#school is for learning from books and learning to socialise with your peers your family is supposed to teach you societal socialisation

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I know that this tiktok is just a one off joke but truly, honestly, I feel for young adults now. When i was growing up we were actively taught by family how to manage in social settings-- if someone new enters your job as host is to give them a short two sentence briefing on the people they have the most in common with, drop them off together with a conversation starter, it was like a social puck drop, and then those two can go off about their shared hobby together We were taught how to politely disengage from conversations that were getting stale or failing. As guests: how to politely clean up around you so the host isn't overwhelmed, that you brought something to the party to share, that if you didn't know anyone you brought something homemade so people would have something to ask you about (yes the gifts are not just to share they're also your conversational safety net) Because people are growing up with less and less social interaction, they learn to socialise either via alcohol or online and it SUCKS to watch these 20-somethings go to parties and look incredibly stressed and uncomfortable, it's a social script! My social script was an immigrant family's script and it still maps pretty well to many cultural situations, so you don't really have to learn multiple scripts just learn the rules of one and then work from there!

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𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐫'𝐬 𝐍𝐨𝐭𝐞 - Second part to ‘Ocean’! Hope you enjoy it :> Reblogs, comments, shares and likes are really appreciated!!

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𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐖𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 - Amnesia, Memory loss, Blood, Mild gore, Death, Blood loss, Corpses, Food, Manga spoilers, Pre-canon and canon compliant to a certain extent, Nightmares, Relationship Issues (lack of communication), Overthinking/Anxious Thoughts, I criticise Nanami’s choice of clothing

𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲 -  Nanami Kento's life has been... Good, bad, and everything in between. He  (and many others) thinks he's mature, independent, the definition of  what a proper adult should be like. But really, the only way he's made  it this far is because you've been holding his hand the entire time. 

𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐝 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭 - 5k

Nanami decides to enter university and get a degree. He casts a life of sorcery behind and turns a blind eye to curses that peer at him curiously on the street. When you text him and ask about how life is in the city of Tokyo, he replies that it would be much better if you were here with him. You choose to ignore the meaning between the lines and tell him that he’ll do great in university; you’re sure of it!

Truth be told, his parents are more than glad to fund Nanami’s ventures and encourage him to do so. As a result, he finds himself engulfed by the world of rigorous studying. Lectures and tutorials drain his time from morning to evening, not to forget project meetings and whatever the hell ‘socialising’ means.

But campus life is invigorating. He wakes up to the smell of coffee and his roommate singing a foreign song with a catchy tune and has time to enjoy a lovely breakfast before he heads off for morning classes. Everything is done in his own time. No one rushes him to save the lives of innocent civilians, nor does the weariness of a day’s fight linger in his bones.

Quietly, gently. That is how Nanami’s time in university goes by. Writing essays on analysing market trends or a project on that sociology elective module he chose is nothing too tricky, especially when one compares it to sorcery. 

He learns to relax, unwinding in the golden hours of the evening with a Murakami paperback and a steaming cup of coffee by his side. Nanami meets new people — people who have never heard what a curse is (though he does find his witchy neighbour intriguing), people who have families at the furthest ends of the earth. Their companionship is refreshing.

You, meanwhile, earn a nice sum from working at Jujutsu Tech. You don’t work directly with curses (something which Nanami is thankful for) and enjoy your time surrounded by nature, treating the younger students with a smile and warm cup of tea. 

You and Nanami decide to move into an apartment where the commute is halfway between both schools. It’s a nice change of pace, really. You wake up next to each other in the blinding morning light, still entangled in the cheap (and slightly scratchy) duvet you got on sale. Nanami presses a kiss between your brows. You smile, your hand warm on his skin. 

“Good morning, Ken,” you croak as the sunlight frames your face.

You lean forward and place your head against his chest. Nanami’s hand strokes your shoulder lovingly as the both of you make small talk on the day’s events, then laughing when he makes a cheesy (and slightly indecent) joke about what he enjoys eating for breakfast. Your heart soars in your chest, catching the upwind and slicing through the clouds. It feels like heaven.

But the sea does not always remain calm and peaceful. Its tides rise and fall with the waxing and waning of the moon, and waves can come crashing down on boats that dare sail through its treacherous waters. 

Nanami buries the constant nightmares of Haibara under his pillow, waking up in the middle of the night with your arms around his waist. He pretends he does not see the curses that linger in the corner of his lecture theatre, nor the ones that stare back in the bathrooms. Nanami slips a pair of spectacles onto the bridge of his nose. His fellow classmates call him intelligent, quiet, but kind. 

He wants to believe that, too.

☆*: .｡.

Nanami joins a hedge fund company after graduation. 

“Are you sure that’s what you want to do, Ken?” you ask over the table.

The restaurant you had booked for dinner boasts of its month-long waitlists and seasonal menus. You poke at the raw fish that sits on your plate, Nanami holding a glass of amber liquid. He watches its colour swirl under the dim light.

“The pay is good. We’ll be comfortable.”

“I don’t care about money, Ken. I’d rather you do something less stressful and be happier.”

“Let me try it out for a year or so. That can’t hurt, right?”

He smiles, you smile. 

Your hand slips into his comfortably over the table, and your eyes meet in silent understanding. You squeeze his hand.

The company changes Nanami. Some things are obvious — the way he now parts and combs his hair back with wax, the pressed suits that line your shared wardrobe, the work phone that buzzes with notifications every minute of the day. Others are more… subtle. He comes home later and later each night, occasionally staying over in the office. His alcohol consumption increases. You spend the weekends alone. 

It’s gotten to the point where you’re lucky if you eat dinner with him once a week. You’re busy with your own work, too, but you assume that Nanami would be able to come home on at least the weekends. Your mind begins to drift.

Is there a colleague who wears a skirt too short, a manager who touches his shoulder a second too long? It’s been at least four years since you and Nanami had gotten together, and you still don’t know his stance on marriage or children yet. Does he love you, or does he love his job more? 

You fall into a pit of doubt and despair. Perhaps you should have been a lesser burden on Nanami. He spent so many hours taking care of you back then, wearing himself thin between missions, that the idea of him getting tired of being a caregiver to someone who didn’t remember him at all was… possible; reality, even?

There’s nothing original about you, either. Your handwriting is the same as a girl you’ll never remember from middle school, the way you text influenced by the students you work with. Maybe you laugh too loud. Or you’re too fat, too skinny, too quiet, too noisy, too blunt, too shy, too clumsy. So what made him love you? Or was he just in love with a previous version of you that you weren’t now?

It feels like you’re staring into a mirror when you try to remember who you used to be with childhood journals and photographs. The same face, the same body, memories that don’t make sense and a head that has become a blank canvas. A parent’s child, a teacher’s student. Unable to reach past the glass.

You don’t know who you are anymore with how you’ve changed to please Nanami — a person of personalities that switches in the blink of an eye. So why does he still keep you in his rented heart that’s full of other tenants, and under the contact name ‘Dear ♡’? You place the button in a drawer amongst a mess of spare keys, bits of tissue paper and promotional pamphlets. 

It’s tiring. Nanami’s head is in the clouds as you share a parfait, and you ask him, “Kento, do you really love me?”.

“What?” he asks incredulously. “Of course I do.”

The eyebags that are on his face have been there since two weeks ago. Nanami can’t remember when the last time was when he got a proper night of sleep, and currently, he’s thinking about the new client that-

“Kento,” you interrupt. “You’re exhausted.”

You point your spoon at him for extra emphasis, the tip of it having a dollop of whipped cream. 

“Pointing your utensils around is bad manners.”

“Never knew you cared about table manners.”

“Well, now I do.”

You lick the spoon clean and eye Nanami. He returns a tired stare before his gaze falls to the side and he lets out a sigh. He almost wishes that you would stop bothering him about this and let him go back home. There are so many emails he needs to send, and he can’t sit still without checking the stock market every hour or so. 

“Do you want to break up?”

The words come easier than expected.

“Huh?! What makes you say that?”

“You seem like you want to.”

“You can’t just assume things like-”

The girls sitting by the next table fall quiet. Nanami thinks that they’re eavesdropping on your conversation; you think so too. You glance quickly at them and they pretend nothing had ever happened, hiding their looks of surprise as they shove spoonfuls of dessert into their mouths.

“Let’s go somewhere else.”

You sound irritated. Nanami pays with his card, grabbing his things as you step outside of the cafe first. 

“Slow down,” he mumbles and pockets his wallet. 

You whip around.

“You can’t just assume things like that, Kento.”

“Fine, I’m sorry.”

Staring at him, your eyes seem glazed over. Tired, maybe. Tearing up, maybe. Maybe, maybe. Many maybes. Nanami doesn’t know what to say. He doesn’t know what’s been going on with you, actually. You seem distant, out of reach when you’re lying in the same bed as him. Is it the money; is he making enough to make you happy?

Nanami reaches out and tries to hold your hand (when was the last time he had done that?) when his phone buzzes. He retracts his hand and reaches for his back pocket, but you grab his wrist. He looks at you.

“What are you doing? Let go.”

Irritation laces his voice. 

“Don’t answer that.”

“Are you crazy? It’s from work. I have to.”

“Work this, work that! You spent the last year basically married to your office and the one time we get to go out together, you want to work?”

Your voice is sharp, slicing Nanami’s hazy conscience. He watches as it pools at his feet, a gust of fresh air tickling his skin. He relaxes his wrist and you pull your hand away. Passersby glance at you briefly before continuing their daily commute, not bothering to give you a second glance.

“Sorry,” you mumble.

“It’s okay,” Nanami replies. 

The both of you stand in the street, suddenly feeling as if you’ve drifted away from one other unknowingly. Like a boat in the ocean, Nanami rocks with the waves that splash gently on his hull. Everything is blue and vast around him. He can’t see the land. 

Nanami thinks about that girl at the bakery. The way she always cried out ‘Come back soon!’ every time he left as if he wouldn’t return a second time. And then he thinks about the clients he serves, all outfits and jewellery that easily cost half his salary. They shove money into his hands, expecting even more in return without a word of thanks. 

“Hey,” Nanami says. 

He reaches out across the waters and grasps your hand in his. You look up, eyes brimming with tears. He swipes at the corner of your eye with his thumb. Understanding washes over him and he takes a deep breath. 

“I’m sorry,” Nanami whispers sincerely.

That night, he calls Gojo when you’re safely tucked into bed. Nanami tries to ignore how the older sorcerer cackles at him and hangs up once the call is presumably over on his end. He slips under the covers as you turn over in your sleep, resting against his chest. Nanami kisses your brow. 

He gets his first night of good sleep in a long, long time. 

☆*: .｡.

Nanami falls back into the rhythm of sorcery. He trains for a good month until he gets his stamina and strength back, obtaining a new weapon from the school for his missions. Gojo seems oddly delighted to see him return, laughing when Nanami’s out of breath from a workout.

“Ken,” you say, wrinkling your nose when he steps out of your shared bedroom. “You’re going to work in that?” 

Nanami adjusts the cuffs of his sleeves, staring at you. 

“Is this not appropriate?”

You observe him from head to toe. The leopard print tie, blue shirt and tan suit — you resist the urge to tell him he’s so close to looking like a pimp. Out of all the lovely suits that Nanami has, he chooses to wear this one?

“It’s a bit bright, that’s all,” you laugh. 

“I thought I would go with something eccentric. You don’t get to wear this at the office,” he remarks, striding over to the kitchen to grab your packed lunches. 

You remain quiet and fiddle with a loose thread on your own suit jacket. 

“Something the matter?”

“Oh! Nothing at all. Let’s go.”

It’s more convenient now since the both of you work at the same place. Nanami drives to Jujutsu Tech every morning and picks you up in the evenings as well. He detests how Gojo makes fun of him for it, calling him a ‘lovely husband’. It makes your cheeks warm, and you duck your head before Nanami can ask you anything about it.

Peace reigns true for a few months. The morning routine is a nice change of pace compared to Nanami’s previous job. You’re able to spend more time together, even to the point of going grocery shopping or watching a movie with takeout on Friday nights.

Nanami relaxes only a little. Compared to office work, this is probably just as bad. First of all, he has to see Gojo almost every day and have him talk his ear off. Secondly, he returns to being the balance between life and death for civilians once more. It’s not a task he enjoys. However, he harbours that the thanks he receives and the lives he saves are a good enough exchange. 

Years come and go, as do students of Jujutsu Tech. Nanami sees more dead sorcerers and exorcises more curses. You quietly type away at a laptop, filing their deaths and completing any tasks you’re given from the higher-ups. It seems that life has slowed down once more and you return to a monotonous pace. 

You wonder if your relationship with Nanami will progress any further. It’s been close to nine years and yet… nothing has developed beyond living together or the odd weekend date. That’s not to say that you don’t love Nanami. You do, honestly. He treats you well and listens to your occasional nagging to put his stacks of books away, but you want something more. You crave the thought of getting married, to be lawfully his and maybe start a family. But, contrary to belief, Nanami isn’t opposed to it when you bring the topic up over dinner one night.

“Marriage?” 

His chopsticks pick off a portion of grilled salmon and he brings it to his mouth with some rice. He chews, swallowing.

“Yeah. I mean, we’ve been together for so long, you know? So it kind of seems natural for us to do so.”

Your gut twists nervously. The steam from your miso soup rises silently in the air, wisps of white smeared out at the edges. 

“Sure.”

“Huh?”

“Sure, let’s get married.” Nanami says.

You have to physically close your mouth and your eyes are widened in shock. Your heartbeat accelerates that much faster.

“Are you serious?”

“Well, were you serious when you asked me that question?”

Heat rises to your face. 

“As you said, we’ve been together and living under the same roof for quite some time. Marriage seems like a plausible idea.”

“Then let’s-!”

“But I have one condition.”

Momentarily, your heart wavers. Nanami finishes the last drop of miso soup in his bowl and balances his chopsticks on top of the porcelain. As usual, his plate and bowls are scraped clean. 

“I’ll only get married after I stop being a sorcerer.”

Your face twists in confusion as you try to understand where Nanami is coming from. You don’t get it — didn’t being a sorcerer mean that Nanami faced death everyday and that he should be taking advantage of what time he has left? But, of course, you don’t mean to curse him into an early grave like that. Except… Except that your face visibly falls and Nanami takes notice of it.

“I’d rather not have my life entangled with curses more than it should be. Once we both earn enough money and have a nice savings account, we can retire and go do whatever we want. Besides, I’ll invest. It’ll be more than enough.”

You remain silent and stare at your half-finished dinner. Nanami reaches over the table and takes your hand in his. 

“Can you give me some more time, please?”

You don’t reply. 

☆*: .｡.

“Did you hear about the new first years?”

“Mm. The one who died, right?”

“Gojo wants me to mentor him for a while.”

Nanami’s hands are positioned on the steering perfectly. His palms guide the car carefully through the steep roads that climb up to Jujutsu Tech. You flip through a checklist of things you need to do for the day.

“Will you be heading out of school?”

“Probably. There’s a scene I need to check out.”

“Stay safe, alright?”

“Of course. You too, don’t forget to have your lunch again.”

Nanami pulls into the parking lot of the school. Leaning over the clutch, he presses a kiss to your hairline. You gently peck his jaw.

“See you tonight. I might not be able to pick you up, so get Nitta to drive you.”

“See you, Ken.”

Nanami watches as you open the car door and step out. You turn back, giving him a wave and smile through the window. He returns the gesture. Once you’re out of sight, Nanami pulls out his phone as he sits in the car. He thumbs through his emails and his Adam’s apple bobs as soon as he sees the confirmation sent to him. A loose sigh worms its way out of his chest. He pushes the door open and steps out. 

The rest of the day is spent teaching Itadori Yuuji about the sanctity of being young and simpleminded. Sorcery isn’t child’s play — especially when there are lives involved. He watches as Itadori’s face crumbles at the mention of the transfigured humans. He wants to comfort him, place a hand on his shoulder and tell him that it isn’t his fault.  

They have a quick debrief of the situation with Ijichi before parting ways. Nanami shoulders his burden once more, watching as the car pulls away in the direction of Yoshino’s home. 

As night falls, Nitta drives you home. She’s chatty, serious about her job and does it well. You smile when she gushes about how lovely Nanami must be at home, and, oh! Do tell him to lighten up at work. 

You thank her when she drops you off. As you walk through the lobby of your apartment complex, you make a routine stop by the mailboxes. Junk, bills and… a box? You flip it over to see who it’s addressed to; perhaps Nanami had ordered something online. However, your name is printed neatly across the label.

The first thing you do when you get home is to open the box. It’s small, probably not more than a hand’s breadth in length. Your pen knife slices through the tape cleanly and when you push aside the flaps, you spot two velvet boxes sitting in a mess of paper filler. Your fingers tremble when you pull one of them out and open it. 

A silver ring sits in the furrow of a cushion with Nanami’s name on the inside. Your heart skips a beat and you reach into the cardboard to pull out the second ring box. This one is a little larger, with your name engraved on the interior side of the band. It must be Nanami’s, then.

It’s already well past 6p.m. as you dial his number with your lower lip between your teeth. You pace around the house, bouncing on the balls of your feet. What were these meant to be? Promise rings? Engagement rings? You hadn’t dared to slip the one with Nanami’s name engraved onto your finger just yet.

“Hello?” 

Nanami’s breathing is laboured. Your heart falls and you stop in the middle of your living room, staring ahead at nothing.

“Ken? Are you okay?”

“Yes, I’m fine. Just… just a little hurt. It’s nothing serious.”

“Are you sure?”

“I’ve called Ijichi to pick me up, don’t-”

“So it is serious, then!” you cry out in horror. 

“No, no. I said I’m fine. Look, did you receive the rings yet?”

“I did, but that’s not the point now. Are you safe?”

“I-”

You hear Nanami’s phone clatter to the ground and the thump of his body on the floor. 

“Kento?” you whisper.

He doesn’t reply. 

☆*: .｡.

You’re seated on the floor of your shared home, an oversized pajama shirt stolen from Nanami’s closet swallowing you. Sunlight pours in through an open window at two in the afternoon and the quiet hum of vehicles outside can be vaguely heard.

Clip, clip, clip.

One hand holds a nail clipper, while the other cradles Nanami’s fingers gently. The blond watches you absentmindedly while you trim his nails. He had insisted he was perfectly capable of doing them on his own, but the glare you gave him made Nanami sink back into the sofa. 

He was hurt after a fight with Mahito — the wound on his side made him grimace whenever he stood up, and Nanami found himself relying on you more than he wished to. Thankfully, he had passed out from blood loss and pain but nothing too devastating had happened. That didn’t change how concerned you were about him, though. You try to forget how you had hailed a taxi just to rush back to Jujutsu Tech to see Nanami lying in the sickbay with a blood drenched shirt. 

Nanami thinks it’s childish. When was the last time someone had clipped his nails for him? Was it his mother? A warm breeze wrings itself through the window. You run the pad of your finger over the cut edge, feeling for any sharp portions. 

Nanami stares at the top of your head. Your fingers feel uncharacteristically soft against his own calloused ones — wielding a weapon in battle wore his palms down at the end of the day. He doesn’t particularly want to admit he likes it.

Nanami is a man of truth. He hates lying, and definitely doesn’t tolerate beating around the bush. But if he spoke as he thought, told you everything he felt about you as often as it came like the wind, how would you react? He clutches his heart in the aching hand of a budding teenager, the fears of facing a cruel world fresh in his mind. 

Being a sorcerer means facing death on a daily basis, especially with the increase in curses with modern times. It doesn’t help that with both of you on the field, it means double the chances. Sorcerers never die without regrets.

Nanami wishes he could love you more, let you explore each crevice of his heart without fear of leaving you; being left behind one day. He doesn’t want to curse you if he dies. He doesn’t want to become a burden to you any more than he should be. 

Clip, clip, clip.

“Is it too short?” 

You glance up briefly at Nanami and brush the hair out of your eyes. He stares down at his fingers and feels them over with his thumb. He shakes his head.

“No, it’s fine.”

You nod and move on to his next hand. You’re systematical about it — trimming off most of the grown parts in three portions, then a couple tinier clips to finish the job off. A nail file sits on the ground beside you, the tiles of the floor cool against your bare legs.

“Hey, Ken?”

“Hmm?”

“I heard that there’s a new bakery opposite that popular department store. I was thinking of going to take a look later. Do you want me to get anything for you?”

“Nothing too sweet would be nice.”

“Okay.”

The living room falls back into a comfortable silence.

Clip, clip, clip.

☆*: .｡.

It takes a few more weeks before Nanami is cleared by Ieri to return to regular sorcery work. He tries to rest in the downtime he has, he really does — but the itch to get up and finish Mahito off has him restless. 

At this, Gojo sends Nanami and you off to Hamamatsu on another curse investigation for a change of scenery. Gojo doesn’t want to admit it, but he had mumbled to you something about taking care of Nanami’s mental health. Maybe the beach would help? You told him he sounded like a doctor from the 20th century. You’re not one to refuse a free trip outside of Tokyo, though, so you and Nanami pack your luggage and troop off to Hamamatsu on the Shinkansen. 

“Thank you.”

Nanami’s fingers curl around the ice cream cone handed to him, the sun scorching his back. It’s too hot for this; for anything, really. He makes a mental note to give Gojo a good stare of disapproval once he returns to school. 

Why did the mission have to be on the warmest day of the year? With how the heatwave makes perspiration trickle down your back, though, the dangers of facing a possible special grade curse is the least of your worries right now.

“It’s so hot!” 

You eagerly lap at the soft serve, savouring the cold, sweet treat. Nanami wanted to take a photo of the ice cream, but- oh well, you’ve begun eating, and the horrendous heat would have probably melted it before he found a good angle, anyways. 

Protected by the shade of a shopping district, Nanami and you had agreed to find refuge for a few hours — the curse could wait till the sun began to set. Besides, it would be more likely to turn up after dark. 

“How does yours taste, Ken?” you ask and peer over at his cone.

He had gotten a cookies and cream flavoured one, despite how you egged him on to try out the local eel flavour. Nanami was not going to ruin his taste buds just like that, thank you very much.

“It’s alright,” he says, licking traces of ice cream off of his lips. “Could do with a little more cookie.”

“Wanna try mine?” 

You stick your cone into Nanami’s face. He’s greeted with your half-eaten soft serve, where your tongue has made a path of its own against the original swirl. He eyes you carefully and you offer the cone to him once more.

“That’s unhygienic.”

“Oh, come on, Ken! We’ve kissed before, sharing saliva on ice cream is nothing compared to that.”

Heat rushes to his face, though Nanami assumes a composed facade. He blames it on the weather without hesitation. Not wanting you to tease him anymore, he leans forward and nips a tiny portion of your ice cream off of the tip. 

“Yummy, isn’t it?”

“Mmm.”

“Want to try mine too?” 

The words leave his lips on reflex. Nanami wonders when he’s begun letting you try his food — when he used to be so adamant that no one could even touch its container or look in its direction (thanks to Gojo’s greedy fingers). You nod excitedly and lick off of a portion. 

“It’s good!” 

What was the first time he had said it to you? Over oden in the winter; over those disgustingly sweet slurpees you insisted on from 7 11? All those small moments that had built up culminated in Nanami’s affection and understanding towards you. The way in which you offer him a bite of your food without expecting anything in return; is that what love is like? 

“You’ve got some ice cream on your face,” Nanami says.

You instinctively use your tongue and try to clean it off. “Did I get it?”

Nanami shakes his head. “It’s on this side,” he replies, pointing a spot on his own face.

You try again, to no avail. Nanami sighs.

“What would you do without me?” he asks monotonously, using the pad of his thumb to wipe it off.

You stand there, frozen for a second when he leans in. His promise ring is cold against your cheek.

“Kento?” you whisper. 

Under the light of the shining sun, he presses his lips to yours, shielding you from warm rays and the glances of passersby with his back. You let out a muffled sound of surprise as you taste cookies and cream, your eyes fluttering shut instinctively. 

Nanami isn’t a fan of public affection. God forbid Gojo see him kissing you, really. But as he leans back and watches your half-lidded eyes stare up at him, he asks himself if you’ve ever received his own sort of love in return. 

A relationship’s all about give and take; but has he given as much as he should have? Has Nanami loved you in a way that matters? Life is a fleeting concept to all sorcerers. Should he die and leave you behind, Nanami wonders if he would pass without any regrets. Did he do enough when he tugged the covers over your shoulders when you fell asleep on the sofa, was there more he could have done even after buying you that watch you had eyeballed for the past few months?

There’s that sort of incompetence that curls up in his chest on sleepless nights, even with you tucked into his side. It makes his head spin and his heart fall into a bottomless pit. With all the eyes of juniors and students that look up to him, Nanami can’t help but wonder if he’s truly as good as everyone thinks he is. Being a sorcerer holds little problem. But what about a lover, a husband?

He couldn’t save Haibara, so how dare he think about…

“Kento,” you swallow. “Ken?”

Nanami snaps out of his daze. “Huh?”

“I dropped my ice cream,” you whisper. 

He swivels his head and spots your cone face down on the sidewalk. His own cone drips down his hand, the melting liquid staining the sleeve of his suit. For once, Nanami’s mind runs blank. 

“Kento? Are you okay?” you ask gently.

“Hey,” he murmurs. 

“Mm?”

Nanami’s careful to avoid the pool of melting ice cream as he steps closer to you, lips brushing the shell of your ear. Your breath hitches as his cologne invade your senses.

“I love you. Let’s get married.”

[littlemoonbug]

Macaroni and Cheese, Outer Space, and Sky Blue! 🌠

sorry I missed this!!

Macaroni and Cheese: What makes you think of your childhood?

cartoons, books, music and films! stories that stayed with me or I watched over and over again as a kid is what makes me the most nostalgic, especially if they're on videotape. also long travels in my family van or certain parks I went to

Outer Space: Do you ever feel like you’re an outcast from others?

when I was younger, for sure. when I was in school I was not treated super well by my peers so then I started keeping myself away, and it was very difficult for me to learn to trust in kindness and friendship and even more so to seek out companionship, but I'm happy I did. I still have trouble socialising and I don't do big groups, but I've found my people :)

Sky Blue: Where do you feel the most at home?

in my bedroom or, if I'm home alone, cooking in the kitchen :) or sometimes in my best friend's house

thank you for the asks!!

[scudtalks]

2020 Year In Review – A Year of Revelations

This year has been ravaged by the Covid-19 pandemic worldwide. Plans have been shelved and life came to a standstill. In the initial phase when Singapore was hit by the Circuit Breaker, I had the opportunity to reflect and stare hard at myself and my life, uncovering revelations that would not have condensed in me otherwise.

Revelation 1: Coping with boredom

We were all grounded at home, with nowhere to go. We were all devoid of a social life, because we were not allowed out, not even to dine out. We had to bring food home to consume, and I was literally holed up with my family within four walls for a good three months. The only reprieve was to exercise, to run or cycle. This year, I have cycled and ran more than previous years. This year, I have reconditioned my body and fitness to my glorious past. I have reduced my weight and food intake, and regained my past running record. I have not been any fitter since I ORD-ed in 2014, around six years ago.

Running and cycling in the quiet city helped me find my long lost freedom and hunger for solace. I have also reconnected with my love for books and reading. I found time to read on weekends when I am grounded at home or sometimes I spend it watching documentaries on YouTube. When CB lifted and freedom returned, I was betrothed to a Kindle that has become my best companion after my Brompton. Who knows when another pandemic will hit?

CB has made me realise the challenges of co-living with my family, and forces me to work towards getting my own crib when I turn 35. I realise that spending time away from my family and being alone might be more beneficial for everyone. Sometimes we need a bit of time and space to enable deeper kinship.

Revelation 2: Earn to learn (& spend)

Earlier in 2020 after I concluded my trips to Vietnam and Taiwan, I figured that I would not be traveling for the rest of the year, thanks to Covid-19, leaving my trips to Sydney and Shanghai unfulfilled. Instead, I devoted some time and rerouted my travel budgets to some ‘self-care’ or self-enrichment. I parted with my SkillsFuture credits and got certified in Business Mandarin to enhance my proficiency and to put myself one step closer to bilingualism, a personal goal I’ve set out for myself. Eventually I hope to be able to take on a role that is based in Singapore but requires frequent trips to China where I can enjoy the best of both worlds, to have the comfort of being home, yet at the same time expanding my network beyond local shores.

Besides, 2020 also marks one year since I obtained my driving license. Thanks to BlueSG and their network of EVs, they allowed me to tap on their pay-per-use car rentals. This would not have been possible if I got my license 10 years ago when I was 18. Anyway, I took the plunge and started zipping around Singapore with this nifty electric car. I’ve had many firsts, including driving at night, in the wet and on the relentless highways where Singaporeans refuse to give way. Driving has become addictive for me, for now, and I blew quite some moolah driving unnecessarily from point to point, even though I had the convenience of the MRT. BlueSG has edged me closer into wanting my personal set of wheels come 30. Perhaps it is just another novelty that would wear off over time?

And that’s not the only thing vaporising my wealth. Despite being unable to travel abroad, I indulged in revenge spending to soothe my bored soul. Having muted spending during CB has led me build up a list of things to-do, to-buy, and to-eat. While I invested efforts to keep trim and fit, I ended up splurging more on comfort items today, from sinful indulgences, toys, modifications to my bicycles, to unnecessary goods like apparels, shoes, bags and a pair of glasses. What’s my resolution for 2021? Start investing and make my money grow!

Revelation 3: Is tis’ the season to get hitched?

One of my closer friends have given birth this December to a baby boy, while many more acquaintances on social media have documented announced their wedding engagement, pregnancy, or simply having secured a public housing - the precursor to a union. Years ago I remember lamenting about the people flocking to fulfill societal norms by getting married and a home. Today, I feel the stronger influence of peer pressure, but I remain clear and indifferent to succumb to the norm of settling down. Perhaps I can make do with the temporary and ‘convenient companionship’, as JY puts it. One thing’s for sure, while people are getting hitched and popping babies, as a bystander or supportive friend, I will voluntarily opt out from all non-essential functions that require the need to socialise or mingle.

Revelation 4: People come and go

As time comes and goes, people around you come and go with time too. Yes I acknowledge my social circle is shrinking and the intake of friends is definitely not replenishing as quickly, in fact it will never be replenished to a state of fullness like the days in school. I have come to accept that in life, you will meet two main groups of people who are likely to drift away:

Those who never really seemed to gel well to become friends; otherwise known as acquaintances

Those who gel well and seemed to have potential to become lifelong or at least, longer lasting friends

While we can classify the first group as transient, what is more pressing is the second group of friends whom you have invested considerable time and effort, only to see its futility at the end of the day. Well, there is no need to cry over spilled milk. At this rate I will never be able to replenish lost friends quick enough. Instead, I should stop dismissing real lifelong friends whom I’ve had differences with. As part of my coping mechanism in the past, I thought that decluttering friends whom I don’t see eye-to-eye with, is a quick-fix solution to my problems, but after reflecting during my ample pockets of me-time this year, especially during ICT, I come to realise that I need to come down from my pedestal and learn to accept people for who they are. They might have their identity eroded, they might have a change in priorities, but at the end of the day, they hold me of equal value in their hearts as the day they decided to make me a trusted friend, so who am I to cut them off? Furthermore they have done no wrong to wreck the integrity of the relationship, as compared to others who have actually eroded the bedrock of the friendship. 

After all, it is more important to keep like-minded individuals close to your heart, than having pretentious acquaintances treating you as one of the many other warm bodies in their network of ‘friends’.

[margdarsanme]

NCERT Class 11 Psychology Chapter 3 The Bases of Human Behaviour

NCERT Solutions for Class 11 Psychology Chapter 3 The Bases of Human Behaviour

NCERT TEXTBOOK QUESTIONS SOLVED

Question 1. How does the evolutionary perspective explain the biological basis of behaviour?Answer:

Evolution refers to gradual and orderly biological changes that result in a species from their pre-existing forms in response to their changing adaptation demands of their environment.

Physiological and biological changes that take place as a result of evolutionary processes are so slow that they become visible after hundreds of generations.

Three important features of modem human beings include:

A trigger and developed brain with increased capacity for cognitive behaviours (like perception, memory, thinking, reasoning, etc).

Ability to walk upright on two legs and

Free hands with a workable opposing thumb.

The environmental demands had to biological and behavioral changes over a long period of time. In the human brain, the earliest to the most recent structures in the process of evolution are: Limbic system, brain stem and cerebellum are the oldest; and cerebral cortex is the latest developed.

Question 2.Describe how neurons transmit information.Answer:  Neuron is the basic unit of our nervous system. Neurons are specialized cells which convert various forms of stimuli into electrical impulses. They receive information from sense organs or from adjacent neurons, carry them to the central nervous system and bring motor information from the central nervous system to motor organs. Neurons transmit information with the help of dendrites, soma, axon and terminal buttons by converting stimuli into electrical impulses. This is done by the following method:  Dendrites —> soma —> axon —> terminal buttons

Dendrites receive the informing neural impulses from adjacent neurons or directly from sense organs.

The nerve impulse is then passed on the main body of the neuron i.e. soma.

From soma the impulse is passed on to the axon.

The axon transmits the information/impulse along its length to terminal buttons.

 The terminal buttons transmit the information to another neuron, gland or muscle.

Question 3. Name the four lobes of the cerebral cortex. What functions do they perform?Answer : Four lobes of the cerebral cortex are:(1) Frontal lobe (3) Temporal lobe(2) Parietal lobe (4) Occipital lobeFunctions of these four lobes are following:

Frontal lobe:

Frontal lobe is mainly concerned with cognitive functions, such as attention,thinking, memory, learning, and reasoning.

It also exerts inhibitory effects on autonomic and emotional responses.

Parietal lobe: The Parietal lobe is mainly concerned with cutaneous sensations and their coordination with visual and auditory sensations.

Temporal lobe:

Temporal lobe is primarily concerned with the processing of auditory information.

Memory for symbolic sounds and words resides here.

Understanding of speech and written languages depends on this lobe.

Occipital lobe:

Occipital lobe is mainly concerned with visual information.

It is believed that interpretation of visual impulses, memory for visual stimuli and colour visual orientation is performed by this lobe.

Question 4. Name the various endocrine glands and the hormones secreted by them. How does the endocrine system affect our behaviour?Answer: Name and functions of the endocrine glands are following:

The chemical substances secreted from the endocrine are known as HORMONES. These hormones influence the functions of the body and the course of its development and in the growth of personality.

Endocrine glands also control and regulate the individual’s behaviour, for instance, when there is extra-supply of sugar in the blood-stream, certain ductless glands secrete insulin which reduces the sugar level in the blood to normal state.

Endocrine glands play role in co-ordinating the body activities. Like in sudden , fear or danger, secretion from the endocrine system is mixed with blood which brings widely diverse activities to help us face this situation.

The different endocrine glands work intimately to maintain equilibrium and coordinate body functions. For instance, if one gland is secreting more than optimum, the other gland may secrete a hormone to reduce the excess hormone and maintain equilibrium.

Question 5. How does the autonomic nervous system help us in dealing with an emergency situation?Answer:  The autonomic nervous system helps in dealing with emergency situations with the help of its two divisions : Sympathetic division and Parasympathetic division.

Sympathetic division deals with emergencies when the action must be quick and powerful, such as in situations of fight or flight. During this period, the digestion stops, blood flows from internal organs to the muscles and breathing rate, oxygen.supply, etc. increases.

Parasympathetic division is mainly concerned with the conservation of energy. It monitors the routine functions of the internal system of the body. When the emergency is over the sympathetic activation calms down the individual to a normal condition. As a result, all body functions like breathing rate, oxygen supply, etc. return to their normal level.

Question 6.Explain the meaning of culture and describe its important features.Answer: 

Culture: Culture refers to widely shared customs, believes, values, norms, institutions and other products of a community that are transmitted socially across generation.

Culture refers to “the man-made part of the environment.”

It comprises diverse products of the behaviour of many people, including ourselves. These products can be material objects (e.g. tools, sculptures), ideas (e.g. categories, norms) or social institutions (e.g. family, school).

Culture may be defined as a shared way of life of a group of socially interacting people and is transmitted from generation through socialization and related processes.

Important features of culture are following:

Culture includes behavioural products of others who preceded us. It indicates both substantial and abstract particulars that have prior existence in one form or another.

It contains values that will be expressed and a language in which to express them.

Culture characterized by sharing reflects presence and experience of cultural attributes psychologically.

Cultural involves transmission of learned behaviour from one generation to the other within a community.

Question 7. Do you agree with the statement that ‘biology plays an enabling role, while specific aspects of behaviour are related to cultural factors’? Give reasons in support of your answer.Answer:  No doubt those biological factors do play enabling in determinants human behaviour. Biological factors basically set the limits but our behaviour is more complex then the behaviour of animal.

Major reason for the complexity is the role of culture to regulate human behaviour.

We can explain the concept with the help of two example hunger is a basic need of human beings as well as of animals but the way this need is gratified by human beings is extremely complex.

Different people in different cultures eat different things in a different manner e.g. directly with hand or with the help of spoons, forks and knives.

Sexual behaviour can be taken as another example sex is a physiological need. The structure and functioning is determinant by biological mechanism but it expression is different in different culture.

At the human level, we find evidence for a dual inheritance theory. Biological inheritance takes place through genes, while cultural inheritance takes place through memes.

The former takes place in a “top-down” manner (i.e. from parents to children)., while the latter many also take place in a “bottom-up” manner (i.e. from children to parents). Dual inheritance theory also shows that although biological and cultural forces may involve different processes, they work as parallel forces, and interact with each other in offering explanation of an individuals behaviour.

Question 8. Describe the main agents of socialisation.Answer:  Socialization is a process of social learning through which a child acquires the norms, attitudes, beliefs and behaviours that are acceptable in his/her culture.Main agents of socialization are following:

Parents:

Parents have the most direct and significant impact on children’s development.

Parents encourage certain behaviours by rewarding them verbally (e.g. praising).

They also discourage certain behaviours through non-approving behaviours.

The conditions of life in which parents live (poverty, illness, job stress, nature of family) also influence the styles they adopt in socializing children.

 School:

In schools children learn not only cognitive skills (e.g. reading, writing, doing mathematics) but also many social skills (e.g. way of behaving with elders and age mates, accepting roles, fulfilling responsibilities).

Several other positive qualities such as self-initiative, self-control responsibility, and creativity are encouraged in schools.

 Peer-Groups:

Friendship provides children not only with a good opportunity to be in company of others, but also for organizing various activities (e.g. play) collectively with the member of their own age.

Qualities like sharing, trust, mutual understanding, role acceptance and fulfillment develop on interaction with peers.

Development of self-identity is greatly facilitated by the peer groups.

 Media-Influences:

The exposure to violence on television enhances aggressive behaviour among children.

In recent years media has also acquired the property of a socializing agent therefore children learn about many things from newspapers, television, books and cinema.

Question 9. How can we distinguish between enculturation and socialisation ? Explain.Answer:  Enculturation refers to all learning that takes place without direct, deliberate teaching.

It refers to all learning that occurs in human life because of its availability in our socio-cultural context.

Observation is the key element of enculturation

The contents are culturally shaped by our preceding generations. A major part of our behaviour is the product of enculturation.

Socialisation is a process by which individuals acquire knowledge, skills and dispositions, which enable them to participate as effective members of groups and society.

It is a process that continues over the entire life-span, and through which one learns and develops ways of effective functioning at any stage of development. Socialisation forms the basis of social and cultural transmission from one generation to the next.

Question 10. What is meant by acculturation? Is acculturation a smooth process? Discuss.Answer:  Acculturation refers to cultural and psychological changes resulting from contact with . other cultures. Contact may be direct (e.g. when one moves and settles in a new culture) or indirect (e.g. through media or other means). It may be voluntary (e.g. when one goes abroad for higher studies, training, job, or trade) or involuntary (e.g. through colonial experience, invasion, political refuge).

Changes due to acculturation may be examined at subjective and objective levels.

At the subjective level, changes are often reflected in people’s attitude towards change. They are referred to as acculturation attitudes.

At the subjective level, changes are often reflected in people’s day to day behaviours and activities. These are referred to as acculturation strategies.

Question 11. Discuss the acculturative strategies adopted by individuals during the course of acculturation.Answer:  The following four acculturative strategies have been derived:

Integration: It refers to an attitude in which there is an interest in both, maintaining one’s original culture and identity, while staying in daily interaction with other cultural groups.

Assimilation: It refers to an attitude, which people do not wish to maintain their cultural identity, and they move to become an integral part of the other culture.

Separation: It refers to an attitude in which people seem to place a value on holding on to their original culture, and wish to avoid interaction with other cultural groups.

Marginalization: It refers to an attitude in which there is little possibility or interest or interest in one’s cultural maintenance, and little interest in having relations with other cultural groups.

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[antonisms-blog1]

> anton escaping the “shrussyhq gc, 2017″

waddup folks and egg yolks, it’s your third fave aussie, lilac, bringing to you straight from her batcave, smol lil anton van dalen !! (i s2g batcave isn’t a euphemism alright, i just hide in my room from the harsh rays of the SUN). click that readmore to learn more about everyone’s fave short meme boi.

warning: this intro is going be le terrible™ however anton is the light of my life so at least respect the poor lil bean here ?? i have condensed my app into this intro essentially but if you want LONG AND UNENDING sentences, be sure to check out his bio page :-) there’s plenty more hcs there too so if you wanna know more,,, anyways. onto the actual intro !

BEFORE HE WAS COOL // history.

lil anton (or ant, antonini, tony, antony ?? i really should have thought about this smh) was born second child to angelica and eric van dalen !! the first boy to the family, and at the time, much loved.

with two wealthy parents, anton never worried about much (except his pet plants which he always killed rip). he p much always got what he wanted, and spent most of his time in his parent’s finely curated library in the back of their mcmansion. life was swell for the young boy

a few years later anton (and his older sister annaleise) were given a younger brother, and that changed everything. it was at van dalen three that eric and angelica realised they were completely indifferent to each other, and were far more career orientated than family orientated. so the three kids from that point grew up under the influences of nanny after nanny, each other, and whatever tv character they idolised at the time (you bet your ass anton went through a pokemon phase.... and many others !! paracosmshq task one, identify one of anton’s childhood phases.)

despite their parents being somewhat absent as they were growing up (angelica was a doctor and eric a lawyer), they both put a lot of pressure on the van dalen kids to do well in school and out-perform everyone. built on competition and image, it was stifling for a young anton to confORm to what his parents wanted him to be. not the polite and well-mannered genius they had hoped, anton was instead a loud-mouthed and curious child who always got himself into trouble, made a fool of himself in front of his peers, and ran off constantly. it wasn’t long before anton became anton van burden, and his parents were sick of his... antics *ba-dum-tss*

but the truth ??? anton wasn’t trying to cause trouble for anyone, he was just a free spirit. he liked making people laugh, and he loved exploring places he’d never been. unfortunately his gregarious and comical ways weren’t appeasing to his family, and for many years he was shamed for being who he was, aka a normal human bean.

the older anton got, the more insecure he became as his parents constantly tried to change anton to fit into their family dynamic more. his other siblings had already gotten with the program, so anton was the odd one out. it didn’t help that when anton was younger, he was very awkward looking too. he was short, he had big ears, and his weight was disproportionate to his body. this meant he was bullied at school,,, a lot

going to a fancy college for all his childhood schooling, anton was stuck with the same donkeys his entire life. at first the vivacious and extroverted joker, the older he got the more he was worn down by the people around him, and he secluded himself and spent most of his time writing and reading, with only like, one close friend :(

it wasn’t until his sister moved out that anton was like “you know what,,, i am in charge of MY LIFE” and decided he was sick of what his parents thought, and flipped them off essentially

he started working out and my boy got ripped

he also began suppressing those insecurities and began socialising with the mass populace of his school once more. he took his mantle as the class clown and finger-gunned his way up the social hierarchy

graduating the top of his class, the most surprising thing happened,,, what ? ANTON is evolving ! the ugly duckling had become the swan, the caterpillar had become the butterfly. anton had finally reached his final form.

the second he finished high school, anton had never felt better ?? so the second he could he put in his application to any uni that was on the other side of the country so he could truly have a fresh start

although anton wasn’t allowed to pursue writing like he wanted, he fell in love with criminal psychology and criminal law, which was [hannah montana vc] the best of both worlds for him (he may have gained his independence but he was still a pushover ok lmao) 

now he’s a regular dude bro that runs a meme page and does his best to make others smile :-) 

anton van dalen: writes his dissertation on how memes affect the criminal psyche 

WHY HE IS CURRENTLY COOL // personality and stuff.

if you saw anton’s stats on the main,,, you’ll know what he’s like

he’s a DREAMER with DANK MEMES and NO SENSE OF DIRECTION

he’s constantly off in his own lil world and is sort of,,, just rolling through, one jape at a time

his intentions are pure and he can be a lil naive bc negativity ?? not in front of his salad !!

one of his many flaws tho is that he can’t take things v seriously,,, the second things get tense, he’ll make some joke. there’s a dead body ? knock knock joke. someone going through a break up ? an inappropriate pun. generally having a bad time ? here’s a meme

he’s also a complete IDIOT ??? like,, he wants to be indiana jones and his clumsy ass will probably end up falling off a balcony as he tries to tarzan swing from one place to another not unlike spiderman tbh

HE’S A DIRECT DESCENDANT OF SPORTACUS I DON’T MAKE THE RULES

also you want an impromptu song and dance sequence ?? anton’s your mans !! karaoke nights, jamming to sick bops and high school musical re-enactment is anton’s number One (1) pastime. 

if he’s not hanging with pals, he’ll have his nose in a book and !! give him all the adventures !! #nerd

honestly anton is the biggest yes man ever and he is super trusting ?? ask him for anything, and you’ll have it within minutes. he’s also disney trash and a hopeless romantic,,, sighs. when will he LEARN

one of anton’s many hobbies is magic ??? yes, he legit is a magician in his off time. at this point he’s still doing card tricks and making flowers come from hats, but he’s learning !! (he’s such a dork ok don’t say i didn’t warn u)

y’know what im leaving this here i want the last hc to be the one above k BYE

HOW YOU’LL BE COOL IF YOU’RE NEAR HIM // plots.

tbh i don’t have many plots in mind yet bc the connections are so damn juicy and i love chemistry based threads ?? BUT i still love plotting and at some point i will most likely slide into your ims (and onto an actual slide of the water variety bc its summer here and im CRISPIN) 

i actually do have a wanted plots page though ! it’s not very good lmao but,, it’s there. check it out !! (or not i can’t tell you what to do. or can i ??? nah probably not rip).

i’m gonna end this travesty of an intro here but if you’ve read this far ?? thank you ! can’t wait to mssg y’all and start this rp. it’s gonna be great. :~)

[247krp]

— Rejoice, little lambs! We have recovered our own Bae ‘Aude’ Hae, spotted prancing about in the Southeast Side. I don’t remember seeing her with any clique back in high school, but I’m not here to spill yesterday’s tea. So straight to the rundown: can you say erudite and gentle? Apparently now he spends time as the owner and a tailor of LE BHV, and keeps skeletons buried at Prague Tower, 302. But those won’t stay hidden for long, if you and I have any say on it. Welcome back, Honey; we missed you so. 

In case you don’t remember the devil’s name, here’s to refresh your memory:

as someone unable to communicate, high school was not easy. she could shelter her family, her home life, her being, but she could not shelter the fact she was unable to speak. her voice was inexistent in other words, as a development of both time and experience she had lost an ability to talk like most people. then, being small in stature made walking the halls easier, and she even enjoyed hanging off the edge of conversation if it meant she was able to socialise even the smallest bit. no pushover, she worked incessantly to show her dedication to becoming the rightful inheritor as yet another conglomerate child. she went unnoticed, had a small group of friends and almost revelled in her somewhat invincibility against the gossip girl who so ruthlessly tore apart reputation for reputation. this is, until she had trusted someone far too self invested back to her household, and in a domino effect had her entire childhood revealed. she was news for a hot minute, but the fact that she was being talked about and was obliged to attend to business relationships at the snap of a finger was hard. ‘if everyone knows, then use it your advantage.’ if she had not loved her parents like a magnet to magnetite, she would’ve screamed, but she couldn’t anyway. so she stayed an oddity, ignoring more and more effort to communicate and kept to her siblings. she had shut off again. nothing new, again.

Nevermind the memory lane though, the present is always the ripest fruit:

years had passed, and high school seemed to be but a blip on her radar. she had attended university, graduated with a double degree in economics and fashion theory & design. disassociating herself from her name was easy. money pays you out from almost anything, and that includes far less than moving out of the country. busan is safe, in fact, it becomes home. she’s still young and thus hasn’t any responsibilities yet, relying on her older brothers, all of whom are most definitely not doing her any favours. they have no interest in giving her free time, and by 2016 she is back in seoul under the same sponsorship she couldn’t avoid, and could only appreciate as it sustains her living. her accent is scrutinised, having only been developing three years, but it’s alright - everything must be. she is outspoken, opinionated and steps forward with the gaze she so feared in her peers. she was no bully, no, she treated her coworkers with complete and utter respect, but a strong woman is who she aspires to be. it becomes a mask, and she knows it can’t last long with deadlock in her inbox at all moments. yet, the present is different. she fits the name she hates, even if it isn’t real, and nothing will bring her down. right?

But we are nothing if not open books – my job is to ensure you get to the best pages:

ein.

as a child, she watches the world from the inside, out. all she knows are the walls of her household, decorated in golden patterns curling around every inch of her room delicately, her small fingers tracing them endlessly. days follow the routine most all chaebol children’s do. etiquette, understanding of hierarchy, ballroom dancing and everything including the kitchen sink was taught meticulously. she enjoyed the company of houseworkers, her four siblings and pet rats. occasionally, she was able to converse with other children at functions, and the rare work party, finding difficulties in communication when the could talk but she couldn’t. her entire life had been so well kept from the outside that she didn’t see herself as much of a peculiarity, much less a bother when one child manages to convince their father she couldn’t be a child of the bae household, that she was too odd. she can’t fawn over it too long, but it’s the first encounter of disassociation she faces, and it forms an odd feeling in her stomach. what did her mother call it, again?

hurt?

zwei.

she’s 11 when she is fully able to grasp that she was indeed odd. how her hands moved before she thought, as though her mouth before her mind might. it’s okay, and she’s reassured about it. when she’s 18, she can fix it, and be normal just like everyone else. she keeps a notebook, some form of a log, counting down days, weeks and months until she gets to taste the freedom of speech everyone speaks so highly about. although, there is something that constantly nags at her mind as she watches her brother sing, the other read out the daily at breakfast so efficiently, how they liaise with guests and friends who she can only observe from afar. she finds refuge in the internet, enjoying how demanding everything is, yet how the same she is to all those she messages frequently, learning about more than one way of life, more than one way of living. there is a sense of fitting in, and although things are no longer as comfortable as they always had been, she doesn’t mind. a woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water.

things are not just privilege upon privilege, facing the forlorn of her loneliness, no - things are like hot water, and she feels strong.

drei.

high school is not as hellish as she would’ve wished. sure, the influx of wealthy teenagers with the entitlement of a dictator. everything is theirs; all must belong to those with the coin for it. it’s not as though this is untrue, seeing as she herself had the world in her palms. with he schooled population being so big, she’s one of the kids who go under the radar effortlessly. she has no sappy story about facing any form of torment about her condition, her background, and found the campus to be a safe place to sit and sketch to her hearts content. it’s only a small change in her life, being followed and watched carefully by her siblings on a day to day basis, unknowingly having her ears covered against the will of their parents. the first friend she makes is payed a minute amount in comparison to what they could be, but both the girl who has far less to lose and hae don’t know this. the second friend is more well versed in their family connection, and enjoy a hefty sum of 20,000 dollars to keep their friendship a whole three years and entertain her enough so she doesn’t notice tabs that’s kept on her less than subtly.

someone, unnamed, breaks this. whether they feel bad, or like the benefits they could see from it, hae learns about this by gossip girl. not even the perpetrators herself, nor her parents who only watch with half hearted distain, but from an anonymous blog about gossip. she can’t take herself seriously, and decides then and there she can’t be like this anymore. she ponders one every fabrication she could’ve lived in, and only sees a blur of her entire past. 17 and facing an identity crisis is no conglomerate family’s ideal news story, so she is hidden. sent away. separated, at her own wish. the world is real, and not just behind a screen, but she faces it head on.

she must, as she always has.

vier.

all that is different now is she’s back home.

[harryseducation]

Education and The Law

The Law on home education in England

Home education is legal throughout the UK, although the laws in the four areas of the UK (England, Scotland, Northern Ireland and Wales) are not exactly the same.

It is simply where a parent takes responsibility for their children’s education rather than registering them with a school.

Education is compulsory but not necessarily by attending a school.

“According to the 1996 education act in England and Wales, it is parents (not the state) who are responsible for providing their children’s education ‘at school or otherwise’. Their education must be suitable for the age, ability and aptitude of each child. The same wording is used in Northern Ireland. Scottish law says that ‘every child has a right to an education, and it is the duty of the parent of every school age child to provide that education, either by sending the child to school, or by other means.”

Home educators in the UK do not have to be trained teachers, nor do they need any special qualifications to educate their children.                          

The law requires that all children are to be educated from the start of the school term following their fifth birthday all the way through until they are 18. At this older age the child must be in education, employment or training.

Education at home does not mean you are bound by school hours or term times.

A child educated at home is more likely to receive one-on-one contact and there are no times lost from moving to class to class, disruptions, assemblies, fire drills and so on.  A home educated child is more likely to receive the parents full attention as there are not 20+ other children to attend to.

Some children do not fit in the school system, like my son, Harry, he could not cope in school, completed next to no work for his last six months there, and so fell behind his peers. He has learnt so much more since being educated at home. He is eager to learn now that he can.

You do not require a private tutor to come in and teach your child, however if you wish to have a tutor for some subjects you are allowed to do this.

You do not need to keep a log of what you have done with your child, however many families do like to keep a blog, website, facebook or twitter page, youtube channel or scrapbook in order to keep some sort of record of what they have been doing and/or to show family and friends.  

I have all of the above! I want to show off all the things we do together as a family and share our experiences with others. I find that my children remember in more detail some of our experiences when they can look back at the pictures and things we have collected along the way.

It is also a great way to connect with friends, family, other home educators, and others when they show an interest!

Education Act 1996 (England and Wales)

“Duty of parents to secure education of children of compulsory school age: The parent of every child of compulsory school age shall cause him to receive efficient full-time education suitable— (a) to his age, ability and aptitude, and (b) to any special educational needs he may have, either by regular attendance at school or otherwise.” (Section seven)

This means that education must be suited to the abilities and aptitudes of the particular child and not some programme. So, what does “efficient” and “suitable” mean?

Efficient and Suitable

Efficient has been broadly described as an education that “achieves that which it sets out to achieve” and A suitable education is one that “primarily equips a child for life within the community of which he is a member, rather than the way of life in the country as a whole, as long as it does not foreclose the child’s options in later years to adopt some other form of life if he wishes to do so”. (Mr Justice Woolf in the case of R v Secretary of State for Education and Science, ex parte Talmud Torah Machzikei Hadass School Trust. 12 April 1985.)

You are not required to:

* teach the National Curriculum * have a timetable * have premises equipped to any particular standard * set hours during which education will take place * have any specific qualifications * make detailed plans in advance * observe school hours, days or terms * give formal lessons * mark work done by their child * formally assess progress or set development objectives * reproduce school type peer group socialisation * match school-based, age-specific standards.

The Department of Education does recommend the following weekly teaching hours for children in a school, as well as those receiving an education at home 21 hours for children aged 5 to 7         (4.2 hours a day) 23.5 hours for children aged 8 to 11    (4.7 hours a day) 24 hours for children aged 12 to 18     (4.8 hours a day) for 38 weeks of the year.

Now, if like us, you work through the schools holidays and some weekends then that daily teaching time could effectively be lower. However, with Harry and many other children educated at home, they don’t do less just because they can, they tend to cover more than they would at school. In fact, with IGCSE’s, many home educated children complete a two year course in much less a time due to having more time to study.

It is worth remembering that whilst these amount of hours are recommended, children in school receiving the same amount of hours do not get full on one to one help and supervision. They do more than one subject each day so time is wasted when changing books or moving to another classroom or even school area.

A child at home has, more often than not, immediate contact with the educator for guidance, so lessons/learning time tends to last longer than they would at school. There is no, or little, moving around from lesson to lesson area, and the child is not fighting for the attention to get help in order to complete work.

Children learning at home can work at a slower pace if needed.

The opportunity to learn more on a subject than you would at school is greater too.

In a school setting the teacher allows a certain amount of time for each activity or set piece of work, this allows each pupil a chance to ask for help, allows some pupils more time than others need, and ensures that the work gets completed.

However, at home, there are less children and so what may take an hour in a school setting may only take 15 minutes at home. This means a child educated at home is able to complete more work in that same time frame.

The opportunity to learn is all around us so it is important to not worry too much about sitting at a table all day in order to learn. We took a trip to the beach recently and the children took some activity learning sheets on the train with us, they did not see it as learning until we got home and I told them to place it in their learning folders.  They also had a talk with the life guard on duty, again they did not think of it as learning until they realised they had learnt from it.

Have fun with learning!

What do I have to teach?

Compulsory subjects at school are as follows

English                                 Maths Science Design and Technology Computing History Geography Art and Design Music Physical education, including swimming Ancient and modern foreign languages Citizenship (keystage 3&4) Sex education  (keystage 3&4)

The Government says that If your child attends school at a later date it is advisable to be aware of what is taught in schools for each year group (the national curriculum) so that they are not at a disadvantage with their peers. I can assure you that this is not always the case. A child can enter or re enter school at any stage without prior knowledge of what schools have taught in the year groups they have been at home for.

The National curriculum does not need to be followed at home as it does in school, however some home educators do loosely follow it, examples can be found on these sites

Government website for National curriculum and National curriculum

The National Curriculum sets targets for what each year group should have knowledge of. This is then interpreted by the teacher in the form of lesson ideas and projects in the classroom.

For example if a target for a year 3 pupil states ‘introduction to decimals, basic understanding of decimals’ this would mean that the teacher will teach the class of year 3’s basic decimal understanding. The teacher will possibly print some worksheets or use the whiteboard and the children will write in their maths books.  So, if you were following the curriculum at home you could go online and print some worksheets off or go into a store such as wh smith and buy a workbook for age 8-9 and the book will cover basic decimal understanding for that age range.

With so many readily available workbooks and worksheets, lesson ideas and information sites online, it is so easy to find work suitable for your child.

There are lots of workbooks based on the curriculum that you can find in shops like Waterstones, Wilkinson and WH Smith. We use a variety of workbooks. The workbooks cover a small age range and cover the Governments guidelines. A workbook will save you having to find the same resources to print off online.

How much will an education at home cost?

There are no funds available for home educators but it really does not have to be  expensive.

There are plenty of websites that offer free worksheets, lesson plans, and online work.

You may wish to purchase second workbooks or share and swap with other educators. A book labelled workbook does not need to be used in way of writing in the book, you can practise more handwriting by asking the questions and getting your child to write the question in a different book as well as the answer.

You could also use it just as a guide and modify the questions.

Local Authority

The Local authority will write to you once they have received notification from your child’s school that they have been removed from the register.

You are under no obligation to invite them into your home or to meet them in a neutral place, such as your local library, to provide them with any information regarding how you will educate your child at home. You may send them an educational philosophy.

Many home educators do allow visits, but there are many more that do not. Now this is where lot’s of home educators have positive and negative contact with their local authority. Some families have a great relationship with their local authority, others do not. Education Act 1996

“(1) If it appears to a local education authority that a child of compulsory school age in their area is not receiving suitable education, either by regular attendance at school or otherwise, they shall serve a notice in writing on the parent requiring him to satisfy them within the period specified in the notice that the child is receiving such education.” (Section 437) How these formal enquiries are to be conducted is further laid out in the 1996 act. They are also addressed in the government guidelines to LAs re electively home educated children, published by the DCSF (now renamed DfE) in November 2007 which advise that:

2.8 “Prior to serving a notice under section 437(1), local authorities are encouraged to address the situation informally. The most obvious course of action, if the local authority has information that makes it appear that parents are not providing a suitable education, would be to ask parents for further information about the education they are providing. Such a request is not the same as a notice under section 437(1), and is not necessarily a precursor for formal procedures.”

*The authority therefore has no duty toward a home-educated child unless it appears to them that a child is not in receipt of a suitable education. In such a case, the parent will need to ask, “Can it reasonably appear to the local authority that my child is not in receipt of a suitable education?” (Bear in mind that, if they have no information at all, the LA can make that assumption.) It is reasonable to ask if the authority has cause to think the education is not suitable so that you can address their concerns directly.

If the local authority has no information concerning the educational provision of a child in their area, they have the right (but not the duty) to make enquiries of the parents to ascertain whether they have a duty toward the child (eg: provision of school place, or section 437 duty.)

The guidelines state:

2.7 “Local authorities have no statutory duties in relation to monitoring the quality of home education on a routine basis.”

Summary 2

LAs must respect the wishes of parents in relation to the education of their children.

LAs have a duty to act only if it appears to them that a child is not receiving suitable education

Government guidelines advise LAs to first address the situation informally While LAs can ask for information, they have no duty to monitor home education ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Children Missing Education:

You may hear from your local authority that they need to speak to you because they have to keep a register of “Children Missing Education.” (CME)

Government guidelines state:

2.6 “Local authorities have a statutory duty under section 436A of the Education Act 1996, inserted by the Education and Inspections Act 2006, to make arrangements to enable them to establish the identities, so far as it is possible to do so, of children in their area who are not receiving a suitable education. The duty applies in relation to children of compulsory school age who are not on a school roll, and who are not receiving a suitable education otherwise than being at school (for example, at home, privately, or in alternative provision.) The guidance issued makes it clear that the duty does not apply to children who are being educated at home. ”

Repeat: children missing education register - The guidance issued makes it clear that the duty does not apply to children who are being educated at home

The Role of the State: Child Welfare

As a home educator, you may hear from your council that they have a welfare or safeguarding duty in relation to your home-educated child. Education Act 2002: states:

“(1) A local education authority shall make arrangements for ensuring that the functions conferred on them in their capacity as a local education authority are exercised with a view to safeguarding and promoting the welfare of children.” (Section 175)

The thing to remember about this is that the duty applies only when carrying out the functions conferred on them.

*There is no general duty to check child welfare conferred on them.

*Local authorities do not have a duty to ensure the safety of your child.

The Home Education Legal Guidance for Local Authorities states, in relation to this:

2.12 “Section 175(1) does not extend local authorities’ functions. It does not, for example, give local authorities powers to enter the homes of, or otherwise see, children for the purposes of monitoring the provision of elective home education.”

2.15 “As outlined above, local authorities have general duties to make arrangements to safeguard and promote the welfare of children (section 175 Education Act 2002 in relation to their functions as a local authority and for other functions in sections 10 and 11 of the Children Act 2004). These powers allow local authorities to insist on seeing children in order to enquire about their welfare where there are grounds for concern (sections 17 and 47 of the Children Act 1989).  However, such powers do not bestow on local authorities the ability to see and question children subject to elective home education in order to establish whether they are receiving a suitable education.”

Summary 3 CME does not apply to children who are being educated at home Local authorities have no general duty to check child welfare Local authorities do not have a duty to ensure the safety of your child There is no duty to monitor elective home education There is no power to question children to establish whether they are receiving a suitable education

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Radical Forgiveness

Today I would like to introduce the term Radical Forgiveness. I will start with a 'cosmic lesson', that will hopefully help in the understanding of this beneficial spiritually forgiving practice.

We are up above, in a timeless space, filled with colours invisible to this planet. To make these words more imaginable, let's see our souls as radiantly coloured orbs, what colour are you? So keeping in mind this energy we are residing in is in fact timeless, our soul group are all there with us, time in our bodies on earth has passed. I suppose it could be imagined as a school, your soul group being the children in your classroom, but you still associate with the other children within the school yard.

The bell rings, playtime is over.

Time to move to your classroom with your peers and review your time on planet earth. Who played what role? Was little Timmy your father this time round or did your karmic ties best suit him as your suicidal big brother? Maybe he was a drink driving stranger who caused your family a traumatic car accident. Regardless of what role little Timmy had, his purpose was to serve you an opportunity to learn a lesson, just as you served him in the same. Time to give little Timmy a hug, thank you Timmy.

Now its time for a dress rehearsal.

Which body will fit you best this time around? Who will agree with you to be your parents, your children, your challenging boss, the bully at school? Maybe last life you chose to be the soul who caused others the most pain, and now out of love, your victim puts their hand up for your position, regardless of how challenging this might be to their soul. Roles are decided based on the lessons each sparkling orb has yet to learn, experiences that will continue their completion. These lessons may involve love, pain, anger, sorrow, and heartbreak, but these are still all aspects of the souls yearning to experience and to balance. Each life scenario, no matter how horrible it may seem, will be opening opportunity for both/all parties involved to experience and to learn something. And each time the bell rings, we swap places, think of new beneficial life scenarios, and continue to strive for the completion of not only individual soul karmic circles, but of the karmic circle of the group as a whole too. How perfectly connected must those in a classroom be to be able to place scenarios of life so fittingly that each soul benefits just as they should. As they say, great minds think alike.

The bell rings, back to earth.

We each have our interconnected web of relationships, those with family, friends, and strangers on a bus. Every chance of socialising opening potential for growth. We experience a range of emotion, love to hate. Unfortunately, shit happens. Unfortunately there are cruel people out there, who do horrible things, and i want to note, that by asking you to consider forgiveness, does not mean i am not empathetic to the traumatic experiences you may have lived through. I once read a book with a phrase that really helped me truly understand forgiveness, it read something like this:

To forgive, does not mean you accept their behaviour, it just means you are willing to acknowledge it, and cease allowing it to control your life."

So to the point of this blog, lay down your egotistic masks once in a while, and try to remember that everything happens for a reason. Those people in your life that cause negativity, remember that just maybe, your classroom is up there waiting to ring the bell back from play time, ready to review (and hopefully laugh at) the life just lived. When life is a struggle, remember to find the hidden opportunities for experience and growth. When it is beneficial to forgive, try to forgive from a soul level, for this is my meaning of radical forgiveness.

If you found this subject matter interesting, i highly recommend the book Radical Forgiveness by Collin C. Tipping, where he quotes:

"At the soul level, we get precisely what we need in our lives for our spiritual growth. How we judge what we get determines whether we experience life as painful or joyful."

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Why Is Going To The Gym Scarier Than Holding A Spider?

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The scale of our gym-phobia

Speaking to non-gym members in the UK, the country’s largest gym provider discovered the scale of our gym fear, with half of the participants saying the gym was scary, and 20% admitting that they actually found it very scary.

The findings (full report here) compared gym anxiety to other common fears and helped to show that some people are so spooked by gym that one in four would rather choose to have an injection with a needle, or be alone in a room with a spider than go to the gym.

30% of millennials said they’d rather give up their phone for a day instead of going to the gym alone, and 1 in 4 (25%) women said they’d rather go on a rollercoaster than head to the gym.

 What’s the scariest thing about the gym?

What people said they found most scary about the gym was put to the test in a novel experiment. Three non-gym members with a fear of the gym were monitored for heart rate and temperature changes whilst they braved a visit to the gym and were tasked with three non-physical challenges that non-gym goers said frightened them the most:

Approaching the free weights area and selecting weights that they thought were the right size for them

Setting up a treadmill for a 10-minute workout

Asking a gym member for help with a specific machine

The resulting data showed:

Least stressful = visiting the free weights area: Although nearly a third (32%) of non-gym goers said the most intimidating area of the gym was the squat rack, and 64% said they didn’t know how heavy the weights they should use should be, this activity prompted the smallest increase in heart rate in all three case studies. 

Pretty stressful = setting up a treadmill: Participants had a significant stress spike in both heart rate and temperature when setting up a treadmill for a run.

Most stressful = asking for help: Asking a member of staff or fellow gym-goer for assistance proved the scariest for all three of the researchers, with a big surge in both temperature and heart rates.

(Note: The participants did not undergo any physical exertion, simply performing the set-up of a workout without actually performing the exercises to ensure readings were related to their emotions, and not their physical exertion).

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How the participants felt

Roxy, 37: “My father and his relationship with the gym has definitely made going to the gym a ‘thing’ for me. Over the years, him pushing me towards going to the gym has made me resistant to actually going. Outside of that, the main thing that makes me nervous is the busy-ness of gyms especially at peak times. This really brings my feelings of low self-esteem to the fore, especially in situations such as the changing rooms, where I would find myself comparing my body to the other women. Put simply, the busier the gym is, the more intimidated I am.

Stepping foot inside the gym today has taken the power out of my fear. Being honest about that fear and going through the process; from getting dressed for the gym, to walking here, going through the doors and exploring its different areas has gotten me one step closer to joining.

What also helped today was being given a list of things to do, from going to the free weights section, to the treadmill and then leg extension. I wasn’t just let loose in here without an idea of what to do. I think gyms need to be explicit in what they offer for beginners, and an easy step-by-step workout card would go a long way. There’s a long way between just being a member of a gym, to having a personal trainer, so helping to fill that gap would really help.”

Robin, 44: “Before visiting the gym today, the thought of it would always remind me of P.E. at school. I was a ‘wimpy’ kid with asthma, and was always a ‘sick note’ when it came to P.E. I also went to quite a rough school, so found it a very intimidating environment. Every time I’ve thought of the gym, it brought me right back to those feelings of feeling out of place and worrying about who might be watching me.

However, after visiting today I’m admittedly such a novice, but its helped to remind me and make me realise that while I might be worrying about people watching me, no one actually is. They’re here to get fit and anyone I did speak to was friendly. The image of the gym being like school has left me now, and I already feel more comfortable being inside one”.

Rebekah, 33:  “For me, it’s a fear of judgement when it comes to the gym. Because I’m a curvy girl, some people can make an assumption that you don’t know what you’re doing and I don’t like that. It also takes me back to group sports at school, and being pushed into doing things I didn’t want to do. I always liked solo sports like gymnastics and rock climbing, and being forced into sports like netball put me off!

Being in a gym today helped me to realise just how anxious being here does actually make me feel, and face that head on. It’s been eye-opening and on the other side of it, maybe surprisingly, I would want to come again, and am considering getting a personal trainer!”

What makes the gym scary and how do we overcome our fears?

Stephen Rowe, Chief Marketing Officer at PureGym says “Our research revealed two principal causes of fear for people new to the world of gyms. The first is a general fear of the unknown and secondly, people worry that others may judge them as they don’t know what they’re doing which can lead to social anxiety. To help first timers with their first visit, we’ve created a behind-the-scenes gym video tour which shows what a PureGym looks like from the inside, so they can get used the gym before they even leave the house. There is also an online treadmill guide on how to set-up a machine and three new workouts specifically for beginners to help a nervous member on their first visit.  By arming new starters with a little more knowledge before they step into the gym, we hope to give them a bit more confidence and remove some of those anxiety barriers.”

Dr. Margee Kerr teaches and researches everything ‘fear’ related at the University of Pittsburgh. She even consults on deliberately fear-inducing rollercoaster and theme park attractions. Dr. Kerr explains the reason why the gym is different to other healthy activity in our minds is because “Going to the gym is a social experience, meaning it carries all the potential gains that come with socialising, but also all of the fears and anxieties too.

“We, as humans, are constantly comparing ourselves to our peers, analysing how we’re similar, better, or worse. We also compare ourselves to our own expectations of what we think we should be capable of, our internal representation of our ‘best’ self.

Where we might be able to hide some of our vulnerabilities in the workplace or school, our weaknesses feel on full display in the gym, inciting intense feelings of vulnerability, of self-doubt, of fear.”

Dr. Kerr suggests the following tips for recognising and over-coming your gym anxieties:

Remind yourself that you are in control. Studies show a sense of control makes scary social events easier to tolerate and overcome. So, acknowledge, and frequently remind yourself, that you are the one choosing to take on this fear inducing situation. Your doctor, spouse, family member, coach, etc. didn’t make you go to the gym, YOU did. Knowing it’s your choice will empower you to embrace the challenge ahead.

Don’t ignore that you feel scared. Denying, or attempting to suppress your fears doesn��t work, in fact studies show it does the exact opposite. The more we try to NOT think of something the more importance we give it in our minds! Give yourself permission to feel scared, acknowledge the fear when it creeps in, welcome it and know that it’s OK to feel this way. And applaud yourself for feeling the fear but doing it anyway!

Educate yourself. Fear is all about the unknown, so you can do yourself a BIG favour and reduce a ton of anxiety by learning more about the gym before your first workout. Either research online, or book an induction to learn where the locker rooms, water fountains, and exits are located, and learn any important gym protocol like proper equipment use and class etiquette. Thinking strategically will help you manage your fears, you have to know your territory before you make a move. 

Read more of Dr. Kerr’s tips on coping with gym anxiety at https://www.puregym.com/blog/how-to-get-over-gym-anxiety/

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Staying socially connected and feeling engaged with life becomes more important as we grow older, and not just for mental health reasons. Isolation is a serious health risk for older adults. How can we redesign our lives to enjoy social connections and its benefits?

Most elders prefer to remain indoors as they age. Isolation and solitude may begin with the loss of a partner. It may be compounded by slowly developing physical inabilities such as loss of driving ability, decreased hearing or vision. With friends and peers facing similar issues, there are fewer opportunities for social engagement than in your younger days. Here are some tips to help protect you or your loved ones from the risk of loneliness while enjoying the benefits of socialization.

Social Getaways: Social outing with family and peers is undoubtedly stimulating, engaging and rejuvenating. When seniors consistently engage in social outings, they experience significant improvements in their physical, mental, and emotional health outcomes. Much of this improvement results from the ability to maintain healthy relationships and a continued sense of being part of the society. Guided social getaways can be either planned with family or organisations who specialize in this. You can also choose to live in a quality senior living community, as most of them provide residents with a warm and friendly atmosphere and a variety of opportunities to connect with others through social events and conversations. Residents are also encouraged to take advantage of regularly scheduled activities and programs that are created, with their interests in mind, to educate, inspire, and entertain.

Join A Club Or Group: Think about activities that interest you; that you always wanted to do. Do you like gardening? Painting? Reading? Guitar? Meeting up with others on a regular basis is a great way to make new networks and enjoy experiences with those who share your interests. Most luxury senior living communities provide access to speciality groups and clubs based on varied interests of their residents. These can be spiritual or religious clubs, sports-centered clubs or clubs for individuals that like to play certain games. For instance, Antara Senior Living in Dehradun, India — a luxury senior living community has book clubs, a library, art classes, cooking classes, foreign language classes, spiritual and religious activities et al for its residents. Such spaces provide opportunities to engage in activities and group events which facilitate bonding with new friends while promoting physical and mental health.

Fulfill A Lifelong Learning Wish: It is never too late to learn. Learning during the later stages of life can bring happiness, well-being and a connection with the wider community for those studying. Many colleges or adult education centers provide classes designed specifically for seniors where you can continue to learn new things and expand your mind. Continued mental activity improves the quality of all life areas and impacts overall life expectancy.

Become A Volunteer: Volunteering within the local community provides a sense of accomplishment and purpose that can’t be denied. There are plenty of ways older volunteers can engage themselves. Many hospitals, schools and community centers are always looking for reliable volunteers of all ages. One can volunteer to teach a skill, play music for a sing-along, or just sit and chat. Whether assisting with planning outings and activities or participating in community service projects, the residents at Antara Senior Living too, have ample opportunities to volunteer and get involved.

Use Technology: While no technology can take the place of in-person human interaction, video chat services like Skype, or Internet-based communication channels such as e-mail and social media, can supplement seniors’ social interactions when visits with friends and family aren’t possible or too infrequent. Playing games on the computer or tablet also offers a fun opportunity for seniors to engage in light physical activity from the comfort of their own living room. Many senior living communities have integrated technology programs into residents’ daily lives as technology can keep them connected, mentally active and physically safe. It’s no wonder seniors at Antara use video calling facilities to connect with their grandchildren, or use iPad apps to play games to keep their minds engaged.

Social seniors are happy and contented seniors, regardless of the type of living they choose. It’s important to get out and get involved.

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How-to-Really-Know-Someone Questions Tag!

How do you feel about birthdays? hate them

Do you believe in fate? no 

What do you think when a band/artist “sells out”? nice for them

What do you think of fans and fandoms? strange

Any specific personality traits you would like to see in your life partner? dk

Should parents be their child’s friends? no, they should be parents. 

What do you think of doctor-assisted suicide? should be allowed everywhere

Have you ever blown your top? Why? what? 

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? 18

You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do? i’d say i disagree

If you could paint a picture of any scenery you’ve seen before, what would you paint? a house in france i once lived in

In the case of prevention of overpopulation, should some people be prohibited from reproducing? no 

You discover that because of a mix-up at the hospital, your wonderful one-year-old child is not yours. Would you want to exchange the child to try to correct the mistake? jeez i really dont know 

Have you ever seen a person, an animal, or something else die? How did you feel about it? no 

What is the most drastic thing you’ve done? cut myself

What are your favorite movies? dk 

What is your favorite body part? shoulders

If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do? because we are dumb af

How important is music in your life? very

How would you describe your father in four words? intelligent, caring, respectful and awesome

If you were to change one thing about your physical appearance, what would it be? my height

Do you trust anyone to protect you? Who, and why? no not really. my bf maybe

What is your favorite kind of flower and why? roses cus they’re pretty

What do you think about the death penalty? dk

What is your ideal day? dk 

How thin/fat, small/large, tall/short are you compared to your peers? i think im fat

If you were a book, what would it be? a depressing one 

Have you ever seen a dead person before? How did you feel about it? no 

Which is worse, failing or never trying? failing to me 

Have you ever taken care of a sick person? yes

Who are the people who have influenced you? my parents 

Which of the four cardinal virtues do you embody the most? dk

What are some things you like about your sibling? she’s beautiful inside out. 

Would you save an extremely talented musician who has the influence to promote good values for the world or a pregnant woman in a situation where it is certain you must choose one over the other? the pregnant woman

If you could choose the sex and physical appearance of your soon-to-be-born child, would you do it? idk.. maybe yes. but i ‘d love it no matter what

What would it take someone to make you feel really fulfilled? to love me unconditionally and show me 

Do you daydream a lot? What do you daydream about? no  

If you were at a friend’s house for Thanksgiving dinner and you found a dead cockroach in the salad, what would you do? just hide it lol 

How honest are you about your thoughts and feelings (i.e. do you hide your true self from others, and in what way)? not honest. 

Do you look like any celebrities? no i dont think so 

What activities do you enjoy? running 

Would you place education as a top priority? yes 

If you had a Death Note, would you use it? yes 

How do you feel about your gender? Does the normal male/female suit you? How much do you act like your supposed sex/gender? yeah i think im quite femaleish

What things have made you cry in the past? i cry easily, so a lot of things

Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…” everything 

Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous? attractive yes  

Who was your best teacher in school? What did you learn? What would they say about you? my math teacher. he was just wise on life. 

How would you like affection to be displayed to you? dk

Do you think someone could love more than one person at once? love? yes. but not be IN love. 

When did you start discovering your own music taste? What was it? youth i guess.. pop 

When you have 30 minutes of free-time, how do you pass the time? cry 

If you could use a voodoo doll to hurt anyone you chose, would you? yes... 

If you could learn to do anything, what would it be? meditate

What is your greatest accomplishment so far? dk 

Describe the ultimate hell. my life now

What is one event that has impacted your life for good? For bad? dont know

Name three things you consider yourself to be very good at, and three things you consider yourself to be very bad at. good: overthinking, overeating and selfdetruction. bad: turning words into actions, stand up for myself and socialise. 

Describe the ultimate paradise/heaven. just being happy with oneself

Do you believe in the existence of soul mates and/or true love? yes 

What do you think about following your dreams? Are you following your dreams? no 

How would you like to die? happy

Are you able to kill animals? Under what circumstances do you find killing to be acceptable or unacceptable? only mosquitos etc 

What is your favorite time of day/day of the week/month of the year? when i get to sleep, tuesday, june. 

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? not close. no. 

Who would you turn to if you were in desperate need of help? my bf 

What do you feel guilty about? my illness

What do you believe makes a successful life? being happy with oneself. 

Do you tend to argue with people, or avoid conflict? avoid conflict

While parking late at night, you slightly scrape the side of a Porsche. You are certain no one else is aware of what happened. The damage is minor and would be covered by insurance. Would you leave a note? no 

What is the one thing that you love the most about yourself? nothing

Would you try smoking? Alcohol? Why? have done

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? hopefully done with my education, living with my bf and maybe having my first child

Would you try drugs? What kind? Why? no 

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? everything 

If you could be any fictional character, who would you choose? dont know 

What’s the first thing that compels you to an individual? their way of talking to others

Who are your closest friends and why are you friends with them? i have no friends

Do you like having children around you? yes if they ar well-behaved

If you could throw any kind of party, what would it be like and what would it be for? mask party or halloween

Would you be willing to have horrible nightmares for a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth?  no 

Would you like to be famous? In what way? no 

Define a “friend”. someone who supports you in good and bad times. 

What are some risky sports/activities you would want to try? Why? bungeejumping. the kick. 

Do you have any biases or prejudices?

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? few days ago, and yesterday. 

What would you name the autobiography of your life? “the truth about me”

What was the most cherished memory that you had growing up with your mother? some of our vacations

Where do you stand on religion and why? i dont believe in any religion

How do you deal with stress? i dont LOL 

How do you feel about being alone while eating lunch at school? What about a whole day alone? usually how it is. its boring af but you get used to it

What are your favorite books? dnt know

Would you save an extremely talented musician (whom you like) who has the influence to promote good values for the world or your father in a situation where it is certain you must choose one over the other? my father ofc

How similar are you and your sibling in personality? Appearance? not at ALL similar

Have you ever woken in the middle of the night and done something apart from going back to sleep? yes

What music do you like but do not identify with (guilty pleasures)? rock 

How do you feel about parties? like them 

Can you sing seriously in a nonmusical situation? no

What music do you like and identify with? pop 

How easily seasick/carsick/airsick/elevatorsick are you? veryyyy

What are your pet peeves? when people walk really slow or chew really loud or talk slow. 

Read anything interesting lately? nope

How do you display your affection? idk

When you get home from work, what would you like someone close to you to do or say in the first few minutes? “i missed you” 

Do you get along with people who are from different backgrounds? yes

If you were to change one thing about your personality, what would it be? less naive

What is the most drastic thing you’ve thought of doing? suicide 

How attractive are you in comparison to your peers? not attractive

If you could influence people like a celebrity does, how would you use it for the benefit of the planet? be NICER to others. be HONEST. 

Who or what, if anything, would you die for (or otherwise go to extremes for)? most people tbh

Have you ever done any charitable acts? yes

When you were young, what was the thing that you wanted to be when you grew up? Why? teacher cause i liked school 

What should you never say, even in anger and frustration? “kill yourself”

What would constitute a perfect day for you? dk

What do you like to do in your spare time/on weekends? be with my bf

How do you feel about having kids one day? id like that

Are you able to kill? Under what circumstances do you find killing to be acceptable or unacceptable? i dont think so, unless my loved ones were threatened. 

Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil? no

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? idk

If you learned that a good friend has AIDS, would you avoid him? What if your brother or sister had AIDS? no. 

What makes you cry? lots of things

What do you think about sports? love it 

How and when are abortions okay? they are always okay. 

If you were sure you could not fail, what would you attempt to do? suicide.

What were you like as a child? How would your parents or other people describe you as a child? i was ego af and attentionseeking.

What would you give up for lent? dk

What do you appreciate most about your life? nothing really

If you died or went missing, who would miss you? no one... maybe my sister

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why? both my parents cuz i love them

Who are your heroes/idols and why? none

If you were to win $10 million, what would you do with all that money? travel 

Would you still be a relationship with someone who cheated on you? depends. 

How do you think your family environment growing up has affected you as a person? i’ve become very eager to feel save, so I need to be with someone. I dont like to depend on myself. 

If you could choose anyone, who would you pick as your mentor? dk

Which of the seven cardinal sins do you embody the most? dk

If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be? dont depend on others. 

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An increasing number of UAE parents are homeschooling their children as it is a more affordable option for them. Khaleej Times spoke to four parents who are paying half of the tuition fees, or even 75 per cent less, of what a regular school would cost in the country. These parents are choosing to homeschool their children not only because it helps them avoid the hefty tuition fees of the UAE schools, but also so they can focus on what they feel are more important subjects for their child's talents and future. One parent, Ruby Brar, homeschools her seven-year-old Vansh Brar, in Grade 3, and pays only Dh300 for a homeschooling website subscription, which offers a British curriculum education. She is a stay-at-home mum, who teaches her son herself, by printing off study material online. "Financially, things had started to heat up because there was a fee hike every year. From FS 1 to year 3 we have had a fee hike every year, which made it very clear to us that most schools here are nothing but a successful business model," Brar said. "Homeschooling (fees) has many options. Some are using free online programmes and some are using paid. We are using paid and it's very minimal compared to what we paid all these years. "I had my older son in the best and most expensive British school in my community. When I first took the tour of the school, I wished I had studied there. It was an amazing facility with corridors filled with exorbitant artworks. Today, when I look back, I realise that no matter how fancy it is - it's a school. Kids are expected to be there at a certain time and do all things in a certain way and follow instructions. As long as you follow instructions, you are a good student and a good future factory worker. You don't need to do things your way as that may disrupt the flow of class." Brar said ever since she started homeschooling her son, he has been able to place a greater focus on subjects they feel will help him more in the future, such as Math, French language, Science and English (and soon they will be starting with social studies). Another parent, A. Alshaqra, used to pay Dh15,000 to Dh18,000 for each of her two sons. Now, she pays just Dh12,000 for both together - saving the family nearly Dh20,000 per year. "School fees nowadays make no sense," Alshaqra said, mum to a 13-year-old and 10-year-old. "I chose an online curriculum that is considered costly but it's less than half of what I used to pay for school. "Since my kids are in an online system they have teachers who correct their exams and review their projects, so we don't have a problem with that either. "Now, that studying time is actually focused on proper learning, they have so much more time to do other activities. They made friends in different group circles, such as karate and swimming." An American mum of two kids, Maryam Ismail, said she paid just Dh10,000 last year for a full "curriculum box set" that her children receive, which includes books, stationery items and the necessary study material for the year. Ismail, who uses a different US state curriculum for her kids, said what she has paid much less than what she would have to had to pay for regular schooling in the country. "I have chosen homeschooling instead of the private schools available in the UAE simply because within my area and price bracket, I was not getting my money's worth," Ismail said. "I found that my kids have a better and more inclusive education. By that I mean not just the three R's - reduce, reuse and recycle - but also history and extras like calligraphy, video production and research skills that go beyond Google and Wikipedia." Ismail believes that universities "seek out" children who have been homeschooled. She also feels that homeschooled kids make a more "diverse set of friends", retain knowledge of different groups of kids and adults, as well as an increased overall awareness of global issues. "I have found that many universities not only accept homeschooled students, they seek them out. However, there is a sticky point when it comes to finishing. Many universities and colleges require that students take the GED test. It is just an extra step but it is worth it. The problem is, some universities in the UAE are not up to speed and will not accept any online school curriculum, which many homeschoolers depend on," Ismail said. "In the end it is about having solid record of work done and courses taken and packaging it in a way that is acceptable to universities." Meanwhile, another American parent of a 15-year-old son and an eight-year-old daughter, pays Dh5509 to Dh9,182 per grade. "Apart from the cost factor, our kids are more rested. They have been to more excursions and day trips in one year as compared to how many they would conventionally in a lifetime. This helps them learn more about the outside world," the parent said.

After all, homeschooling is not a bad idea, makes good sense

Homeschooling is on the rise globally for reasons like affordability, personalised learning and flexibility in terms of schedule and location. It is also catching on the UAE due to similar reasons. Private schools seem to be the only option for expatriates in the region. School tuition fees range from Dh5,000 up to Dh100,000 depending on the quality. That is without the additional expenses on uniforms, transportation, extra-curricular activities and lunch allowance. The rising cost of living, families on single income, and with companies doing away with schooling allowances, some households struggle to keep their children in a "good school". Therefore, more families are opting for affordable alternatives such as home education, where the quality of education would not need to be sacrificed due to affordability. Families who homeschool, are able to do so on a budget of Dh2,000 up to Dh30,000 depending on the programme of choice. This has the potential to account for a savings of between Dh3,000 and Dh70,000 per child, per year. Apart from affordability, the common factor amongst most parents choosing the homeschooling route is their dissatisfaction with the current quality of education versus the fees paid. One of the benefits of the home education is personalised learning whereby students are offered an individualised approach specific to their preexisting knowledge, learning needs, styles and competencies. In place of large, anonymous class lectures is a devoted time and attention helping students achieve fluency and mastery through one-on-one tutoring tailored to the student's learning requirements. In such an environment, students could take ownership of their learning and achieve mastery at their own pace. Furthermore, many families in the UAE are in transit, in between regions and are uncertain of their length of stay in the Middle East. Homeschooling also offers flexibility in terms of the start and end dates throughout the year. If a family arrives the UAE in between a school year, their chances of getting placements in a good school is limited or close to none. Additionally, children can learn no matter where the location. Whether students are children of pilots, businessmen or those based in two or three countries around the world, learning and education may not be disrupted. In homeschooling, the world is your classroom. We encourage first time home educators to connect with locally based service providers, like Homeschool Global, who are able to provide academic support, guidance and training to equip parents for their homeschool journey. These providers offer accreditation which gives parents a "safety net" knowing that their children's work will be recognised in the event they need to return to traditional school. They also provide innovative services which aim substitute the lack of traditional school infrastructure, with group extracurricular activities, sports and learn groups in which parents and children are able to connect and socialize regularly. Home education continues to make a lot of sense, to a lot of people with today's globalisation and information age.

Do you think homeschooling is beneficial?

Harshita Shah-The Indian High School, Dubai "Homeschooling is a concept where kids don't attend actual schools and get tutored by a teacher at home itself. Peer-pressure is just a theory in their life, which isn't practical to them as they don't find themselves in such a situation. These students may have an edge over others because their teachers may stimulate their non-academic interests, which may be suppressed by schools. But, the kids are not prepared enough to face a new environment and adjust to it easily." Sarah Ronad-JSS International School "Homeschooling is a growing phenomenon in today's world. Parents feel that they can provide a better learning experience for their children than a local school can. In my point of view, homeschooling is not the right system for a child to grow up in. It doesn't enhance a child's social growth and ability to socialise well. They tend to be shy and more on the quieter side. Furthermore, they are more exposed to certain stances and may refuse to adhere to others' perspectives." Kristi Reeni Joies-Our Own English High School, Sharjah "I am completely against homeschooling. Students do not interact much with the society. Homeschooling may also result in a lack of discipline and reduces the opportunities to learn from a diverse range of teachers with different backgrounds. Teachers have their own experiences and methods of teaching; this enhances the student's learning experience. Healthy competitions make the students grow. Schools have extra curricular activities which in turn boosts up the child." © Khaleej Times via Edarabia.com

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An increasing number of UAE parents are homeschooling their children as it is a more affordable option for them. Khaleej Times spoke to four parents who are paying half of the tuition fees, or even 75 per cent less, of what a regular school would cost in the country. These parents are choosing to homeschool their children not only because it helps them avoid the hefty tuition fees of the UAE schools, but also so they can focus on what they feel are more important subjects for their child's talents and future. One parent, Ruby Brar, homeschools her seven-year-old Vansh Brar, in Grade 3, and pays only Dh300 for a homeschooling website subscription, which offers a British curriculum education. She is a stay-at-home mum, who teaches her son herself, by printing off study material online. "Financially, things had started to heat up because there was a fee hike every year. From FS 1 to year 3 we have had a fee hike every year, which made it very clear to us that most schools here are nothing but a successful business model," Brar said. "Homeschooling (fees) has many options. Some are using free online programmes and some are using paid. We are using paid and it's very minimal compared to what we paid all these years. "I had my older son in the best and most expensive British school in my community. When I first took the tour of the school, I wished I had studied there. It was an amazing facility with corridors filled with exorbitant artworks. Today, when I look back, I realise that no matter how fancy it is - it's a school. Kids are expected to be there at a certain time and do all things in a certain way and follow instructions. As long as you follow instructions, you are a good student and a good future factory worker. You don't need to do things your way as that may disrupt the flow of class." Brar said ever since she started homeschooling her son, he has been able to place a greater focus on subjects they feel will help him more in the future, such as Math, French language, Science and English (and soon they will be starting with social studies). Another parent, A. Alshaqra, used to pay Dh15,000 to Dh18,000 for each of her two sons. Now, she pays just Dh12,000 for both together - saving the family nearly Dh20,000 per year. "School fees nowadays make no sense," Alshaqra said, mum to a 13-year-old and 10-year-old. "I chose an online curriculum that is considered costly but it's less than half of what I used to pay for school. "Since my kids are in an online system they have teachers who correct their exams and review their projects, so we don't have a problem with that either. "Now, that studying time is actually focused on proper learning, they have so much more time to do other activities. They made friends in different group circles, such as karate and swimming." An American mum of two kids, Maryam Ismail, said she paid just Dh10,000 last year for a full "curriculum box set" that her children receive, which includes books, stationery items and the necessary study material for the year. Ismail, who uses a different US state curriculum for her kids, said what she has paid much less than what she would have to had to pay for regular schooling in the country. "I have chosen homeschooling instead of the private schools available in the UAE simply because within my area and price bracket, I was not getting my money's worth," Ismail said. "I found that my kids have a better and more inclusive education. By that I mean not just the three R's - reduce, reuse and recycle - but also history and extras like calligraphy, video production and research skills that go beyond Google and Wikipedia." Ismail believes that universities "seek out" children who have been homeschooled. She also feels that homeschooled kids make a more "diverse set of friends", retain knowledge of different groups of kids and adults, as well as an increased overall awareness of global issues. "I have found that many universities not only accept homeschooled students, they seek them out. However, there is a sticky point when it comes to finishing. Many universities and colleges require that students take the GED test. It is just an extra step but it is worth it. The problem is, some universities in the UAE are not up to speed and will not accept any online school curriculum, which many homeschoolers depend on," Ismail said. "In the end it is about having solid record of work done and courses taken and packaging it in a way that is acceptable to universities." Meanwhile, another American parent of a 15-year-old son and an eight-year-old daughter, pays Dh5509 to Dh9,182 per grade. "Apart from the cost factor, our kids are more rested. They have been to more excursions and day trips in one year as compared to how many they would conventionally in a lifetime. This helps them learn more about the outside world," the parent said.

After all, homeschooling is not a bad idea, makes good sense

Homeschooling is on the rise globally for reasons like affordability, personalised learning and flexibility in terms of schedule and location. It is also catching on the UAE due to similar reasons. Private schools seem to be the only option for expatriates in the region. School tuition fees range from Dh5,000 up to Dh100,000 depending on the quality. That is without the additional expenses on uniforms, transportation, extra-curricular activities and lunch allowance. The rising cost of living, families on single income, and with companies doing away with schooling allowances, some households struggle to keep their children in a "good school". Therefore, more families are opting for affordable alternatives such as home education, where the quality of education would not need to be sacrificed due to affordability. Families who homeschool, are able to do so on a budget of Dh2,000 up to Dh30,000 depending on the programme of choice. This has the potential to account for a savings of between Dh3,000 and Dh70,000 per child, per year. Apart from affordability, the common factor amongst most parents choosing the homeschooling route is their dissatisfaction with the current quality of education versus the fees paid. One of the benefits of the home education is personalised learning whereby students are offered an individualised approach specific to their preexisting knowledge, learning needs, styles and competencies. In place of large, anonymous class lectures is a devoted time and attention helping students achieve fluency and mastery through one-on-one tutoring tailored to the student's learning requirements. In such an environment, students could take ownership of their learning and achieve mastery at their own pace. Furthermore, many families in the UAE are in transit, in between regions and are uncertain of their length of stay in the Middle East. Homeschooling also offers flexibility in terms of the start and end dates throughout the year. If a family arrives the UAE in between a school year, their chances of getting placements in a good school is limited or close to none. Additionally, children can learn no matter where the location. Whether students are children of pilots, businessmen or those based in two or three countries around the world, learning and education may not be disrupted. In homeschooling, the world is your classroom. We encourage first time home educators to connect with locally based service providers, like Homeschool Global, who are able to provide academic support, guidance and training to equip parents for their homeschool journey. These providers offer accreditation which gives parents a "safety net" knowing that their children's work will be recognised in the event they need to return to traditional school. They also provide innovative services which aim substitute the lack of traditional school infrastructure, with group extracurricular activities, sports and learn groups in which parents and children are able to connect and socialize regularly. Home education continues to make a lot of sense, to a lot of people with today's globalisation and information age.

Do you think homeschooling is beneficial?

Harshita Shah-The Indian High School, Dubai "Homeschooling is a concept where kids don't attend actual schools and get tutored by a teacher at home itself. Peer-pressure is just a theory in their life, which isn't practical to them as they don't find themselves in such a situation. These students may have an edge over others because their teachers may stimulate their non-academic interests, which may be suppressed by schools. But, the kids are not prepared enough to face a new environment and adjust to it easily." Sarah Ronad-JSS International School "Homeschooling is a growing phenomenon in today's world. Parents feel that they can provide a better learning experience for their children than a local school can. In my point of view, homeschooling is not the right system for a child to grow up in. It doesn't enhance a child's social growth and ability to socialise well. They tend to be shy and more on the quieter side. Furthermore, they are more exposed to certain stances and may refuse to adhere to others' perspectives." Kristi Reeni Joies-Our Own English High School, Sharjah "I am completely against homeschooling. Students do not interact much with the society. Homeschooling may also result in a lack of discipline and reduces the opportunities to learn from a diverse range of teachers with different backgrounds. Teachers have their own experiences and methods of teaching; this enhances the student's learning experience. Healthy competitions make the students grow. Schools have extra curricular activities which in turn boosts up the child." © Khaleej Times

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10 Tips For Traveling With Kids

also we had a child before we were a couple who travel frequently. A travel plan from a to Z every detail of myself, I’d find out without going to very good. After being pregnant, our friends said that we should forget to travel 10-15 years. A trip to any other country that I know not of many children, they were reluctant to even come out of town until the children are older, they eglendirile easier on the plane until the age of puberty. Naturally, in many people’s mind when traveling with children, bound and gagged-filled moments coming in.

Me and my son back to the Eiffel Tower our place to go for a drive along the Black Sea coast, Gulet for rent and within a few years I was dreaming to travel in the Mediterranean waters. Of course, perform all of these dreams with a small child, especially someone who doesn’t know how to swim wouldn’t be very smart to condemn a week’s Gulet. Something had to change. Appropriate for each individual in the family, had to travel a way that everyone can enjoy. Couldn’t be an option not to travel, nor is raising a child who doesn’t know how to travel.

I’ve studied a lot about traveling with kids, I have read many articles. New parents usually prefer the baby to be done in the first few months and then they’ll get out of the house they don’t know. When you were a baby is hard, hard as I started to walk, started school, and it is more difficult to bring it to coincide with the holidays. 2.5 years, 3 continents, 7 countries we have visited my son and that I have gained by my experiences of traveling with small children living here and suggestions.

1. To spend every night in a different place

little kids love routine. Trying to get to sleep in a different bed every night for the whole family sleepless nights and miserable days. Best hard choosing a venue and arrange day trips to the attractions by the house will flip him a few toys. We’ll stay for 4 nights in April during our trip to Italy in Rome, Naples, instead of staying in, I planned a day trip to Pompeii. In this way, we will be back in a familiar place every night of space to travel with the child and not to torture.

2. Stay at home instead of a hotel

small rooms, apartment style rooms with kitchen and at least two hotels in the city instead of in homes with children is quite advantageous to stay. After she went to sleep, an extra room where you can sit and chat with your partner for more than the price of the hotel price you will pay. Woke up early in the morning from a nearby market to be made with Shopping, the children prepare breakfast at home of the things that saves the day or the beginning. Both eeconomical and spacious for a hotel room, the kitchen with the kids, because you won’t have to eat outside option. My son was 9 months old when we went to San Francisco first. We stayed in an apartment for the first time. Washing machine and dishwasher to wash my bottles was a life saver. 1.5 years old, and we stayed in a different house, hence the early Wake jetlag, we couldn’t have breakfast at any hour we choose to.

3. Don’t run around from place to place

avoid making plans on time. Best when traveling with children be comfortable. Start with a day and the kids that would like a museum or art gallery Zoo, pool, park or complete the day with activity. Your children enjoy them also note that the trip is not included in the daily plans. Thus, we will look forward to the next holiday.

4. If they want to eat let me eat what and when

Mothers that suffer the most the children enough food to eat. Nutritious foods is even more difficult for children to eat at home when in another context, a simple cheese flavour is different-even where it’s unnecessary and annoying to deal with properly fed. In a week that we don’t allow in the house it’s not going to poison the children of fries. Leave if they want to eat what you eat, you also have peace of mind. You will continue where you left off when you return home. Kids adapt more quickly than we are aware of and holiday home. My son on our last trip, white instituted the diet; pasta, rice, bread and milk. Fortunately, it doesn’t change the taste of the fruit, we were finishing up the day with several kinds of fruit and vitamins.

5. The sine qua non of cane pram foldable

a lightweight stroller will be gate checked at the plane with small children on vacation, one of the requirements is to be present with you always. While visiting a museum you can sleep there, you eat lunch or in the evenings where you left off can save you a vacation when the child is tired you don’t want to go so early.

6. Take a vacation with your friends with children

it will be more fun for everyone to travel with another family. The kids can play with each other and they don’t need the constant attention of the Mother. In order to socialise with their peers, parents and even kids in the evenings she can take care. At the beginning of last summer we were on vacation in the basement with my friends and each of us had children about the same age. The kids see each other, ate, played, entered the sea. Stay at home dad one evening and looked at the babies, the mother went out. Just the opposite the other night… this method might make it easier to with making travel more enjoyable with the child. It’s cool especially if your friends.

7. Don’t neglect safety at the water’s edge

summer fun with kids necessarily include the pool or the sea a vacation. If children can’t swim, you cannot sit by the pool and relax in mind. Your first duty the safety of your children as a family. For that reason, or law enforcement-style swimming equipment to take precautions or your children unattended pool/on the shore of the sea do not leave. The sea shore, the sea in a remote area of sand to sit and play with the children we have preferred so far. A volunteer and it turns out they were moving Buckets of water from the sea. Kids this age can play for 1-2 hours.

8. Thanks to technology

morally, iPad, iPhone, Video type, if you’re against the entertainer, give it a try. Seat belts on the plane, in the front row of the kick, throwing the toys on the floor will cease to be a problem. While waiting to eat at the restaurant, everyone will be more calm. If you want to let everyone to have fun on vacation, let me. It will not be difficult to put the rules when I get home. When he was 5 months old, who sleeps in the car seat to keep my son entertained for more than 40 minutes of music and video applications for a three-hour car trips on assistant. In moments of waiting outside, we all have patience and as the battery nears its end, we use a utility. At home, even if my phone in the middle as soon as unauthorized to play, it wouldn’t occur.

9. Not without the suitcase first aid

Boy, I’ll fall. Keep basic first aid supplies in the suitcase. Fever reducer/pain reliever syrup and a thermometer, Band-Aid, fly repellent in the summer to take measures. When my son was 8 months old and we was fired for the first time we’re in Zurich. Although there are drugs around, I forgot to buy the thermometer. Fortunately, the fire was soon that I realized that we were in the city center and it wasn’t hard to find a pharmacy.

10. Don’t put off a family vacation

Parents with their children doing the most basic cause of the holidays, the children old enough to remember waiting to go on. Well, given this logic, why do we do the kids birthday parties fancy? Why to the cinema, to the theatre are we taking him? No matter how old you are, our child is affected by this trip, and keeps pace with changing conditions and new cultures, animals, activities for to feel the thrill. We went when my son was 1.5 years old in the Canary Islands while squeezing her cheeks every morning, the hotel staff had learned a few words of Spanish to them. Intrigued German in Switzerland last week in the house, books, please, “read German,” he says. The Mother of the puppies sliding on the back of the Apes he saw in the street, they imitated guitar players. Pretty remarkable stuff for a guy with a 2.5 year old. Besides, on vacation, on the house full-time less stressed than those parents in the eyes of a child to spend time with a great thing it must be.

in short, infancy is a plane ride from the ride get used to guys, with the change in conditions, different people, tastes and cultures can adapt to. To respect themselves and that knows how to entertain a small social individuals they are becoming.

do you have anything to add to this list?

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