

But of course is all a matter of degrees and this expectation can be pushed to the level that the other person is expecting outright mindreading out of you, which is obviously unfair

And i just want to clarify that im saying all this because i have had trouble with this in the past where i was the innatentive person and people kept getting mad at me for not noticing things and eventually it came to a point where i realized "ok at some point im being the asshole for not picking up these details and i should go out of my way to be more attentive"

I hate that thing some people do where it's like. "I left my wallet on the table to see if you'd say anything" or "I wanted to see if you'd wash the car if I stopped doing it"

Cause like

I dont know about anyone else

But I am perpetually hovering three inches above the strong subconscious belief that everyone knows what they're doing at all times except me, so if you change your normal patterns and I notice, then I will assume it is an intentional choice with a thought-out plan behind it and I will avoid interfering

And if I don't notice, because I won't, because why would I, because not much bothers me and if you don't say anything to indicate you are bothered then how would I KNOW

[nyxhiems]

emotional reassurance

Everyone know lieutenant Riley is a scary lad. Hes a ghost, a train killer and an intimidating man. Everyone scared of him and its include you, you are scared not because of his vibe but you scared he will recognized you like you recognize that man the first time your and his eyes meet. He was Simon Riley from your neighborhood, your first childhood crush but also first crush of (almost) every girls your age in neighborhood or some boys gay awakening in the same neighborhood (especially after dark-romance book genre become popular in your area).

It's widely known that Simon Riley has a fucked up family but it's also widely know that he's hot as fuck.

So, when one of your medic friend said Lt. Ghost have a fansclub (all 141 member have one) you not surprise.

"I know it seems weird but he has a fansclub."

"Hmm..."

"Hes just so mysterious and charming."

"Like a male lead of dark romance novel."

"Exactly."

"I know its weird."

"Its not, i cant see it. He always like that after all. "

"Right. What do you mean he always like that?"

"Since the first time i meet him here, like 5 years ago, he already dark and brooding."

"Ah"

Nice save.

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Riley family house wasnt that far from your family house. Its was 3 house over from your house, but you still can heard the screaming and crying from their house. His house always quite and gloomy at day but also lound and menacing at night. You pity them really and you arnt lying about it when the first time you came and bother Simon at school playground.

"I dont need your pity."

"Im pitying you, yes. But, im here for my own benefit and interest."

"Why?"

"Emotional reassurance."

He just snort and let you sit by his side for the rest of the day.

You bother Simon everyday after that and always give him something like school supplies, food and sometimes clothing. Your parents knew about it but never comment and Simon... at first hes screaming at you.

"Im not charity."

"You aren't. Its for my own interest. Emotional reassurance."

But since then, he never leave your side and hes fight who ever boys that trying to bully you.

"Its not for you. Its for my emotional reassurance," Simon said while you clean his wounds after he fight your bully.

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First time you know about Simon "fansclub" was when both of you were in middle school. Its just a rumor you accidentally heard, some girls who gushed over Simon when he played volleyball during PE.

"Hes so cool," she said while looked at him with dreemy eyes. "He also know how to fight. I heard he beat up 3 people yesterday," said the other and when you heard a loud smash from school gym, you heard the same girls screamed, calling his name.

Simon just stare at them like they are crazy but that enough to make them went wild.

You just wish you dont get dragged down by Simon's new fame.

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You got dragged down. Hard. A bunch of middle school "mean" girls came to you to gave you some "warning". The boys dont bother you much since they dont want to meet Simon fist twice that week (once a week is enough apparently).

You got lock up in school bathroom after heard their speech about how you dont deserve Simon attention and you need to back of because Simon is hers. Funny to said something like that when Simon him self didnt know that girl exsis. Yes, you asked him.

But, well you will comply anyway. So, you try to avoid him. At first you go to school earlier so you can avoided him, than you start to take a sit in class away from him, than you stop sit with him in canteen (its not like you can sit anywhere near him since bunch of girls always surrounded him) and you stop go to playground you used to hangout.

Maybe this is the time to end your friendship with Simon Riley.

But Simon dont like it and it show. He frown got deepened each day, he huffing and scoffing, his temper got worst and he start to beat up every boy in school who he thought the reason why you avoided him to the point that the boys start to talk you out to stop avoided Simon.

You dont stop tho until he start to force him self to your personal space. You want to sit alone in class? Nope, he will sit there beside you and stay quite. You eat alone at canteen? Simon will get up from his usual place and sit right in front of you. You want to read alone at park? Nice try, he will read with you.

You cant just avoided him and cut him off like that. You are stuck with him... for his emotional reassurance.

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After realize how impossible to separate Simon and you, the girl stop trying, while you try to push him to making some friends. Its not working until both of you in high school. Simon actually join clubs. Two clubs actually. First one is Journalism (you know hes joined just because of you) and the second one is Rugby (after you said your type was NRL players).

Your rugby team got famous after he jointed and he become much morr famous after that.

He go to party and drink and have fun. Now, its his turn to make you socialize. He start to go to party with you, stuck by your side, talk about you all the time and take care of you in front of everyone; hes do that so often to the point people think hes sick if he didnt talk about you for an hour.

So, in highschool, people know you as Riley's girl.

But not after the second year, you officially become Riley's girl.

But its not for so long because he enlisted right after high school. He told you about it after your graduation and that night you send him away with 50 pounds because you knew his parents wont give him money and he just payed his own graduation fee.

"For you, i dont know if its enough for transportation but i dont want you to walk to the nearest military base."

"I cant take your money."

"I lend it to you."

"Ill pay you back."

But, a week after his departure, you go to London to attend med school and never come back to Manchester.

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If you play 2 truth, 1 lie with your coworkers, you sure you will win (if you dont lie about which one a lie). Why? You always inserted something about Lt. Ghost and people always thinking its a lie.

"Lt. Riley's family home is 3 house over from my childhood home."

"Lt. Riley own me 50 pounds."

"Lt. Riley is my ex."

Of course they think you just joking and you tell a lie and you lie about it being a lie. You just want to tell someone your secret without telling someone your secret. Its fun untill Lt. Riley him self came to you.

"You bet money on this?"

"Yes, sir," your coworker said, a little taken back with his sudden appearance.

"How much?"

"150 pounds so far."

"This one win. First and second round. Lost the third," he said while point at you.

"Third one a lie?"

"You still my girlfriend. We never break up."

"We lost contact for almost 10 years."

"Still never break up. It never happen and will never happen. You stuck with me."

"Why?"

"emotional reassurance"

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I still clueless about how English work but i really want to make story about ghost 😭.

[frutiestorange]

Supernatural fic recs for people like me who dont ship destiel or wincest!!(mostly sam focused)

>You Can't Rule with a Broken Upper Hand-inkandpaperqwerty-A03-castiel focused (top on my to reread list, and inkandpaperqwerty a lot of other bangers too)

Successfully killing Lilith and keeping Dean out of Hell has the brothers ready for a good, old-fashioned, hunter-on-demon brawl. It's time to get back to the basics, back to the way things used to be, when monsters got ganked and that was the end of things. That said, they are not ready for a new kind of creature to appear in the middle of their fight, covered in blood and begging for mercy they aren't supposed to give.

Meanwhile, Castiel is panicking. He's been tortured senseless for four decades straight, and now he's been thrown down in front of two hunters. If he thought his brothers were bad... well, all angels knew how cruel hunters were... and Castiel has no idea how to convince them he doesn't need to be, in the shorter one's words, ganked.

>Living expenses- by Tolakasa-sams stanford era focused-Fanfiction.net (i love it sooo much go read it rn)

Preseries. Scholarships don't pay for everything. When you're not talking to your family, that makes summer the worst time of the year.

>Damaged Goods-by Taizi-A03-childhood abuse,dean and sam-(Taizi NEVER misses and i will die on that hill, go read all of their works and tell them i sent you)

"It really didn't happen all the time, dad wasn't abusive. And he loved us, Sam, you know he did. It's just- everything got to him, you know? Mom, and Yellow-eyes, and all the daily shit we had to swim through, sometimes it was just too much for him and he drank it all away."

>Misconception-by authoressjean-A03-hurt/comfort,all the winchesters together including mary and john-NOT WINCEST in the SLIGHTEST, but John sure thinks so.-(Once again, go through all of authoressjean's works if you want the best fics ever)

A view or opinion that is incorrect because it is based on faulty thinking or understanding.

AU of 14x13. Instead of rushing to get John back to his own time, they decide to let him stay a little longer. Time won't completely collapse with one night with their dad, so what harm can him staying do?

For Sam, a lot of harm. John believes something about his sons and he's determined to set all the blame at his youngest's feet, revealing painful secrets that Sam would've preferred to stay hidden, things he feared anyone finding out, things John feels are wrong.

Too bad for John that Mary and Dean don't feel the same way and are more than ready to back Sam.

NOT WINCEST in the SLIGHTEST, but John sure thinks so.

Two-shot.

>The Gate is Straight, Deep and Wide-by ratherastory-A03-(i havent read this one recently but i remember it being pretty good)

Part of the Fusion 'verse. Sam walks out of hell and finds his way home. From a prompt at the First Time comment-fic meme by the lovely and talented de_nugis: The first time Sam gets that Dean does unreservedly trust him again, coupled with the first time Dean gets that Sam really does want nothing more than he wants to be with Dean.

>One Saved Message-by ratherastory-a03-VOICEMAIL FIX IT!!-(one of my all time favs)

After a hunting accident puts Sam out of commission for a couple of days, Dean decides to surprise his brother with a new phone, since his old one is toast. Even better is when he finds that he’s been able to save all of Sam’s old information and restore it to his cell. That’s when he discovers an old voicemail that Sam has kept saved for the last two and a half years… Charity fic for help_japan. sinka won a fic from me and requested some Voicemail fix-it fic, and that is what I have attempted here. Spoilers for all aired episodes up to 6.19.

ok these are as many as i can bother to dig up but i have so many more, my fellow non-shippers stay strong out there and comment if u want some specific tags or tropes (!!i have mostly sam focused fics!!) or just want more recs!! ill be sure to dig some more up for u (or if you have any recs for me(preferably no ships BUT if theyre really good ill check them out anyways) i will love you forever

[dyymi]

my neighbors are starting to annoy me

[clumsypuppy]

learning abt friendship decay and "not reaching out to your friends for months at a time unprompted is not neurotypical behaviour" has me feeling a certain way

[dukeofthomas]

"Angry robin" "violent robin" "misbehaving robin" shut up and accept my alternative; spunky Robin. Determined and head strong, can out-stubborn the Batman, has a strong moral-backbone and does what he thinks is right regardless of what anybody else says, Robin. Jason who was sassy and quippy and made crude jokes with a smile on his face. Jason who hid in Bruce's cape and whispered gossip to him. Jason who, if Bruce refused him something, could keep bothering endlessly until Bruce caved. And also dramatic Jason. If Bruce tells him no, it becomes a whole theatrical show; a monologue, a narration, embellishments, and falling onto the floor in his grief upon the fact his cruel father has denied him once again.

(Jason who has suffered through abuse and homelessness and poverty and starvation, who is the Fight out of Fight or Flight, who's built up defenses and walls and when pushed and triggered responds with the thing that's always protected him; anger. He's sweet and kind and funny, and when he sees a pimp hitting a prostitute he gets furious and responds with violence.)

[daughterofsarenrae]

The Characters are pieces of lettuce and my brain is a salad spinner

[beclight]

im known for being THE bec light fan of the fandom, so i feel like im in the right place to say this: YOU DO NOT OWN FANDOM CHARACTERS AND CANNOT PREVENT OTHER PEOPLE FROM LIKING THEM JUST AS MUCH AS YOU DO, and if that makes you uncomfortable (which is fine, and for any reason), THE THING TO DO IS BLOCK NOT HARASS THEM!!!!!!! ive seen too many ppl in this fandom disrespect others over DARING to say, even as a joke, that they're the number one fan of X character. If someone having the same favorite group of pixels as you genuinely angers you, to the point of feeling the need to insult them and having concerning thoughts about them, then maybe it is time to log off

[veryunwellindividual]

i am… a neglectful mother

[moliathh]

This had been irking me so i have to say it. I know Hellsing is a horror media with a LOT of flashy action scene, however, it is unjust to see it as solely gore and fights. I've seen complaints about how adding a "romance" in will reduce the quality of the story as an "action horror". (specifically speaking is between Alucard and Integra because of course in the end of the day this is just ship war, not a serious discussion whatsoever) I would argue that Hellsing is never ONLY about the actions. Yall might have already noticed how Alucard is too OP, and it was not even because he got any tricks up his sleeves. He is simply invincible, his mechanism is just that hes a "deus ex machina". He did NAWT need to start out with zero and levelling up like your common action anime protagonist. It's not a first time a central character is overpowered in an unreasonable way. A way you could interpret this trope is that it was not about battles, not the physcial one, but the development in their characteristic, their thoughts and emotions and ideology all that stuffs. A classic example is Sir Gawain and The Green Knight (TGK), where all of their (physical) battles are nonsense and did not mean anything in terms of combat, they dont even fight each other, even the climax (the decapitation of TGK) was dismissed into a looney tunes moment. BECAUSE OF COURSE IT WAS NEVER ABOUT THE BATTLE NOR PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT, it was the internal struggle and maturing in character. THAT is what's happening in Hellsing IF yall look pass the very flashy facade of gore scenes Hirano put up. READ BETWEEN THE LINES, because he's not gonna hand it out to you on a plate. If you want to see how each character developed you have to look closely at their reactions and dialogues, not how they fight.

SO, imo, it's reducing the quality and message of Hellsing to interpret it solely as an action horror media, not the other way around. AND MIND YOU, romance subplot and action horror can coexist. For what does the character fight? A higher ideal? Power? Fun? Love? All that is noteworthy to think about when you engage in a media display many fight scenes. DONT YOU WANNA KNOW WHY THEY FIGHT THAT HARD ???? and in this case it is VERY obvious that Alucard is motivated by Integra. LIKE it cant be more obvious

And I'm so tired of seeing "Alucard only listen to Integra because of the seal and shes a Hellsing". Bestie, he literally ripped Richard's hand off, we dont even know the extent of the seal, like how far? or can it REALLY control Alucard? Besides, if you have read The Dawn you would see what a damn lazy ass Alucard was, Arthur sent him on a mission and he didn't even bother to walk on his own and just sleep safe and sound in his coffin until he felt like waking up??? Compare that to his enthusiasm to beg Integra on four just for her order and even purposefully tick her off by asking about her enthusiasm for war, oh and did we collectively forget this

(This is the Dark Horse eng scan if i remember correctly? i might be mistaken idk)

Sure it could just be a mere parallel, "The woman he personally desired" might only means Mina Harker and not directly Integra herself, I see. But, why bother choosing this parallel, and RIGHT after this panel he went STRAIGHT to Integra to ask for her order.

You know how enthusiastic he is with a fight and everything was already laid before him, worthy enemies and all. Yet he would not act without her words? I did not see him needing permission before ripping Richard's hand off... Also the seal did NAWT ask him to do all this

There are more of his sickening and excessive display of obedience but i don't have time to pull the panels out yet, but we all know its there since Alucard's submissive attitude and Integra's bossy demeanour is one of their most appealing traits, I know, because it is literally one of the BIGGEST selling points and running joke of the fandom, funnyyyy how people always love to call Alucard a sub and use words such as "freaky" and "slutty" to call him as if he didn't reserved this treatment for ONLY Integra. Sure Integra is a demanding boss to even her enemies, and it works like wonder everytime, because she's Integra, she mastered Alucard, others are just piece of cake to her. But that's not the same case with Alucard. Major literally said "She is the only authority Alucard recognizes". And have Alucard extended the phrase "My master" and all the begging and insinuating jokes to anyone else? It's so convenient isnt it, to just take one specific trait of Alucard's personality and make it his entire character without considering to WHO he directed those innuendos to.

Oh and I haven't walk us to the final chapter yet, like the seal did NAWWWWWTTT asked him to call her "Countess" (or Count, depending on the translators) and literally he could accept his death becoming a paradox? Wasn't Alucard had been craving an end for a long while now? Why the need to return just because Integra asked him to??? Be serious for a moment here

Also a personal interpretation of mine that could be a stretch or just pure delulu is that, in the manga AND the anime adaptation, the last word Alucard said after goodbye is "Integra" (In both Japanese and English dub, the word order is exactly the same), not "Master" or "Integra HELLSING". The same goes when he addressed how he can kill without remorse but the decision is in her hand, he also said "I am a monster, now regarding you, Integra". To me that is an indicator for how he CARED for her not just because she's a Hellsing or his master but she's Integra, from the first of their meeting it was very clear, that Alucard wounded A HELLSING to protect Integra.

So... even non-romantically, you cannot deny that Alucard voluntarily worked for Integra. They DO care about each other a lot, even platonically, their bond is almost like soulmates with how well they trust and understand each other. I just don't like it when people keep side-stepping the depth of their relationship just because you don't like to ship them romantically. These are the canon informations you can't just seriously unironically say that there was nothing there.

And oh don't even get me started on the "But he is a vampire, the enemy of her family and he hates Hellsing because of Abraham something something stockholm syndrome something she's ace coded she's lesbian coded she swore to be a virgin until death she wouldnt throw it away for the enemy of her family etcera etcera" you're saying it as if ace people aren't allowed to date or have sex and you're saying it as if Alucard isn't canonically genderfluid. Why always view the ship as solely heteronormative while they were never conventional to begin with. And MIND YOU, i thought everyone love the enemies to lovers trope?? they were BARELY stockholm syndrome at all did we forget about the Bird of Hermes analogy as a metaphor for loyalty voluntarily given.

If you care so much about "monsters and humans are forbidden" and "they are not canon" maybe treat every ship with the same attitude since MOST of hellsing most popular ships fit into that exact two sentences above, maybe except Pip x Seras is canon, but they're also human x monster, so what now???? Just hate on a ship all you like, I hate ships too and I hate them because I don't like them, that's all, no need to do extra mental gymnastic to prove the ship is "wrong" or their shippers are "wrong".

[oceanwithouthermoon]

i think its weird that i have to make this disclaimer but the internet is crazy so wtvr,, anyway,,

if i say i dont like something, that doesnt mean "that thing is bad and nobody should post it.."

i swear literally every time i even mention that i dislike something, people will go "wow does that mean u fucking hate me cuz i post that thing? ur a fucking stupid bitch and all ur opinions r wrong" LIKE ?? er.. no. just because i say i dont like certain characterizations of certain characters (the saiki k fandom is CRAZY about this cuz i can state an opinion on literally any character and a group of people will still go 'well only we're allowed to post our opinions about them because we're always right!1!1!'), or certain ship tropes (mentioned my hatred of toxic yaoi maybe once or twice on here months ago and people STILL get mad at me as if i said toxic yaoi lovers r evil or something), or certain ships, or WHATEVER, does not mean that i HATE the people who are posting them or that i think they shouldnt post them at all, NO, im just posting about my personal tastes on my personal blog and it would be extremely weird and hypocritical if i decided that i was the ONLY person that was allowed to do that,,

i think the only reason people assume that is because there are a lot of other people on here who ARE like that, and a lot of people toe the line between posting that they dont like something and posting that they think everyone who likes that thing is stupid, annoying, and wrong,, so i guess all i can say is, sorry for whatever made you make these assumptions but they arent true about me so plz leave me alone ʘ‿ʘ ur doing the same thing to me that ur accusing me of but i didnt do it in the first place so ur just actively being a dick for no reason

[cybergothvox]

At the end of the day, is kin just someone who identifies as their kintype or not? Is it anyone who actually identifies as their kintype, or do they have to perform all these 'correct' behaviours and social dances to prove that you kin- pardon, that you are kin- correctly?

[moomeecore]

i neeeed to post stuff that isn't mlp ... sigh

[oswednesday]

seeing posts that are like you shouldnt use pds dont identify with your illness or you will always be ill </3 instead use cptsd<3 like i think you are just too stupid to be talking about this

[burntcheerio]

people who hate on meena the elephant from the movie sing boil my blood

[dawntheduckrb]

cw vent, politics, and a very exasperated duck

Just a vent, not really saying anything new and honestly just preaching to the choir a bit.

I hope those eggs start getting cheaper soon, like you hope so.

I hope the rich starting trickling down their economy soon, like you hope so.

I hope that American Made Gas starts coming in cheaper, like you hope so.

I hope that destroying our global reputation, funding a genocide, removing jobs from countless government employees, lifting regulations on industries that need them, risking children's access to proper schooling, deporting innocent people from and separating them from their families, I hope that ALL of it was what you wanted.

You wanted your eggs for breakfast because that's what Americans have always wanted for breakfast. But that's the American Dream, and you killed it.