#queer kinky people (my beloved)

[tsukiyo-7]

societal taboos are funny that way. enjoying fictional mass murder, torture, blahblah? no proooooblem. demon dean was fun, boyking Sam my beloved, cas should've murdered MORE angels actually, spn is my favorite show etc.

consensual adult siblings (also fictional) incest? IMMORAL u heathens.

I think it's just because people don't act on an actual real moral compass or rational thinking but more on the very narrow and black and white basis "this makes me uncomfortable therefore is bad".

The general audience is used to blood, gore and sex, but everything is always filtered in a specific cultural lens; if before we had more variety and wiggle room in what the media portrayed, now most of the mainstream is the offspring of the U.S.A. and these illusory "western values" that, as European, I firmly believe are made up bullshit (but that's a discussion for another time).

Anyway, in this specific lens that I'm sure you can guess what it is, if and when incest is contemplated it's always cishet, between twisted motherfuckers (allow me the scientific term lol) or used for shock value and generally described as an unfortunate affair. And people can be okay with that, it disturbs them, sure, but they can move on with their perception intact. Look at the success Game of Thrones had.

The problem with Wincest, I think, is the fact that for starters we're put in a place in which Sam and Dean are the good guys. Your perception of their actions is increasingly altered as you progress, although they murder a worrisome amount of people, you still end up rooting for them. In the second instance, a relationship between them would be queer in a way people aren't used to seeing because they're not quirky or kinky or wholesome and their entire personality and story doesn't evolve around their identity. They're just some dudes, albeit a bit weird, probably perceived as peak masculinity, if the popularity of the show among the military is anything to go by. And finally, their love is destructive yes, but infinitely tender; they care for each other to an unbelievable extent and there's no denying that even if you don't ship them romantically.

You're forced to acknowledge the fact that something can exist beyond everything you've always been taught and believed in so far and that makes people more uncomfortable than a depiction of abuse ever will.

[falciesystemessays]

hey, this one isn't about video games at all, it's about my experience being sexually assaulted a few months ago. i've been thinking recently about a conversation i had with my beloved a while ago, about the person who did it and how i was still making excuses for her. in advance i will be talking about sexual assault and topics adjacent to that, so like, reader beware.

basically, that woman tried to groom me. i'm not gonna call her out by name here because a callout wouldn't accomplish anything meaningful, but she treated my hesitations around kink as a problem to be solved, and said "we'll get there" after i expressed discomfort at something she did during sex. it was kind of terrible, and it has definitely not been fun having a body in the time since then.

the thing is that like, for a long time, like several months, i had been making excuses for her. sure, sex was nonconsensual that time, but i was into it the first time! i should have made my boundaries more clear! i knew she had issues, she had red flags that i was ignoring! and isn't it wrong to hold a transgression like this against a vulnerable trans woman? we need to stick together, you know? i kept making these excuses because i refused to acknowledge that this was something that woman did to me, that i had no agency in the matter because the point of rape is that my agency was taken from me.

and like... i have complexes around sex in general. for literal years, i've felt out of place in queer communities for not being sufficiently edgy, weird, or kinky, and i've always envied people who can live more active lives than me in that regard. i kind of see that kind of perpetually sexual queer lifestyle as an ideal i am perpetually falling behind. but also? when i do try to chase that ideal, i always end up needing to constantly fight, always needing to rise up to do the next thing because someone out there is doing even more than i am and it just... it ruins me. there's this terrible thought that runs through my head that all that is what being queer is, that if i'm not constantly looking for and having really intense sex than i am functionally a poser who talks the talk of being a trans woman without walking the walk. yes i am a self-hating aspec, how did you guess?

but someone like that woman, she gave me the possibility to pursue that kind of life. yeah she was pretty edgy, and full-throatedly embraced kinks that i never want to indulge, but... don't be moralizing, she's a real trans woman. you don't want to be a fake queer, do you? yeah she talks a lot about the callouts she got a few years ago and the insults her exes hurled at her, but you know, trans women tend to get that kind of unfair maligning. you don't want to miss this chance, do you?

of course, then that happened, and all potentials for a better me fell away like sand. it actually took a couple of weeks for me to cut her out of my life, before i finally accepted that she was not going to improve and that her presence in my life does not spark joy.

but i was left thinking, maybe i should have been into it? maybe i should have wanted it. this is what being a real queer is, after all. if you can't handle one evening of irl dubcon then you probably couldn't handle any of the real shit that we do. and it took me a long fuckin time, and a lot of conversations in therapy, with friends, and with my beloved, to realize that what she did wasn't okay, and that it wasn't my fault.

i told my beloved at one point, "i should have listened to her and accepted more about myself. i mean she went through the callout wringer and came out better for it," and my absolute arrow of a beloved told me "did she get better, or did she get haughtier? did she take that opportunity to grow as a person, learn what consent is, and do better for the people around her? or did she decide that everyone else is the problem? that she's better than them, better than you, so she doesn't have to question anything?" and it's like... shit.

in advance, when i say what i am about to say, i am probably not talking about you or anyone you care about. if i am, then whatever, just don't harm anyone, it's fine for me not to like you, whatever. but i do notice this thing, sometimes, with some people, where they assume that any criticism must be unfair maligning. it's the kind of thing that obviously doesn't apply on more than a subcultural level in most cases, but if you already have a following and social capital, it's very effective for maintaining it. just talk about the horrors of callout culture, talk about how minorities like yourself are always scrutinized, and don't forget to quote hot allostatic load. call anyone who criticizes you a puritan.

to be clear, these people will often be right about the state of culture generally. it's true that trans women are often regarded as inherently predatory or deviant! it's true that they're hurt way more than a lot of other people by callouts, even if they are based on nothing or exaggerations of harmless things. but people can use that as a way to immunize themselves from criticism or accountability. indeed, it made me question myself! it made me make excuses for someone who absolutely did not deserve them. but don't think you're immune just because you're not a predator like her or a weakling like me.

[ineadhyn]

Writer interview

@vixstarria tagged me and I finally get to do it! Thank you <3

I am tagging @sky-kiss @scuttlingcrab and @thedomesticanthropologist

1. How many works do you have on AO3?

13 and some are multi-chapter. All are BG3 except for a german Inkheart one

2. What��s your total AO3 word count?

85.408 -that is a surprising amount of words for being active less than a year

3. What are your top 5 fics by kudos?

His consort, his god - I finally wrote smut for a popular ship XD (bloodweave)

At her mercy - kinky sapphic Karlach x Durge smut

Natures most beloved treasure - Halsin x trans masc Tav smut

Direct from Hell Logistics - ongoing Raphael x Haarlep comedy/angst/smut/plot - this one has it all

A song of snow and embers and Copper Hearts share this place. one is a F/F/F/F foursome and the other my Astarion x male Tav longfic

4. Do you respond to comments? Why or why not?

I appreciate every single comment and try to show that. There's nothing better than the e-mail that says "comment on your work" and it can make my whole day. Sometimes I don't know what to respond if it's just a word or a keybord smash, but rest assured I see you and I love every one of those, too.

5. What’s the fic you’ve written with the angstiest ending?

Angsty ending hmmmm. Because some of my stuff is not completed yet I am not gonna spoil anything but Dust and ash about Astarion's backstory was naturally quite angsty

6. What’s the fic you’ve written with the happiest ending?

Not. gonna. spoil XD

7. Do you write crossovers?

Not yet. Maybe I could count Copper hearts because I took Francys from my original work and planted him into Bg3

8. Have you ever received hate on a fic?

No, not yet.

9. Do you write smut? If so, what kind?

I do. I am exploring all kinds atm with preferably queer pairings wlw or mlm or nb. I can also write mlw from the men's perspective but not the other way round :D

10. Have you ever had a fic stolen?

Not as far as I know.

11. Have you ever had a fic translated?

Boy I wish.

12. Have you ever co-written a fic before?

No and I am not sure if I could commit to a project like that.

13. What’s your all-time favorite ship?

Hmmmmm ... Raphlep probably

14. What’s a WIP that you want to finish but don’t think you ever will?

My german Inkheart fic with a genderbent lesbian Basta. Damn I was invested in creating this character, but gave up after a while because it was a lot of work and it being german and a niche topic in a small fandom was not very rewarding tbh. I know I should not care and maybe I'll come back to it when the Inkheart obsession comes over me again.

15. What are your writing strengths?

I am good at setting the scene. Atmosphere and small mundane details that make the setting feel alive. I have always liked that in reading as in writing, because it makes you feel like you are actually there when you can hear and smell and taste the scene.

Also I am okay at developing coherent plot, but that's mainly practice from writing a lot of og work before I started with fics.

16. What are your writing weaknesses?

I still struggle with english grammar and punctuation at times so I always have a beta reader. And I am lucky to have great ones.

17. What are your thoughts on writing dialogue in other languages in a fic?

I am not a fan. It confuses me. Singular phrases and such yes, but not entire dialogue. Especially if it's german in an english fic I get super confused.

18. What was the first fandom you wrote for?

*digs through her files* So, my first works were basically fic for my best friend's story. (I was in my early teens.) But since she was the author the lines between canon and fic are blurry and the "fandom" consisted of three people of which one was the author XD

So if we don't count that the first one would be Hunger Games - It was one chapter and I never published it

19. What’s a fandom/ship you haven’t written for yet but want to?

We'll see what posesses me next I guess, though I think Bg3 will stay with me for a considerable amount of time. And ship wise ... I feel Durgetash creeping up on me.

20. What’s your favorite fic you’ve written?

Definitely Direct from Hell Logistics. I am having so much fun with it. It constantly makes me laugh and sheme and I also feel all the angst. Also it is ongoing and I get to explore the story alongside the readers (though I have a rough plot structure to keep me on track).

[fanby-fckry]

🍭🎀 for the ask game!♡

Let's Get ((REAL)) fic writer asks

Thank you! <3

🍭 why did you start writing?

When it comes to writing in general, I’ve had a passion for story telling for about as long as I could write.

I remember there was an assignment in like 1st lr 2nd grade where my teacher had the class add “spider legs” to their stories, which were basically strips of paper that you could use to add more details to things without erasing. She used to call my spider legs “elephant legs” because I’d add line after line on every “leg.”

As for fanfiction specifically, I did it out of spite.

I saw someone say that RadioApple could never work because Lucifer likes to tempt people with sex (not canon but ok) and Alastor’s asexual. Plus the power difference would make it unhealth and wrong. :/

And in response, I wrote Tempting Entertainment: the precursor fic to UH3.

So uh, thanks random RadioApple anti from 2019. You changed my life forever, and now I have an ongoing series of RadioAppleSiren kinky queer platonic polycule fanfics that get an insane amount of interaction and comments from people telling me how much they liked my work/how wholesome the unholy 3 are/how my portrayal of Alastor’s aroace-ness.

Also, get fucked because UH3!Alastor sure isn’t.

🎀 give yourself a compliment about your own writing

I need to stop reblogging ask games that have this as a prompt, because beloved mutuals are insistent on sending it every time, and I’m going to run out of nice things to say about my work eventually.

Also, I sent one back to you as revenge but the nice kind. If I have to appreciate my work then so you!

Hmmmmmm what do I actually say about this? And what haven’t I said already?

Oh! I think I’m pretty good at noticing the trends that happen when my characters start “writing themselves” and acting accordingly.

I accidentally wrote UH3!Alastor with a bunch of my own Cluster B traits in addition to the implied canon traits. And while I tried to minimize them for a while for fear of The Discourse™️, eventually I decided it was better to double down and write with my own perspective as a person with a personality disorder in mind.

Recently I came to the realization that UH3!Alastor may have a gender preference for women when it comes to platonic and sensual attraction, which I had kind of assumed wouldn’t happen in this AU, but he did it anyway. I’m gonna be keeping an eye on that, and might be updating his microlabels.

He doesn’t know his own microlabels, but it helps me keep my writing consistent. Previously I’d had him down as panaesthetic, pansensual, and panplatonic but I think he’s actually bisensual and biplatonic. His aesthetic attraction isn’t at all based on gender; meanwhile while he can experience sensual, platonic, and queer platonic attraction to any gender, he seems to have a noticeable difference between women and everybody else.

I blame his father for this. I also blame him for a good portion of the Cluster B symptoms. Wow, I really wanna write some backstory about Alastor’s relationship with his father, because it’s hinted at in UH3 in several places, but it doesn’t come up a lot and I have so many things to say.

Uhh, what was I talking about? Oh yeah, my writing! Complimenting it!

Sometimes my characters write themselves, and I think I do a pretty good job chasing after them and taking notes. :3

[demdifferentstories-29]

20 Questions Game

Thanks for the tag, @bronzeagepizzeria <3

How many works do you have on AO3?

68!

2. What's your total AO3 words count?

734,052

3. What fandoms do you write for?

Currently, I really only write Doctor Who aside from a handful of other one-offs I've written, but I literally have at least a hundred WIPs/ideas in my drafts.

Fandoms that I have tons of ideas for are Broadchurch and Jessica Jones (TV series), which I hope to get around to publishing. But I have a fair bit of range hiding away haha.

4. What are your top five fics by kudos?

In descending order:

Broken-Hearted (cross-over with Broadchurch; multi-chapter; completed)

Braids (one-shot)

Desperate Measures (multi-chapter; completed)

Exes and Ohs (one-shot)

A Lesson in Romantic (AU; multi-chapter; completed)

5. Do you respond to comments? Why or why not?

Pretty much as soon as I can! I appreciate engagement so much and I want to make that known to commenters. Plus, I love a bit of banter and discussion where prompted - it's a delight!

6. What's the fic you wrote with the angstiest ending?

Oooo, boy. Probably Happy Together? Or maybe the first chapter of Sunburn? Violet Hill was also pretty sad. I love me some dark, heavy stories that fuck up my beloved blorbos.

7. What's the fic you wrote with the happiest ending?

Although I haven't updated in it in quite a while, I've written a fair bit of the sequels for the A Lesson in Romance universe, and, boy, have I made those two have a (mostly) happy life together.

In terms of published stories, I think Study Buddies would take the cake or one of the many TentooRose pieces I've done. The former is very classic, high school sweetheart vibes with just enough angst dashed in, and I tend to keep the latter sweet, fluffy and horny.

8. Do you get hate on fics?

I received some very intense 'constructive' criticism whilst writing A Lesson in Romance - like I'm talking extremely long paragraphs pretty much deconstructing my writing and questioning my content. I was young at the time, it was my first multi-chapter Doctor Who fic, and the fact that this person also pretty much outright told me how I should write my story pissed me off a bit, so I, in the most polite way possible, asked them to stop reading my story and leaving these comments.

Aside from that? I've really only had one sort of bad comment since then, but I opted to not reply.

9. Do you write smut? If so what kind?

Oh, you know I do ;) I currently only write F/M; have explored M/M in the past so I'm down to write queer smut if the inspiration ever strikes.

I'm not really a fan of overly kinky stuff that is, say, explicit/specific (e.g. BDSM), but I don't mind stuff that is vaguely/lightly kinky (i.e. I tend to include voyeurism in my stories, but it's generally accidental). I mostly write either very horny or emotional, intimate stuff - I'm a sucker for the feelings associated with the couple.

It honestly depends on what kind of story I'm writing! But as of recent, I've been mostly producing first-time, emotion-heavy smut with a good serving of horniness/wantonness to build up the tension.

10. Do you write crossovers? What's the craziest one you've written?

I've written two - Broken-Hearted and Fobwatched (if you've been waiting for an update, I promise I think of her often... I'll revive her one day). I'd say BH is crazier, as it does entwine itself with the Human Nature storyline from Doctor Who, but Fobwatched has also had some pretty wacky moments!

11. Have you ever had a fic stolen?

Not to my knowledge, and I really hope not! I have, admittedly, been a bit fearful of it in recent months.

12. Have you ever had a fic translated?

Again, not to my knowledge! But I'm always open to that conversation if people are interested.

13. Have you ever co-written a fic before?

Back when I wrote band/music fanfiction (please forgive me for my crimes), I had started drafting out a fic with someone, but it never went anywhere and we didn't communicate very well either :,)

However, I have been beta-ing the lovely @quite-right-too's fic Dona Nobis Pacem, which has been a lovely collaboration <3 I'm so proud of Cody's work and highly recommend you read it if you haven't!

14. What's your all-time favourite ship?

It would probably be DoctorRose! I've never really been more enthralled with a ship before, and the fact that the special interest is still going strong three years on is a pretty good sign. I also tend to come back to Ellie and Alec from Broadchurch quite often.

In the past, I was a hardcore Reylo fan, and I've always enjoyed random, niche ships within my realm of interests (i.e. Evey and V from V For Vendetta; Jackson and Lisa from Red Eye; an array of ships from my horror movies because I love being delusional).

15. What's a WIP you want to finish, but doubt you ever will?

Look, I'm quite stubborn in my belief that, ultimately, I will finish all my drafts, but I can say that the drafts from when I first started writing Doctor Who fanfiction have been quite difficult to work on because my writing has changed so much since then!

There are also maybe a WIP or two that I have written purely for myself and will never publish. I will probably take these to my deathbed lol.

16. What are your writing strengths?

Hm, I've always been complimented for character accuracy, which I do think I have down pact - writing characters like Ten and Rose have gradually become more comfortable for me over the years and I feel like I know them quite well by this point, which is really surprising considering I've never done a proper rewatch of the show since finishing it aside from some scenes/particular episodes!

I've also always been very anal about detail in my stories - I love including the most unnecessary shit in my work!! Do you need to know what Rose had for breakfast? No. Are you gonna know anyway? YES!!! I just love making my stories feel as organic and lifelike as possible.

I've been working really hard on scenery recently, which I've been getting compliments on! I have aphantasia, so this is something I've put a lot of energy and focus into as I've come to realise it's pretty important for readers lol.

And, not to brag, but I do think I write some pretty banging smut. It's taken ten or so years of practice, but I got there in the end.

17. What are your writing weaknesses?

Eh, I feel I'm not super great at coming up with like... proper action/plot. Like I can do circumstances and events quite alright, but coming up with something like... say, escaping from a villain/bad situation, I've always felt pretty shit at accomplishing. However, I always try to improve.

18. Thoughts on writing dialogue in another language for a fic?

I only speak English, so it's a bit daunting! But I just use Google Translate and consult others where possible. And, as Niyati has mentioned in her own post, I recently used her technique of writing from the non-speaker's perspective and it's been a welcome addition to my skills! Shout out, girlie <3

19. First fandom you wrote for?

It would've been 5SOS, but those fics are long gone - I deleted them from Wattpad, and the iPod that the original drafts are on doesn't work, unfortunately.

I also wrote about other bands that I listen to - Asking Alexandria, Of Mice & Men, You Me At Six, Pierce the Veil, and Bring Me The Horizon. I still have most of the drafts, but I deleted all but four of them from the internet lol (the ones that were deleted were unfinished works).

I don't write about these people anymore as I did come to realise, Wait a minute, it's kinda weird and gross to write about these people like this lol (no hate on anyone who does). But I'm always down to chat about my sordid past haha.

20. Favourite fic you've ever written?

I would have to say "Come, gentle night, come" as it's probably the most amount of effort I put into writing. I think it's my best smut and cherish it deeply!

Tagging: @quite-right-too, @deardiary17, @insomniac-101, @metacrisisdoctor

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@ ask about zoos/p*dos using intrusive thoughts & OCD to normalize themselves (different anon tho)

I'm a social psychologist. I don't consider myself to have OCD but I do experience intrusive thoughts-- sexual ones, pertaining to a variety of subjects.

The kind of thing zoos/p*dos are trying to pass as. The kind of thing zoos/p*dos are demonizing by telling people that's what they are, stigmatizing the actual sufferers of intrusive thoughts even further, making our lives and relationships and treatment that much harder.

I wonder how often, if ever, zoos or p*dos actually mislabel themselves with "having intrusive thoughts", rather than purposefully trying to appropriate themselves to the public.

I'm picturing a scenario in which a zoo/p*do is thinking about Things and experiencing distress about it... except the distress is not from the content itself, but rather what it means for them to be fantasizing about the content. The implications.

Like... they are fantasizing. They are imagining things and they like it what they see.

But they know their ass would get put away if their fantasies ever manifested into something observable (drawn p*rn, roleplay, contact, etc). They know that everyone they care about would be horrified if they found out about their... interests. They know it makes them, respectively, a zoo/p*do-- very dirty words, and for good reason.

I could even see one being distressed because they're a zoo/p*do-- maybe it's against their beliefs, they know it's wrong and why, they hate zoos/p*dos.

To my knowledge, the current information we have in psychological sexology is that sexual preferences cannot be manually changed. They can change, as sexuality is fluid, but change tends to be involuntary and incremental (very small amounts at a time).

There was a 20th century case of a man having a lobotomy to stop seizures, and the man had a paraphilia for safety pins. I do not know the details of his interest, and the paraphilia was not related to his lobotomy at all. But after the fact, he reported that it had gone-- he was no longer sexually aroused by safety pins as he had before.

Trauma is the only thing we know of that can cause a sudden "flip of the switch" in human sexual preferences, but we also know that it is unreliable (due to variety in people, method, opinions about efficacy).

But we do know human sexuality is fluid. We know, even, that sexuality is fluid in other animals.

What I'm getting at is that I agree with anon-- we know very little about it, but it may be possible to alter harmful paraphilia.

I think this ought to be further researched, and have awareness spread about it if it shows itself to be effective. It saddens me to think that some zoos/p*dos might've been able to recover -- or at least be kept from animals/children -- and not go on to hurt others if interventions had been accessible.

But it comes with a number of ethical concerns that... I feel hesitant about.

Say they find a technique that is very effective in recovering people from paraphilia. We all know conservatives and raddies would instantly turn around with this to justify and reinstate conversion therapy.

The immediate price would be paid in queer lives.

What about any woman with "deviant" sexual behavior-- too promiscuous, too prude, too kinky or obscure? Would they pushed those women attend Sexual Desire Change Therapy too? Would they stop at sexual behavior? Would they advance ABA "therapy" and other Skinner-beloved "treatments" for neurodivergent behavior?

What do you think about it? Do you think some zoos/p*dos are capable of -- and willing to pursue -- recovery? How should society... like... "deal" with zoos/p*dos who do not find success in recovery?

This is a very complex issue.

I’m not entirely sure whether or not complete recovery is possible at this time, but if it can be possible in the future then I think it’s worth pursuing.

There would need to be a legal framework that prevents it from being done with children or adults who do not consent to whatever it entails, and it must be humane, for obvious reasons a lobotomy as a treatment for these issues would not be acceptable even if there is reason to hypothesize it being successful. And potentially laws saying explicitly that it only may be approved for those attracted to non-consenting parties.

Currently, treatment includes drugs to lower libido, prolonged therapy, and avoidance of the target. Generally a process similar to rehab for alcoholics to keep their focus on other things and remove sexuality from the table. This can be effective in helping them avoid fantasies and greatly lower their want to act on them, but it’s still imperfect. If there are better alternatives we should be looking for them.

[transmhyra]

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🖋️❓ 10 & 25

So you know that thing where you read a text message notification but then don't immediately respond to it, so it vanishes into the ether of memory to be obliterated forever? That's what happened to this ask until I was going through my inbox for other stuff! Better late than never, and these are great questions from the weird writer asks, so let's get into it. 10. Has a piece of writing ever “haunted” you? Has your own writing haunted you? What does that mean to you? Writing has absolutely haunted me. Most of my favourite writing haunts me in one way or another, especially if we use a loose definition of 'intangibly living rent-free in one's mind' as haunting. Haunting, for me, revolves around a piece of writing having a prominent place in my memory, even if I've only read it once, or if it has been years since I've read it. I'd be here for a much longer essay if I listed every piece of writing taking up residence in my mind like a beloved ghost, but a few that come to mind immediately:

The Animorphs series by K.A. Applegate. Little did I know picking up the second book in this series as 2nd grader would etch permanent grooves in my psyche and interests. Ostensibly, these books are about kids transforming into animals via sci-fantasy magic, but as the series goes on, it unpacks a startlingly political and horror-backed landscape of personal trauma, the cost of colonialism, and how war never has any victors even when there is a 'victor'. It's no small wonder I ended up radicalized.

Empress of the World by Sara Ryan. I've known I was queer since a very young age even if I didn't have all the words for it, but across the years, I've felt so seen by certain pieces of writing in terms of my identity. This was the first contemporary sapphic book I ever read, and while 'sapphic' no longer completely describes my queerness, as someone who identified as a mostly-closeted bisexual girl when I read it, it was deeply impactful.

Kushiel's Dart by Jacqueline Carey. I can credit this book with planting the seeds for the kinky, poly self I am today, as well as for many of my favourite concepts/tropes (tangible deities! masochists who are strong-willed and feisty! magical tattoos! sex as the vehicle for the sacred!) I re-read this book... this year? Last year? What is time? It still holds up each and every time I re-read it.

Everything Pablo Neruda. Neruda was the poet who made me fall in love with poetry as an art form. I will probably spend the rest of my life trying to describe love with a fraction of the artistry that he does in his love sonnets. Specifically, XVII has always been a favourite, and this stanza in particular: I don't love you as if you were a rose of salt, topaz, or arrow of carnations that propagate fire: I love you as one loves certain obscure things, secretly, between the shadow and the soul. (Fun fact: This is where the title of my first FFXV longfic came from as well.)

Haunting also implies more morbid aspects, and to me, that means corpses. When my own writing haunts me, it tends to be the unfinished corpses I have left behind. My abandoned longfic Artificial is first and foremost among the corpses that haunt me. To this day I wish I had been able to finish it, but for a variety of reasons I won't detail here, it's not happening. I've gotten to the point where I appreciate how well it prepared me to transition into mostly original writing, and how it gave me an idea of the discipline and scope finishing a 100k+ project requires. I've never been a BNF and likely never will, but I will forever be grateful for the small yet passionate community that sprang up around Artificial. It's humbling to have people along for your weird (but well-mapped from canon!) AU project and have recursive creativity result from it. My original sapphic inkwitch/painter romantasy continues to haunt me, both because it was originally supposed to be for a project I self-sabotaged myself out of and because I still really need to write it - for myself. It's been through three drafts at this point without being quite what I want it to be. I keep tending the idea field and collecting bits of inspiration, letting the field nourish itself before giving it another try. 25. What is a weird, hyper-specific detail you know about one of your characters that is completely irrelevant to the story? In their youth and pre-transition, before their first long-term posting aboard a navy vessel, Izod Arsenault was a talented dancer, to the point of receiving accolades from and invitations to the Imperial court to perform. Their favourite was a dance I imagine to be similar to the quickstep in modern ballroom dancing. It's also half the reason they sincerely enjoy attending Admiralty parties—the other being their bottomless thirst for throwing their political weight around. I'm not sure if this is hyper-specific enough, but it's at least specific, and it's for sure completely irrelevant to any plotty part of F&F.

[theintelligenceoflove]

@puzzle-gvf (my beloved) tagged me to tell y’all about ten songs I’m obsessed with so lets go. 

1. “Green Grass and High Tides” The Outlaws 

To be clear I am not "old music is better" but I just don't know if there are any groups who do music like this. I want three guitarists standing at the front of the stage doing everything you can do to a guitar without putting it down. y'know? And if they do it for 20 minutes (well the live is 20 minutes) then that's even better.

2. "I Shall Be Released" The Band

I don't know if The Band or Bob Dylan wrote this, they're so close it hardly matters. I've made my Dylan feelings clear on this blog I think. At any rate, this is the superior version and my coworkers (who give me the aux for reasons I don't understand) get really into this with me.

3. "Jessica" The Allman Brothers Band

Speaking of bands who do guitar stuff. I do sing this song, I am singing it right now as I listen to it. Does it have words? No, but I don't let that stop me. I am my father's son. I love a good guitar song.

4. "Sunshine of Your Love" Cream

Even if I haven't made my Dylan feelings clear I'm sure I've made my British Invasion feelings clear. I don't listen to Cream. But I do love Jake Kiszka so so much, and this is a Jake Kiszka song as we all know. He played it when he went to buy his first electric guitar right? I think that's the story I heard.

5. "She Freaks Me Out" Kyle Rising

I showed my dad Greta and he kinda rolled his eyes "I GUESS they sound like Z--" I showed my Dad Mac Saturn and he "they really wanna be the Stones huh?" I showed my dad Kyle Rising and he "he's Jim Morrison reincarnated." so make of that what you will with this song. (its good)

6. "Plain Closes Gentleman" Mac Saturn

Speaking of, I've fallen in love with Mike Moody and mostly I just like listening to his solo in this song but I do like the group as a whole, even if I agree with my dad that they're trying a bit too hard to be the stones. They're incredibly talented and I"m excited to watch them grow.

7. "Unknown/nth" Hozier

I only just listened to this song for the first time, it always takes me ages to listen to hozier songs for the first time, and with The Boys putting out music at the moment, I"m running on empty when it comes to new music. BUT my very best friend in the whole world loves Hozier, and I finally listened to this song and Hozier really wrote this song for him and I to write incredibly sad fan fiction to.

8. "Gets me so High" Grandville

I don't know alot about these guys but I saw a tiktok of them warming up this song and it was very "Eagles warming up to seven Bridges Road" vibes but this????? Classic American Southern Rock is back. the Guitar solo as I listen to this???? I'm gonna, they're so good y'all. I really need to get into this group for real.

9. "Cocksucker Club" Pansy Division

Puzzle you know why i've been listening to this song on repeat lately. If you're NOT Puzzle you don't know about the, now weeks long, back and forth developing a universe full of kinky queer punks and their partners who happen to the be GVF crew. Also I am a member of the club in question so, always a good song to have on repeat.

10. "Sugar Babe" Stephen Stills

When Jake and Sam were arguing about weather Stephen Stills 1 or Stephen Stills 2 was better, Jake was right it is Stephen Stills 1. But this song???? One listen and you'll have "How do turtles talk to one another?" stuck in your head for DAYS afterwards. And Stpehn is so right, people do need love, and they do need trust, and we do need one another. It's altogether a better message than "well settle with whoever is around you if you can't be with the person you love."

as always i'm way too anxious to tag anyone, maybe I'll get better soon, but if you want to do this just say I tagged you bc I do wanna see what y'all are listening to outside of GVF

[herewithinthevoid]

Oh, hey, pinned post 📌

Elder Millennial

She/They/It

Scorpio

Queer

Sex Positive & Kink Friendly

No Theme Only Chaos

FUB Free

That's the basics for a quick glance, but for those who want to know a little more... I'm a writer and visual artist, conceptual and trick photography being my love.

Horror addict. It's my preferred genre for nearly every medium, honestly.

Insomniac. I keep strange hours as a result.

Spoonie. Chronic illness and chronic pain mean my activity and social battery can fluctuate heavily.

Creative. I am the creator and owner of over two dozen original characters and growing. Absolutely adore character and creature design and development. The same goes for world building. While all of my OC's exist within their own original worlds, I will shamelessly plug them into whatever fandom universe grabs me. It's part of the fun, and I genuinely enjoy it.

Speaking of Fandom... AU's and Canon Divergence, my beloveds. I enjoy exploring both while still taking some joy from canon. Some of the franchises I enjoy include:

Bleach

Hellsing Ultimate

Jujutsu Kaisen

My Hero Academia

Tokyo Ghoul

Trigun Stampede

I'm very ship and let ship, I could give a fuck about ship wars and if a ship is canon or "makes sense" in the end. I also don't care if anyone self ships, I actually think it's cute, and yes, your fav loves you. The world is on fire, just let people find comfort and have fun where they can ffs. Some of my own ships and ship preferences include:

OC x OC

OC x Canon

Alucard x Father Anderson

Nanami x Mahito

Stain x Shigaraki

While there is no theme to this space beyond whatever currently has my singular braincell in a chokehold, there are still themes that will be prevalent here.

As such, this is a kink and nsfw friendly space, and therefore, minors are not welcome here and are asked to refrain from interacting. This is my little corner, and that is a hard boundary line for me. I will hard block if you're caught violating my boundary.

We unapologetically fuck monsters in this house ♡

Several tags are in use to find various themes:

hwtv art reblog - art centered reblogs

hwtv comm art - art I commissioned

hwtv comm nsft - 18+ art I commissioned

hwtv horror - horror content & reblogs

hwtv insomnia hours - late night bs

hwtv just thinking about - drabbles and more

hwtv just thinking about nsft - 18+ version

hwtv monsterf*cker - self-explanatory

hwtv oc - anything related to my OC's

hwtv oc nsft - 18+ content related to my OC's

hwtv rambling - my original text posts

hwtv reblog - general reblogs

hwtv thirst - thirsty and/or kinky thoughts

Current OC tags:

hwtv boisu

hwtv lyssa

hwtv yūmei

This may be updated from time to time.

- N.

You can have my Ao3 if you happen to stumble upon it on your own, but you may also find me in these spaces below ♡

NSFW Bluesky || NSFW Twitter || Toyhouse

graphics by cafekitsune unless otherwise noted

[puppyfyke]

love zoning out thinking about queer kinky sex with my beloved instead of interacting with people I hate

[olderthannetfic]

i'm an artist and a writer and the rivalry writers feel toward artists is very strange. but tbh i think it's tied into the idea that art is some kind of god-given talent present from birth rather than a skill you have to put countless hours into like anything else. "you're so lucky to be able to sell your art" sounds a lot like "you're so lucky to be able to draw" to me

like, even if an artist is making bank on commissions (they're not), they had to put in time and effort not only into their skills, but into growing their following, marketing themselves, developing reliability and good communication skills, etc. not to mention the fact that many fan artists make fanart bc social media at large generally does not give a fuck about oc art. it's just a lot more complicated than this person is making it out to be

Yeah, for real.

I write original novels and publish them on Amazon. I’ve done little marketing so far, so nobody’s heard of me, and I haven’t sold a lot. Right now, I’m focusing on getting a good start on book 3, but at some point, I really do need to go hang out in more M/M Romance spaces or queer sff spaces and let people know I exist.

A lot of the writers who cry about other people being “lucky” are simply uninterested in doing all of the work to build their brand as a writer. They’re unwilling to develop the skills to make readers fall in love with a character or to write novel or at least novella-length works, preferring to jump straight into little snippets about an already-beloved character where the canon is doing a lot of the heavy lifting.

If you can make money on short-form writing (kinky porn commissions, perhaps?), great! In general, writing does sell, but it does so in certain formats like novel series on Kindle Unlimited. Nobody should be trying to make art they fundamentally hate or find boring, but just like artists who draw fan art or other people’s OCs on commission instead of their own, writers need to pick the thing out of the whole array they can do that is of interest to a paying audience. Or they need to cultivate and create a niche for the thing they most want to do that doesn’t currently have an audience.

None of this “just happens”.

Some of the writers who are the maddest give off this vibe like “My work took effort, and thus it should be monetarily valuable to others”. But that’s not how effort and value work. Nor is “I need money and can only do this one thing, therefore, I should be paid money for this one ting” how it works.

I’m all for UBI, but I hate the idea that other people are responsible for wanting one’s creative output automatically just because one made a thing.

It feels very entitled. I find it hard to believe that people who feel this way as creators act the same when it’s their turn to kick back with a fun book. Very likely, they have sky high and very specific standards for other people’s art. Personally, as a writer, I want the people who would already like my books if they’d heard of them to hear of them. I don’t have any interest in convincing other sorts of people to buy, and if I thought nobody out there would like this kind of material, I’d write one of my ten billion other plotbunnies. Every creative person has far more ideas than they’ll ever have time to make.

i've met someone online in a discord server who's often commenting on how lucky fanart is to be sellable and how they wish their fanfics can do the same. this person had to be warned not to put a commissions open announcement in their fics in ao3 (and i suggested they just link their tumblr and put their commissions post there) and they complained again that artists in social media never have that issue. this topic is pulled up *a lot*

it was always uncomfortable whenever they salted about it, but i didn't say anything because i felt i might be seen as an asshole because:

1) i'm more of a fanartist than writer (and crafter in general), so someone this person lowkey envies

2) i have done a few commissions, like 4 in my lifetime, that was some nice extra money. even more reason to dislike me

3) the person was in a tight financial situation and was always trying to find ways to make ends meet, so i can't blame them for trying to make money in everything they do

i also can't articulate on *why* i felt uncomfortable about it? i still don't. but it's like if my hobby was baking and someone else was origami, and they compliment me by saying at least i can make easy money by selling cupcakes? it feels very offputting

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[bottomvalerius]

Tonight. Was. So good!!! I made friends!!! AAAA

[oficmag]

Contributor Spotlight: Paulette

Now that Issue #1 is live, we at OFIC Mag are excited to shine a light on some of the amazing contributors from our inaugural issue. We hope you all love them as much as we do!

Today’s spotlight is on Paulette | @GrannyRocko, who wrote “Refrigerate After Opening” for Issue #1.

Tell us a bit about yourself!

I'm queer as a three dollar bill and in love with the whole gamut of books and film. Highbrow, lowbrow, and everything in between—I refuse to choose a side because life is too short and my "to be read" and "to be watched" lists are too long lol. I think being a writer is sort of like being a sub: you're in ecstasy and pain in equal measure, and getting the most out of your experience is just a matter of figuring out what kind of torture you like best. Is that too gauche to say?! As a kinky queer weirdo, I'm saying it because I think it's true. For better or worse, novels and novel-length fanfics are my preferred form of writing torture. :)

How did you find fandom?

For years, I had a tumblr that I rarely touched. But in 2016, I watched Bryan Fuller's exquisite Hannibal TV show and opened that beloved trash gremlin of a website, searching the Hannigram tag like my life depended on it. I think the friends who recommended Hannibal to me might have also steered me toward tumblr? I can't remember how it happened, but I went down the rabbit hole and didn't come up for air until my browser was crashing because of my exponentially growing AO3 tabs.

What fandom are you in now and what brought you here?

Currently, I spend most of my fandom time in the Teen Wolf sphere. During the first year of the pandemic, it became the trash TV balm to my depressed soul. I was in the mood to rewatch Buffy for the hundredth time but decided I ultimately wanted something new, and that's how I got sucked in. I even wrote an article about it for Gayly Dreadful, talking about the way it soothed my chest dysphoria and made me contemplate the nuances of my own gender identity.

What’s your favorite book of all time and what do you love about it?

Donna Tartt's The Secret History. I'm sure some people think it gets thrown in "best" categories too much, but it's such a perfect intersection of the things that have fascinated me in fiction throughout my life. Class disparity/tensions, the area where obsession and violence and hedonism meet, queerness, picturesque insular settings where everyone has incestuous friend groups and gossip runs amok, haunting past trauma, pretentious people hiding behind the smokescreen of seemingly grandiose/profound ideas as justification for their behavior, lush, complicated, lyrical prose that somehow never feels too dense, it just... clips along like a beautiful, layered melody. It's also one of those rare books that grows with you. I've read it at various points in my life and gotten different things out of it each time. It never loses its glow; the glow just shimmers a little differently. 

What projects are you working on right now?

I'm working on a novel that deals with the intersection of those aforementioned obsessions (queerness, violence, kink, trauma), and it's been a shift from my first novel because it's much more fast-paced, almost noir-ish in the murder mystery aspect. Plot is one of the things I struggle with the most, and I'm always trying to find some middle ground between "waxing poetic about the woods for a whole page" and "all plot, no waxing." My writing leans literary and descriptive. It's always been that way, and it's something I never want to lose. Merely hone and tame and maybe (hopefully) find a way for it to co-exist with a propulsive plot. I'm also working on a [redacted pairing name lol] fanfic...

What are your aspirations as a writer, big picture or small?

To get books published, either in trad pub or with small presses I admire that are currently putting out really interesting, daring work (Clash Books, Weirdpunk Books, Amphetamine Sulphate, to name a few) and get stories published in lit mags I admire. And just to continue doing work I'm proud of, to always be pushing myself to write about the things I'm scared to write about because otherwise, what's the point? You have to take the risks or you won't grow.

If you could give one piece of advice to beginning writers, what would you tell them?

Write about what you want to write about, the ideas that keep you up at night. Stay true to your instincts and shut out everything that tries to dampen them (worries about perfection, worries about how your work will be perceived, every single worry the publishing aspect of the industry puts in your head). Because at the end of the day, if you're not excited about what you're writing about, why are you doing it? All of those worries can come after drafting, but you need to learn to keep the wolves of doubt at bay if you're ever going to finish a draft. Writing is always going to be difficult and stressful in one way or another, but remember to stay in touch with the spark, the tingles you get when an idea first turns on the light in your brain. And if you think that whatever excites you is too niche, I guarantee there is someone out there who is fascinated/excited by the very same "niche" things and will be happy to see your work. 

Thank you for being a part of the OFIC family, Paulette! We’re so thrilled to share your work with the world.

[inkleaf-cafe]

Okay i cant find the post but i’ll take it as a yes so here:

1: sleep tight don’t let the milf’s bite

2: I sometimes think you’re not neurotypical

3:i can just smell the trauma

4:my queerness could never

5:i can just feel the gay

6:You know how i said “I definitely jinxed it”…yea i did

7:sounds like a crisis…mood

8:In one sentence i somehow made my whole bloodline ashamed of me

9:Dont know if this is supped to be gay or therapy

10:my yawns sound like a quiet chainsaw

11:my dreams are either trauma or gay…what does that mean

12:my dream was amazing filled with zombies but amazing

13:be the gays you need to be

14:i think i ate some soap

15:My brain was somewhat okay and you completely ruined it

16:Okay who do i have to kill this time

17:Yes im using a musical to teach politics

18: think i made a random poem and somehow it got deep

19:What do you not understand about me reading gay shit on webtoon and seeing cute dresses?

20:I will be the monster under your bed i will either comfort you till you sleep or be Jeff the killer

21:Ah yes blackmail the best way to negotiate

22:feel’s like i’ve zoned out while reading this

23:Wheres the TL;DR because i just stopped at Hi!

24:Yea you lost me im in Stratosphere

25:* eats vomit cutely *

26:I still question both of our sanity

27:When they call me baby girl

28: thats stupid bitches tok

29:I mean wouldnt it be cool that your ex is the moon

30:do you even sleep

31:The only people i hate are real people

32:I use the happy emojis all the time they all look dead inside

33:Social anxiety isn’t pog

34:WHOS GONNE GRAB THE BIG ASS COIN OFF HIS FORHEAD

35:MEOWTH SALAD

36:i thought Jessie and James were gay

37:Its called insomnia

38: Hermione is holding me at gun point

39:Is kicking someone a team sport?

40:what part of asl with out sign do you not get

41:kiddo but an insult

42:i was gonne say i watched Luca but damn do you need therapy

43: knew all that trauma would pay off one day

44:imagine not having fangs 🤡

45: being stupid is my job you cant take it from me

46:the whole world hates England

47:okay but arson would be so much fun

48:Do i rly sond like a dog when i say things out loud

49:THEY MADE ME LIVE AND THATS A HATE CRIME ON ME

50:I mean zeus is a whore

51:So we got bad bitch and better bitch making up the baby girl squad

52:Sometimes I challenge how much i can disappoint my ancestors

53:Ghost be judgin while i hit that rennagade

54:Fuck ✨ grammar ✨

55:KNEW YOU WERE A BEAVER

56:Probs an alligator too

57:this blog could always be *cursive rainbow* gayer

58:ah,pintrest my love,my pride,my joy THE FUCKING BANE OF MY EXISTENCE FUCK YOU I FUCKING LOVE YOU AND WANT YOU TO DIE A PAINFUL DEATH

59:✨ alcohol ✨

60:Kiddo go to drugs dont do school

61::i still have trauma from the zebra cardigan

62:yes YES BE THE GAYS YOU NEED TO BE

63:aww thats so gay 🥺

64:hol’ on a god damn fucking second…this shit gay

65:am i turning straight?

66:you broke your fucking plant this better be worth it

67:i have two moods “i wanna die” and ✨gay✨

68:they look like shit but they can look like shit together

69:nice 😏(i never said this or wrote this before just sayin’ its nice)

70:fuck you (affectionate) [is it weird that i said that at least 20 times]

71: fuck you……TAKE MY LIKES

72:we can capitalize off of your dog

73:oh shit i thought that was elsa jumping off of that bridge she made

74:wait are you implying they’re the last non binary orange

75:i might die for the third time now

76:are you god? I mean sans undertale profile pic but still are you god?

77:heh gæ

78:when i sleep i sleep

79:i will not tolerate dead memes in my class room unless its doge

80:he looks so cute but damn do i want to kill him

81:people are just too damn kinky these days

82:so this is what it feels like to have attachment issues

83:But Etida u e-mol-Dionizijo Aguado my beloved

84:I like it just my brains too small to comprehend it

85:shes a sexist feminist in the making

86:i want a mineta x death fic

87:they’ll plan my funeral…add saxobeat

88:a-am i a-a child?!?

89:hey girl you a flashbomb cus you bright

90:hey girl is your gender water cus its fluid

91:Ok im actually proud of that one i better not hear a cricket

92:okay now he looks like an emo boy

93:Yea my will to live is as low as my self esteem

94:can someone plan my funeral yea i know its wedding galore same thing

95:remembering that time i called saiki a tsundere bitch

96:* call me by your name starts playing* NOT AGAIN

97:i may have “i kicked a child” as one of my names but you’re a monster

98:DEATH IS A RACE AND I WANNA WIN

99:Bye :] , wtf?

100:GO CATBOY GO(00:03 am)

101:you know i have a pain tolerance of

102:I kin that emoji

103:That blood stain looks like a pp

104: am i too middle school

105:I feel like my sass level has risen

106:OH! PROCRASTINATION

107:nah i kinda wanna continue to write my raid shadow legends x reader fic

108:plus my confidence is as low as my will to live

109: who wants to have the honour of killing me

110:great mind think alike but also wt

I-

Wow-

[ladyloveandjustice]

I..don't think that's true to be honest. There was a time in 90s when female characters had to be flawless because some dudes were so afraid of sexism, but I think a fair amount of people have figured out when you have multiple women on a show the way you have multiple men, you can let them have diverse personalities, including negative traits, without it coming off as saying "all women are like this". Also that the writers all being dudes contributed to this problem.

There's been an internet shift where suddenly you have people talking about how they love fail girls and female characters who suck and are sopping wet cats. People are craving that.

The reason women are never fat or old in video games is because of beauty standards and the idea they have to be hot to sell, not because they think it will offend women if women are flawed (also, fattie? wow. who made this I don't think it's in good faith tbh). Women are considered as something the male audience want to look at and obtain, not something to relate to or project on to, so don't get to have unique designs and body types and flaws and bodytypes so on.

And I honestly think queer women were neglected in fandom is simply because they're less valued. I don't think it's a big mystery. White men are favored because they're the social default, who things are geared toward, and women are encouraged to project onto them. We're taught that women aren't worth thinking about, that people of color and other marginalized groups aren't. Many women have expressed projecting themselves or exploring sexuality through male characters screwing each other because it feels like a way to escape gender roles, and they can't picture doing that for a female character. I've never felt the need for that personally and definitely don't see it as a great excuse for dismissing female characters and f/f, but I see where it's coming from.

I will say there's a problem where queer fiction isn't allowed to suck the way something like Supernatural is and be beloved, that queer creators are held to higher standards because there's less of them, because any failure is taken personally like they're supposed to represent every queer person and because people, even other queer people, want to bash on queer creators deep down, because they love an easy target to take our anger on. They want to crush someone who will actually feel bad about it rather than deal with the creators will wont, because real oppression is hard and depressing to confront, so just take out your anger on each other.

But the basic arguments for Destiel or something is that a lot of people were into it so it's an institution. Because yeah, teens were encouraged to see these guys as something to value and women were seen as lesser. most female characters of supernatural were brutalized and killed, and while some criticized it some were like "good that bitch is in the way of my ship."

But since then, We've seen a lot of wlw ships rise up, many with flawed women written better than those dudes, and a lot more variety in storytelling even outside of being more diverse. Which is why I think it's time to let go of who's an institution and consider the stories we want to see, the ones that will actually deliver.

Also Wonder Woman's a good character. Writers do have hard time dealing with her, but that's because people always project their issues with or fears about feminism onto her due to how connected her character is to feminism. Is this paradox accusing her of being a Mary Sue or something? What about Superman? Do y'all think the reason he's so powerful and smart and goodnatured is so men won't be offended? no, that's ridiculous right?

Wonder Woman was literally created in the 40s to be a Superman for girls so they can see it's cool the be strong, independent and tear down gender roles. (And also to promote the creators idea that gettin' kinky with bondage would create a utopia) Besides the whole "BREAK FREE OF THE CHAINS OF OPPRESSION GIRLS" The story telling wasn't much different from how Superman was treated, she had cool fights, weaknesses, etc.

This isn't really a poll thing, but something that can kinda bother me about tumblr culture in general.

there are so many "who even are these" tags for ships that aren't two white men or "<white guys from popular but disgraced tv show> are so iconic they can't lose" and idk I would be kind of ashamed of admitting I was so ignorant of fiction involving women, nonbinary folks or people of color

I don't really understand the desire not to move on from the quintessential queerbaiting skinny white dude ships in shows we are all aware were pretty bad at this point and act like they're somehow more special or iconic just because they're widely known and many people on tumblr are fixated on them. "obsessed with superwholock" was never a thing I was part of, and it was not my tumblr culture, nobody on my dash did the mishapocalypse, and I was happy with it being that way.

It's something I can indulge and understand-- the supernatural memes are incredibly funny, as was Superhell night, but I think there should be a desire to move forward, not cling to the past. We've got a greater range of fiction dominating the site now instead of three mainstream shows and Homestuck, we've finally got some hugely beloved wlw couples and more diverse perspectives and I think that's good. The audience of this site has grown up in a lot of ways. I kind of want to see that celebrated, not lamented, and the weird assumption superwholock was part of everyone's old school tumblr experience is always a weird one to me.