#musings !

[plaidos]

the “transfem separatist movement” is a transmisogynistic conspiracy theory concocted by antitransfeminists to justify their bigotry towards trans women. there is no transfem separatist movement, only transfems who feel separated from the wider trans community due to a pervasive culture of transmisogyny.

[chigirisprincess]

thinking about jerking aizawa off after a long day of teaching. cradling his head to your chest, your fingers in his hair and massaging his scalp and you languidly pump his cock, his thighs are twitching and his eye is lidded, so relaxed and melted into you

[johannestevans]

drives me fucking insane when a web page or an app isn't working and i know that the ONLY REASON it's freezing up or glitching is because of all the pointless bloatware and spam shit written into the code. it's so focused on harvesting information or trying to sell me bollocks that it breaks itself

like how can you go half a second without wanting to strangle every pale-faced cunt in silicon valley with your bare fucking hands for tainting the well of what's meant to be information and industry and efficiency and all that with this utterly worthless commercial shit

[butcharium]

Happy winter solstice, yet again we're headed for lighter times ☀️

[mrpickleface]

"I love my long hair, I've been growing it out my entire life, it's a part of me and I'm not going to apologize or try to conform to what society says hair length should be. The barber industry wants you to think at short bobs are beautiful and that anything else is shameful and disgusting, but I'm here to say that they are wrong, long hair is BEAUTIFUL! No, I'm not going to put my hair up when I'm on an escalator! They are hairphobic for making such a dangerous device for my long beautiful hair get caught in. And yes, before anyone asks, I understand that hair can be cut (for those of us in the long hair community that would even want to cut it in the first place), but stop asking, because I don't want to change how I look."

You can be whoever you want to be and look however you want to look, it's your body, your choice. But that doesn't mean that the world should comport, contort, and cater itself to you.

Please, please be considerate of your fat friends' needs and limitations. Fat bodies are heavy to carry around. I move about the world slower than my thin peers, and I've often had to choose between pushing myself to keep a pace that takes absolutely all my energy, or being left behind, when walking in a group. I don't always feel safe to ask that everyone walk slower, because there's a prevalent idea in society that fat people need to exert themselves as much as possible at all times in the service of weight loss, and that we never "really" need rest, therefore it's a good thing whenever we're exhausted. Fat people and thin people alike are taught that fatness is a flaw, one that fat people ourselves are to blame for, so we're not entitled to any accommodation or consideration. A friend of mine who is fat recently told me about a dinner party she went to where the chairs were far too small for her and she was sitting very uncomfortably. After the meal she politely suggested moving the party to the couch, but the others didn't want to. She spent another couple of hours in unnecessary pain, and didn't dare tell them about it. I love my thin friends, but some of them just don't realize that I weigh probably twice as much as them, and yet I balance it all on the same size feet and carry it on about the same size bones. I'm like if they had a whole other them to carry around at all times. Why would that not have an impact on how I function? Please - take us into consideration when we're part of activities. Ask us which activities work and which don't. Adjust the pace so no one has to be dry heaving and sweating barrels on what's supposed to be a casual walk. Make sure venues have seating that fits us. Make it safe for us to speak up if we need something. When we do, don't treat us like we're the problem. Finally: yes, we have heard of losing weight. Even those of us who might (and many never will, whether you like it or not), won't do it on a moment's notice. If your response to "fat people deserve accommodations" is "what if they weren't fat though", you're playing a fantasy game. It's pointless. We are fat and we are here and we do partake in society. Work with that.

[plaidos]

just saw somebody call portal 2 “accidentally”feminist… i don’t know man; i think you’re just bad at analysis. the main plot is pretty clearly about workplace sexism and women’s body autonomy

[marandsviet]

The light of courage doesn't always shine brightly, but it never fades, even in the darkest of nights.

[balloonsandguacamole]

Which is also a shame, because a mechanic girl is just objectively cool.

Gendered parenting is so weird. As a little kid I was a total daddy's girl, I was told I would always try to sneak into the garage, I was always very interested in everything he was doing and would follow him around while he was working, but while my family was never the type to outright say "you can't do that because you're a girl", they simply didn't entertain the idea that I could possibly be interested in cars. Then when my little brother was born, it was just assumed he would become a mechanic like our dad because he was a boy. Even though he, unlike me, didn't like being in the garage much and wasn't all that interested in what dad was doing. Once he got to a certain age, dad started making him help and would drag him away from his actual interests for it, which lead to a lot of arguing and not much actual learning.

Gendered expectations sort of create doubles of children. There's the real child with their actual personality, interests and behaviors, and then there's the Gender Child.

My real brother hated soccer and team sports. The Gender Child that existed only the minds of the adults in his life needed to play soccer because that's what a Boy Child does.

Growing up, I always felt like adults didn't actually know me as a person and they weren't interested in getting to know me. Because they felt they'd already learned everything there was to know about me when they were told "it's a girl".

When I talk about how I never got gifts I actually liked from my relatives (to this day I still don't like getting gifts that aren't something I picked out myself), it isn't actually about the gifts themselves. I don't even remember them. What I do remember is the feeling of being given gifts that were seemingly not bought with the real me in mind. They were for the Girl Child™️ version of me. The me that adults wanted me to be, not who I actually was.

[sitronsangbody]

It's darkly fascinating to me that there are blogs on here entirely dedicated to just bashing fat people. I come across them now and then when they comment some bile on my posts. Imagine spending time on that? Imagine going on tumblr (or elsewhere for that matter) to spread hate and nothing else. These people's brains must be such grim places to live. Like... I get annoyed and sad at first when I read their comments, but whenever I sit with them for a minute or two I just feel sorry for them honestly. If it feels that important to be mean, I doubt you're at peace with yourself.

[hoboblaidd]

That’s uncalled for.

[azaablue]

something something dick grayson was found by bruce wayne and jason todd was found by batman idk

[silverjetsystm]

@valkxrie

[authorafterhours]

The secret relief Will must have felt when he realized he didn't kill Abigail, that he didn't eat her, and he didn't even get to absorb that before she was taken away again.

Yeah, he knew he didn't do it, of course, but a small part of him may have been like, 'did I?' How often has Will ever been truly sure of himself?

[lipikkawrites]

The biggest lesson I've learned this year is to let go of forcing anything- conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love, success, even my own expectations.

- @lipikkawrites

[two-bees-poetry]

Hey, what would you guys think about me making a discord server? I feel like we're cultivating a little community on here, and I think it could be fun! How about it?