#not necessarily bad life stuff!!!

[canongf]

been sorta spacey and inactive bc of life :) hi :)

[bumblingbabooshka]

Thinking about marriage/women's rights on Vulcan Some may think that T'Pring not being allowed to divorce Spock was because he was going through the pon farr but if she were allowed to divorce him at all she probably would have done that a long time ago, confirmed by T'Pol when she's speaking with Koss, who isn't suffering from the pon farr. She says that he can choose another mate (without invoking a fight it seems: note the difference between a 'mate' and a 'challenger') and after he makes it clear that nothing she says will change his mind about marrying her, she finally threatens to declare a kal-if-fee. It's clear that Vulcan women cannot divorce/refuse to marry a man they've been betrothed to under any circumstances if A) He himself doesn't consent to ending their marriage or B) She doesn't have someone else waiting in the wings to be given to in his stead. Though, if the challenger she selects fails to win the fight, she'll have to marry her betrothed anyway unless (again) he decides he doesn't want her after the challenge. That seems like an incredibly unfair system, heavily biased towards men. SNW is an alternate universe in many obvious respects but most egregiously in that T'Pring has a lot of non-canonical agency over her relationship with Spock. It's interesting to me that Vulcan society has women in many positions of power and treats women as equal to men from what I've seen despite these laws. We don't really see Vulcans exhibiting a misogynistic attitude towards women in general but in TOS (perhaps because of its general writing style but it's still interesting to note) both Sarek and Spock take on patriarchal attitudes specifically regarding wives. Amanda says that 'of course' Sarek commands her because "he is a Vulcan and I am his wife." It's worthwhile in my eyes to note that she specifies 'wife' instead of attributing this attitude to women as a whole. Again, with TOS' writing style it wouldn't be out of place for her to say "he is a man and I am a woman." Spock, while in a pon farr induced irritation, states that it's "undignified for a woman to play servant to a man that isn't hers" - again implying that there's something specific about being a Wife in Vulcan society which is different from being a woman in general and demands subservience to a husband. This could perhaps stem from the extreme sense of ownership that Vulcan law has permitted men to have over women. A woman legally cannot point blank refuse marriage. There is no option which guarantees she won't have to marry her betrothed other than death. When T'Pau speaks of T'Pring she refers to her as being 'property' and Stonn, before being interrupted, states he's made 'the ancient claim' - we don't know what this is because he gets cut off but it's obvious they're both using the language of Vulcan law. Men are permitted true freedom to choose. If a woman wants to choose someone else to be with there is no option available to her other than the kal-if-fee which might result in the death of the one she wants to be with. And, if her lover fails, her husband can still just decide he wants to marry her and she'll be forced to. T'Pring gives two scenarios: One where Spock 'frees' her and one where he doesn't - it's still ultimately his decision which is clear when he ends the conversation with "Stonn, she is yours." This again isn't just because of the pon farr as T'Pol also goes through this. Koss can choose another mate and when the option is talked about there's no implication that this would result in any sort of fight (both by the casualness of its mention and by the fact that there's no formal word for it unlike the kal-if-fee.) Also, the fact that Koss does eventually grant T'Pol a divorce and it's all fine means that T'Pol isn't lawfully required to have another man waiting if her HUSBAND doesn't want her. It's ONLY required if SHE doesn't want her husband. Tradition must take precedence over individual desire UNLESS!!! You're a man. Then it's fine. Like, your parents might not be happy but legally you're golden.

[yuji-enjoyer]

CW: medical anxiety spiraling lmao

Hnnnn I have my appointment to get the MRIs and MRA tomorrow morning and I’m SO nervous

[hermitcraftx]

just got a dm abt one of my posts and y'all please don't try and show the hermits (or any minecraft youtuber or content creator for that matter) my posts, i'm uncomfortable with it and don't want any of my posts shown to a cc. if they stumble upon it naturally that's unfortunate but i can live with it since i do maintag a lot (something i REALLY need to stop doing tbh i already know i need to make a tagging system just for my blog that wont clog results) but going out of ur way to show a cc is entirely different and something i am not comfortable with.

no hate to the person at all but even if i wasn't a little silly and weird with it sometimes i wouldn't be comfortable with it, i want my blog to be a purely fandom only space with none of the creators involved <3 please respect this

[ceramicbeetle]

half baked thought but 1) it’s funny when people act like hawkeye has a deep respect for marriage as an institution and that it’s something he cares about in any way and 2) funnier when people act like hawkeye settling down with one person in sudden post-canon monogamy is viewed like the only good and healthy way to address his issues around abandonment and like, self-worth

[thedreadvampy]

The thing is I am definitely not happy or chill in the Immediate Sense lately but I am, big picture, so fucking happy with the person I am.

It's like. My brain was made by and for consistent trauma and since that trauma stopped about 5-7 years ago, it is incredible what the amount of resilience and cleverness and flexibility and thoughtfulness I developed to survive can do when it's not being all spent on surviving. like I had a hundred ton weight on me so I had to get REALLY STRONG to stay in the same place and not get 100% crushed, and when that weight came off I found I can use the strength it used to take to stand up and I can leap tall buildings in a single bound.

I was talking to my mum the other day and she said, "you've got the 'fuck it' energy at 30 that most women don't find until their fifties at least" and I'm like yeah man. Imagine how unstoppable I'll be in 20 years.

[vitamin-zeeth]

Instagram truly is the mind killer cause I'm looking though old drawings I did from when I was like 13 and tell me why it's STILL some of the most technically impressive art I've and I was there like "oh my god im actually the worst artist the world has ever seen I should just quit drawing forever" because it was getting like 70 likes a post

[sunshinetrinket]

i feel like theres not nearly enough nuance when talking about like. the morality of social media. everything about dropping social media entirely is about being productive, but fail to consider the fact that entertainment is a very normal part of human life? and social media captures a very social kind of entertainment.

i dont think social media is inherently addicting because its fast form entertainment meant to give you quick boosts of dopamine. like eating candy can do that too. but social media is social. artificially to some degree, sure, but social nonetheless. and what is the world if not incredibly lonely. especially in adolescence. it's like quick and easy socializing thats not going to fulfill you but will make you feel like it does for a little bit at least.

and also its entertainment, which is a thing that has existed for ages. people like to chill sometimes. thats normal and also good and healthy. we are not supposed to be productive every moment of our lives. and frankly i dont want to. youre not wrong for not wanting to. its okay if you spend a few hours every day on your phone watching videos. its literally entertainment. its a fun leisure activity. you are not morally bad for like. chilling out. for a bit. obviously theres lines where like sometimes you HAVE to do things and also doing things is good for you generally but its not some hard line of "oh well cut all entertainment (specifically ones that also do some artificial filling of social needs) of your life forever so you can be a better person"

[undead-potatoes]

Is it just me, or has reader/self-insert/second person fic increased dramatically over the years? I can't even remember seeing those in all my years reading DA/ME fics, but now that I'm in the BG3 fandom I feel like every other fic or headcanon post is reader/self-insert

[veliseraptor]

on account of my mental unwellness and not having had a day of rest for two weeks i think i should get the entire next week off without having to use any vacation days for it. what do you guys think, sound reasonable

[persistent-wallflower]

It's honestly crazy what people say about Catholicism on this site sometimes

[normalgirlatron]

rachel a/mber they could NEVER make me hate you

[vanishintoyou]

i finally understand the temptation of buying a beverage

[plasticsandwich]

@threshergirltail​ FLOWERING YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! uwahh i think if you were planted in a garden you’d find a home together with Goldenrod flowers:

Goldenrod (Solidago) is a pretty interesting flower. Other than just looking vibrant and pretty, it symbolizes a variety of things like wealth, prosperity, resilience and encouragement. Goldenrods can withstand some pretty harsh environments, and can thrive despite tough seasons and weather. With its capacity to survive in such conditions, they come to symbolise growth and adaptability as well. In some cultures goldenrods represent protection and are believed to bring good fortune.

Goldenrods tend to bloom near late summer/early fall, and most species (though not all) are native to North America, but some are only found in Europe or Asia. they smell nice!! and if dried can be used in tea and medicine.

i think goldenrods are a fit for you since ur really kind and uplifting to be around & its fun seeing you in my notes from time to time. just pleasant company like all these rods

[finalgoblin]

blog disclaimer:

i have cancer and thus will not go back and forth arguing with random people i don’t know on the internet. i’ve learned through my illness that i simply don’t have the time, energy, or desire to do that.

let me go ahead and get this out of the way in my own pinned post. i love fiction, and one of the best things about it is that it isn’t real. yes, it normally says something about the real world, but at the end of the day it is still fiction. You simply will never be able to make me care about the well-being of fictional characters over real survivors and victims of real crimes - or even just people trying to harmlessly enjoy media.

acting like people having fun with fiction makes them supporters of real-life crimes and toxic behavior will never make sense to me. & i’m not going to allow someone to evaluate the way i treat and think about real people in the real world by the way i enjoy fictional ships and stories.

this simply isn’t the blog for you if you disagree with that. i don’t plan on starting discourse on other people’s posts, and definitely won’t indulge it on my own.

[cetoddle]

i’ll stop yapping but i also wanna say even tho no one asked that @ my prev post i think a lot of it does have to do with how old the community is. like we’ve done all the drama before and pretty much all of us are adults with like lives outside of the game and basic manners and stuff. it’s just jarring whenever i hear about something from ts4 community like oh yeah we had that drama like 15 years ago. weird that sims players are still having some of these discussions