#midwestern queers

[thatstormygeek]

In a lot of ways, today is the same as yesterday. I live in Missouri, so I've been aware that I'm surrounded by repubs. It's....shocking? seeing just how much of the country is happy to vote for a fraudulent rapist, but ultimately the country we're living in today is the same one as yesterday. We just see it more clearly now.

And my dogs don't know or care who is president. They need fed and want to play and go for walks no matter what I'm feeling.

I closed a lot of tabs. I've been considering writing a piece on the folks who are lost when organizations embrace bigotry and how those silent departures hollow out the core, but I don't think that's a thing that anyone is going to be interested in for quite some time. Oh well.

The very tarnished silver lining of this election is clarity, I suppose. Trump was extremely explicit about the type of person he is and the way he wants to run this country. That so many people saw that and said "hell yeah!" is something that is good for us to know.

I still wish it could be different, don't get me wrong. But we must take what is, not what we prefer.

But also

[thatstormygeek]

Within the last couple of months, for the first time in my life, I started to consciously think that maybe I actually kind of deserve to just...exist? Like, I don't have to earn my life - it's okay to just live. Not going out there hurting anyone. Just taking care of my pets and my family and having my little life.

Of course, in that time, I've also had the cops called to my house for a "wellness check" and had my water shut off without notice or warning. So it kinda feels like the world is disagreeing.

[thatstormygeek]

I saw someone question a description of Nancy Mace's behavior as "vicious." I'd call creating a resolution - and banging on about it to the press - and promising a law to make sure your one (1) brand new colleague whom you've yet to work with is repeatedly and publicly notified that she will be discriminated against - and that those doing the discriminating consider this a righteous cause - pretty vicious.

[m0ther-fvcker]

wanna be a sleeze bag in a charming way

I blow my cigaret smoke in your face cause I know you like the smell

I manhandle you, pull you in too close, invade your personal space cause I know you're touch starved

I tease you because I want you to fight back

I taunt you into getting out of your comfort zone because I want you to try new things

I pull back when I accidentally cross a line

I let you sleep at my place, take you out to drivethrews at midnight to take your mind off things, find a hill for us to chill out on

I make jokes about us sleeping together, but know not to push too far. Even though I would love nothing more then to sleep with you. Although you always brush those jokes aside, you never seemed to hate them

But then I accidentally press my hand against yours a little bit too long and I notice your gaze lingering on my lips. And then you're straddling my hips, clinging to me as I hold you, kiss you deeply. I keep you warm as we makeout on that hill in the cool night

[hiddenjane]

Poetry and picture by hiddenjane

[thatstormygeek]

I love this for many reasons, but especially because this is how relationships are supposed to work!

Folks will nod sagely and intone "the only constant is change" and then act like somehow romantic relationships are immune.

Look, my partner and I have been together over 25 years. We have been through Some Shit. And there have been times we thought splitting was going to happen.

We got married when we were 22. We didn't know anything about anything. Neither of us is remotely the same person we were back then. And if you showed newlywed us what our marriage looks like now, they might be appalled. They would definitely be very surprised. And that's a good thing (the surprise, at least).

Through our life together, we've grown and changed in mostly compatible ways. That's down to lots and lots and LOTS of communication, more patience than I would have believed I was capable of, and a hell of a lot of luck. For example, we didn't know how things were going to go when I started T. So far it's working out, but it might not have. And had he not put in the work to understand and accept his asexuality a while back, things may have gone quite differently. *shrug*

All of that to reiterate that relationships begin and end for many, many reasons. And sometimes they transform. If we can go friends to lovers, why shouldn't we also go lovers to friends? How many could do that, but because they think it's a one-way journey they cling to the romantic relationship until it's encysted in disappointment and bitterness and resentment and they forget why they even liked the other person in the first place?

So major congrats to OP and their ex-wife and I hope their friendship continues to thrive.

my partner & i recently transitioned to being best friend platonic partners and romantically separated (due to some simple romantic incompatibilities) - we're both very happy with and excited about this change and most importantly we think it is VERY funny and gay to continue doing everything together and living together as exes

(she wrote the first comic!)

[thatstormygeek]

Man, I'm not especially interested in litigating whether "binary privilege" is a thing or whatever, but it does grate a bit seeing us nonbinary folks get tossed in with whatever side is getting called out at the moment while the actual issues we might be facing remain unaddressed.

[welcometogodly]

[coyoteheartworms]

self portrait with rat. january 27, 2024

nikon coolpix

[thatstormygeek]

Topeka's list of notable people is on its own wiki page, so I suppose the first one is automatic. But I did see Annette Bening on there, so yeah.

[sunny-rants]

ya know that thing where something is so hyper-feminine that it becomes a distinctly queer style? well I feel like there’s a new one where the rural or country or christian vibes are so strong that it circles around to being queer

[internet-baby]

I love him

[jarofrebukepodcast]

A message from Casper Oliver about the return of Jar of Rebuke podcast. 🦌🗝👻

This message has been a long time coming, and I think I’ve finally fully accepted the reality of my situation.

I haven’t been doing well.  My work has put me on medical leave for my ongoing mental health crisis. During all of this, I’ve tried to keep up with everything else around me, continuing to spin all the plates of obligations. No matter how exhausted I’ve been, I’ve tried to keep up with work, chores, drag, podcasts, vending, emails, and other Thesperience-related projects… but I’ve been unable to keep up.  Slowly but surely, I’ve been putting down the plates as I try to take care of myself.  No drag shows, no murder mysteries, no live streams, and no script writing.  I’ve been stepping away from anything that isn’t focused on my mental health journey.  

It took a message from a social media friend reaching out to give some encouragement, including telling me about their experience with “Jar of Rebuke”. One of the things they said was that Jar of Rebuke and Jared helped them (and others) realize that it’s okay to not be okay…

Wouldn’t it be hypocritical of me to not take care of myself when I'm writing Jared’s journey of self-exploration and breaking free from unhealthy habits, restrictions, and connections?

So, I’m going to practice what I’ve preached.  As excited as we’ve been about returning in October, unfortunately that will have to be postponed.  I need time to step away from as many obligations as possible so I can focus on my recovery.  

“Jar of Rebuke” season 3 will be debuting in 2025!  This will give me and other cast & crew members to focus on ourselves and our health, both mental and physical.  We also hope that anyone else going through a hard time will take the time they need to take care of themselves.

The world is so much better for all y’all being in it. <3

If you’re looking for more entertainment during this extended break, we encourage you all to also check out our cast & crew members to see whatever other cool stuff they’re involved in!

[thatstormygeek]

My partner is a software developer who evangelizes for test-driven development. We celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary by getting tattoos and this is the one he chose.

(artist. and h/t to this post where he found it)

something that is always so cool to me is scientists who have tattoos of their niche studies. like. people who have their favourite lesser-talked-about animal or bug. botanical illustrations of their favourite native plants. math equations. maps. fault lines. weather graphs. it's unbelievably metal to me

[m0ther-fvcker]

get in loser, I’m taking you out to get fast food and then I’m going to fuck you in the back of my car

[greenteacryptid]

THE GAYS LOVE JOAN OF ARC!!