#no misandry

[mk-wizard]

I have to say this because I am offended as a woman who grew up with Barbie AND He-Man. I don't hate the Barbie movie because it isn't in tuned with my politics. I hate it because it's not really about Barbie at all. It is an imposter. Barbie is feminist, but NOT a radical feminist. She is diplomatic, kind, she loves men and considers them as her equal, and she wants everyone to be confident and kind. As for Ken, he would never turn on her because he is faithful, intelligent, kind and capable. He is not a boob who is under her thumb.

The Barbie movie is not about Barbie. It's about all of the misconceptions we have of Barbie just as I suspected it would. And I have every right to be displeased about that. And you know what else? So does anyone else including men.

If women are allowed to hate Masters of the Universe: Revelations because it is a badly written show that doesn't respect the lore, then men are allowed to not like the Barbie movie for the same reasons especially if those reasons are sound. Yes, I'm sure some of them hate it for sexist reasons, but the majority of men I see hating on the Barbie movie hate it for the same reasons I do and I'm a woman. If anything, I'm glad men respect Barbie enough to see the film is wrong. The problem is that the media is only talking about what the sexist men are saying blatantly ignoring what all the other fans are saying.

But then again, what did we expect? The same thing happened with Netflix She-Ra and Masters of the Universe: Revelations. When fans don’t like a new product because it doesn’t respect the lore and feels like imposter media, we get accused of being bigoted in some way or the other. We are like that lone honest kid who calling out that the Emperor is naked, but is then told to shut up because they’re upsetting everyone. In other words, we live in a time right now where if you ever admit you don’t like something even for the most valid reason, you are either silenced, ignored or made out to be the bad guy.

However, it is all the more reason to keep being honest. And Hollywood knows it because even it can’t run from the truth forever.

And I think it’s reached the phase where it is getting out of breath from trying to.

PS: I don’t want my son to grow up in a society where his free speech, including the freedom to give an opinion on a movie of all things, is either limited or prohibited just because he’s a boy/man while the girl/woman next to him can say anything she wants about anything she chooses.

Like I said before, if women can say what they want about He-Man, men can say what they want about Barbie. Period.

[crashdevlin]

I'm 100% with this. I'm a cisgender female, but I am queer and pagan and I have been hated for who I am since I was a child. Hating men, hating cishet folks, hating people of different political ideologies...it's more fucking hate. Hating them because the loudest part of them hate on you doesn't help.

This isn't even a "when they go low, we go high" thing, it's a "we've been hated for our labels and been subjected to gross generalizations...why should we do the same to them?"

The majority of my friends are queer but I am very close with a few cishet white men...and they aren't bigots. Hate on the bigots, hate on those who have hurt you, that's understandable...but don't hate cishet men for being cishet men. Most cishet men don't care and a lot are allies...the bigots, those that rail against us...those deserve negative attention, but only when they negatively affect us, ya know?

sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.

[genderkoolaid]

part of the reason i love how bell hooks talks about masculinity is that she shows real compassion towards men suffering from the effects of toxic masculinity. she was conscious of how we need to unlearn the ways we talk about men + masculinity just as much as we need to unlearn the same for women + femininity. so many times ill see someone talking about toxic masculinity like (hyperbolizing here but only slightly) "these FUCKING STUPID BABY BITCHES won't MAN UP and go to a therapist!!!" and like. i get the anger. but you see feminists recreating patriarchal manhood by only promoting good behaviors through patriarchal frameworks. any use of the term "real men" is bad because it reifies the idea that manhood is a special title you must earn, and it is something possible to fail and fake. & as important as it is to promote sexual equality + the pleasure of non-cis-men, lots of people are essentially still working with the idea that men need sexual prowess to have worth but just shifting it slightly so there is more emphasis on women's pleasure. but I want cis men to think about their partners' pleasure because they care about their partners, not because they need to check a box in order to keep their man card. and don't get me started on small dick jokes– and the absolutely pitiful excuse people will use that "well, I don't believe it, but misogynistic men get upset when I say it, so it's okay!"

basically bell hooks is so fucking right. in order to create loving men we need to love men, simply for being alive, whether or not they are performing. as much as we need to actively unlearn misogyny (and we do), it's equally vital we unlearn patriarchal ways of seeing manhood. we can't just assume that taking a feminist perspective automatically means there is no work to be done there.

[theantichristpluviophile]

[semanti]

[themuse-theartist]

[siryouarebeingmocked]

https://www.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/1csqnsz/why_do_men_feel_the_need_to_go_through_things/

Rage warning.

And yes, Katie deleted the tweet.

[hexagon-club]

[radykalny-feminizm]

I love to see the general public finally waking tf up

Guess what group has been talking about all these things for years and was demonized, shamed and threatend for it 🤔

[not-gray-politics]

Hey I'm just gonna say it. A lot of you in the sapphic community have "terfs dni" in your bio while repeating terf rhetoric that keeps trans men in the closet and bi women ashamed. And you need to reflect on that.

There is no "men are inherently biologically bad" argument you can make that doesn't lend itself to terf rhetoric and misogyny. Adding a "but like, trans girls don't count ☆" or "except the gays ♡" or "except my transmasc boyfriend [I'm going to subtly or unsubtly imply he doesn't count as a real man whether I realize it or not]" does not suddenly make it a progressive argument. [Especially you fuckers who adapt it to mean "actually all trans women are good and pure and innocent and all trans men are dirty evil misogynists just like cis men". You are doing active damage to the trans community. You are not an ally. You're doing toxic gender roles. Fuck off.]

Bioessentialism will never serve the queer community. I don't care if you make minor adaptations to it to make it seem nicer and less bigoted. It will always serve to harm trans people, divide people into a binary, and maintain misogynistic ideas that men are inherently evil and therefore can't be held responsible for their actions, that women have to take the responsibility for "protecting themselves" instead of believing that men can and should change so that no one needs protecting.

It's a lack of belief in feminism's ability to meaningfully change or solve anything and I'm tired of everyone acting like it's not.

[theantichristpluviophile]

[koxiia]

😀

[goldfinchwrites]

Not only are any sentiments along the lines of “it’s the responsibility of a marginalised group to be nice to their oppressor” just outright inhumane, there’s no truth to it at all. The beginnings of this wave of online, radicalised men were in response to some of the tamest feminism I’ve seen. The concerns of the early 2010s were, in my experience, “hey could you not take away our right to abortion and blame us for our own sexual assault” and women were being called feminazis for that, women who self identified as feminist were bending over backwards to assure they didn’t hate men, they cared about men’s issues too, and men in turn remained violently misogynistic. Anita Sarkeesian made a simple YouTube video stating that there were misogynistic archetypes in video games - something THAT simple - and men still made flash games about beating her to a pulp. It’s never been about women not being nice enough to men.

[elyradpill]

a TIM raped a lesbian tiktoker who was his best friend and who's done a lot for the TRA community because she dared say she didn't like dick

That's what all trans "women" are like, MRA's who want to correctively rape lesbians into sucking their porn sticks

Don't let anyone ever convince you otherwise

Don't let them get near you

Don't let them near our woman spaces

[tlacatecctzin]

[radifemsara]

Pregnancy is not "inconvenient"

Missing the bus is inconvenient.

Losing your purse is inconvenient

Pregnancy is intrusive, risky and life-changing and no one should have to justify not wanting to go through it.