#milso therapy

[rbecje]

I can’t wait for this day to come. Missing you like crazy.

[armywifelifee]

#ArmyWifeProblems

[lilacskiesapothecary]

Updates!!

So I got a new Job!!! It’s a Local Black Owned Business!!!

It’s all about Skin and Body Care! What I Love!

K and I have been going to counseling to help us and it’s been great!

K actually talked to our counselor about his parents, and what his mom told me.

I plan on telling our counselor the other part that I haven’t told yet. To see how I should approach this.

And we are still leaving next week for Thanksgiving so I’m sure there will be tons of tea then!🙃

[1704milesapart-blog]

Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great.

Roger de Bussy-Rabutin

[milsotherapy]

To those with mental illness(es), what do you do when your depression or anxiety or whatever flares up and you really want to talk to your SO but don't want to bother them with it at the same time? Because I want nothing more than to message him and hear his voice and have it calm me down but he's exhausted from work and has to be up early so I feel really guilty about it. Any and all insight would be immensely appreciated.

Don’t be afraid to express yourself to your SO. If he truly loves you, he will be there to support you no matter how tired he is. I will say this though, you need to find another outlet aside from your significant other because you cannot always depend on him to be there. It’s unhealthy to make one person your go-to when you’re in crisis because that’s putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on him to “fix” you. I suggest seeking therapy, or a support group on Facebook. Find other girls who are going through this. There is actually a group I can suggest to you, it’s called Milso Anxiety & Depression Support.

-Cherie

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Random off topic personal post I think I fell in love with my boyfriend all over again around 2 am today (i think). He woke up at 3 am or 3:30 am for drill. I remember looking at the clock but barely able to open my eyes bc my mascara was all up in it making my eyes cry. I think it said 330 just before he walked out. But for a good hour I woke up and I could tell he wasn’t sleeping. I woke up and I remember making a sound and I think he said “what?” Then he kissed my forehead. He kept playing with my hair and rubbing my scalp, caressing my face and rubbing my back for a good hour. Occasionally kissing my forehead or the top of my head. He’s always cuddly, that’s normal. But he was being so sweet. Like I was asleep and woke up to him doing this kinda thing. It just makes my cold heart swell up. I love him. I do. But sometimes my feelings are confused because I never know where we stand. I never know what he wants out of this relationship. And I feel after being one month away from our 10 year anniversary that should be something we know by now. I am also scared to death with him being in the Army. I never want ANYTHING bad happen to him. I am scared to death to wake up one day and find out he’s gone. I feel like the last week before he is eventually deployed I am going to look at it like “This could be the last time I ever see him” and I don’t want to think that way. But I am scared to fucking death of losing him. It keeps me up at night. It makes me sick. It makes me panic. Not just army related stuff but also car accidents and what not. I am scared of the people I love dying. It makes me sick. Like usually he texts me at some point in the morning before drill but he didn’t today so I panicked thinking he didn’t get there okay and was hurt. And I refuse to text him first ever bc i never want to bother him. Anyways, i have been on and off on what I want to do. I don’t think I can handle him being deployed. My anxiety is going to be high and I know I will be physically sick. But I want to be with him. I have viewed him as my “forever” since 8th grade. I don’t want that to change. I just need to find a support system. Whether it be friends. family or therapy. And milso's may see this and think I am pathetic bc “he will be going through worse than I am” and i KNOW that. But keep in mind that I have this thing called a mental illness so already I am not as strong as the average person to begin with. My mind is a constant battle. My feelings and emotions are extreme compared to the normal person. One thing that may be small to one person will be the end of the world for me and I think suicide is a rational reason. I don’t need to be made feeling like shit for it. He will ALWAYS have it worse. And I am trying to be better for him. I want him to be able to talk to me about this. Even if I don’t understand it. I would do ANYTHING for him. Including giving up my dreams. Marriage, children, cosmetology, and moving to Salem MA. I am pretty sure I can’t have kids anyways. But I would do anything for him. I am just too anxiety ridden to tell him.So………I guess I am just going to tag him later on when I feel brave, and hope for the best

[milsojourney]

My boyfriend is a trucker and is talking about giving it up to go Air Force. Could you give me any advice on what to expect with the change and blogs to follow? Thanks!

It sounds like you’re accustomed to stints of time apart, which is great. He’s going to go off to basic training and you have to prepare for little to no contact while he’s there. Letters and phone calls are at the discretion of him command and I would not advise sending care packages, as he will either not receive them or it will bring unnecessary attention to him. Once he graduates all of his trainings, he will head to his first duty station and will not be able to move out of the barracks unless he is married. Do not rush into marriage for this reason. LDR’s are valid and can work. Y'all will both adjust to the new life and can make it work.

As for blogs, this one is a good choice and you can message me anytime. @milsotherapy is a good one to follow with friendly admins and good advice. I haven’t personally used any other therapy blogs that are out there, but you can find them in the milso tag and see for yourself. There are other spouses and girlfriends you can follow too, but I would advise only picking the ones you relate to and can click with. This community is known for its drama and some people will befriend you just to start it. So tread lightly when making new friends. @itsybitsysmomma is a sweet girl and is in an LDR with her husband while he pursues his career with the army and she pursues her college degree. @thestartofabeautifulride is another great choice, as she’s very friendly too. @abeauyootifulmess is living overseas with her husband currently, and a very good friend too. There are many others I could mention, but you can find whoever you want through networking in this community.

I wish you the best with this new journey. If you have anymore questions, feel free to message me again.

[mytherapistmarriedtonavy]

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The hardest part about losing someone is realizing how big your bed is.

Time doesn’t heal.

[countingdownthedays]

(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RdwPOfipbAM)

HEY GUYS HEYYY GUYS! 

SO! I’ve decided to REVAMP my youtube channel and make it into a milso advice type channel! So here’s my newest video! Go check it out and I hope you all enjoy<3 

I also have a “Girlfriends guide to surviving BMT” video on there too if that interests you! 

[armywifelifee]

You guys please check out my new video on YouTube - The Military Spouse tag! Learn all about myself and my husband and our little military life together! No matter what branch of the military you or your spouse are in, give it a watch & feel free to make you're own! It's a lot of fun. :) Let me know if you do and I'll check it out! Thanks xoxo

[fortheloveofasailor0822-blog]

When you spend Veteran’s day at the park playing with someone else’s kids, you reignite your baby fever… I need my sailor back...

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I miss him.

[countingdownthedays]

Finally finished my Christmas Care Package for my amazing husband❤️❤️🇺🇸🎄🎅🏻

[i-hope-midnight-never-comes]

Waiting for Christmas leave be like...

[mysweetserendiipity]

Next fall it looks like we'll be moving & getting a house 😍😍😍 Matt will be out of the army(although he's still toying with the idea of going reserves or guard) & working on his bachelors degree, as will I! I can't wait! & it looks like from the requirements, we'll be in one place for at least 3-4 years minimum 😀 And we can get a dog! I'm so nervous & so excited to see how next fall plays out! Hopefully everything is settled by May 🙏