#muraven

[whatshouldwecallramah]

hannah muraven when sail staff says literally anything

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“don’t worry about john murphy. that boy’s a fighter.” - jaha 3x05

[pineapplebellarke]

Oh??

[safeegaurd-archived-blog]

I only have like 1 good the 100 roleplay and I need more bc I got too many ideas

lmk if you want to rp 💗

I can do double roleplays too! Just message me! (My messages aren’t working(?))

[maybeicanbesaved]

Raven: Do you have any idea how it feels to be in pain every day?

Murphy: I'm sorry. I'm sorry for doing this to you, Raven.

Raven: This is not your fault, Murphy. I can deal with losing my leg, but losing my mind..

Murphy: What do you want me to tell the others?

Raven: Tell them.. Tell them I floated myself.

Raven: Go. Survive.

Murphy: That's what cockroaches do, right?

[blakegabbana]

2x01 / 4x04

[burninghoneyatdusk]

It's inevitable that someone will be disappointed: Becho, Murphamy, Muraven, Clexa, Memori....Bellarkes. If things don't turn out the way I had hoped, Bellarke!endgame, it still at it's core shouldn't take away from how well the actors did their jobs or the writers did there....I still appriciate everyone that contributed to these characters, especially the Fanfic writers who might write a little closer to my head canon then JRoth produced.If I find disappointment in 7x16 at least we had 5x13??

Yes, I love to see this positivity! 🙌🏻

At the end of the day, things will never go exactly how we envision them in a television show. And of course there are certain possible endings that I will personally be disappointed in, but there’s a difference between having feelings about it, but accepting it vs. falsely believing you were entitled to something else. We’re consumers, not creators or collaborators, for this show and that’s just how it is.

But I agree - I’ll have no regrets regardless. This fandom has allowed me to meet awesome people, introduced me to fanfic and inspired me to write it, and all in all, imperfect or not, I’ve loved this story they’ve told us. I think the 100 is a really unique show with awesome actors and it’s been a fun ride. 💙

[imagines-all-day-everyday]

Do you ship any couple in the 100? I ship Diyoza and Octavia (don’t know their ship name) Muraven, but I like Emori, so I don’t mind if he doesn’t end up with Raven... And Ofc Bellarke. The funny thing is that I don’t like Clarke (think she’s annoying) but you don’t have to be a genius that those two are meant for each other

I actually haven’t watched passed like mid season 5 (?) of the show just cause I kind of got distracted with other shows.... so I don’t know who Diyoza is I’m sorry !!!  eep

[linneac]

so um i was reading my social psych textbook and

"The self’s capacity for action has limits, note Roy Baumeister and colleagues (1998, 2000; Baumeister & Tierney, 2011; Muraven et al., 1998). 

Consider the following: People who exert self-control—by forcing themselves to eat radishes rather than chocolates, or by suppressing forbidden thoughts—subsequently quit faster when given unsolvable puzzles."

The radish instead of chocolate thing is literally from Hey Arnold

[arexasaurusrwar]

Tagged by @blodkihci​ ! You are legit a sweetheart 

MY SHOWS (IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER) :

The 100

Game of Thrones

Good Omens

The Society

Lucifer

QUESTIONS:

1. who is your favorite character in 2?

sansa stark

2. who is your least favorite character in 1?

sheidheda (the flame is dead but this asshole is still around)

3. what is your favorite episode of 4?

it’s a toss up between seven and eight

4. what is your favorite season of 5?

season two 

5. who is your favorite couple in 3?

ineffable husbands

6. who is your favorite couple in 2?

gendarya, probably 

7. what is your favorite episode in 1?

season one, episode eight, daytrip with classic lines like, “you are the most beautiful broom in a broom closet of brooms” and “this is an anti-grounder stick” 

8. what is your favorite episode of 5?

season two, episode sixteen, god johnson

9. what is your favorite season of 2?

season six

10. how long have you watched 1?

i remember watching the premiere back in 2014 and liking finn and clarke together *how the turntables have tabled

11. how did you become interested in 3?

like six people i’m following posted about it and i caved

12. who is your favorite actor in 4?

kathryn newton

13. which do you prefer, 1, 2, or 5?

one, The 100, I’ve loyally watched it the longest

14. which show have you seen more episodes of, 1 or 3?

one, considering good omens only has six episodes while the 100 has six seasons

15. if you could be anyone from 4, who would you be?

shoe cobbler (hashtag shoe for mayor) (this has lemon in it!) (i love pine sol boi)

16. would a crossover between 3 and 4 work?

not really, since the society is in a weird parallel universe  

17. pair two characters in 1 that would make an unlikely but strangely okay couple

raven and murphy. i love memori but muraven will always have a weird place in my heart. 

18. overall, which story has the better storyline, 3 or 5?

five. lucifer has a consistent “solve the case!” while good omens is a properly developed story line with a very good ending. 

19. which has the better theme music, 2 or 4?

two, all four had was helena’s thirteen jay z albums

well this was fun. i’ll tag @thenotsoslimshadeh @aquarianlight @ghostmontygreen @sarka-stically and @cuddlygrizz if y’all don’t want to, you don’t have to

[liveyourtruthblog]

🚫WHY WHAT YOU THINK YOU KNOW ABOUT DISCIPLINE IS WRONG. If you've ever believed or been told that you lack discipline, I would challenge that assumption. Here are three strategies that can help you make the changes you need to make, in order to achieve the results you want most. Exhausting Our Discipline Reserves Consider a study conducted by Baumeister, Bratslavsky, Muraven and Tice, published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, pp. 1252-1265; 1998. The researchers told a group of college students that they were participating in a study on “food perception.” The students were asked to not eat for a few hours prior to the study to ensure that they were a bit hungry upon arrival. They were then placed in a room, which at the centre was a table filled with radishes, piping hot fresh baked chocolate chip cookies and chocolate candies. The students were told that chocolate and radishes were chosen due to their distinctive taste and that the following day each of them would be contacted to see what they could recall about their experience eating the foods. The students were then divided into two groups, the first group were asked to eat only radishes but no cookies or chocolate. The second group were asked to eat only chocolate and cookies but no radishes (no arguments from that group). The researchers then left the room. So, for the remainder of that phase of the study the cookie/chocolate eaters indulged on tasty treats while the radish eaters enviously looked on whilst eating food that even bugs bunny would balk at. Spending Mental Faculties Wisely At the conclusion of the eating study the students were asked if they would be willing to participate in an unrelated study comparing the problem-solving ability of college students to high school (GCSE/A-Levels) students… since they were already there. The students agreed and were summarily given a problem to solve. Unbeknownst to all the participants the problem the researchers gave them was unsolvable. The results were interesting; the group not subject to temptation, allowed to eat the cookies and chocolate spent an average of 19 minutes on the problem; whereas the https://www.instagram.com/p/BpuiZ0ih9Xx/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=jh14awtjcuxm

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baby face murphy was favorite 🥺 miss him

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EDIT:ITS FAKE

Okay guys I’m going to post all the things that Twitter page did. Just be warned, PLAUSIBLE SPOILERS AHEAD FOR THE 100 SEASON 7 READ AT YOUR OWN RISK. That being said, if anyone wants to hypothesize these with me I’m losing my mind. Cheers

[savantv]

Getting Rid Of The Largely Independent Cranial House Guest ~

The best way to alter your own behavior will be to use the following tips that will be shared in this lecture on yourself to redeem healthy qualities. How might you use the tool of cognitive neuroscience to alter your behavior? My overarching tip for this lecture, is to take this list of methods that can be use to alter one’s behavior. Much has been spoken about how much of pure behavior is dictated by unconscious, automatic processes in our brain. Our decision about what to do, what to eat, what to say, even how to day it is dictated largely by our subconscious processes over which we usually evert little control. The best evidence for this comes from studies demonstrated that our conscious experience of choosing to do something typically comes after we start to do it- not before. It’s not that that we cannot control our behaviors because indeed the point of this post is that we can but most of the time we don’t. Over short spans of time, by exerting our conscious will, we can immediately, often drastically alter our behavior but that explicit control of behavior takes continual attention and a lot of mental energy. As we get distracted by the other things, and we always do, the conscious control drifts away and the unconscious control takes over again. Will process on explaining ways to change the unconscious habits so that even when you are not paying attention, your unconscious mental systems will do the things you like for them to do. The period of “unconsciousness” are blanks in the standard memory banks and the missing periods make up what Dianetics calls the reactive mind. So when the individual is “unconscious” in full or in part, the reactive mind is cut in, in full or in part. When he is fully conscious, his Analytical Mind is fully in command of the organism. When his consciousness is reduced, the reactive mind is cut into the circuit just that much.

Tip: Call attention to that behavior whenever it happens. In additional write down in a notepad the times whenever this problem behavior occurs to force your conscious mind to be involved.

Write down the date on top of the page and everything you engage yourself with bad behavior don’t beat yourself up about it and pull out notepad to write down the exact time of day and even a few words summarizing the details of it. Lastly, review the list at the end of the day. Immediacy turns out to be key here & reduces the frequency of some bad habits by getting rid of repetition. You will be shocked on how much time you spend on those activities.

Since the unconscious processes are often in control of things, you may not actually be aware of how often you engage in a particular behavior. There’s another process by this note-taking activity that several researches have explored recently. The theory is stated, somewhat loosely that self-control is like a muscle. When you exercise a muscle, you use up its resources by beating it up a little. After the workout the muscle will be fatigued and less useful, but it will heal and when it does it will be stronger and same for self-control.

In one set of experiments conducted by a team led by Mark Muraven, participants were recruited and asked to refrain from eating any sweets for two full weeks, total stop. This is a challenging self-control task for almost anyone. The participants notes whenever they slipped and they were successfully able to substantially reduced their consumption of sugary foods. The interesting results were when they came into the lab at the end of those two weeks for testing, they complete a test called “Stop Signal Test”. 

In surprise, the people who are better at stopping themselves from hitting those keys have better general self-control and sticking to the decision of changing habits. After, spending two-weeks of avoiding surgery foods they significantly improve in their stop signal test scores than the test they took before.

I urge you to be skeptical scientists in this course, and there’s a control problem in this study. Suggested it’s the self-control aspects of the sugary snack avoidance task that lead to the improved performance on the stop signal test. Is it? Or is it the actual reduction in sugar intake that generates that improvement?

The experimental though of this and includes other tasks that were demanding for self-control abilities. For instance, some participants were assigned to a hand-grip task during the two weeks instead of the sugary avoidance task. Hand-grip Task: given a spring-loaded hand-strength trainer, it’s a V-shape device. If you squeeze very hard you can pull the two ends of the V close together. They were told to squeeze it together to hold it as long as possible until their grip muscle gave out and they physically couldn’t hold it shut anymore. The participants would do it twice per day and just like avoiding sugary snacks, this hand-grip task involves a lot of self-control. After days your hands will turn to be sore and you must push yourself though the physical discomfort. Also, those participants showed the same significant improvement on the stop signal test.

Tip: If you practice self-control, you improve self-control & self-regulation just like a muscle.

There have been a few fMRI studies that have characterized where these self-control muscles are located. It’s not surprising when people are engaged in a successful signal stop behavior, the superior, medial, and precentral frontal cortices both show greater activity. These frontal lobe of ours are associated with a lot of things - - problem solving, creativity, strategic thinking.

The frontal lobes are strongly associated with regulating the rest of the brain in terms of things like impulse control and avoiding overly risky behavior and is the last areas of our brain to finish developing. We use to think of the brain as being finished with its primary development by the late teen years but some recent work has suggested otherwise. Between 18 and 22 years of age, there’s a surge of development in these frontal lobes. There’s a large increase in the production of, Myelin: a fatty insulating substance that increases neuronal efficiency, an increase in this white matter right in the frontal lobes. During the same period of time, people get much better at self-control in general. Most people presume it’s this development that leads to the reduction in the high-risk, impulsive behaviors that are commonly associated with the teen years. When confronting a bad habit you have two functions occurring: the unconscious that wants to do it and the other mental process of your frontal lobe preventing you from doing it. The moment which contain “unconsciousness” in the individual are contra-survival moments, by and large. Therefore, it is vital that something takes over so that the individual can go through motions to save the whole organism. The fighter who fights half out on his feet, the burned man who drags himself out the fire- these are cases when the reactive mind is valuable.

Calling attention to the behavior we don’t want to participate in will help and your inhibitory self-control ability will get stronger with that exercise but there’s a better way. Instead of turning off an existing associative link, which we can’t really do anyways. You can create an alternative associative link and make it stronger, strong enough that it eventually takes over control of your behaviors. You cannot completely stop a behavior but you can reduce the frequency though.

Tip: To stop a bad habit, you need to replace it with something else through alternative trigger responses.

The goal of this brainy procedure is not to just temporarily change behavior but to ultimately change the underlying mental processes that drive a problematic habit in the first place. From this tip perceptive, it’s not enough to just prevent the behavior from being performed. You need to create a new automatic, unconscious process that will take the place of the problematic one. 

Theres a lot of evidence to support this assertion. One study was conducted by Marieke Adriaanse and her collaborators. They ask participants to identify situations that triggered the performance of a bad habit. List goes on . . . It always starts with that trigger that gets the unconsciousness going. The participants were ask to come up with an alternative behavior and to intentionally pursue that when the trigger showed up. For example, when I get bored, I will play piano. When I feel anxious, I will eat an apple. When I feel cranky, I’ll go for a walk.

The other participants were randomly assigned to the control condition and they didn’t use that technique. The experimenters found that the focus on associating an alternative behavior with the trigger resulted in a greater reduction in the act. To see how this change occurred, they presented to participants in both experiment and the control conditions with a brief presentation of the trigger word on a computer screen such as boredom or anxious. The trigger word would appear than vanish and than another word would appear. Sometimes the next word was scrambled letters or not a word at all or unrelated to the bad habit or it was the name of the bad habit or the word was the alternative behaviors. When you form an alternative intention, an alternative behavioral association with that trigger that usually causes that bad habit, your brain changes it’s internal association structure. After forming and practicing the alternative association, your brain starts to process the new action faster.

Many studies point to the left temporal part of the cortex that’s responsible for the processing word meaning. In addition to recognizing the individual words, this region of the brain, our language system, processes the meanings of the words based on the things with which that word is associated. For example, if you see the word “baseball” and “bat” the second word means a very different thing than if you see “vampire” and “bat”. When we read a word it activates a whole of concepts that are related to it, quickly and unconsciously. In addition to activating words and does actions that are associated with the word. 

Tip: If you want to change the internal behavior, use positive and negative reinforcement to shape behavior.

There’s good evidence that this works, let’s explore this in some more details. If after you engage in any behavior, something positive happens, it will reinforce the behavior. You’ll be more likely to perform that same behavior in the future. If on the other hand, after you engage in some behavior, something bad happens, it will punish the behavior. You’ll be less likely to perform that same action in the future.

Positive Reinforcement is when something pleasant gets added to your experience after you perform a behavior.

Negative Reinforcement is when something aversive gets removed after you perform a behavior. Note that this is not the same as punishment. For example, you give Pat an angry look every few minutes when the laundry is on rye floor. If after it’s picked up, I stop giving angry looks, than I have removed something aversive in response to Pat’s behavior than he will be more likely to pick up the laundry on the floor in the future.

Positive punishment is when something negative is added to your experience after you perform a behavior. Ex, if Pat puts dirty laundry on the floor and you I give an angry look after than he will be less likely to repeat that again.

Negative Punishment is when something positive gets removed after you perform a behavior. Ex, maybe I often smile at Pat and offer cookies. If when he puts dirty laundry on the floor, I stop doing that than I have taken away something positive. Pat will be less likely to perform that action in the future.

A wide range of studies have been conducted on self-administrated reinforcement which this is to be called. Over several decades people have been studying this. Students have used it to improve study habits, dieters have used it to improve their healthy eating habits, and people with phobias have used this typo of system to train themselves to not avoid the thing that makes them afraid. Make a efficient contract with yourself now, not later!

[luizacarvalhocardoso]

Autocontrole: evitar desejos com a força de vontade é uma estupidez

Diversos estudos mostram que a força de vontade não é a melhor forma de evitar seus desejos — e que essa atitude ainda pode te prejudicar de outras formas. Para ter mais autocontrole em sua vida, a melhor saída é se privar.

  Tenho certeza que você já se sentiu um fracassado por, em algum momento da vida, não ter tido força de vontade o suficiente para realizar algo que era importante para você. Seja seguir uma dieta, praticar atividades físicas, largar um vício…

Mas pode ficar tranquilo pois isso é muito comum e todo mundo passa por situações semelhantes. Além disso, diversos estudos mostram que a “força de vontade” não é a melhor forma de evitar seus desejos — e que essa atitude ainda pode te prejudicar de outras formas.

Joseph Everett, dono do canal “What I’ve learned” focado em temáticas polêmicas, divulgou um compilado de informações e estudos relacionados ao assunto. O título do vídeo em questão: “Willpower is for Losers” (em tradução, “força de vontade é para perdedores”).

Vamos entender o que ele quis dizer com isso.

  Força de vontade é para perdedores?

Everett começa compartilhando uma experiência pessoal.

Ele mostrou para sua namorada o KSafe, um pote de plástico que tem uma função bastante específica: você fecha a tampa e programa um tempo pelo qual o pote deve ficar trancado. Somente após esse período é possível abrir novamente o recipiente e pegar o que está lá dentro. O produto não está à venda no Brasil, até o momento dessa publicação.

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KSafe.

Nesse caso, ele havia trancado um controle de videogame porque achava que estava jogando demais e sem o controle não seria possível fazê-lo. Ela o perguntou: “Você não pode simplesmente resistir e não jogar?” Então, levanta a questão central:

Qual é a diferença entre resistir a uma tentação e não ter uma tentação?

  O experimento do marshmallow

O “experimento do marshmallow” é um estudo feito em 1972 na Universidade de Stanford pelo psicólogo Walter Mischel. A ideia é simples, e semelhante a um “desafio” que talvez você tenha visto nas redes sociais há alguns meses.

Algumas crianças foram colocadas sozinhas em uma sala, sentadas em frente a um marshmallow. Os responsáveis avisavam que iriam sair mas voltariam em dez minutos, e que durante esse tempo as crianças não poderiam comer o doce.

Se elas conseguissem resistir à tentação, após os dez minutos elas ganhariam outro marshmallow e poderiam comer dois em vez de apenas um.

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O experimento foi registrado com câmeras escondidas, e durante o período de espera as crianças encaravam o marshmallow, cheiravam e até lambiam. Apenas 1/3 das 32 crianças testadas conseguiu resistir durante os 10 minutos, enquanto o restante comeu o doce mesmo sabendo que perderia a chance de ganhar outra unidade.

O que diferencia as crianças que resistiram à tentação das que acabaram comendo o marshmallow “proibido”? Em breve voltaremos a falar sobre isso.

  A força de vontade é um recurso limitado

A gente já sabe que resistir a uma tentação exige esforço e não é nada fácil, mesmo havendo recompensas como um marshmallow extra, por exemplo. Geralmente ficamos felizes e satisfeitos quando temos força de vontade o suficiente para alcançar um objetivo.

Mas existem consequências negativas quando você se esforça para evitar uma tentação?

Um estudo feito pelo psicólogo Roy Baumsteir e seus colegas Ellen Bratslavsky, Mark Muraven e Dianne M. Tice mostrou que pode, sim, haver consequências. O experimento foi feito com 67 participantes que estavam há 3 horas sem comer e foram colocados em uma sala que tinha o aroma de “cookies de chocolate recém assados”.

Eles foram colocados em uma mesa com dois potes: um cheio de cookies e outro cheio de rabanetes. Parte dos participantes foi obrigada a comer os rabanetes e não podia tocar nos biscoitos, enquanto a outra parte tinha a liberdade para comer os cookies à vontade. Então, eles tiveram que montar um quebra-cabeça bem estressante e que, sem saberem, era impossível.

A ideia era verificar quanto tempo eles levariam para desistir do quebra-cabeça. Resultado: os que tiveram que resistir aos cookies, desistiram duas vezes mais rápido do que aqueles que não precisaram resistir à tentação.

Isso mostra que o fato de estarem usando sua força de vontade para não comer os cookies fez com que eles tivessem menos força de vontade para persistir no desafio.

Este foi um dos experimentos realizados pelos estudiosos para provar a ideia de “ego depletion“, ou esgotamento de ego. Esse conceito mostra que a força de vontade é um recurso limitado e pode se esgotar. É como um músculo, que após ser submetido a determinado esforço se cansa e precisa de um descanso para se recuperar.

Já começa a ficar mais claro a relação disso tudo com o fato de muita gente ter desistido de fazer quarentena na pandemia de Covid-19.

  Tentações são distrações (se não agora, em breve!)

Joseph Everett afirma que, intuitivamente, todos nós sabemos que as tentações são uma distração. É mais difícil trabalhar quando você está de dieta e sente o cheiro de uma comida que você ama e não pode comer. Vai ser mais difícil se concentrar nos estudos se for sexta à noite e seus amigos te chamarem para sair.

Um estudo de 2012 publicado no Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, testou 205 adultos que estavam resistindo a alguma tentação. Eles tinham que usar um aparelho por uma semana, que em momentos aleatórios durante o dia enviaria perguntas sobre o que eles desejavam, o quanto eles desejavam aquilo e se estavam conseguindo resistir à tentação.

Cerca de 8 mil tentações foram reportadas durante a semana de experimento. A conclusão reforça a ideia de que a força de vontade é limitada. Quanto mais você resiste a tentações, maiores são as chances de você se entregar a outro desejo em algum momento.

Por exemplo, se você passou o dia no trabalho usando toda a sua força de vontade para resistir às redes sociais, aos jogos no celular, às conversas com os amigos e focou inteiramente nas suas obrigações, as chances de você chegar em casa e se render à Netflix em vez de ir para a academia, ou de comer um doce em vez de se manter na dieta, são muito grandes.

Outra conclusão interessante deste estudo: pessoas que reportaram menos tentações durante a semana de experimento, demonstravam maior força de vontade para resistir aos desejos. Ou seja, as pessoas com maior autocontrole eram aquelas que menos usavam o autocontrole, já que precisavam resistir a menos tentações.

  O que há de tão bom no autocontrole?

Outro estudo, chamado “What’s so great about self-control?“, realizado por Marina Milyavskaya e Michael Inzlicht — dois psicólogos e professores universitários canadenses — testou 159 estudantes universitários e fez uma descoberta interessante.

As pessoas que mais exercem o autocontrole não são as que obtém mais sucesso atingindo seus objetivos. Os mais bem sucedidos são aqueles que planejam sua vida para não precisar se controlar ou resistir a tentações.

Everett revela que desde que passou a trabalhar em home office, jogar vídeo game durante o dia é sempre uma opção. Como a possibilidade de jogar está sempre ali, ele acaba se distraindo e até negociando consigo mesmo:“vou jogar apenas por 20 minutos e depois trabalhar por 1 hora”.

Aposto que você também já se pegou nessa situação alguma vez na vida.

A questão é que, mesmo se tiver autocontrole e não parar de trabalhar para jogar video game, a simples necessidade de resistir àquela tentação faz com que você se distraia e tenha sua produtividade diminuída.

O psicólogo Glenn Wilson afirma, baseado em seus estudos, que a vontade de checar um simples e-mail em sua caixa de entrada durante o trabalho pode diminuir seu QI em 10 pontos.

  Como se livrar dos maus hábitos?

O autor de best-seller sobre bons hábitos, James Clear explica, em seu livro “Hábitos Atômicos”, que existe um ciclo composto por 4 fatores: sugestão, desejo, resposta e recompensa.

Um exemplo: você está no trabalho às dez e meia da manhã, entediado, cansado e sem conseguir focar no que está fazendo. Essa situação é uma sugestão para o desejo de tomar um café. Em resposta a esse desejo, você se levanta a vai tomar o café e então vem a recompensa: mais energia e o prazer proporcionado pela bebida.

O autor afirma que você só consegue se livrar dos maus hábitos quando um ou mais fatores desse ciclo deixam de existir.

Se você passa a dormir melhor e não está cansado às dez e meia da manhã, então não vai haver a sugestão ou o desejo de tomar café, por exemplo. Ou você está cansado nesse horário, mas responde ao desejo de uma forma diferente e joga uma água no rosto em vez de se recompensar com o café.

Qualquer uma dessas ou outras mudanças de atitudes vai fazer com que você enfraqueça seu hábito — nesse caso é o café, mas serve para qualquer coisa. Clear diz que essa é a melhor forma de se livrar de um hábito: enfraquecendo-o a partir da quebra do ciclo.

Se olhar para uma barra de chocolate faz com que você queira comê-la, coloque-a em um local onde ela não possa ser vista. Se você se desconcentra e checa o celular sempre que vê uma notificação, o ideal é desligar o celular ou guardá-lo na gaveta. Dessa forma não há sugestão ou desejo, e o ciclo não se inicia.

Em vez de tentar resistir a uma tentação, você deve criar outras estratégias para que a tentação não exista.

  De volta às crianças e ao marshmallow

Depois de entender tudo isso, podemos voltar ao experimento do marshmallow para entender como 1/3 das crianças conseguiu resistir à tentação. Foi observado que as crianças bem sucedidas no teste foram aquelas que em algum momento fecharam seus olhos para não ver o doce, cantaram sozinhas, inventaram jogos com as mãos ou pés…

Elas fizeram o que conseguiram fazer para tirar sua atenção do marshmallow, e assim elas se distraíam e precisaram usar menos força de vontade. Viu como encaixa com a conclusão de todos os outros estudos citados?

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  Usar a força de vontade ou se privar das tentações?

Pelos estudos, podemos concluir que usar a força de vontade para evitar as tentações não é a melhor opção. Ter a possibilidade de “cair em tentação” o tempo todo, faz com que você viva com uma sensação persistente de indecisão, incerteza e até ansiedade.

“Devo trabalhar ou assistir Netflix? Devo estudar ou jogar video game?” Qualquer que seja a decisão, terá um custo e uma recompensa.

Se escolher trabalhar, o custo é ter que usar a força de vontade para ter a recompensa de cumprir suas obrigações e ficar livre para fazer o que quiser. Se escolher a Netflix, o custo é a frustração de não ter força de vontade o suficiente, mas a diversão será a recompensa.

Essa incerteza faz com que você fique confuso e em um estado constante de ansiedade, diminuindo sua habilidade para focar no que é realmente importante. Quando você se priva das distrações, não há mais a dúvida sobre fazer aquilo ou não, e seu cérebro acaba se esquecendo daquela tentação.

Quando o autor do vídeo tranca seu controle de vídeo game no pote, o jogo deixa de ser uma opção e ele não precisa mais se decidir entre jogar ou trabalhar. Ele simplesmente trabalha e, no momento em que o pote for destrancado, ele pode jogar sem culpa ou frustração.

Assim, ele precisa usar menos força de vontade e retoma o controle de sua vida – com perdão do trocadilho.

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