#seriously i hope someday all the mothers / girls / sisters /friends / etc... who have lost someone get the justice they deserve...

[mariasabanahabanabana]

March 8 is coming and Mexico (Latinoamerica in general) knows it

Context...

As Women History Month begins, listen to this powerful speech by Yesenia Zamudio, a Mexican mother who's daughter, María del Jesús, was murdered in her own apartment in 2016.

María was a 19 year-old Institute (IPN). After going out to party with classmateshter! and a teacher, they claimed she "went crazy" and "committed suicide".

A criminal investigation later reported that she was forcefully brought to her fifth floor apartment by her teacher and a classmate who after unsuccessfully trying to sexually abuse her, and as she struggled and screamed for help, threw her out of the window. María went into a coma and suffered head and leg fractures. She would die eight days later.

María's mother alleges that at least 7 people were involved in her daughter's murder.

Despite this, following a 5 year investigation, in 2021 a warrant was put out for the arrests of María's teacher, Julio Iván Ruiz Guerrero, and her classmate, Gabriel Eduardo Galván Figueroa for femicide. They have been't get fugitives since then. Mexico suffers one of the highest rates of femicide (the killing of women and girls because of their gender) in the world, with almost 1,000 cases every year. Greatly exacerbating the femicide epidemic in Mexico are the often U.S. They prevail because of U.S. owned "maquiladoras" or textile factories that operate along U.S.- Mexico border policies such as free trade agreements which encourage U.S. companies to exploit low labour costs in Mexico and in these factories women are particularly vulnerable to sexual abuse, exploitation and forced labor.

It is for this reason that Yesenia's words keep having such a powerful impact: "I am a mother who had my daughter killed. And yes, I am an empowered mother and a feminist! And I'm in deep shit. I have every right to burn and to break. I'm not going to ask anyone's permission, because I'm breaking for my daughter. And whoever wants to break, let them break and whoever't. wants to burn, let them burn and whoever doesn't, don't get in our way!"

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I know that many times I have been mocked by the situation in my country and I have licked the balls of the United States (no, I am not going to call it America), however, I do recognize that the country (U.S.A) has its own, but... At least I know that out there (Abroad) I will not die for "macho" causes, if anything racist or xenophobic or better, I may not even reach those extremes, something that in Mexico (or any country From Latinoamerica or the Caribbean) would pass...

The fact of hearing every DAMN DAY THAT SOME WOMAN DISAPPEARED, DIED, WAS R4P3D, etc, makes you less want to go out, to have a normal life, sh!t is that even to dress as you want.

I live in a state where it's A CHINGO (a lot of) hot and it's summer, so if I want to wear a FUCKING SHORT I'M GOING TO DO IT AND YOU CANNOT HARASS ME FOR THAT...

i hate my country? No, but it really disappoints, desperate and stressful me. It disappoints me to miss out on experiences for fear of not coming back, that if I "get pretty" some idiot might r4pe me, that if I go out late for Any situation and something happens to me, the prosecution says it was my fault...

And this, Ladies and gentleman, is living in a third world and femicide country...

[messrsmemoirs]

Sometimes I wonder if I chose the right career path by choosing to be a teacher then I remember my fave character Remus Lupin is a teacher too & he is a good teacher so he inspires me to be a good teacher too. to inspire students, try and boost their confidence, be encouraging and kind. I actually think he’s probably my fave character as I have things in common like birthdays are close, used to love pranks, loves chocolate, similar insecurities, reserved, kind. Why is he your fave?

Alright this is long and personal and emotional so I’m adding a readmore and also a suggested content warning for child abuse and bullying and emotional blathering nobody wants to see.

For a number of reasons, many of which have changed or grown as I’ve gotten older. When I met Remus, I think I was about... nine? I was actually a little late getting into the Harry Potter fandom. I don’t even remember the year exactly, because I had no way of knowing how much the story would influence my life at the time. I think my first HP book was actually the Chamber of Secrets, and then I was surprised to find that there was one before?? And I had to read that one, too?? But I’m glad I did, because obviously two decades later I’m kicking here on a social media website for teens like a real adult.

Anyway, yes, when I met Remus I was about nine or ten, and... honestly, I think kid me was interested in his character for two reasons: first, because he was just a really kind person who was also patient and thoughtful. And second, because he was a werewolf. I’m not really going to lie, I’ve loved werewolves since I was a kid. So for kid me, that was like, “whoa, dude, that’s wicked rad,” and I definitely labeled that as the coolest thing since sliced bread. Dude was nice AND he’s a werewolf? A+.

I would label that as a brief introductory period, though, because I can remember in detail when Remus really started becoming this figure in my day-to-day. It was when I was 10-11, actually, and my parents had lost the fight with the bank to take over the mortgage of my late grandmother’s home. Having no place to go, we moved into a converted barn apartment in the dead of winter, very far away from the kids I had actually known. Now, I never had friends. Not really. I always sat by myself at lunch and on the playground, and leaving the few kids I could actually play with at recess was just a little blow unto mine heart. And when I went to this new school, I was all by myself. The kids spit on me and call me names, and I remember that there was this phase when I couldn’t look another person in the eye. We were so far away from everything that I spent the summer break alone (my parents were working and my sister was always spending the nights away from home on purpose), locked in the house-barn while it swayed in the wind like the old building it was. My parents were pretty emotionally abusive, and this was also around the time that my mother would start telling us about how she didn’t love us, tell us girls that we were fat for developing our breasts like we had a choice about puberty, or not make enough food for one of us because she was mad at us, things like that. Locking the refrigerator, blah, blah. The one teacher I had all year long (before the switch to middle school it was just one) actually went out of the way to keep me out of class field trips by not emailing my parents about changes to the schedule, etc. I remember I used to ride the school bus an hour each way, and I would like... beg God or whoever to just make it so that I wouldn’t feel emotions, and be like Spock. No emotions, so I could just be a robot and do what everyone expected of me. So... you know, this was a really rough region of time for kid me.

I think what really spoke to me about this silly book character was that he was just... really kind. And thoughtful, and he listened when people spoke about their problems. He took people seriously. He cared about people. And I think, looking back, that he was just the kind of personality, the kind of adult figure that I really needed in my life at the time. I didn’t ever have anyone to look up to growing up except for this fictional werewolf who, as the books came out one by one, was revealed to me as this person who was kind despite the things that happened to him. I was drawn in by how he kept getting back up in the face of adversity, when the entire world despised what he was without ever caring for who he was. How he suffered and suffered and was still so kind, how he still felt love, how he hated himself so much and yet he was doing so much good. ... And, you know, the werewolf thing was still cool, too, so there’s that.

When I was a teenager, I was the worst fan. I was very into Wolfstar, very into chocoholic Remus--and not that those things are bad, of course, but that was an earlier time, when we used Photobucket and something called Myspace, and I wore those black pants with chains on them because I was Different, not one of Those Other Girls. And please, I’m really not criticizing you if you do any of these things. More power to you, quite honestly. It’s just that I was kind of this kid who thought she was straight who had never had anyone ask me out ever, was very depressed all the time, and had anime soundtrack cds and wore a key to the house around my neck. I was very Not Cool. And my limited interaction with people and the world around me had me making these very limited headcanons that were all based on the fanon at the time, which were (surprise) wolfstar and chocoholic Remus. Yes, they’ve been around for literally forever. I hadn’t really matured in my understanding of the person Remus was, not really. But what I did admire were those same traits, and what I ended up doing was trying to push myself to be the person I thought he would respect. To be someone calm under duress, kind, and quick-witted.

And of course I was not those things, because I was a teenager going through a quiet emo phase that turned out to be the beginnings of mental illness. And I punished myself so hard for not being the person I thought I needed to be. I don’t do that so much anymore, but I still allow Remus to be my compass in life while being aware of his flaws (where I thought he had none when I was a teen) and more importantly, aware of my own. Nowadays, Remus is still the kind of person I hope to become like, but it’s so that I can be that person for someone else, maybe. So that maybe someday they won’t need a book to be their only friend, or maybe they can have a person in their lives who takes them seriously and treats them with kindness.

Adult me values Remus for who he isn’t as much as who he is. I value the deeply human nature of his flaws, and the raw emotional power his story really has. I value his inner strength and use it as a buoy for myself when I can’t help what’s going on in my head. I value that he breaks, and breaks, and breaks, and that he gets back up knowing that he will break again but doing in anyway. I value that he is afraid of people, afraid of the future, afraid of himself, because so am I. And he’s still such a kind and patient soul. He’s so angry and he has every right to be, but he’s still kind. He’s so hurt, and he lives his life in constant pain in one form or another. And he just... I don’t know. Remus has this awful life. Terrible things, unfair things, have happened to him, and he had all the potential and justification to become someone angry at the world and hateful of everything in it, but he didn’t. I want to do that, too, but I haven’t yet. I still have a lot to learn from him, and I’m really excited to see where things go in the future.

And I thought about being a teacher for a long time, actually, because of Remus. But I find that I’m not actually a good verbal communicator. Nor do I really feel comfortable with children... And I just don’t have the confidence. So I would actually love to hear about your journey into teaching and what it’s like in your experience with a little Remus in your head wishing you to do well. I did do a few things on my own because of him, though. I speak an intermediate amount of Welsh because of Remus, actually. ... Which isn’t the same as educating the next generation, but I get the jokes about carrots and morons now.

... So bear with me, as this was an entirely emotional ramble and not really coherent, but I do hope I was able to answer your question.

[rkyura-blog]

                       [ ･ﾟ✧  EMOJIPEDIA GUIDE TO KIM AHYOUNG LEILANI , PT. 1 ]

🍰 FAVORITE TYPE OF SWEET / DESSERT  

✧ — ; anything from hawaii, she misses her fave spots endlessly and tirelessly. mention the lilikoi creme brulee from hali-imaile general store in maui and she’ll regale you with stories of how she ditched classes just for a taste of the best creme brulee in the world

🐢 DREAM ANIMAL FOR A PET 

✧ — ; obsessed with the aristocats as a kid, she used to want a cat the most but after watching lady and the trump, siamese cats were ruined for her and so were every other cat in the world. while she loves playing with pets, she doesn’t think she’s suitable for the responsibility of taking one in. she thinks she’s the type that doesn’t go home enough to have a loving pet to come home to but try to convince her of that and she’ll be the one biting. as far as she’s concerned, she’s desperate to have a pet even when everything goes against it. 

🐙 DEEPEST DARKEST FEAR

✧ — ; she’s terrified someone will find out why she left boarding school, why she agreed to move to seoul because most of all she’s terrified that her baby sister will find out. the higher you are, the harder you fall. for years, she’s been setting herself up to come tumbling down.  

🌎 ONE LIFE TO LIVE IN THIS WORLD, WHAT DO YOU DO?

✧ — ; if she had a choice, she’d continue traveling the world. no settling down. just a kick, push and best of all coast on the back of her skateboard, recording her adventures the way she is trying to do now but on a much smaller scale. narrow it down to one location only? there’s no place she’d rather be than hawaii. you can take a girl off the island but you can’t keep her away for long. 

🎂 MAKE A WISH 

✧ — ; her birthday is a cause for celebration and she treats it as a national holiday. if it could be one for any reason, she’d lobby for it. at the mayor’s office, cash me ousside how bow dah? cake’s a must and blowing out every single candle is her specialty. she’s only celebrated one birthday so far in seoul and it wasn’t what she expected. it turned out to be more. ( see pending plot page for more info! ) 

🎓 ARE YOU ONE DEGREE HOTTER THAN THE REST? 

✧ — ; currently working on a undergraduates at kyunghee, she recently changed her major from business to interior design much to her stepmother’s dismay. as for her high school education, she was once enrolled in one of the top boarding schools in england as well as europe but left for personal reasons. 

📬 MAIL TIME, WHOSE LETTER MAKES HER WAG HER TAIL? 

✧ — ; as a child, she wanted to hear most from her father. now, she’d tear a letter from him in half if she ever got one. a strong if and she doesn’t carry any hopes for it. the person she’d like to hear from most is the person that probably wants nothing to do with her but she just wants to know if he’s okay. 

⌚ TICK TOCK, THE CLOCK CHIMES FOR YOU

✧ — ; in the words of ashanti and ja rule, “i’m not always there when you call but i’m always on time.” punctuality is a weakness of hers but she’s a reliable person when it comes to anything else. a shoulder to cry on? she’ll drop everything for you. a lunch date? you’re better off expecting it to end up being dinner. 

💰 ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD CAN’T BUY YOU LOVE

✧ — ; finding money on the streets is luck but to find a large amount / something of that much value, she’d never feel right holding onto it. her grandfather’s history as a cop guides her moral compass when it comes to things like that— it was broken when she was in boarding school but that’s completely different— and she’d either find the owner, turn it into the authorities, or donate it. her charity of preference? women’s shelters. 

👙 EVERYWHERE I GO, THE GIRLS WANNA DRESS LIKE ME

✧ — ; she doesn’t consider herself trendy and she wouldn’t purposely buy trends if she knew. if she is trendy, it’s in the sense that miranda describes in the devil wears prada: 

                                “you go to your closet and you select... i don't know... that lumpy blue                                  sweater, for instance because you're trying to tell the world that you take                                  yourself too seriously to care about what you put on your back. but what                                  you don't know is that that sweater is not just blue, it's not turquoise. it's                                  not lapis. it's actually cerulean. and you're also blithely unaware of the                                  fact that in 2002, oscar de la renta did a collection of cerulean gowns                                  ( ... ) then cerulean quickly showed up in the collections of eight different                                  designers. and then it, uh, filtered down through the department stores                                  and then trickled on down into some tragic casual corner where you, no                                  doubt, fished it out of some clearance bin. however, that blue represents                                  millions of dollars and countless jobs and it's sort of comical how you                                  think that you've made a choice that exempts you from the fashion                                  industry when, in fact, you're wearing the sweater that was selected for                                  you by the people in this room from a pile of stuff.” 

that being said she does have a particular style and it just so happens to match up with some of the current trends, like baseball caps, denim jackets, bomber jackets, etc. 

🎠 WHERE SHE STOPS, NOBODY KNOWS

✧ — ; rollercoasters are her jam and the ferris wheel is exhilarating but a bit slow for her taste. that being said, one of her favorite places that she’s visited is the boardwalk in santa cruz because it’s the best of both worlds. amusement park, a place to skate, and the beach but she’s only gone once in her life. even that was enough to make it her favorite. 

🔮 DO YOU BELIEVE IN MAGIC IN A YOUNG GIRL’S HEART? 

✧ — ; if she felt as if she was being deceived, rest assured she would definitely say something. it’s more unlike her to stay quiet but that being said, she does have some belief in psychics if they seem genuine. when it comes to spirits and ghosts, she is more forgiving because of the beliefs of those close to her in hawaii. despite what anyone believes, disrespecting the spirits on the island is unforgivable and she’s first to cause a scene if someone openly does. 

🎃 FAVORITE HOLIDAY

✧ — ; the first week of may, lei day is her absolute favorite because it was her mother’s and her mother’s before that. a family that adores flowers, she’s no different even if she chose a different career path in the end. while she cannot celebrate it in seoul, for her first year, she did wear flowers in her hair anyway and she plans on doing so again come may. 

🎶 THIS SONG IS FOR YOU

✧ — ; her personal music taste varies but she does tend to listen to more chill music, especially when she’s skateboarding but when it comes to dancing, her preference is mostly hip-hop. more classical music / ballad type of songs are her choice on rainy days but it’s not her go-to. 

💒 I KNOW THIS LITTLE CHAPEL ON THE BOULEVARD 

✧ — ; while marriage is something she considers in the far future, she doesn’t look for commitment now. romantic relationships are frivolous and she doesn’t believe she’ll find anyone soon. when she first meets anyone, unless the signs are very obvious, her opinion of a person remains platonic beyond a general assessment of attractiveness. determining if she finds someone attractive is easy, deciding to think of them as anything more usually doesn’t cross her mind. 

♓ YOU AND ME, LET THE STARS ALIGN

✧ — ; she is a scorpio and if she had the choice, she would likely continue to be one. other signs she thinks she could possibly fall under are aries, gemini, and sagittarius. positive traits of a scorpio that she relates to are: passionate, brave, stubborn, and a true friend. negative traits she relates to are: jealous, possessive, controlling, vengeful if wronged, and secretive.

🚼 BABY, MAYBE 

✧ — ; similar to marriage, she does think it’s a possibility in the far future and she’d like to be a mother someday, it’s not on her mind now nor does she think it will be anytime soon. she’s prefer to only have a few kids versus a large family because she’s from a family of only two children and most of her family before her was the same or less. her lack of attachment to anyone on her father’s side contributed to this because she doesn’t see the appeal in large families, or so she claims. the truth is, she’s very envious of a complete family and would only have children if she thought she could provide them with that. 

⚠ CAUTION: HOT 

✧ — ; on many occasions, she’s had to be talked out of doing something risky but the most significant to her is a police officer who became like an uncle to her convincing her not to surf with the possibility of a storm coming in. she didn’t think the warnings were valid with how calm the waters were but the winds came in strong. if she had gone, she would’ve been lost at sea and she doesn’t forget to thank him about it every once in a while despite the teasing. it’s not the first time he’s tried to convince her not to do something but it is the first he insisted upon so strongly that she actually heeded his words, words that saved her life. 

♿ TURN YOUR WEAKNESSES INTO STRENGTHS 

✧ — ; she is not physically or mentally handicapped. however, she could be considered emotionally handicapped because one of the reasons she does not chase relationships, platonic ones included, is because of her father’s abandonment of her mother. after growing up and both seeing and experiencing firsthand what it did to her mother, she refuses to let it happen to herself or her sister. their family has suffered enough. 

💊 TAKE A CHILL PILL

✧ — ; she is not medicated but she does take vitamins every morning and isn’t fond of eating breakfast for that matter. while it’s not the healthiest option, she opts for a type of shake instead of solids and snacks throughout the day. her bag always has some kind of food packed away into the smaller pockets. 

🌞🌜 MORNING BIRD, NIGHT OWL, BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHER

✧ — ; once fond of early morning surfing, she’s easily a morning bird but like a bird fleeing to the north once winter comes, she becomes more of a night owl in colder temperatures, choosing to stay up or out at night. when she was studying abroad, the nightlife was hers to rule and now that she’s in seoul, she’s tempted to fall back into bad habits. 

📚 THE MOST UNIQUE PORTABLE MAGIC

✧ — ; while she thinks of the world of novels as a beautiful place and she’d love to explore more, she’d much rather be out there living life, searching out adventure in a physical sense. it’s also hard to get her to stay still for long but the efforts have been made before and she’s fond of webtoons because they’re quick and short especially for the frequent bus rides she has to take in order to get around the city. it’s still an adjustment from living in honolulu. 

📓  DEAR DIARY

✧ — ; her deepest secret is one she wouldn’t dare write down but she did once keep a journal, at the advice of her grandfather who recognized too much of himself in his oldest granddaughter. the first secret she wrote is i wish i knew who my father was. now she wishes she never met him.