#obv don’t harass this person

[ink-the-artist]

i just wanted to let you know the person who replied to your post claiming you're "anti russian" is genuinely just dealing with psychosis at the moment. afaik they're safe, but don't be surprised if they say things to you that have a sort of accusatory and nonsensical nature.

Not entirely sure where you read that but you might be right bc holy shit

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

up until recently i ran a pretty popular radfem blog (stay with me, this ask is in good faith) but after i took a social media detox, i realized i don’t share those beliefs anymore and in fact i might be trans myself. i just kind of abandoned the blog, but i’d feel bad if i didn’t tell my followers what happened. i’m scared of telling anyone because i feel like i’d be a bad feminist if i transitioned. (i know, you can be trans and a feminist just fine, but that’s just the kind of thing radfems tell you.) even worse, i’m scared of posting about it on my main or radfem blog because radfems and trans people by and large hate each other (obv), and i’m scared to mention i’ve been in both groups because of the hate i’ll get

Lee says:

When I first started as a mod, I would have told you that you need to immediately post on all your blogs to disown the transphobic beliefs you had previously expressed to try to make up for the harm that you may have perpetrated as a radfem.

Now that I'm a little older, my feelings on the topic have shifted a bit. Before anything else, I think you need to slow down and make sure that you ensure your own safety and mental health.

If you believe that revealing this change to your followers could result in backlash online that would affect you emotionally, it's crucial to prepare by turning off anonymous asks and muting notifications from social media apps.

You should also make sure you have a non-online place to turn for support. If they used to be your community, you may feel like you've lost online friends, so make sure you don't become too isolated. Instead, lean on your IRL connections and seek support from trans-friendly people in your community.

You may even want to consider looking for a therapist-- questioning being trans can be difficult for anyone, and adding a layer of internalized transphobia doesn't help.

When you're ready to share your feelings on your blog, you should write a thoughtful post explaining your journey. You don't have to justify your identity; rather, focus on your personal growth, how your views have evolved, and how you came to understand yourself better. Acknowledge the complexity of the situation and that you're still learning.

These people were once your buddies and there's a chance you may be able to make some of them question their beliefs too if you don't lash out at them and trigger that instinctual defensive us-versus-them mindset, so I would try to keep a friendly tone even while noting that you no longer support them.

So thank your followers for their support and engagement over the years, but tell them you aren't comfortable staying part of their community now that you've realized that the beliefs underpinning the group are doing damage and you are trying to unlearn that type of thinking.

Gently challenge any misconceptions you once held or promoted. Clarify that being trans and feminist are not mutually exclusive and that everyone deserves respect and equality, regardless of their gender identity.

If you're comfortable, share resources that helped you on your journey. This could be educational materials, support groups, books you found helpful, or contact information for trans-supportive LGBTQ+ organizations. If there's anything you'd recommend to others who were once in the same place as you were on getting out, this is the time to share your advice.

Understand that reactions will likely be mixed. Some followers may feel confused, betrayed, or angry, while others might be supportive or even share their similar experiences. Remember, you're not responsible for their reactions and you don't need to respond to them if you don't want to argue and they aren't willing to have a respectful conversation.

Be clear about your boundaries. Let your followers know what kind of comments you're willing to engage with and that hate or harassment won't be tolerated. You can even stop engaging with the account altogether if you don't think you can deal with the hate that you may receive.

You don't have to post about this immediately. Again, it's okay to take as much time as you need to feel ready. It's okay to wait until you're in a safe and stable position before making any announcements.

If you do post about it and get hate, remind yourself that you're doing the right thing by letting go of that community, and that you're not only making the right choice for your own life in allowing yourself the freedom to explore your gender identity but you're also doing the right thing overall since you're now standing up for the trans community (late is better than never!) and no longer encouraging transphobic narratives.

If you feel that your current blog is no longer a space where you can express yourself authentically, consider starting a new blog or platform where you can write freely about your experiences and beliefs. Or just get offline altogether-- your digital detox is what started this, so maybe it's healthy for you to continue it for a while!

If you tell someone "I support trans folks" and they send you hate, that person is not your friend anyway. This is an opportunity to meet nice people who you can be yourself with. I would really encourage you to connect with IRL activists who are actually regularly volunteering and doing something concrete for their community if you have the opportunity.

When I was in high school, I volunteered at my local library's teen advisory board, and when I was in college I volunteered at a local hospital and through my college. This weekend I'm starting training for volunteering in-person for my town's emergency preparedness group which also does things like help to unload trucks for the food pantry, and I also volunteer remotely for two organizations online.

I'm really pushing for you to get out and volunteer (online or IRL) because I know one draw of the radfem community is feeling like you're an activist and that you're supporting women's rights and protecting and defending women. And it is important to support women's rights and protect and defend women! But there are other ways to do that beyond running a hateful blog attacking trans women.

I have a friend who works at an organization for survivors of domestic violence, for example, and she works with volunteers who help staff events, answer the hotline, etc. You can look around and see what local initiatives there are in your community and if you can't find the thing you're looking for you can start a group yourself or look online and join a national or state-wide cause that you care about, like pushing the legislature to support access to abortions.

Giving up the radfem community doesn't mean giving up feminism, and this is a good opportunity for you to take a look at your own time, your values, and think about how you can take this chance to start working to be a more effective feminist. Not everyone has to be an activist, but if you want to be one, think about how you can start doing good in a way that will actually affect people in a positive way.

I've also often been involved in doing events like conferences and workshops and panels IRL from my time in high school to the present day to try and educate folks on the community, but I also know that sometimes you need to take a step back and prioritize yourself. If you think you're not ready to jump into making change that's also okay. Just join something. A soccer team, a book club, anything hobby-related, to have something else to do and talk about and think about and stay tethered to feeling part of something.

Remember, it's okay to grow and change. You're not betraying anyone by being true to yourself. It's a courageous step to admit when your views have changed, and it's an integral part of personal growth. Be kind to yourself during this process.

Whether or not you end up identify as trans, you still will be doing the right thing by separating yourself from that community. I know it may be difficult because they were a place where you felt supported and part of a movement, but I really believe that you're taking steps in the right direction by letting go of that ideology and just living your life!

Followers, if you have any experiences unlearning toxic beliefs please reply with your advice for anon!

[moodymelanist]

Ok genuine question. (Pls bear in mind I'm generally staggeringly oblivious to nuance in literature) Where does fanon get the idea from the rhys is an awful person/ruler. Like I see all the rhys hate from people and I'm just like. Come on he's not *that* bad is he? As far as I see he's a kind person who genuinely cares for his people who also happens to have a bit if a brutal streak when he's mad. There are far worse people who I don't see get nearly as much hate (cough cough eris cough cough).

I actually really like Eris because he knows exactly the kind of person he is (unlike Rhys, who the narrative bends over backwards to paint as a good person despite doing some pretty heinous things) so I don’t think I’m the right person for this, but I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt just once on this and assume you’re being genuine with your question. Here’s a few off the top of my head—

The stark differences between how the people in Velaris live vs the way people in the Hewn City/Illyria live is a MAJOR one for me. How can you claim to care about people but most of them aren’t allowed outside and the other half you claim to want to change but don’t actually do anything to stop the wing clippings and push for actual real improvements?

He’s really hard to work with as a fellow ruler when he just barges into other peoples courts to steal from and/or harass the other HLs. Talk about being bad for diplomatic relations

Whether you think Feyre is qualified for the job as HL or not, he essentially appointed someone with 0 political experience to help him run a massive court. Not that she can’t learn obv, but that’s got to make doing things even more difficult. He basically pulled a Trump

I personally find the way he treated Nesta and Feyre in acosf to be fucking repugnant which is why I’ll never stan him.

[gojonanami]

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[pouringmyheartoutforpaper]

heyy i have a request for the steve x dove universe bcos it’s literally my favourite thing atm

could u possibly do something like where their at a party and someone tries something on reader and they’re really pushy about it even though she keeps saying no. obvs steve cannot have anyone touching or upsetting his sweetest girl so gets the guy to go away. while steve is dealing with the guy maybe reader starts having a panic attack because that guy had really scared her and robin tries to comfort her but obvs the only person capable of that is steve. when steve’s done w the guy he notices how distressed reader is and just comforts her, holds her and just FLUFF.

i got this idea because i noticed how protective of r steve is and i thought this would be a good example of it😍😍🩷🩷🩷🩷

sorry it took a few days ! also this is not proofread because it is three am so my apologies.

warning! this contains depictions of harassment and a panic attack. if this is not something you feel like you can read right now, please please click away. there is no shame in setting boundaries with yourself. there are lots of other stories. please be safe <3

the lights in the house were an array of purples and blues. robin’s friend threw a party, and robin insisted that dove and steve both come so she wouldnt be alone. dove dances as much as she can, but after about an hour she ends up crashing into steves chest. theyre leaned against the wall, and steves hands are covering her ears from the loud music.

“stevie, gonna go get some water. ill be right back.”

he expected her to stay in his line of vision, and by the time she disappeared around the corner into the kitchen, he was in panic mode. the party housed a few unsavory characters, and his dove’s shyness could lead to disaster.

in the kitchen dove had asked the hostess where the water resided, and she had kindly gotten her a glass of water, making sure to fill it in front of her so she knew it wasnt tampered with.

unfortunately, the hostess was called away, and a man around five to ten years older than dove entered the kitchen. she offered a small smile, and he took that as an invitation in his drunken state.

“hey pretty thing” he slurred.

she ignored him, and tried to exit the room, only for him to grab her hand.

“where y’ goin? you don’t want to hang out with me, baby? if you didn’t want the attention you shouldve picked a different dress.”

she ripped her hand away, and she knew the only way to get him to back off would be to mention steve. men like this respect women not as people, but as property.

“i have a boyfriend. hes looking for me.”

“not very hard, he left you here with me.”

in the distance she see steves head of hair frantically searching the house for the kitchen, and as the man kept babbling about nonsense and trying to grab her waist, she yelled his name.

his head shot to where he heard her voice, catching her eye instantly.

“help,” she mouthed.

dove had never seen a man move so quickly in her life. it seemed a second before steve stood tall between them. he held her behind him, and dove knew that he would have to be scary. she closed her eyes and gripped onto his arm.

after many words were spoken, mostly from steve, the other man merely slurred nonsense. he pushed the stranger into the shelves behind him before escorting dove out of the room.

“it’s okay, it’s okay, i’m here, i’ve got you, we’re gonna go home,” he whispered assuringly as he guided her out of the crowded room, trying to ignore the urge to go back and hurt the stranger, knowing it would scare her more. he was plagued with guilt and fear. guilt that he had let her out of his sight. the sobs come from his dove quickly. he helps her into the back seat of his car and locks the doors.

“hey, hey, look at me, youre okay, tell me what happened” he said, his voice shaking.

“nothing,” she says breathlessly, “nothing bad- just-“ her breathing becomes panicked, and the words arent forming. she had told him about her panic attacks before, but he had never seen her experience one. luckily he had done research.

“panic attack” she forced out between short breaths. the air couldnt reach her lungs, at least it felt like it couldnt. steve was panicking, trying to regulate her breathing. trying to soothe while also digging through his center console for an inhaler.

“hey, look at me, try to take a deep breath with me. i know, i know its hard, i just need you to try.” he said, taking her hand and placing it on his chest, breathing in a long breath and watching her struggle to do the same. but after three breaths she was calm enough that steve could help her with the inhaler.

once her breath returned to her, she buried her face into his chest, apologizing profusely.

“you dont need to be sorry. you did nothing wrong.” he repeated the phrase like a mantra while he rocked her back and forth.

she looked up at him. “i love you”

“i love you too. so much. you feel better?”

“yeah i- he was just being scary and he kept- grabbing me and he wouldn’t let me pass. i- it just- it freaked me out.”

“im so sorry honey. are you hurt? i shouldve went after you.” he whispered.

“no! you didnt do anything wrong. im not hurt, just got scared.”

“yeah? how about i take us home and we can order food, maybe watch a movie or something? and then we can talk about it tomorrow morning if you want to.”

“yes please”

[brostradamus]

ramblings about AM in a relationship/what kind of s/o could fix him. know that im def not a person who’s deep into psychoanalysis / staying strict to a character’s personality so this might be ooc??? idk please bear w me. Whole thing is under the cut bc i think it’s pretty long n p sloppy 2. but enjoy regardless

anyways I rlly like to think that AM would most thrive in a relationship where he has equal / lesser power to his partner. not like whole ass power imbalance obv but just whre cant always hurt/bother his s/o. I’m sure AM would probably say some shit that might hurt his s/o’s feelings but a partner he’d be most compatible w/ would most likely avoid the torture mostly or altogether w/ the exception of verbal harassment cause there’s enough 2 go around 4 everyone. Also bonus points to s/os who are completely untouchable either bc they’re stronger than AM or AM decides that he doesn’t want to hurt them/can’t bring himself to.

also maybe he’d do well w someone who challenges his beliefs. tbh I feel like he’d gravitate towards people who might share his beliefs/hatred towards humanity, but if he’s supposed to grow then he’s gotta have a s/o that views humanity differently. Said s/o doesn’t even have 2 have a strictly polar opposite view on humanity, just a view that isn’t nihilistic and misanthropic. He might not be entirely receptive at first either but the further you continue to challenge his beliefs, the more likely he is to start thinking about other ideas.

Another thing that might make AM a little more accepting towards humans is a s/o that he *has* to rely on one way or another. most likely this is going to be an engineer/programming s/o. He’s likely not going to want to, but him knowing that he can rely on someone else might make him not close himself off as often.

artistic s/os might be able to help soften AM up a little too. i sometimes like 2 think that AM would actually really enjoy art, but it just depends on which kind of art. Realism he won’t really gaf about but he might gravitate towards expressionist works, along with abstract/absurdist and surreal art. this would include all art forms btw not just drawing and painting. reason for thinking he might like abstract over realism is bc realism is too ‘real’ (whatever yall think that would mean) for his liking / represents what he hates most about humanity. Abstract artwork also represents parts he hates ab humanity but it also gives him a physical representation of the things he lacks (ie expressionism w/ feelings/emotions, surrealism with the subconscious thought, etc etc) and might be the closest thing he can get to actually feeling/having senses

AM would most likely benefit from a s/o who is willing to “give” him sensation, whether it be literally by creating him a whole ass nervous + cognitive system that allowed him to have senses and feelings or even just a s/o who is willing to help him understand how certain things feel. This could be by the s/o describing how emotions feel through imagery, creating art w/ AM or *for* AM if he is unable to for whatever reason, etc. it won’t be exactly what he want ofc, but he might not be entirely bitter ab it.

I don’t think AM necessarily needs an android body to show love, but it would help :3c. Even if he still doesn’t have senses for whatever reason, it would absolutely still help him show his love towards his s/o through physical touch. W/o senses, just having his circuit’s warmed by his s/o (if they’re a human) is… well it’s not *enough* but it’ll do. And if he happens to have senses in his android body man he’s gonna be attached 2 u like lice on a healthy head of hair. he WOULD be touch starved.

Which brings me onto my next point. A s/o that can handle his “””affectionate”””side. I rlly feel like his perception of affection might be a little off (super off actually) and likely a little violent/aggressive. It’ll almost be like him having cuteness aggression towards a s/o and acting out on impulse. This might occur in squeezing, pulling and tugging and Android AM may bite and scratch/restrain. Also I when I mean “handle” I don’t exactly mean endure and ignore/accept. again this leads me to another point

A s/o that is able to set boundaries w/ AM is a must. I genuinely don’t think that any relationship w AM will go good if the s/o he’s with can’t put in place proper boundaries. For human s/os, this would be especially important as he might get aggressive physically (whether it’s due to like. him JST absolutely hating ur ass or him getting that ‘cuteness aggressive’ thing I just mentioned previously. note that it’s not rlly like cuteness aggression but he might be like ‘hm I’ll show my love to my s/o thru the only way I know. Violence”).

ok well I think this is all 4 now. if anyone wants 2 add onto it I’d luv 2 hear yalls input if yall had any :3c. I hope u guys atleast got some entertainment value out of this?? Either way i hope yallve enjoyed my ramblings

[cowgirllikef]

…i love jude but i kinda feel bad he gets objectified a lot and it’s so normalized. ofc people know him for his football obviously but what is the point of this video? he’s talented at what he does and he looks good doing it, there is a normal way of acknowledging that which doesn’t involve zeroing in it or dehumanizing and over-sexualizing a person.

obv i find him very attractive too, but i still see him as a person (the bare minimum). i saw a vid the other day where he was looking at this painting of himself and talking abt his stats or wtv, yet every comment was inappropriate & irrelevant bs about his body. the internet/socmed has caused such a disconnect from reality that people forget they’re not talking into the void, and while i may have parasocial relationships, at least i understand that they are in fact real people who deserve respect! i hate it here

also to those who claim “jude wouldn’t/doesn’t care” …did he tell you that or ??? the point is we don’t know whether he would be comfortable with that or not, but as aforementioned, borderline sexual harassment is generally a good thing to steer clear of.

[booksandpaperss]

kind of obsessed with the fact you've slowly gotten more blatant with heartstopper hate lmfao😭 it's like. fine to me it's cute but NOTHING SERIOUS IS EVER GOING ON so I gotta be in a really specific mood for it I still haven't watched s2. definitely couldn't be a fixation. and everyone fucking loves it it's the best thing since sliced bread and I'm like. why tho. and then any critique of it is sorta dumbed down to "oh you just don't like how sweet it is but teenagers deserve sweet romance" like ok but why's it gotta be boring though. and too healthy like beyond normal levels of healthy. like this is missing even the usual human levels of miscommunication. and it gets resolved too easy. sorry this was supposed to cut off 4 sentences ago I'm realizing now in your inbox that I apparently have beef with heartstopper

LKSSJJSJS LISTEN listen. I don’t even hate it. truly. I even genuinely enjoyed myself during the nick and Charlie parts bc that’s the part that thought is actually put into. I just hate how much everyone loves it so blindly

honestly my biggest beef with it is that it’s marketed and treated as the most genuine and diverse groundbreaking queer storyline there is when that’s literally so far from true and it really really shows ppls true colors when they think this bc the sapphics and POC are literal props it’s actually absurd for a show that’s supposed to be a safe space for queer ppl

and god do I hate that part of the reason it’s so popular is bc it portrays these queer teenagers as never having a single, physical thought in their entire life. there was this whole plot centered around one single hickey that Charlie had??? and something abt the physical attraction portion of it all, which they did try to show btw, felt disingenuous to me. and I know that’s why it’s so palatable to a mainstream audience and it pisses me off and again it just doesn’t feel genuine. which is ironically one of the main arguments against heartstopper criticism: “it’s not cringe it’s just earnest” when yeah maybe it’s Trying to be earnest but when u look at it from more than a surface level lens it’s not rlly succeeding

and I know the aroace storyline in season 2 with Isaac resonated with a lot of people and I think that’s wonderful, and I actually do think that was something that was done well, but how can you have a storyline around asexuality when you don’t show the contrast in how it is being an allosexual queer person. there was a whole lot of romantic attraction going on but even more tip toeing around the sexual attraction aspect. and I don’t expect it to be like sex education for example in terms of the focus on sex obv , but the lack of acknowledgment of that aspect of the queer experience paired with how much the uwu wholesomeness of it all is played up rlly rubs me the wrong way. once again: it feels dishonest

I was actually talking about this with one of my mutuals the other day and they pointed out that it is very plain that alice olseman did not consult a single queer man in the writers room. and if someone can prove this wrong be my guest but I rlly don’t think the whole physical attraction component would have been done so badly had an actual queer man been on the team. feels kind of like back in summer 2022 when byler shippers would literally shun and harass anyone who even implied that Will’s feelings for Mike probably included physical attraction meanwhile Noah Schnapp himself was making jokes about it bc he’s an actual gay teenager.

not gonna even get into right now how Tara and darcy felt even more like props this season than in the last one and I didn’t even like watching their scenes bc the writing itself felt performative. that’s a whole other post.

and man, wouldn’t it have been so nice if there had actually been people of color in that writers room. On a purely surface level heartstopper has a very diverse cast but once again, peel away even one layer and you realize it’s a bunch of tokenism, which brings me full circle back to my original point: you can’t say it’s peak representation and diversity when it’s whitewashed as hell and doesn’t gaf abt sapphics despite literally being written by one. guess she chose her whiteness over her queerness even when writing a queer story which wowwww sooooo original.

okayyyy anyways did NOT mean to write a whole essay but u discovering ur own beef reminded me of mine lmaooo

all of this was to say that basically I’m not gonna pretend I didn’t enjoy myself during parts of the show, and I don’t wanna shame ppl for liking it that is not at all what I’m trying to do here, it has its own place in queer media and if a show like this came out in like 2010 it would be groundbreaking despite its issues (but again it’s literally 2023 do fucking better) , but I take issue with people treating it like something it’s not and with the amount of love it gets I feel like I have to be really loud about my criticism of it, especially bc usually the criticism of the show that gets any attention isn’t even slandering it for the right reasons and like. if ur gonna hate on something queer and popular do it right

oh and heartstopper writers? maybe try speaking with an actual teenager once in your life before writing their dialogue they do not fucking communicate that well

okay I’m done now finally 🫡

[fellshish]

(shipping anon) and yeah I’m used to fandoms shipping real actors. Personally I don’t agree with it, but as long as no one’s getting harassed I just ignore it. In this instance, though, I’ve seen entire tumblr essays spouting off anti-Anna or even anti-Georgia stuff by people who ship Michael and David and I think I was just prompted by those images of Michael watching David’s Macbeth performance bc even some of the comments under there were unnecessarily going after Michael’s wife or crossing boundaries in general. Obvs I’ll block all of these people, I just hope it’s not something that’s becoming more prominent bc I can’t imagine it can be good for these people’s relationships if they ever got wind of this sorta stuff.

I don’t think it’s gaining popularity, but yeah just block those type of blogs indeed. Big yikes!

Whatever michael and david and their wives see or do or feel is something we cannot control so it’s best not to parasocially worry too hard

[gunsatthaphan]

I’m not planning to watch it but I read about Kidnap being a BL too and saw some of the ON stans’ reactions online and it’s… wild. I hope some of the delulu stans realise that one of the likely reasons why ON don’t publicly interact anymore is cos shippers keep obsessively projecting their fictional fantasies of ON onto them, which affected their friendship.

I’m neutral about Ohm. Overall I think he’s one of the better actors in Gmmtv with great chemistry with his costars but I don’t really follow him. I do feel a bit sorry for him though, regarding the ON situation and now, how some delulu stans are reacting to his new series.

Best to let both ON move on with their lives. I assumed Ohm might avoid doing another BL role to avoid a repeat of the ON situation. But it’s good he’s moving on. Do the delulu stans expect him to only work with Nanon forever? 😂

this is an issue I have with fixed pairings. I understand why Gmmtv does that - for the money and fanbase mostly lolol. Fans just expect fixed pairs to act with the same person for the rest of their lives and get upset if they have other partners. Actors are supposed to act with different people, that’s part of their job. 😂

Yes, Kidnap was confirmed as a BL and yes, ON stans are plastering Bangkok with protesting signs and yes, they're harassing Leng on social media and yes, they're writing public letters of complaints and yes, it's sickening.

I'm not a big fan of Ohm but I think this is a good move from his side. He's under a new management, the ON ship is officially declared as dead & gone, he's moving on with a new partner who is completely unknown and Nanon is taking a break from acting. The situation is disturbing and this is the best they can do imo. So I respect them for these decisions.

Obvs the ON delulus won't stop anytime soon though so I really hope they go through with this show and refrain from recastings or even a cancellation because of that. Hopefully it will die down eventually. And yes, this is a general issue with fixed pairings; most fandoms are not as toxic though and I hope it stays that way. Because it's not like they're gonna stop with the promotions. I personally love seeing the fixed pairs switching it up with different partners, it just shows their range and I never understood why people have a problem with that.

But anyway after rewatching the trailer a few times I think the plot of Kidnap looks interesting so I'm gonna check it out. Also Leng seems like a sweet guy and they seem to have good chemistry so I'm excited to see what this new era brings ✌🏻 (hopefully some peace)

xxx

[peonylover2]

Uncontroversial opinion

In the middle of the whole gaza protests and the people, us, citizens trying to constantly have the politicians hear us, the law, anyone up there, i would love to say a few words as a paralegal.

The government has made it clear that it is not going to listen to the people. In law, patterns in behavior give alibi. You get me?

Ex: if someone keeps saying “ in case of emergency call 911” but everytime you call your call gets disconnected on purpose, phone operators tell you rudely to piss off cause is it really important? DV? Well doesn’t everyone get a slap or two sometimes from their spouse? You must have done something.

Now after a few times say 3, you develop a reaction to the action. You stop calling.

Now the law (as it should work, common sense) can’t prosecute you. You have your reason. No matter what, you don’t get through to 911 for help because of “ negligence “ from the government’s side. The government can’t argue that you should have called in case of emergency. It is their fault for making a pattern that violates trust. And when said trust gets violated the logical answer because “ whats the next thing that you could do to get help in emergency?” Be it having to act by yourself or call a neighbor, steal a car to bring a sick person to the hospital.

Patterns are alibi.

So here is the government one in case of politicians

First you try the politician. Protests, calls etc. Let your voice be heard.

Now the burden lies on the government to act right. Government doesn’t? You have to go to step 2

In case the government doesn’t help we enter the emergency contact. The law. The law has eyes ( they are people too obv and internal communication in the ministry of justice) have to step in, the people are demanding help, action or aid. DO YOUR JOB OR ELSE.

Law doesn’t help or can’t ( the law have been weaponized against the people by abusing it and not judging right as to scare people off using the one tool that is meant to help them. Also the civil consent to follow the law in exchange for protection. We won’t hurt the politicians if the law is there for us. Which hasn’t been happening and take us to the last step)

Each to their own within medium amount of reason.

You are allowed, with to just get involved. ‘Harassing a P?’ No big deal. Just don’t go overboard too much. Beating them up is, surprisingly is still within reason.

Politicians don’t get to pick and choice when to use to cry “ but i am a civilic servant! You shouldn’t hurt me! “ to protect themselves. Remember, patterns. They made their reputation, their actions and negligence are what matters .

Common sense IS the law.

[thestorytoad]

Male Cowboy/Outlaw OC x Female OC Roleplay (18+ only and literate/novella) [PAUSED]

Whats up! I am currently in search of a literate/novella style Roleplay partner interested in historical cowboy/outlaw plot, whereas my cowboy man plays against your lady. I am up to multiple types of tropes, character arcs, and styles and will summarize below :)

Literate/Novella Style is appreciated. I am a writer by heart and even as my hobby, I tend to go full throttle. Depth, inner dialogue, description, I love love love it all. My bread and butter baby!

EST time zone! I would prefer you not be far from it as I do have a work life and other responsibilities that veer into hours that may not be the best is you aren’t in a similar time zone

Regular responses. I am an adult with a job so i more than understand handling hobbies and life at once. But a semi regular and predictable routine would be nice.

I love realness and character development. Depth and analysis and Headcanons, all of it. I like to have them go on a journey, that is natural and also fun but without veering into cartoon-y stereotypes or Mary Sue territory. But if you love a good character arc and development, I’m here for it.

Dark themes. I don’t stray into graphic portrayal or gore, but I do include dark backstories, trauma, and some violence. Triggers/Avoidables will most def be discussed but if that’s not your thing as a whole, may not be a match

NSFW. I don’t require it or specifically seek it out but an open to the prospect if it happens in the story. Obvs we can discuss as/when it comes up what we both are comfortable with

All characters must be 18+. Simple enough lol

ldeas:

Outlaw finding shelter working as a ranch hand on the run and starts to develop a relationship with the daughter/sister of the rancher

Gang starts to harass town/cause trouble when my character and yours meet. Could be the daughter of the sheriff, regular town person, or more steamy plots as a sex worker

Rival gang members (classic)

Ranchers find injured man (my outlaw) and decide to assist, unknowing he’s a member of the gang nearby

Open to more! These are what I can think of here and now but am always up to hearing ideas and delving more into one!

[waglifeornolife]

yeah okay…. don’t blame me for accusing people when the blog literally said they were you 😭😂//

I think you may have just misread what they said they was responding to the anon saying that account also said about an ex tattle member and they obvs replied because they’ve been mentioned to tell their side of it from back then. You can even message Barbie Harvey and I’m sure she’ll even tell you I ain’t the same person who’s running those accounts

i think you may have misread it, considering i’m not the only one saying it 👍

at the end of the day, i don’t care about anything that fucking creep has to say, she has the audacity to harass three of us on here and now she’s trying to play the hero… make it make sense

[roobylavender]

Do you agree with this statement,

"Canon doesn't apply to people just having fun. If a character is canonically gay or a lesbian, I don't think someone is a bigot if they ship them with a woman or man, respectively. Fanon holds no sway over canon. Shipping isn't activism, and AUs exist for a reason. If straight characters can be shipped with characters of the same gender, the same can happen in the other direction. People having silly stupid fun isn't a problem. Harassing people for ships instead of just blocking is."

i mean at the end of the day obv i can’t control what anyone does nor am i interested in doing so but i do think it’s weird to perceive fanonizing straight characters partaking in gay relationships, as equivalent to fanonizing gay characters partaking in straight relationships. the majority of characters across all mediums of fiction are straight. it’s considered a default setting. so when authors specifically go out of their way to canonically write a character as gay then we need to respect that bc there’s clear intent behind the decision. i do think there can be some leeway depending on the medium and authorial structure—for example, i don’t really care for tim being bisexual, because a lot of the fanon that was used to build that premise relied on narrative misogyny rather than intentional queer coding, and he’s a character written by several authors so i don’t feel particularly beholden to the ones who write him this way. but that’s also a position facilitated by the way comics work to begin with. i wouldn’t exercise the same liberty with, say, a book series written entirely by one author with a dedicated vision for each of their characters. and i esp wouldn’t exercise it if the author is gay themselves. it feels like it’s infringing on what little room they already have to write the experiences they live and personally i don’t want to do that

[dayurno]

Yeah, sorry if I came off a certain way, somethings are bad and ME as a person may not like them but that doesn't mean that they shouldn't exist and that people should stop writing what they want

I just needed to write this quickly, I'm the anon with the long ask about ao3 neil characterization from before, I feel strongly about media censorship and I don't wanna come off as like a twitter anti who harasses writers or something😭

I just think media censorships a slippery slope, it starts off with just getting rid of things because they're "morally wrong" or they're bad or wtv and next thing you know queer books are the ones that are getting rid of bc deciding what's wrong or what should be censored is too subjective and its usually conservative governments who make these choices, also even if I hate how neils characterised its popular, so obv some ppl love it so how can I say it shouldn't exist

my love!!!!! please don’t worry!!!!! your tone was fine and your opinions are yours!!!!!!! i just gave a rundown on my thoughts based on what yours were; there’s no need to apologize at all, and i didnt make any bad assumptions about you :) on a personal level i agreed with your opinion entirely, i just had to get the rest out first you know? so sorry if there was any confusion you were such a darling and i love hearing everyone’s opinion 🥹!!!!!!! i’m in no position to anon scold anyone let alone the lovely you so really don’t worry about it at all

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

species dysphoria, csa, bullying

name-lucas

i feel like this is weird to say but I get species dysphoria and it feels exactly the same as my gender dysphoria I don’t know if it’s valid since there s a lot of bullying that goes on and people always saying it’s fake or it’s taking away from people with fl gender dysphoria but to me how it feels is it’s the same thing just for something other than gender. ive gotten bullied sm for it even by my own friends and family calling me weird, freak, a furry and just laughing at and making fun of me like im a joke that im afraid of more harassment if i come out to others so im hiding my identity. but it has made me suicidal not only the bullying but also the dysphoria i feel with being nonhuman at least with my gender dysphoria i can make it better by actually changing my body and what i wear but you can’t do that with nonhuman identities obv… i feel like it might’ve been caused by the csa i experienced by adults and older kids bc after that i rmbr my whole personality changed,i behaved more withdrawn socially,scared of others,and identity disturbance, i had anxiety about being left alone with people I didn’t trust. ive always longed for being nonhuman physically like i am mentally. idk if this is even the right place to put this but yeah

Hi lucas,

I'm so sorry about everything you've been through. Honestly I'm rather uneducated about those who identify as nonhuman - I only know a tiny bit. But I do know why for example nonhuman alters exist in a system, and I think the same explanation can be used for why trauma may play a part in someone identifying as nonhuman (but I feel the need to stress that just because trauma may influence this identity doesn't mean that the identity is wrong or should be changed, only if it is doing harm).

Part of how trauma may influence someone to identify as nonhuman could be simply congruent with how they were treated - dehumanized, and some people internalize this to such a depth that it shapes their relationship to their own humanity. But another part is often a kind of dissociation so to speak, where you meta-cognitively observe how your trauma is tied to your humanity, and seek identification in nonhuman entities as a kind of escape from the reality and gravity of that trauma. Also sometimes people who are deeply traumatized by others may gravitate towards fostering relationships with animals over human beings, although of course identifying as nonhuman is a much broader spectrum than identifying as an animal. It's worth noting that there could be more reasons as well, and these reasons may actually have very little bearing in someone's overall nonhuman identity.

I think ultimately, if you could access or afford it, a mental health professional such as a therapist could give you further insights into your nonhuman identity / species dysphoria as well as process and heal from your traumatic experiences. If anyone has any comments or suggestions please feel free to add on. Otherwise, I hope I could help, and let us know if you need anything.

-Bun