#purpleshirttheory

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The Purple Shirt Theory & Not-So Effortless Confidence

Hello my loves,

I as a former anorexic suffered (and sometimes still feel) insecurity. Everyone feels a bit insecure in life, believe me, it might not seem that way but it is true. During my recovery, I often looked at all confident people around me, or at least people who didn't suffer from major insecurity and wonder how they could be so confident. As someone who was insecure about their weight due to bullying, I thought to be as confident as others, I would have to lose weight. Not only did I end up becoming anorexic, but I still hadn't gained any confidence. I know everyone needs to be healthy, and I do promote healthy lifestyles but eating disorders are just destructive! Anyway...

You might think "what is the trick to better confidence?"

Well, they use something called the purple shirt theory, however they probably do not realise this. But the next time someone makes a mean comment about you, or an insecure thought comes to mind, use this:

The purple shirt theory is essentially a small story.

You go to a small get together with some friends and family wearing this new purple shirt which you love, you got it on sale, it looks gorgeous and you walk in feeling really confident. Someone who you know, not a friend but not someone you particularly hate walks up to you and says "Oh my goodness, that is such an ugly white shirt, it doesn't suit you at all, it makes you look twice as ugly!" You ignore them and shrug it off because you know you aren't wearing a white shirt, you are wearing a purple shirt and therefore, their whole comment is rubbish.

Similarly, when people comment rude things about you, saying you look, act, sound dumb or weird, just remember, that is their opinion that is only being said to annoy you. If you practise using this theory multiple times, you will eventually build the confidence!

Hope that was helpful,

Your dreamy demigirl,

Hunter