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Plan to get a binder in rural Appalachia :3
> It's Halloween in October. > Say I want to cosplay as a guy character or a flat character (prbly the latter for safety :3) > My Dad (<- the main bigot (when it comes to politics mom just listens to him)) is weeb, dweeb and a nerd (only derogatory cause fuck him) so if I am going for accuracy he might let me have one for the costume. > But until then I have to be EXTREMELY not sus ;3 > So he doesn't think I'll keep it or use it after the costume > AND hope he doesn't take it immediatly after so I can't use it > Let's hope this works cause some days I'm this close 🤏 to taping or other non-savory things (like a break down don't worry Abt me) :D
#tw transphobes#tw parental issues#chest binding#tw body dysmorphia#vent? ish?#tw#halloween#appalachia#everyone around me is a borderline nazi#but since my dads a weeb ¯\_(ツ)_/¯#if I dissappear I got disowned ¯\_(ツ)_/¯#or put in conversion therapy#for some reason it's legal here#also yes I'm delusional#if i don't laugh i'll cry#and if I don't just call nazi's silly I would have no way of coping :D#so yes I am incredibly apathetic and dissococisated (spelling where?) to my own life#all the time#my possst
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Religious queers are holy and loved
Religious queers are not sad or misguided or in need of saving
Your own issues with (almost always Christian) religious trauma do not give you a key to lash out laterally at religious queers or assume they're being hurt or abused by their beliefs
#cosmo talks#this is not to say religious abuse doesnt happen to queers i myself have been put through conversion therapy#but its also NOT your place to assume all religious queers are abused by their religion
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Whoever invented the term “monosexuals” needs to be sh0t on site
#imagine grouping hets with homos#when hets opress us#opposing gay rights#throwing us off buildings#putting us in conversion therapy#bullying us#fuck off!
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my dad asking me if im trans and kind of hinting that he'd support me as much as someone like him could is ❔
#men in their 60s are something else this guy might be the most ideologically Unique person i'll ever meet because ???#he didn't say that he'd be okay with it out right but he was like i knew this person who's child came out as trans and he#ended up supporting their kid and got a lot of shit for it unfortunately even though he did what was right#and i was 😭????????? you told me you'd put me in conversion therapy if i liked women what is happening
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I am who I am
#happy pride 🌈#doodle#self portrait#personal#Kuroha Ai#staying in the closet bcs my family would probably put me in conversion therapy lmao#not to mention the shunning from the religious society#but I have come to term to many things in life#it's okay#I'm happy with who I am now
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i should be asleep btw but my brain is too busy thinking abt how to make veilguard more satisfying
#personal#rewriting the lucanis therapy quest. the very end and making mythal show up earlier. making daea's vallaslin of mythal matter#imagining a very fraught conversation between them and lucanis about the crows - and a sister conversation about the wardens#if only i had time to put it into words. alas i have to write code for [checks contract] nine and a half hours tomorrow#well. ill nap for half of that. but still
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how many times do we need to learn as people that irony and hyperbole can be harmful because 'jokes' aren't easily distinguished from genuine thoughts and feelings until we stop rewarding people for speaking or posting about violence
like even if you're joking/don't actually believe that/think whoever you are insulting is bad/immoral/fictional therefore deserves it - ad hominem attacks always do more harm to the people who share those characteristic then the individual you intend to cause harm to or discredit
#discourse#long post#its genuinely erased so much of my enjoyment of 911blr knowing i have to check accounts or risk seeing bullying/hate#l like its an odd feeling to know that so many people in the same fandom as you actively hold hate or find hate funny against your communit#like tired of people saying others are too sensitive because we dont want to hear or see a person say they want to hurt themself or others#like sorry i put in the work everyday to not let my mental health backslide and to enjoying being alive and accept my queerness#while others seemingly have not#and i know the content i post/share is not all in the same circles as that certain blog and i hate that it still grinds my gears but#its so frustrating to see the cruel glee people have#saying things they would never say to anyone's face irl and only to other blindly devoted/similar bullies#like do these people realise that they are on a razor's edge between 'ironic jokes' and just outright bigotry and threats - like do they#literally the only thing seperating That and conservative bigots is that the bigots are honest about their hatred towards minorities#like a lot of people in the fandom seemingly still need to deal with a lot of intenalised homophobia/racism and just outright hate-#especially regarding queer men and men of colour#because i can not be emphasise enough#It is NOT GOOD OR HEALTHY to be a fully grown adult that actively derives joy from the idea of enacting hate crimes#like you can hate tommy you can want him off the show even want him to die like weird but go off#but its such a next step to unprompted talk about [a character i dislike/hate/dont ship/disrupts my fanon endgame] in derogatory ways -#with rhetoric that straight up is out of terf/rel. right/homophobic/racists bigots and evokes violent hate-crimes......#well i feel sorry for those people cause what a miserable life to spend so much of it unable to enjoy your own life that you target others#anyways I know this is too long but I'm just a very tired man who has studied history and education and working with kids i have seen it -#too many times- harmful words coming from harmful environments or creating harmful actions and thereby perpetuating the cycle of violence#also not super relavent but as Latino Australian i am genuinely appauled at how many people have in their bio they are also Australian-#while actively liking/reblogging and engaging with post that find homophobic violence a funny haha joke - as if activist in our country -#aren't actively trying to dismantle homophobic and transphobic laws regarding issues like conversion therapy#like I know professors that actively got fired for being gay while teaching in religious education context - and its still happening!#so for people to forget so quickly what progress has been made and how much it took and how easy it is to loose - disappointing#(and its the same people who wanna pretend mardi gras is nothing but a party as if 78rs didn't risk their jobs/safety/lives)
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is wanting people to talk to you attention seeking??? Like real question here, when you just crave someone you know to just liek text you “hi” and ask how you are because you jsut want close relationships where someone actually knows your favorite color attention seeking? That sounds so guilt tripping oh my god, I mean this my brain always just thinks starting a conversation with someone is attention seeking but idk :/
#Also it’s goes straight to#Maybe if you put more effort so will they#But then it goes#If they actually liked you they would start the conversation#So uh yeah#🫡#no one see this actually 🙏#My blog is my therapy#Nothing bad has actually ever happened to me#I have a really good family and shit#So :/#Liek#fuck
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to be honest i think there is a very clear pathway to cheronica happening this season (cheryl’s “get out of my school” vibes, veronica introducing the concept of bisexuality to the group, hermione telling veronica “no boys” which EYE think would be very fun if veronica was like “okay fine then girls”) but i KNOW they’re not gonna take it
#riverdale#cheronica#i know they’re gonna use this as a reset button for choni and i hate it#i enjoy both cheryl and veronica the most when they have shared plotlines honestly so as a ship it just seems like the natural choice#and i would loooove to see enlightened hollywood veronica be the one to handhold 50s cheryl out of the closet#i know it’ll be toni but i don’t want them to put her through that job again#it was sweet enough the first time like i DID love the conversion therapy kiss but#toni deserves so much more than cheryl both as a person and like narratively she deserves better storylines#i cannot watch her just be the cool bisexual who does whatever cheryl does and also tackles serious racism topics sometimes again#like. i know the actresses are besties but i’m sorry the ship is bad it got boring fast#r.txt
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I've seen some discussions pop up about gender dysphoria and how it's treated and pathologized, and in my opinion, gender dysphoria is a real feeling in that many trans people are dysphoric, but that medical professionals (notably cis ones) only hear what they want to hear. When it comes to gender dysphoria, I don't think it is inherent to being trans, but there is correlation between being trans and having gender dysphoria. I also think that dysphoria is exasperated when gender roles are so tied to sex and personhood - in my opinion, I think a lot of people's dysphoria may be eased in environments where perceived gender deviance is not seen as horrific or undesirable.
Basically:
1. Gender dysphoria is real and certain aspects of one's culture or environment can make those feelings more persistent. Gender dysphoria can look different between people, and that doesn't mean that one person's dysphoria is worse than another person's, or that one person's dysphoria is "right" while somebody else's is "wrong".
2. Gender dysphoria is tied to transness in a way that I think only pathologizes transness, and gender dysphoria shouldn't need to be proven in order to transition (socially, medically, any way)
3. Gender dysphoria can be a dynamic issue for anybody who has it, and a person's needs may change as their dysphoria changes or becomes lesser
4. Gender dysphoria is something a ton of people deal with - trans or no. Associating dysphoria with only trans people doesn't help the dysphoric people who aren't trans. Again, associating dysphoria only with trans people pathologizes transness itself because people will conflate the two.
5. For trans people with gender dysphoria, transition is a viable (and often necessary) form of treatment. It is not "enabling", it is helping trans people meet their needs. Transition is an option that is often successful, hence why forms of conversion therapy do not work. Transness is simply a natural variation of human identity.
I've been diagnosed with gender dysphoria/GID many times by many professionals, and I find that more often than not, these professionals are not equipped to deal with cases of gender dysphoria - especially when the person is also trans. This can be harmful because you essentially are meant to deal with those feelings alone.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#gender dysphoria#dysphoria tw#like gender dysphoria is a complex topic and i can see where everybody's coming from#essentially i want to get rid of the idea that transness is something which must be pathologized#because it is a part of human identity#which is *precisely* why conversion therapy doesn't work for the vast vast *vast* majority of us#and which is why those people who are put into conversion therapy for their gender are fucking miserable..#...because they are told again and again and AGAIN that *who they are* is wrong. who /wouldn't/ be miserable in those conditions?#so many trans people do try to go through things like conversion therapy because we live in a scary world to be trans#like i did almost DIY conversion therapy because of the self-hatred i internalized because of transphobia#anyway... rant over#gender dysphoria is real and it isn't just trans people who experience it#i reject the idea that only we can experience gender dysphoria because it will lead to pathologizing us#which then leads to people trying to 'cure' us because if it can be pathologized surely it can be eradicated right?#(when people talk about 'curing' dysphoria some will not think about real solutions like transition - it will be conversion therapies)
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I hate that my gut feeling about Fina being sent to jail was fucking right. Men suck.
If the Civil Guard puts her through conversion therapy, I may toss myself off a bridge. I can’t relive Amelia and Lusitia.
#mafin#marta belmonte#marta de la reina#fina valero#alba brunet#marta x fina#marta y fina#suenos de libertad#sueños de libertad#fuck the patriarchy#the homophobia of it all#they better not put her through conversion therapy
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"your feelings are valid" is the "it's not you, it's me" of normal conversations.
#Like I'm not gonna fault someone for using it since it's succinct and clear#or be angry at someone for using it on me but#It's just such a cold/distant way of relating to someone or having a heart to heart conversation. I can't imagine it actually working.#I'd feel the same/i totally get it dude/maybe I wouldn't do that but I get why you did/sharing related anecdote >>>your feelings are valid#Outside of an actual therapy session#'Valid' should be reserved for silly opinions shared between friends or whatever#Putting it up on the shelf with the other overused words#This post was brought to you by ✨I finished playing dav and that part of the writing did actually suck unfortunately ✨
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ok it's been revealed to me that I come off as callous and uncaring because I can't do eye contact or show excitement and that's why I fail at job interviews
#and I speak weird and and am off-putting in general#I wear clean clothes and take showers and use moisturizer but that counts for nothing apparently#I guess that's the bare minimum idk#should I rehearse some more things to say and ask#oh I should learn how to answer 'how are you's and 'tell me about yourself's#goddd#what unresolved childhood trauma does to a mf#or maybe adhd or maybe autism idk#i'm so tired#I understand both sides of this bc it's true I should get my shit together and grow the fuck up#but also idk where to start with that and don't get a lot of practice. is there conversion therapy for learning to act normal
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sitting back after writing 3k words of a fic and thinking. what the hell is this
#ada speaks#if i say what ive written#this entire scenario is insane but. i guess im committed#it has been a very very long time since ive written mac and its like. allll coming out in a way i didn't really expect#i *almost* feel worse for what im putting him through than dennis. ....almost.#this shit is honestly so heavy i think i need a break but none of my other fics are light either lmfao#whats worse: hostage situation turned incredibly fucked up conversion therapy#or the most relentless barrage of awful truths realizing that your existence is nothing more than a burden on the people you love and#no matter how much you sacrifice and how hard you're beaten down you will never have anyone to lean on because even though youve finally#reached a point where you realize you have to open up to them they will never see you for who you truly are because of the years of lies#you've fed them#*wheeze*#okay i answered my own question actually this is the lighter fic comparatively#dennis is suffering in both but at least he has mac with him in the former for better or worse#north dakota dennis suffers and then season 13 on is the bleakest most hellish time like has dennis actually been close with the gang since
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Tw for extreme ableism and homophobia
Disabled queer culture is being dragged to church and hearing a pastor talking about how he cured a gay prostitute of homosexuality and performed an exorcism to rid a girl (who was almost certainly psychotic and/or having a meltdown) of demons and just being like
What. Huh.
And then looking around to see if anyone else is shocked by this and realizing you’re the only one who thinks what he just said was absolutely absurd.
Hello???? I don’t think you have to be gay or disabled to comprehend how disgusting that is???? But all those cishet ableds simply don’t????
Evangelicalism is a hell of a drug.
#disabled culture is#queer culture is#disabled queer culture is#ableism tw#homophobia tw#conversion therapy tw#not quite but putting that there just in case#i hate hate hate hate hate when people do that sort of thing#and i hate that other people sit by and think its okay
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well it looks like my grandfather (grandma’s ex husband) might be dying, for real this time. if yall don’t remember, he’s the one who inflicted all of my religious trauma on me since I was a little kid and claims to have healed a kid of autism and cured someone of multiple sclerosis, just by praying and because he’s a ‘healer’. he also blatantly lied about grandma and never mentioned that he cheated on her dozens of times, but grandma didn’t.
so he can burn in fucking hell for all I care
#he’s the one who made me permanently terrified of the number 6#and triple six as a number bc of the whole ‘devil’s number’ thing#I’m still super uncomfortable with actually writing it out as the actual number#he also threatened to put me in conversion therapy by force when I first came out to mom#man is fucking EVIL#good fucking riddance if he is#and he’s the biggest hypochondriac in a bad way#and claimed every few months that he was about to die#and that he’d die long before grandma#well looks like he was wrong about dying before her#I’m not even gonna touch on how he acted after her death#with the elvis cd fiasco
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