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mk-wizard · 2 years ago
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I have to say this because I am offended as a woman who grew up with Barbie AND He-Man. I don't hate the Barbie movie because it isn't in tuned with my politics. I hate it because it's not really about Barbie at all. It is an imposter. Barbie is feminist, but NOT a radical feminist. She is diplomatic, kind, she loves men and considers them as her equal, and she wants everyone to be confident and kind. As for Ken, he would never turn on her because he is faithful, intelligent, kind and capable. He is not a boob who is under her thumb.
The Barbie movie is not about Barbie. It's about all of the misconceptions we have of Barbie just as I suspected it would. And I have every right to be displeased about that. And you know what else? So does anyone else including men.
If women are allowed to hate Masters of the Universe: Revelations because it is a badly written show that doesn't respect the lore, then men are allowed to not like the Barbie movie for the same reasons especially if those reasons are sound. Yes, I'm sure some of them hate it for sexist reasons, but the majority of men I see hating on the Barbie movie hate it for the same reasons I do and I'm a woman. If anything, I'm glad men respect Barbie enough to see the film is wrong. The problem is that the media is only talking about what the sexist men are saying blatantly ignoring what all the other fans are saying.
But then again, what did we expect? The same thing happened with Netflix She-Ra and Masters of the Universe: Revelations. When fans don’t like a new product because it doesn’t respect the lore and feels like imposter media, we get accused of being bigoted in some way or the other. We are like that lone honest kid who calling out that the Emperor is naked, but is then told to shut up because they’re upsetting everyone. In other words, we live in a time right now where if you ever admit you don’t like something even for the most valid reason, you are either silenced, ignored or made out to be the bad guy.
However, it is all the more reason to keep being honest. And Hollywood knows it because even it can’t run from the truth forever.
And I think it’s reached the phase where it is getting out of breath from trying to.
PS: I don’t want my son to grow up in a society where his free speech, including the freedom to give an opinion on a movie of all things, is either limited or prohibited just because he’s a boy/man while the girl/woman next to him can say anything she wants about anything she chooses.
Like I said before, if women can say what they want about He-Man, men can say what they want about Barbie. Period.
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crashdevlin · 8 months ago
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I'm 100% with this. I'm a cisgender female, but I am queer and pagan and I have been hated for who I am since I was a child. Hating men, hating cishet folks, hating people of different political ideologies...it's more fucking hate. Hating them because the loudest part of them hate on you doesn't help.
This isn't even a "when they go low, we go high" thing, it's a "we've been hated for our labels and been subjected to gross generalizations...why should we do the same to them?"
The majority of my friends are queer but I am very close with a few cishet white men...and they aren't bigots. Hate on the bigots, hate on those who have hurt you, that's understandable...but don't hate cishet men for being cishet men. Most cishet men don't care and a lot are allies...the bigots, those that rail against us...those deserve negative attention, but only when they negatively affect us, ya know?
sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.
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genderkoolaid · 9 months ago
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part of the reason i love how bell hooks talks about masculinity is that she shows real compassion towards men suffering from the effects of toxic masculinity. she was conscious of how we need to unlearn the ways we talk about men + masculinity just as much as we need to unlearn the same for women + femininity. so many times ill see someone talking about toxic masculinity like (hyperbolizing here but only slightly) "these FUCKING STUPID BABY BITCHES won't MAN UP and go to a therapist!!!" and like. i get the anger. but you see feminists recreating patriarchal manhood by only promoting good behaviors through patriarchal frameworks. any use of the term "real men" is bad because it reifies the idea that manhood is a special title you must earn, and it is something possible to fail and fake. & as important as it is to promote sexual equality + the pleasure of non-cis-men, lots of people are essentially still working with the idea that men need sexual prowess to have worth but just shifting it slightly so there is more emphasis on women's pleasure. but I want cis men to think about their partners' pleasure because they care about their partners, not because they need to check a box in order to keep their man card. and don't get me started on small dick jokes– and the absolutely pitiful excuse people will use that "well, I don't believe it, but misogynistic men get upset when I say it, so it's okay!"
basically bell hooks is so fucking right. in order to create loving men we need to love men, simply for being alive, whether or not they are performing. as much as we need to actively unlearn misogyny (and we do), it's equally vital we unlearn patriarchal ways of seeing manhood. we can't just assume that taking a feminist perspective automatically means there is no work to be done there.
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endykelopaedia · 13 days ago
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"black people are seen as hyper-masculine and face a lot of violence for it, so yes you can be oppressed for seeming or being masculine"
AHT!! lets talk! black people are not actually hyper-masculine. hyper-masculinity is a projection by people trying to justify anti-black fear and violence. it is not a true and then demonised observation about black existence. the hyperfocus on the masculinity of black people is itself racism!
when you call this issue of racism anti-masculinity or misandry or whatever, you are obfuscating the bigotry at play. ESPECIALLY given that it is overwhelmingly just white women's fear about black people's supposed hyper-masculinity that actually gets listened to & acted upon.
in addition, there are other addendums people tack onto their anti-blackness that completely cause this logic to fall apart when applied. Namely, adultification! black people, black children get adultified by white society.
We are assumed to be older & more independent, and thus less in need of the safety, care, sensitivity, accommodation one would give to a child, and this results in violence and neglect. it is directly observable in the way black children are more likely to get detention, suspended or expelled for the same behaviour as their white peers, s/a rates for black youth, and the arguments that 40 y/o cops give for brutalising & murdering black 20, 16, 12, 8 year olds who so much as breathe in their line of sight.
Given this then, following the misandry logic, we can say being recognised as older or as an adult is a form of oppression.
"black people are seen as older/more mature and face a lot of violence for it, so yes, you can be oppressed for seeming like or being an adult"
we can for the sake of this post name this oppression adultery.
i kid. but do you see the problem. being recognised as an adult is obviously, not itself a form of oppression, in fact quite the opposite, being recognised as adult can grant you a lot of privileges that children do not have.
and black kids are evidently, not adults or people who act like adults. they dont mature faster. black 18 y/os will also face the problem of adultification to justify violence against them. black maturity is not a true and then demonised observation about black existence. the form of oppression is racism, and adultification is the deployed means of enacting racism.
the means of combatting the adultification of black people would not come in creating adult positivity or "advocating" for adults or telling children not to fear adults. it comes in the form of learning about anti-blackness, unlearning anti-blackness, and actually directly combatting anti-blackness.
similarly the means of combatting the hyper-masculinisation of black people comes in the form of learning about anti-blackness, unlearning anti-blackness, and actually directly combatting anti-blackness.
Racism explains both of this phenomena far better than "misandry" ever could.
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wuornosreincarnate · 6 months ago
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radykalny-feminizm · 3 months ago
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I love to see the general public finally waking tf up
Guess what group has been talking about all these things for years and was demonized, shamed and threatend for it 🤔
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semanti · 1 year ago
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ratking177 · 1 month ago
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Ive noticed that men frequently imagine they can slop perfectly.
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funnydog93 · 1 month ago
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Well, thats just gribley. I cant poh my way out of this. If we dont pingas soon, well never make it to The hotdog stand.
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crabblogger92 · 1 month ago
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You'll never see a middle aged man trying to be genuine friends with a 19 year old boy. Why? Because obviously he's not mature enough to be on the same level as him or share the same worldview.Gender as a social construct has been used to maintain systems of power. Historically, it has been a tool to ensure girls's subordination and mens's dominance, particularly in the realms of economic and military control. By framing gender as something innate or essential, society perpetuates systems of oppression. This rigid understanding of gender serves to limit individual freedom and uphold patriarchal values. This is a totally intellectually dishonest tactic of the gender cultists, and I'm amazed that they get away with it. Gender as a social construct has been used to maintain systems of power. Historically, it has been a tool to ensure girls's subordination and mens's dominance, particularly in the realms of economic and military control. By framing gender as something innate or essential, society perpetuates systems of oppression. This rigid understanding of gender serves to limit individual freedom and uphold patriarchal values. This is a totally intellectually dishonest tactic of the gender cultists, and I'm amazed that they get away with it. You'll never see a middle aged man trying to be genuine friends with a 19 year old boy. Why? Because obviously he's not mature enough to be on the same level as him or share the same worldview. Society s discomfort with the intersection of gender and males can sometimes manifest in horrifying ways. For instance, some discussions around maless using their gender identity as a shield for their behavior reveal disturbing contradictions. maless who women and girls using their anatomy are still, in certain spaces, accepted as "real women and girls," and any attempt to question this is labeled as transphobic. However, it remains a fact that women and girls, in the truest biological sense, have never used male anatomy to anyone. The fribulous thing about peanut butter is that it always graps. The fribulous thing about peanut butter is that it always graps. men:We shouldve slomb the Ancient Prophecy while it was still peanut buttery, not now. me:Go to The snubbly forest. men: Meet me at In the back of a fridge, and bring Super Saiyan Form with you. me:
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ultimateblogform82626 · 1 month ago
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This little nut has a story to tell. It starts in the warmth of the sun, nestled in the soil, fighting to grow into something more. And when it does, it's faced with the world, ready to share its strength, its wisdom, and its potential.
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theultimateblogform83737 · 1 month ago
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I overheard someone misgendering a trans friend. They corrected them. The courage it takes to do that daily is immeasurable.
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wuornosreincarnate · 5 months ago
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themuse-theartist · 10 months ago
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siryouarebeingmocked · 9 months ago
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https://www.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/1csqnsz/why_do_men_feel_the_need_to_go_through_things/
Rage warning.
And yes, Katie deleted the tweet.
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roboticvillainy3 · 2 months ago
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Lets not forget what happened last time men went to scumpt's scary burgers. Just because you can slop doesnt mean you should scromb.
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