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Connecting with your intuition/body via Somatic Work - Daniel Siegel’s Hand model

And we’re back to the long, long series where I’m showing y’all how to connect to your body/intuition using somatic psych theory.

We’re starting with learning your own autonomic nervous system. I’m using Daniel Siegel’s hand model of the brain to visually break down what I’ve covered so far!

Here’s the video!

And here’s the transcribed version on the QueeringPsychology blog!

Please check out the previous videos/blog post or this won’t make all that much sense.

The next video and blog post will go deeper into the fight/flight response!

[silas216]

http://twitter.com/silas216/status/1296101219195379713

Dems prefer you scared. They could‘ve gotten rid of this illegitimate POTUS. They collectively chose not to. They could have fought him every inch. They played an optics game, a “hey that’s against the rules! 🧐” game, but ultimately let Trump do w/e. Scared ppl are controllable

— Muting/Blocking = Self Care (@QueeringPsych) August 14, 2020

from Twitter https://twitter.com/silas216 August 19, 2020 at 10:06AM via IFTTT

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https://twitter.com/QueeringPsych/status/1197212924152029184

[pern-dragon]

THREAD

[munifisense]

RT @QueeringPsych: S. Korea is giving free tests to citizens and non-citizens as a part of their emergency response The US is charging over $3,000 per test https://t.co/uMgZT9n3wr

S. Korea is giving free tests to citizens and non-citizens as a part of their emergency response The US is charging over $3,000 per test https://t.co/uMgZT9n3wr

— Muting/Blocking = Self Care (@QueeringPsych) February 28, 2020

via Twitter https://twitter.com/MunifiS March 01, 2020 at 09:28AM

[truconman]

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When we say defund the police, we mean the national guard, ICE, the entire military complex & incarceration complex...all of it Some of y’all are confused. It’s all connected.

— Muting/Blocking = Self Care (@QueeringPsych) June 6, 2020

[dlozlami]

DISCOURSE EP 1 IS OUT!! They debunk the idea that Black cishet men have no privilege. From being marginalized to being complicit - all angles are covered.@EliToYou @RaineyOvalle @Duhlency @BlakeDontCrack@QueeringPsych@blkdickmatterss@IamGMJohnsonhttps://t.co/Yast1S3dwq pic.twitter.com/83H7ib0sfS

— KINK Media Group (@KinkMediaGroup) February 29, 2020

via @Dloz_Lami March 03, 2020 at 07:24AM

[womenofcolor15]

WOW, REALLY? Terry Crews Throws Gabrielle Union Under The Bus, Defends ‘AGT’ Amid Investigation + Gabby Hires Orlando Jones For ‘LA’s Finest’

When “America’s Got Talent” host Terry Crews was offered the chance to show support for former “AGT” judge Gabrielle Union (who publicly took up for him during his sexual assault controversy) – he didn’t. In fact, he threw her under the bus, calling “AGT” the most diverse workplace ever.

Get those deets, plus more about how Gabby proves we’re #StrongerTogether with the hiring of Orlando Jones inside…

We want to say we’re surprised by this, but sadly, black women are used to this sort of treatment.

”America’s Got Talent” host Terry Crews appeared on the “TODAY” show where he was asked about former judge Gabrielle Union’s exit from the show after one season. You’ll recall, she reportedly made allegations of a "toxic" and "racially insensitive" work environment behind-the-scenes at the show.

In the interview, the 51-year-old host said since he isn’t a woman, he can not speak on any sexism claims and as far as racism on the show, he has never experienced it.

“First of all, I can’t speak for sexism because I’m not a woman, but I can speak on behalf of any racism comments,” the “Brooklyn Nine-Nine” actor said. “That was NEVER my experience on ‘America’s Got Talent.'” 

“In fact, it was the most diverse place I have ever been in my 20 years of entertainment," he added.

After it was announced that Gabby and fellow judge Julianne Hough would not be returning to the show, there were reports that Gabby exited the show due to its “toxic culture," which included “excessive notes” on her appearance, including accusations that she was told her hairstyles were “too black” for viewers.

Terry said he believes we should “listen to women and always believe women,” but since the allegations were “given by an unnamed source” he’s seemingly on the fence when it comes to speaking out about it. He said "Gabrielle has not made any statements to this day about any of these allegations publicly,” so he wasn’t sure what to say/do. He asked his wife Rebecca King-Crews what he should do and she told him, “If [Union] hasn’t made a statement, why would you?”

The "AGT" host also said he had not spoken to Gabby since the allegations surfaced.

We’d like to note, Gabby hasn’t directly addressed the allegations, however, after her exit she broke her silence with a tweet, thanking everyone for their support.

"So many tears, so much gratitude," she tweeted. "THANK YOU! Just when you feel lost, adrift, alone... you got me up off the ground. Humbled and thankful, forever."

Peep Terry's interview at the 2:45-minute mark below:

Sir, if you're a true alley, you don't have to experience sexism to comment on it.

After Gabby caught wind of his interview, she hopped on Twitter to respond. She first put up a tweet about being thrown under the bus and how she stepped up when he shared his truth. She didn't include his name, but we know who she's talking about.

“Thank u! Cuz girlllllll,” she tweeted. “Truth telling, wanting change & having MULTIPLE witnesses who bravely came forward to let EVERYONE know I didn't lie or exaggerate, really exposes those who enthusiastically will throw you under the bus, forgetting quickly who stepped up 4 THEIR truth.”

"Can someone please ask abt what happens to all that diversity folks are talking about BEHIND THE SCENES. Like, legit...where the hell is all that diversity in the production though homie?," she asked. "In the decision making ranks who control the fate of the diversity in front of the camera?"

Everything is funny. pic.twitter.com/oUaW6lklpi

— Clarkisha Thee Bully (@IWriteAllDay_) January 24, 2020

You’ll recall, Gabby was one celeb who publicly supported Terry Crews when he accused WME agent Adam Venit of sexually assaulting him at an industry party in 2016. So yeah, this is like a slap in the face.

And check it...

When Terry was in the midst of his sexual assault controversy, he said he was surprised by the amount of support he received from black WOMEN.

“To be honest with you when it first happened there was none for a long time. But, I have to say this: the people who surprised me the most were black women,” Terry said. “Black men did not want any part of it.” “All my support came from black women, straight up. And that’s kind of wild. It shocked me. It shocked my family," he continued.

Hmph.

The "L.A.'s Finest" actress then went on to say to question the diversity behind-the-scenes at "AGT," specifically the hair and makeup department. She also said they all had agreed to not speak about the situation until the investigation had been completed, but it seems all bets are off now.

"Let's also talk about where the diversity is in the hair & makeup dept for contestants that DOES NOT reflect all that diversity that hits the stage. Let's Google the exec's that run the show & ask follow up ?? about THAT egregious lack of diversity. Let's discuss the facts," she tweeted.

Gabrielle also proved what solidarity actually looks like.

"American Gods" star Orlando Jones was recently fired from the series. And he claims he was axed from the STARZ series due to the racist new showrunner. In several social media posts, Orlando said his character Mr. Nancy had “the wrong message for black America" and the new showrunner didn't like it, so he let him go.

After Orlando went public with the firing, Gabby hopped on Twitter to request a sitdown with him. And it apparently happened because he now has a recurring role in the second season of "L.A.'s Finest."

"What solidarity looks like. We are SO much stronger together. So happy to work with you my friend! @TheOrlandoJones," she tweeted.

Congrats!

Despite it all, Gabby will continue to fight: 

Folks on Twitter are sounding off about Terry's comments with disappointment:

  Beyond disappointing. Terry Crews could have spoken to his experience without going overboard to discredit @itsgabrielleu. BTW, I didn’t have to know Terry Crews or see what happened to him to support him. Sadly, black women are used to this. https://t.co/2uuQ4Yr6oG

— Jemele Hill (@jemelehill) January 24, 2020

  I wish I could say this is disappointing, but that’s not a strong enough word. As a person who wrote an entire piece about Terry Crews and the lack of support he received from Black men over his assault, I am appalled to see him move like this.

This is garbage, @terrycrews https://t.co/BhLEAgCJh5

— Frederick Joseph (@FredTJoseph) January 24, 2020

  Terry Crews is disgraceful for not only not publicly supporting Gabrielle Union but for choosing that moment to cape for the show. A black woman simply needed your support and you chose that moment to celebrate those who wronged her. No excuse for that

— God's Trombone (@TheBlackCyde) January 24, 2020

  It’s so sick that Black women & Black queers rolled up for Terry Crews while his cishet male peers shitted on him hard for his trauma & at his 1st opportunities he threw queer ppl & BW right under the bus for his comfort in patriarchy, etc. Not even for his survival... COMFORT

— Muting/Blocking = Self Care (@QueeringPsych) January 24, 2020

  Terry Crews is yet another example why I only support black women. I don’t give a fuck. Lmao y’all gon learn one day

— Muscadine and therapy stan account. (@MiAmorAlia) January 24, 2020

  Terry Crews received so much love and support from Black women. It's bullshit the way he is tap dancing and throwing Gabrielle Union under the bus.

— Stephanie! (@qsteph) January 24, 2020

  What's your take?

    Photos: Kathey Hutchins/Shutterstock.com

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[queeringpsychology]

Healthy relationships don’t need secrecy

The whole don’t tell your relationship business to outsiders enables toxicity at best

This is the same line of thinking that believes chronic disrespect, cheating, etc are part of the “normal” ups and downs in a relationship

I’ve never seen a healthy relationship that abides by that don’t tell anyone outside of the relationship

It reminds me of how families keep secrets to enable bad behavior

There’s a difference b/w being private & that us vs them thinking that keeps you emotionally isolated

Your friends, etc expressing concerns based on what you told them doesn’t make them the enemy

Talking about the relationship itself isn’t the problem

If the relationship were healthy, talking about how the relationship works and what your partner does would never be a problem

I get that it’s awkward to go back to that partner when your friends now dislike them

But why is you not honoring your boundaries & needs for safety in order to avoid being alone by any means their fault?

The partner who disrespected you benefits from a us vs them secrecy

[silas216]

http://twitter.com/silas216/status/1296101117533786113

It’s not just that y’all are willing to vote for Biden & Kamala given their records. It’s that y’all refuse to question their past actions & make them model accountability before taking the highest offices. A skill that we should all demand in a leader.

— Muting/Blocking = Self Care (@QueeringPsych) August 14, 2020

from Twitter https://twitter.com/silas216 August 19, 2020 at 10:06AM via IFTTT

[lyeekha]

RT @QueeringPsych: Just in case y’all not getting it. The last time the CDC was told to ban words, the word “blood” was banned during the AIDS crisis & now 30 years later, ppl STILL believe misinformation that word ban caused. Banning words leads to stigma & discrimination. https://t.co/geUK3u8L6U

[pern-dragon]

GREAT THREAD

[queeringpsychology]

Checking In - A New Chapter

Checking In – A New Chapter

Hey, long time no see! For those of y’all who are not also following me on other sites/social media apps, I had taken a writing break because life got real. After 2020 and the 1st half of 2021, I was feeling stagnant in my clinical work. Basically, I reached a plateau and realized that I needed to shed some skin like a snake and grow from a professional perspective. I re-focused my clinical…