#okay I’m don’t venting about this

[excitedbones]

I hope my boss fires me for working from home when the sidewalks are covered in 40cm of snow and the roads are so bad they cancelled school buses for a second day.

I would love to collect unemployment until spring.

[zaddyazula]

i saw the tv glow gave me so much hope for my future but also so much fear. what if i don’t ever get to transition? what if i end up trapped as someone i don’t want to be for the rest of my life? what if i do transition and deal with cutting a lot of my close family off? what if i actually am someone else? what if i could actually be me? what about if i transition after i already have a career? how difficult would that make life? i don’t want to end up caged as someone i’m not but i don’t want to lose who i am.

[liesmultixxx]

what’s wrong with me? why am i so fundamentally unlovable?

[weezerlvr228]

hi fam !!

[dark-elf-writes]

I was already at the very end of rope and about three seconds away from frustration crying because I am so overwhelmed by being alive and I decided to make myself a silly little egg sandwich.

I CUT MY THUMB ON A FUCKING EGG SHELL

[jamietarttsdaddyissues]

Okay I’m going to say this and I’m going to say this once.

I do not like how the relationship with Jamie’s father was handled in season 3.

If they wanted to go the route of forgiveness they absolutely could have. If they wanted to go the route of his dad going to rehab they absolutely could have. Those are not inherently wrong or bad. It’s a show about forgiveness and I get that. It’s a comedy and Jamie is not the main character - I get that too.

My issue is this: the show went out of its way on multiple occasions to show just how violent and abusive James is. Just to give a few examples:

Repeated physical abuse

Repeated verbal abuse

Planning, funding, and likely pressuring the sexual abuse of his 14 year old son (a minor and below the age of consent in both The Netherlands and the UK regardless of the age of the girl in the red light district)

The willingness to beat Coach Beard (basically a stranger to him) with a metal pipe in a 3 to 1 fight in a back alley which could have realistically resulted in his death (and calling Beard “son” right before the final blow)

Jamie literally gave up his dream - a job as a professional footballer on a top hometown team - to leave the country on a trashy reality show just to get away from his father. The show traced a large portion of Jamie’s issues back to his relationship with his father. Not all of course - but that was a big theme of his growth and development.

So even if we entertain the notion that this stint in rehab was successful and James is sober - that’s great. That’s a storyline I wouldn’t mind hearing - IF we had the appropriate time to show it. But the thing is, we didn’t. This season was disjointed and rushed in many ways - and I’m not complaining - I still loved it. But if they’re going to tackle a topic this serious, they need to do it right. They need to be clear that alcohol was not the only problem James had and that sobriety does not absolve you of accountability. As important as it is to portray the message that all human beings can change, including addicts, it is equally as important to show the serious work that addicts in recovery put in to address the hurt that they caused through their addiction. It is not easy work to battle addiction and to mend relationships - sometimes part of recovery is accepting that you can’t mend things with everyone you’ve hurt and that is the right of the victim to decide how they feel.

We were shown none of this. What we got instead was:

A speech from Jamie’s mom about how he is still amazing despite his dad while still somehow crediting Jamie’s talent to his dad’s abuse

Ted telling Jamie to forgive his dad as he’s mid-panic about his safety and his dad’s location

Ted making a point to say the forgiveness was for Jamie’s sake, not for James - which was ALMOST good until they ruined it

Denbo and Bug suddenly supportive despite being just as violent as James in 2x09

James suddenly in rehab for 0.2 seconds

Jamie reaching out to his dad via text despite having no idea his dad is in rehab - something that is realistically compromising his physical and emotional safety

A quick clip of Jamie bonding with his father before the season/series ends for good

The reason I connected with Jamie so intensely from season 1 was the shared experience of abuse from my father. I want to be clear that I know I’m projecting - that’s what fandom is - and I in no way expected the show to end exactly as I wanted. However, this is what I would have liked to see as 1) an abuse survivor 2) a licensed therapist and 3) a person:

The message that you can heal without forgiving those who hurt you OR that you can forgive them and still not allow them back into your life (ESPECIALLY if it compromises your safety)

The message that sometimes people don’t change for the better and you can grieve that relationship while still fostering healthier ones elsewhere.

An emphasis on support systems and chosen family when someone doesn’t have the reality of a parent or partner getting better (we saw this with Bex seeking out Rebecca and Rupert’s assistant)

Instead of Man City suddenly cheering for Jamie, which felt insanely unrealistic, having the cheers of Richmond fans drown out the boos and verbal assaults of the Man City crowd - further emphasizing that despite the pain he has attached to Man City and his father, he has a home with Richmond.

So to wrap up this very long rant, I feel very disheartened by this part of the season. I still love Ted Lasso and always will - there were so many parts of this season I absolutely adored and wouldn’t trade for anything - but I feel that they dropped the ball on this one. Most people don’t get to repair relationships with abusive parents. Is it possible? Of course. Is it important to depict that it can happen? Absolutely. It’s a show about forgiveness. But they didn’t need to do it like this for Jamie’s storyline. They could have kept the speech about forgiving James for Jamie’s sake and deleted all of the rehab/texting afterwards. I still wouldn’t have been thrilled but it would have made more sense to me in context of the show. And it would have meant a lot more to me as someone who’s father is unlikely to ever stop being a risk to my safety.

This just felt bad. Jamie Tartt had one of the best arcs I’ve ever seen in media and he deserved better than that.

[spineless-lobster]

Hey guys can we like please love “ugly” trans women? Can we please love fat trans women? I just really think we should love all trans women thanks

[uhbasicallyjustmilex]

me desperately trying to outrun my writer’s block for the fiftieth time this week

[phantom-peachie]

im ok

tw: death/loss

[honeypleasejustkillme]

we all broke our rules for someone

[the-golden-dragoness]

Does anyone know how to maneuver a relationship where they are interested in dating you but you were fine being old school acquaintances who don’t speak to each other

[valewritessss]

Finally deleted MyFitnessPal off my phone for my own personal sanity

[s-ccaam-era-crepe]

Do you ever rb something that your ex best friend would have rbed from you and you can hear their tags and words in your head? No just me yeahgg

[great-tusk]

ughhh I need to stop having mental breakdowns over little things.

[blushy-tigerrr]

vent in tags sorry

cw: mention of loss

[cushfuddled]

I can’t fuckinabsbdb take this anymore

There are like four graphic novel grants out there. I’m eligible for one of those four, so I’ll give it my best shot once submissions open. But like. All the art grants are either too small (<6k) or are for contemporary art/experimental art/fine art/film/dance/sculpture. Well fine! Lucky me; as a comic artist I can apply for writing grants too, right?

AHDHAHAHHAHSHAHAHAHAHA

Would you look at that! All the fiction grants are either too small or I’m not eligible because of my age or lack of children or publication status etc. etc. etc.

Anyway. I finally found a writing grant that ticked all the boxes. Sure, the grant only went up to 5k, but that’d get me through 2.5 months or so. It’d be better than noth—

…Are you fucking KIDDING ME