#one thing after another

[maydaydiaz]

these last 24hrs are for the history books

[tinesleftnipple]

*novel spoilers*

There's a recurring theme of separation in the original novel that the drama hasn't really had time to portray. Xiao bao's name is wei li li, and "li" means to separate. I think this was the first instance that priest introduces this idea to the readers.

Then WQ's stepdad and mom dies, marking the first separation in the novel.

There's another character called Ma zi who lives with his mom running a breakfast stall by the side of the road. In an accident, the pot of hot dough-frying oil tumbles over the mom and she loses an arm and a leg. Ma zi, who is desperate for money for his mom's treatment, resorts to selling drugs for Le ge and is shot dead by police. Another separation of life and death.

Over at WQ's, Xiao bao's grandmother from the stepdad's side shows up and ends up living with them. She has a stroke a few years later and becomes incontinent and increasingly reliant on the kids for everyday tasks.

Grandma and Ma zi's mom end up leaving to wander off together in the winter because they didn't want to be a burden for the kids anymore. Ma zi's mom leaves a note that says, we didn't die, we just left.

There a chinese saying of "生离死别". 生离 is separation in life and 死别 is separation by death. WQ has experienced plenty of both. The novel ends with a quote: from now on we won't have 生离, only 死别. Only death will separate us.

[thatwritingho]

Hey, guys. Just as a small update:

My life has been... not great lately, to put it mildly. In the last 6 months, I have experienced:

The death of my hamster

My father's s*icide

The death anniversary of my dog

The death of my favorite uncle

My cat having an unexpected seuzure, nearly dying in my arms, staying overnight in the emergency vet multiple nught, then fibally being diagnosed with feline hypoparathyroidism, which is very rare. His medicine is $130/month.

And, as if all of that wasn't enough... my husband walked out on me unexpectedly last weekend. Very brief details on this below the cut.

I won't go into details, but my husband and I had been together since high school, dating for twelve years and married five. He thought about it for two weeks, talked to me about the issues he was dissatisfied with(which he had not communicated before) for about one week, and then left.

I am physically disabled by a chronic pain condition.

He makes 3x more income than I do.

He is taking half of our animals with him.

So... that's why I have been absent for months.

Any kind words or shows of support are appreciated.❤️

[yooniesim]

Hey yall, hope you're doing well!

I'm probably gonna be inactive for a little while longer. There's a lot going on IRL and simblr has been the furthest thing from my mind rn. I'm just mentally tired and need time with other things and my loved ones. Hoping to come back refreshed and happier (and ready to post all my wips!) Love you guys.

[aayatt]

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[gravity-falls-fanatic89]

Think I might go scream into the void. On top of every single other problem that has gone wrong, I now have a staph infection on my face.

I can't even cry at this point. I'm just plainly defeated.

[roamwithahungryheart]

One of the strangest things about watching your family & friends going through tough times is that their pain becomes your pain. But to acknowledge that pain feels somehow selfish. Because it's not about you. But you want so badly to fix it all, even though you can't. That's where the deep ache in your soul originates. The knowledge that it's all beyond your control. You're just a bystander who can only offer a kind word and a hug. It doesn't feel like enough, even though to them, it is. And when you're struggling with your own pain, you feel doubly selfish. It's not about me. It shouldn't be about me. So you internalize everything. You internalize your pain and their pain and you sit with it until your soul is so heavy with grief that all you can do is mourn for all the moments you can't pause. Mourn the life that goes on day after day, sadness after sadness. Mourn for the part of yourself you've lost to this constant darkness and hope to God there will be light.

[thefabulousfab-3]

We found mold in our apartment, I’m going to lose it.

[south-of-heaven]

When will the world let Nikki live in peace?

[thegeminisage]

roadblock: the fucking bleach i bought is off-the-scalp bleach which calls for a max of 20volume developer. all i have is 30, and it's definitely gonna touch my fucking scalp. i'm not sure how to assess the risk of using it anyway (am i looking at discomfort and minor damage or chemical burns and baldness?), but if i have to buy more product, it will have to be in the morning, after driving for 45 minutes, and hoping my sectioned-off hair doesn't get ruined before i can get what i need and get back home

[darkmothsy]

My pants showed up todayyyyyyy. So I climbed out of my slump and got dressed to feel better.

Taking pics in good lighting is so hard to do in this home.

[patternwelded-quill]

Still stuck in the 1950s with not internet or cell at the new house. Working away but came up into town to get supplies because LOW AND BEHOLD Opa had built the greenhouse with a wood pillar almost flush with the ground in a drainage angle... guess what we just flund had almost rotted through enough to act like a pet door?

Take care, hydrate, we're heading back into the valley now.

[plasticine-dreams]

I’m certain this whole year has been cursed

[ahoneesan]

forget three months in a row i feel like if i get to the gym consistently for three weeks in a row ill be a girl adonis

[wildcatofgreen]

@atangledfate

Huh. She was actually a lot scarier up close.

Is this how those bullies felt when she scared them off from Lyli? Did she just like, fuck up?

Might be depressed, but a girl knows when to quit. She's not dyin' today, not over some stupid name calling.

"ya see, what i meant to say, is that you're an amazing and beautiful, uhhh...," she kind of looked like a dog? She's probably a dog, right? "dog, with your 'lil fangs and your nice hair and whatever. good girl."

Yeah, that worked. Enough to get her off her case.

[lesbiantrish]

uh vent

growing up jewish, i always hated days like this. just another reminder of how im different. people would look at me weird when all i would utter is how i dont celebrate the holiday.