#sanism tw

[uncanny-tranny]

Something I absolutely hate that's done for some reason:

Person: Isn't that typical narcissistic behaviour? *Lists out behaviours and tactics done specifically by abusers of literally all neurotypes*

There is no such thing as an "abuser disorder" because abuse is a pattern of behaviour. Stigmatizing disorders like NPD only contributes in horrifically negative things and discourages people from seeking help when they may need it. You can call out abuse without essentializing it with an Abuser Disorder.

[selectivechaos]

do not laugh at people for uncommon phobias

your phobias are not embarrassing. people can have phobias of absolutely anything, and they can be really precise and something that other people would think is strange to be scared of. your fears are valid feelings. you shouldn't have to be ashamed, but many people do not know about phobias beyond the common ones.

if it's something you don't understand because you've never seen it before, don't laugh at it.

they're not "being silly",

they can't "just get over it"

they need actual help, rather than unprofessional exposure therapy

they're experiencing real real fear

people with common phobias get sympathy; people with uncommon phobias get ridiculed at the worst possible moment: when they're in a state of fear.

so i repeat: don't laugh at them. 🌹🌹

[auschizm]

Adding onto the anon talking about forced hospitalisation: it is absolutely true that a patient being in distress due to forced/highly coerced hospitalisation is just seen as a sign they need it even more.

A few years ago I had a string of very long hospitalisations that I absolutely didn't want and made my mental health way worse due in part to the way doctors changed my antipsychotics however they wanted *without even asking me*, making me severely ill due to sudden withdrawal.

And one of them lasted about 5 months, with a transfer to residential halfway through, and immediately when I got there I knew it was going to be awful, so I was begging on the phone to my parents for them to take me out of it. They and the doctors only saw it as further confirmation of my inability to know what was right for myself. Same went with other things they did to me in our home.

Years later, they have given vague mentions of regretting it and realising it was a really bad idea. But of course, only when they heard it from people other than myself... because my psychotic opinion didn't matter, apparently.

I'm so sorry and angry that you had to go through that! It's really scary that people are more likely to take a psychotic persons "this isn't helping me" as proof that we are too ill to make our own decisions than as proof of the hospital/doctor being bad...

[plushefemme]

You need psychiatric help man

no i need a joint, a messy burger, and some head. in that order

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

I've never had any personal experience with psychiatry, fortunately. But it's always been a sort of threat for me, e.g. "people will think there's something wrong with you/you're sick in the head if you do this" and generally the fear of. I'm not even sure what it was- being institutionalised, or something? It's always been something deterring me from talking or opening up about any of my problems to anyone, except completely anonymously online. Just the thought of myself being forced to go to therapy is terrifying.

Your blog has inspired to actually think about this, and these feelings, and figure out which parts of psychiatry are good and bad and what fears I had were true and false. Thank you for this. Hearing someone talk about the real problems with it makes me feel really... Validated? I think? It's not your main goal, but it's helped me a tremendous amount, and thank you. I love the rebrand and I loved your blog before this also and I will continue to do so. Thank you.

Yeah the threat of forced and coerced psychiatric treatment is definitely used as a tool to promote conformity and discourage atypical behavior, even when it comes to people who haven't been labeled as "mentally ill."

Because to varying degrees it's a threat hanging above all of us that if we let ourselves become too weird or too hard to deal with, the risk of coerced and forced involvement with the psychiatric system increases.

And in many cases "I'll get you locked up in the psych ward" or "I'll make them up your meds" are very real threats that abusers can use to control their victims, especially as their victims struggle to cope under the abuse, and even more so if the victim does in fact have diagnosed mental health issues. Because an assumed mentally ill person will often be treated as inherently less trustworthy than an assumed neurotypical abuser.

[chronic-cane]

The fact that I'm taking a graduate level course and have a professor use "mental ret*rdation" in their slides infuriates me to no end.

Like, I mean no end. I'm trying my best to anonymously get it addressed within the department so that way the professor could correct it and make an announcement about its correction.

I'm also looking through the required textbook, and uh...

[Alt Text: picture of a man looking down one on one side with a blurred shadow of him looking scared or shocked on the other side. The photo is described as "image of dissociative identity disorder" end image description]

And a lot of calling mental illness madness, insanity, and even "minds of disturbed people."

It was published in 2021. (Sociology of Mental Disorder by William C. Cockerham if anyone wants to give it a shit review with me)

At this point I want the class to turn into a mad studies course. If you want to have that language so fucking badly then give the mic to the people who try to reclaim it. If you can screw up this badly, then start making it up to the ones you've screwed over.

But yeah a lot of my time about this class is pointing out how bad it is.

[the-firefly-jar-system]

“grippy sock jail/vacation”, “i’m so ocd!”, “my ex was such a narcissist/psychopath/sociopath”, “delulu!”, “is it acoustic?”, “being silly goofy manic”, “lobotomycore”, “you’re giving me ptsd!”, “i’m such a psycho lol”, “me and my split personality!”, “that’s so cr*ppled”, “you’re so bipolar”, “how’s that extra chromosome?”, “barcode/cutting board/wrist check!”

shut the fuck up. like actually shut it.

[pt: shut the fuck up. like actually shut it. /end pt]

(specifically referring to people who don’t have the disorders/experiences they’re joking about)

[projecthypocrisy]

How does your oc’s own perception of themselves compare to how other people see them? Is your oc aware that other people see them differently (if it’s different)?

😘 *I kiss Helena and you on top of head*

*Helena blushus and loves it (secretly). I just personally love it lol*

I think the big difference is some body dysmorphia and internalized sanism. She feels like her body takes up too much space, mostly because she felt growing up that she took up space emotionally and physically. She struggles with the idea that other people may see her body and love it or that they may not focus on that at all. She takes every rejection as a sign that she isn't desirable or attractive.

In terms of believing that she feels like others find her mentally ill (which she is) and finds that as a negative, is mostly due to seeing her parents not deal with their mental health in a helpful manner to them and those close to them. While also seeing her parents pathologize her experience with her own well-being and expressions.

[aceclipse]

just saw some random ass person call one of the people i was following delusional and i just need to remind yall that delusions are not fucking funny. delusions are shit that can fuck your entire day up and ruin your life + calling people a delusional freak isnt the power move you think you can own people over on the internet

[moonglowmuses]

"i'm such an idiot! i'm so dumb!" ( adam & anyone )

"maybe you are an idiot! what does that change?" adam prepared himself to be playfully pushed or some comparable reaction. "i'm kidding, i'm kidding, okay? you're not an idiot and you're not dumb. not in a serious way that counts, anyways." adam actually thought that his present company was quite intelligent, but they did not prioritize that status over other identities, and adam thought that was freaking awesome. "plus, if you're an idiot, then what does that make me?" adam was grinning from ear to ear at the moment.

@phantcmwritings

[sillyhimbim]

When I'm in an ableism competition and my opponent is a Reddit user

Seriously, using the R slur and schizophrenia as an insult on the same comment is a new fucking low.

[uncanny-tranny]

The most infuriating form of sanism is this idea that mentally ill people/people with mental disorders are just too stupid or too unenlightened to know how to be a proper, well-adjusted person

So many therapists have ignored signs of my unwellness simply because they assumed I was just... being stupid, and I just needed educating about why I'm acting disordered (apparently, mental disorders stop disordering you once you are condescendingly told why you're just disordered and dumb, who knew (sarcasm)).

Like, I could tell them that I knew my behaviour wasn't "rational," wasn't "reasonable" to do or believe and I'd still be treated like I was so dumb I needed hand-holding and scolding about why I'm acting disordered.

I truly wish that people would be able to take the idea of guidance and stop twisting it into "I am superior and enlightened and the people I am trying to help are stupid and wrong and beneath me!"

[selectivechaos]

i’ll be like to people “yeah i can’t speak when i’m nervous” and theyre like “same”

but then as soon as someone’s a bit too quiet, stares at the floor and doesn’t speak for a bit too long, as soon as it freaks them out, they call that person weird and rude.

and all of a sudden it’s not so relatable and funny. 🌹🌹

[auschizm]

I'm wondering why exactly psychiatrists are so afraid of psychotic symptoms that they force medication, I mean, psychotic symptoms can sometimes be dangerous, but sometimes also not. It's so much against autonomy of the patient, who usually knows themselves and is aware of consequences. It's just infantylizing that they don't believe their patients or choose not to listen to them when they tell them they don't want medication or would like to give a try to something different.

It is unfortunately my clear impression that many doctors are so ableist and fearmongering about any degree of psychosis that they have fully internalized the idea that any reduction in psychotic experiences is inherently necessary and worthwhile, completely regardless of the actual details of the psychotic experience and the needs and experiences expressed by the patient. This is a very unfortunate pattern in psychiatry, because antipsychotic medication isn't actually an inherently superior alternative to living with some degree of psychosis

[trans-axolotl]

Why would I care if some junkie goes through withdrawal, they shouldn't have been doing drugs to begin with and in case they get bad symptoms, they're already in a hospital so whatever.

Mad/psych liberation? Y'all deserve to get called crazy

yeah i have no fucking patience for this and i'm not going to respond to the rest of your asks. not sure why you're so threatened by people giving a fuck and caring about people who use drugs, but no amount of cruel and hateful asks are going to change the fact that i love people who use drugs. I feel really bad for the people in your life who have to put up with your discriminatory and hateful beliefs. calling me crazy is not enough to get me upset lmfao, i am crazy and i'm so happy about it.

hope you have a horrible day, anon <3

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

I think tiktok’s excessive use of the phrase “delusional” is not good news for psychotic people

So tired of seeing people calling themselves "delulu" for like... believing in romance or whatever