#should i feel sympathy for the one whos ideological violence knows no bounds?
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Frankly I wish star wars would stop with trying to show redemption stories through people who willingly join fascist governments and/or commit genocide it's very tiring.
#ch posts#the level of hatred and apathy youd have to have in ur heart.#idk i just dont care#should i feel sympathy for the one whos ideological violence knows no bounds?#you feel bad now boohoo#''theres still good in him'' works for lesser crimes#and now we have like what#4? characters? who went from violent oppressor to hero?#oversaturation#im tired of it#all of it#give me something else#please abeg
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My English teacher left me very confused when learning about Romeo and Juliet. He said that it wasn't a love story because they didn't love each other; Juliet just basically used Romeo, but I don't know what to think. Can you please explain to me if it's a love story, tragedy, or both?
Did your teacher say that Juliet used Romeo? How rude.
The first thing we have to remember is that the feud is the exponent of an unhealthy ideology that promotes violence, hatred, prejudice, and brutal misogyny. Donât ever forget the world they lived in. Romeo and Juliet are not normal teenagers living in a normal world and making stupid decisions. They are children whose mental health ends up destroyed by the ideals of their families. I just wonât stand anyone who refers to them as âdumbâ because itâs a very insulting way of dismissing the destructiveness of social oppression and abuse. Itâs so evident that their families caused their deaths that at the end of the play nobody has the guts to blame them for their own deaths and dismiss their emotions as shallow or dishonest. What they have done is too monstrous for them to deny. When both patriarchs find the young lovers dead together in the crypt they see the wrong in their actions and take responsibility for it. They know they killed their children. It was not teenage folly that ruined Romeo and Juliet. It was a sick society that glorified violence and prejudice.
Perhaps your male teacher is annoyed by the fact that Juliet hardly fits in the role of a sixteenth-century obedient wife who goes along with whatever her husband has to say. On the contrary, Juliet has a voice of her own. It is evident from the first conversation between the lovers that she has a very particular, specific way of thinking, and which doesnât necessarily match that of Romeo. For instance, she gently mocks his stereotyped courtship when she says âyou kiss by the book.â I would say she is a far better poet than himâhe actually learns from her. Think about the way she corrects him when he tries to swear his love by the moon. She literally rationalizes everything. Romeo needs to get on her level. Later on, he will ask her to âsweeten with thy breath / This neighbour air, and let rich musicâs tongue / Unfold the imagined happiness that both / Receive in either by this dear encounter,â to which Juliet answers that âconceit, more rich in matter than in words, / Brags of his substance, not of ornamentâ. You see, she doesnât always agree with him, and she presents her own points of view resolutely. She is the one to give lessons.
Moreover, she is capable of turning against Romeo. Look at her reaction to Tybaltâs death:
O serpent heart, hid with a flowering face!Did ever dragon keep so fair a cave?Beautiful tyrant! Fiend angelical!Dove-featherâd raven! Wolvish-ravening lamb!Despised substance of divinest show!Just opposite to what thou justly seem'st,A damned saint, an honourable villain!O nature, what hadst thou to do in hell,When thou didst bower the spirit of a fiendIn moral paradise of such sweet flesh?Was ever book containing such vile matterSo fairly bound? O that deceit should dwellIn such a gorgeous palace!
She only truly decides to stand up for him when she decides that it was most likely Tybalt who started the fight. So she has a very clear perception of judgment that she uses all the time, even when it doesnât benefit Romeo. He recognizes her independence and doesnât expect her to behave in a way she doesnât agree with just because it would do him good. When he is banished, he anxiously asks about her well-being, aware that he may have lost her sympathy for good:
Spakest thou of Juliet? How is it with her?Doth she not think me an old murderer,Now I have stainâd the childhood of our joyWith blood removed but little from her own?Where is she? And how doth she? And what saysMy concealâd lady to our cancellâd love?
Juliet is a really complex character who doesnât need to adopt anyoneâs posture because she has thoughts and ideas of her own. She has personality. Look at her words. Her courage is limitless:
O, bid me leap, rather than marry Paris,From off the battlements of yonder tower;Or walk in thievish ways; or bid me lurkWhere serpents are; chain me with roaring bears;Or shut me nightly in a charnel-house,O'er-coverâd quite with dead menâs rattling bones,With reeky shanks and yellow chapless skulls;Or bid me go into a new-made graveAnd hide me with a dead man in his shroud.
She doesnât mind breaking any rules that may prevent her from getting what she wants. And she breaks them simply because she wants to. For instance, living in a world where names, honor, and dynasty do indeed determine peopleâs lives, she claims that what makes Romeo valuable has nothing to do with his surname. âWhatâs Montague? It is nor hand, nor foot, / Nor arm, nor face, nor any other part / Belonging to a man.â Tell her that her Romeo is not free from social constructs. Sheâll fight you. And where does she get all these ideas from? She gets them from herself.Thereâs this delicious youth about her, this restless euphoria, this passionate determination, this unstoppable fierceness, this need to experience life freely. Juliet is too alive to stay quietly in the shadows. She has fallen in love with liberty so deeply that once her only chance to achieve freedom dies, she inevitably, tragically, dies as well. In my opinion, she is the most intelligent character in the play. She has some of the deepest and most revolutionary speeches. She makes what is to me the hardest and scariest decision when she drinks the friarâs potion. She is the sun. She is life itself. Romeo knows and admires this. In his dreams, Juliet brings him back to life because âshe breathed such life with kisses in my lips.â Her love is stronger than all the hate living in Verona: âLook thou but sweet, / And I am proof against their enmity.â To him, she is a powerful light forcing her way through the window, overcoming the restrictions of the physical space, and thus freely expanding herself through the sky without restraint: âWhat light through yonder window breaks? / It is the east, and Juliet is the sun.â
However, the patriarchal structure of her society inevitably thwarts her liveliness. She must restrain herself. Look at the way she refers to her house: âBondage is hoarse and may not speak aloud.â She feels like a prisoner who must stay silent. But if she were free, things would be quite different: âElse would I tear the cave where Echo lies / And make her airy tongue more hoarse than mine / With repetition of âmy Romeo!â Now compare that with her attitude in the first act, before she met Romeo. She had assured her mother that she would âlook to like, if looking liking move. / But no more deep will I endart mine eye / Than your constent gives strength to make it fly.â She is trapped in the role of the submissive daughter who allows her parents to command her life. She didnât dare contradict her mother the way she does with Romeo later on. So while she must show obedience to her parents, she can let out her real self in Romeoâs company. He is interested in listening to her and taking into account whatever she has to say. She finds a friend in him, as she once says, and she begins to free herself from the constraints of her society. Romeo is her chance to achieve a more exciting life. But even as she imagines him as a little bird that she can cherish, she stresses her lack of freedom as opposed to his ability to fly. She is âloving-jealous of his liberty.â In the âbalconyâ scene (though there really isnât any balcony), she is locked in her window. But look at the stage direction from 2.6, which is when they get married:
Enter Juliet somewhat fast and embraces Romeo.
She comes in running and immediately hugs Romeo because she is finally free to move. So after gaining some agency through their love, she is not ready to let the friar âdisposeâ of her âamong a sisterhood of holy nunsâ in the last scene. Iâm inclined to read the play as the loversâ attempt to assert themselves in a society that doesnât care about them. They try to build new, private identities that do not match their public roles. I will not say they used each other because of the negative connotations of the word, but I will definitely say that they took advantage of their relationship to explore their real selves and figure out what they really wanted to be, and not what their relatives wanted.
I canât see how anyone could claim that Juliet used him when she is so tenderly in love. In the balcony scene she feels like she will have to wait for âtwenty yearsâ to receive Romeoâs news when sheâs actually going to send the Nurse for him at nine oâclock in the morning. When she realizes the night is nearly over, she lets him go, but âno further than a wantonâs bird.â She literally fears she would kill him âwith much cherishingâ because she has too much love to give. She actually feels like her affection is endless: âMy bounty is as boundless as the sea, / My love as deep; the more I give to thee / The more I have, for both are infinite.â It makes her feel so rich she âcannot sum up sum of halfâ her wealth. She complains that âloveâs heralds should be thoughts / Which ten times faster glide than the sunâs beams.â She wishes her thoughts and Romeoâs could communicate instantly because the Nurse fails at being âas swift in motion as a ball.â (Notice how she is talking about thoughts here. Thereâs a lot more than physical desire going on between Romeo and Juliet.) She is so happy to be with him that she pretends it was the nightingale singing. And then thereâs the kind of metaphors she creates for him. They are tender and loving. The Nurse says she has been making puns out of the similarities between Romeoâs name and ârosemaryâ. Can you get any more ridiculously sentimental than that? He is her âsweetâ, the âgod of my idolatryâ. She thinks that âevery tongue that speaks / But Romeoâs name speaks heavenly eloquenceâ because he is literally perfect: âSo Romeo would, were he not Romeo called / Retain that dear perfection which he owes / Without that title.â
I would also like to stress that she is very protective of him. Romeo is a scared child who needs as much help as her. She does her best to free him from the constraints of their world. Picking up again the pilgrim/saint motif from their first conversation, Romeo asks Juliet to âcall me but love and Iâll be new baptized.â From that moment on there will be two Romeos: Montagueâs heir and her Romeo. Look at this dialogue between the Nurse and Juliet:
Nurse: Will you speak well of him that killed your cousin?Juliet: Shall I speak ill of him that is my husband?
She knows Romeoâs real, private identity depends on her. If she leaves his side, her Romeo will fade away and the feud will take over his existence. What makes her drink the friarâs potion, after having expressed all her fears, is the thought of Tybaltâs ghost haunting Romeo. She is afraid that Tybalt, who is one of the major exponents of toxic masculinity, violence, and rage, will destroy Romeo if she doesnât prevent it.
O, look! Methinks I see my cousinâs ghostSeeking out Romeo, that did spit his bodyUpon a rapierâs point. Stay, Tybalt, stay!Romeo, I come! This do I drink to thee.
Her fierce protectiveness is present all along. âI would not for the world they saw thee here,â sheâd do anything to prevent her family from hurting him. She stands up for him when the Nurse criticizes him: âHe was not born to shame. / Upon his brow shamed is ashamed to sit, / For âtis a throne where honour may be crownâd / Sole monarch of the universal earth.â I canât imagine anything she wouldnât do to keep Romeo safe and loved: âThings that, to hear them told, have made me tremble; / And I will do it without fear or doubt, / To live an unstainâd wife to my sweet love.âWhen her mother confesses her plans to poison him, Juliet wittingly offers to prepare the venom herself, making her mother believe that she wants to kill him when she is actually saving his life:
Madam, if you could find out but a manTo bear a poison, I would temper it;That Romeo should, upon receipt thereof,Soon sleep in quiet.Â
And then they subvert a lot of patriarchal norms: Itâs Romeo who rejects his name, though he never asks the same from her. They consummate their marriage in Julietâs bed (I read some critic say that Juliet brings Romeo to her âsexual territoryâ lmao) and finally, Romeo kills himself in the crypt of her wifeâs family rather than in that of his own father. I think this is perfectly conveyed in the last dialogue of the play:
Montague: For I will raise her statue in pure gold;That while Verona by that name is known,There shall no figure at such rate be setAs that of true and faithful Juliet.Capulet: Â As rich shall Romeoâs by his ladyâs lie;Poor sacrifices of our enmity!
Juliet is the center of their conversation. While she will be raised in pure gold and everyone will praise her, Romeoâs merit seems to be that he will lie by her side. Shakespeare acknowledges the importance of Julietâs character again by ending the play with the words âJuliet and her Romeo.â Which doesnât mean that Romeo is a fool that agrees with everything that Juliet says. He sometimes disagrees with her. (Remember, for example, when Juliet wanted to take it slow in the balcony scene. He answers, âO, wilt thou leave me so unsatisfied?â. More on that here. Another interesting part is when he agrees to stay with her after the nightingale vs. lark debate, though he still doesnât believe that she is right. He knows what Juliet is asking for is wrong: âCome, death, and welcome! Juliet wills it soâ). I would actually say theyâre equals. In fact, they are introduced as âa pair of star-crossed loversâ who âtake their lifeâ, not lives, as if to emphasize their alliance and their oneness. Romeo states that his love for Juliet is equal to hers: âMy heartâs dear love is set / On the fair daughter of rich Capulet, / As mine on hers, so hers is set on mine, / And all combined, save what thou must combine / By holy marriage.â To him, true love consists of a mutual exchange of affection: âHer I love now / Doth grace for grace and love for love allow.â The chorus claims that Juliet is âas much in love, her means less,â which leads me to believe that the play presents the lovers as internally equal and socially unequal, as this post explains here. Lastly, their parents promise to build equal monuments for both of them. Romeoâs statue will be âas richâ as Julietâs. It is as if after all the wrong they did, they are finally ready to honor them justly.
I think that while Juliet suffers because of her lack of agency, Romeo suffers because socially speaking he has too much agency (and he will have even more once he inherits his fatherâs possessions). He basically couldnât care less about his responsibilities as Montagueâs heir. Look at his attitude in the first scene:
O me! What fray was here?Yet tell me not, for I have heard it all.
The heir of the Montague house doesnât even want to know what happened. Later on he will attempt to kill himself in order to get rid of his name: âO, tell me, friar, tell me, / In what vile part of this anatomy / Doth my name lodge? Tell me, that I may sack / The hateful mansion.â On the contrary, Julietâs perception of the world revitalizes him as she believes that his real identity doesnât depend on his name. So of course he will describe her as âa rich jewelâ hanging in âthe cheek of nightâ, of course he thinks she would âshame those stars / As daylight doth a lampâ if she were in the sky. Of course Juliet is capable of bringing him back to life in his dreams. He clings to her in the same way she clings to him because she instroduces him to a purer side of life. She becomes his home: âAnd Iâll still stay to have thee still forget, / Forgetting any other home but this.â Itâs the pleasure of talking to her that he loves: âHow isât, my soul? Letâs talk; it is not day.â They transcend the restraints of their society with the freedom of their love. Look at Romeoâs words:
With loveâs light wings did I o'er-perch these walls;For stony limits cannot hold love out,And what love can do that dares love attempt;Therefore thy kinsmen are no stop to me.
(I think that passage is quite relevant nowadays, since prejudice and hate are inspiring people to build walls and ban innocent souls from coming in. Romeo might be overly sentimental, but the thing is he just wants to get rid of the hate thatâs been imposed on him and turn it into love. And thatâs not silly or âdumbâ. Not when you live in a world where hate is accepted and love is seen as a shameful feeling. Romeo refuses to be stopped by those who want to harm him out of hate.)
Itâs not that kind of love story where the characters get their happy ending after overcoming some obstacles. We know Romeo and Juliet are sentenced to die from the first lines of the play. The prologue tells us we are going to sit there for two hours to watch them fall. We donât know how itâs going to happen, but we know it will somehow. And I think part of the point is this: People canât be happy if their society doesnât support them. They canât be free if they are forced into violence, in Romeoâs case, and passivity, in Julietâs case. Itâs the story of two children who try their hardest to become what they want to be, and they do so with each otherâs help. But they fail because they are left alone. They die because they cannot live without each other. They cannot live without each other because nobody else can help them. Nobody else can help them because their society is sick. Itâs a love story that exposes the problems of a toxic environment.
As for the genre, itâs something that has been up for debate for centuries. Some say itâs a tragedy. Some say it shares some characteristics common of comedies. Indeed, you could argue that the play follows the pattern of a comedy up until Mercutioâs death. It really depends on how you want to look at it. Romeo and Juliet die, but the feud dies as well. Capulet and Montague assure that there will be no more hate in Verona. So you could say that Friar Laurenceâs wishes are fulfilled. The lovers, the âpoor sacrificesâ, turn their householdsâ rancor âto pure love.â Love wins. They fix their world. There will be no more violence. But the ending is evidently still tragic as the young lovers lose their lives. I would say itâs both a pessimistic and optimistic story at the same time.
This post is getting too long, but I could go on. Come back to the ask box if you have any question!
#thoughts#Romeo and Juliet#Shakespeare#long post#answered#thank you for your question#and sorry for the long answer#I got carried away XD#but do read it it's important!! and it took me ages haha#okay this is a broad question and I have a lot to say#don't hesitate to come back to the ask box if there's anything else you want to know
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