#my girlfriend said it first

[sherrif-black-lung]

Invincible s2 e6 be like.

[inkskinned]

the problem is that being single is seen as the consolidation prize, and not the natural neutral state of being-a-person. at the end of the movie or the book or the poetry, there is a person waiting for you at the altar, and they love you. if the play is a comedy, everyone gets married. the metaphor is about how you are not-whole. the metaphor is about how everyone is going to be happily-ever-after. the metaphor is that romantic love is the most important resource on the planet, not just all-love. all-love is not a thing, that is a disappointment. the treasure is not the friends we made along the way. the treasure is the girl you landed.

the metaphor is that you cannot be alone, that means you are broken. are you getting over someone? that is acceptable, you can be getting over someone, but not for long. you must be single because you would rather not be single. you must be single and looking to not-be-single. you must want to date, eventually.

friendship and community are never seen as being equal-to or even-better than romantic connection. that person is your one! you need to find them. you need to hunt through the sand particles until you can shift out some kind of gem. this is regardless to your own experience of the beach and the sun. you need to be somewhere with someone.

if you are taking this time alone to heal, that is so sad. everyone gives you this little pitying look. the understanding is that you are not actually happier than you were before you were single. it is seen as a sort of pity - oh, you are choosing yourself, making yourself the priority? - that isn't quite right. you must mean that you are making yourself ready for the right person. you are just laying the bed better this time. open up your heart. you'll find them, we promise!

what do you mean you're really-truly genuinely-very happy? you are probably misremembering what it was like to be in a relationship. and besides, once you meet your person, that time will look grey and bland and wasted. your person is the only way for you to see in color. so what if you have taken this time - for the first time in your entire life - to actually-for-real do the fucking work. you can be proud of yourself, sure. but the way we need to know that you got better is that you get a partner. you're healed enough for the next bad part!

people don't choose to be single, they just say they're choosing to be single - they actually mean "nobody wants to date me." it doesn't matter how many people you have gently rejected or how many times you've talked it over carefully in therapy. what matters is that you are single, and by all accounts - that means you are something worth our pity. your successes and life all seem pale in the sunlight. sure, you have done amazing things and finally found your way in life. what matters is that there wasn't a person in the room with you while you did it.

you want to tell them - that's the whole thing. i didn't know how to be alone in the room. i didn't know how to handle the silence. every moment was so sharp, and i kept choosing the wrong way to close the door. i have spent my entire life in the empty well, living in the ricochet of someone else's cruelty. for once i have built myself a ladder. for once everything i taste is all mine, every bite of sunshine and laughter. i have learned how to sleep out in the open with my memories. recently, they have started to purr.

your father rolls his eyes. listen. this isn't about you. i just want a grandchild in my future.

[aroaceleovaldez]

i still think a lot about how technically, it's implied Anubis and Walt started dating each other before they asked out Sadie, and if Sadie had said she wasn't interested they would have gone "Entirely fair have a nice day" and proceed to just go continue to date each other.

Cause like, that was the entire thing. They decided that themselves. That things would work best if they were together (as in both physically sharing a body and also relationship-wise). The "asking Sadie about it" part was secondary. If she had said no, they would have stayed together, because among other things Walt would kind of die if they didn't. Walt and Anubis are technically the first gay couple in the Riordanverse. AND they're in a polyamorous relationship with Sadie. Why does no one talk about them ever.

[jazz--bugg]

*glares at you in Russian*

[ava-deb]

[louferrignojrofficial]

just had a long talk with the security guard at my job. turns out he’s actually a year younger than me and still in university but he just looks older. anyways, we had a talk about his university work, my university work, and about tv shows like you and dexter!! plus i told him about 911 and i accidentally made it sound like the plane emergency was the whole show and he was like A HUNDRED EPISODES ABOUT A PLANE CRASH???

anyways i clarified it was just 2 episodes, and i told him lou was in the show and came back to be one of the main characters’ boyfriends. and he was like ‘why is he always playing someone’s boyfriend? maybe he just has a boyfriend face.’ and i was like oh he sure does ☺️

also i told him some stuff about lou’s dad and he was like NOOO i didn’t know he was a terrible person!!!! i loved lou ferrigno!!! so i feel bad i told him but also…. it probably doesn’t mean much to him at the end of the day.

[favouritefi]

i dont wanna sound ungrateful for having generally accepting parents but whenever i go out with just my dad and an attractive woman passes our field of vision my dad will start saying things akin to "hot chick alert" or "isn't she hot" or "big butt" and this is nearly enough to send me back into the closet

[starscelly]

roope and otter getting feisty

dal@wpg 11.28.23

[essencevfhumaniity]

@sybxtest

"taken." quinn told the other at the library. they had been trying to contain themselves and give the other speaking to lucy a chance. for a moment, it looked normal. but quinn could overhear. and they overheard plenty by the time they stood up and all but flew over to the redhead currently being hit on. "by me. if you'd like more help with a book, you'll have to find another attractive, smart, kind, capable redhead somewhere else." it wasn't so much bitchy as it was just a dry, ending statement. no room to argue.

[bumblingbabooshka]

In 'vis a vis' Janeway doesn't mention B'Elanna in the list of people who're worried about Tom which implies that B'Elanna didn't report the fact that "Tom" grabbed her arm, called her a disappointment and broke up with her (as Janeway definitely would have mentioned it as evidence of him acting strange if she knew about it) which makes sense on several different fronts but also makes me scream and cry loud enough to break glass.

[shima-draws]

Me: Man I can’t decide who to ship my OCs with :( Idk who’s gonna end up with who I’m too conflicted I like all these different ships

My brain: Make it poly

Me: I can do that?

My brain: Yes make it poly they’re all dating

Me, softly: I can do that…….

[machlover54666]

wot u do when we pull up to the run ‼️ (we lasted 3 floors)

[sugaroto]

My pappous remembered that time we made that deal that I would get married by 25

You guys are all invited to my wedding on 2030

[anistarrose]

unfortunately don't think I have the energy to create for taz sapphic week this year, but for the record I've quietly been getting really into the headcanon of a Killian/Carey/Noelle Team Sweet Flips polycule

[weirdaboutfictionalmen07]

peak moment today I was early to spanish class and two boys came running in and pretended to be a boy and girl who had crushes on each other in a drama

[james-stark-the-writer]

feel like pure shit, just want her back