#shareyourcalm

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👋🏿Raise your hand if you’ve ever been on the bench in sports or in life? * * * When the game is cancelled everyone gets benched. And when the game goes on people still get benched. * * * Regardless of why it happens-more often than not it’s not our favorite thing. So what does one do? * * * When we are on the bench it’s the perfect time for reflection, resting, prepping or working. And you have to decide how you’ll spend that time. * * * Schools closing, seasons shutting down, people being sent home from work. Contracts lingering that no one wants to move on. So much uncertainty. * * * And so many people who’ve never sat on the bench before have been forced there. * * * Do what is necessary and what makes sense to find a way to thrive through it. And if you’re doing okay and you’ve got a plan and things under control, consider coaching and helping out the rest of the bench. * * * What is happening now will have an impact on all of us in some way or another and some will be hit harder than others. * * * Pray for the sick, for those mourning their losses, those who are dealing with fear, job loss, and trying to figure out the space we are in. * * * We don’t have to gather together, or be in the starting line up of the game at all-one of the most important things we can certainly do is share our human- right from the bench. * * * #shareyourhuman #shareyourhumanity #fromthebench #benchplayers #ridingthebench #coachfromthebeach #feelyourfeelings #spreadkindness #selftalk #useyourtimeforgood #shareyourhuman #shareyourcompassion #shareyourcalm #benchwarmers #fridayfeelings #getupandthrive https://www.instagram.com/p/B9rh8fzH1GA/?igshid=1afrvweo8aod4

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Parent Question: “What if you want to be a responsive parent but your child pushes every button you have and you end up being a shouty coercive mom! It's so hard. Especially as coercive is hard wired in me as that was how I was parented. I so wanted my relationship with my child to be different.” “Believe it or not, I struggle with being a shouty mom. It's a lot of my reason for this constant self-reflection. We need to explore those "buttons" what are they? Why? Where did they come from? What do they feel like? But even before that, we need to focus on recognizing when "our buttons are pushed." And stopping ourselves, going into survival mode, before we shout. This is what has worked for me. I was yelling multiple times a day and now it's not even twice a month. And it's short, I catch myself and prioritize self-regulation.” J. Milburn I actually have a collection of tools that I created as a result of my own healing journey (that I am still on and always will be). I put them together in a bundle. You can access the Healing Journey Bundle through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #healingjourney #parentingsupport #parentanger #momrage #postpartummentalhealth #postpartumrage #reflectivepractice #holdingspace #shareyourcalm #giveyourselfgrace #selflove #children #selfcare #parenthood #wellness #recovery #momlife #childrens #parentquestion https://www.instagram.com/p/CX0f1p3rF3O/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Parent Question: “What if you want to be a responsive parent but your child pushes every button you have and you end up being a shouty coercive mom! It's so hard. Especially as coercive is hard wired in me as that was how I was parented. I so wanted my relationship with my child to be different.” “Believe it or not, I struggle with being a shouty mom. It's a lot of my reason for this constant self-reflection. We need to explore those "buttons" what are they? Why? Where did they come from? What do they feel like? But even before that, we need to focus on recognizing when "our buttons are pushed." And stopping ourselves, going into survival mode, before we shout. This is what has worked for me. I was yelling multiple times a day and now it's not even twice a month. And it's short, I catch myself and prioritize self-regulation.” J. Milburn I actually have a collection of tools that I created as a result if my own healing journey (that I am still on and anyways will be). I put them together in a bundle. You can access the Healing Journey Bundle through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #healingjourney #parentingsupport #parentanger #momrage #postpartummentalhealth #postpartumrage #reflectivepractice #holdingspace #shareyourcalm #giveyourselfgrace https://www.instagram.com/p/CWHST0qL99h/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Holding Space Holding space for your child’s big emotions should not feel like you are sharing their emotions. Often parents match or escalate their child’s dysregulation by simply trying to convey empathy. We need to try and be the roots of the tree, staying firmly planted, deep into the earth, as the wind blows the branches and leaves all around. Holding space is not about matching your child’s energy. It’s about providing a calm and safe energy for your child to match, when they are ready. This is why a dysregulated parent cannot hold space for their child. So if you are struggling with this, you’ll need to focus on yourself first. How can you hold space for yourself? Start there The Guide to Survival Mode Plans really focuses on these moments we feel dysregulated; why they happen and what to do about them ❤️ link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #holdingspace #coregulation #dysregulation #selfregulation #empathymatters #betheroots #secureattachment #tantrums #shareyourcalm https://www.instagram.com/p/CVnEFbKrVFq/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Try reflecting on your expectations of yourself and your children. Just “trying harder” and “doing better” may never help you to overcome this challenge because the issue is not with you and your ability to complete tasks. It’s an issue of self-doubt and self-worth. No amount of “getting it right” can “fix” those deeply embedded beliefs of inadequacy. Take a moment to reflect on these questions… 1. What are you saying to yourself when you feel overwhelmed? Write down 2-5 phrases 2. Is that what you would want to say to your child if you wanted them to feel supported? 3. Can you think of anyone who may have said these things to you as a child? 4. How did it make you feel then? Did it motivate and inspire you? 5. What do you wish was said to you instead? Now try to say that to yourself next time, instead. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting Read more about this in my latest e-book 👇 Finding Your Calm: Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation This 186 page e-book combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections, insights and also… links to additional research, articles and videos that can help support your healing and learning journey. Link in bio @responsive_parenting www.responsiveparentinginspirations.com #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #goodenoughparenting #goodenoughmother #perfectparenting #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #innerchildhealing #internalvoice #healingjourney #parenthood #parentlife #childhood #coregulation #attachmenttheory #toddlerlife #selfregulation #toddlers #attachmentparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #shareyourcalm #findingyourcalm #vagusnerve #parentingsupport #goodenoughmother #fatherhood https://www.instagram.com/p/CZ4MhpBrTlR/?utm_medium=tumblr