#romantically? no. no one. i genuinely can't picture myself in a relationship with anymore

[byfulcrums]

Why are women so much prettier than men. Like it might be the lesbian in me but I genuinely feel more attracted to women than I do with men. I just don't find them good looking. They have to have some very specific appearance for me to like them (physically)

And in TV I always feel more drawn to women. When I see a drawing of a femenine character I always go “oh wow, she's really pretty!” and then get disappointed when I find out it's actually a man?? Like I still find him pretty, but the fact that it's a man just makes them less appealing to me

A male character needs to have a very good character arc (and, IRL, they need to have an extremely likeable personality) for me to have a ‘fictional crush’ on him. Meanwhile, all a girl needs to do is have a cool design

[honest-moth-of-silver-grove]

Getting a submission for a matchup before this closes!!!

Let's start by talking a bit personality wise. I'm a very extroverted woman with very nerdy hobbies. While I love going out with my friends, having fun at parties and talking, dancing and laughing until I can't anymore (I have literally gotten sick out of how much I laughed many times because my throat gets sore, and my friends always express how contagious and genuine my laugh sounds) I'm also a very independent person that can get lost in all the good things one can do in complete solitude.

I'm a history buff and a literature freak, jumping from one hyper-fixation to another only when I know everything there is to know about a certain topic (love discovering all the deep lore haha!). I am also pretty independent, and many times I've caught myself having to force myself to check my phone because I could go days without talking to anybody if I get too lost in whatever I am doing. I tend to only rely on myself and almost never look for outside help to solve my problems, but I'm not work-motivated at all.

My most significant quality however, which both comes as a virtue and a flaw, is that I can read people and situations like books. I'm that person that knows the ending to most movies by the first five minutes of it, or the one that knows exactly the intentions of someone when talking with them. Because of that, I can be incredibly insightful, but also somewhat manipulative.

Other than that, I'm a short, blond girl with slightly tan skin and an obsession for warm colors, so much so that my family and friends tend to call me "little sun". I'm an ENFT. I'm also someone incredibly romantic --if I'm in a relationship, only that partner exist for me, so I'm also monogamous. I'm bisexuality, but I tend to be more attracted to masculine people, but I have also dated girls in the past (which means that if you only can/want do one match up, preferably masculine please!)

And that's it!!! Thank you so so much for taking requests 🌼

A/N: OOh boy, my Little Sun Anon, I have to tell you I read your first paragraph and immediately had someone in mind and the more I read the more perfect I thought they’d be for you lol. Thank you so much for your description, especially the way you spoke about your personality- it gave me a super clear picture. I feel like I know you now, lol. 

As for a matchup, because you said you’re bi, but tend to date more masculine people, I’ve given you two answers below, one male and one female- so you can choose who you feel is most accurate. But if I’m being honest, the first matchup, (the male one in this case) is who I think you’re most compatible with. 

For you, my Little Sun, I think you’re best paired with either Gale (Male) or Karlach (Female)!

💜 Gale is literally the PERFECT match for you! He’s more introverted, but charismatic and a huge nerd. He loves learning, and has a history of hyper fixating on something until he gets it himself. He’s not the funniest guy in Baldur’s Gate, but he does have a decent sense of humor. And he cannot, I mean, absolutely cannot stop himself from making puns and dad jokes. Like… literally all of the time. 

Gale loves how outgoing and extroverted you are. He’s not super shy per say, but he can be a bit awkward socially, so he’s very grateful to you for coming to his rescue in conversation quite often. And he’s incredibly happy you have tons of friends. Friends and him haven't always been compatible, and since his breakup with Mystra even less so. So he’s pleased you have a larger than average group of companies to introduce him to. Plus it takes the pressure off of him in a way, knowing he’s not the only companion you have to go to for outings or advice. He does enjoy a good party, especially if there's good wine and good food, but he also likes to spend a good amount of time just being quiet indoors. So if you ever want to party, but he wants to read, he has no problems wishing you the best of times with your friends so long as you always come home to him in the end. 

He’s also very pleased to be with someone with such a rich sense of humor, and the love of laughter. Personally, he thinks he can be hysterical, and he feels a swell of pride every time you can’t help but fall into a laughing fit over one of his jokes. 

He’s even more grateful you appreciate the knowledge of a good book, or a good study session as it can be rather challenging to find extroverts who do. He’s more than willing to spend hours in study or discussion with you, happy to prattle on about all he knows on any magical subject of your choosing. He’s also relieved you don’t find it odd to spend time apart. Gods know how he can get lost in a good book, or while practicing a spell. And he’d hate for you to feel ignored or left out. He’s very soothed by your understanding. 

He does ask that you confide in him more. He knows it can be difficult opening up, he suffers from the same problem himself. But, he wants you to know you can rely on him as your partner. And he hopes you’re okay with him coming to you. He believes partners work best when they’re a team, and so long as the two of you can communicate openly and freely, there’s nothing you can’t get through together. 

He doesn’t find it manipulative that you’re adept at reading people. If anything, he feels safer knowing you can take care of yourself when he’s not there. He hasn't always been the best judge of character in the past, so he’s often put at ease with you by his side when meeting new people, knowing you can judge their true intentions within minutes of knowing them. 

Gale thinks you’re so gorgeous, especially in all of your bright warm colors. He does think of you as his own personal ray of sunshine. You’re just so warm and comforting to be around. I mean he’s also incredibly romantic. In a relationship, he believes in 100% commitment, full monogamy, no one beyond your partner should be a blip on your romantic radar. And that’s exactly how he loves it. You essentially become the center of his universe, so your nickname is quite ironic as you basically become Gale’s ‘Little Sun’. 

Gale, to me, is an ENFP, so he also has extroverted intuition and feeling. The two of you are very good at instinctively knowing each other's feelings and thoughts. You can communicate with just a look- no words necessary. And you can tell, from the look in Gale’s eyes, that he loves you more than words could ever say. 

❤️️ Karlach would also be a fine fit for you, if you’d prefer a female partner. She’s a ball of energy, and she loves to have fun! She loves how hard you laugh. She tries to get you to laugh so hard, you’re sick, so long as she gets to laugh with you!

She’s not super into literature or deep lore, but she loves how excited you get about it. She’ll beam listening to you rant about all you’ve learned and you watch her train with the same proud interested expression. 

Karlach is also independent in that she’s been forced to rely solely on herself for years. She’s not used to having someone to turn to when things go south, but she’s really glad you’re there to remind her she doesn’t have to face anything alone. She welcomes your advice and your partnership in everything she does. The only thing she’s hesitant to share with you is any fighting skills, as she wants to keep you safe, far, faw away from any battlefield. 

She does grow occasionally weary of your ability to read people, but not because she thinks it’s manipulative, but out of fear if you do it on her, you won’t like what you find. Please reassure her, she’s wonderful. She still feels some guilt over the things she was forced to do in the past. She’s very happy you can read others though. Gods know if she could read people like that, maybe she wouldn’t have ended up working for Gortash, maybe she would've been able to see through him. 

Karlach thinks you’re absolutely fucking gorgeous! She loves your blonde hair and tan skin, and the fact that she can easily pick you up and toss you over her shoulder lol. She thinks you look incredible in all your warm colors- especially the color red. If you really want to surprise her, wear an all red outfit and just wait and see her reaction. She’ll probably burn hotter than the sun in response lol. 

Karlach is an ESFP, so the two of you have extroverted feelings in common. This makes the two of you go to people for having fun or letting loose. It’s so difficult having to carry the burden of saving the world on your shoulders. It can be full of fear and hopelessness. But then there’s you two: you and Karlach remind the party to laugh, and to live while you can. You play music and sing and Karlach dances to get the mood started. The party spends the night laughing and listening to music- extremely grateful you are among them.

Once the sun sets and the stars settle amongst the sky, you and Karlach might get plenty of offers to join the others for some more ‘fun’, but those honeyed propositions mean nothing to you. You spend the evening in each other's arms, relishing the warmth that radiates from Karlach’s red skin. As you relax in her embrace, you realize something a little ironic: you may be Karlach’s ‘Little Sun’, but she’s your ‘Big Heat’. 

[bronzeagepizzeria]

Get To Know Me

Thank you for the tag, @demdifferentstories-29 !

What is your name? Niyati

For how long have you had this account? since 2018, i think? only started using it during the pandemic though

Favourite food? i have a massive sweet tooth, so anything sweet, really. also pizza

Favourite drink? i don't drink anything interesting xD just water and even then a bitch is severely dehydrated

Do you have any siblings? yes, one older sister

Do you have pets? yessss i've got three cats!!

How old are you? 19

How many languages do you know? i'd say i'm most comfortable in english, but i can speak hindi fluently as well. i understand tamil entirely and sort of understand marathi + a few words of kannada bc i lived in bangalore for 13 years

What's your all-time favourite movie/tv show? fav movie has got to be the godfather part ii. i've watched it a million times. fav show will forever be game of thrones, no matter how badly it crashed and burned. i really imprinted on that shit lol

What are you enjoying to do in your free time? read fic hahaha. or watch movies. recently i haven't managed to watch anything except reels on instagram though, send help

Are you an introvert or an extrovert? mostly an introvert, but i think i'm just bad at small talk. i don't have issues with public speaking or anything, and i can talk about stuff i'm interested in for hours and hours to virtual strangers xD

Your favourite music genres? i don't listen to a lot of english music tbh! i'd say pop? mostly i just listen to film soundtracks and bollywood songs

Your dream place to visit? i used to be fuckin OBSESSED with australia as a child so i hope to still go there? but i'd like to visit all over, really. i haven't travelled much. definitely wanna experience living in the US/UK for a while. i plan to do my post-grad abroad

Something you wish you were better at? not procrastinating. it's a serious problem

How long do you take to respond to texts? immediately lol. sometimes i respond to ao3 comments within minutes, which must freak people out

Do you have any tattoos? If not, would like to? nope. look in theory it's a cool idea but i'm famously indecisive and if i can't even settle on a pfp for more than a month i just know i'm gonna pick a tattoo and end up fucking hating it

What's your sexuality? straight

Do you like reading? If yes what's your favourite book? i don't read much anymore, unfortunately. but i want to get back into it

Have you ever been in love before? ehhh no. i usually just trick myself into liking someone i suspect likes me lol

What's your relationship status? single

Have you ever been heartbroken? nah

Best memory you could think of? this question is super hard for me lol. recently my roommate and i did an hp rewatch and she asked me what memory i would rely on for my patronus and...i literally do not know. like i've had a decently happy life, but nothing stands out, you know? there isn't any one instance i can think of like that

Worst memory you can think of? same thing again. my 2023 has been so fucking bad it's not even sad to me anymore i just find it genuinely funny. but it hasn't been all bad either? i really don't know if i've just repressed my emotions for this year or if i'm over it already lol. maybe it'll come back to bite me in the arse later

Do you have any fears? moths and butterflies (i don't discriminate) i also don't like small birds/plants that are beginning to dry up/balloons losing air. i was a weird kid

Are you a morning or a night person? oh, night definitely. i spent the entirety of last year getting like 2hrs of sleep a night and napping during class

How many pictures do you have on your phone? 5001 + my icloud has not been backed up in 462 days

Who was your favourite childhood crush? first guy i ever liked was shahid kapoor. first guy i actively fantasized about etc has got to be chris evans. the captain america movies were my personality for a long time in middle school lmao

Are you a romantic? hmm i don't think so. i have pretty old-fashioned tastes when it comes to love and romance i guess, but i think i'm more of a cynic

What’s your dream date? showing my s/o movies/shows that i love. honestly that's my love language

What are your hobbies? i draw a little, watch movies, read fic. i used to play professional-level badminton but that hasn't been fun for me in a long time :(

Tagging: if you read all the way and you feel like it, go ahead!

[hopeful-hugz]

We have heard the mun ramble but what about the muses 🤔🤔🤔 I want to see Hope talk about her relationships with the Joshuas and Hanekomas 👀👀👀

"M- me??? Well, I guess I can? I'll, uhm, I'll go by universe then? Starting with my people, then my friends."

"I'll start with Highness and my Pops; Decaf:"

🎶 @kingsmedley || "Highness is my little brother, through and through. I love him dearly and have been there as much as I can to support him, both in his individual journey and as the team we've evidently started to become. He's been pretty busy lately and I think that's gonna be consistent now that he's getting the proper and professional help he needs. When he is around though, we're... Well, we're the king and queen, a hell of a duo unlike anything in this universe. I still worry about him something fierce but I'm also making sure he has his own independence separate from me as well, cause that's important for him to have."

☕ @strawberry-barista || "Pops and I's relationship at the moment is... tense. But that's not either of our faults; we're just on our own personal journeys and growing as people. Finding ourselves and what we need in life, in different ways. We're not in a position where it's healthy to be your typical father-daughter pairing, but we do what we can when we're physically and mentally able to. It's caused some strain, but that doesn't mean I see him as any less of a father. I know he's gonna be there to support me and love me no matter what happens, just like I'll be there to do the same with him. I... suppose a good way to see it is that instead of this being a case with the kid being raised, instead it's starting at a place where the kid has grown up and is supporting the parent as much as they're still supporting a child; he still teaches me things and supports me, but I'm also doing the same. Cause I'm not a kid anymore, I came into the picture as an adult and that's alright. I love him dearly and always will and I know once we've both developed more as people, we can start developing as a team again too."

"Next the folks from my other home; Rubato, Topaz and Opalite:"

🌌 @the-composer || "Rubato, Luna, Nocturne, I have a lotta names for him at this point. Everyone knows about the whole crush thing at this point- hell there was a whole drama about it. But that's kinda dwindled a little bit since it first developed, or blurred? I dunno how to word it; articulation and all that. But yeah, the feelings are still there, but I'm focusing more on what we have here and now, which is something surprisingly close. Like Highness and Requiem, Luna could see everything I'm made of if he so wanted; my thoughts right down to my very core. So, like with Highness... I took a chance and was completely open with him without going into my life story and it definitely was the right move. Where I was open and honest with every question and inquiry he threw my way, he gave me little bits about himself in return. It's built not only a foundation of trust, but of a deep and genuine friendship that has taught me a lot. Not just helping me find myself as a person, but showing me there's a lot more to life too- That friendships can be just as intimate as anything familial or romantic. That there can be a love and care there that can even surpass that. I'm not ashamed to say he's one of my best friends and that I love him dearly. I wouldn't be becoming the person I am today without him having come into my life."

💫 @catncore || "Topaz... I know he sees me as a kid still, and that he wants to see me healthy and thriving. But our relationship is a vastly different one than anything I have with Pops or Opalite... He's a lot older than myself and knows parts of me that I can't quite articulate. He doesn't only see the human with weird powers; he sees the aether too... the infant half of me that, while he knows more than Pops and I, still knows very little about. But he sees it regardless and accommodates for that. He's taken up the role of being a foundation for me where Pops doesn't yet have the experience to and has become a mentor for me; not only teaching me the workings of the UG so I can operate properly as an aether, but also has helped me just... in life in general. Something tells me he's been down some of the paths I'm going down, honestly. I don't think he wants to see me hurt and I don't wanna see him hurt either. I do what I can to help him, even if it's more just being his emotional support at the moment and kinda giving him not only some solidarity, but something interesting to look into. We're gonna be doing some research stuff soon; both to see if he can't help me heal from some of my recent ordeals, but so he can learn more about my kind as well. Heh, cause I KNOW he's curious about that, I would be too. I love him a whole lot and I owe him a lot, not just for all this but for giving me a home and some work experience that's more localized, rather than multiversal."

🎨 @dandybarista || "Ean- Opalite and I probably have the most different relationship to any Hanekoma I'll be talking about here. He's comfortable and a little distant, but I know he cares still. Not around too often but he makes it a point to check in when he sees me and I really appreciate that; I do the same with him, too. He's got the same sort of vibes Don used to... Wh... where he's relaxed but there's a lot going on behind the scenes... where he's friendly but prefers to stick to his people mostly. Where... when I need him, he's there. Even if it's just because I don't know what exactly I am that day and want to just exist with someone. He doesn't know just how much having someone like that in my life again means to me... H... how much I needed that; just a subtle affirmation that I exist." There's a moment to collect herself and clear her throat. "He's taken an interest in the fact that I've been trying to make things too. It's kinda prompted me to start doing it more... so when he comes to see me, or I see him, I have stuff to show him. It's still not a lot but... I'm getting there. He means a lot to me and I hope I can return the favor and do things for him someday too. Heh, I guess we do have some experiments of our own coming up too, eventually. Hopefully he gets something interesting outta that."

"There's a couple others I consider mine too, even if they don't consider me theirs of I haven't met them yet."

🎲 @abstractreign || Requiem is someone I'm still actively bonding and growing with. He's seen some... pretty vulnerable moments with me; tried protecting me from Maria... I got him hurt. Somehow, despite that, he still cares; and I care a lot about him too. He's my movie buddy and he's teaching me to play a lotta board games. There's something going on with him, behind those eyes. He's tired... He's planning something, and I think I have a feeling I know what it's about, but I'm waiting for him to come to me first. I know it's still pretty early, but I feel confident in saying he's another good friend and I love him a lot. I just hoe I can help make him happier someday, instead of worrying him to hell and back."

⌛ @heavenshot || "I haven't met this one, but I know he's there somewhere... I felt his presence in the timeline. I think he's Requiem's. It's only a theory, though. I can't help but get the feeling that something's very wrong."

"Onto some others that are some pals of mine!"

⚜ @strawberry-barista || "Espresso, aka Supernova. He's been a huge rock for me for almost a year now. It's a bit of the reverse situation with me and Luna, where he's got feelings for me and I can't reciprocate. That doesn't mean I don't see him as an incredibly dear friend though and one of the few other friends I can feel like I can be intimately affectionate with. It may not be love in the way he was hoping for, but I do love him very much and I'm thankful for all he's done for me. He's taught me a lot about myself and how I operate as not only a person, but an aether too. He's also made me privy to the fact that for some Composers, the creative energy I give off can be like a drug and I have to suppress it a little more around some people than others. It's been incredibly helpful."

🏙 @fangedstories || "Starshine and Obsidian are folks I met recently! Starshine's the cutest lil guy out there and I really feel for him. He's very sick though and I've done what I can to make sure he's going to at least have some semblance of a life ahead of him before he has to go fulfil his destiny. He's got a hell of a support in Obsidian too; I dunno a while bunch about him, but he's another Hanekoma who knows what I am, possibly more than Topaz does, since he specifically called me an aetherling. Only one other person has addressed me as that right off the bat, after all. I'll be going back to visit them once Starshine's taken his rightful place in his universe. I did promise after all."

❔ @fangedstories || "I've only talked to this Joshua once, so I can't really give him a proper nickname yet, but I'm leaning towards Bolero for him. He knew what I was right off the bat, so I can only assume he read me or is very, VERY different from the others I've met so far. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious."

"And of course I gotta give an honorable mention to Lait and Mocha; Strider's fiancé and father-in-law. I don't know them too well but they both seem extremely wise and like they've been through a lot. I can definitely see why Strider acts like she does with them being some of the biggest influences in her life."

[detectivekirigirislays]

needed to srsly get this off my chest but i genuinely think that bkdk haters atp are just disregarding the immense character development both izuku and katsuki went thru and the shift in their relationship dynamic throughout the manga

platonically, romantically or whatever you see bkdk as, they are not toxic anymore. grow up. people can change, people are different, ur childhood bully prolly hasn't changed and u can't forgive them and that's fine, that's valid, but it's different w bkdk. izuku forgave him, and katsuki is actively trying to change himself and the strained relationship he and izuku used to have prior to the well-developed rivlary-slash-other halves relationship they have as of the moment.

i say this bcos i was in a similar situation. 9 years ago, i myself used to pick on this one girl. a year later, i seriously regretted what i did, apologized and did my best to change and atone for what i did, and 8 years later, we are still the best of friends. i gen can't imagine a life without her because she's one of the people i talk to the most and i love her sm.

regarding chapter 424, sure, we acknowledge that katsuki is prolly saying what he said because he thought they'd definitely still be competing for the resy of their lives esp since both of them learn to grow and develop around each other, but isn't that the beauty of it? isn't the idea of katsuki dreading at the thought and assumption of not being able to chase izuku any longer the beauty of the whole line? sure, portray it as rivalry, there is a hint of rivalry in that sense too, but in the bigger picture, it's the idea that HE HIMSELF thought that he'd be at izuku's heels for the rest of their lives, that they'd be chasing each other and helping each other to grow to their limits until the end of their lives as heroes.

platonic, romantic, call it whatever, but you can't deny they've grown so much from where they started as. they've changed, and an argument that bkdk is toxic is pointless and stupid atp.

[aspicystrum]

Embarrassingly, last night I wrote an exceedingly long and sickeningly heartfelt email to some Netflix people (executives? Idk) based on advice from #saveteenagebountyhunters. It felt important, so I decided to share.

Hi there, friend. 

I don't usually do this, because writing in to a studio about a show that you just watched seems a bit over the top, and potentially just a drop of salt water in a river that somebody has already built a bridge to get over. 

However, on the off chance that this email might make a difference, I just want to say that it would be really, really, super-mega-cool if you guys changed your minds about renewing Teenage Bounty Hunters for another season. I finally got around to watching it this week, and I want to firstly, congratulate you for such a stellar piece of work, and secondly, implore you not to leave it unfinished. Not only is it fantastic and hilarious, but I also think it's kind of important, and I'm going to apologise in advance for the length of time I'm going to spend on telling you why. 

I'm definitely not a teenager anymore, but I was definitely a young christian questioning her sexuality when I was a teenager, and there was just nothing remotely like this on TV at that time. If there had been, I think it might have been a bit easier for me to figure myself out. Much easier, even. I dislike clichés, so I don't like that I'm basically saying the same thing that most queer people over 30 are saying about new media featuring queer representation, but the thing is, there's a reason that we're saying it. And Tropes Aren't Bad. The only thing that was around when I was growing up that had any gay women in it was porn and the L Word. Buffy too I guess, but I never got into it when it was airing (I'm not even sure if I'd have been allowed to watch it, to be frank) and later on, I wasn't interested in the drama and heartbreak. And of course, because I was a young christian, I thought porn was bad (I mean, it's terrible if you're looking for accurate romantic representation, but it's certainly not morally wrong like I thought it was) and because I don't live in the US, I never came across the L Word until I managed to pirate it in university. And while the L Word was massive and so important for representation and visibility... Honestly, I never really liked it. I didn't relate to a bunch of lesbians having sex and being bitchy in LA.

But Teenage Bounty Hunters? Shit. That would have been young Alex's obsession. Or lifeline. Cup of tea. Addiction. Breath of air while feeling like I was drowning? I don't know. Pick one. All of the above. I grew up going to an Anglican, semi-private high school. So while lesbianism wasn't wrong per se; (God still loved the gays - they weren't wrong for loving who they did) it definitely had to be wrong for me. Because it also sure as hell wasn't good. It was definitely no path to happiness. Lesbian was an insult that you used against girls you didn't like on the opposing soccer team. It wasn't until I went on exchange to France when I was 17 that I met girls who were out and proudly, wonderfully, sweetly dating. It's not even like it was illegal or anything, or that the LGBT+ community weren't tirelessly working to be visible and represented. I live in New Zealand. Generally, we're a pretty open, progressive, liberal country. I like to think that most of the time kiwis make pretty sensible decisions in terms of governance (though, believe me, there's always room for improvement). But, there's a difference between what's allowed, and what's socially acceptable. Especially in high school. Especially when you bring religion into the conversation. Or politics. It just wasn't done. Even in public school, you'd be asking to be an outsider. 

So I can't satisfactorily express how incredible it was for me to experience the relationship and character arcs of April and Sterling. A couple of staunchly christian girls, falling in love and unashamed of that. Albeit fucking scared. Their storyline resonated with my queer little soul. I was Chapel Prefect in my final year at school. I was an overachiever like April, and I had no idea how potentially gay I was, like Sterling. I wanted to kiss boys and sort of ignored all the crushes I had on the girls I went to school with. I wanted to be a good student and above all, a good person. I believed in a god. In fact, I wanted to believe in a purpose for existence and God so badly, that I chose to continue to believe, even while I wanted to kill myself in my first and second year of university because I felt like I was a bad student and a bad person. I still believe and it still keeps me alive from time to time.

All this is a very dramatic and unfortunately slightly sad way to say that you've got something incredibly special in Teenage Bounty Hunters. And that's just from one perspective. There's so much else that the show brings to the table. So much that it has the potential to. I could talk about racism, or adoption, or classism, or so many other things that I don't really feel I have the experience or understanding to give voice to, and do them justice, but you get the picture. 

Finally, I just want to say, I think I got my first recommendation for this show after you'd actually officially cancelled it. And it wasn't from your algorithm, it was from a male co-worker. Somebody I wouldn't have expected to recommend something like this show. Both based on judgements from before and after watching it. And I'm not going to lie, I heavily judged the title when I heard him talk about it, because I thought it sounded pretty frivolous and mindless. But certainly after searching for the show (I'm kind of shocked it was never recommended to me actually), and watching the trailer, I was immediately interested, because it's fucking hilarious. Now, after watching it I'm curious to know what he liked about the show too. So if your algorithm is designed to target viewers you think might be in a show's intended demographic, I feel like it needs tweaking. Also, I feel like you need to give more than two months grace-time for a show after releasing it, before you decide to cancel it. It's kind of tragic finding out about and deciding watching a show even though you know it's cancelled and then having your suspicions confirmed about you loving it. Very Fox and Firefly. Congrats, I guess? 

Anyway, I do genuinely want to say thank you for the work that you do and the joy that you've brought me and others through Netflix. I do hope the decision does get reversed, but it is a small hope.

If you made it this far, thank you very much for reading all of this. You're clearly a generous person with your time. 

Sincerely, 

Alex

[cowboyjen68]

same anon that you just answered here - I feel like bisexual doesn't fit as a label anymore but I don't want to/can't call myself a lesbian because I'm committed to a man, even if he's the only guy I find attractive. I'm almost exclusively attracted to women, he just happened to make a move and I'm not sure if it's genuine attraction or comphet just because he's my best friend. I'm scared of hurting him. I do love him. I just wish there was some way I could figure this out.

I understand where you are coming from. There really is not simple answer because human emotions are complex and our society muddies things that should be so clear if left to our own hearts and minds.

If you can get to a therapist, please do. I am not sure this will help but sexual orientation is not as complex for most people as the media would have you believe. BUT our society is one sided and we become biased even against our own nature. 

I can only speak from my experience, but with sexual orientation there is not “an exception” to the rule. If you are capable of sexual attraction, romantic feelings, intimate emotional bonding and physical chemistry with a male, you are likely bi. You could fall in romantic love with another man, should your current boyfriend be out of the picture. 

The way you  describe it, I think you might be on the right track of figuring out your natural sexual orientation. It is not “friend orientation”. I know we hear the “marry your best friend” stuff all the time, but the fact is that saying often confuses women. We think in love and friendship feel the same, they just don’t. I love my best friend and would die for her, but we don’t have sexual attraction. I can tell she is sweet and handsome and kind, quite a catch, but the chemistry is not there. 

Loving him and wanting him happy and to feel loved, enjoying his company is not that same as sexual attraction. Are you passionate about him? Both emotionally and, more importantly, sexually (physically). When you are sexually intimate with him is it just “okay” or does it make you tingle all over and just the thought of him kissing you makes you feel warm?  I realize that long term relationships settle into a gentle routine, but you should still have physically excitement for him. Also, sexual arousal is different from sexual attraction. Our bodies will physically react to sexual stimulation as a matter of biology,  but actual attraction is so much more. 

This insight might help you. If you are a lesbian and know that you can never have true passion for him, no deep connection  or physical chemistry, letting him go is the best gift you can give him. He, like you, deserves a chance to find all that true romantic love has to offer and mutual attraction and want is part of that package. If you can’t give it to him, love him enough to let him go. If you do it out of kindness you can prevent resentment from sneaking in, and it will, I know this is a fact. 

AND please for the love of the labrys DON’T pay any attention to tumblr boneheads who tell you that any female who has had willing sex with a man or been in a marriage or relationship with a man is not a lesbian. Our sexuality does not change (actions don’t make our orientation different from our natural state), what changes is our understanding of it as we mature, gain experience, learn more insight about ourselves and the way society affects us. 

No matter what you decide, do not sacrifice your happiness for anyone and don’t try to be something you are not just to avoid hurting his feelings. He will heal and if you stay with him, both of you might be missing a chance at true passion and love. 

[hammer-to-matt]

Hey guys. I'm back 3 days later. Was too busy getting my Latin teacher to listen to Fall Out Boy. Anyway.

The obvious first bit of gay is the title, G.I.N.A.S.F.S., which stands for "Gay is not a Synonym for Shitty". Honestly, the entire story of the song (an unrequited love that isn't unrequited because the love interest rejected them, but because the narrator can't bring themselves to tell them) is inherently a queer experience. ESPECIALLY a 2000s queer experience.

We're starting off with the pre-chorus because there's not much to be said about the 1st verse. Now, "Things aren't the same anymore. Some nights it gets so bad I almost pick up the phone" HELLO maybe I read that in a gay way because I'm gay but, the experience of having a bff and then developing romantic feelings so bad y'all drift apart and also pining so bad but not being sure they're into you so you just don't tell IS SO COMMON FOR LGBTS. Like, I've experienced that, every gay friend I've ever had has experienced that, It's literally a story I've heard from gay people since I was introduced to the concept of gay people.

Moving on to the chorus; "Sleep with your old shirts and walk through this house in your shoes". Now, it's totally possible and normal that a cishet relationship could swap shirts, especially when Pete Wentz is like shorter than me, but shoes that fit is a wee bit stranger. It's not very common in a cishet relationship that you can properly swap shoes. Like, you would not be walking through that house if said shoes were smaller than you feet, that hurts like hell!!

Now, lets get on with the 2nd verse. "Threw caution to the wind but I've got a lousy arm" Erm... sir.. A heterosexual relationship does not usually entail a sense of rebellion. I do understand the paparazzi's reaction to people dating ANYONE at the time, especially since Pete Wentz was somewhat of a 2000s tabloid staple, but it would eventually die down. The phrasing there seems as if it were something he would never live down. Not to mention the fact that he FAILED at letting go of caution. He couldn't bring himself to fully let his worries of, not only how this would affect him, but the subject of the song. SAD 😢 Now, onto the gayest fucking lyrics I have ever heard: "And I trace your shadows on the wall now I kiss them whenever I'm down" WHAT THE FUCK. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EVEN BEGIN. THAT'S FUCKING GAY PINING SHIT. NO HETEROSEXUAL EVER DOES THAT. Also "Figured on not Figuring myself out" Damn okay, unlabled valid as hell

okay n e way ^^ The last verse. I don't have much to say for the first bit as that seems to relate back to his overdose. However. The last line. "Photo-proof kisses I remember so well" Now. I need y'all to stick with me here. Gay. LISTEN Why do they need to be photo-proof? Again, I fully understand the paparazzi culture of the time and wanting the paparazzi to stay out of your business is a totally normal message. But NEEDING them to be photo-proof is, again, strange for a cishet relationship. It would be shitty for them to take pictures, but it wouldn't be career ending. A queer kiss would be. Like, FOB already got shit for "looking" gay. Imagine if one of them actually had a same sex relationship back in the day, much less a gender queer partner. Their career would have been over before it even began. Literally, they would probably have to break up just to escape scrutiny, and that wouldn't even completely save them.

The point of this post isn't to say Pete Wentz is queer or to prove some weird real life ppl ship because it's not any of my business and I really really don't care about some 45 yr old man's love life from 20 years ago, but I think FOB genuinely have a lot of queer influences and, I love that from beginning to end, they write music for the lgbt community exclusively. That about wraps up my silly gay post, Ciao!

One like and I will give y'all my queer analysis of G.I.N.A.S.F.S. by hit band Fall Out Boy