#not transandro/phobia

[trans-androgyne]

Not going to lie, brother, you are fucking annoying these days. You may run a pro-transandro blog but you keep fucking crying, whining about transmisogyny. I do not follow you to hear about trans women and their problems, I follow trans women for that. But you? You keep talking and keep talking and keep fucking talking about it instead of centering trandandro content. I’m sorry but be fucking for real.

If you find me talking about transmisogyny annoying then if you stay here you are gonna keep being annoyed :3

I typically tag things “not transandro/phobia” if they’re not the main content of this blog, so I recommend folks block that tag if that’s all they follow me for. But I don’t even post about transmisogyny a lot, so if hearing about it even this much not only bothers you, but makes you this upset, I don’t recommend interacting with me at all. Bye :)

[velvetvexations]

thinking about this post i saw once that said trans women were more justified in reclaiming the f slur than trans men because of "how they were raised" like. okay. for the record idc if a trans woman wants to call herself a faggot but imagine telling a gay man he cant bc he happens to be trans

trans men are exactly like cis men except when they aren't

[obscenicon]

"gay sexually abusive father is supportive of his trans sons transition / encourages him to become a man because hes a misogynist" is not the fucking transmasc win yall seem to think it is

[kawaiimunism]

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[trans-androgyne]

Help my images on tumblr have been messed up and I opened my blog today to see a header image I very much did not change it to:

What did I do to make tumblr call me a slur lmao

[trans-androgyne]

heres a random lil story i thought u might find funny/cute: i recently rescued a tiny kitten! because he quickly decided he was in charge of the whole place despite being roughly the size of a baked potato, i named him King! i joked to my friends his last name was Drag so on official documents he was Drag, King. well. king just got back from the vet and turns out his name was much more literal than i expected because King is a girl lol but he already answers to King so King he remains. my little butch Drag King in his little blue bowtie collar i bought the night before i found out lol gnc kitten rights!

This is so adorable, thank you for sharing it with me :)

[trans-androgyne]

as someone in a deep red state, we don't need allyship, we need help. housing, donations, ways to travel. not to be pitied.

yeah, i fuckin know, i said i’m going to put the work in and i intend to. it’s not inappropriate to feel and express compassion towards the people i’ve been seeing say they’re going to kill themselves. i wish safety and comfort for you, and will do my best to provide that support, and yet also stay off my blog if you’re going to behave like this today.

[trans-androgyne]

If you don’t wanna hear me being more angry at transandrophobia than usual I wouldn’t check my blog today. My emotions have decided to bounce back from being depressed about it yesterday to this. I’ll even tag it with something if people ask

[trans-androgyne]

Saw an interesting post about transmisogyny but the OP was too shitty to reblog from, so I want to ask trans women and fems about it here instead.

They summed up transmisogyny as "transfeminine people are those who you get to treat as women, but always can claim are really men," and elaborated that claiming they're men often manifests not only as overt misgendering but also as "the over-ascription of agency and intent, reducing the question of power in complex social situations to issues of ‘strength’ and ‘size’ [and] a general refusal to recognize gentleness and expressions of care."

This lines up with a lot of what I've seen, especially with regard to agency and not associating trans women with giving or deserving of gentleness and care. Does anyone have anything else to add about these more subtle forms of associating them with maleness?

[trans-androgyne]

Today I had to learn the hard way that traditional second person pronouns (you/yours) aren't acceptable for everyone. So I encourage checking folks' bios before using that on them to avoid misgendering and triggering someone the way I unfortunately just did.

[trans-androgyne]

i know you said you had to make changes to your blog, and i respect that, im happy for you; im excited to see you thrive. however, if its doing this much harm to you, cant you just log off? /gen ques

i say this as a disabled trans person who is on social media every day. when the things i see and the hate i recieve causes me that much distress, i log off and take time for myself.

i apologize if this sounds rude, ive already been sitting here for 20 minutes trying to put it into words that dont seem rude. im sorry. i dont want anyone to lose you.

You aren't being rude, I understand you and appreciate your concern. But don't worry, I'm doing that as well. I've barely been on the last couple weeks as a way of taking care of myself, even deleting the tumblr app sometimes. The only further step would be to delete/stop using my blog, and I am very not willing to do that. Transmasc issues just matter too much to me, and this is the best way to make my voice heard about them until I have something to publish (which I am very slowly working on as well!). I will continue disengaging entirely when it is too much for me and being careful with what I expose myself to when it isn't. Thank you and wishing you the best.

[trans-androgyne]

I'm sorry you're having a shitty day. Would pictures of Gandalf, my kitten, cheer you up?

Gandalf 🥺 Yes 🥺🥺

[trans-androgyne]

Least favorite things are being misinterpreted & feeling like people are watching me waiting to hold something against me. Got a lot of folks doing that right now. Fun times as always on tumblr.com

[trans-androgyne]

If you’re on my blog, I don’t recommend looking through it today. Right below this, I’m lashing out at a transmisogynist who has caused harm to the people I love. It is not productive, it’s just venting. I’m going to log off for today soon. But if you see this, could you please try to do something to support a transfem today? A favor, a compliment, a nice anon, a genuine conversation, a hug, anything? It would mean a lot to a lot of folks. Thank you.

[trans-androgyne]

I think we should adopt the Clumber Spaniel as the unofficial dog of transmasculinity, mainly because I was researching notable trans men of history and found one, Cam Lyman, was a breeder of them.

It's also a distinctive and unusual breed so it's unlikely to be anyone else's mascot

Hadn't heard of this breed before, how cute!

[trans-androgyne]

Turns out binding for 13 hrs two days in a row sucks actually