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Outlaw Marriages by Rodger Streitmatter
3.5 out of 5
As the title conveys, this is a collection of same-sex relationships, with a focus on the folks we might or might not recognize. Writers, actors, collectors, artists paired with people who were muses or with a similar interests.
If you're looking for in-depth details, this might not be the book for you. I would call this a sampler of the history of these couples, an overview of who they are, how they met, how they managed to mesh their personal and professional lives, and whether they managed to stay together as the years rolled on.
The author has, however, provided a wealth of footnotes with more detailed references that can expand on what happened in their lives. I did enjoy this look behind the heteronormative history we are usually given. For me the surprise wasn't in who was gay/bisexual/lesbian, it was how long most of them stayed together in times that were, frankly, dangerous for sexually loving relationships.
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June 2023 Book Club Picks
Outlaw Marriages: The Hidden History of Fifteen Extraordinary Same-Sex Couples - Rodger Streitmatter: One of the most popular (and irritating) things LGBT people hear from scared reactionaries is "This is a recent trend that kids learn about on tiktok! There are no LGBT people in history." Rodger Streitmatter sets out to prove that assertion wrong by showcasing fifteen same-sex couples that were, for all intents and purposes, close enough to be considered married, from grandfather of American poetry Walt Whitman to glamorous actress Greta Garbo to social reformist Jane Addams.
The Trauma Cleaner: One Woman's Extraordinary Life in Death, Decay, and Disaster by Sarah Krasnostein: Husband, father, drag queen, sex worker, wife - Sandra Pankhurst was all of these things over the course of her life. By the time Sarah Krasnostein met her, Sandra had made a business out of handling trauma. In the filthy homes of hoarders and the lonely flats of overdose deaths, Sandra sashays in with a kind word and an understanding air to help people clean up when life becomes overwhelming. As Krasnostein explores Sandra's life leading up to the founding of her business, we learn what Sandra had to go through to become the Trauma Cleaner.
Afterlife: Steven, Sonny, and Del are "widows" - all three met in the hospital when their lovers died within a week of each other from AIDS complications. Through potluck dinners and emotional phone calls, they've tried to help each other pick up the pieces and move on, but things are quickly changing, and not entirely for the better. Del has turned to political activism to distract himself from his anger and pain. Sonny indulges in shallow hook-ups and new-age spirituality to find something to numb himself. And Steven is running himself ragged to take care of everyone but himself. When another friend falls ill, all three must make decisions that may effect the course of their entire lives and the future of their friendship.
I'm Afraid of Men by Vivek Shraya: Vivek Shraya has reason to be afraid. The world of the masculine has never been much to her but cruel and aggressive, forcing her to perform at masculinity to get out of her childhood alive. Even as an adult, that fear haunts her, forcing her to make compromises to steel herself against heartbreak, threats, and her own mental health.
Foolish Hearts by Emma Mills: Claudia didn't mean to eavesdrop on the breakup of power couple Paige and Iris. All she wanted to do was use the bathroom. But now Claudia is on the wrong side of prickly Iris's temper, and will do anything to make amends. Unfortunately for Claudia, that means being thrown into a production of A Midsummer Night's Dream against her will. But all that changes when she meets the goofiest, most charming boy she's ever known and she starts to legitimately bond with Iris.
#book club#june 2023#outlaw marriages#rodger streitmatter#the trauma cleaner#sarah krasnostein#afterlife#paul monette#i'm afraid of men#vivek shraya#foolish hearts#emma mills
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I love you Jason Todd with white streak, I love you 🛐
#Jason Todd#red hood#batman#red hood and the outlaws#batfamily#damn he looks good#the only thing that bothers me in his design is that he looks as old as Bruce and is in fact younger than Dick#priest jason todd#is the only that doesn't look like a divorced guy with 2 ruined marriages and 3 teenage kids
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I do believe that Eddie as a non-conformist would initially balk at the idea of getting married--he doesn't want to be like the straights, Stevie!--but I also firmly believe that Steve would be able to convince him that it's totally badass and a 'fuck you' to the system to have a marriage ceremony when it isn't even legal. Like, what could possibly be more metal than that?
#stranger things#steve harrington#eddie munson#steddie#Eddie calls their marriage ceremony an 'outlaw wedding' pretty much for the rest of their lives
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idk even what to say with this post tbh
#the “We're pregnant!” thing has been in my mind for so long#No matter the horrors and strain I put them through everyone can rest easy knowing they get married#Connie/Adelaide marriage is something that brings me a lot of joy actually ..... I LOVE YURI *insert the yuri star*#Rivera/Scarlet divorce (Rattlesnake is both their child and their lawyer) /silly#origins drawing... again#non fandom#non fandom oc#cowgirl oc#cowboy#bounty hunter#outlaw oc#western oc#western#digital art#meme redraw#oc: Connie Worley#oc: Adelaide Devine#oc: Ernest “Rattlesnake” Bell#oc: Celia “Scarlet” Hammond#oc: Owen Rivera
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ellie parker, scott coffey 2005
#ellie parker#scott coffey#2005#naomi watts#keanu reeves#dogstar#mullholland drive#more things that happened#inland empire#the dreamers#the matrix#julianes sturz in den dschungel#manifesto#hybride räume#material#buw#the lost tapes#cast the outlaw#scenes from a marriage#lex barker
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q: how to fight w people without wanting to kill yrself. ideally only one of those things is inevitable
#3 (THREE !!!!) different fights over 24 hours one last night and two today..#sickening. and i regret the fights w only one of those ppl lol#elsewhere constantly a marriage of psychological warfare and the bit which is still outlawed here !!!!#its fine. but its deeply annoying how it has you playing the same five words and gestures in your head over and over#r's
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milsiril and mithrun dating truly is the nightmare scenario for kabru . genuinely hilarious
i think he'd come around eventually but there needs to be a three week long period of mourning
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maybe he's right maybe men and women aren't supposed to work
#↑ me when i wake up to another fuckass argument#we should outlaw heterosexual marriage for real#kata.txt
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So I was just curious, in the road not taken, Annie and the reader have moved in together and have pretty much completely committed to spending the rest of their lives with each other, but they still refer to each other as their girlfriend. So, obviously, they aren't married, but I was just curious. Does one/both of them want to be? Or is it just a case of labels not meaning much to them? If this is something lore important that'll come up later, you don't have to answer, but if it's not, I’m curious to what the reasoning around that is.
TLDR; oh HELL to the yes. i will definitely be addressing the status of their relationship in the main plot!
let's be real, though. Annie DOES NOT care about getting married. i feel this pretty strongly actually. i love her to death and obviously, the idea of a wedding fills my heart with joy. but she would not be the one pushing to get married, she would think that's too excessive. the way Annie sees it - they live together, they sleep together, they're vulnerable with each other, they support each other, and basically every other thing that defines a married couple. what's the point of a little ceremony? it's not like it would change their relationship. even at the current moment of the story, they've BEEN together in every way that matters, for years. Annie considers them already married in every way that matters.
#also like i don't mean to throw a wet towel on this joyous topic but personally i don't think aot universe is progressive AT ALL in any way#meaning that same-sex marriage is probably at the very least. not a legally recognized thing. if not completely outlawed.#that doesn't stop me whatsoever#but if we are being completely honest. i don't think they'd be 'allowed' to get married in any legal sense the way modern gay people are#IM SORRY JSDKGBFSDK.AFHBPIDF#the biggest takeaway from this though should be that Annie is a huge commitment-phobe even though she has already committed a long time ago#annie-isms#trnt annie#cottagecanon#tsuki answers#anonymous
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I am a normal person with a job and various normal hobbies but also if you sliced open my brain you would find a region which has existed for years and is singularly dedicated to storing my needlessly overspecific post-OOT / MM Zelda headcanons covering the span of several in-universe decades and in fact aren’t headcanons because they are all completely correct and accurate and ~thematic~
#okay so canon strongly suggests that TP Link is a descendant of OOT Link but I dislike the trope of biology/bloodlines = magic destiny#also OOT Link was raised by a talking tree and literally never even met an adult until he was like. eleven.#therefore dude has no attachment to the concept of marriage or a ✨nuclear family✨ and by the time he grows into adulthood again#he gives like. negative fucks about anything. he’s paid his dues to the world man.#therefore he ends up in some kind of polycule thing + raises a bunch of kids some of whom are maybe ‘’his’’ but several are adopted orphans#so like. inherited generational Stuff is going on and he’s a parent in every way that matters but as far as biological ancestry: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯#he obsessively teaches them all the survival skills he knows but is super lax in most other respects#(no sword training tho bc he didn’t want them to HAVE to know and then by the time he was maybe ready he physically couldn’t anymore)#and is thrilled to see them turn all rowdy and rebellious bc he feels like his life would’ve gone better if he’d been that way as a kid#in the same way that Link was somewhat modeled after Peter Pan (or really one of the lost boys to be more accurate)#the kids end up akin to Robin Hood and the outlaws especially after Link dies at a fairly young age bc they’re quite reasonably like#‘’hey fuck you queen Zelda you ruined our dad’s life fuck off fuck offffffffff’’#(cue them being derisively called a wolf pack—foreshadowing the whole Assigned Wolf Fursona at Death thing lmfao)#this ends up being extremely relevant to 1.) what happened to the actual ocarina of time between MM and TP#2.) Ordona becoming a semi-independent province within that timespan as well#but BEFORE ALL THAT HAPPENS so like relations between Hyrule and the Gerudo people are like. Very Poor at this point. for many reasons.#so by the time zelda actually becomes the ruling queen—
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Second place should be selina
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Some good news!! The president just signed into law a bill protecting same-sex marriage in the United States.
#This is important because the current Supreme Court#namely Justice Thomas#has expressed interest in overturning Obergefell v. Hodges which said that outlawing same sex marriage was unconstitutional#now with this bill even if they do that#any states that refuse to grant same-sex marriage licenses are still legally required to recognize marriages performed in other states#it's not perfect but it's a good step#hopefully it will never be needed because Obergefell won't be overturned#but at least now we have a safety net#us shit
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Women's Not So Distant History
This #WomensHistoryMonth, let's not forget how many of our rights were only won in recent decades, and weren’t acquired by asking nicely and waiting. We need to fight for our rights. Here's are a few examples:
📍 Before 1974's Fair Credit Opportunity Act made it illegal for financial institutions to discriminate against applicants' gender, banks could refuse women a credit card. Women won the right to open a bank account in the 1960s, but many banks still refused without a husband’s signature. This allowed men to continue to have control over women’s bank accounts. Unmarried women were often refused service by financial institutions entirely.
📍 Before 1977, sexual harassment was not considered a legal offense. That changed when a woman brought her boss to court after she refused his sexual advances and was fired. The court stated that her termination violated the 1974 Civil Rights Act, which made employment discrimination illegal.⚖️
📍 In 1969, California became the first state to pass legislation to allow no-fault divorce. Before then, divorce could only be obtained if a woman could prove that her husband had committed serious faults such as adultery. 💍By 1977, nine states had adopted no-fault divorce laws, and by late 1983, every state had but two. The last, New York, adopted a law in 2010.
📍In 1967, Kathrine Switzer, entered the Boston Marathon under the name "K.V. Switzer." At the time, the Amateur Athletics Union didn't allow women. Once discovered, staff tried to remove Switzer from the race, but she finished. AAU did not formally accept women until fall 1971.
📍 In 1972, Lillian Garland, a receptionist at a California bank, went on unpaid leave to have a baby and when she returned, her position was filled. Her lawsuit led to 1978's Pregnancy Discrimination Act, which found that discriminating against pregnant people is unlawful
📍 It wasn’t until 2016 that gay marriage was legal in all 50 states. Previously, laws varied by state, and while many states allowed for civil unions for same-sex couples, it created a separate but equal standard. In 2008, California was the first state to achieve marriage equality, only to reverse that right following a ballot initiative later that year.
📍In 2018, Utah and Idaho were the last two states that lacked clear legislation protecting chest or breast feeding parents from obscenity laws. At the time, an Idaho congressman complained women would, "whip it out and do it anywhere,"
📍 In 1973, the Supreme Court affirmed the right to safe legal abortion in Roe v. Wade. At the time of the decision, nearly all states outlawed abortion with few exceptions. In 1965, illegal abortions made up one-sixth of all pregnancy- and childbirth-related deaths. Unfortunately after years of abortion restrictions and bans, the Supreme Court overturned Roe in 2022. Since then, 14 states have fully banned care, and another 7 severely restrict it – leaving most of the south and midwest without access.
📍 Before 1973, women were not able to serve on a jury in all 50 states. However, this varied by state: Utah was the first state to allow women to serve jury duty in 1898. Though, by 1927, only 19 states allowed women to serve jury duty. The Civil Rights Act of 1957 gave women the right to serve on federal juries, though it wasn't until 1973 that all 50 states passed similar legislation
📍 Before 1988, women were unable to get a business loan on their own. The Women's Business Ownership Act of 1988 allowed women to get loans without a male co-signer and removed other barriers to women in business. The number of women-owned businesses increased by 31 times in the last four decades.
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📍 Before 1965, married women had no right to birth control. In Griswold v. Connecticut (1965), the Supreme Court ruled that banning the use of contraceptives violated the right to marital privacy.
📍 Before 1967, interracial couples didn’t have the right to marry. In Loving v. Virginia, the Supreme Court found that anti-miscegenation laws were unconstitutional. In 2000, Alabama was the last State to remove its anti-miscegenation laws from the books.
📍 Before 1972, unmarried women didn’t have the right to birth control. While married couples gained the right in 1967, it wasn’t until Eisenstadt v. Baird seven years later, that the Supreme Court affirmed the right to contraception for unmarried people.
📍 In 1974, the last “Ugly Laws” were repealed in Chicago. “Ugly Laws” allowed the police to arrest and jail people with visible disabilities for being seen in public. People charged with ugly laws were either charged a fine or held in jail. ‘Ugly Laws’ were a part of the late 19th century Victorian Era poor laws.
📍 In 1976, Hawaii was the last state to lift requirements that a woman take her husband’s last name. If a woman didn’t take her husband’s last name, employers could refuse to issue her payroll and she could be barred from voting.
📍 It wasn’t until 1993 that marital assault became a crime in all 50 states. Historically, intercourse within marriage was regarded as a “right” of spouses. Before 1974, in all fifty U.S. states, men had legal immunity for assaults their wives. Oklahoma and North Carolina were the last to change the law in 1993.
📍 In 1990, the Americans with Disability Act (ADA) – most comprehensive disability rights legislation in U.S. history – was passed. The ADA protected disabled people from employment discrimination. Previously, an employer could refuse to hire someone just because of their disability.
📍 Before 1993, women weren’t allowed to wear pants on the Senate floor. That changed when Sen. Moseley Braun (D-IL), & Sen. Barbara Mikulski (D-MD) wore trousers - shocking the male-dominated Senate. Their fashion statement ultimately led to the dress code being clarified to allow women to wear pants.
📍 Emergency contraception (Plan B) wasn't approved by the FDA until 1998. While many can get emergency contraception at their local drugstore, back then it required a prescription. In 2013, the FDA removed age limits & allowed retailers to stock it directly on the shelf (although many don’t).
📍 In Lawrence v. Texas (2003), the Supreme Court ruled that anti-cohabitation laws were unconstitutional. Sometimes referred to as the ‘'Living in Sin' statute, anti-cohabitation laws criminalize living with a partner if the couple is unmarried. Today, Mississippi still has laws on its books against cohabitation.
#art#feminism#women's history#women's history month#iwd2024#international women's day#herstory#educational#graphics#history#70s#80s#rights#women's rights#human rights
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forever angry i can sell cigars but can't buy any to roll a fucking blunt
#idk raising the tabacco age was prolly a good idea#but ill only say that if they raise the enlistment age and outlaw child marriage and enshrine abortion rights in the constitution#and other things#so many things#i could fucking go off about how kids are treated#it makes me so angry
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Did you hear what they did to Saint Valentine?
He would have never supported the mentally ill or the LBGTQIA+ community.
Tell me you know nothing about history without telling me you know nothing about history
#for those who don't know#he's the patron saint of the mentally ill#and put love before the law#meaning he performed outlawed marriages
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