#qpr representation

[ineffably-poetic]

MORE QPRS IN MEDIA. PLEASE.

i just want a canon qpr. it’s not framed as romance—just the main character and their friend deciding to spend their lives together platonically and live together. that would be sick.

[aro-absol]

Look what my local library just got! AAH I'm so excited!!!

I was actually the one to suggest it a while ago, and I never thought they'd get it. I mean, it's a queernormative fantasy novel for adults, from a small author from abroad, part of a series, and not even in the language that is spoken here. But I was positively surprised, and I'm so excited to start reading!

I love reading fantasy, though I usually keep to YA, and I've never read a book with many POV characters before. But the story sounds nice, and the aspec representation seems really promising. I hope I'll enjoy it, and maybe I'll post an update.

[neptune-scythe]

favourite trope is characters that everyone knows are married and deeply in love but they're never actually a canon couple and are always just "friends" because that's the closest thing to qp rep and that's the only type of relationship I'm interested in under any circumstances

[qpr-culture-is]

QPR culture is trying to write a QPR to increase awareness and representation, but getting stuck because you’ve never been in one and none of the words sound right

((Tips/descriptions are appreciated please op is desperate to write their original blorbos’ relationship correctly))

I have a few tips that might help! I'm a writer myself and have a qpr (or two) in my main story so this is definitely something I can help with

A few words to call qprs (other than qpp and qpr that is)

- platonic life partners (for aro qprs)

-non romantic life partners (works for just about any qpr couple)

-(just) life partners (for any qpr)

- platonic/non romantic lovers/soulmates (aro qprs)

-queerplatonic lovers/partners/couple (any qpr)

A few ways to describe the relationship:

(might want to adjut description based on their sexualities)

-"They're both platonic and romantic lovers, yet neither at the same time. Their emotions and love for each other are almost something entirely different"

-"The two lovers were platonic soulmates, their love not of romance but deep intimate feelings."

-"They had feelings for their partner outside the typical boundaries of romance, but they certainly weren't platonic either. The emotions were deep, intimate, and special."

-"The emotionals felt by them didn't seem to fit most labels. Romantic certainly didn't feel right, but neither did platonic. The feeling was something... different, yet so similar. Unique, but alike in ways."

(descriptions without just saying qpr above, ones with saying qpr below)

-"They were in what was called a queerplatonic relationship, neither of them felt as if their relationship was simply romantic or platonic. It was something entirely different."

-"The caring partners didn't experience romantic attraction, but their relationship was very deep and intimate. They considered themselves to be in a queerplatonic relationship together."

and so on and so on, you get the point lol

the best advice I can give is just make sure it's known that they're relationship isn't "just romantic" or "just platonic". make it clear that their feelings are something else entirely.

To anyone that has any ideas, feel free to add to this!

[writersarea]

i picked up a manga about what i think started as a marriage of convenience between a gay man and an aroace woman and it's clearly heading towards a cute qpr right now

this is so sweet i almost started crying

(it's called i want to be a wall, btw)

[the-great-kraken]

if you see a male character kiss a male character, you assume they are gay.

if you see a female character kiss a female character, you assume they are a lesbian.

if you hear a character say they don't feel like their gender, you assume they are trans.

so why do a-spec characters have to jump through so many loops?

a character saying they've never had a crush or don't want a relationship or that they don't understand romantic love is so often ignored or used as fodder for other queer or autistic headcanons (reinforcing stereotypes that aroace people are secretly gay or always autistic)

why is it that our stories are always "up to interpretation"? why do we have to wait for the words aromantic or asexual to be said to be taken seriously? why is it that even when characters say they don't want relationships, fans will scream and cry about sex/romance favourable aspecs and qprs?

when it comes to gay and trans characters, even the likes of bisexual lighting is often treated as though it canonises their sexuality. for aroace characters, even the most explicit coding possible is swept under the rug in favour of other "interpretations"

i'm so tired of fighting for representation just to have it ignored and minimised by fans. let characters be aroace. please.

[theonlymadmanonmars]

Hi hello hi. As an AroAce individual in a QPR who has no desire for a romantic or sexual relationship, I think shipping Alastor in QPRs is so so fun and people should do it more. I also think it works for a good amount if not all of the ships I've seen him in.

Alastor and Rosie: Hell yeah. They're already great friends and every interaction we've seen between them has been pure and adorable. Rosie Gently guiding Alastor through his identity because he isn't exactly up with the slang. Them going out for tea and human flesh Sunday afternoons. Them giving each other forehead kisses and holding hands platonically.

Alastor and Angle dust: Mhmm. Angle not really wanting Sex or romance after all he's been through. Angle respecting Alastor's identity and not pushing for anything more than friendship. Alastor not really liking Angle at first because of their differences, But tolerating him regardles. Alastor explaining to Angle that Romantic relationships don't have to involve Sex (I'm an Asexual Angle truther.) Angle offering Alastor a hug that Alastor reluctantly accepts. Them cuddling at night with a pinky Promise of nothing more.

Alastor and Vox: Go ahead. A fic about Alastor trying to Navigate exactly how he feels about Vox, Because when he died the term AroAce didn't exist, so he thinks it's romantic attraction, Maybe they kiss and Alastor is like "Ha! No!" Maybe that's why they had their falling out? Who knows.

Alastor and Lucifer: So So SO much Yes. (This is my personal favorite) The two of them hating each other, but putting up for each other for Charlie's sake. Slowly growing to actually tolerate and maybe even like being around the other. Exchanging snarky remarks in a more playful way. Alastor finding Lucifer sitting in a pile of ducks and despair and offering his hand to help him up and take him to the hotel. Never letting go of his hand. Fuck Enemies to Friends to Lovers I want an Enemies to Friends to Qpr arc goddamnit.

I do think it's okay to ship Alastor even outside of QPR's, BUT. If you do, don't just ignore Alastor's identity. AroAce people get far less representation than the rest of the LGBTQ+ community. I can think of one other canon Character off the top of my head. So it's not okay to erase the little rep we do get. In the end I think it's important to listen to what AroAce people have to say on the matter, it is our representation after all.

[koifishanonymous]

and if i said they were in a secret-third-thing fucked up mutually destructive qpr what then

[sunnysam-my]

I'm still not over the fact that South Park just casually has the best canonical QPR represention I ever seen. By total accident.

I mean seriously, what the fuck. Tweek and Craig were basically forced to pretend to be together, despite not even being into men, but then they just… continued? Into their adulthood? And it's confirmed to be a platonic relationship. And they act like regular couple, but just not love eachother in romantic or sexual way. They were said by creators to not love eachother in the same way a regular couple would, but still closer than friends or brothers.

I fucking love this. They're the only reason I started watching South Park.

[soniclozdplove]

By the way, yes, I'm ace. Yes, I am a Hazbin Hotel fan. Yes, I connect to Alastor as the first true bit of asexual representation I ever vibed with and connected to. And finally, yes, I treat Alastor like my Barbie doll and respectively ship him in some form with multiple people. Cry about it.

[jaybirdscoffee]

a fucked up doomed qpr is something that can be so personal

[creation-help]

The more I engage with the aro community online, the more I feel that we just need.

More.

There's so many different flavors of aromantic and what that means for each person and it's sad to see infighting over what is and isn't valid representation and my advice to upcoming creators is to just.

More. Have more.

Aros who partner Aros who don't, Aros who like sex, aroaces, loveless Aros, loving Aros, Aros who focus on non romantic relationships instead Aros who focus on no relationships and find their own thing. All kinds. The microlabels too - did you even know of some of them? I bet you didn't. There's aromantic people who feel rom attraction only if it's reciprocated and vice versa! There's Aros who can't tell the difference between different types of attraction and so don't label anything. There's aros who only feel attracted after forming a deep bond. Who only rarely feel attraction. Or only under specific circumstances. There's so much variety in aromantic world. Have more representation. Just more.

I'd honestly say this for almost any type of minority rep (though there are nuances to approaching it). Bc when you have more, it's not so much pressure on getting it quote on quote "Right" at once and all your rep isn't riding on one character. Variety is always good. It avoids tokenization and coming across stereotypical

[lordsovorn]

*checks out Dandadan's official OST on YouTube*

*one song is titled - "more than friends"*

*the next song is titled - "less than lovers"*

Now chant with me:

QPR! QPR! QPR!

[muchmossymess]

hey, dont cry, queerplatonic jayce/viktor okay?

[thatonegaybrit]

; give me messy qpr, give me qpr that don't work out, give me qpr that have ups AND downs, give me qpr that end in sadness, give me qpr that are " young love " and die out, give me qpr that are toxic

; give me queer platonic relationships that are actual relationships between people and have ups and downs and don't always work, not js fluffy " awe these two are great friends " !!

[icedrawssomestuff]

Hi hello I (an aroace) have been thinking about aromantic representation (or lack there of) in media and fanfiction and all the things I wish I could see out of what little we have so here goes.

I want to see the wider spectrum, and the fact that it's a spectrum in the first place. I want to see both the struggles and joys of aromantic. I want to see relationships that aren't bound to the societal norms of platonic and romantic relationships

I want to see characters who struggle to tell the difference between platonic and romantic attraction.

I want to see them be comfortable and happy being aro and having close friends.

Lets have characters who do experience romantic attraction, but have no desire to be in a romantic relationship, and have that be okay.

Lets have the reverse, where characters don't experience romantic attraction but do want to be in a romantic relationship.

Lets have characters who's experience of romantic attraction fluctuates.

I want to see aro/allo and aro/aro and aro/ace stuff

I want to see stories of family and friends struggling to understand non traditional or romantic partnerships, and sometimes they come around and sometimes they don't, but you are never alone because your partner and your friends and your family who care are there for you

There should be stories about the struggle of the societal expectation/normalization of putting romantic partners over friendships, and the people who get left behind because of that

There should be stories of people who are in a romantic relationship, and realize that one or both of them is aro, but love their partner in a platonic sense or Secret Third Way and who work through it together

Let there be cute little domestic slice of life fics about platonic life partners or qprs

Let QPR representation be different in every iteration, it's a queer relationship that isn't defined by anything other than the people in it. Let them resemble platonic relationships or romantic relationships or both or neither

Give me characters who love their person deeply and violently and intrinsically but it's a little to the left of platonic and a little to the right of romantic

Give me characters who are greyromantic and demiromantic and aroflux (ect.) navigating the struggles and highs and lows of being those identites

Give me relationships that are a mix of platonic and romantic but not necessarily either one

Give me platonic life partners who love each other and live their lives together

Give me non-traditional relationships in general TLDR; there are so many options for representation of aromantistim and non traditional relationships and I want to see them all

The way I crave more aromantic tropes will never be satiated, these were just off the top of my head while word-vomiting, there are so many more ways to do this kind of representation, so don't be afraid to add on your own thoughts in the reblogs and comments! I just wanted to share some of the silly little thoughts rattling around in my skull. Hell I might come back with more in a week, who knows lol