#positive framing

[sergle]

pink carnations for the floral portrait series + detail (pls do not tag as "me", thank you!!)

[chloesimaginationthings]

Vanessa with her new FNAF found family

[graaaaceeliz]

You know what I love? Positive permanent framing.

You will grow. There will be joy. The sun will always shine again and the rain will always fall again. We are people and people are all capable of happiness, and you will go out and find it.

The framing of these concepts is positive, and more permanent than "you could find joy" "you can grow". It's all in the modal verbs.

However, I feel like I see a lot of permanent negative framing too.

You will learn to hate your body. You will be depressed and it will feel like the end of the world ((note: this statement MAY be true BUT it is important that it continues with a positive. This paragraph is about statements which are not balanced by a positive frame, and not targeted as "I understand your pain".))

I will learn to hate my body - why? Why must I? Must we tell our children that "Regardless of my encouragement, the world will make you hate yourself, because it hates you because you are hateable. And that's bad, but tough, because that's who you are."

Terrible. I do not feel encouraged. I feel insulted and upset and hopeless. If I EVER frame something like this to the children I teach, shoot me.

"Regardless of my encouragement, don't let the world make you hate yourself, whatever it says, because some people want you to be hateable, and they will hate you, and that's not your fault, and it might hurt, but it's okay, because that's not all of who you are."

I talk to my kids about how they frame their thoughts a lot, because it's easy to become stuck in negative framing (thanks, depression) which takes a lot of work to remove (and I am so thankful I have put in that effort and am still putting it in) and which will destroy a person's hope, happiness and esteem. Just think about this classic example:

I can't do it -> I can't do that yet

Or

I can't do it so it's pointless -> I am going to really, properly try and the trying is enough

Can you see why I think it's so important to have positive framing in not just our words but in how we actually think? Next time you see something which discusses negative emotions, spare a moment to re frame it if you can, and take away a positive emotion.

I hate my body, only sometimes, but mostly my body is here as part of me, and sometimes I hate Me too, but I won't hate me always, because I am trying, goddammit, and that's enough.

You ARE (k)enough.

[idolomantises]

Does it like, annoy anyone else when a story presents itself as "feminist" and "progressive", but also punches down on women who are sex workers or sexually active.

[featheredadora]

[all-all0s-eyes]

I have casually referred to myself as having "seasons" of interests and activities for years, but this post takes the idea seriously and contextualizes it in a way I haven't seen before.

How do you take care of your responsibilities and still make time to write? Any tips for a writer who likes to write all day if she can(even if it means putting things off)?

unfortunately this is one of the biggest problems in my life. left to my own devices, if i'm interested enough in a project, i can work on it for twelve straight hours, only stopping to begrudgingly eat and go to the bathroom, totally unaware of the passage of time.

to someone who doesn't understand what that's like, the answer might be "moderation!" or "take breaks :)" but that is far easier said than done. the fixated mind is fixed. everything has to move around it.

i recently met with an astrologist (i'm not big into astrology but i'm always looking for insight and new lenses through which to view the world). she was more than an astrologist, though--she did a whole report thing on me and we had a 2 hour chat that was very illuminating.

one of the things she told me was that i was a person of seasons, and that i existed perpetually in a marketplace of my mind.

what she meant is that seasons are bigger than you. you adapt to them; they don't adapt to you. when it's cold, you need a coat. when it's raining, you need an umbrella. and at the marketplace, seasonality affects the produce you buy, and therefore what you eat. seasons affect everything about your day to day life. we can't control them. we can only prepare for them.

what she said gave me permission for my life to revolve around my work and not the other way around. i used to see writing as something inside of me, but really i'm inside of it.

initially i found the idea of seasons counterintuitive: if i revolve around the work, what about things like exercising? her answer: find ways to exercise that serve the season. what about socializing? her answer: invite your friends to do things that serve the season.

i was hesitant, but i tried it. i'm still trying it. i've begun giving myself over to everything in a state of perpetual self-accommodation. my only job is to attend to the season. if writing is winter, when i'm snowed in and can't go out an do things, that means as soon as the weather breaks i have to haul ass to prepare for the next major storm. i use the time to reset my sleep schedule if i need to, cook food and freeze it, go to doctor's appointments, get my oil changed. things i can't really do when i'm neck deep in a project.

i'm still trying to figure out how to serve the season about some parts of life, but i've found that a chain reaction has begun that's slowly beginning to alter the way i manage myself. the first way of serving the season was the easiest: i stopped reading what i thought i should be reading, and started reading what i wanted to read, for as long as i wanted to read it. that means putting down books the second i get bored with them, rotating through a chapter or two of a dozen books instead of reading one all the way through. and i started seeking out books that i thought related best to the season. reading is something i struggle with because it's my job, and so picking out what to read for funsies can be tedious. but if i'm always focusing on what's going to help me most with whatever i'm working on, i'm always invested. right now i'm reading van gogh's biography which is informing what i hope to be my next novel. and it's a thousand goddamn pages so i've been reading it for 4 months (i read slowly and take a lot of notes).

with my head immersed in the long, agonizing tragedy of van gogh's life, i decided to leverage that to tackle something else i've always struggled with: exercise. i went on a walk one day and listened to a podcast. but i have an audio processing problem and moreover the talking in my head is always louder than people talking to me, and so worse than the physical toll exercise takes on my body, i find listening to things absolutely exhausting.

i couldn't find a podcast to serve the season in a way that would outweigh my listening fatigue, so i had a brilliant idea: read and walk at the same time. it looks a little weird, but that's the thing about self-accommodating: it gives you permission to be strange in public. i have a kindle, so it's not too onerous, and i live in near a walking track at a park that's very smooth so i don't have to worry about tripping. and my god, what a game changer. for the first time in my life i'm looking forward to going outside and doing things.

i only started trying to understand my seasons a few months ago, so i don't know all the ways to serve them yet, but these are the trials that have worked for me so far. i still have a long way to go.

[ohhgingersnaps]

remember! if you don't like something about the way a fanfiction is written, you can simply do the following:

leave!

skedaddle! depart! abscond!

the back button is right there at the top of the page.

further up. further. a little to the left...

that's it! you've got it!

go, my friend. be free. may you be blessed with a work that is better suited to your specific needs and desires in this particular season of your life

[silver-peel]

Artfight stuff from last week!!😎⚔️

(for @vivephim, vnllbn, @bogkeep, Lohaku) I haven't draw any personal art for a while and it's definitely takes a toll on me in early process lmao, but I gonna take it easy!! just happy to draw for myself again!!

[mangosaurus]

Jurassic World: Chaos Theory - Cabin Attack Clip ☆

[youremyonlyhope]

I don't post about Smosh Games much/at all.

But the taco moment in today's video had me dying.

Tommy took off his glasses and turned away from the table, Chanse went through the 5 stages of grief, Damien just stared at Angela then back at her drawing in horror, and Olivia looks like her soul left her body. All while Angela's trying to hide.

Incredible. Spencer's commentary offscreen just made it even better.

[cosmicalls]

i'm no film or visual arts expert but ☝️ one little detail i like in dead poets society is how often there are shots of todd looking up at neil. often in admiration, i'd assume--

--which is of course mirrored in the shot of neil looking up at todd after he does his poem;

also,

looking up towards the sky after The Incident. what does this say? i don't know actually. but it feels like something. don't know what

not to mention when neil is finally on stage. everyone in the audience is looking up at him in that case, but i'd say it still makes sense?

they hjust admire each other so much i think. Ouuhg

[vivenecii]

One day I accidentally saw the spoiler and people were like "oh, but it was without a context, we have to wait for it!" and it made me truly curious to see what the whole scene was about

And let me tell you it turns out I was perfectly happy not knowing what it was about

(But you know, curiosity killed the cat. And I loved this scene, it was positively heartbreaking, angst in its finest form. Exactly opossite to what I expected to happen knowing this season was supposed to be quiet and gentle and romantic)

[erinwantstowrite]

i can feel the beginning of an art style shift happening to me,,,,

[casualavocados]

I'm not finished yet. ...[🎶!]

KISEKI: DEAR TO ME Ep. 13

[firestorm09890]

do you love the city you live in

[chipjrwibignaturals]

mumbo “when i saw that [etho] built a statue of me i almost cried” jumbo vs etho “…I didn’t really talk to [mumbo] too much” slab you HATE to see it