#self care is hard

[jgkhsgskdhskshfkakfhalhskakh]

yesterday i went to the mall and there was a bunch of clothes i wanted to get but im always so hesitant to spend money. i gave a few stores a good look. i want to go back and buy a few pieces. before i do that it would be a good idea to go through my clothes and throw out some that need to be thrown out and donate others that i dont wear. its hard to want to do this when i wear the same 4 outfits when im depressed, and ive been depressed a lot lately. what if i just throw the depression comfort clothes away? im giving it some thought.

[lunarflux]

summoning every ounce of strength in my body to not be online tomorrow but i know my cheating ass is not going to do that and will 100% automatically go to my pc right when i wake up so i can stare at my manuscript in the hopes that it will magically write itself

maybe i'll just binge world on fire tomorrow and the sight of ewan as tom bennett will force me to stay glued to my couch

[rigaudon]

Most of the time I'll be doing okay, and then I'll think about a hobby I used to do with friends and the thought of picking it up again by myself is so upsetting that idk if I'll ever be able to enjoy 80% of the things I used to love ever again.

[coffeevevo]

Yeah sex is great but have you ever experienced the delicious soreness of working out after you haven’t worked out in soooo long and feeling your muscles physically reboot???

[hisholymomoness]

Why do i suck at taking care of myself? (Hint i may have adhd and that is an acceptable answer.)

[finding-a-way-back-to-then]

I turned 28 the other day. I have now decided to be nicer to myself, I've been punishing myself long enough. I hope I can keep it up. End of speech.

[transman-badass]

It's two days into my writing hiatus and I have no idea what to do with myself

[tweetsofyj]

[purelightning7]

Feel like I’ve been jumped by life and her two friends.

[vaudeville-moggie]

waiting for everyone to go to bed so I can get up and eat something or do some form of self care

[venriliz]

So it's been over a year...

So it's really been over a year since I posted anything...but hey, I'm still alive! :) I recently started to be active on the Sims 4 Reddit and now I really want to post here again. I also changed my username from Ultravioletglitter to Venriliz! :)

In all honesty, this past year has been hard, really hard. It's personal of course but my mental health has really kicked me in the butt big time, it always kinda does but not like this. I'm pretty sure a lot of you can relate to this. At some points my anxiety got so bad that I had physical reactions only thinking about leaving my house.

I'm doing better now but there are obviously ups and downs. I'm getting more productive again in every aspect of my life and that feels really good! I really want to get back to contributing to the Sims Community again! Especially considering that I started playing a little over 20 years ago and it's been a safe space from the beginning!

[rigaudon]

gotta love that whenever a tv show has that obligatory episode centered around polyamory or open relationships, the characters (and by proxy, the writers) spend the whole time mocking the idea and act like loving two people at the same time is impossible/ludicrous/gross/a bad thing.

And that's not even touching on the part where 9 times out of 10 there will be a big reveal that ACTUALLY one of the poly characters is lying to their spouse/not okay with it/being deceptive in some other way/open relationships never work and now the writers will preach about monogamy using the cynical, serial philanderer character as a mouthpiece to show they are a secret romantic who deep down just wants a "normal traditional relationship" like everyone else.

rant sparked by me watching House rn and half the lines in this episode are like a kick to the chest because they're word for word things that have been said to me by people I care(d) about. To the point where it's uncomfortable to watch because I feel like i'm being personally called out and shamed by the writers. I also think the level of bullying Taub receives from the other characters (and, again, the writers) for his personal failings is wildly disproportionate given the shit that other characters (House) have done and gotten away with on this show (seriously, House).

[eternity-in-your-eyes]

The older I get the more I realize that taking care of yourself is less doing luxurious things and more doing things you really don't want to do. It's getting gas on after work so you don't have to worry about it the next morning. It's making sure you get enough water even if you don't feel thirsty. It's making sleep a priority even if you don't get everything done that day. It's setting a timer and cleaning for 15 minutes so you can be productive for a few minutes. It's taking a shower or brushing your teeth when it's the last thing you want to do because it will make you feel better. It's making even 5 minutes for your hobbies because it's good for your soul. So no matter how impossible it feels, take some time to do something you don't want to do this week. I promise it will feel good when you're done.

[just-goblin-thoughts]

Absolute bullshit that in this futuristic year of 2023 there is still no way for me to transcend my physical form and become a free-floating consciousness. You mean I *still* have to drag around this useless meat sack? And feed it and water it and clean it and exercise it? Every day?? And bits of it just hurt for no reason and sometimes when I'm having brilliant Thoughts I have to interrupt them to take care of another of its endless needs? Exhausting.

[the-farmers-rabbit]

really cool life hack for working out

have one playlist or album that is really high energy and make that your work out playlist. that is the one thing you listen to when you work out, and that is the only time you listen to it. for me, it’s the If album from Mindless Self Indulgence. I only listen to it when i’m working out and no where else. If i try to listen to it somewhere else, my body starts producing adrenaline and i want to run.

the brain is a machine, but that also means it loves patterns. so, give it a pattern. that music will signal your body to do what it does when you exercise. makes it a lot easier to get in The Zone and stay there for as long as you need

ALSO IF YOU HAVE EVEN AN OUNCE OF MOTIVATION TO GO WORK OUT, GO DO IT. DO NOT WAIT. GO AND DO IT BEFORE YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND

and bring gatorade. the life elixir of after work out recovery

[cursedcupid69]

Why is everyone telling me to do "self care"? I didn't sign up to care for this bitch