#relationships and opinons

[rise-my-angel]

In your opinion is Cersei a dom? I don't think I've heard that before!! (Tbf I'm really not well versed in things about the Lannisters) Would love to hear your thoughts on this!

Its actually sort of in the same realm of why I think Jon is, a lack of control in life.

Cersei has spent most of her life never actually in control of things, it's partially why I think her relationship with Jaime was as intense as it was, it was the one secret she had that was hers alone and no one had a say in.

So as an adult, Cersei is married to a man she hates, stuck in Kings Landing a city full of smallfolk she hates, and she is trapped within a system that looks down on her for being a woman. So what does she do? She uses it to her advantage, she takes that system of female oppression and twists it to oppress other woman so she can boost herself higher then them. She takes control of her life in ways most women in her position dont. She poisons her husband, places herself as Queen Regent beside her son in a coup, she starts sleeping with other people who cannot say no to her to feel powerful when she felt helpless when it was Robert she was with.

Cersei isn't really a dom in a kinky sense, but rather I think at this point in her life she refuses to submit to anyone let alone a man. She has worked to hard to use the system that opresses women to be able to stand beside men as powerful and thus she becomes almost addicted to that level of power.

She's not a dom because its naturally what she likes sexually, shes a dom because she refuses to go back to any version of her life where she did not have that power and control over other people. Cersei needs to be in charge in the bedroom because even when things crumble around her, thats still the ONE place that the outside world has no say in what she does and commands.

[llumimoon]

thinking abt when sparrow said he was gonna erase normal’s memories after they dealt with the doodler, which would effectively leave him friendless again. Wtf was that 😭

[sleepyyflowers]

I feel like there’s not a lot of people out there that you meet in this life time that just feel like an instant soul connection. The feeling of fate lining up perfectly that you can just feel it almost radiating off of the moment. Even as complete strangers or not, I feel more understood and seen. I tend to reflect on moments that feel like this where time stands still. Makes me feel more human. When I’m down this keeps me going. I look forward to more moments like these. I long for this deep connection to feel seen and understood once again. How beautiful moments like that truly are.

[glitterandsalt]

I'm done being ppls starter relationship

If I'm the first bi/trans/autistic/alternative/kinky person you've been attracted to, nah we're staying just friends bc I cannot do this anymore

If you aren't educated about shit about me on your own, I'm not doing the emotional labor to get you there. I wanna have conversations, not "how to date ppl like me 101" classes.

I'm cool with learning together but you gotta be pulling your weight too.

[eurydike-on-media]

I've been listening to the If Books Could Kill podcast, and the Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus episode was a really exciting find. Maybe exciting isn't the best word for it, but it's the closest. For one, I could now know what the book is about without wasting my time reading it which brings me to point two, I can now feel very grateful towards my laziness for never following up on my aunt's recommendation to read it when I was still a teenager.

Over time I intend to comment plenty more in much more detail on feminism, but for now, let me lightly address this book based on the podcast's summary and quotes. A book like this can be very damaging if someone is already in a vulnerable position. To be told that you are simply asking for help from your partner in the wrong way as a justification for why your partner is willfully ignorant and uses weaponized incompetence can be harmful. You are in essence asking for someone, namely married women in the context of the book, to remain in positions of subservience and potentially domestic abuse. By implying that marriage is a hierarchy rather than a partnership, the author asks that the misogynistic and controlling roots of marriage be upheld.

We live in an era where we are beginning to more widely accept the unpaid labor women participate in. A husband is not helping out his wife by looking after their children, he is being a responsible parent. Not every act in the home from a husband must be a show of love, some acts are chores that must be done one way or another and they should be shared, such as emptying the dishwasher or changing the baby's diaper. This book asks for women to place further pressure on themselves to make the life of their husbands easier, never once questioning whether these men may need a lifestyle change instead. To ask women to remain in relationships, to carve themselves out to fit into the mold of these relationships, is harmful.

To return to point two, I am glad I hadn't read this when I was younger and more impressionable. I am glad that I hadn't read this book at a time that may have lead me down a path of belittlement and subservience. We are not half-people meant to complete each other, but entire beings who should be willing to complement each other.

Sadly, as I grow older, I question my aunt. What kind of person is she if she read this book and whole-heartedly recommended it to a self-conscious teenage girl? How can I mend the gap that is growing between us as I learn that the woman she is doesn't align with the woman I thought I was looking up to? My aunt was such a powerful figure in my childhood, a whirlwind always pursuing something new and exciting. In my adulthood where I can see her more as a peer, I find that she is not as progressive and decisive as she once was, as I once perceived her. Today, I find it hard to bond with her as she sits on her couch binging romantic dramas and cooing over men speaking lines with sexist undertones and silencing the female lead with a kiss.

[hypocritic-trash-baby]

When I was a child I thought never fighting was the sign of a good relationship

Now I think differently. I don’t think fighting means a relationship is bad. Now I think not being able to disagree without deeply hurting each other means it’s bad. I think people can fight. Disagreements happen. There’s just lines everyone agrees not to cross. At least that’s what I think now

[lorarri]

★ . . . 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐍𝐄𝐖 𝐆𝐅 , 𝐋𝐇𝟒𝟒

summary , Junho has started dating once again and has decided to try a different approach on hoe to introduce your child to your new partner - safe to say Nana is pissed

pairing , step dad! lewis hamilton x fem! young teen! reader

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DAD ❤️

hey sweetheart

pack your bags

I've talked to your mother

and your gonna stay with me

until your school suspension is over

Y/NNIE 🐰

she agreed to it?

DAD ❤️

yes

Y/NNIE 🐰

really?

DAD ❤️

yes sweetheart

now pack some clothes and what ever else you need

as well as your school stuff

Y/NNIE 🐰

why I'm suspended

DAD ❤️

doesn't me you have to fall behind on your studies

dw I asked your teachers to send all the work you will miss

and try my best to help you with your homework

and then we can go out a get ice cream or watch a film

just the two of us

like old times

Y/NNIE 🐰

what about your girlfriend?

DAD ❤️

mina understands that daddy daughter time is important

Y/NNIE 🐰

don't you want me to bond with her?

DAD ❤️

I do but I don't want you to bond with her because I forced her into your life

so take your time sweetheart

when you are ready to form a relationship with her

whether it be as friends or as family

mina will be waiting

and if you don't want to have a relationship with her and prefer staying at your mothers house

that's fine as well

what ever you decide to do we will respect your opinon

as long as your happy sweetheart

now I'll be there in an hour so get your bags ready okay

I love you and see you soon ❤️

Y/NNIE 🐰

love you too dad ❤️

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MOTHER

Y/N baby when are you gonna be coming home?

Y/N

hi sorry Y/N isn't here right now she's gone to get the popcorn

we are watching a movie right now

anything I can pass on to her?

it's mina talking by the way

MOTHER

oh um just ask her what day is she coming back

I wanted to have a girls night with her

just the two of us

before she goes back to school

Y/N

yeah sure I'll pass that message on

MOTHER

thanks

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NANA (EX WIFE)

keep that bitch away from my daughter

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[stood-onthecliffside]

saw everyone talking about getting bangs (and i say you should do it but)

[slashercult]

pick a fruit bowl to find out how you will recognize your future spouse

reminder that not all of the messages in this reading may apply to everyone. so with that i urge you to take what resonates and leave the rest. don't force anything if it does not fit. this reading is mainly just for fun. don't forget to follow or reblog if you want to see me do more readings like this.

pile one

you will know that your future spouse is your future spouse because the connection will be instant between you two. it will feel completely different from all of the other relationships that you have been in, a lot more passionate. i feel like with your past lovers, you would make them out to be a lot better than they actually were to you. but this isn't the case for your future spouse because they are the real deal and you know it. your future spouse could be an air sign (gemini, libra, aquarius) or could be a talented artist. i feel like they enjoy doodling in their journals, they seem like a daydreamer kind of person, their head is always in the clouds. they have strong arms, i feel like they could be a bit buff and like working out. they won't be shy with their displays of affection in public but i also don't see them trying to do anything that could possibly embarass you. they value you your feelings over everything.

pile two

you will recognize who your future spouse is because of how calm and peaceful you feel whenever you are around them. they won't sugercoat things when talking to you, but not in a negative way, more of like if they feel something is upsetting you they will go ahead and ask you what's wrong because they don't like seeing you feel bad. communication is something they do not take lightly, and this works in your favor because i don't see you two arguing with each other as much because of this. this person could be a lawyer or could be in a profession that has somethng to do with law. they have a well defined chest and back area, nice neck area as well. i feel like they enjoy being outdoors and taking care of their plants in a garden. they are wise and may look a bit intimidating at first but they are actually super sweet and understanding.

pile three

you will recognize your future spouse because of how optimistic and confident they are. this person is also be extremely lucky, they may have some sagittarius placements. they just radiate golden retriever boyfriend/girlfriend energy. they are a deep thinker and they are not afraid to voice their opinons. you both may share the same political beliefs (or just beliefs in general). you could come from the same religious backgrounds and may have a similar childhood. this person enjoys watching sunsets with you and their favorite holiday is halloween because they love pumpkin flavored things. they definitely play a sport, i feel like the sport could be hockey or lacrosse, something that involves a stick. you will know your future spouse is your future spouse because their beautiful wide smile. they are soft, warm, and love cuddling on the couch while watching a sports match. your relationship with them could help heal your inner child.

thanks for reading! if you enjoyed or resonated please heart and reblog so i can do more of these readings.

[auset66]

PICK A CARD? 🙀🤯

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1. [Pink flower and wall] So a family situation. Whoever you are living with right now no communication and thoughts about ending it all Comming in your mind. If married with kids having thoughts about divorce and leaving it all behind.

There is this thing in your DNA passed down by the ancestors that Is logical factual and speak truth. Brave and not afraid to be confronted which you will discover almost about yourself when you will be able to see past your emotions. I feel here you have the tendency to take emotional decisions and make emotional Decisions what does it mean? Feeling unsafe getting triggered and cutting off from people giving them silent treatment instead of communicating in name of keeping my peace.

That is what I meant. And I feel that is the current situation too. Don't be afraid to communicate but communicate the truth the facts the logic putting both the parties feelings and logic in the same shoes. Don't be afraid to not just confront but to be confronted about your not so flawless about yourself too. A huge major undiscovered best debater the best leader part of you that is always respected by everyone no matter who, is waiting to be discovered soon. Only if you start to see the situations as situations and not as personal Attacks. Communicate your truth and the justice of situation. Clouds will clear and you will be able to solve these. interpersonal problems. Good luck.🎀🫧

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2. [Road with trees] Clearly a love situation or should we say online situationship. There is a lot of emotional chaos lot of lingering guilt from past but still the uncertainty the mystery the hidden the wiped under the rug here.

One party here is putting very aggressive (fast and extra) efforts in this whatever it is while other is also but on meh level.

What is asked of you is to be truthful about your feelings, if you giving mixed signals to this person even when you don't really feel like it. Accept it. See it. And leave.

If you feeling the feelings for the person but the fear is holding you back. Accept it. See it. Leave completely or put the efforts.

You have to let go of past now. Past is past for a reason. The energy is so hidden so fearful so anxious here even I was not able to tap into it fully for good 3 minutes. So Accept and see the truth the intuition of yours is what telling you here not the fear of being abandoned or fear of rejection. And do the right thing. (Justice card) if you feel you are "kinda" using this person for attention. Leave do the right thing. If you feel this other person is using you for it. Leave it. But Accept the truth about your feelings. Kay? 🌸🌱

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3.[the yellow flower bench] I see some embarrassment the childhood wounds of yours bottled up, and now it's spilling out on your very closed ones. I don't see it as something new "oh I had a fight few months ago" no it's a chronic lifelong thing you are dealing with. It could be from you being misogynistic to you hating to be seen as low class whatever it is, it is projecting on the closed ones of yours creating problems. I do see you love them but your opinons on them because of your past is affecting the relationship.

What you need is not emotional distance what you need is to embrace your past and your truth a good cry and a good therapist. I feel in childhood you had money problems in life or maybe body image issues in your childhood something anything that was embarrassing for you. It is still to this day affecting you because of the emotions being rugged under the cover. So open the cap of the bottle and let it all out accept your past for whatever it was and cry it out if you want to but embrace your past self don't be the same person who you were afraid of back in your childhood. God bless you. 💫💭

[thatstonedwriter]

⋆｡˚ 「 Relationship Headcanons 」 ⋆｡˚

Vash the Stampede

Well, well, well, looks like the Humanoid Typhoon has swept up another unfortunate soul. Hope you’ve got some good cardio, because with the Vash, you’re almost always on the run.

Ever since you came into his life, keeping you safe has been Vash’s top priority. Frequently shoves you out of the way of any potential danger (and has definitely taken a bullet for you more than once). Because of his tendency to prioritize your safety (and the safety of others), Vash suffers many injuries, but always attempts to play them off as nothing.

Vash is incredibly insecure about his scars, so early in the relationship, it’s unlikely he’ll let you tend to his wounds. When he does eventually allow you to take care of him, Vash tries cracking jokes the whole time (most of them at his own expense). Be gentle and reassuring- he doesn’t trust just anyone with seeing him like this

Frequenting saloons is one of Vash’s favorite past-times. Just don’t try to keep up with him during drinking games. You will lose. Whether you’re his drinking buddy or designated sober companion, Vash just appreciates your company.

Vash is big on giving/receiving verbal and physical affection. Doesn’t need to be anything big either- ruffling his hair or a whispered “good job out there” is enough to fluster him beyond belief. On the flip side, Vash loves giving you hugs, or throwing an arm over your shoulders- he’s also very open in complimenting/praising you. He’s all about spreading the love, after all.

Bless his heart, Vash is so easily distracted. Be it someone in need, or something shiny, Vash is all over the place. Keeping up can be a struggle, but rest assured, he never leaves you behind.

Of course, his pacifist ideals, while noble, can cause tension- especially when he all-too-easily forgives someone who was just trying to hurt him or someone else. This will probably be the thing that causes the most friction in your relationship. Vash is always quick to apologize to clear the air, and does genuinely try to balance your safety with his ideals, but communication, especially in the beginning, may be a bit rocky, since he has the tendency to shut down in the face of negativity.

Vash is incredibly playful, and enjoys being able to joke around with you. In his opinon, having your own little inside jokes is top-tier intimacy. Seeing your smile and hearing your laughter are what keep Vash going most days.

Despite his cheerful demeanor, Vash's smiles are almost always hollow and.. Sad. You're one of the few able to discern his empty smiles from the genuine ones

With all the chaos and danger that follows him, Vash is painfully aware of how you could be taken from him at any moment. He makes sure to tell you every day how grateful he is that you’ve decided to stay in his life.

[tacobellabeanburrito]

Let’s talk about Phoenix and Miles’ red/blue gay color scheme.

I love the fact that the colors are switched. You’d expect Phoenix to be the red gay because he’s firey, kinda dumb and silly, and is way more extroverted. He’s such a sweetie and that’s kinda what makes a red gay a red gay most of the time.

And then, you’d expect Miles to be the blue gay because he’s calm, collected and cold. Wears glasses for crying out loud and doesn’t do well with feelings and people which is the recipe for a blue gay.

But then, you also think about how well they go with their colors too. Despite Phoenix being spunky, he’s still such a straight man to literally everyone in the Ace Attorney universe compared to how red gays usually are. He’s such a smartass and actually very intelligent although he doesn’t get to show it often. He’s also one of the most chill characters in Ace Attorney and that makes him such a good blue gay.

And then you have Miles who in my opinon, is already super fiery. He’s so passionate about his work and gets fired up over the slightest things. He’s dorky and kind, just like a lot of the regular red gays and is very confident. He has absolutely no chill factor at times (especially when he’s angry). Despite them being the opposite of what their colors are supposed to be (considering my the fact that most red gays act like Phoenix and most blue gays act like Miles) they fit their other colors so well.

Sorry if this doesn’t make sense. I’m basically just talking about how Phoenix and Miles sort of switched colors but the colors actually really fit them.

This can also fit for some other rival romantic relationships and I think it's super cool when it gets switched up.

[that-student-that-has-homework]

Al-Haitham Headcanons 02

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He likes playing with your hair.

When you're curled up into him and each reading your own books, he starts absentmindedly playing with your hair, twirling it around his fingers and whatnot.

He kinda enjoys when you cut your hair because then you have to be closer to him in order for him to be able to play with it. Even if there is less of it to play with...

I get the feeling he would buy "strange" jewelry.

Say you like earrings, he will buy things that look interesting.

Kaveh would probably balk at them.

They're not ugly they just look kind of nonstandard and weird.

His relationship with you is very much a way of him learning more about himself and the world.

He's curious about how he responds to you

how you respond to him

the different emotions / wants / feelings you manage to elicit from him

I struggle to imagine him using pet names

But I know he's very capable of sarcasm so he might go with a "habbouba" towards you from time to time when he's being annoying.

Habbouba is a cute-ified(?) cutesy? version of habibti, that you'd usually use with younger kids. So there's your undertone.

Habibti (my love) is another he might use.

With time and him becoming more comfortable and accustomed to his position as your husband, he might go for Rouhi (my soul).

Though for the most part he's just using your name. Also these adages usually follow him calling your name.

Petnames in Context

What is it habibti? When you call for him

[Name] Rouhi, I'm tired, can we just go to sleep now?

My asks are open if you all wanna talk some more about headcanons / opinons / drabbles!

[umalvie]

as i said while discussing iroh as a character, despite the comics being a mess, i feel confident saying that at the end of atla, zuko not only realizes that azula has been harmed too, but he rightfully blames ozai for that harm (although ozai is not solely responsible for traumatizing azula).

as big of a win as that is for the possibility of the fire hazard siblings healing their relationship (zuko absolutely has to take the first step there in my opinon; azula would not be willing to at this point, and their relationship has been unbalanced in terms of care historically), their relationship is still quite tragic even with this realization.

there is no way that zuko actually understands what ozai did to azula. he doesn't even know what ozai did to azula. yes, he knows that ozai abused azula, but zuko only understands and knows abuse as he endured it.

there's also almost no way that azula is going to tell zuko about it. not only would she not want to discuss something so vulnerable in a serious or honest manner (see the way she discusses ursa in the beach), but she's also just had a serious psychotic break. it's very possible that she's not fit to see zuko at all right now, let alone discuss her trauma with him even if she wanted to.

so zuko is left to fill in the blanks about the how of azula's trauma. given his pattern of relating other people's trauma to his even when it's not actually the same (i.e. how he relates katara's trauma about kya being killed during the fire nation's genocide against her culture to his own trauma about ursa's disappearance after committing high treason), he would come to understand and conceive of how ozai abused azula through his own experience with ozai's abuse. while zuko's abuse was clearly always an implicit threat dangled over azula's head ("you can't treat me like zuko!") and ozai absolutely used some of the same tools against her that he did zuko, zuko was ozai's scapegoat child while azula was his golden child. their abuse did not look the same, it did not function the same, and it did not impact them the same.

it's also unlikely that he has the perspective at this stage in his own healing process to apply any of his (false) perceptions of azula's trauma to how it would have shaped both their childhood and his perspective of azula. he probably doesn't even realize just how deeply his perspective of her is colored by ozai's abuse of them both.

furthermore, since he's accepted his recollection of their childhood (which is not his fault. he is a victim of abuse who did not have the means or opportunity, as a young child, to see beyond ozai's more obvious abuse of him, which he couldn't even admit, to notice ozai's more subtle abuse of azula), he likely can only conceive of azula's childhood trauma in two ways:

as the byproduct of his own trauma, existing not because of azula's own traumatic childhood experiences but because of her witnessing his, such as the agni kai

as the product of his exile, occurring because he was no longer physically there for ozai to abuse and thus had to find a new target in azula

the former seems less probable given his belief that azula enjoyed his pain when they were children, so he would likely think that she was abused not when they were younger but exclusively after his exile began.

this isn't even touching on how zuko's perception of ursa and iroh clouds his ability to see how they both harmed azula too. that muddles things a lot more since zuko struggles with black and white thinking.

i think azula and zuko could heal their relationship with time and mutual effort, but as long as she refuses to confide in her brother and as long as he assumes she should experience and respond to trauma the same way he has, they're doomed to remain static in relation to each other.

[allastoredeer]

Controversial opinion but I don't think Alastor having a high opinion of himself makes him bad (aro)ace rep. Loving yourself is a good thing and not all narcissism is pathological.

"Everyone has some level of narcissism, which is necessary for self-esteem and confidence. Healthy narcissism involves having a positive self-image and a reasonable level of self-confidence. It enables you to take pride in your achievements and set boundaries in relationships. Healthy narcissism is balanced and doesn’t interfere with your ability to empathize with others."

For an example of pathological narcissism, one need look no further than the Vees.

Viv said no one could love Alastor more than himself and I honestly think that's great! There's enough self-pitying ace rep out there.

Do people think Alastor is bad (aro)ace rep cuz he has a high opinon of himself???

Dude, that's why I think he's fantastic representation. He 's comfortable in his skin. He likes who he is. He doesn't even give a second thought to sexual and/or romantic relationships and I adore it.

I love Alastor loving himself. I love him not thinking there's something wrong with him. I understand ace-rep when there's a lot of complicated feelings and inner turmoil, but not all ace experiences are like that, and I think positive and non-angsty ace-rep is important too. I hate it when asexuality is written as a tragedy. When it's made the villain for a failed relationship. Speaking from personal experience, asexuality is fucking awesome and I have never shed a tear over not wanting a sexual or romantic relationship with another person.

Alastor's out here living his best, most self-loving ace life and I wouldn't have it any other way.

[juicelooped]

opinon on polysquad/polyshow

I LOVE POLYSHO TONS its one of my favorite ships ever😭 aauughhh i used to be a massive polysho enjoyer before i became akitoya anhane crazed fun fact. i still care for them very deeply my love has never died down for them

as for polysquad, im not a fan sorry🥲 i just ship akitoya and anhane (if that wasnt clear already) however i absolutely LOOOVE the dynamics between them all, just prefer them as very close best friends!! i cherish their relationship so much😭🫶🏽 id like to draw more vbs besties in the future