#shoutout to gay people . shoutout to bisexuals actually

[soulstickerr]

My inactivity has once again temporarily ceased because me and a friend [luxvinova] recently watched Kitaro Tanjo: Gegege no Nazo and I’m feeling …… very normal …………………………

Nah this movie changed my brain chemistry HELP!!!!

[rhitposts-and-reblogs]

you know what.

shoutout to queer people who fit stereotypes!

shoutout to masculine lesbians and feminine gays; your sexuality is undictated by your presentation but the fact you present the way you do is cool!

shoutout to promiscuous polyam and ambiam people

shoutout to aspec people who are aspec because of trauma; you're no less aspec

shoutout to people who labelled themselves as asexual but actually were too young to know; there's nothing wrong with that

shoutout to loveless people; you're still a person and you aren't broken

shoutout to people who labelled themselves as bisexual because they were in denial; everyone discovers their labels differently

shoutout to all of you!!

[legacyofthedamneddsaf]

Hey hey! First off, I love this AU to absolute pieces. It's so damn fun to watch/learn about.

Second of all!! Is it okay to have everyone's pronouns and/or identities?? I just wanna know, not just for the sake of curiosity, but also so I don't misgender them when rambling about the AU(/pos) to some people

mod talk under the cut!

Sorry this is so long, they're all just terrible and complicated people who have horrible messy relationships with everything. They require intense explanation!!

Legacy: he/him. Also responds to it/its, but wouldn't necessarily label himself that way if asked. Otherwise, he doesn't care much for labels. OOC, he's acespec but doesn't put many restrictions on who he's interested in - he's kind of a slut that way.

Dave: he/him, although he doesn't care too much. Like Legacy, he's unlabelled. His standards are basically "anything that moves," but he's pretty arospec - the only person he'd consider maintaining a serious connection to is Legacy.

Henry: will only accept he/him, he finds anything else very disrespectful. He's bi, but he's not really interested in romance or sex right now, he's too married to his research. (And, like, his dead wife, also.)

Peter: he/him. He actually labels himself! He would call himself transheteroflexible, he just doesn't talk about it all that much. He's got bigger issues.

Blackjack: responds to any pronouns, but if you asked he'd say he/him. He calls himself gay as an umbrella term, but doesn't have any more specifics than that. OOC, he's probably on the arospec!

Dee: she/they lesbian. (she's just like me fr!) She gave a lot of thought to this while she was distracting herself, so they would actually describe themself that way! I personally think she worries a lot about counting as femme or butch while also not having the best conceptualization of either identity. But at least we have lesbians in this godforsaken world.

Jake: if you ask, he'd say "he/it," but he only uses it/its in the fucked up way where he feels like if he chooses the dehumanization then it's totally fine and he actually doesn't care. So, out of canon, he/him! (note: I'm absolutely not saying it/its is inherently dehumanizing, both the other mods use it/its!! I just think Jake has problems in his mind.) He's really repressed about his sexuality, he's (regretfully and messily -s) been with Legacy but his emotions on that are so complicated he tries and fails to absolutely never think about it again. What he has going on with Roger is a lot less fucked up, but he's still weird about it. I don't think he'd call himself any kind of queer, but he's probably bisexual.

Roger: he/him, but he's dabbled with she on occasions. He thinks he's completely romantically destitute and nobody will ever love him, so he hasn't bothered with putting a name to his sexuality, but he's the kind of guy to say "everyone likes men, that's normal!" He is in for some incredibly eye-opening months with the Damned for sure.

this emotionally stunted man is going to go the fuck through it in possibly the worst time and place for it. oh well! -s

Harry: he/him, he'd call himself bi. He knows this because he had a thing with Joe, and he assumes that attraction to women is a universal constant even though he personally leans heavily towards men.

the ancient greeks would like this guy i think -h

Steven: he/him, gay, he's probably the only person here other than Dee to have a solid concept of their own identity! Shoutout to Steven for being uncomplicated

and that was "2 ppl who dont really label themselves or have strong ties to their queer identity try to figure out how a bunch of other ppl would feel about theirs," as translated by arden. you could say that we write what we know -s

yeah, the mods are all different flavors of aro/acespec and genderweird. it's all so difficult forever

[winwintea]

are you into anime? if so do you have any good recs? you seem like the type of person to watch a lot of interesting things

oh my... yes anon i do ! i can proudly say i have been an anime enjoyer since 2015. i can't believe it's not cringe to like anime anymore... the world is changing fr

since you didn't specify anything here's my very extensive list

Ranma 1/2 - 1989/2024

slice of life, with romance and action! shoutout to my mother for introducing this one to me. this one's for the bisexuals and gays. (true story) probably love this one way to much because i'm gender-fluid, but main character is cursed so that when he touches water he becomes a girl. show is very chaotic he also has like... 3+ fiancees + his dad is also cursed to become a panda instead of swaping genders lol. they're remaking the show now, but i would highly suggest watching the 1989 version.

InuYasha - 2000

adventure, fantasy, and romance! the main character is a high school girl randomly transported to the sengoku period and there she meets a half demon half human hybrid. the two of them then set out to collect jewel fragments across japan. very very cute and wholesome, they fight a lot of enemies along the way.

fruits basket - 2001/2019

literally the first ever anime i watched, it's so special to me. supernatural, slice of life, and comedy! orphan's grandpa tells orphan to stay with friends while he renovates house, but instead of staying with friends she decides to stay in the fuckass forest??? for some reason. idk. but then she realizes her classmates can actually turn into animals from the chinese zodiacs! then she goes to live with and meets their chinese zodiac animal family. fun!

angels of death - 2018

read the title. you're in for a ride.

madoka magica - 2011

cute anime about magical girls. what could go wrong?

rascal does not dream of bunny girl senpai - 2018 (theres also movies)

omfg.

your lie in april - 2014

very wholesome :)

angel beats - 2010

guys hideki is canonically gay i cant get over this. like wdym this entire show is a lie.

carole & tuesday - 2019

why you should watch this anime ⬇️

fairy tail - 2009

i have personal beef with lucy heartfilia. might be on my top 10 "i hate this bitch so fucking much" list

the case study of vanitas - 2021

chat im literally telling you. vanitas is like gojo but 10x better.

devilman crybaby -2018

this was something alright.

little witch academia - 2017

SO SO SO SO GOOD UGH OH MY GOD I LOVE THEM

assassination classroom - 2015

this was MY emoji movie.

banana fish - 2018

GAY PEOPLE ARE REAL

owari no seraph - 2015

genuinely never seen a manga/anime where i've had a crush on basically the entire cast except for this one

[letyukisayfuck]

based on a conversation in the discord i really do think that, as much as it sucks to acknowledge this, it is pretty likely that haruhi would look at people who use neopronouns as tryhard posers

(please note that while i feel like 'not everything i think is true about haruhi is true about me' is implied at all times i would like to emphasize it here. my personal stance is your pronouns are your business, and i don't get a say in other peoples' business!)

like. the thing is haruhi isn't, like, outright bigoted or anything usually. she IS exceedingly judgy but shoutout for seemingly not being homophobic AND getting annoyed at kyon for forgetting gay people exist that one time. (peak bisexual behavior)

but she also isn't anywhere NEAR politically correct and doesn't really care to be. girl does not give a fuck what is socially acceptable or not until and unless she can use it to her advantage, this is true, but she also is super judgmental and not quiet about it if actually asked.

basically if the concept was introduced to her she'd probably dedicate a morning to bitching about it to kyon, who spends the entire conversation thinking "what the fuck are you talking about" because he is an average-ish teenage boy in the year 2000.

(if it were somehow modern day instead he still wouldn't know but it's just because he's still too busy building gundam models in his spare time)

[spifan]

Hello, i would want to know, what SF era is the most gay to you and which is the least? I feel it can't be more gay than Guerrive/Abbitan!!!

yess schwartz really did draw them REALLYYYY gay like he's truly pushing it and i think guerrive & abbitan leaned into writing them with homoerotic undertones too. not saying they're committed to make them gay in an actual "gay" way, but "gay" like those classic two-guy duos. though i think the publisher themselves is also riding this yaoi wave as they make them more and more. yknow... 🤨🏳️‍🌈❓

DISCLAIMER personally i dont see/"ship" them being "gay" in terms of. romantically lovey-dovey getting married hubby wubby way so i cant really rank the gayness of each era. everything is gay to me, theyre straight dudebros which is actually really fucking gay. straight is gay. its #camp. im bisexual. theyre too journalizing reportering to be thinking of marriage and dating and in love. they fuck as fellas they make out as homies <3 theyre in love yes but not like that but also yes like that

for me i do agree they're the gayest they've ever been in this current era, explicitly speaking. but franquin really hammered home that "lifelong partners" old-married couple trope for them and tome janry really tried to sprinkle in some bisexual stuff and make them heart-wrenchingly faggy. morvan & munuera's s&f has that newlyweds / young gays vibes even if many people hated their run for THAT album lol. and i'd say fournier and nic cauvin did have that they-are-together-but-we-wont-say-what-kind thing s&f generally have. so that leaves us with yoann & vehlmann. im not saying there isnt anything gay or crazy insane "the only explanation for the typa shit theyre pulling is love" moments in their era (there are A LOT!) but the characters feel pretty surface-level, they dont even spend that much time together, and they keep putting random heterosexual hearts flying everywhere every time one of them talk to the different sex LMFAO which is funny to think about since their debut spirou comic, their spirou de, was my favorite. and entire album was about the yin yang puzzle piece dynamic of the two. but one can always find gay in the most dudebros of way so! every era has its own gay-as-fuck flavor if ya dig deep enough. and ya had lost yer mind. and ya have love in yer heart <3

i was going to think about spirou de too but honestly you can find gay anywhere in any s&f comic fjdkjgdkf; shoutout to tarrin my bisexual spifantine GOAT though. and whatever the hell was in that lumière and fondation z albums. AND THE ROBBEDOES SPECIAL? lord this might go on forever

[im-out-of-it]

season one recap part five 💓

can we talk about how much Matt adores his own character? like I have never seen him hold so much love for a character of his that I have seen for Alec. and his not as though he gets book alec- but he put so much effort into HIS ALEC

Matt: it’s not Alec’s fault if everyone around him is dumb as fuck and uses every effort to make him miserable lmaooo (HE IS THE BEST OF EVERYONE)

Matt: I know who this insufferable disease is (clary) and Alec will not stand for it.

literally Alec knows who clary is without needing to know her. how she only wants what she wants without the regard of others and how it affects them. I think it’s superb that Matt just instantly gets Alec (something even CC couldn’t do)

no because y’all for real, alec was so bloody miserable before he met Magnus. he’s hardly smiling, making jokes, being his sarcastic self and you see that shell opening when he meets and starts to fall in love with Magnus. I SAID IT BEFORE AND ILL SAY IT AGAIN ALEC DESERVED BETTER AND DIDNT GET PAID ENOUGH FOR THIS

but at least Matt took the time and actually made Alec better. Alec is done dirty in the books. literally the whole of Malec is done completely dirty, and to make matters worse- CC wanted to kill Alec off in the first book. you never realize how much you love of a version of a character until you meet a they were done dirty/what the actual fuck is this version character. and I don’t think the show gets enough credit. everyone (book fans) are always shitting on it and for what? because Malec is center stage? because a lgbtq+ couple actually matters????? because the representation for the gays, lesbians, bisexuals are ACTUALLY GOOD????? and I know it’s the tHeY dIdN’t FoLlOw ThE bOoKs We StAn As LaW BUT WHATS THE FUCKING PROBLEM?????? I would have quit the first fucking episode if it was actually like the books and the only reason I got the books is for Malec and my love for Alec, magnus, Izzy, and Simon, Raphael, and Maia. if I knew they were done atrociously in the books, I would’ve saved my ass some time. and I’m not sorry, but we don’t need anymore straight people centered abusive incest because they did believe it and still tried to be together (books) toxic mess couple characters type trope

Alexander count in season one: 2 but technically 4

AU Malec deserved a shoutout WE NEEDED MORE

Alec being discreet (literally love him trying to be subtle and I debated on using the jace gif because I don’t think he’s checking jace out but it’s open to interpretation AND I HAD TO ADD EPISODE THIRTEEN BECAUSE ITS SO ICONIC

and Magnus making his intentions clear like Alec use your eyes please

Magnus casually name dropping ✨

Alec is like what clues?????? Magnus is telling Alec that he finds men attractive and going so far as to say “pretty boy” and “you” and stating his intentions and Alec is still “he can’t be talking about me” 😭

and let’s end this with talking about Simon (don’t hate me y’all, but I have to add yet another part but it’s not my fault that season one has so much fucking content and buildup so blame them and not me) (and I want to talk more Simon and Raphael on the next one)

Simon is such a treasure and to me, so much better than the books. he’s a loyal friend and doesn’t get enough credit when he’s funny. he’s kind, caring, sweet (Izzy’s words later) and I think the buildup from the cute mundane nerd to how he adapts as a vampire is beautifully done. I don’t think they did his transformation as well as they could have but I understand not wanting to spend a lot of time on it

how he and Izzy are built up is great but it doesn’t work in my opinion in the long run. I stand by that it’s too rushed at the end and we don’t really see them date. he became I character I wanted to know more and I felt he’s much more interesting and pleasing than his book version. book Simon doesn’t exist- I said what I said and I’ll say it again

I can’t fathom how clary treats him. she is always ignoring him for what she needs. it’s very similar to how jace treats Alec. it’s almost as if Simon has no self respect to stand up for himself and declare better treatment. possibly, clary does care for him but I didn’t see that all season. I saw how she went and saved him but she went back to her own toxic behavior after. I don’t think she loves Simon the way he loves her (and I’ll get to that in season two) and in my opinion, she takes great advantage of him because she knows he will always be there like jace knows Alec will

and how can clary just sit there and allow jace to treat Simon???? GIRL THAT IS YOUR BESTIE. Im actually team Maia and Simon because I think that was the best for him and in season one, Simon does deserve better. Clary takes him for granted over and over again. I mean, I can see what was she supposed to do when Simon was following her but she is to blame for Simon being a vampire. I get wanting to keep Simon in her life but she didn’t think about what that would mean.

and that’s not even covering how she made this choice for him without thinking how he would cope with it- which I’ll get more into the last part

moving to part six later today which will be the last of the recap. Im sorry it’s sooooooo long (am I though?) but season one does have a lot of content in just thirteen episodes

[omnipah]

for the character asks: pickman sangfielle and/or any malevolent guy of ur choosing

well if u insist!!!!

Pickman

Sexuality Headcanon: i do get very aro vibes from pickman and i think in a lot of cases she's functionally ace but. she sure did fuck that old woman! so i guess she's aro train-god-sexual lesbian. good for her Gender Headcanon: i mean i know this is the autism vibes but she truly does seem like the kind of person who's only doing woman because that's what she started as and knows how to do. she's still fairly cut off from traditional expressions of gender because of the autism and the Train Trauma but at the same time it's her version of womanhood and she's kind of spitefully attached to it now, even tho it's in a kind of nb way. A ship I have with said character: That Old Woman (shoutouts to chantilly scathe!!!) A BROTP I have with said character: duvall for that time he manifested into a scene he wasn't in to defend her honour A NOTP I have with said character: alekest i guess? i mean he did that himself tho. anyone else i mean. is it really friends at the table if the player characters don't all have weird unethical polycule vibes? A random headcanon: she seems like one of those people who can't cook for shit unless u give her a recipe with exact instructions and proportions and then even if she's completely unfamiliar with the technique she's suddenly a 5star chef. she thinks this is normal and everyone is like this and is baffled when colette gets moony-eyed at her over it General Opinion over said character: i am picking petals off flowers saying 'she loves me, she loves me not' i am doodling her name in my notebook i am cheerleading on the sidelines of every scene shes in i am holding her giant gun for her in case she needs it

Kayne Malevolent (i would say sorry but u did this to urself)

Sexuality Headcanon: i mean as far as canon goes he seems less concerned with gender and more concerned with whoever he doesn't consider boring. i could go ahead and just decide he's gay because he flirted with both john and arthur (not to mention the fruitiness) but that's too easy. if women were legal in malevolent he'd be uncomfortably horny about them too, i know it Gender Headcanon: whatever he's doing he's doing it a lot. A ship I have with said character: i mean given his whole deal he seems fairly impervious to like. intimacy. but i think it's fun when he gets all marina and the diamonds homewrecker in jarthur's already unstable marriage A BROTP I have with said character: well it would be lovely if there were sufficient characters in the actual show for him to actually have any kind of friendship with. or more likely affectionate rivalry considering how unpleasant he is as a person A NOTP I have with said character: i mean i don't know of anyone who's shipping him with anyone in particular but the only other recurring characters are larson yellow and the butcher and uh. all of them. less the butcher cus can u imagine the combination of fucked up hedonist trickster god + catholic guilt but still. the vibes are fucking rancid A random headcanon: this is mostly just taking the trope and running with it but i like to think he operates under fae rules, like, technically can't lie and technically has to keep his promises, so is like. extremely careful how he words things and what he avoids saying and leaves implied. bonus points cus he talks so fast u can't really tell he's doing it unless ur paying attention. yes i realise this is the third character in a row i'm headcanoning as a beaurocrat but listen it's my autism i get to project it General Opinion over said character: he's like a budget version of the outsider if the outsider listened to the orion experience. we love a fucked up trickster god and of course we love a bisexual covered in blood but yknow what else i love? characters who show up often enough to actually learn anything about them at all.

[erigold13261]

Love how many of the JJK characters are already queer in the post-timeskip

Since we have… Yuta and Rika (Lesbians)

Miwa and Mechamaru (T4T)

Kinji and Kirara (okay Kirara is probably some flavor of queer in canon but still enby4enby)

Also shoutout to Ilia with his funky gender!

Let's keep going, Happy Pride Month! (you have any other folks/HCs?)

I have a lot, but I'll keep it to JJK characters for now.

Gay Megumi

Aromantic Maki

Lesbian Nobara? Maybe?

Aroace Yuji? No labels Yuji? He appreciates people's inner beauty but also isn't opposed to looking at what he sees as a pretty woman. Demisexual aromantic straight? Or maybe more like Aegosexual homoromantic? Some kind of gray-asexual at the very least, and either homoromantic, aromantic, or demiromantic, but very much needs time to form a romantic bond.

Aroace Kento

Lesbian Utahime

Toge is SOMETHING. What? I don't know yet lol. Possibly gay

Gay Satoru. He/him nonbinary with sky/blue pronouns

Either gay or bi Suguru. Leaning towards bi. He's also he/him enby

Aroace agender Shoko

Transman bisexual Haibara

I think I got an ask about Todo being a gnc cisgender guy and I like that (him dressing in drag in his free time seems like something he would do, it would also be neat for Kento to introduce Dodo to Todo since Dodo also does drag)

Nonbinary Uraume

Genderfluid Takaba

Noritoshi, like Toge, is something, but I don't know what. Might go with aromantic, asexual, or aroace

I don't mind trans Yuki, but honestly her and Choso being cishet together is something I like a lot

Choso, Eso, and Kechizu (along with any other death paintings if they were reborn) probably have some identity issues that would translate to their gender because of their memories from their vessels mixing in with the nature of their own consciousnesses

OH! Actually, with that! I think I'd like Yuki to be a detransitioned cis woman (so she thought she was a transman/transmasc for a bit of her life but then realized she was a woman). She helps Choso find out who he is as him and not just as a curse/entity, human, vessel!

Aroace Sukuna maybe? Like high libido but just does things for the pleasure of physicality rather than a drive he has

Curses don't really have sexualities/genders that can be easily translated to human society, similar for how Trolls can't really be "queer" in a human lens as they have their own societal structure on gender and romance.

That being said:

She/Her Hanami, no gender or sexuality (anything is a go for her but she wouldn't use the pan or bi or omni labels, or any gender labels. She's fine with anything and is very passive on her self image)

He/Him Jogo, possibly gay, possibly aroace and just wants connections with people without realizing it (kinda the same idea of how Eve needs others to make herself feel complete, so perhaps Jogo is like her and also demisexual/demiromantic)

Mainly he/him Mahito, but honestly I can see him using any pronouns (especially any of my human Mahitos who are usually genderfluid. Even if curse/entity Mahito just uses he/him, I can still see him being genderfluid in a sense of physically changing his form to whatever he likes including a feminine and androgynous form)

They/Them Dagon. No thoughts, head empty when it comes to gender or sexuality. It's not really something they dwell on at all. Closest thing would probably be agender?

He/Him Kurourushi. Transmasc aroace lesbian or sapphic? (made an art of curse Kurourushi and Smallpox Deity and someone tagged it as wlw and that shit hit me hard! So Kurourushi is definitely transmasc, but might identify genderwise as still a woman or at least nonbinary). [This also goes for my human versions]

She/Her Smallpox Deity. Acoace lesbian, Cisgender

He/him, maybe also they/them Ko-guy. Transmasc/transman

Rainbow Dragon is something. At least their human version is. They/them for them, but not sure about anything else, or if their curse version is anything. I need to revive them as a curse/entity in the Eriverse lol

Don't know about the Roppongi curse, but they have something going on with the Mannequin, but it's not FWB or something like that. Possibly a QPR? Also I think he/they for Roppongi curse (which I still need to make a name for them)

They/Them Mannequin Curse. Acts like a knight in shining armor for Roppongi curse. Will throw their life away for him. I think it's kinda like how Pearl is with Rose Quartz, but also not exactly that way. Very much a lot of love there but not in a romantic or sexual way. Possibly aroace, at the very least aromantic.

Kenjaku identifies as a cisgender man, he/him. However, when he is in a female body then technically he could be seen as transgender. He will play the part of a woman based on society's expectation in order to fit in to get what he wants, but he still always identitfies and believes he is still a cisgender man. His sexuality though is probably all over the place or demisexual where he needs to get attached to the person himself (with some exceptions he's had in his life). Otherwise he is just following the instincts of his body if he gets bored enough and wants to have fun.

I think Miguel Oduol and Larue have explored each other at some point? But like just to see what it was like? Otherwise I see those two are cishet.

Manami is bisexual but really has only dated men. Usually just has fantasies about women but never really acts on it, not because of society or something, but because she hasn't had a chance really

Toshihisa Negi. I almost forgot about this guy from Suguru's group, but his design looks really cool/fun and I can see him being queer. Perhaps he is bisexual as well or gay.

Alright, that's all I have for right now. I probably missed a major one somewhere (had to go back and write for Yuji and Nobara because I forgot those two lol). But yea, this is what I got at least for the JJK cast! Both can be applied to Eriverse and JJKverse (and some for my Swap JJK AU as well lol).

[lakesbian]

Alec for the worm bingo but you have to lie (or possibly place Alec where he would place himself)

huh whats that. i stopped reading after the first five words

somehow not winning a Single bingo i've done goddamn. 1.6 million words and we still don't know enough about him. but also we know almost the perfect amount about him. i liked watching him jump into the paper shredder. only worm character who has made me sniffle for 45 straight minutes (over a scene i thought i was going to find hilarious, which is very fitting for how he operates as a person). shoutout to blastweave for the 'surprisingly good person given the circumstances terrible by any other metrics' post bc it Got In My Brain and made me start thinking abt alec and now i'm the world's biggest alec enjoyer.

reading the terrible takes made him more interesting as well tho. i literally only started thinking interesting things about him because i got mad at posts that sucked. like i didn't even like him at first he was nothing to me but i accidentally talked myself into liking him by vehemently disagreeing with posts that disliked him for the wrong reasons.

anyway i actually really liked what wildbow did with his personal paper shredder i think everything about his arc is 4 the most part super solid, i do think he could've made the WoG re: his abysmal childhood a bit more blatant in canon. like maybe toss that in his interlude or smth. i know wildbow is not a 'sexual abuse on-screen' guy in terms of writing preference and on a watsonian level i think it checks that alec mostly avoids thinking about the things that most impacted him but as-is it's so subtle that Literally Everyone misses it and subsequently misses what his Deal is lmao. i think he could have scootched Something in there to make his Deal more obvious. but the only thing i'm rescuing him from wildbow for is that wildbow cannot handle the bisexual gnc swag he Deserves to have. never over how funny it is that wildbow doesn't even see him as bisexual just as 'hedonist' and writes him like a straight boy except for when he's having fucked up evil sex but still thinks he looks gay enough for someone to accuse him of not liking vagina. during a kaiju fight. like 30 minutes before he dies. top all time regent moment.

(okay, second top all time regent moment. no 1 top all time is still when he says being willing to make sacrifices for the people you care about is terribly unhealthy. it sure is buddy. you've heard of taylor judging alec for shit she does, get ready for alec being like 'man taylor is so gonna be fucked over by that thing she does' about something he is also going to be fucked over by doing)

edit: OH. and alec wouldn't mark anything. no not even the traumatized square. he has issues

[menlove]

wait hi i’m so confused i thought only lesbians can reclaim d*ke and only gay men can reclaim faggot? so how can you use both esp if you’re masc? IM CONFUSED IM SORRY this isn’t a hate anon or some shit i’m just so behind on the fuckin. ‘rules’ of tumblr and what the general consensus on slurs are i barely know what i can reclaim my damn self

hi you're all good! and honestly that's part of why I made the post and why the modern lgbt community frustrates me so much bc there is a huge prioritization of "rules" over community, solidarity, lived experience, and just. loving each other. not a diss at you obvs just that it makes us all so nervous about what we can and cannot reclaim and makes others really hostile about it

anyway!

several different answers...

by current lgbt tumblr/tiktok/twitter "rules" a lot of ppl have expanded those to include wlw and mlm, not just gay men and lesbians. I mean say two women are walking down the street holding hands, someone that would call them dykes isn't going to pause and ask if one or more of them is bisexual before using it. as I'm both a wlw and a mlm I'd fit into both. however I don't really jive w this explanation bc it hinges again on "rules" of conduct that I find reductive

another one I've seen that I find a little more nuanced is that if you have had slurs thrown at you and used against you, you can reclaim them. I've been called a dyke and a faggot more times than I can count. but again, I don't jive with this one as much bc does that mean a gay man fortunate enough to never get called a faggot cannot say that word?

the one I find to be the most resonating To Me- for decades and decades of the queer movement, queer women have been saying faggot and queer men have been saying dyke. it's only like really extremely relatively recently that it has been made taboo/wrong/crucifiable for the other group to say it. but if you look it up, there's a lot of early pictures and even well into the 90s pics of men holding up signs along the lines of faggots supporting dykes. and vice versa. this fear of saying these words in our community v much comes from the critically online crowd who doesn't actually go out and interact with their community (not saying you or everyone obviously just the people that push this shit really hard). they would rather squabble over words and slurs and labels than actually doing anything worthwhile.

and just on a personal note, like I said, I'm both a "wlw" and "mlm" although I find those words a little hallow. masculinity =/= sexuality and while I may be butch, that doesn't equate to manhood. even if it did, that's not entirely precluding me from finding community with others I relate to. but I grew up experiencing love for other women as a queer woman. I still do, even though I'm transmasc and use he/him pronouns in every day life (not on here and it's not misgendering to call me she or they, but for my safety I don't advertise any of that irl) but I don't mind being seen as a queer woman, that's deeply a part of how I learned to love in this world. and it got me called dyke. a lot. both when I was identifying as a lesbian, and when I wasn't. on the flipside, however, I am transmasc and butch. I present to the world with a masculine name and most strangers call me "sir" and use he/him for me. my boyfriend is a gay trans man (loosely, they also identify as nonbinary and his relationship to gayness is complicated but that's not my post to make). we are both on hrt and he's had top surgery. when we go out in the world together as a couple, most people see two gay men. we've been called faggots over it (shoutout to the bartender in Detroit for that one). is my experience materially any different than that of a 100% binary trans man getting called a faggot? is the way I present precluding me from being able to say I identify as a queer woman (and man) that loves women in a very queer way? if you look at me, a masculine individual with a beard that gets called a man by strangers and you say I cannot be a woman, what does that say about trans women? if you look at me and say the way that I present to the world doesn't count and doesn't matter, and the way me and my boyfriend conceptualize our relationship isn't right, why is that your business? again, not personal you but general You.

tldr gender is super fucking complicated and messy and so is sexuality and boiling it down to who can say what slurs is honestly really detrimental to our community and all of this is kind of The Point of my post.... and that is not an attack on you at all you're very lovely and I appreciate the message and how sincere it is! and you do not have to agree with me in fact I suspect many people won't. but that's okay. at the end of the day, this community isn't about agreeing with everyone. it's about protecting ourselves and our siblings from harm and loving each other.

[nieves-de-sugui]

I am adding to this post and bringing some Japanese shows I don't think people are familiar with - at least for those who might have discovered Japanese media through Japanese bls - but that I personally really enjoyed (and that have some amount of queerness to them).

First, I gotta put this one here because it's so cute and it deserves a shoutout, and it's one of my favorites that I constantly rewatch:

Takara-kun to Amagi-kun - Takara and Amagi (Viki)

Look at Amagi running away because he's flustered xD

Most people will know this one. It's a gem. It's idiot x idiot. And I love it so much that it has to be put somewhere on this post, so here goes. If you haven't watched this one yet, GO WATCH IT. It's cute, it's fun, it catches you with trauma by surprise (as Japan does) and it's happy.

It's a must watch for any J BL enjoyer.

Onto the actual list now

These recommendations are based on my tastes alone so I do not guarantee that everyone will like them. They're also, not perfect. However, I think these shows are worth checking out if you're interested in Japanses media. Particularly for those who are curious about how Japan challenges it's own society through media.

Ore no Sukaato, Doko Itta? - Where did my skirt go?

Also know as OreSuka it's a typical unusual-teacher-comes-to-break-the-status-quo-of-the-school type of story. Harada Nobuo, a gay man who likes to cross dress as a woman, is hired as the homeroom teacher of a class of highschoolers and helps them "free" themselves. Since it's an ensemble cast, each episode is generally centerd on one student as they sort out their problems with the help of Harada. And I'm not revealing much more~

You might recognize one of the students, Michieda Shunsuke (as our bisexual disaster of a protagonist in Kieta Hatsukoi).

Otouto no otto - My Brother's Husband

This one might be more well know in the bl fandom

Based on a manga by Gengoroh Tagame, this 3 episode series could be considered a story made by gays for straights. (I'm kinda curious about where this would fall in @wen-kexing-apologist By For and About categorization)

The story follows Yaichi, a divorced father, who one day recieves the visit of Mike, his estranged twin brother's canadian husband. His twin has recetly passed away and Mike is on a trip to get to know about his husband's origins, so he stays a few days in the house.

I would say this one enters into the "healing" genre (Iyashikei) that is very characteristic to japanese media.

Tonari no Kazoku wa Aoku Mieru - Residential Complex (Viki)

A couple of newlyweds move into a residential complex they share with 3 other families, and cohabitating shenanigans ensue. The traditional family upstairs who live off the husband's salary has a secret: the husband just got fired. The man who's about to marry his second, younger wife, who doesn't want children, has a child from his previous marriage who will come stir up some trouble. The apparently single and private architect is secretly gay and his boyfriend has suddenly come live with him. And the newlyweds really want to have kids but are facing some difficultes.

I really like how this show comes to try to dismantle some of Japan's perjudices regarding what constitues as family. I don't want to spoil too much, but it gives a very good overview of how Japan generaly understands such things and how that way of thinking is wrong. It's also been made in contribution with an LGBT association iirc, which is pretty unique and cool.

Kamisama no Ekohiiki - God's Favor

This show is based on a BL manga. It has changed quite a few things from the original, so the story they tell vary a little from each other. But it's a cute little show that talks about love, gender and youth. It has body swap shenanigans, childhood friends, lesbianism and overall teen angst.

Yashiro gets hit by a truck and dies right after getting rejected by his childhood friend Kenta. But thank's to God's favoritism he gets to be reborn as a girl, Kagura. As he tries to get close to Kenta once more but Kenta's ex-girlfriend, Rin, gets in the way. Also, Yashiro's body is not actually dead...

I personally really liked it. It's pretty cute and low budget.

Sixteen Shokogun - Sixteen Syndrome

More teen angst 'cause Japan loves it. Another one that is a little weird and talks youth, gender, love and expectations. It tackles friendship, love, gender expression and sexual orientation and more teen angst. I don't really know how to explain this one so I leave you the blurb:

The tomboy Ibuki and her childhood friend Mei are known as the "Prince" and "Princess", respectively, of their school thanks to Ibuki always protecting Mei from men (as a result of a traumatic past). One day Asada Mutsumi, a popular guy, starts to seduce the "Princess" because of a bet, however he starts falling for Ibuki instead.

Teen angst shenanigans, with Yuutaro (Zenra Meshi, Cherry Magic) as part of the cast.

Ossan's Love (S1) (Viki)

This might be an unpopular opinion, but it's my list 😛

Pure Japanese comedy and a classic. If you're not used to Japan's weirdness this one might very easily put you off. Haruta is a unsuccessful 33 year old who is looking for love. His mom ditches him and leaves the house so he ends up living with Maki, a younger co-worker who takes care of the house chores. One day he discovers that his boss, a serious man he respects and looks up to, has a Very Big Crush on him. Simultanously, Maki also confesses to be in love with Haruta. Not knowing what to do or how to handle the situation lots of funny shenanignas ensue in Haruta's not-anymore-peaceful life.

This one is very Japanese. Between the exagerated funny faces, the situational comedy, and tons of Japanese habits and mannierisms (such as avoiding making people feel bad/uncomfortable by rejecting them outright, or being too direct) it can be very weird for western viewers. If you've gotten used to Japan and have no trouble with the cultural differences, I really recommend this one (particularly before Returns the S3 that's actually S2 because the real S2 doesn't exist for me starts!)

and as a bonus:

Miss Sherlock

This is a show I haven't finished yet but I am very curious about. Genre wise it has nothing to do with the other shows on this list because it's basically Sherlock Holmes in modern times, but women, and in Japan. Sherlock is acompanied by Wato-san in her detective endeavors. I heard it has a lot of the usual Sherlock/Watson subtext~~

Japan has a lot of very different shows, and I'm sure I've missed some more like these. But I thinks it's good to see what other not-so-BL-but-still-queer, or kinda queer, shows Japan makes. To me, the way they go about gender and how that affects sexuality is very interesting to see, particularly because of how it varies from our western pov.

Japanese BL Starter Pack

It’s been awhile since I dropped a rec list, so I am here today to share one that is very near and dear to my heart—a Japanese bl primer for those who are new to the jbl game. I created this for @neuroticbookworm to help her on her journey when she decided she wanted to start getting into Japanese works. The fandom (on Tumblr and generally) tends to focus primarily on Thai shows because they are the easiest to access for international fans, since Thailand is working its way toward world domination via ql media and wants us all to be able to watch. But there is a lot of great stuff to watch beyond the easy access Thai channels, and Japan is the country where this genre originated, so its shows are important for anyone who considers themselves a bl fan. Japan doesn’t cater nearly as much to the international audience so tracking down the shows sometimes takes some ingenuity and can-do spirit, but that’s part of the fun!

And so, the list! Bookworm is about halfway through it and having a ball, so I figured it was time to stop hoarding it and share it with anyone else who would like to dip their toes into jbl and isn’t quite sure where to start. A few notes: 

I am not here to teach you about the deep roots of the jbl genre or give you a primer on yaoi manga. I am by no means an expert and there are other places to find that information. Start here with this great post by @nieves-de-sugui and then maybe wander over to @absolutebl to read up more on the evolution of the genre.

This list is by no means an exhaustive accounting of every important Japanese bl ever made; it is simply a nice sampler platter of the cream of the crop among various styles you will find in jbl. Watching through this whole list will not only expose you to some fantastic shows, but also give you a sense of what makes jbl unique and how the country’s style differs from others, and point you toward the types of jbl you’ll like most (they tend to put shows in pretty specific style and tone lanes and once you find the ones you like there are lots more where that came from). 

If you’re coming to this post as a jbl lover and you don’t see your favorite here, I promise it’s not because I don’t love it very much; I simply had to make some choices to get this down to a reasonable shortlist. Feel free to leave extra recs for others to find! 

I’m putting these in a loose suggested watch order that will take you through the various jbl lanes in a kind of popcorn style, because I always think it’s good to change it up so you don’t get too stuck in one mode, and it works its way up to most of the extremely Japanese stuff (you will know what that means by the time you finish). But do what’s in your heart and change up the order if you want, friends, I am not the boss of you! 

Cherry Magic (Crunchyroll or grey)

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I believe everyone on Tumblr is pretty familiar with this one, which is not a coincidence—this is one of the most accessible jbls. Not in terms of actual access to watch it, mind you (we’ve all jumped through shady internet hoops to watch it) but in terms of its content and style. Cherry Magic is a classic workplace romcom with a magical twist, and it is charming af. It’s a great exemplar of Japan’s light and zippy comedy lane for bl—a lane in which, importantly, the romances stay chaste even when the actual plot is about sex, or lack thereof. My friend @waitmyturtles would kill me if I didn’t make sure you know that Cherry Magic also has a lovely follow up film. And bonus: there is now a Thai remake airing so if you watch the original you can get in on the discussion about the different adaptations between countries. This is pretty easy to find these days in all the usual places, but I strongly recommend watching it here.

Old Fashion Cupcake (Viki)

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Moving on to a slightly more mature workplace romcom. Old Fashion Cupcake, another Tumblr favorite, is an age gap boss-subordinate romance, and it’s both very adult and somehow wholesome af at the same time. Sure, there is a lot of carnal desire going on here, but there is also a lot of wooing via fluffy pancakes. It’s a tight five episodes and a fantastic example of what Japan, with its extreme technical precision in writing, directing, editing, pacing, and acting firing on all cylinders, can do in two hours. There’s not an ounce of flab on this thing and you’ll want to watch it over and over again.

Utsukushii Kare (Viki)

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Time to get a little weird! Weird is a key feature of Japanese media, and lots of jbls explore unusual relationship dynamics rooted in complex psychology. This is the first show on the list that will likely feel very Japanese if you’re new around here—my advice is to lean into it and finish the show, even if you get uncomfortable along the way. In Japanese media, discomfort always serves a purpose. This is a high school story with a twisted relationship at its center, and I’m not saying any more than that. Don’t spoil yourself and go watch it! This one also comes with two sequels—one short second season and one movie—that continue from the original story. They are less essential but still excellent.

I Cannot Reach You (Netflix)

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Next up, another high school tale, but with a totally different vibe. This show is kind of a revelation in its willingness to tell a story about overwhelming desire—including sexual desire—with young protagonists. It’s rooted in a classic but often misunderstood trope, friends to lovers, and takes the angst of it seriously, giving us a low stakes story that feels extremely high stakes to our leads. It’s also gorgeous and uses a classic Japanese visual style (bokeh) that you’ll be dying to learn more about. 

His (Viki)

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Time for a break from high school, and we’ll sprinkle in a movie for some added flavor. His is a jbl film featuring a second chance romance between a stoic, introverted man who moves to a remote town to start over, and his ex-boyfriend who follows him there unexpectedly, adorable child in tow. Importantly, this movie does not take place in what we often refer to as the “bl bubble” where homophobia doesn’t exist; the leads’ experiences of being gay men in a homophobic society are hugely important to the plot and themes of the story. It’s a beautiful film and I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve watched it. @bengiyo would surely also like me to tell you that this film follows a brief prequel show called His: I Didn’t Mean to Fall in Love about the characters originally meeting in high school; I do not think it’s really necessary to watch it but completists can start there.

The Pornographer series (Gaga)

By now you should be ready to get into some classic Japanese fucked up psychosexual material, right? Right! The Pornographer series is told in five installments in this order:

The Novelist, a six episode miniseries

Mood Indigo, a six episode prequel series

Spring Life, a 15 minute short

Pornographer: Playback, a two hour film

Spring Life Continued, a 15 minute short

Confused by that distribution model? So say we all; sometimes Japan likes to make us work for it to make sure we really appreciate its many gifts to us. The story across these installments is about a very difficult to love protagonist, what makes him the way he is, and the also-unhinged-but-in-a-different-way man who finally gets through to him. It’s an extremely satisfying love story and one of the best character arcs I have ever seen, full stop. For this one, you’ll want to just pull the word problematic out of your pocket and store it in a drawer; nearly everything that happens in this story is problematic and that’s the point. Lean in! All of these installments except for the film are on Gaga, if you get that far hmu and I will supply you with the final puzzle piece.

Our Dining Table (Gaga)

You could probably use a break after those last two, so it’s time to shift over to a heart-tugging twofer: family trauma mixed with the cutest shit you’ve ever seen. ODT is an example of another classic type of Japanese show: the food drama (you will see the GOAT in this category at the end of this list). In Japanese culture, food is love, and the act of preparing food for your loved ones is a common path to romance. You’ll love this story about an isolated office worker who meets a pair of brothers, learns to cook as a way of connecting with them, and begins to heal from his own trauma as a result. The image above is a scan from the manga, which @troubled-mind curates to make extremely cool comparison sets like this one. Many jbls are faithful adaptations of yaoi manga source material, so it’s good to have a bit of familiarity with them.

Minato’s Laundromat (Gaga)

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Japanese media loves to explore taboo, and often manages to do it in a way that is surprisingly light and chaste. This is an age gap romance between a teenager and his adult neighbor that explores internalized homophobia, emotional repression, and falling in love across seemingly impossible social chasms. It’s also a great example of old school yaoi seme-uke dynamics that still show up across the bl genre. Also, take my advice: end your journey with this one with the first season and just pretend season 2 doesn’t exist.

Eternal Yesterday (Viki)

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Remember what I said about weird? Time to do that again, but with a heaping dose of grief and pain on top. It’s not a spoiler to tell you this show involves a major character death; a major character death is, in fact, the root of the entire story. This is a magic realist tale of first love turned tragic, and it will hurt and heal you. It is one of my favorite dramas of all time.

Restart After Come Back Home (Gaga)

And now for a break for your poor exhausted brain. This film is basically the jbl version of a Hallmark original movie, about a city boy who goes back home to the country and falls in love with a total sweetheart while working together on a farm. Enjoy it, bestie, you’ve earned it! 

Tokyo in April Is… (Gaga)

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You’ve probably noticed by now that emotional repression and failed communication are big themes in Japanese works. This second chance romance has plenty of both, and it’s a great example of a kind of muted emotional style that Japan does so well, where the surface of the story seems almost placid and calm even as deep emotion roils underneath. This one (and Eternal Yesterday above) are part of a special line up of jbls on Japanese channel MBS called Tonku (Drama) Shower. The shows air one after another in the same time slot on Fridays (in Japan, perhaps Thursdays for you depending on where you live) and you truly never know what you’re gonna get, but they’re all interesting. Warnings on this one for sexual assault and trauma. 

The End of the World With You (Viki)

Time for sexy and weird again, but even more so! This has to be one of the most unique bls ever made; it goes to some truly divine and strange places, and it feels incredibly queer while doing it. Made by the same screenwriter/director of the Pornographer series with a lot of the same sensibilities, but in a more heightened apocalyptic setting. This one has existential angst, a road trip, a redemption tale, and a variety of interesting side characters in the mix.

What Did You Eat Yesterday? (Gaga)

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Congratulations, you’ve reached the end of the list and your reward is watching one of the best bls of all time, and a perfect slice of life food drama to boot. WDYEY now has two seasons (along with a couple specials and a movie that fall in between) because the universe clearly loves us. You can now get it on Gaga for easy access but I’m partial to the versions over at @kinounaniresource for better subs. Wherever you watch, settle in to get cozy with Shiro and Kenji and make sure to always eat before you hit play.

[pleuvoire]

breaking lgbt fandom stereotypes in my oc pairing by having the aloof unfriendly one be bi and the nice caring one be gay

[briuche]

some maybe lesser talked about signs that you might be aspec

(AKA things i had to learn the hard way)

most of this is based off of my own experiences as an aromantic asexual who’s sex and romance-repulsed for myself and sex-positive when it comes to fiction and media. just a reminder it’s totally okay to not relate to my experiences, everyone has a different relationship wih romance and sex, and it doesn’t make you less valid as an aspec individual! this is just how i navigate it!

OK ONTO THE GOOD STUFF

you might be aromantic if:

you can tolerate online relationships (ie. talking over text), but when you spend time with the person irl you immediately feel uncomfortable/anxious/etc.

i dated a girl in the beginning of high school and most of it ended up being online because of covid, and i never wanted to call/facetime with her like she did.

before covid we had one “date” which was watching a movie and talking after

it was a horror movie so during the scary part i reached out to hold her hand cause that’s what i’d seen in all the books and tv shows

physically it wasn’t repulsive (like human contact is nice, holding hands with ur friends can be dope) but it didn’t give me any crazy Gushing Feelings of Love

we basically only texted and did mundane shit like send funny memes WHICH I WAS FINE WITH cause it was the same things i did with my other friends :)

when vaccines started rolling out and people were meeting up irl again i lied about when i was getting vaccinated so i could put off seeing her as long as possible (still was in hardcore denial atp and attributed it to being “shy”)

i finally did see her irl at a double date dinner that my ex gf and 2 other ex-friends and almost had a panic attack and vomited at the restaurant

back on the topic of hand holding: later after dinner when we were walking around outside she kept like moving closer to my side and i thought she was going to try and hold my hand so i literally like Clasped my hands behind my back  because i was so scared she would try something

so yeah after that i was like ‘okay this may not be Allo™ behavior’ 

“liking” someone that you already know likes you, maybe because it would give you a chance to get in a relationship and “feel love like everyone else”

my “crush” on my ex-gf basically went like:

we were in the same science class

seated next to each other in the beginning of the year

she found my instagram and started messaging me on there a lot about seemingly random stuff

i thought it was weird and i was like ‘wait is this someone liking me’

i made a gay joke with her to Test my Hypothesis™ (id’ed as bisexual at the time) and found out she was gay

atp i was like okay i think she has a crush on me...

kept talking to the girl because i had never seen someone have a crush on me behavior and i thought it was pretty interesting

actually hung out with her once for her birthday, first time i spend a lot of time actually with her

getting a better look at her face i saw that she was actually pretty cute (shoutout to aesthetic attraction for not being confusing AT ALL /j)

deduced that i must have a crush on her because i liked her face

also for context at the time i was really struggling with imposter syndrome about my sexuality because i never liked a girl and felt like i was “faking my gayness”, so i kinda latched onto this opportunity so that i could reassure myself like ‘no i was right i DO like girls!!’

but anyways i “confessed” to her over text and later when we met up to talk about it i literally did not care if we dated or not i left the whole decision up to her

in retrospect not a good decision i am mentally scarred. /hj

being called out by partners for being “emotionally distant”, treating them “more like a friend”, etc.

HOO BOY in my breakup text my ex basically went off about how we “felt more like friends that lovers” and complained about like how much time i spent with friends vs with her

i remember just being like ‘?????? i’ve known these people for like 8+ years??? and you for 2????? is the priority not obvious??????’

yeah basically allos actually feel stronger for partners than they do for their friends had to learn that the hard way

not wanting to talk to people about your relationship

one of my friends would always text me to ask “how it’s going!” with the relationship and it always just made me really uneasy and i’d try to shake it off and steer the conversation away with really vague responses like “we’re vibing haha”

conversely, telling A LOT of people about the relationship to show that you finally “did it”

i told my friends about the relationship because everytime they asked me about crushes i would say “i don’t have any” and they’d always follow up with some like “dude you don’t have to lie we won’t tell them!”

the relationship was basically just a chance for me to finally get people off my back and show that ‘hey i CAN love you guys i’m not abnormal or broken!’ :))

not really understanding how relationships work or what you want out of one

my entire understanding of how to navigate a relationship came from 1. AO3 fanfics and 2. whatever my ex wanted to do

she was the allo one and i did not know what the hell dating was about nor did i care to look into it so i just followed her lead for things that “lovers” do like sending “good morning texts” and shit like that even though i found it completely unnecessary and burdening

i just thought that everyone puts up with the parts of relationships that i hated (which is a lot) but NOPE people actually dig this stuff

HEADS UP this is the asexual section so stuff might get a little NSFW, nothing graphic as i’m a virgin but just fair warning! :)

you might be asexual if:

you like consuming erotica or other sexual material but it’s never self-insert, you read/watch/listen to it like you would any other story

it took me FOREVER to come to terms with this but 

you can like sex and still be asexual!!!! you can consume whatever sexual shit you want and it doesn’t make you any less ace!!!!!

for me personally i don’t really like porn and content of real people but i live and breath smutty fanfics (except that Y/N shit) and manga

i like watching/reading about attractive and pretty characters having sex with other characters but i never want said character to do things to me it creeps me out

im perfectly content with admiring(?) their good looks and bodies in these situations without feeling any kind of sexual urge for them

if this sounds relatable you might want to look into aegosexuality !

you can joke about and talk about sexual things, but the idea of those things actually happening is uncomfortable

my ex and i would talk about having sex, throw jokes around like “when are we gonna fuck haha”

though the conversation never got extremely physical or vivid without me feeling iffy

ie. i could talking about “fucking” but specific stuff like “what i would do to her”, body parts, etc. was TOTALLY an ick

i think i honestly was able to partake in it just because there was that barrier of a screen between us, and thanks to covid there was no immediate possibility of us having sex or talking about these things in real life and giving weight to them

your sexual fantasies about yourself and others you’re “attracted” to are ones you consciously decided to have

my exact thoughts word-for-word to myself were “oh wait i’m DATING my gf now i LIKE her that means i can think about her sexually!”

i fr had some kind of mental checklist of what to do before DECIDING to have fantasies about someone

my fantasies were also really vague and just blurry “concepts” of sex rather than seeing our faces and bodies

if i ever tried to think deeper into the “fantasy” with things like touching someone’s genitals, being touched there, oral, etc. it would immediately make me feel like super disgusting and even shudder sometimes

lowkey weird but i’d also choose to think about these things at times like in school so that i could relate to those posts from allos that are like “haha when you’re in class/at dinner/etc. and you’re just spaced out thinking about SexyTime with ur s/o!”

i hate allonormativity

you don’t masturbate to the idea of having sex with anyone, or if you try to include those thoughts it doesn’t really help or turns you off

ok confession i’ve never actually properly masturbated before 

like reach orgasm 

i’ve never ever had the urge to masturbate (i think i have like actually zero libido LMAO), but when i started dating my ex i was like “ok people in relationships usually masturbate and think about their partner, i should try this out!”

so long story short i tried to masturbate, at first i wasn’t thinking about anything and wasn’t feeling it, so i tried to think of my ex during it to see if it would help and it just ended up making things feel even weirder and i had to stop

you’re fine with being a virgin forever

not gonna lie i’m not 100% sure about this one

but no allo i’ve ever talked to has been like “oh yeah same my virginity isn’t a huge deal to me” they all seem to want to lose it at some point

you can recognize that people are hot, but it’s just the sexual attraction that isn’t there

PREFACING THIS BY SAYING I DON’T KNOW WHAT ALLOS MEAN WHEN THEY CALL PEOPLE “HOT” SO I’M GOING OFF MY OWN IDEA OF WHAT IT MEANS

like, i’m 100% ace but i can totally tell when someone (mostly 2D characters though) are like sheeeeeeesshhh like when they’ve got it going on y’know

like i know not all aces are like this

but personally i’m such a sucker cute anime guys with nice abs and arms and shit

and i’ll be like “damn he’s hot” in my head, but it’s in a way where he’s purely eye candy

like i could stare at fanart of this guy for hours and gush about his looks but it’s never in a “damn i’d fuck him” way

it’s MORE than “he is conventionally attractive.” like i have my own personal traits and features i find attractive in people’s looks but it’s LESS than lusting after him, he’s just very nice to look at

if i even think about getting sexual with someone i’ve been “thirsting” for it’s like an immediate mood-killer

if they’re fictional i’d rather just read a story about him having sex with another hot character it’s a lot more fun ;)

like there’s a guy in my math class who is literally DROP DEAD GORGEOUS and i’d admire his looks all day but i literally could not care less about getting to know him or dating him or anything with him

i pretty much don’t even remember him outside of that class like i only remembered him because i’m writing this rn

don’t even know the dude’s NAME LMAO

I THINK WE’VE REACHED THE END!

i hope this post can be helpful to some of you that are questioning! it was also just really therapeutic for me to write these things out and i feel a lot better afterwards :)

[foureyes802]

forming parasocial relationships w ur metal men. will u talk about pickles. for character ask game.

OH BOY WILL I! pickles my beloved. the cucumber of my heart

Sexuality headcanon: this man can fit so much bisexuality in him

Gender headcanon: I literally regularly forget trans man pickles isn't canon. yet another win for metalocalypse in being tv's Accidental Representation champion

Ship: NICKLES. I will never get over that fucking funeral scene at the end of season 4. they are canon to me and they should get married in the movie. just a suggestion ♡

broTP: thinking about this is making me realize how little time pickles spends 1 on 1 with the other guys in the show proper. i think he deserves to be closer with all of them actually. also it feels like cheating to say nathan again but they are autism+adhd besties to me. infodumping is a love language and brother, they are speaking

noTP: nothing but respect to the people who ship him with abigail but it just does not do anything for me. the way the show handled her kind of put me off from seeing her with pickles OR nathan. that being said the throuple is valid. i am deleting heterosexual love triangles from all media forever and interpreting the events of season 4 as desperate gay pining instead

random HC: i am a pickles younger brother truther through and through. firstly, burning down the garage and blaming it on pickles is an incredibly older brother thing for seth to do. secondly, watch Fatherklok and tell me he's the older brother. shoutout to that episode for being fucking nuts btw

EDIT bc i forgot general opinion. i love him he is so good. epitome of character that starts out as a joke and then becomes very fleshed out and emotional. lazzo and crofford are a pair of testicles for hating mtl because it started having continuity and emotional beats

[lesbian-in-leather]

Okay look, I’m going to make a big long post about the actual plot, but first I just... I just need to be upset about the absolute lack of queer rep for a minute, okay?

Because I never actually expected them to make any of the trio in an explicitly canon relationship. It’s the fucking mouse studio, and Amphibia always had way less freedom than the Owl House (which is literally getting cancelled for being gay), so I obviously knew it was never going to happen. However, a small, stubborn part of me did hope we’d at least get an implied relationship between two of them. Which obviously did not happen

However, I am so angry at the fact that they really sat there, and they didn’t give us any undeniable queer representation. That’s right, I don’t count Olivia calling Yunan “sweetheart” as undeniably explicit because while it does absolutely confirm to anyone with braincells that they’re dating/married, it isn’t explicit. English people genuinely do refer to family/friend as ‘sweetheart’. Hop Pop got an entire episode dedicated to his relationship with Sylvia, as well as several scenes in other episodes I believe, but all Olivia and Yunan get is one word? Dialogue is much more significant confirmation than the handholding, or the amount of blushing, because if the characters don’t discuss it, then it was probably put in by the animators. And yes, they have to get everything approved, but it’s a lot easier for them to slip something in than it is for the writers, and the higher-ups care about it less because it’s easier to deny.

But why does this make me so angry? I’ve been let down by plenty of shows in the past, why does this one make me so unbelievably angry when they gave me more rep than certain other things I’ve watched? Well, you see, it’s because of one of the relationships they did decide to make canon. I could have easily dealt with none of the trio getting together, and might have even been happy with Olivia and Yunan’s relationship ‘confirmation’ if it weren’t for the inexcusably explicit relationship that the mouse decided was appropriate for children.

The snail and the fucking bird. Yep. We can’t have human lesbians, and the newt wives are an implication, but we can literally show the multiple mutant children of the giant snail-car and the massive sparrow. We’re going to have them make affections noises when they see each other, and blush more than Yunan and Olivia combined, and then LITERALLY SHOW THEIR OFFSPRING. But yeah, the gays will scar children. Can’t have that in a kids show. No way.

So yeah I’m, uh. Not exactly pleased. Like I said at the start, I have loads of thoughts about the actual plot that I will absolutely make into a post, but I just wanted to rant about this first.

Shoutout to the animators for making Sasha as canonically bisexual as they could, though. That’s definitely something, even if it wasn’t ever mentioned in any of the dialogue