#queer job

[jeffthekllrr]

Gonna talk about it here because it’s such a bittersweet feeling.

I’m in a red state, and work a lot of what most consider “not real” jobs, a lot of fast food, retail, etc. I’ve worked for awhile now. Often I’m the only Queer/trans individual in the store.

Which is fine, if not a little lonely. But yeah.

Well, often I’m misgendered. I use they/them but often, people use he/him when talking about me. Even if I’m wearing a pin or if I’ve told them. (I understand forgetting, really, but there usually is not even a little effort made.)

And of course, there’s micro aggressions and what not. All in all, it’s exhausting, but I’ve handled it well and become accustomed to it.

Well, recently I started a new job. This job, they asked my pronouns. Which floored me in and of itself because that’s not something places do. Then, on top of that, they used the pronouns I told them. I’m one of three nonbinary people in the store. THREE!!’ Isn’t that amazing?

THREE WHOLE NONBINARY FOLKS! And the person who trained me is pansexual. Again, amazing!!!

And, during an interaction with a customer, who called me a he-she when speaking to my coworker and refused to speak to me directly, the coworker took control of the situation, protected me, and even apologized for the horrid interaction. Which, again, shocked me to my core. I’m not sure how to process that kindness, it almost made me cry.

I just wanted to talk about it. I didn’t realize how lonely I’ve been for a sense of irl community and connection.

[boytransmission]

Daily i go from butch to blatantly pathetic bottom 🙇‍♂️

Please help me afford top surgery!

[linddzz]

Thinking about Weird Barbie and how she's the very obviously queer outsider of the Barbie world, she straddles the lines between Barbie and the Real World. She's the most aware of the performative nature of it all. She supports Barbie while also gently mocking her panic at losing the hyperfeminine perfection. Her weird house is also home to the discontinued reject weird Barbies, the outcasts (including very gay earring Ken) who never fell into either the original matriarchy or the Kentriarchy brainwashing.

The other more classically heteronormative and beautiful Barbies both pity and fear her, and at first the narrative pities her as well. She's the vessel of girls going weird and crazy and feral on their dolls and that's amazing. Weird Barbie is aware of who she is and how the world sees her and she loves it. She's Weird Barbie and She Owns It.

[bixels]

Now that Ghibli's new movie is coming out soon, I've been thinking about anime films and wanna talk about my favorite animated movie ever, Tokyo Godfathers.

TG is a 2003 tragicomedy by Satoshi Kon, following three unhoused people––an alcoholic, a runaway girl, an a trans woman––who find a baby in a dumpster and set off across Tokyo to reunite her with her parents.

If you like the sound of that, go watch it because the rest of this post is spoilers and I have FEELINGS about this movie.

URGHH, the fact that only two moments of true kindness, generosity, and care given to the three protagonists without any expectation of reciprocity are given by a Latin-American immigrant couple and a drag club full of queens and trans women. The fact that, despite her loud and dramatic personality, Hana is the glue that holds the team together and the heart of the whole movie. The fact that this movie pulls no punches at showing the violence and inhumanity committed by "civilized Japanese society" against the unhoused. The fact that Miyuki craves to be loved by her parents and ends up seeing Hana as her true mother. The fact that Miyuki starts off accidentally using transphobic language against Hana, but slowly begins calling her "Miss Hana" out of respect. The fact that, according to Kon, Hana's role in the story is as a mythological trickster god and "disturb the morality and order of society, but also play a role in revitalizing culture." The fact that Hana so desperately wants to be part of a true family, yet is willing to sacrifice her found family so they can be with their own, and is rewarded for her good deeds in the end by becoming a godmother. The fact that, throughout the movie, wind and light have been used to signify the presence of god's hand/influence (this movie's about nondenominational faith––faith in yourself, faith in others, faith in a higher power. Lots of religious are referenced, such as Buddhism/Hinduism, Christianity, and Shintoism), and in the climax of the film, as Hana jumps off a building to save a baby that isn't hers, a gust of wind and a shower of light save her from death. The fact that god saves a trans woman's life because she proved herself a mother, and that shit makes me CRY.

[omens-for-ophelia]

you don't understand, you should never know how easy you are to need don't let me in with with no intention to keep me jesus christ, don't be kind to me honey, don't feed me, i will come back

it will come back - hozier

part 7 of my ineffable kisses series - imagining some kisses throughout their canon timeline that went decidedly better than That Kiss did…

<< start || part 2 || part 3 || part 4 || part 5 || part 6 || part 7 - Land of Uz || part 8 >>

thank you for your patience with this one, sorry for the delay, i have been really going through it lately. but i simply couldn't resist the chance to draw my first bildaddy and include a hozier lyric for good measure!

[strawberrieskies]

ngl like chappell roan is gonna disappear one day and everyones going to ":(((( she was so girlypop :(( she was an icon of her time :(( we loved her so so much :( a star gone to early :( " and like its so gonna be everyones fucking fault

[phantomeros]

coloured this one :) (she/they for character)

[eybefioro]

Wait a minute...

I knew I recognized that from somewhere lol

[caroldanversenthusiast]

i’m so ken

[aro-barrel]

i’d like to read about non-white aro experiences (as well as experiences of aro people from outside the US and UK). i don’t think there are enough explicitly non-white conversations about aromanticism. i remember seeing a demographic poll a long time ago, with a majority of aromantic tumblr identifying as white, but non-white aros exist!

i want to hear from people who can’t/won’t come out because of cultural expectations or language barriers. people who use different words to describe their aromanticism. people who experience isolation from the aro community because they aren’t white (enough). i want to hear about aromanticism from new angles!

of course, no one is ever obligated to reveal their ethnicity or race online. but if anyone has seen writing on diverse aro experiences or if they want to share their own experiences, i’d like to read about other perspectives! (pls send stuff my way)

[boytransmission]

Hello denim dykes, special treat for y’all <3

Please consider helping this butch get top surgery

[wintertraumaposting]

The college level reader at an early age to needy little thing who is desperate for praise pipeline is so real.

I'm really proud of you for how hard you're trying~

[allforthegayphase]

TW: rape

Something I really appreciated about The Sunshine Court was its nauseatingly realistic depiction of rape culture.

Jean’s (repeated, violent) sexual assault isn’t treated as something horrific; in the toxic environment of The Nest, it’s normalized. The real story — Riko ordering 5 male players to rape Jean as a sadistic way to ‘break him in’ — is quickly twisted by his abusers; Jean is seen as a calculating vixen who slept his way to the top, for a Perfect Court number:

They continuously mock and taunt Jean with senseless jokes about it. There is an element of jealousy at play; Jean is a prodigy player, and, as he says himself at some point in the book, his older teammates didn’t enjoy being shown up by a child. They certainly enjoyed knocking him down a peg, though, by humiliating him and creating an illusion that he only got his spot on the team for sleeping around, not his talent:

Even one of his rapists, Grayson, continues this false narrative despite knowing the truth (or maybe he even convinced himself this narrative is the truth; that Jean ‘seduced’ him for a spot on the starting lineup):

Other ravens who don’t know the truth seem to quickly believe the narrative that a 16 yo chose to sleep with a bunch of his superiors for a personal gain; that is certainly easier than entertaining the thought that your teammates (friends?) are capable of something this horrific. Or maybe they simply don’t question it too hard; after all, Jean can’t tell his side of the story.

The rumors eventually spread outside the Nest. Jean’s reputation is tarnished to the point that this is one of the first things strangers on the internet learn about him:

The most heartbreaking detail about it all is Jean’s age. He was a 16 boy on the college team, the youngest player on the lineup; a foreigner who couldn’t even speak English when he arrived; an outsider. Despite the fact that his young age is something that even the ravens find particularly scandalous about the whole situation, Jean’s agency is never questioned. He’s not seen as a minor who was taken advantage of by older, superior men — and most of them are quite significantly older, having already graduated by the time Jean’s 19; Grayson seems to be the youngest of them and he’s at least three years older than Jean.

As many victims of SA, Jean had no choice but to continue living with his abusers side by side, pretending like nothing happened. Knowing there’s absolutely nothing he can do.

The first time someone voices concern over the questionable circumstances surrounding the whole situation happens in this conversation with Jeremy (to be fair, it seems like Jean's age isn't public knowledge but the ravens obviously know):

And as many victims, Jean internalized his experience as something he deserved on some level:

TLDR: Sexual assault is, unfortunately, a very big part of our culture; it’s not just something that happens in the dark alleys; rapists aren't just scary strangers. They're also your friends, peers, teammates. The way the Nest (and the general public as a whole) turns a blind eye at best and mocks and humiliates the victim at worst is a microcosm of how SA is largely treated in real life. It was genuinely fascinating to see it depicted so realistically, even though it made for a heavy read at several points. I hope Nora keeps up the good work, and we'll see further exploration of the topic and Jean dealing with his trauma in the next book.

[gunstreet]

sorry I'm not a photoshop master but would someone mind hanging this up in the SNW writers' room because I think we have all had enough

[trans-ralsei]

dogshit poll

[python-nebula]

Do you see the vision