#not to be weird and parasocial

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

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[acorviart]

not to sound like a boomer, but I need some people to learn how to write emails in a semi-professional (at the very least) format so you're not cold emailing a business/potential employer/any other stranger about formal matters in the exact same way you'd DM a close friend on instagram

the formality/language can loosen up in the email chain once you've established a rapport and you match the other person if they're being less formal, but please don't have the very first email you send a stranger be written in all lowercase ultra-casual sms slang with no greeting or signature and a billion emojis

[bixels]

The Ryoko Kui interview's reception is such a disaster over a pretty normal (yet still flawed) interview between a non-Japanese fan and Japanese artistic. This is discourse for discourse's sake, and it's no surprise that almost every Twitter user I've looked at who's using this interview to parade Kui around as a goated mangaka standing strong against Western ideology is anti-trans.

Like, I do think the interview was kinda wonky with its focus on fandom culture, which Kui clearly didn't have much interest in. But sometimes that happens. Sometimes interactions between two people, especially a fan and a creator, two people who view and interact with a piece of media in completely opposite perspectives, don't click. Does this really need to get blown up into a "West vs. East culture war" issue.

Anyways, Kui saying "I don't consider my audience's interpretations when writing. I leave it to their imaginations, but I have my own read on things too" is the healthiest, most normal thing an artist/writer who wants a non-parasocial audience could say. Artists and writers use this line all the time. If Kui didn't enjoy autistic Laius or Farcille headcanons, she would have probably voiced/signalled her discomfort, like she did on the topic of Senshi fanservice. Overall, Kui handled the interview really well. Props to her to sticking to her guns and keeping a healthy disconnect from the fandom. While I think the interviewer could've/should've been more tactful and restrained, the flaws in their questions is not a symptom of the woke mind virus trying to wriggle its way into the pure Japanese psyche. It's the sign of an over-eager fan who sees a piece of fiction differently than its creator.

[timethehobo]

Small doodle! Have fun to the VAs and fans who’ll be at SDCC.

[bewareofthenewphannie]

you really don't get this kind of fandom experience anywhere else, do you?

like, we're not normal about them but they also aren't fucking normal about us either. and i think that's beautiful.

[blossoms-phan]

many people are afraid to be real lovers. dan and phil are not

[the-uncanny-dag]

Comes out of the parasocial relationship covered in blood & filth saying "you should see the other guy ;)", meanwhile the other guy is posting my weird ass anon messages to their followers, exhausted with my shit & perplexed as to why someone would say that to strangers

[baldysgate]

Have been seeing some.. questionable interactions with the BG3 cast on social media and feel like this needs to be said.

Actors (VAs) are not their characters. That line seems to become blurred especially with such an open cast that is actively sharing and commenting with fans and on fan content. These are people who have partners and children at the end of the day. We have to be respectful of that if we want to make the space comfortable for THEM to exist in and want to interact.

[ace-and-the-rpg-horrors]

dear God, please take all the suffering of the Dead Boy Detectives cast, double it, and give it to Netflix executives

[royalarchivist]

In case you missed it, Jaiden just uploaded a new video! Congrats to her for 10 years of beautiful, funny, and heartfelt storytime animations!

[good-to-drive]

Honestly one of my favorite stupid reddit takes was that guy who said George should have been more grateful that he got to witness John and Paul's relationship up close for so many years. Girl he almost murdered them and so would I and so would you.

[ihavebeesinmybrain]

ally being a stabilizing force at the table rather than a supreme agent of chaos is truly wild to watch

[artemisxrose]

FUCK Liam Payne! I will no longer support OT5 and I don’t even want a 1D reunion anymore. It’s so disgusting how so many of you defend these boys actions, but especially Liam, in light of everything that has come out. Maya Henry has every right to speak about her experiences. And it’s gross that I’m seeing literal threads and tweets upon tweets of people calling her a liar and saying all these horrible things. You’re proving Liam right! “No one will believe you anyways and the fans will always defend us!”

Is that not absolutely horrifying to yall? That this man is weaponizing his fanbase against women that he has treated poorly? And yall continue to enable him! Everything Maya said in her recent TikTok was true! Yall defend this abuser because of boy band nostalgia? What the fuck is wrong with some of yall? It makes me sick. It’s always “believe women” “believe victims” until it’s your fave, right?!

We don’t know these people! “He would never do that…” YOU DONT KNOW HIM! These parasocial relationships are going too far.

What’s scary is based on some of the stuff Maya said, I wonder if this is only the tip of the iceberg with Liam. He’s probably done so much shit we don’t even know about. Maybe even the other boys???

I know I’m ranting and no one probably cares but some of the tweets I saw defending Liam were so triggering and upsetting. Trending hashtags like #FreeLiam and #WeLoveYouLiam when a woman CONFIRMED that he abused her is just so sickening. This is why women don’t come forward. This is especially why victims of celebrities and people in power don’t come forward. Because this is how they’re treated. Maya literally even confirmed that Liam and his team have tried to silence her and didn’t want the book to come out. I just… there are no more words.

This whole situation is so triggering… I’m so angry and upset.

Fuck Liam Payne and Fuck all of yall defending him.

[vaspider]

Being neutral about genocide isn’t the take you think it is bestie

1) You're not my bestie. You are a creepy, creepy stranger. This is the second weird, presumptive, and invasive ask you've sent me within 24 hours without ever speaking to me before. This is peak parasocial garbage behavior. This will be the last ask you ever send me, though, because I'm blocking you. Do not ever contact me again.

2) Mistaking "I don't perform Good Jew on demand on social media" for inaction or neutrality is a particular Extremely Online Leftist brain rot. Please dig it out of your brain as quickly as possible.

I will not dance for people on demand. If you think that me not saying exactly what you think I should say in exactly the way you think I should say it when you think I should say it in the places you think I should say it means that I think or feel or am doing a particular thing all the time, that's your fucking problem, not mine.

Go read up on Maimonides and leave me the fuck alone.

[cianmars]

[erodingsinner]

Oh my god y'all are so fucking exhausting you get literally the most innocuous scene of a character saying he's letting his boyfriend set the pace in the relationship and immediately it's like "poor Oliver he deserves better than this:(" what do you mean???? What show are you watching where any of this is wrong??? Gay men are talking about how represented they feel by Tommy and y'all keep shitting on him, demonizing everything he does using literal homophobic arguments, then turn around saying bisexuals deserve better rep??? It literally shows someone letting their partner set the pace while they discover this part of themselves how much better can it be. Not surprising coming from the same people who don't understand why showing a close friendship between a queer and straight man is important. Stop parading your ship wars as social justice because the people that should feel represented do.