#nonsexual sadism

[wangxianficfinder]

In the mood for...

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1. Hiii~ hope you all are well!! for ITMF, do you know of any fics where lwj or wwx is chubby/fat? and maybe some body worship of their fatness?

check out the chubby!Wei ying tag!

Do Not Eat More Than Three Bowls by GalliumYttriumArsenicFluorine (E, 6k, LWJ & WWX & OCs, Belly Kink, Weight Gain, Stuffing, belly stuffing, Feeding Kink, Feeder LWJ, Feeder WWX, Feedee LWJ, Feedee WWX, fat appreciation, pudge love, Body Worship, Body Image, Body Positivity, Consensual Kink, Verbal Humiliation, Humiliation kink, POV Alternating, Feedism, unintentional weight gain, Food as a Metaphor for Love, Chubby LWJ, Chubby WWX, Light Bondage, Dom/sub Undertones, Switch wangxian, WIP)

🔒 in your hands by everythingispoetry (T, 11k, wangxian, modern, Fluff, chubby LWJ, Weight Gain, Body Image, Body Positivity, Food as a Metaphor for Love, Secret Marriage)

Cessation by devinokaze (T, 6k, wangxian, canon divergence, YLLZ WWX, fluff, LXC pov) mentioned slightly in regards to LWJ

🔒 everything’s going to be discovered by everythingispoetry (M, 98k, wangxian, F/F, modern cultivation, reunions, soft wangxian, family feels, angst, fluff, hurt/comfort, disability) this is a pretty heavy cisswap fic involving disabling injury, so be mindful of that but it does feature chubby lwj and a positive attitude toward that from the important people.

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2. Hello! ITMF mute!Wei Wuxian? Preferably canon era. Thank you!

you're the right time (at the right moment) by carmiemaybe (glazedlilies) (G, 1k, wangxian, Modern, Post-War, Soldier LWJ, mute WWX, Historical, Tooth-Rotting Fluff, Feels, Crush at First Sight, Pining, Short & Sweet, Romance)

The Untamed Retelling by DCandMARVELnerd (T, 86K, WIP, WangXian, Chronic Pain, Chronic Illness, Hurt/Comfort, Major Character Injury, Injury Recovery, Family Feels, Family Fluff, Dysfunctional Family, Abuse, Retelling, Canon Rewrite, Friends to Lovers, Romantic Friendship, Developing Friendships, Love, Fluff, Angst and Feels, Selectively Mute WWX)

Muted by Akabara_13 (T, 46k, WIP, WangXian, Muteness, Emotional/Psychological Abuse, Psychological Trauma, Panic Attacks, Anxiety Attacks, Child Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Angst, For Want of a Nail)

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3. Itmf fics where lxc (or another character, just not people who already knew about truth of bm etc) become aware of the dangerous lying politics that lead to wwx demise (untamed verse) as its happening. And it's like a political intrigue. Like I know there are some 'x-person goes to the burial mounds and sees the truth', but what about fics where people find out because of a dif reason?

ask until your heart gets it right by Stratisphyre (G, 6k, XuanLi, Implied XiYao, Background WangXian, Canon Divergence, Fluff and Humor, Unreliable Narrator JZX, Minor surprise pairing at the end, Fix-It, Everyone Lives/Nobody Dies) not sure it quite fits, but here's a (great!) fic where JXZ wins JGY's loyalty and the latter kinda spills the beans on the Qiongqi Path stuff. It doesn't get into the politics that much though.

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4. I'm in a mood to know what you all are reading right now :D

backfire by spookykingdomstarlight (E, 53k, wangxian, LWJ/MXY, one-sided MXY/WWX, MXYY/NMJ, modern, BDSM AU, Biologically Determined Dom/sub Roles, BDSM, Bad BDSM etiquette, Sadism, Masochism, Past Sexual Abuse, Sexual Slavery, Self-Harm, BDSM as a Form of Self-Harm, Minor Character Death(s), Arson, Shades of Black Widow WWX, Extremely Dubious Consent, Rape/Non-Con Elements, Normalized Homosexuality and Bisexuality, Normalized Polyamory, Nonsexual BDSM, Slow Burn, Mutual Pining, Pining WWX, Jealous WWX, Touch-Starved WWX, Professional Dominant WWX, Sex Worker WWX, Gentle Dom LWJ, Mean Dom LWJ, Oblivious LWJ, Past WC/WWX, Minor JGY/WWX, Mentioned WWX/Others, Emotional Infidelity, Angst with a Happy Ending, Endgame Wangxian, MXY Also Gets a Happy Ending, the tags are scary but i promise there's some lightheartedness too, wangxian love one another so much, WWX is healed by the power of nonsexual bdsm and friendship, and then gets bdsm'd quite sexually and happily by the love of his life, Additional Warnings In Author's Note, WIP) currently reading backfire over one squidgeworld!

🔒🧡 Rule Number One: Never get attached. by KizuKatana (E, 130k, WangXian, Modern AU, A/B/O, Criminal underworld AU, Fluff and angst, Crime boss LWJ, Rouge criminal genius WWX, Explicit Sex) Rereading this!

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5. Itmf what is ur fav unexpected combo yet coolest crossover or fusion fic that you've read? Bonus points if it's not crossed with another MXTX work. I once read a rise of the guardian fusion that was very neat. Esp the begining.

🔒 and having a marvelous time by varnes (E, 108k, WangXian, Yúnmèng Siblings, Sound of Music AU, (i know!!! i know. stay with me on this.), Slow Burn, Mutual Pining, Family Feels, spies to lovers???, Protective Siblings, Sometimes You Just Want Your Dads To Admit They’re Your Dads, Angst with a Happy Ending)

🔒 some lovely, perilous thing by varnes (E, 24k, WangXian, Inception Fusion, Criminal Associates To Lovers, Heist Case Fic)

Wei Wuxian Makes a Wish series by natcat5 (M, 119k, wangxian, major character death, underage, madoka magica au, modern w/ magic, time travel, high school au, body horror, self-harm, angst w/ bittersweet ending, time loop, mental instability, suicidal thoughts) have not stopped thinking about this fic since I read it

If also love to see that rise of the guardians fic 👀👀👀

Castle in the Wastes by ailuridae (abigailnicole) (T, 41k, wangxian, Howl’s Moving Castle fusion, personified Chenqing, canon typical violence)

Diplomatic Incidents by Ariaste (M, 35k, WangXian, IB/DP, Dragon Age: Inquisition, Getting Together, Linguistics, Translation Spells, canon-typical borderline alcoholism, Fluff, a touch of angst for spice, being in love but not admitting you want to sleep together, Versus, sleeping together but not admitting you’re in love, Post-Canon, post-canon for MDZS anyway, during-canon for DAI)

Wei Wuxian is the Actual Bogeyman (no, really) by chatonnerie (T, 57k, WangXian, Rise of the Guardians AU, Crack, not gonna lie, i mean they literally call wwx the bogeyman my poor brain could not resist, TW:Death, I mean, Jack Frost cannonically dies)

🔒 Come by it Honestly by ladyshadowdrake (M, 25k, Geraskier, WangXian, The Witcher Crossover, Crossover, Adventure)

🔒Light Bearing Lord and The Patriarch by Anonymous (G, 3k, WangXian, Rise of the Guardians Crossover, Implied/Referenced Character Death, Relationship Reveal, Established Relationship, kind of crack, Crack Treated Seriously, WWX and LWJ are Guardians, but not just of Childhood, Implied Sexual Content, WWX and LWJ being Shameless)

🧡 Of Ghosts and Heroes by The Silverfish (ZephyrAndTheSilverfish) (T, 51k, AS & WWX, AS/YH, WangXian, BNHA/MHA Crossover, Dimension Travel, POV Outsider, Found Family, Hurt/Comfort, Angst)

❤️ More Questions than Answers by tiniestawoo (T, 2k, Sterek, WangXian, Teen Wolf Crossover, Curses, Curse Breaking, Modern with Magic, (alternate for CQL I GUESS?), Full Shift Werewolves, Beta DH, Demonic Cultivation, Crack Treated Seriously, Crack Crossover)

The Return Of the (Yiling) Sith by Zephyr (ZephyrAndTheSilverfish) (T, 23k, WangXian, SongXiao, Star Wars Setting, Hurt/Comfort, Somebody Lives/Not Everyone Dies, Canon-Typical Violence, POV Alternating, The Force, Kidnapping, Pining, IN SPACE!) (Link in #7)

mountains, we met by fruitys (E, 79k, WangXian, Historical, The Handmaiden (2016) Fusion, Enemies to Lovers, Misunderstandings, Secret Identity, Touch-Starved, Sharing a Bed, Mutual Pining, Getting Together, Angst with a Happy Ending, falling for the person you’re supposed to be swindling: the love story, getting revenge on the people who manipulated you: the saga, and some cws……., Implied/Referenced Suicide, Suicide Attempt, Mental Health Issues, Emotional Manipulation, Blow Jobs, Rimming)

A Long Road by Vathara (T, 187k, WangXian, Fluff and Angst, Crossovers & Fandom Fusions, Scheming NHS, Necromancy, Fire, Ghosts, Accidental Child Acquisition, is it an accident if the ghosts keep bringing them?) a Heralds of Valdemar fusion! Caveat that it's necessarily butchered MDZS canon to fit into the Valdemar fantasy series, but it works.

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6. Are there fics where Madam Yu just really gets told off for how she treats people, though especially Wei Ying? I'd especially love to see Lan Zhan do it. Thanks!! @eebee

leading tone by silencemostofall (G, 32k, WangXian, Modern AU, Soulmates, with a lil twist, Eventual Happy Ending, lesbian wq rights, Music, Orchestra, platonic and romantic pining) it's pretty small part (but w big impact) near the end but it's there

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7. Hii ! For this time's itmf , I'm looking for a fic with a concept of there being a 'chosen one'

Kinda similar to this fic "So You Accidentally Kidnapped A Qilin by Mikkeneko" . It can be alternative universe or Canon , thank you♡ @karinasnowwwx

The Return Of the (Yiling) Sith by Zephyr (ZephyrAndTheSilverfish) (T, 23k, WangXian, SongXiao, Star Wars Setting, Hurt/Comfort, Somebody Lives/Not Everyone Dies, Canon-Typical Violence, POV Alternating, The Force, Kidnapping, Pining, IN SPACE!)

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8. itmf a well-written role reversal fic where lan wangji dies instead of wei wuxian/ jiang yanli. Basically lan wangji dies, and the fallout

If I Could Go Back in Time by Runningbarefoot (M, 122k, WangXian, Canon Divergence, Role Reversal, Somebody Lives/Not Everyone Dies, Pining, Angst with a Happy Ending, Grief/Mourning, YLLZ WWX, Eventual Happy Ending, The Twin Jade Brotherhood, Hurt/Comfort, Character Study, Twin Prides of Yúnmèng Dynamics, Slow Burn)

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9. Are there any fics in which wangxian fight/quarrel a lot?

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10. itmf lwj being roofied @jawla-mukhi

To keep you safe by Lookeri (T, 3k, wangxian, rape/non-con, Implied/Referenced Sexual Assault, Angst, Hurt/Comfort, Protective WWX, Drunk LWJ, Attempted Rape/Non-Con, Attempted Sexual Assault, No War AU, Hurt LWJ, WIP) Only one chapter posted so far though

The Lines of your Soul by athena_crikey (M, 24k, wangxian, LXC/NMJ, rape/non-con, Modern with Magic, photographic cultivation, sects as fucked up as ever, Attempted Rape/Non-Con, for blackmail purposes, Date Rape Drug/Roofies, stigma/judgement, Trauma, Emotional Whump, hurt/comfort, Yu-furen back on her bullshit, politics over people, WWX will always have a traumatic past, Panic Attacks, everyone! needs! THERAPY!)

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11. Hello! I was wondering if anybody knows a fic where LWJ and LXC have to switch places (the concept was mentioned in another fic I've read and I'd love to see what them attempting to act like the other could look like)

Two-Faced by nirejseki (Not Rated, 2k, LXC & NHS, LXC & JGY, Mistaken Identity, early reveal) probably not exactly what you're looking for but maybe worth a look. LXC pretends to be his brother as ?a prank? and it goes disastrously off the rails

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12. Hello! I'm in the mood for a wangxian fic that focuses on Lan Wangji's grief after Wei Wuxian's death and then his feelings throughout their reunion

hold me close by gentil-minou (Flyingsuits) (E, 13k, wangxian, Post-Canon, Hurt/Comfort, Angst with a Happy Ending, Established Relationship, Porn with Feelings, Emotional Sex, Grief, Mental Health Issues, Additional Warnings In Author's Note, tender husbands being tender, 13 years of grieving followed by a life time of healing from it, Do you ever think about how lwj spent 13 years thinking he’d never get this, and then he gets it and how hard that must be to accept, because how could it be real how can he prove to himself, that it’s not all just another dream waiting to shatter is he being cruel to wy, for not believing it some days?, no? just me?, Character Study, Masturbation, Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Working Through Grief With Sex, Grieving Your Husband While Fucking Him)

New Perspective Series by mrcformoso (T, 35k, WangXian, Angst, Hopeful Ending, Fatherhood, Regrets, Flashbacks, POV LWJ, LWJ-centric, Canonical Character Death - WWX, Pining LWJ, LWJ Has Feelings Lán Zhàn | Lán Wàngjī Needs a Hug, Character Development, Dead WWX, Introspection, LWJ is Bad at Feelings, Character Study, Regretful, LWJ Breaking Toxic Cycles, Canon Compliant, LWJ in Seclusion, Post-LWJ in Seclusion, Child LSZ)

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13. hii, thank u for doing imtfs, can I get some fics which deal w additcion?? thanks @mercurygirlwt28

Say More by lettered (E, 95k, wangxian, LWJ/MXY, modern, Pining, Slow Burn, non-graphic drug use, non-graphic withdrawal, Drug Addiction, one suicidal thought, negative thought, wwx struggles with Mandarin and feeling connected to Chinese culture, Compulsory Heterosexuality, wwx kisses a girl, Sexuality Crisis, Gay Panic, some gender confusion and questions without serious gender questioning, incorrect definition of omnisexuality, Open Relationships, Masochistic Fantasies, non-graphic sadomascochistic realities, humiliation fantasies, Submission Fantasies, some D/s realities, one condomless blowjob, suggestions of some unhealthy co-dependence, Possessive Behavior, Slight Consensual Non-Consent, Frottage, the open relationship is not wangxian)

something so flawed and free by verseau (E, 59k, WangXian, Modern AU, College/University, Graduate School, Dom/sub, Implied/Referenced Alcohol Abuse/Alcoholism, Non-Sexual Submission, Kink Negotiation, Biting, Overstimulation, Cock Warming, Consensual Non-Consent, Spanking)

Lifelong Confidant by saved (E, 42k, wangxian, modern, Fluff and Angst, Past Character Death, Families of Choice, Explicit Sexual Content, Idiots in Love, Misunderstandings, Oblivious WWX, playing fast and loose with basic real life things, references to past alcoholism/substance abuse, Alcohol)

Cloud Nine Series by mssdare (E, 86k, WangXian, Modern AU, YouTube, Depression, Alcohol Abuse/Alcoholism, Substance Abuse, Mental Health Issues, Mental Breakdown, Suicidal Thoughts, ASMR, youtuber LWJ, youtuber WWX, Social Media, Getting Together, getting better, Happy Ending, Intercrural Sex, Shower Sex, Sleepy Cuddles, Videoblogging, Sexual Dysfunction, Erectile Dysfunction, Medication, Touching, Anal Sex, Domestic Bliss, Nightmares, Cuddling & Snuggling, Hand Jobs, Blow Jobs, side effects of medication, Slow Pace)

🔒 watching my heart go round by typefortydeductions (E, 77k, wangxian, modern, developing relationship, grief/mourning, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempt, implied/referenced suicide, mental health issues, past alcoholism, dom/sub, BDSM, impact play, consensual non-con, dirty talk, objectification kink, dom LWJ, sub WWX, building a family, the work of getting better, sex in SSRIs, happy ending, breathplay, rimming, orgasm denial, safe word use)

The Life and Times of a Rock Star in Crisis by Hammsters (M, 62k, wangxian, Celebrity au, Modern, Hurt/Comfort, Alcohol Abuse/Alcoholism, Rehabilitation, Dysfunctional Family, Memories, Fluff and Angst, Rock Star WWX, Librarian LWJ, Libraries, Social Media, Paparazzi, WWX has earned his highly publicized mental breakdown, he worked hard for it, Grief/Mourning, Mental Instability, JC being a good brother)

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14. heyyy thanks for all your hard work! itmf any fics that involve lwj being jealous. :) @aquiver-heart

The Epic Lie of the Yiling Laozu and His Wife by JaenysBloodcourt (T, 9k, WangXian, XianQing, NieYao, Fake/Pretend Relationship, Fake Marriage, Misunderstandings, Lies, Jealousy, A really tiny bit of jealous LWJ and JC, Assisted reproduction (mentions of insemination with talismans and other things), Implied/Referenced Sex, Implied Mpreg, yiling wei, WWX Has a New Golden Core, More like a red core, BAMF WWX, Canon Divergence, dialogue heavy in some parts, A little angst, Top/Bottom Versatile | Switch WangXian)

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15. hello again! thank you for your most recent itmf post. i’ve been thoroughly spoiled with amazing fics.

i’ve been reading 🧡 Stunted, Starving Juvenility by TomatenMark for the first time and seeing nie huaisang and wei wuxian’s friendship has inspired me to return to ask for more. the nie clan’s secret cultivation techniques always make me think of how invaluable wei wuxian’s knowledge or help could be to them if only a certain order events happened during canon. so, i was wondering if there were any canon divergent wangxian fics out there that specifically touch on nie huaisang and wei wuxian’s mutually beneficial friendship? preferably pre-nightless city fall/burial mounds raid? anything will do but i really enjoy seeing nie huaisang’s genius completely f*** over jin guangyao specifically. (although jin guanshan, su she, jin zixun, or xue yang downfalls are also lovely to see as well.) thank you in advance ♥️

no one ever said the single-plank bridge had to be walked alone by rosemu (T, 124k, wangxian, Canon Divergence, Yílíng Wèi Sect au, Fix-It, Not Everyone Dies, LWJ Stays at the Burial Mounds, Fluff, Angst, Domestic Fluff, Canon-Typical Violence, Found Family, Slow Burn, LWJ and WWX get to be Dads together, the healing power of homoerotic flute/guqin duets, Happy Ending) NHS helps out the Burial Mounds settlement & absolutely destroys JGY

The Core Issue by Hauntcats (T, 21k, WangXian, Angst with a Happy Ending, Not JC Friendly, Canon Divergence) Has WWX dropping in on NHS & helping NMJ with the Nie Clan's cultivation issues

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16. Hiiiiiii 👋, Firstly, I love this blog so much - it's really amazing. For the next itmf blog, i was wondering if there are any fics where:

A] Wwx is overprotective of lwj and possessive. It can be in a dark wwx vibe but more so like just normal wwx being so defensive and concerned about lwj in front of others.

B] Some royalty au where wx is in an arranged marriage and wwx is smitten

C] any fics where wwx did something wrong and has to work hard to get lwj back (they dont have to break up/ separate- maybe he just has to work to get back in lwj's good graces)

- please let all have happy endings with wx as the main couple

Thaaaank you💕

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17. Hey, guys! For ITMF, are there fics where WWX has to rebuild his spice tolerance in MXY's body? I refuse to believe that they both have the same tolerance when WWX likes his food saturated to a point that other spice-enjoyers think is a bit much & MXY barely got food at all. (Bonus if he now finds Lan food tasty & is just So Offended about that. Extra bonus if his alcohol tolerance is gone too.) @thispatternismine

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[voxaholic]

Writing Alastor is so fun. You get to use all sorts of tags like “Nonsexual Sadism” and “It’s Not A Sex Thing But It Would Probably Be Less Weird If It Was”

[pineappleparfaitie]

AAAAAAAAA

Person made response and mentioned me so ya

Lots of shit under cut

lets go

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Screenshot from OPs post

Person is refering to this

My takeaway:

While I think this specifically was blown out of proportion by op who ill call Vee - I do agree this isnt the best way for Suzy to conduct herself. However this isnt like the torture commentx i use slapping someone with a wet fish as a joke and its exaggerated. This also applies to Suzy here however hers is much more violent and no one expects her to be able to pulverise anyone into red paste. However i admit it isnt a good look.

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Screenshot of Vees post:

my takeaway:

While i agree however most NSFW blogs use tags that are only used by nsfw vore accounts and dont use stuff like extreme cuddling for example to separate themselves from the SFW crowd. Most people who are artists are well aware that genitals ≠ NSFW , ive seen many statues, paintinfs ect as part od my school program with genetelia. Does that make it porn?No . Thats the first bit

Second bit is if the OP INTENDED for this to be sexual they should use nsfw tags or sexual ones if thats their goal. Seriously why tf would a fetish acc tag their shit as anything other than kink,fetish amd nsfw?Your example doesnt make sense as ive stated genetlia isnt a good comparison here. Its a fetish.Its on THEM to tag their shit accordingly.

Third. Yeah no i agree with the 2nd half of the post most of it anyway. The reason they say well respected person i. THe community is cause I said that in my previous posts regarding this. I said that not Vee

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Screenshot of Vees post

my takeaway:

Heres why /why not:

Vore is a latin word first of all. Its used as a slang term for vorarephilia. Its in reference to the act of eatinf another.

Heres where stuff is different.

Eating someone alive is a trope used in cartoons for ages , Tom and Jerry, Miss Frizzles magic school bus, Disney shows have it, Nick shows act ect ect. Its a trope in media.

Diapers ,Feet, Pee is not a trope in media. These are not thinfs that are tropes and common accurances thag are explored. If its used its for comedic purposes in kids cartoons.

Vore is one thing as it can be nonsexual and sfw.

Diapers ,Feet and PISS fetishes should not be exposed to minors - sexual or not these are not things minors would even remember seeing in csrtoons growing up.

And Sadomasochism/sadism/masochism is just NO. This is not okay this is shit kids should not look at as it will cause them to see this stuff as okay and fuck them up it is the pleasure in ones or another pain its fucked kids should not even know about this

Alao this is so stupid its not a kink or fetish anymore if its nonsexual its a different thing for God sake. Kink is something that has to do with sexual fantasies and whatnot. Fetish is simmilar but its more to do with objects and certain situations.

If its not sexual, then you dont have a fucking kink or a fetish you just enjoy that shit.

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Screenshot of Vees post

My takeaway:

Yeah this is true Suzy did do this however i wasnt able tk find any dates on the archived posts that could help me see how recent some of this stuff was. One post/reblof a friend helped me out with was from June 27th . However if Vee can provide dates to the archived posts or tell me howtl to see em on the links provided that would be great.

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Screenshot of Vees post:

My takeaway:

Vee, thats not ableism

Ableism definition

When i said that both sides were not the sharpest tool in the shed- i meant this.

Vee youre anonymus i dont know if youre disabled or not.

It is mot ableist to call someone stupid for doing a stupid thing. It is not ablesim if i say a commonly used phrase to say someone isnt very bright.

Im not saying this cause i think people with disabilities are lesser ik for a favt that byllcrap ik multiple disabled people who sre smarte than me and better than me. But by your logic if i aay the word IDIOT its ableist?

Idk how Suzy feels about me rn, i still have respect for her and see her in a positive way but i will call my friends stupid when they do something stupidm i will say they werent smart for doing something idiotic.

As for the last bit while your intent was good Vee you are deflecting from the main issue if you not reaching out in DMS before making shit public and adding baseless accusations of ableism to actually suported claims.

I will say it AGAIN

BOTH SIDES, DIDINT DO GOOD. NEITHER ARE IN THE CLEAR IN MY EYES.

Intent was there but the execution was shit.

Both of these people fucked up but one left to take a breather and maybe even process everything while the other keeps postinf amd reaponding to people.

If you WERE concerned about the safety of minors- Vee ehy did you ONLY focus on where i wasnt on your side when i AGREED with you on others?You are nitpicking and trying to still come out on top or at least make yourself seem smarter.

Was that your intent?Probably not but thats how youre coming across.

That was the end of the post i am so tjred GOD FUCKING DA-

[grimeclown]

god you're so fucking annoying

Ougghh what are you gonna do about it? Are you gonna engage me in a nonsexual sadism scene?

[mayxo-hxh]

people need to realize that hisoka is a sadist FIRST before ever being a masochist. Everyone always says its the opposite but we're talking about the man that gets off to fighting/hurting/murdering others?? HUH

Illumi is. a mystery. But he HAS been tortured all his life until he could bear it with a straight face... I highly doubt he's a masochist. Pain wouldn't make him feel any pleasure. Sadism on illumi though? I can see it. He did mention to Killua once "Your only joy is in causing death" and I highkey think he was projecting on him so.

But while Hisoka takes sexual pleasure in it, Illumi would be nonsexual. Perhaps thats their only difference.

[vorecommunitywoes]

if tinysuzy didnt block me u guys would have seen this earlier lol

more under the cut

pineapple, the red paste comment was literally on something u posted tht she reblogged. this is violent rhetoric that should never be encouraged. if you have a friend who talks about how they want to harm people who disagree with them, that is dangerous. you know those posts that talk about how you should never talk negatively about yourself because then you become more negative in general and hurt your self worth, especially if youre prone to things like depression and anxiety? thats the same logic here. if you express violent thoughts without any thought or care, or with a tone of genuinely wanting to do it, you are one step closer to being a violent person.

the admitting to reblogging blogs with nsfw on them (THE PERSON TINYSUZY IS TALKING ABOUT PROMOTES THEIR NSFW ON THEIR BLOG WITH MULTIPLE POSTS) because "minors can tell the difference between sfw and nsfw vore" when the line for kinks like vore are blurry. just bcuz theres no dicks in the art or other stuff doesnt mean that its ok for a minor to see. maybe the op intended it to be sexual and just isnt tagging it as nsfw because of the lack of genitals. if you post nsfw fetishes, and then post ab them with no mentions of genitals, that doesnt mean its immediately sfw.

and i am not "accusing things out of your control", suzy. YOU control what you post. YOU control what you reblog. YOU control your ability to do the bare minimum of checking if youre talking to someone who DOESNT WANT YOU TO TALK TO THEM because their content is SEXUAL. and they dont want your CHILDREN FOLLOWING to see their porn. THIS IS INHERENTLY ENDANGERING MINORS YOU SO WISH TO "PROTECT". that should NOT be the baseline of a "well respected person" in a fetish community.

would someone who posts about their feet fetish, or diapers, or pee or masochism/sadism fetishes to minors be ok if it was completely nonsexual? and if they reblog from ppl who post both sexual and nonsexual feet/pee/diaper posts for kids to see be ok? think about it. ppl can experience those kinks nonsexually, would it be ok for them to talk about minors to it? why or why not?

also i literally have evidence of her reblogging from nsfw ppl who didnt want their stuff to be seen to minors, its in my first post. there are screenshots and an archive link. her ignoring these ppls sexual boundaries is DANGEROUS. if you just took a look you would see it , and there are multiple ppl who agree with the ARCHIVED LINKS THAT CANT BE DELETED BY HER. (if u dont know what archiving links are, it means preserving a page forever and even if someone deletes the post it will still be on the internet and searchable). i dont know if you accidentally missed the "read more" part of the post, but you can click on that and it shows:

an archive link of the post (a screenshot that a bot takes and uploads what it sees when the page is loaded. i couldnt archive the page as a webpage for some reason but this is the second best thing)

and a screenshot of the person she reblogged from either saying their content is sexual or they dont want minors seeing it.

also like. cmon. thats an ableist comment, pineapple. dont do that, insulting people based off of characteristics they cant change (like someones intelligence, appearance, gender identity, race, or stuff like calling someone ugly or a slur, etc) hurts your friends more than it will ever hurt the person ur insulting. dont internalize behavior like that, criticize the actions, not the traits a person has.

and to clarify i dont blame anyone for not getting involved in this. i just wanted to spread a message about a very clear example of how easy it can be to expose minors to porn in this community, even if you dont intent it IT STILL HAPPENS.

[menalez]

I've never understood the whole "bdsm is abuse" narrative because other than the fact that it removes women's autonomy it just makes no sense. Thinking about in a nonsexual light, if I wrestle with my male brothers is that also abuse? Is every girl that's ever played rough a victim of abuse? They're basically saying that women are not allowed to enjoy things that aren't dainty and delicate even if the woman consents to it because there's possiblilty that someone out there could be engaging in unhealthy practices (which isn't helpful to the woman who are being abused, what is helpful is people talking about safe bdsm and what it looks like but pointing that out will show them they don't actually care about those women)

always choose extreme language to talk about kink, it's always "beating your partner" or "hitting women". Because deep down they're somewhat aware the vast majority of these sadomasochistic practices are actually pretty tame and don't leave any marking, do less harm than rigorous exercise even.

And they aren't out there advocating against martial arts either, which include a fair amount of serious injury against women (speaking as a woman who did karate growing up). It's just sex because that specifically weirds them out due to culturally ingrained prudism

i think if u believe BDSM is the same as playing rough or wrestling then u definitely do not know enough about what BDSM entails and should not be pretending otherwise. wrestling is just a fun thing where neither of us actually get hurt, i’ve never been punch or hit while wrestling, it’s more comparable to playing thumb war or sth except using ur whole body.. one person wins but it doesn’t involve hitting each other. BDSM can include someone being choked until they vomit or pass out, it can involve burning someone, cutting someone, literally physically beating someone, controlling someone’s entire life, humiliating someone, berating someone.. it’s not the same as wrestling with ur friends. it literally has “sadism & masochism” within it

[shrimpmandan]

During the early history of paraphilic study, non-human objects were actually the focal point and core concept discussed in the 19th century. Objectiphiles were the main sample group and study.

Paraphilia has never been exclusively synonymous with pedophilia.

^^^^^

A lot of common and not inherently harmful fetishes can also fit under the criteria of a paraphilic disorder for that matter. Paraphilia =/= paraphilic disorder inherently, but for the intents and purposes of para discourse, let's just pull up some diagnostic criteria. This is all from the DSM-V, taken from cambridge.org (full article). I actually highly recommend reading the article because it's a pretty thorough explanation of paraphilic disorders in the DSM-V, as well as a critique of the diagnoses.

Let's just go down the list.

Voyeuristic/exhibitionistic disorder: In this particular context, discusses nonconsensual voyeurism. However, plenty of people engage in consensual or consensual-nonconsent versions of voyeurism. Same goes for exhibitionistic disorder.

Frotteuristic disorder: Once again, this specifically refers to nonconsensual dry-humping/groping. This could totally be done consensually with a partner, but in any other context is a crime.

Sexual sadism/masochism disorder: This is actually the one I've seen be most advocated for its removal from the DSM-V. Sadomasochism, while still not entirely destigmatized, is comparably more accepted than other paraphilias in this list and can 1000% be done consensually and safely.

Side tangent: A lot of sources and individuals (including this article) critique how the paraphilic disorder criteria in its current state stigmatizes completely normal and healthy sexual expression. Though, it is important to note that for something to qualify as a paraphilic disorder, it needs to either A) cause clinically significant distress or B) involve a nonconsenting party. You can see the latter in voyeuristic/exhibitionistic disorder, and in frotteuristic disorder.

Moving on...

Paedophilic/pedophilic disorder: Pretty self-explanatory: children can't consent, and manipulating or forcing them into performing sexual activities is evil. Sexually assaulting a child should never be legal or decriminalized in any way, shape, or form. That said, pedophile =/= child molester, and it's estimated that only 50% of child molesters fit the DSM-V criteria of pedophilic disorder. It should also be noted that pedophilia SPECIFICALLY refers to the attraction to prepubescent children. Infantophilia, hebephilia, and ephebophilia are all similar but not identical paraphilias that fall under the broad category of chronophilia.

Fetishistic disorder: Objectophilia falls under this, though fetishistic disorder also encompasses partialism (arousal caused by nonsexual body parts, such as feet or armpits). Psychology Today (like most psychological sources) notes that while fetishism is not inherently harmful, a fetish that causes distress to its 'sufferer' will likely qualify as having a paraphilic disorder. This can also include when the paraphilia consumes your entire life; this can be seen with the infamous Wonderbread Guy. Dude has actively pretty much ruined his life and his relationship with his family through his fetishistic obsession with a very specific brand of white bread.

Transvestic disorder: Another one that's been widely advocated to be removed from the DSM-V entirely. You think we would've moved past "being gender nonconforming is a mental illness!" by now, but... but no. I'll come back to this one though.

Other specified paraphilic disorder: This one is funny to me because a lot of people say "the big 3" to mean pedophilia, zoophilia, and necrophilia. Except zoophilia and necrophilia are lumped into the 'other' category alongside comparably tame paraphilias. It should be noted that scatalogia often involves a nonconsenting party, but obviously can be roleplayed consensually with a trusted partner. Coprophilia may pose some health concerns depending on how its done, but is ultimately not inherently a violation of consent. Urophilia and klismaphilia might just be there because they're deemed as being 'strange'.

I think most people have probably gleaned from this that... most paraphilias featured in the DSM-V criteria for a paraphilic disorder are pretty harmless, or can at least be expressed in a healthy manner. Some of them (namely zoophilia, necrophilia, and pedophilia) are pretty inarguably only ethical when expressed in fiction, such as through art (though do note that some 2D 'underage' art can still be considered illegal, depending on where you live; in the USA, it'll be considered illegal if the subject resembles a real, identifiable child), writing, and fantasy.

The subject of "clinically significant distress" is also interesting to me, because many of these fetishes are stigmatized. Even consensual sadomasochists are targeted as being abusers or victims of said abuse, and other paraphilias are treated as weird at best, and downright revolting or immoral at worst. Naturally, this can lead to distress for the person with those paraphilias and put a strain on their interpersonal relationships, regardless of if the paraphilia would've caused them any distress on its own. You could have two completely harmless paraphilias (let's just say for example, transvestism and urophilia), and feel distress because your partner is openly judgmental and revolted by it. Hell, I've KNOWN people who have completely harmless and consensual paraphilias who feel shame and worry and 'distress' of that nature because they're scared their future partners might judge them for what they're into. In my opinion, it'd be extremely callous to say that the individual is disordered in that instance, as opposed to them being made to feel gross or unlovable by other people.

I feel like less people (or maybe even more, since most people take having paraphilias to their grave or it's only revealed if they commit some kind of crime) would end up being diagnosed with paraphilic disorders if stigma around them decreased-- and yes, you can decrease stigma while still maintaining that the violation of anyone or anything's consent is immoral and illegal.

[wangxianficfinder]

hello!! i just remembered a fic i was beginning to read but it got lost and i don't remember the name 😭 i remember it being on squidgeworld.org and basically it was a bdsmverse? where the premise was smth along the lines of 'wwx subs to lwj as a means of protection but he's in a relationship w mxy and wwx has to see them be in love w each other while he pines for lwj' ? i'd be so happy if this is found, but thank you anyway!!

so sorry!! you can ignore the previous ask (the bdsm one) if interested, the fic is 'backfire' by spookykingdomstarlight !!!

That's okay! I'm glad you were able to find it 😊

- Mod C

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FOUND! backfire by spookykingdomstarlight (E, 67k, WIP, WangXian, WangYu, one-sided XianYu, MingYu, Modern AU, Biologically Determined Dom/sub Roles, BDSM, Bad BDSM etiquette, Sadism Masochism, Past Sexual Abuse, Sexual Slavery, Self-Harm, BDSM as a Form of Self-Harm, Minor Character Death(s), Arson, Shades of Black Widow WWX, Extremely Dubious Consent, Rape/Non-Con Elements, Normalized Homosexuality and Bisexuality, Normalized Polyamory, Nonsexual BDSM, Slow Burn, Mutual Pining, Pining WWX, Jealous WWX, Touch-Starved WWX, Professional Dominant WWX, Sex Worker WWX, Gentle Dom LWJ, Mean Dom LWJ, Oblivious LWJ, Past WC/WWX, Minor JGY/WWX, Mentioned WWX/Others, Emotional Infidelity, Angst with a Happy Ending, Endgame Wangxian, MXY Also Gets a Happy Ending, Additional Warnings In Author's Note)

[gh0stlymuttbarks]

Intro post

My main is @gh0stlymutt

I use it/that/thing but I am ok with most masc gendered terms

I have a lovely wife I'm obsessed with so don't DM me for NSFW reasons, friends only is ok

Blog contents / stuff I'll post (in no particular order)

Bondage

Praise

Breeding

CNC

Kidnapping

Drug play

Overstimulation

Edging

Somnophilia

Gun play

Knife play

Blood play

Voyeur/Exhibitionism

Cannibalism

Fantasy only things:

Mutilation

Necrophilia

Wound fucking

Snuff

Burning

Forced intox

Heavy sadism

Nonsexual pain/torture

Amputation

Hard limits:

Vomit

Scat

Fisting

Sounding

Severe bruising/wounds

Bestiality

DNI

Cishet people

AGEPLAY/DDLG only blogs (if you post other content then I don't mind)

Detrans/misgendering

Terfs / bigots / maps / all other weirdo freaks (not the good kind)

Don't reblog my stuff to hetero exclusive or wlw exclusive pages please.

I am a non-binary masc leaning creature and would like my posts to only be reblogged on #wlnb, #mlnb, #nblnb or t4t type blogs.

[eggxeggxegg]

A shy gentle monster who adores you and has only wanted a romantic but nonsexual relationship with you. Except one day you learn he’s not like that at all with others. He’s literally an incubus, and with a significant appetite for violence and sadism. The others in town are shit-in-your-pants terrified of him

[maeinthekinning]

Reminder.

Sadism can be a romantic attraction and nonsexual

This includes if it is combined with the big 3 paras.

Attractions are just attractions.

[salomeslashes]

Snips and Snaps Masterlist

Here's a masterlist of things that are too short for the one shot masterlist. (Such as drabbles, prompt fills, and anything I write that is in response to an ask.)

Nightmare (CW: nightmares, fear, death mention, captivity, scant comfort, hopelessness.)

Noisy Subway Passenger (CW: whumper pov, bad behavior, punishment, beating, asphyxiation, semi-public whump.)

Human Ashtray (CW: smoking, human ashtray, dehumanizing language, pet whump.)

The Sentinel and the Vessel (CW: reluctant whumper, cult/religious whump, sacrifice, kneeling, fear, small mercies, amputation.)

Ты хочешь сохранить свои яйца? (CW: nonsexual nudity, language barrier, noncon touching (not sexual), blood, gore, bondage, spreader bar, torture, genital torture.)

Broken Glass (CW: Break in, fear, threats, manhandling, noncon touching (not sexual), kidnapping, impending doom.)

Blackmail (CW: blackmail, threats, sadism, whump.)

[abraxasical]

hey good lookin'

the name's jude. pronouns vary, but it/its is always a safe bet. 22 y/o stone butch transmasc.

this is the dykefag horny sideblog. vers dom, exclusively t4t, poly. my darling partner @martianbutchbitch gets mentioned here sometimes.

you'll be seeing leather, sadism, breeding, furry shit, robot girls. spikes n smut n strap over here. sometimes gorey shit! what is a body but a hunk of meat, after all.

i'll try to tag posts with content i feel is more extreme. if you see anything you would like tagged for anything, shoot me an ask or dm me

i love fellow disgusting transsexual freaks. flirting n sexting in dms and ask box welcome and encouraged. regular chatting is cool too

DNI TERFS, SCABS, CISHETS, MINORS/AGELESS BLOGS, AND DETRANS KINKSTERS

I'll stomp you to death with my hooves.

Tag list (a work in progress) under the cut!

#hey jude - original b-tier hornyposting

#hey dude - original b-tier nonhorny posting

#its not me its queue - queue tag

#gender talk - anything that's related to transness (usually nonsexual) or gives me gender envy

#hello lovely people - photos of others

#visage - photos of myself!

[bblu579]

hello everyone!

you can call me bb, lu, blue or ette, I go by bbluette on some other platforms. this is mainly just an area for me to collect posts I like (or find hot cough cough), with occasional original posts. because i never quite shook off the "keep it in the tags" tumblr etiquette of the 2010s, you'll see a lot of commentary from me in the tags of things i like, so keep an eye out if you want to know what Makes Me Tick!

important things about me and my blog:

i am a sex-repulsed asexual. There's quite a bit of sexual content on this blog, only because it's so hard to find kink content on tumblr that isn't. I try to rb nonsexual kink wherever i can find it though, so if that’s what you’re looking for you might be in the right spot!

that said, my preference is always for nonsexual kink, and if you know any blogs that fit the bill, please please please pass them on to me!

my DMs are always open, though i won't guarantee a quick response. flirty messages and general conversation are totally welcome, but keep it non-sexual and don't ask me to educate you on anything.

i'm currently actively researching resources on kink and trying to get involved in my local irl kink community. if you have any resources you'd like to recommend me, go ahead!

my op tag is #bb talks

main kinks of this blog are power exchange, predator/prey, bondage, collars/marking/ownership, owner/pet dynamics, discipline/training, degradation, sadism/masochism (especially nonphysical - cruel mind games my beloved).

There is CNC content on this blog, but no “realistic” depictions of modern-day real-world rape. (think predator/prey, innocent pirate damsels and religious corruption, not date rape)

Please do not use this blog’s original posts for any blogs or content around feederism or raceplay.

[mtsainthelens]

what is the reason that sexual sadism for a terrible thing elicits a stronger sense of fear and disgust than nonsexual sadism. hurting someone for fun is bad but hurting someone for fun and because it turns you on makes it so much more taboo and i dont get why.