#single issue feminism

[theconcealedweapon]

"As a conservative woman, how do I convince conservative men to be more respectful of women?"

Translating:

"When the leopards are eating people's faces, how do I stop them from eating my face?"

[merriclo]

“girl math” “girl dinner” “explaining this for the girlies” shut the fuuuck up oh my god how do y’all not see what you’re doing. stop infantilizing femininity and reestablishing the exact gender boundaries y’all claim to want abolished !!!!!!!! STOP IT !!!!!!!!!!!

[feral-radfem]

I think a lot of y'all would be better at politics in general if you got away from the concepts of conservative and liberal.

They are not opposites of one another, there are usually actually a lot of overlaps between the two, and using these terms in arguments is usually just used to dismiss the other person's point without any intellectual integrity.

Also, no general political groups like 'liberal' or 'conservative' are monoliths of thought. There are degrees of how liberal or conservative someone that changes depending on the topic at hand and this stance, depending on the topic, is likely subject to change with new information presented. This mindset is the precursor to black and white thinking and tribalism within politics, do yourself a favor and stop using them.

[grrrlwiththemostcake]

I will never understand so-called "radfems" voting for Trump. You are not a radical feminist, you only pretended to be. In reality you're a conservative.

[lazaruspiss]

seeing content creator drama is so weird. like i would die. also people who try so hard for internet fame? like ur trying to get big on purpose?? thats literally one of my worst fears and i will never understand social media culture.

[emangel2718]

Political rant in tags.

[ciderjacks]

YouTube leftist commentary video talking about feminism but it’s by a leftist Man. I always click off immediately. No thank u.

[feralgirlfromatl]

So here’s my problem with “uterus havers” or “baby makers” or “incubators” being used to describe what we used to call women: I (and many others) don’t have a uterus anymore.

So what does that make me? And why am I the bad guy for objecting to these terms?

[musical-chick-13]

*puts my head in my hands* The reason that so many of us say, "I don't trust people who say that all men are evil no exceptions you should never interact with any of them for any reason" ISN'T because we are coddling abusive men, it's because we a) don't want to get into bioessentialism territory, and b) are WELL aware of your history of using this rhetoric to blame women who are abused by men because "Well men are horrible, what did she expect, she brought this on herself."

[edgelordtozier]

people can talk about the mischaracterization of steddie without it directly being an attack on ur weird pretentious borderline proship fanfic just fyi (but if u take it that way then…. Well)

[thegenxpointofview]

How to be a better man: Dealing with women at “the wall”

So quick disclaimer: This post is part of a series I do that give wisdom to heterosexual men. If you find this helpful great, if you are offended please be clear that is not the intent. I don’t know you, so I do not create blog posts to upset you. So that out of the way what is the wall? In the world of relationships the term “The Wall” has become a meme that describes the point in which females…

[anqueerism]

@velvetvexations

being so fr when I say that transmisogyny has put feminism back like 50 years

[addelaidesupreme]

I'm watching a video essay about a game ive been interested in playing. The creator of the video, who has crossdressed multiple times, makes a "women arent funny" joke, and i suddenly realize ive never witnessed him acknowledge a woman in an uplifting way before.

I'm on a dating app for lgbt+ people. I've stated multiple times on my profile that i would rather lose an arm than recieve nudes without consent. I will be sent five dick pics for every 2 people i talk to that night.

I'm talking with my dad, who informs me he's been trying his best to learn about trans issues. He says the same things steven crowder brings up when trying to ridicule trans people. I gently but firmly correct my father and get told that ive been fed propaganda.

I'm on instagram, under the comments of a post ridiculing someone for being a misogynyst. Someone's left a comment saying "it must be hard being a woman on the internet" and i respond "it is." I will have every aspect of my appearance scrutinized as a reminder that no matter how well i pass, it will never be enough for someone with bad intentions.

I'm back on that dating app for lgbt+ people. I'm messaged by an attractive looking person, but i can see their partner prominently displayed in all but their main photo, oftentimes striking what im sure they thought was a very intimidating pose. Their bio says "looking for a third for our anniversary." I know that even if I did feel up to it, the gruff partner wouldnt approve of me because i don't pass.

I'm at a job interview for a clothing store. I tell the gracefully-dressed woman interviewing me that ever since i began my transition, i've discovered an interest in fashion, and that this job would allow me to dip my toes into the industry in a safe way. I'm told that i've reduced womanhood to a stereotype, and i can tell by her tone that i lost any chance at the job the minute she realized i was trans.

I'm at the same hospital i got facial feminization surgery in, trying to figure out what's wrong with my bowels. When the person behind the desk gives me a wristband with my patient info on it, i notice a single, lonely, letter M. I ask a nurse in private why it would say that despite me having changed it nearly a year prior. They say they have no clue, and bring in paperwork for me to fill out and have it re-changed again.

I'm living with my mom at the time. I'm new to transitioning, and decide to try my hand at voice training. It feels a bit off, but otherwise im feeling neutral toward the whole thing. I try speaking in this new voice to my mom and she laughs. Now, when people ask if i intend to voice train, i find speaking at all difficult for minutes after.

I didnt have some sort of grand message to convey by this. I just had a thought and then that thought spiralled into whatever the hell this became. Some, okay most, might call it complaining; they are right to do so.

[theconcealedweapon]

"I'm going to teach my sons to respect women."

A lot of women say this in response to all the sexism they see and experience. But it only works if you teach him to question all sources of power. If you're a single issue feminist and you want your son to question his privilege as a male but uphold your privilege as an adult, you'll fail miserably and it will be your own fault.

If you spend his entire childhood demanding that he obey all adults no matter how abusive and you call that "respect", then when he's a teenager and you teach him to "respect" women, he'll think women are just one more group of people who he has to submit to, and he'll easily fall for propaganda that feminism is a female supremacist movement. If you call him "disrespectful" when he says or does something sexist and you've also called him "disrespectful" for backtalk, eye rolling, muttering, or breathing loudly, he'll think you're just being an unreasonable authority figure once again. If you spank him and try to teach him that domestic violence is wrong, he'll see you as a blatantly obvious hypocrite.

Single issue activism is useless, and your child will see right through it. You can't just add "women" to the list of people your child must respect on command. If you want to prevent your child from becoming a bigot, you have to teach him to recognize bigotry in all forms, including when it's coming from you. You have to teach him to recognize that the way children are treated is bigotry. You also have to teach him to recognize ableism, racism, classism, and other ways that you may be privileged.

[lastoneout]

I do actually think one of the big issues with radical feminism is that if you can convince yourself that one single group of people is born with evil baked into their DNA you can eventually be made to believe that of more people who have far less privilege and protection. Which is like a huge radfem recruitment method ofc first they get you to believe men suck and then it's asexuals and aromantics and then bisexuals in m/f relationships and then bisexuals in general and then pansexuals and polyam people and then gnc men and intersex people(who are somehow all considered men) then "cringe" trans people and then all trans people.

This is also my beef with people who act like having a personality disorder like npd or aspd makes you inherently a bad person or take astrology so seriously they believe being born under the wrong stars makes you untrustworthy, like any ideology that seriously bases it's core beliefs on the idea that a human can be born in such a way that makes them inherently a bad person and there is simply nothing to be done to change this is one you should run the fuck away from. Even if the people they are attacking are men, honestly fuck it especially if the people they target are men, because it's clearly so fucking easy to sell women and queer people on that bullshit and legit once you believe one group is malicious and oppressive by birth it's SO easy to get you to believe it about other groups too.

Honestly I genuinely think a lot of people who buy into this straight up don't believe humans have free will and it's super fucking weird. Anyone can decide to be evil and anyone can decide to be good. It's a decision, and sometimes the scales are weighted against you for any number of reasons, but the way you were born is NEVER one of them.

[wombmoth]

"Feminism is for everyone" but it's women's job to facilitate change for every single marginalized group, women are the one's expected to monitor their vocabulary, advocate for everyone, spend hours analyzing their natural sexuality to make sure they aren't being prejudiced by not fucking certain people, and put all of their energy and focus towards every other cause before even thinking of addressing issues like reproductive rights or our astronomical rates of SA.

Meanwhile men get to sit back, jerk off to filmed rape, maybe make a "trans are rights are human rights!" or "women are people" tweet every once in a while and they get a standing ovation.

So from where I'm standing it seems like whatever feminism is now, it's for everyone except women.