#please let me know if you EVER see me reblog something from a fucking terf or a nazi because FUCK that

[bloodydeanwinchester]

i hate to do this but op of that john post ships dean and john. unfortunately people are very good at excluding their incestuous opinions in meta analysis

hi! yeah no i definitely got that vibe a little bit from the first part of the post, because it was leaning a little heavy on the "john gave up everything because he loved dean." but i was reblogging mostly for the reply to it anyway and the original part of the post didn't explicitly have anything dean/john in it so yeah i have no problem reblogging it. the thing is if i like a post, i don't really feel like i need to go do research on the person who originally made it to make sure they have fandom opinions that i support.

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Anon because reasons. I've been a transman for over ten years. I never thought I would reach out to a TERF but I'm seeing things in my community that scare me and I literally don't know what to do. The transwomen I follow suddenly started reblogging and making posts about protecting transwomen from rape/pedo allegations but I'm conflicted because I was raped by my uncles when I was little. I feel like I'm going crazy idk why I'm asking you I just feel so dysregulated and distressed. Please don't hurt me or expose me, idk what they would do if they realized I was talking to terfs.

I have no wish or intent to hurt or expose you, so have no fear of that. To be upfront: I am a feminist. I do see sexual assault primarily as a hate crime men commit against women and girls (rape). Women and girls being female humans and men being male ones. But you already knew that. For the purposes of this response, however, I will use gender neutral language where possible.

Honestly, ten years ago I had no idea I'd be where I'm at now. I was considering identifying as agender and was only just starting to become uncomfortable with trans activists. The biggest reason was, even back then, protecting predatory behaviour. Unfortunately, as the years have gone by it's only gotten worse. Maybe it's not something you've come across until now, so I imagine this must be a shock, or maybe the people around you doing it used a lot of weasel words and it hasn't become apparent until now.

Either way it's a terrible thing to realize the people you consider your community just don't think sexual assault is that big a deal, especially when they've said it is, but their actions are showing otherwise.

It's a betrayal to those of us who have been sexually assaulted and don't want that to happen to anyone else ever again. Especially if the person who sexually assaulted you was someone you trusted. What your uncle did to you was already a horrific betrayal. To know someone you respect would say he should be protected from your allegations if x reason (in this case if he identified as trans, but this can happen in other ways; someone I greatly respected called Julian Assange a friend after he raped two women; that sucked and I stopped keeping up with him after that) is a betrayal on top of that.

I was molested by my stepfather and some fucked up shit happened when my biological father showed me off to his friends when I was a toddler. I know that pain well. "Valid" is a word that's certainly been over-used and misused, but right now I'm going to use in the way it was used at the Sexual Assault Crisis Centre I attended: your feelings on this are valid.

Sexual assault is one of the worst things a person can do to someone. Saying that people who do those things should be protected for any reason, that alleged victims should be doubted, that alleged perpetrators should be given the benefit of the doubt is fucked up. You are not in the wrong for feeling uncomfortable and worse about it. That just shows you have your humanity.

Now, I'm not going to tell you what else you should think, but what I will say is: I'm not afraid of the women here knowing I talk to men. Or trans people for that matter. Even if I was reaching out to vent. At most they might question why I chose a man and not a woman, but ultimately it just wouldn't be an issue. It's not that there are no assholes here--there are quite a few--but most of them are easily ignored and those that aren't typically get pushback for being assholes and eventually end up leaving or ostracized.

Do you think that it's healthy, as a literal trans-identified person yourself, for people in a community to be so afraid of one another that they can't let anyone know if they talk to certain people? Now, I'm sure it's not as simple as just dropping people who act this way. I've known people with shitty friend groups. It's hard. It's hard when all of your peers seem to support certain behaviour. I get it. I am in no way expecting that you're suddenly going to drop your community.

But I'm not talking to them. I'm talking to you, the person who reached out to me. From one survivor of familial sexual assault to another: you don't deserve to be treated this way. You don't deserve to have your pain trivialized, even indirectly, for a cause. So even if you can't talk to any of your peers about it (and maybe you can! maybe there are people you know who feel the exact same way), I want you to know in your heart that this is wrong and you're right to feel that it's wrong.

And when you're ready, whatever that looks like, I hope you can get out of this and find a community where you would never be punished for raising concerns about something like this. You would be upheld and loudly supported because that shit just wouldn't fly.

Take care of yourself, anon. I hope you have a good day/evening. I hope your uncle rots and I hope the transwoman you're following becomes a better person. Or falls down a well. Whichever comes first.

[kink-queerious]

a lil bit about your resident boytoy sea creature:

call me shark, pet, toy, or some other thing you feel like if were mutuals (if it's ableist/transphobic that's a direct pass to block city)

-> baby shark is reserved for my partner unless given explicit permission otherwise

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they/faer/it pronouns, if you're trans/enby/gnc then whatever you feel like as long as it's not she/he

trans/enby/fag and generally queer as fuck

disabled/mobility aid user ✨

top surgery 2021 💖

heavy sub-leaning switch

kink heavy blog

I really want to get back into making content again so keep an eye out for that

my current casual content is tagged #baby shark

closed poly relationship

if you're ever wondering the 🥺💀 tag is for my partner

this blog vs @k1nk-qu33rious

this blog is my main and where i follow/interact from

this blog will be a mix of content (original and reblogged, we don't do stolen content here), horny text posts, and general personal text posts/thoughts

my other blog will be content only and less kink-heavy (but there will still be kink there just not as extreme)

will there be content reblogged to both accounts? yes, that will be most posts because i'm indecisive and creators are out here making amazing content so they deserve double reblogs

~

*DNIs: minors/ageless blogs, cishets, transphobes, ableists, racists, radfems, terfs, swerfs, i.e. human rights aren't up for debate or a "difference in political opinion"

just remember: punch n@zis, acab, and eat the rich!

~

this is a kink-heavy blog with a lot of kinks that can be triggering, here's a list of things that you might see/what i try to tag posts as:

knives, knife play, blood, blood play, breath play, cnc, mild cnc, public, semi-public, group use, edge play, somno, mild somno, hypnosis, free use

if i miss something please let me know

sometimes i might miss things so please proceed with caution if you're not okay with any of these

~

feel free to send recs for other creators: I'm always looking for more queer, trans, disabled content creators to follow

[sootburs9000]

BOP!!!

bits n’ pieces:

1 -❥ we r a system- however due to ordeals with other systems we will be refusing to call ourselves such after this post & interacting w/ syscourse and if u show u r anti-endo/similar or anti-otherkin we will block u due to prev stuff that happened w/ them. in case hard to read/understand, We don’t want any syscourse here, it will be deleted and/or ignored, anti-endos and anti-otherkin CAN theoretically interact but you are on THIN FUCKING ICE because of others of those types who interacted before. We don’t need to be “taught” about them and the “harm” they do to the community. So don’t even try it even as a fellow system or as a medical professional. Our stance is firm and bringing that shit up is distressing because of how it was done in the past.

2 -❥ We’ll call ourselves a “caffeine cabinet” and each other “blends” over the normal medical terms. This is a note about that for later reference

3 -❥We do not owe you any information about us otherwise, however we will state we are 20 years old bodily

4 -❥ this is primarily a blog for our various bur introjects and interps and such. Others (including me) might do some things to include the others due to knowing them or to talk about our own burs.(<- mum lied abt this this is actually now essentially just our mcytblr blog)

5 -❥we’re primarily english speaking however we r trying to get the body fluent in at least spanish and french for the q!introjects!! if we ever say something wrong we trust y’all to correct us

6 -❥ we do not like ds/mp, we do not involve ourselves with ds/mp or dr..m let alone the dr..m stans. so Please, do not come to us on that. :} we do however LOVE making ourselves interps/aus off it & ourselves: many here u find here r likely that. pls do NOT tag our posts as dr..m uncensored UNLESS for others to block it- we personally will tag them with a “emoticon masker” as a blocklist tag

7 -❥ Literally the only canon content of ds/mp we have is by having watched Technoblade’s streams: everything else is hear-say of people we know and trust to tell us about it back when it was happening. That is also the case of most interps and such here. We heavily don’t interact with the canon content most of the time: this however does not mean that we will not figure out how to make an interp, let alone an oc off literally 3+ emojis and each other’s brainrots

8 -❥ c!sbi is beloveds, along w/ c!karlnapity, c!beeduo and c!benchtrio

9 -❥ we mostly see things as queer platonic HOWEVER we r heavy /r beeduo & /r tntduo enjoyers, as well as wish /r karlnapity wasn’t touched by the fans since to our knowledge it was better left alone. We do look at /r d/nf but that’s specifically bc we have a G..rge and Dr..m pair of blends who had the entire xdnf bit be ENTIRELY a joke during their memories. Also there’s multiple polycules in the cabinet including it.

10 -❥ we don’t always vet who we reblogged from if they’re on our feed!! there’s a good chance we haven’t interacted with them in a long enough while we forget they exist besides sillies to point at later!!- if you know they’re a terf or some shit TELL US PLEASE!! we don’t like them and it is normally a mistake it they appear on our blog bc we followed them pre-terf bullshit or knowing such!!

11 -❥ tags on this will serve as a navigation of sorts. With that being said hope you enjoy your visit and such!!

ASK GAMES: 1,

CHALLENGE CHALLENGE!!!!: 1,

ANONS CLAIMED:

tags for specific blends:

she/they simpbur, Cupid’s: #cupid shot my heart

he/she l’manbur, Barclay’s: #✘✘✘

he/him argbur, Joe’s: #random joe

[catspores]

> yo, i'm stevie, welcome to my blog. i mostly post whatever i'm thinking about and stuff i make. or memes that i like. look under the cut to get to know me!

BYF:

> i have no DNI because i block freely. blocking is how i curate my space. proshippers, TERFs/truscum/etc., and people that are generally nasty or annoying will be blocked on sight.

> i don't do DMs or anything besides distant friendship with anybody under the age of 16. i will not help reinforce the idea that minors should be okay with having private conversations with adults online.

> i don't post full-on 18+ content on this blog but i reblog untagged artistic nudity and suggestive humor.

> i have brain damage and this affects how I communicate. please ask me directly if you misunderstand something i say and don't make assumptions. i don't use tone tags outside of a (word in parenthesis) style thing. i will use them with you if asked, but i somewhat struggle with them.

> if i'm saying something harmful please tell me directly and calmly. i might not realize what i'm saying is bad or i might be miscommunicating something. i'm always open to constructive criticism and discussions on things.

> DMs are open for mutuals! i only follow people back if i have an interest in doing such.

> odd tidbit, but please don't infodump to me or try to explain interests unless I ask you to. i get overwhelmed very easily by people suddenly saying a lot of things to me at once.

ABOUT ME:

> i'm a 19 year old butch lesboy doggirl (bigender) from southern missouri. birthday is may 5th!

> i use he/it pronouns and masculine terms. neutral are fine and feminine are only okay if you're using casual slang.

> i'm an artist and writer, looking to make music and games some day. i love making things so fucking much.

> i'm a buddhist and a marxist-communist!

> i'm physically and mentally disabled because of childhood lead poisoning. gotta love them yummy lead paint chips!!! 😋

> despite the username and love of cats, i'm a golden retriever therian. i don't identify as a furry but i'm chill with them.

> i would list my fandoms but i'm hyperfixated on hlvrai and that's the only fandom i consistently post about.

my interests include:

• psychological, body and religious/afterlife horror. other kinds, too, but those are my favorites.

• nature, bugs, and critters.

• animated sitcoms made for middle aged men (american dad, futuruma, rick and morty, some others. i hate south park, though).

• 2000s-2010s cartoons (courage, invader zim, spongebob. you know, stuff you'd imagine a stoner geek would like).

• 2000s-2010s internet culture, especially old memes like the MLG era.

• other things that you'll see me post about.

OTHER ACCOUNTS:

> @spore-eruption-cloud (system posting).

> mutuals can ask for my 18+ blog

> catspores on tiktok.

> mutuals can ask for my discord.

TAGS:

personal tags:

• [#jenkins tag] - MY SWEET, DARLING BOY!!!!!!! best kitty ever.

• [#stevie brain trash] - general posting and reblogging. named because i post like i'm emptying the trash in my head.

• [#stevie scribbles] - catch-all art tag.

• [#stevie star pieces] - essentially a portfolio tag. my favorite works on my profile.

• [#important] - important post for one reason or another. usually will be related to something i consider serious.

• [#save for reference] - art references i want to use at some point.

• [#save for later] - something i want to keep tagged for later viewing.

• [#save for a laugh] - posts that gave me a bit of a giggle and i want to be able to easily see again.

HLVRAI AU tags:

• [#blue revision au] - general AU tag. all posts about my au will be under this.

• [#blue revision lore] - posts that contain canon content. anything that isn't tagged with this is not canon.

• [#blue revision art] - effortful/non-meme art posts.

• [#blue revision post-canon] - posts that take place after the main events. usually silly cause i love stuff like that. they're going to go through absolute hell, let them have some fun afterward...

• [blue revision fanart] - since i'm okay with fanart, any such posts will be tagged here! i want to make sure any love for my work is fully appreciated. ❤️

OC TAGS:

• [#oc: corvid] - an alternate identity that believes it's the host. cyborg, killer for hire, scientist, and many other things.

• [#oc: val] - the host that's unaware that she's not in control of her life. cyborg, pathetic loser.

• [#oc: nina] - former baseball player for the fortune city diamonds turned smuggler. works in close contact with anti.

• [#oc: jade] - a demonic augment/cybernetic/mech mechanic. the protagonist of my OC universe.

• [#oc: reece] - apathetic and depressed alcoholic butch lesbian that accidentally adopted a demon off the streets before he got divorced from his ex-husband.

• [#sona art] - this is ME!!!!!! my sona hails from a species of (made-up) demon that embodies decay and entropy, thus the mushrooms on his head.

• [#oc: anti] - smuggler and contract hitman that hopes to be the spark that burns that damn city to the ground. she's not above manipulation to get her way; a small price to pay for the greater good (as she'd put it).

• [#oc: tuesday] - a ghost whisperer with a horrible streak of luck. she is scared of everything all of the time.

• [#oc: maxie] - skater/stoner/idiot/somehow also the voice of reason in her polycule. being the only normal one will probably do that to a girl.

• [#oc: dr. death] - a talking skeleton with a radio show and a secret even he's unaware of.

• [#oc: misc] - miscellaneous characters. either unnamed or the name has been forgotten.

SCRAPPED OC TAGS:

• [#oc: angelo]

• [#oc: marina]

• [#oc: jaguar]

• [#oc: lucan]

• [#oc: lotus]

[chaotickiddo]

READ BEFORE FOLLOWING/INTERACTING/F.A.Q.

(THIS POST WILL CONTINUE TO BE UPDATED)

Put your fucking age in your bio! Ageless blogs will get blocked ! This is an 18+ ONLY blog and minors are NOT WELCOME, nor are minor supporters. I post/reblog/create nsfw content.

LUNA/Bug/Moth/Kiddo♡

GOOD VIBES OR GTFO♡

Basic about me:

2(4) | ♉ | Southern Cali | Pansexual |Genderqueer/Nonbinary creature | All Pronouns | They/it/she/he | In an ethically non monogamous/ polyamorous relationship (not actively looking but always open minded) | Disabled and chronically ill | 5'2" | 🇵🇭, 🇮🇪, 🇦🇸(and other😂)| I love animals and have a soft spot for pitbulls and reptiles and sea creatures | chaotic but in a cute way👀👉🏼👈🏼💚 | whiskey in a teacup |

Kinky about me:

Masochist/Pain slut | service sub | exhibitionist w/a sprinkle of voyeur | DDLG | Petplay🐶🐈‍⬛🦝🐄🐀🦊 | Ethically Non-monogamous/Polyamorous | size kink | knives/weapons💕| CNC/kidnapping | Impact play | breathplay (drowning/choking/asphyxiation/ etc) | cockwarming | aftercare is non-negotiable | |||||

Reasons i will block you :

Spam liking my comment or anyone else, you harass me (or anyone), racist, homophobic, transphobic, fat-phobic, terf, gatekeeping, hateful in any way, send disgusting/sexual/disrespectful things, etc.

Do NOT send me or anyone unsolicited photos of your genitals. it’s disgusting and you will get blocked & reported the first time this happens.

♡ BE FUCKING RESPECTFUL. OR GET BLOCKED ♡

Frequently Asked Questions:

My page is kink/sex work oriented, 420/710 friendly and a safe, judgement free place to explore yourself/your kinks!

Only safe & supportive energy and good vibes are allowed, anything hateful or harmful will be deleted & blocked. I am not here to please you and hate/harm is not welcome.

You can comment, like and reblog my content to help me out! Please DO NOT SAVE/REPOST MY content if you really want to help or like what I make you can reblog my content 😊

I do have a partner but we are both ethically non monogamous/ polyamorous and communicate openly with each other (he's not on tumblr, y'all don't know him😂)

No I don't want to swap nudes w you, idc what your gender is, you have to pay me for my services unless I really like you

sex & SW positive ! I am a sex worker and am constantly supporting other SW’s, pls don’t just spam like our content - reblog, comment, tip us or buy our content so you can help us sexy people out because we are really cute, work really hard and are pretty awesome at what we do!

if ever anything I reblog is offensive or from a blog that may be offensive or if a post is yours please let me know so I can adjust and or delete said post. I like to ensure it’s rb friendly before I post and am trying to reblog more from independent creators but sometimes things get through.

Payment/Snapchat/etc:

The only payment options I accept are these:

I'm always updating my wishlist but just wanted to say that you will get content if you buy something🥰

Please send me a screenshot so I know it's you😊 the content you get depends on how much you pay (matching to my prices)

No one is ever obligated to buy anything and my Cashapp/venmo (ChaosKiddo) is also available as a payment method.🥰

Snapchat is free/similar to tumblr/insta/ello and you can tip me for extra spicy content there as well 🤗

I respond better on snap/insta though. Keep in mind I still am busy and can get quite a few messages at times but I try to check tumblr messages 2-3x weekly. If you'd like to smoke w me, get to know me a lil bit better through what I post or just see me dance around in my panties occasionally then go ahead and add me on Snap and send me a message or a screenshot so I know you're an 18+ or you won't be added to my spicy story😊 (if you don't have your age in your bio here I block you, it's the same for my 18+ story)

Please keep in mind I do enjoy making friends but this is for work so I treat all messages as such, same as here. I'm also not as active with this work rn but am still always happy to help! I'm just trying to focus on things that make me really happy but I'll still occasionally make new things if I feel like doing so.

Snap: Babybratchaos

💘STAY SAFE💘

HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAY!

[mischievous-monster]

redoing my pinned post lol, heres my intro

hee hoo oh hi there

• hi i have a lot of names but just call me silas. im an 18 year old artist who draws whatever has my brain gripped. this blog is mostly just me reblogging and yelling in tags but theres probably gonna be some art posts here n there.

• i use he/she/they/it and neo pronouns as well (only friends or other neo pronoun users can know though)

• adhd + autism + probably other things i dont even know about but trying to figure out

• not the best at communicating but dms are open !

• also im very forgetful if you @ me or put something in my askbox it might take me awhile to even get to it, i apologize in advance

• dont call me sister or mom please. /srs

• tone indicators please

• cringe and free

• if i do something wrong w/o knowing it, please tell me. and please dont be vague about it either.

• i cuss a lot sorry (not sorry)

• i ramble in tags alot. if theres anything that needs to be tagged specifically or if you would prefer if i didnt ramble in your tags, just let me know through dm or askbox. a simple warning will do.

• if i ever dont respond to you i swear im not ignoring you i just got busy, forgot to respond, didnt see it, was asleep, or just dont know what to say. i promise you its not any malicious intent !!!

• i will block those who rub me the wrong way or genuinely freak me out.

a very not so nice DNI because i really dont want these fuckin people here and following me !!

🖕basic dni criteria

🖕terfs. be afraid.

🖕 pr0ship. fuck off.

🖕 those who use the excuses “it’s just a drawing”, “it’s just fictional.”, okay buddy boy whats it a drawing of? whats going on it? yeah shut the fuck up.

🖕 maps. nasty asses.

🖕zoophiles. please stay away from any and every animal ever.

🖕 those with the intention of befriending for free art.

🖕people who think r*pe jokes/sexual harassment/child s/a jokes are funny (yall fucking suck)

🖕those against neopronouns. piss off.

🖕those who use anonymous to send in kay why ess messages or just straight up being complete dickheads for no reason at all. all of you are pussies and i will say that wholeheartedly.

🖕fetishizes trans/nb or see it as some kind of kink. go fuck yourself.

🖕those who use the excuse “it’s the internet, things happen.” to excuse shitty behavior and actions. yall are fucking annoying.

🖕jay kay rowling stans. i dont fuckin want you or your shitty wizards here ! go away!

thanks for reading <3

[lifewithchronicpain-original]

i've been following you for a while, but i only just now went and looked at your personal blog. i'm shocked by the amount of radical feminism you engage in, especially because on this blog you have discussed gender identity, presentation, and helped trans people before. please be honest on this blog so people who want to avoid terfs can do so. do you support trans people, or not?

I have to justify my feminism on here when I’ve been, as you say, respectful to trans issues? Whatever, let’s get this over with. There is a BYF on my personal blog that I think quite plainly states my position:

“- I am a rad-leaning feminist

- Trans women are women, trans men are men.

- Against cotton-ceiling rhetoric and any other arguments that rely on rape culture to accuse someone of prejudice.

- I do not support rhetoric that shields abusers or rapists for being a part of a minority group, especially when it attacks survivors telling their truth.

- Fighting traditional sexism that assumes women have vaginas and are inferior for having them (abortion, fgm, sex trafficking, gendered socialization) is not incompatible with fighting and understanding transmisogyny and supporting trans women as women.”

That means I think it’s horrorific rhetoric to suggest that lesbians are required to be in a relationship and sleep with trans lesbians to be politically correct. I have always maintained since before the birth of Terf as a term that no women has to have sex with anyone to prove their politics. These days that’s enough to be labeled a terf.

I also don’t think female women have any kind of privilege related to our gender. Whether you’re a woman from birth or a trans woman, our gender does not have privilege. Cis isn’t a privilege when your a woman. Which to me means that while it’s important for women not to be transphobic, it’s important for trans people to not be sexist. For me to date to assert this truth is another view point enough to label me a terf.

Also what matters is the content of my blog not who I reblog from. Are there disgustingly transphobic posts on my personal blog? Absolutely not. I avoid generally avoid the radfems who aggressively call trans women males. I will never condone or agree with that.

I know many of you truly feel like terfs are the evil you need to stop, but the idea the terfs are as evil as Nazi’s is really just classic misogyny. It’s so much easier to attack women. Women are generally viewed as a loving and nurturing gender. When we don’t act like that, we are punished dearly for it. Being a terf these days seems to be more about attacking women for not being perfect than going after actual transphobia. Last time I checked whenever I read about a trans woman being murdered, a cis man was responsible. And yet zealous feminists misgendering trans women are the genocidal ones. Really?

Did any of you ever stop and think how much you are attacking and hurting women for the talking about their oppression is fucked up? How cis men get a pass over and again, but man it’s those terfs you got to watch out for. Even though it’s men that have killed your trans sisters. But no, your more worried about who I follow.

I get the pressures to conform in society, and some of you have really done a great job of scaring female women into not talking about feminism in the way it effects them for fear of being called a terf. I don’t say this lightly, you’ve created a real witch hunt to shut up women talking about their vaginas. You’ve done nothing for the cause of trans people, you’ve just essentially attacked the minority gender because it’s easier. It’s always easier to go after women, like this new Ok Karen bullshit that once again ignores men as a primary cause and perpetrators of all kinds of bigotry.

At the end of the day I’m a disabled butch lesbian. I have been on the receiving end of genuine transphobia (questioning if I belong in a bathroom) and I will stand against it gladly. I have never had any problem with trans people I have a problem with misogyny.

A lot of you have said you appreciate the way I see things, I really hope you can understand the nuance here. I don’t have anything against trans people and will never suggest otherwise. I have a problem with attacking women and calling it activism. You want to know something? Transmisogyny can’t exist without good ol fashion misogyny.

I know this post is going to get me attacked, and I’ll get hate for this. That’s what’s happened to my real life friend on this site for having the audacity to be a de-transitioner and settling on a butch lesbian identity. But I’m mature enough to deal with it and stick to my guns.

If you truly think my assertation of certain feminist beliefs automatically makes me a terf despite having a history on this blog of being respectful of trans issues, you can go. I really don’t care to have people follow me who feel like my vagina is a constant threat to trans people and want to dictate who I can and can’t reblog from. I’m not going to be bullied that way.

I won’t respond to this post, as I refuse to have this fight in my blog. This is my stance, take it or leave.

[bi-dazai]

Also I might just write something General on how to deal with internet stuff like this. Because it’s happened to me multiple times, particularly on this site, and I can say that after over four years on here there’s a way of dealing with drama that I only finally really understood a few months ago.

1. Don’t use buzzwords. Don’t use inflammatory language. Tag your drama posts with something that your followers can block and tell your followers about the tag.

2. If you find yourself typing out the same response for the tenth time, then it’s time to start deleting anons and stop replying. You’ve said what needs to be said. Focus on responding to new arguments, or just take a step outside and go for a walk.

3. Do actually consider their argument. Consider from their perspective. Be understanding. You’re dealing with real people - that’s an actual human being with feelings behind the multiple “fuck you’s” and “liberal cucks”. Not everyone has had the same upbringing and experiences you have.

4. Look into their arguments, then look into blogs and responses that offer the opposite perspective or aim to disprove the arguments. Consider the reliability, accuracy, etc, of each side, then respond thus.

5. It’s okay to agree. If you’ve taken steps 3 and 4 and found that, hey, your perspective has shifted in a few aspects, that’s okay! Tell them you agree in those aspects! This is called a civilised debate.

6. If you don’t agree with anything, or you still want to rebut some of their points, then offer good sources of disprovals of their arguments. Avoid tumblr blogs, Wikipedia, any content from places such as Mic.com, breitbart, buzzfeed, youtubers, etc. These offer opinionated views, and no matter how accurate and evidential their actual content may be, they do have reputations that can shut down the credibility of their words pretty damn easily.

7. You actually don’t even need to respond. Even if all the world is ganging up on a post you made, you’re quite welcome to ignore it, block the notifs of the post (that’s an xkit feature) and carry on your merry way.

8. If you choose no 7 be aware of respect. You can vent about what they’re doing, but dont tag it as anything, don’t name names and URLs, remember the handy //. You’ve chosen not to engage with them. So don’t.

9. If you’ve chosen to interact with them, then you have to know when to stop. If you find yourself constantly apologising and re-explaining, if it’s been 3 or more days and you’re still getting an onslaught, then stop. Make a post saying you’re done, then delete any messages about it that come into your inbox, stop responding. Do number 7 and 8.

10. know that this will all blow over fairly quickly as soon as you stop interacting with them. They thrive off your interaction. Along with this, they form their own side of the internet that’s separate from yours. Eventually they’ll fade out and you won’t ever interact with them again. True story - I’m on several TERF blogs callout lists (despite me being a minor and messaging them this to point it out they weren’t a fan of removing my name so). I legit don’t even remember their URLs. They’re on a different side of tumblr than me. As soon as I stopped reblogging their posts and by doing that encouraging them to enter my side again (since they had barged in first), they just faded out of my world.

11. DO NOT ENGAGE OR MAKE THE FOLLOWING POSTS: - “callout posts” - tagging certain people’s content as “receipts” - receipts always end up more popular than apologies and fosters an unforgiving culture - “doxxing” - dear god, do not expose stuff like that. That can destroy people’s lives. Yes, maybe they’re a racist shit. But if you find their employment info and you want to get them fired for shitty behaviour - fucking file a formal complaint, saying they’ve seriously damaged the reputation of the company/establishment/whatever. You think you might need more to get proper actin to be taken? Keep pressuring the place to do something and/or get some friends to also make complaints. Don’t organise an internet witchhunt. - while you shouldn’t be doing the above anyway, if you’re going to be an immoral crazed hate-machine, then ALWAYS CHECK WHETHER THE PERSON IS A MINOR. If you’re going to do these horrible things, at least don’t do them to minors. If you’ve seen a kid do something shitty and you find which school they go to, follow the advice given in the point above this one.

I’ll just add in some stuff about dealing with this emotionally as well.

1. Internet drama will affect you. It will make you depressed, it will make you miserable. It’s not stupid because it’s the internet - it’s perfectly reasonable to be depressed about coming home to find your blog invaded by 25 messages from people you’ve never met telling you you’re a horrible person for not supporting their worldview. Earlier this year when I started getting put on those TERF hit lists I genuinely began considering self-harm. What made it worse was the cultural idea that it was just petty internet drama, which made me feel even more awful because it made me think I was shallow. You aren’t. Dare i use the cursed phrase - your feelings are valid.

2. Replace the tab. By this I mean close the tab with the site/s with the drama on it. Replace that tab with, say, your favourite tv show. Or look for some events happening around you and see what you might be interested in. Play a flash game. Literally do anything else but engage in social media. The internet is diverse and huge - there are many other things to do. Sometimes your internet session just needs to be something else for a bit. You might need to take a break from a site for a bit, so use the time you would spend on that site on a different one. Again, not social media. All social media is cruel.

3. Know that it will blow over. It will end. People will forget. The internet is horrible because it starts drama, but it’s also great because it forget within a matter of days. After that short time you can go back to whatever you were doing.

4. Go outside. I know it sounds silly but. Please. Go for a walk and make yourself promise you won’t pull your phone out and check the internet during that walk. The internet world and the real world are two fairly separate entities and removing one to involve yourself fully in the other is good for the soul in times when you’re getting 400 messages a day telling you to kill yourself. There are dogs in the real world. Go pat ‘em.

5. If you took option 7 above, a good reason is that it isn’t worth it to engage. Often people will reblog a post of yours days later when it has barely any notes and write essays on why you’re wrong and because of that you’re a terrible person, despite them having to dig through piles and piles worth of posts within a certain tag (often which these people wouldn’t go to unless they were deliberately seeking out drama) to find yours, to which they’re now working themselves into a frenzy over. If this is happening to you then guess what? That shit is hilarious. It’s honestly pathetic, and it’s 90% of the drama you will get into. Finding the “haters” funny is good, because it grounds you. It gives you a sense of reason and place. Another thing to laugh at is if you keep restating your counter arguments yet the person/people you’re arguing with just keeps restating the point you’ve rebutted despite not rebutting your rebuttal. That’s also pathetic, and also desperate. Find humour in the situation to ground yourself.

6. Find other people who share your view. Let their views reassure you. You don’t have to agree blindly with everything they say, but it’s nice to know you aren’t alone.

Anyway. People were creating a storm over a post I made and I felt the urge to inform the world on how to deal with everyone in your notifs saying you’re a bad person.