#she's bald and she's torturing people

[selfhelpwhelp]

So today I was on tiktok to avoid some uncomfortably relatable situations in this memoir I was reading and I saw a tiktok reminding folks to not take the mean/cruel/dirty things people do to them to heart because it usually is mostly about them...

And then I had then funniest realization... when people do you dirty often they tell you the things that would hurt them the most. My own recent behavior was the key to this clicking.

I've mentioned before that I wear wigs and that is primarily because I wear my natural hair extremely short(short enough for me to be called "bald headed"). It's cool it's edgy and unusual(especially with my weird head lolz) especially in the predominantly black area I live in(important for later as you can assume everyone I speak of is black). So I pull up the local chick-fil-a blasting my recent obsession (posted below). As I'm making the second turn, which requires passing the folks outside taking orders, I see the uniformed ladies giggling to each other. And when I pull up there's an exchange.

"Wow I love your hair." from the lady, a woman with a slick backed afro puff. (If you're a woman from the south you know the italics is dripping with sarcasm and teasing.)

"Thanks" I'm already wary because of the giggling, my musical choices and I grew up pretty much only receiving backhanded compliments.

She goes on, "I've always wanted to cut my hai- "

And I cut her off with a laugh because we both knew that wasn't true and from the coldness in her demeanor afterwards I was right on the money. But to the point of this essay growing up one of the things that upset me most was being mocked, teased and laughed at. By laughing at her, I felt I'd won a victory which in the way or passive aggressiveness is the first place prize. The same way I'm sure she thought she had an ace in the hole by pointing out my lovely buzzcut.

But the real victory was me laughing it off. It annoyed the hell out of me(because I'm a stickler for efficiency and was picking up food for family) and I didn't let it change/rule my mood. I reacted to her not my emotions on the matter.

And of course maybe I was wrong and it was a real compliment... but I doubt she would have been so mad I had to wait an extra 15 minutes for my food if it were earnest. Hazard lights and all.

[adultemophase]

ur telling me these were the leaks some of u mfs were voluntarily watching 😭😭😭

[prommytheus]

i have never played aai2

[iamfabiloz]

Messed up twilight plushie

[fishoutoflovebeach]

HELP I FELL DOWN A RABBIT HOLE AND YOU GUYS NEED TO SEE THIS TOO

bald autobots and decepticons…

sorry not sorry but this is what the look like ^^

[moons-of-weedclan]

What I’m doing when I’m not working on the next moon

[maybe-its-micheal]

Quackity asking Forever to ban backpacks and such for being too op:

[kekamao]

first instinct

[stabbyfoxandrew]

okay

survived the hair cut and i look so faggy now (positive)

[tallyhoot]

HES BALD

[clarityroses]

Might as well post this here too 😗

[xxgrassdemonxx]

Why does he look so sad in literally every panel post-war post-hospital? Let him have one nice thing please 😭

[lata-oxidada]

I wanted to draw him being bothered because of a "buyer" but things ended up taking other turns,help

[vodkainthevoid]

GODS GIVE ME THE MOTIVATION TO FINISH THIS BITCH

ITS BEEN A YEAR

PLEASE GODS

[harlequinlestat]

I finally got my hair cut. :’)

I used the Sam Reid pictures as a reference, and my hairstylist cut off about 6 to 7 inches of hair. He diffused it a little more than I will on a day-to-day basis, but I think I love it?! And I don’t look like Lord Farquaad! 😭🙏