#single issue feminism

[theconcealedweapon]

"As a conservative woman, how do I convince conservative men to be more respectful of women?"

Translating:

"When the leopards are eating people's faces, how do I stop them from eating my face?"

[merriclo]

“girl math” “girl dinner” “explaining this for the girlies” shut the fuuuck up oh my god how do y’all not see what you’re doing. stop infantilizing femininity and reestablishing the exact gender boundaries y’all claim to want abolished !!!!!!!! STOP IT !!!!!!!!!!!

[feral-radfem]

I think a lot of y'all would be better at politics in general if you got away from the concepts of conservative and liberal.

They are not opposites of one another, there are usually actually a lot of overlaps between the two, and using these terms in arguments is usually just used to dismiss the other person's point without any intellectual integrity.

Also, no general political groups like 'liberal' or 'conservative' are monoliths of thought. There are degrees of how liberal or conservative someone that changes depending on the topic at hand and this stance, depending on the topic, is likely subject to change with new information presented. This mindset is the precursor to black and white thinking and tribalism within politics, do yourself a favor and stop using them.

[lazaruspiss]

seeing content creator drama is so weird. like i would die. also people who try so hard for internet fame? like ur trying to get big on purpose?? thats literally one of my worst fears and i will never understand social media culture.

[emangel2718]

Political rant in tags.

[ciderjacks]

YouTube leftist commentary video talking about feminism but it’s by a leftist Man. I always click off immediately. No thank u.

[feralgirlfromatl]

So here’s my problem with “uterus havers” or “baby makers” or “incubators” being used to describe what we used to call women: I (and many others) don’t have a uterus anymore.

So what does that make me? And why am I the bad guy for objecting to these terms?

[musical-chick-13]

*puts my head in my hands* The reason that so many of us say, "I don't trust people who say that all men are evil no exceptions you should never interact with any of them for any reason" ISN'T because we are coddling abusive men, it's because we a) don't want to get into bioessentialism territory, and b) are WELL aware of your history of using this rhetoric to blame women who are abused by men because "Well men are horrible, what did she expect, she brought this on herself."

[edgelordtozier]

people can talk about the mischaracterization of steddie without it directly being an attack on ur weird pretentious borderline proship fanfic just fyi (but if u take it that way then…. Well)

[thegenxpointofview]

How to be a better man: Dealing with women at “the wall”

So quick disclaimer: This post is part of a series I do that give wisdom to heterosexual men. If you find this helpful great, if you are offended please be clear that is not the intent. I don’t know you, so I do not create blog posts to upset you. So that out of the way what is the wall? In the world of relationships the term “The Wall” has become a meme that describes the point in which females…

[anqueerism]

@velvetvexations

being so fr when I say that transmisogyny has put feminism back like 50 years

[addelaidesupreme]

I'm watching a video essay about a game ive been interested in playing. The creator of the video, who has crossdressed multiple times, makes a "women arent funny" joke, and i suddenly realize ive never witnessed him acknowledge a woman in an uplifting way before.

I'm on a dating app for lgbt+ people. I've stated multiple times on my profile that i would rather lose an arm than recieve nudes without consent. I will be sent five dick pics for every 2 people i talk to that night.

I'm talking with my dad, who informs me he's been trying his best to learn about trans issues. He says the same things steven crowder brings up when trying to ridicule trans people. I gently but firmly correct my father and get told that ive been fed propaganda.

I'm on instagram, under the comments of a post ridiculing someone for being a misogynyst. Someone's left a comment saying "it must be hard being a woman on the internet" and i respond "it is." I will have every aspect of my appearance scrutinized as a reminder that no matter how well i pass, it will never be enough for someone with bad intentions.

I'm back on that dating app for lgbt+ people. I'm messaged by an attractive looking person, but i can see their partner prominently displayed in all but their main photo, oftentimes striking what im sure they thought was a very intimidating pose. Their bio says "looking for a third for our anniversary." I know that even if I did feel up to it, the gruff partner wouldnt approve of me because i don't pass.

I'm at a job interview for a clothing store. I tell the gracefully-dressed woman interviewing me that ever since i began my transition, i've discovered an interest in fashion, and that this job would allow me to dip my toes into the industry in a safe way. I'm told that i've reduced womanhood to a stereotype, and i can tell by her tone that i lost any chance at the job the minute she realized i was trans.

I'm at the same hospital i got facial feminization surgery in, trying to figure out what's wrong with my bowels. When the person behind the desk gives me a wristband with my patient info on it, i notice a single, lonely, letter M. I ask a nurse in private why it would say that despite me having changed it nearly a year prior. They say they have no clue, and bring in paperwork for me to fill out and have it re-changed again.

I'm living with my mom at the time. I'm new to transitioning, and decide to try my hand at voice training. It feels a bit off, but otherwise im feeling neutral toward the whole thing. I try speaking in this new voice to my mom and she laughs. Now, when people ask if i intend to voice train, i find speaking at all difficult for minutes after.

I didnt have some sort of grand message to convey by this. I just had a thought and then that thought spiralled into whatever the hell this became. Some, okay most, might call it complaining; they are right to do so.

[lastoneout]

I do actually think one of the big issues with radical feminism is that if you can convince yourself that one single group of people is born with evil baked into their DNA you can eventually be made to believe that of more people who have far less privilege and protection. Which is like a huge radfem recruitment method ofc first they get you to believe men suck and then it's asexuals and aromantics and then bisexuals in m/f relationships and then bisexuals in general and then pansexuals and polyam people and then gnc men and intersex people(who are somehow all considered men) then "cringe" trans people and then all trans people.

This is also my beef with people who act like having a personality disorder like npd or aspd makes you inherently a bad person or take astrology so seriously they believe being born under the wrong stars makes you untrustworthy, like any ideology that seriously bases it's core beliefs on the idea that a human can be born in such a way that makes them inherently a bad person and there is simply nothing to be done to change this is one you should run the fuck away from. Even if the people they are attacking are men, honestly fuck it especially if the people they target are men, because it's clearly so fucking easy to sell women and queer people on that bullshit and legit once you believe one group is malicious and oppressive by birth it's SO easy to get you to believe it about other groups too.

Honestly I genuinely think a lot of people who buy into this straight up don't believe humans have free will and it's super fucking weird. Anyone can decide to be evil and anyone can decide to be good. It's a decision, and sometimes the scales are weighted against you for any number of reasons, but the way you were born is NEVER one of them.

[sharklovingaquarist]

Do the majority of leftists not realize that white women are.... still women???? Like I just saw someone ask if white women are scrutinized for being single mothers? Like I thought that was common knowledge. The hatred of single mothers is literally grounded in misogyny. And last time I checked, white women are women. Yall have downplayed misogyny so much that you think it's only valid in the case of race or "gender". The left is so unserious about feminism. They'll see a middle class white woman and say she's as privileged as a white man, completely glossing over how absolutely dehumanizing and mentally damaging misogynistic culture is; how deep it runs. She may not experience the racial interactions with misogyny, but she still faces misogyny, and misogyny is unforgiving. Its not a gentle oppression, its deep rooted and heavily normalized. Imagine if I said white TIFs named Kai weren't oppressed because they're white, imagine what the feedback would be 😭 Now yes I do think black women would be scrutinized more than white women for being a single mother, but this topic already has general misogynistic mechanics. Black women are seen as less educated, more sexual, and more aggressive. So absolutely, race can slightly change the characteristics of the hate, but this issue is grounded in the aspect of WOMEN. Intersectionality is something we HAVE to consider in feminism but it isn't the main attraction. You can't only ever talk about feminism when it includes other issues because you care more about other issues. And for the love of God, stop making it an oppression-off between women. Intersectionality is supposed to help us, but instead, misogynistic lefties love to weaponize it. And libfems suddenly forget all about that intersectionality as soon as it comes to criticizing culture. It's all an elaborate show of "look at how good of a person I am". Intersectionality lifts women up based on the other issues they have. It does not take from the focus on women.

[genderqueerdykes]

I’ve been feeling really sad lately bc after this latest rise in anti transmasc sentiment I’ve had to unfollow some trans women I’ve been following for literal years bc they started reblogging and posting really nasty and very uncharitable things abt transmascs on my feed. And like. These are women whose voices I very much respected and listened to, and to hear them basically say they consider me an enemy who can’t be trusted bc I want to talk about my experiences, but all of our issues are really just splash damage from bigotry directed at them and talking abt my own experiences without acknowlefing that it’s not really meant for me is wrong. It’s like. So hurtful. And it makes me feel really hopeless about the future of the trans community.

How do I fight back against that hopelessness?

it really sucks and i'm sorry you're also being affected by this. i hear people talk about this every single day and i really don't like that this is just becoming a default in the trans community in general. it seems like the default mode of most online queers is hating transmascs and trans men as if that will somehow make cishet society accept them more. it's selfish behavior.

i'm an intersex trans woman and it's hard for me to interact with the online transfem and trans woman communities, because we're seeing a new experience in the form of transradfeminism, where trans women proudly adopt the anti-man ideals from rad feminism and spread it like it's the truth. it's a sad and painful thing to say, but these trans women are doing this because they believe rad fems and women who hate men are the only "Real" women and desperately want to be seen as "real" women. it stems from their personal dysphoria rooted in manhood, how they take out their own dysphoria in being seen as men on men and mascs. it comes from a place of pain, and it is misguided. instead of directing their hatred toward transmisogyny, they keep it inside the community. it's vile.

it's really sad but trans women and transfems are not immune to being indoctrinated by rad fems and terfs. applying those ideals to being trans isn't progressive. dictating who is and isn't trans is an act of policing. feeling as though one has the right to sit there and claim to know every trans experience, claiming to be the authority on transness... it's fascism.

i'm just plain tired of hearing people make fun of afab trans people and trans men and to talk about them like they're a blight on the community. im tired of people saying things like "do we really need more men?" i'm really sick and tired of chronically online people saying that trans men "aren't real trans people". this one really pisses me off. implying that trans womanhood and transfemininity are the only "real" ways to be trans is also identity policing. what is "unreal" about trans men? i'm tired of trans men being treated like they're unreliable. i'm tired of people wearing their misogyny on their sleeve to constantly treat trans men like they are not reliable narrators. i'm tired of people thinking somehow the instant you begin identifying as a man, you benefit from patriarchy.

i'm tired that people seriously think trans men and mascs can't coin terms for their own experiences. why the hell not? they happen, just because you don't see them personally doesn't mean they don't happen. i have met and lived with so many transmascs over the years, and we've all shared very similar stories about the discrimination we face. it's not spitting in the face of anyone to coin terms like transandrophobia and antimasculism. they happen just as often as transmisogyny does, and happily participating in it only increases trans violence

these talking points are old and it sucks to see more and more trans women get indoctrinated into literal rad feminism. hating trans men will not make dysphoria around being seen as a man go away. hating trans men does not dismantle the patriarchy. hating afab people isn't progressive, it's misogynistic. hating intersex trans men isn't progressive, it's transphobic -and- intersexist. trans men deserve so much better than this. trans men are trans. trans men are people. trans men are not evil by virtue of existing

i say try to do your best to connect with and appreciate the other trans men and mascs in your life. we have to stick together. if you have transfem friends who are on your side, make sure to be there for them, too. not every trans woman is like this fortunately, most trans women are very chill about trans manhood. this is a vocal minority of people who want to be fascists and want to control and police other trans people. transradfeminism isn't progressive, it's just as bad as regular rad feminism, if not worse, because now there's an even bigger focus on hating trans people.

hating other trans people will never get you ahead in cisheteronormative society. try to take care of yourself as best as you can. really relish trans joy when you experience it. take time to affirm your gender. know that manhood is a blessing. manhood is beautiful. it is varied, nuanced, and complex. it is a wonderful thing to experience. men are not evil. men are not bad. we should never remove the accountability from individuals.

hating trans men makes you transphobic. there's just no other way to it. whether or not you accept that it's called transandrophobia, it is still transphobia, and you really should care. the trans community isn't here for just 1 type of trans person. it's here for all of us. good luck, stay safe out there. be good to yourself

[liberalsarecool]

Menstrual tracking.

Bathroom obsessions.

Preoccupation with students' genitals.

Single-mother shaming.

Letting abusers have access to guns.

Anti-feminism rhetoric.

Venerating a lifelong rapist, adulterer, and molester of children.

Performative sex-trafficking stances.

Defending AR-15s when children are massacred.

Allowing the church to rape/molest children.

Indifference to police indictments for raping/molesting women and children.

This is not a one-issue type of hate/abuse/distrust/disrespect for women/mothers/kids.

There are so many connected and coordinated aspects to pro-birth natalists.

And none of those issues are about nurturing, caring, feeding, housing, insuring, or providing stability for people with children.