#mentally ill shitty person show is insane to me and also why do I relate to him so hard I hate myself aha anyways

[milo-is-rambling]

Realizing the three men I relate to most (and hate myself for relating to) are Rick Sanchez, BoJack Horseman, and my own dead father was not the realization I was expecting to have tonight but okay

[why-this-kolaveri-machi]

the wolf should’ve been afraid of me.

Titans 3.04

just under the wire! ... i hope.

like with the previous review, i’m typing this up as i see the episode. here we go!

spoilers ahead.

1. ... well. that was an interesting cold open.

1.25. i don’t know whether to admire this show’s restraint when it comes to gotham and its excesses, particularly arkham asylum. it’d be easy to go hammer and tongs, like suicide squad (2016) did, or any number of bat media did, at a tropey, colourful~~insanity~~ that can be quite damaging, casting mental illness in strangeness and criminality. it definitely shows gotham as... separate from the rest of the country, its own ecosystem of heroes and villains, a sort of rogue state. 

but that ecosystem is still human, with its heroes needing to clip parts of themselves away just to survive, growing old and needing to be recycled, its villains languishing in the same kinds of systems that fail everybody else who needs to be helped. it’s a quieter, tenser sort of wrongness: not strange enough that you can dissociate, but not close enough that you can completely empathise. gotham is its own creature.

1.5. i know that the reasoning behind this is more doylist than anything, but i’m so glad that joker was killed off with little fanfare right at the start of the season. he is the one man in the batverse that’s transcended its confines as this sort of ethereal boogeyman/eternal edgelord and to justify his presence in the series would mean giving him this tired, overblown importance and too much of a stab at colourful, tropey “madness” in this otherwise-subdued series. i wish all batmedia would follow suit and get rid of this fucker.

1.75. so jason is bucking scarecrow’s control! or reminding him of who exactly holds all the cards right now. circling back to what i talked about in the last review, it’s remarkable just how little time it’s been since jason’s “death” and he’s already got ‘minions’ and elaborately set up plans to track, break and kill the titans. just how long has he been planning this? when did he first look at WE weapons prototypes and think that’s something i can use to blow somebody up? and the most unsettling question: did he plan his own death at the hands of the joker just so that he could break batman?

at this point it’s obvious that the scarecrow at least started jason down this path, but it’s frightening just how far he’s travelled already.

1.8. aaagh, less than one minute in! i’ll shut up. 

2. conner washing his hands at the sink reminds me that he was directly in the line of explosion when hank got blown up and he’s probably got atomised hank-bits all over his skin that he’s desperately trying to wash off.

... you’re welcome.

2.25. conner, don’t you speak to gar fucking logan like that, sir, no!

2.3. if anything it’s the lex part of him that gave him the knowhow to recognise the weapon and build a de-activator for it. 

anyway, for that ‘half-breed’ and ‘talking tiger’ comment?

(i wish, tho, that we actually see conner more interested in the superman part of his legacy, like maybe listening to stories from gar, or even better, dick, so we get a better idea of the pressure he’s feeling to live up to that part of him and not the part that’s lex.)

((i talked about conner’s stages of moral development in his introductory episode last season, but i wonder if the next stage of his self-actualisation would be to further integrate the parts of himself and realise that they are only parts and he, conner, is an entirely different person unto himself that can make decisions on how to use what he has and what he knows. his superman abilities can be used to destroy. his lex knowledge can be used to save.))

3. oh dawn :((

3.25. is this the last we see of dawn and hank? i mean, we know donna is coming back; would it be a stretch to think they’ll try to have a go at resurrecting hank as well?

3.5. “deathstroke didn’t make us into killers.” good, because deathstroke didn’t make jason a killer either. there’s a missing step there you need to be looking for, dick. 

3.75. dick did try to break the cycle, step away from gotham, run from the possibility that he could turn into batman. it didn’t help; he couldn’t fully withdraw from his vigilante persona the same time he loathed it, and batman literally haunted him both asleep and awake. but maybe gotham doesn’t have to turn anybody into anything. maybe gotham has nothing to do with it at all. it’s about taking responsibility, realising some sacrifices are pure bullshit, and building an actual family instead of merely a team.

anyway: hugs!

(oh, also? mr “i hate flying”? i mean, there’s perfectly valid reasons to hate flying that’s not related to childhood trauma, but then again, this guy was literally a ‘flying grayson’ once. also also, remember that he also gets sea-sick. must’ve a lot of fun stories to tell.)

4. ooh that gar/kory confrontation was brief but cool!

listen, i have never seen a psychiatrist with that extravagant an office and SIR I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW--

4.5. kory’s so unused to reaching out for help and it’s breaking my heart that HPG likely is some kind of impostor that’s maybe causing her symptoms in the first place. 

kory and dick have mostly been apart this season but it’s remarkable how their journeys have paralleled each other; kory processes her grief, isolation and existential dread into a determination to take care of this new family she has, no matter what it takes; dick does much the same, forging ahead with plans and solutions until he has no fuel left in him and spirals into a massive breakdown.

4.25. listen titans this really is a TERRIBLE continuity error. we aren’t goldfish; we can clearly remember that two minutes ago it was gar’s upper arm that was burned, not his forearm. COME ON.

“sensory deprivation tank” *SNORT*

anyway, gar is the BEST

4.5. i wonder where these visions of experimentation took place. was it on tamaran, or on earth, after she came to hunt down rachel/trigon and before she lost all her memories? is HPG a part of the scientist group that experimented on her? ... god, i hope not. i mean, i think he is, but it would be cool to have some positive therapist representation in media. 

5. you’d think the van transporting a dangerous supervillain that only batman could catch would be more secure but... i’m also not entirely surprised. 

5.15. i love dick gives ZERO shits about hiding himself or even ensuring scarecrow is adequately contained. just turns away after kidnapping him in BROAD DAYLIGHT and says ‘let’s go’. I LOVE THIS DUMBASS

6. lmao gar is having a really really shitty day SOMEONE GIVE THIS MAN A BREAK or just a goddamn story arc of his own

6.5. i’m really confused about the timeline here. so... sometime ago, kory came down to earth to hunt down trigon, yeah? at some further point down the line she and her sister were kidnapped and experimented on. THEN she somehow escapes but... loses her memory? a few months pass and then we see blackfire alive and well and free; she kills faddei, can impersonate other people, and is clearly seeking out kory. but now she’s still in the experiment facility...? what’s going on?

i’m not entirely surprised about the facility being mostly deserted. either the biggest investors in this project gave up on it and it was left to the most fanatic to carry on, or they were deliberately trying to lure kory and get her to free blackfire--expand the environs of the experiment, so to speak.

7. hopefully barbara is going to get something to do other than listen to various men give her Attitude

8. how do you terrorise a terrorist? well:

i love when dick is a scary-competent motherfucker.

8.25. ooooh, the attack on crane at arkham a ploy to get crane to blackgate? nice one dick, i didn’t even think of that. but why though? to protect crane from the titans? to intercept the van to blackgate and “rescue” him? seems likely--red hood was there, except dick got to crane quicker.

9. still reeeallly unclear about the komand’r situation. was komand’r captured after s2? is this all A TRAP?? if so, why are you stepping into the only thing that can contain you, kory????

9.25. so... definite parallels between dick/jason and kory/kom here. i’m just. i’m still. really confused. i’ll shut up now.

10. this may be my favourite dick look yet:

woodsman!dick in a beanie.

10.5. i unironically love how titans has made this bizarrely-devoted-to-his-moniker, toxin-spewing supervillain into a tamer version of hannibal, psychoanalysing his victims into submission. it’s of a piece with how inward looking titans is, the way all of its villains are obsessed with how our protagonists’ minds work, to the point where they would actually spend time inside of them. 

there are no big plots to end the world. no apocalypses or endgames here. these villains collect the titans’ insecurities like infinity stones. the way the titans defeat them is by achieving character growth--literally winning by the power of love. literally “the real superpower is the friends we made along the way”!

10.7. anyway, i’m betting dick is used to this bullshit from crane and is humouring him in the service of getting more information. the story about the wolf? an implicit threat, not to mention dick getting to control what crane knows about him and what methods he would use to manipulate him.

am i giving dick too much credit here? i don’t think so. he’s really impressed me so far this season.

10.75. like. there’s a real unreliable narrator vibe coming off with every person that talks about bruce (much like how the various members of the titans talked about jason’s motivations) and to buy into crane’s talk about bruce being a psychopath is to fall for the same manipulation that jason fell for. dick is the only person who hasn’t really psychoanalysed bruce this season, and i think some part of his detective brain is piecing things together into a bigger picture.

11. i’m glad kory rescued kom but did she have to kill the scientist?

(i mean, yeah, probably - the less people know that kom escaped the less likely they’re going to have the fucking govt on their doorstep, but still.)

11.5. dick’s gonna come back to wayne manor, stare straight at komand’r and go, well which room would you like? because the team might as well adopt ANOTHER person, yeah?

12. oh MAN that red hood/nightwing fight was AMAZING! and he did the thing! the boomerang escrima thing! i’m so delighted!

12.5. the anger and disbelief in dick’s voice when he says you told crane EVERYTHING?! tells me that he knew exactly what he was telling crane himself.

12.75. “everything you are is because of him” - oh that reminds me of halluci!bruce from last season. i hope we see halluci!bruce again--he is so vicious but so entertaining... so much more effective at tearing dick down than crane or jason combined. goes to show that dick’s biggest enemy is own fucking head.

12.8. oh no! dick’s shot! crane is in the wind with red hood! blackfire is now with the titans! i love it!

honestly this season’s pacing is such a big step up from the last couple. gold star, show.

[initiumseries]

CAOS Part 3 - review

Uh, okay, so I think by now, we all know this show is terrible. Netflix gives showrunners a lot of creative freedom, and I think, for better writers, you could get some really interesting content, but they just seem to keep giving these assholes who wrote the travesty called Riverdale, so many opportunities to make more shitty television, and I feel like they really deserve to be limited in their ability to create/write if not stopped completely and thrown into a well with Julie Plec.  Anyway, I’ll try to break this down as best as I can into different piles of shit and this will contain spoilers:

Characters

Prudence and Ambrose

So, to be really honest, I watch this show exclusively for Prudence and Ambrose. Because, well, look at them: 

I wish they had more chemistry because they are super hot together, and I still ship it. A young Black couple? On TV? In this sea of shitty interracial relationships? I’ll take it. Anyway, of course, the progression of their relationship is ridiculous and frustrating. Ambrose decides at the last minute, not to kill Father Blackwood because he has a weird time egg thing that they don’t really understand, also he has the twins under some weird mind control for no clear reason, so they stay their hands. It doesn’t make sense, but it becomes clear, Father Blackwood has an insane amount of plot armour and ultimately would have to serve as a vessel for Satan. Father Blackwood uses the manipulated mind of the other weird sister to sic her on the coven, and she ends up killing Dorkus, whom Prudence finds. She then blames Ambrose for not allowing her to kill FB, and they break up. Now...this would kinda make sense, if not for the fact that they trapped one of the pagan witches and forced her to change everyone back, but no one bothered to do anything about the mentally ill witch who you all strapped up for a reason? Lol ok. Seems like an oversight on your part Prudence, but...okay. Clearly manufactured breakups are exhausting, especially since [young] Black couples with no serious relationship dysfunction are now an endangered species. It’s also frustrating because we barely got to see them....*be* together, especially after they returned home. 

Nick & Sabrina

So, I know from the beginning, we were supposed to believe that Nick and Sabrina had that kind of, Bad Guy, seduces the girl Good Girl, luring her into the dark side, hot, intense, passionate relationship. But their lack of chemistry and really shitty acting just made them really dry (which I get into here). I don’t believe them, and I definitely don’t believe that Sabrina would, once again, break a shit ton of rules to get Nick back. I just don’t buy that they had that kind of an intense, desperately in love, kind relationship, because they do not look all that comfortable around each other, much less in love. 

I personally find Sabrina utterly unlikeable as a main character, largely because who IS she? She has no personality, she just does whatever the plot needs her to do in the moment, and the actress makes Sabrina appear smug and unremorseful while she fucks up everyone’s lives. There is a lot of exposition of everyone telling us she’s this power hungry, manipulative character, but we never see that. She just does stuff and everyone is all “Sabrina how could you?!” and there are never, ever any consequences. I would have liked to see her push so hard to get Nick back and the struggle being, sure she wants him back, but mostly she’s doing it because she can. But that’s not what happens. 

So Nick ends up in this weird drug addiction, alcohol, sex demon spiral because he has parts of Satan still in him and it all just falls so flat and lame, because this show is SO bad at pacing, and these actors suck, so nothing is believable. The idea of him scrubbing his club foot, having nightmares, suffering PTSD, is fine, the execution was trash. Nick sees Caliban and Sabrina have one interaction and he’s like WELL, GUESS I GOTTA CHEAT. And just ends up in some S&M situation with sex demons and heavily self medicating, but none of this has any weight, and we don’t really see him...spiralling. He just immediately resorts to these things and it has no real impact on anyone or even him really, and that’s it. 

Harvey and Roz

Uh, they’re probably the most confusing match here, because there is no lead up to their relationship, there’s not suggestion, there’s no pacing. Just BOOM, we’re into each other now. BOOM, Roz is the only sexually active person in her friend group (lol of course the Black girl is sexually active. Gotta maintain white innocence at all costs), so she’s just ready to jump Harvey’s bones any second now. So of course, the show punishes her by having the pagans turn her to stone. And as if that’s not bad enough...

Which I talk about here and here, because honestly I’m just sick of this show’s antiblackness.  Theo & that other guy

So I was watching this unfold like, yeeaahh, they’re gonna make the trans guy get with the enemy aren’t they? And yes, they did. Cool, they didn’t kill him off, but I’m still perplexed at how Theo isn’t even a little upset that this guy was basically sent to infiltrate his friend group and sat by while his people harmed Theo’s friends, and also...used him? Like...we just...are gonna...gloss over that because he changed his mind? Lol ok. Sure.

Mambo Marie and suddenly Zelda?

I...I mean her name is Mambo Marie. I love the idea of Black witches finding Black spirituality and magicks through Vodun and a Hatian Priestess. But they quickly undo that, by ensuring that Mambo Marie only teaches Prudence in the presence of these white witches. And we see her...doing...an African drum circle (eye roll), only to be interrupted by the High Priestess of White Feminism, Zelda Spellman. It quickly devolves into thinly veiled racism where Zelda doesn’t trust Marie because she’s Catholic (says the woman who worships Satan, has an anti Pope and prays to Lilith with the same prayer for Mary mother of Jesus? LOL. Not even unpacking the fact that Vodun is an African spirituality having 0 roots in catholicism WHITE WRITERS). Then suddenly, out of nowhere, Marie and Zelda are a thing for no reason? After the way Zelda treated her? Why did Marie even stay? This isn’t her problem. This is a white witch problem. Okay. That’s too much to unpack. 

Plot

So, my biggest problem with almost all Netflix English programming is that they are so obsessed with aesthetics, and don’t pay enough attention to actual character chemistry, plot, story flow, details, pacing etc. Like...things that actually make stories interesting to watch. So they slap all these people together and throw them into aesthetically pleasing backgrounds, shake it up with so much exposition that nothing actually happens, and are like BEHOLD A STORY. And CAOS is *especially* guilty for this.

First of all those musical breaks were annoying as fuck. Musicals serve 2 story functions: advancing the plot or telling a story. These musical numbers did neither and were honestly ridiculously gratuitous, highly annoying and totally pointless.

What time of year is this? Why are we having pep rallies and how the fuck and when did Sabrina and Roz join the cheeleading squad, and why?

for the aesthetics and not for any real plot reason. It just seems stupid because now I don’t know how much time has passed between Nick going to hell and this, because you’re all handling it like it’s been a few weeks and is still relatively fresh, but suddenly, Theo, Harvey and Roz are in a garage band? You’re a cheerleader? For what? Since when? Why? These choices introduce more questions than they answer and serve no narrative purpose. So much wasted time on shit that doesn’t matter. 

Sabrina is supposed to be fighting Caliban (who is literally the only person she has chemistry with on this show and they killed him bc ofc they did), for her seat on the throne, and yet the trials only seem to come up when it’s convenient, and also seem to be directly related to her dealings with her coven, which is also convenient.  I’m so confused about Satan. His powers come from being a celestial being, and so, because his coven mistreats him he’s like...lol okay, well fuck you guys and goes through all these convoluted small motions to greatly inconvenience them and withdraws his powers? This is so petty and pathetic. Also, what’s the point? He could just wipe them out and start over, instead of skulking around inside FB then suddenly decides to track down Lilith. Again, convoluted. This plot is all over the place. Why does Satan need Sabrina to be Queen of Hell in the first place? He seems perfectly healthy. Why can’t he just rule it? Like...that makes no sense. What is he gonna do? Retire? WHAT is going ON?

How did Sabrina come back in time to herself stuck in stone? Is that trip to Pontius Pilate (lol) supposed to have created a loophole for her to save herself and everyone? This is giving me hardcore Twilight Breaking Dawn vibes, where, the show finally, FINALLY gets interesting, there’s real stakes, shit is actually happening instead of everyone talking about things happening (Hilda ending up killing her fiance was literally the only time I felt something watching this show because it was genuinely sad, and well acted, and Hilda coming through with that doll at the end was pretty disturbing, I’ll give them that), and ofc, Sabrina goes back in time and undoes it all. Lol. Okay. God forbid there be real consequences to anything on this show.

Final thoughts

Once again, the white feminism runs high on this show. They treat this Black Vodun Priestess Marie, like garbage, allude to her “foreign” magic, but Marie is sitting here like “we’re not men, we’re women, let’s work together.” This is why I hate white writers writing for Black characters. Black characters should have Black motivations, and a Black Vodun Priestess, should know that white women and Black women do not have aligned motivations just because they share a gender. Once they started with the bullshit right from her arrival, she should have handed Prudence her card and peaced tf out. Instead she tolerates the isolation, ostracization and thinly veiled racism...and decides to stay, and help. WHY? Marie has gained nothing by sticking around helping these ungrateful ass witches. I honestly would have preferred Prudence asking her to stay to learn more about Vodun, and them building a mentor/mentee type of relationship, especially since Prudence was the one who invited her and stepped to Zelda to defend her. I want(ed) to see that relationship go somewhere. The deliberate denial of healthy Black female friendships on tv is frustrating.

 These witches finally finding their power in their ancestors and I donno, some female creator or whatever, reminds me of white women “finding” wicca and praying to “Gaia”, (reminds me of BTVS s4 when Willow joins the wicca group) which is basically what happened but lol okay whatever. I guess they aren’t satanic witches anymore. Lol, I love how Harvey and Roz and Theo are teenagers, human teenagers, who have lead largely normal teenage lives up until this point, but see their loved ones tortured, deformed or murdered in hell, with basically no residual issues, and are all like, YES, let’s roll up on these adults with shotguns and swords and kill the FUCK outta these people!! That absolutely sounds normal! Like...what? Lol. God this is just so bad.

Also, I’m so confused by this aesthetic choice for Sabrina as Queen of Hell. Like what the fuck. Why is she dressed like a Victorian era queen, with shoulder and a broken rib bodice? What?!

This show is truly awful, this season made no more sense than the last two and now that Prudence and Ambrose aren’t together, I might be done watching. 

-20/10

[aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaoldretired]

some p!g-drv3 theories (spoilers obvi)

First of all I think people demonize the pg versions wayyy too much because its a good way to be le sexy in like fanfictions. And i get it, villains are hot or whatever. and also hs is a horny age to be. But even the edgiest and horniest of teens aren’t like. that sexual/monstrous. its kind of insane the portrayals people are placing

maybe this could also be like me being older bc when i was early hs i was like yea its fair to place these super mature portrayals on a 18-22 year old they are like adults but young and now im that age and im like woah there pardner. might be an age/maturity thing. 

also like its normal for people to relate to and portray characters their same age in a similar fashion, but when adults write more sexual content about the dg kids i get hella fucking sus

idk where i was going with that first comment i guess its like a preface and in the end i think its important when characters especially teenage characters are morally grey not because they’re mature and dark/brooding but because they are still young and learning. fuck im older than like most of them, but im still young and learning. its good to be in turmoil and confused, especially the drv3 cast. they are more confused than anything.

which i think is a reason why people would join dr because if you are completely loss and in turmoil, it is appealing to be given a purpose in life and amazing talents/abilities. despite the morals of danganronpa, it is a simple reality to be told who you are and what to do

OK ONTO HEADCANONS (not doing all bc i dont have thoughts about all)

first of all i understand changing stories but i think, deep down, you can’t change fundamental personalities/values. so while the backstories might be different i think, in the end, a baseline is always the same

SHUICHI being a Bad Boy is like canon obviously but i dont think he’s as manipulative as people make him out to be. i think he falls in the more the bully role that like. mae borowski or tf2′s scout filled before they grew up. rough background, bad anger issues, lots of emotional turmoil, and the only way he knows how to deal with shit is by committing crimes and beating the shit out of people. and, similar to those characters, drv3 represents an older, more emotionally sober yet equally confused version of himself. the urges are still there as foreshadowed in the dialogue. i think he struggles with guilt, mostly survivors, but there is still a lasting impact of guilt of what he did in his past, even if he can’t remember.

KOKICHI is a child. a piece of shit motherfucker child but a child. I really do think he’s like one of the youngest people in the cast. he reminds me a lot of when my brother doesn’t take his adhd medicine and takes jokes way too far and does mean and cruel things because he thinks its funny and that its just a fun joke, but is hurting people. he desperately wants approval, which is why his leader role is so interesting because in the dr narrative he has the approval he craves and so he is satisfied. still, he does try to impress characters like rantaro and values his opinions a lot, even developing a brotherly relationship in the time they knew each other. this being said, its established kokichi was bullied before, but i dont think he’s like. the wimp people make him out to be. i think he’s more of like the class clown who desperately uses humor to make people like him, and ends up resorting to be the butt of most of his jokes. you don’t just develop a good sense of humor out of a brainwash, and that’s not something you can program in. i think that was a remnant of before, and he’s so good at bullying people and coming up with roasts - i just think that in p!g the roasts were about him.

KAEDE is baby but her p!g personality seriously reminds me of any ~quirky/edgy~ girl in a teen coming of age story who tries to be edgy and cool and act like she doesn’t care but deep down, she really does. if she didn’t have an empathetic personality, she wouldn’t want to end the game. i also think she has that self-identifying QuIrKy personality because its like she lives in her own narrative, practically announcing this story is about her and she is the protagonist. i know i used to self narrate like that and distinguish how i was different when i was like. 15-16. she has a tumblr. 

I really like the theory where KAITO is a make-a-wish kid who was better when he was younger but relapses later in teens. he never used his wish before, so he decides to use it now to be on danganronpa and become the hero he always wanted to be. i also think he might have joined as a way to raise awareness about adolescent healthcare. definitely the type who puts on a “heroic” character to make everyone else feel better about the fact he is literally dying of a terminal illness, and keeps that act up till the end. 

i think KOREKIYO is still a serial killer. i think honestly a reason why he mightve auditioned for danganronpa is because he is a serial killer. maybe his sister found out and he felt so much shame that’s why he auditioned. he probably mentioned why in his interview because duh, tell them im a serial killer and then only reason im coming clean is my sister found out and im ashamed, that is like a guarantee to get on the show.  i LOVE the theory that his sister is still alive, however, and has to watch her brother go insane because they wrote her into the story as the villain. because technically, she brought on this guilt, and is the reason why he auditioned - as a way to cause despair, twist it around so she’s the one to blame for his insanity. also, because its pretty accepted DR members become celebrities, kork’s sister is totally bombarded with paparazzi and is demonized in the media. she might end up writing a tell-all memoir about kork’s actual childhood and personality. quiet kid, thoughtful, interested in anthropology, she never thought he’d hurt a fly. watching her brother go insane probably destroyed her. 

I also think, timeline wise, kork is probably one of the oldest members along with rantaro. tbh i think kork actually graduated hs and went on a gap year doing the whole “hitchhike around the world to discover myself thing” which is where he began killing people. he was getting ready to go to college when his sister found out about what he did. this is when he decided to go on danganronpa instead of university. this would help explain why he knows so much about other cultures/travel/been so many places with so many memories/killed/is knowledgable on a level most other students are not. this would place him at like, 20-21, where everyone else is like 15-18.

ok so there’s two p!g RANTARO, p!g before 53 and p!p!g before 52. i’d like to establish now i think rantaro is the oldest of the characters, seeing as though he was already pretty old to begin with in 52, it takes time between television seasons, and he was in another game. so im placing him like 21-23, similar to yasuhiro in d1 being so much older than everyone else. i do think, in all iterations, rantaro was pretty much raising his sisters, though i don’t think he had twelve like the story (i think that’s an exaggeration, his sisters mean a lot to him, lets make him have a TON and then lose them all and feel GUILTY) rantaro joined the first game, partially to get money for his family and hopefully establish them as celebrities and let them have a comfy lifestyle, even if he doesn’t live...and also to finally ahve some sort of experience without his siblings tagging along. if he’s been raising his sisters all his life, he’s never had like something that’s JUST his. that’s his adventure. 52 is his ULTIMATE adventure. ahaha. mostly for money, kind of dreading it, still a tiny bit excited

ok p!g rantaro between 52 and 53 probably came back broken. he did the signings and appearances, but mostly wanted to spend time with his family and make sure they were set up. i think he knew the whole like few months between seasons he had to go on another show, but he did’t tell his sisters. his family found out when they saw a billboard with his face plastered on it hyping up the return of a fan favorite. yikes!

ok i get it a lot of people hate HIMIKO but i think she’s not nearly as similar as other “useless” characters in other games. its like, pretty clear she’s depressed, and the only thing she’s holding onto with dear life is magic. lack of hygiene, lack of personal care, constantly tired, social interaction exhausts - she has depression, but she’s not an UWU depressed character. so people find her depressive traits (which are some of the most realistic portrayals of mental health in the series) SUPER annoygin. she joined dr because she was completely lost and needed some sort of direction in her life, even if she’ll die for it. the thing is, even with direction, her mental state didn’t change because she wasn’t getting legitimate help. it’s like that one SNL skit that’s like. same sad you from before but in a new place. i also think she knows the magic is not real, because how could she not. i think she’s so adamant that it IS real, less as a way to convince others, and more of a way to convince herself. it’s like really super cruel that team danganronpa took a girl who is desperate for meaning and gave her literally a meaningless, fake talent.

i also kin himiko and find her a comfort character because i feel seen by her, replacing her useless talent of magic with mine of like shitty film making and comedy. i am seen.

related i don’t think she’s nearly as ugly as everyone says she is, i think she’s probably just depressed and takes absolutely no care of her hygiene and sleep and looks like sick and greasy all the time. same queen.

honest to god i think RYOMA’s backstory, tennis and all, is like 100% real and he’s the only one who keeps all of his memories except for the fact this is a tv show. i think he rolled up, a hot fucking mess, and the danganronpa team were like damn. we cannot improve upon this. 

[neurotic-prayer]

sorry ill edit in a read more when im on my computer again but i just had a panic attack in my car and needed to vent :) :) :)

cw abusive ex shit and general mental collapse relating to an ex / a breakup

okay i thought wednesday and thursday were bad after finding out that ***** moved back but im straight up having a fucking breakdown about my ex moving back to portland without warning! like logically yes i worked through all of it a million times and was like “this sucks but i’m fine” but i think it finally Truly hit my emotional side and now i cant feel my body and am. thinking some Bad Thoughts and there’s literally NOTHING i can do about it

and i feel so fucking insane so fucking awful i can’t handle this and i know im being stupid but also im not!?!? it’s literally Not unreasonable for me to be upset that this person made a series of calculated and intentional decisions to move back here (where i am stuck and cannot get away) with absolutely no warning let alone any amount of courtesy for the fact that this shit is actively going to fuck me up because he doesn’t think his actions have effects on me unless he Wants to hurt me like newsflash asshole! i know you think that a year without contact is your choice to be the Mature Healthy Adult (despite you literally disrepecting Every Single Time in the last TWO YEARS i tried to do that) but you fucking reappearing in the small ass city you know i’m stuck in with absolutely zero fucking notice is going to fucking have an effect on me, whether or not you talk to me about it!!!! that’s still something that is a conscious (and in this context kinda shitty!!!) move on your part that is an actively harmful action towards me and the LEAST you could’ve done is fucking warned me that i wouldn’t get to have a single. year. without you looming over me like this!! fuck!

like don’t get it twisted im not claiming that im the only one of us allowed here or that i have some exclusive Right to live in portland (like honestly he can have it i have been actively counting down the days until i can go back to chicago since i got on the train in january) i’m just really fucked up about apparently being the last person to find out about this and having all of my friends tell me that they assumed i knew about it and just wasn’t wanting to talk about it! like they all are SO aware of how fucked up that whole situation had (and has!!) me that they didn’t say ANYTHING about him being here because they assumed that i wasn’t bringing it up for a reason! and the fact that he just. shows up again with absolutely No Fucks Given about what happened (and what is continuing to happen Because of things he did) and gets to be the Fun Carefree Playboy while i c o n t i n u e to have this shit just destroyyyyy me is so incredibly unfair and it makes me hate having to wake up and live my life literally every single fucking day!!! i have so much on my plate as is!!! but he never lets the wound heal before its reopened and gets shit rubbed in it again, but i’m the only one who has to deal with it and that’s so fucking insane to me. i have not yet gotten to have a life without this shit hanging over my head and he just refuses to see that and see the damage that’s done to me! but the minute he decides he wants to fuck other people again he just... gets to do that! no consequences! no repercussions! it’s not fair! i feel like a selfish toddler throwing a tantrum saying that but it’s literally not! fair! that he refuses to acknowledge any of it, let alone take ANY responsibility for it! and that was hard enough when he was across the country but now he’s living less than two fucking blocks from me and my friends are running into him everywhere and now i’m finding myself fucking paranoid and scared to go to the grocery store or the park or anywhere or even DRIVE because i know that seeing him out of the blue will fucking! break me right now! how is that fair! how is that healthy! how is that helping US move on when he’s the only one that ever benefits from his decisions! why is he the only one that gets to make decisions ever! why were my decisions consistently disrespected and straight up violated at times when i’m supposed to understand and respect his! why does he respect me less than /literally/ every other person in his life? and how am i supposed to move on from the fact that someone i loved so deeply and intensely doesn’t even treat me like a human being? when the entire situation i’m trying to “move on from” follows me everywhere and doesn’t let me breathe? how is this fair! how the fuck am i supposed to live like this! how the fuck am i supposed to live like this how the fuck am i supposed to live like this

[wulferson]

i saw a post earlier that is incredibly relevant™ and let me fucking say if you fucking think it’s okay to use your mental illness as an excuse for shit you need to stop right the fuck now because it is so fucking manipulative and shitty and there is no excuse for that, and it really made me think of all the shit that’s been going on with me aside from the fucking ADHD - more under the cut (tw: emotional abuse, self harm mention)

The past few weeks have been absolute fucking hell for me, leading up to the last couple of days being a disaster. For years I have been friends with somebody, and we used to get along so well, but we grew apart. I’ll admit, I was never perfect, and I used to do some shitty things a long time ago, but I grew up and realized my mistakes. I thought we were happy and fine for such a long time, and didn’t realize that for fucking years now I’d been emotionally abused and manipulated.

She has anxiety and depression, and I get it, it’s hard. I have anxiety, I’ve been depressed, I know the feeling. However, I didn’t fucking use that against anybody the way she did with me. Maybe I did when I was younger, and that was shitty of me - I was stupid as a kid, and kids do stupid things, but like I said I grew and I learned, and I stopped doing that kinda thing.

She told me that she felt like I didn’t care anymore, and I told her time and time again that I did and that I was trying to fix the issues between us. She still refused to believe me and just said that I didn’t care, didn’t want to fix it. About a year and a half ago, she tried to break it off with me, and I wasn’t ready. I really couldn’t bear with the thought of her leaving - even though it would have been the healthiest thing for me. We got back together, it was fine for a bit - and then the cycle began again. Again and again and again, we always came back to shitty stupid fight, make up, be nice for a while, something dumb happens and another shitty fight ensues. And it would repeat. She always fucking pinned the blame on me, every single time.

I’m not perfect and I know that, but I was trying so fucking hard to be good for her. I would take time out of my day to hang out with her, and I would let her know if I was gonna be busy with something for a few days so she knew why I wasn’t able to hang out or something. This was never fucking enough for her, though. She always had to pull up how lonely she was when I’d do something with friends, she’d always (like i said before) tell me it really seemed like I never cared and I really don’t understand where the hell she was even coming from with this. I constantly showed her that I cared about her, I did so much for her and she just didn’t acknowledge it in the long run.

She also just... always had to know what I was doing. She would tell me that she didn’t, but she always asked “what’s up, what’s going on,” etc., etc. I added two of my friends from school on Steam and she got so pissed that I didn’t fucking tell her right away. The same happened when I was DM’d by somebody in a server over Runescape and I didn’t tell her until she saw it on a screenshare. Like, it was a brief message where we literally just talked about some Runescape, but apparently I was the bad guy for not telling her right away that I got a message from some random person I don’t even really know.

Kind of related to knowing what I was doing (I guess), she felt very controlling, and I just brushed it off for such a long time. I wouldn’t even take a sip of the slightest bit of alcohol at 21 because I knew she’d be so fucking disappointed/angry that I willingly did that without being pressured.

We hit another one of our stupid fights earlier this week, and she had already been kind of mad about the fact that I was involved with more people since getting back on tumblr while she didn’t have anybody with the same dynamic. I offered for her to make friends with my friends on several occasions, and I offered for her to come join me with all the Hollow Knight stuff (even though she hadn’t finished the game), and she’d always say her anxiety got in the way. I understand that social anxiety is very hard to combat, and I don’t blame her for that. What angers me is that she would still get mad at shit like me getting gift art of my OC or the fact that i was “doing shit for other people” when I had requests going and shit.

I finally worked up the courage the other night to end it after she fucking came onto my blog without telling me, looked through several pages of it, and got pissed off at a silly doodle I did of a friend that I posted but didn’t show her right away. She argued like hell with me for a while, and eventually turned it into a whole “you don’t care this shows you don’t care you’re being sneaky about shit you’re doing” bblblaabalblaa. I have nothing to hide, but she had me so stressed out about even being with my school friends and hanging out that I was afraid to share shit i was doing with her. Should I have done that? No, but god was I fucking afraid to piss her off or upset her. The amount of times “I want to kill myself” has been said to me in the context of an argument is so high I can’t actually count it.

She realized at this point that I was at my wit’s end, and I was ready to end it. She starts fucking pulling all the “we were gonna do this together, and we had plans” bullshit, starts sending pictures of all the old art we’ve done for each other and just... really starts fucking guilt tripping me into not breaking it off, and making it insanely fucking hard.

Later that night she tells me “hopefully there will be room in my life for you again, I’m sorry I’ve been such a problem” after going on about how sweet and kind of a person I am. I thought that would have been the end of it, but after a day of not hearing from her she came back immediately accusing me of being the reason the entire relationship went to shit. She literally said she hurt me because of the way I had hurt her, and that I have problems and my behavior ruined her as a person. She’s going on and on about how I never cared, and I never wanted to fix the issues and all I want to do is run away from them. No, I tried so fucking hard to save this relationship. 

I was never quick to blame her for my issues like she did to me. I physically fucking hurt myself over how shitty I thought I was to her, because I thought I genuinely deserved it because I was that terrible. Thing is though, even when she found out about that, I still didn’t blame her. I told her that I made the conscious decision to do that, and it was on me, not her. She came in so fucking quick blaming me the instant she messaged me.

The last thing I would have wanted was for it to be over, but now that it is, I feel so fucking free. I didn’t realize for years how fucking shitty and manipulative and downright abusive it was.

sorry if any of this is incoherent nonsense, it’s 6am and i’m still awake, so my typing isn’t the greatest right now

tl;dr: I’ve been part of a shitty abusive relationship without realizing for a very long fucking time, and it’s been killing me terribly for forever, but I finally broke it off and accepted that I can’t keep fucking living like a caged animal.

[animentality]

angry internet discourses animentality has (voluntarily and involuntarily) started

- i once said college isn’t as tough as they make it seem in high school, got a bunch of engineering/biology/STEM majors in the notes, whining about how easy social sciences and liberal arts are and how it’s pussies like me that are ruining the economy. 

- i said i thought a thirty year old man fucking a fifteen year old boy was gross. which is just totally unacceptable, right? not the fucking, that is, but my criticism of the fucking. 

- i also said fangirls shouldn’t fetishize fourteen/fifteen year old boys just because they’re boys, and had girls telling me that it’s ok when men do it to girls, so why can’t they “reclaim” their sexualities or something...these are fucking 30 year old women fantasizing about old men raping children in churches. but im the one who’s being gross, hmmm. 

-i once said i didn’t think people with mental illnesses should decide what mental illness they had based off a personality test they took on quizilla or what medications they should take at night based off of a list of symptoms they read off webmd. instantly got people saying im ableist and neurotypical because self-diagnosis is good....even though TRAINED PSYCHOLOGISTS FUCK THIS SHIT UP AND THEY STUDY THIS SHIT EXCLUSIVELY so why would a bunch of angsty hormonal teenagers be the experts on what pills they should be taking.

-also my url used to be mental insanime. got called ableist for referring to the word “insanity.” 

- said yuri on ice was a bad anime with a weak plot, sexualized “gay” characters, and had shitty animation, got called homophobic and transphobic. 

-ALSO related to yuri on ice, saw a post where it was suggested that yuri could be asexual...prompting thousands of fangirls to call the asexual girl who’d originally posted it a bitch for trying to “take their gay character away from them.”

because straight women own gay characters. not gay people, straight girls, that’s who gay character are for, right 

anyway, i said shame on all of  you assholes, and got called homophobic again for my troubles. 

-once joked about how bad the english in Knb was, got called racist against asians (I am Asian)

-got called a nazi for liking snk (I’m asian) 

- got called homophobic AND racist for not supporting the victuuri ship from yoi, a show i hate, whose characters i hate... because Victor is white, Yuri is Asian, and I’m Asian, so not supporting an interracial relationships makes me both homophobic, racist, and also transphobic because why not. 

- I said that officialhajimeisayama wasn’t the real hajimeisayama and got called a racist because my evidence was that the blog was in english...presumably it’s racist to imply japanese people can’t learn english...despite the fact that i said it was because the blog was written in very casual, american english that referred to memes and was written stylistically in a very meme-friendly teenage girl way.

- i then got blocked by officialhajimeisayama because i said in my tags that i couldnt believe people were dumb enough to believe she was really isayama (cuz a grown man would want to be called isamama? really?). 

she then said “how dare you hurt my followers like that” and then blocked me...and then deleted the post when she realized we are roughly the same in terms of follower count....whoops. 

always remember to pick fights with people who’re weaker than you, children. 

- a blogger named korracrat followed me some time ago and i followed her back, but then didn’t want to see her content anymore. i unfollowed her, and she IMMEDIATELY noticed and started badgering me about why i had unfollowed her. i was forced to lie and say it was an accident.

i did it again much later, only for the same thing to happen. 

then when i finally decided to cut the knot, i wrote a post about how i just wanted to be done with this person. 

she then sent herself anon hate, and swore that it was from me because she has some kind of tracker. 

yeah. 

someone literally sent herself anon hate, then claimed it was from me to make herself look like a poor innocent victim....

and i mean, im an asshole, but i don’t send anon hate. i like to fucking square up. 

- called donald trump a liar, got trump supporters reaaaaal mad. came to my blog to call me a libtard, a faggot, and someone who hates america

-talked about how i liked bernie sanders and got called a communist and a libtard 

-oh, i said that the ghostbusters remake wasn’t so bad and that people should give it a chance, got called a libtard, an idiot, and someone made reddit posts about me or something. 

-said that it’s sad that erwin (from snk) died, but can we talk about how (insert rant about armin). got angry erwin fans saying i was trying to detract from his death. 

- also was confused as to why junkrat has a summer skin in the winter, completely forgetting how hot it is in Australia during the winter...got accused of being...hemispherist? because someone who wrote a half-assed joke about junkrat’s summer skin forgot that it’s warm in australia all the time, im north america centric, ok. 

- said that trump is a liar again. got someone telling me everyone’s equal, im retarded for not taking advantage of my opportunities, and that he felt sad for me because im a dumb retard who doesn’t understand politics. k. 

- got told to kill myself for quite a few of the above. then argued over why you shouldn’t tell people to kill themselves.

and then got told that this is....policing. 

- said that the argument that “incest/rape/abuse is fine because it’s fictional!” is dumb because in the same breath, ya’lll will say representation matters.... when clearly fiction cannot matter for both arguments to be true. got called a bitch. 

- said tokyo ghoul was sexist, transphobic garbage, got TG fans upset because the idea that their manga is anything less than the sequel to the Christian Bible is akin to literary heresy. 

- said anime is sexist garbage, got people upset because im supposed to be an anime blog and talk about how hot husbandos are or whatever. 

- recently said that you shouldn’t ship tracer (lesbian character) with men, got told i was a retard who was trying to police people’s creativity or something...ironically, they’ve run amok on that post, but i have no interest in stopping them cuz guess what?

i don’t care anymore, why would i care about policing you? 

what purpose would that have?

you’re going to do it anyway, and i don’t have the time or heart to spare for you. 

policing doesn’t equal me saying, “lol you’re garbage.” 

I’m not stopping you. I’m not even trying to stop you.

I’m just expressing my general disappointment in you as a person.

A long time ago, I was very involved in trying to convince people that they should change their ways. 

But I’ve given up on this, and why?

Because this species is incorrigible. 

And it doesn’t matter, because we are well beyond the brink of salvation.

And it’s fine, it’s all fine.

But a man’s gotta complain, a man’s gotta bitch to get it out of his system, to make his life bearable, because he’s logical, because he’s got a natural talent for reasoning and maybe he’s a little compassionate too, so how can he cope with an irrational, amoral world?

by whining on his blog.

the fact that you are here is irrelevant.

you can stay or go. 

it doesn’t matter to me, at this point. 

i’ve reached transcendence, i have realized that i decide what you’re worth, in my world. 

that post can stay angry. 

you can argue until you’re blue in the face about how badly you wanna fuck tracer. 

if that’s how you cope with your inner loneliness and your desperate fear of the human condition, then fine by me, bb. 

we’re all dying, and i understand it better than you. 

and that’s fine. there’s no sin in being dumber than me. 

but the end statement, i mean, i don’t know why i ever bothered.

i was a dumb kid, i thought it mattered.

i was raised thinking i could help people. 

but damn, man, there’s no helping any of you.

and come on, we all have to admit it!

some of you aren’t worth helping. 

[shakespearerants]

Why Modern Y/A Literature Is Shit - Five Lists, A Rant, And A Conclusion

Let’s start with the lists, shall we? First, we have the typical overused y/a protagonists. There are:

1) the incompetent-but-pretty female protagonist. I’m talking about that “oh I’m not like other girls I hate makeup and I’m sooooo clumsy and also a nerd because I don’t like to party” girl, the one that always says she’s ugly but is described as stereotypically attractive. Usually white. Always gets the insanely attractive guy in the end. Relatable ™.

2) the mysterious bad boy that every girl wants a slice of. Usually either rich, a supernatural being, or involved in some sketchy shit. Has a Tragic Backstory™ that is unlocked by the female protagonist after little-to-none probing, maybe some bambi eyes, when the story is at the point where he would look like a real douche if his shitty behavior was left unexplained.

3) the female Leader of the Revolution. Usually white. Fights for Freedom and What Is Good, would actually be pretty ok in my books, if there weren’t…

4) the male love interest of the female Leader of the Revolution. Usually very flat character. We know exactly two thing about him: a) He’s Sexy b) He’s In Love. Sometimes there’s a small bonus and we also know that he has a Tragic Backstory™, usually involving something that is supposed to show that he and the female Leader of the Revolution are Soulmates or at least that they have History Together. And then there’s…

5) the Love Triangle. Im counting this as “one” main character because, lets be honest, most (read: all that I know) love triangles don’t have enough depth to justify analyzing all three parts separately. It goes like this: girl was Normal and had Best Male Friend who was In Love With Her since Forever, but Never Said Anything. Then Something Happens and Guy Two (the mysterious bad boy) shows up, usually quite out of the blue. He is Mysterious and Experienced and Interested In The Girl, who is suddenly Very Important for a Higher Cause. Then Best Male Friend Gets Jealous and Confesses His Feelings when confronted by the Girl. Then all there of them go on an Epic Quest together. A common variation of this is Girl meets two boys. One is Nice™ and one is Sexy™. HOW WILL SHE DECIDE???!11?? (also epic quest in the backround)

And then we have the supporting characters. Who are usually either…

1) the gay OR the racially diverse Best Friend of the Protagonist. Especially if it’s a male protagonist. BUT CAREFUL!!!!!111! He has to be a) male b) EITHER gay OR racially diverse, and c) ok with casually used homophobic/racist stereotypes

2) the Nerd Friend of the (usually male) protagonist. Wears glasses. Doesn’t know anything about sports. Easily hurt. Thankful™ for their Cool Protagonist Friend. Usually bullied. Knows stuff about: a) Star Wars b) Comics c) Lord of the Rings. If the author is really adventurous he also cosplays, usually as a LOTR character

3) the Best Girl Friend of the incompetent-but-pretty female protagonist. Usually very flat character. Comes out of nowhere to Give Advice and disappears back into the void. 

But the most annoying thing is that literally almost every y/a novel or series that you pick up in literally any bookstore/library can be assigned one of these general storylines:

1) the Your Are Different storyline. Girl is Normal™. Maybe has a Tragic Backstory™, but nothing too bad. Then Something Happens and she learns that she is Not Normal, by which I mean that she either has some sort of supernatural powers or that she is The Long Lost Princess or at very least The Chosen One. Then some love triangle comes to spiel, she has to Leave Her Old Life Behind and Save The World. Book ends with some sort of sappy love confession or her deciding which part of the love triangle she chooses. Sometimes seen with a male protagonist, but without the love triangle. 

2) the Love Triangle storyline. Well. I think it’s self-explanatory.

3) the Supernatural Shit Going On storyline. Someone (usually a guy) is the Chosen One. Chosen One has to fight in order to save some recently discovered world/their own world. Meets some friends who are usually two or more dudes and one super badass girl who is only there because Equality™ and is either the one who gets Possessed By The Evil or is the only one who has to be saved at one point in the story. If we have a female protagonist then she and the girl Hate Each Other For Literally No Reason until the protagonist Saves The Girl in some very dramatic way and they realize that the other is Actually Not That Bad. Female protagonist usually teaches girl about Feelings and maybe sets her up with That One Guy In The Group that she’s had a crush on for Literal Years but never made a move because Feelings Are For Babys or she was Scared And Didn’t Know What To Say To Him. 

4) the This Book Isn’t Like Other Books storyline. Some shit that doesn’t have anything to do with interpersonal relationships or at the most bullying is going on. Usually features a Controversial Protagonist™ (read: the one who started the deeply illegal or at least sketchy shit that’s going on and is also the muggle version of Voldemort, character wise). The (usually male) protagonist, who is also a social outcast, now has to work to Stop The Sketchy Shit that he started, but he Can’t Do It Alone. A group of three people (two boys, one pretty girl), who are also a part of the Popular Group At School, are somehow pulled into the shit and help the Controversial Protagonist™ Fix His Mistakes and Become A Better Person. Sometimes they become friends in the end. 

AND, because I can, have some shitty shitty plot devices.

1) the Love Triangle. It’s shitty and unnecessary in every way because it always features at least 3 of these things: bad writing. Heteronormativity. Exclusively white people. Disregard of the feelings of the female lead by at least one of the guys. Use of past traumatic experiences of one of the male leads to justify predatory and/or dangerous/possessive behavior. Related to that: use of mental illness/trauma solely to gain sympathy of the audience. Characters’ (specially the guys’) lives and decisions revolve around romantic/sexual relationships. Related to that: romanticization of unhealthy relationships. Enforcement of gender stereotypes. Objectification of the characters (especially the male characters). 

2) Miscommunication. I don’t even have to say anything, do I.

3) The One Friend In The Group That Betrays Them All And The Subsequent Fallout. WHY. WHY do authors feel the need to have one person in a close-knit group of friends betray everyone. I mean, it would even be THAT bad if most authors didn’t use it as a cheep method to create suspense for the final showdown, or kill off a character, or to distract from the fact that most villains in modern y/a literature are really flat characters with no real motives for their plans for world takeover or whatever it is they’re trying to accomplish by giving them a radicalized follower. 

4) the Love Confession When The Guy Either Thinks She’s Chosen Someone Else Or Is Being Separated From The Girl. Like. NO. Just no. Thats like THE cheapest way to create emotional conflict. Or to subtly manipulate your readers. Because that is essentially what the author is doing: guilt-tripping you into supporting a relationship, because unless that guy was a real douchbag, and if he WAS, 99% of the people who read that stuff will be like “OH MY POOR BBY JUST GOT HIS HEART BROKEN” and BAM, no one’s gonna argue that his feelings aren’t genuine, or say that he doesn’t deserve her, bc bitch did you read this he confessed to her when he thought he was never gonna see her again  

5) the Love Confession From Her Jealous Best Friend. Again, a cheep way to create emotional tension and gain sympathy from the reader. 

6) the Vaguely Sexual Encounter. Usually something comparatively innocent, like a heated kiss or make-out session, usually used to intensify emotional dilemma, either because of a love triangle (I really can’t stand love triangles) or because she shouldn’t be kissing the guy or something. And the thing is, it wouldn’t even be a bad thing if it weren’t completely misplaced (like, a day away from the final battle misplaced) in most cases, or worse: slutshaming. Or, worse still: the cringey sex discussion that ends in either slutshaming or kinda just fizzles out.   

7) the We’re Gonna Die But It’s Okay Because I Love You talk, usually delivered by the male lead to the female lead before all goes to shit. And honestly I have never read a book where this shit happened where they knew each other for more than four weeks. And lemme tell you there is nothing more unrealistic than a teenage dude giving a two-page talk about why he loves a girl that he’s known for a maximum of four weeks. I once read a book where this happened and they knew each other for three days and made out once and he literally gave that speech twice (no, I’m not taking about Romeo and Juliet). Like, do you authors understand the people you are writing books for? Do you have any idea how teenage relationships work? 

8) Bulling That’s Used As A Plot Device But Ultimately Stays Unresolved or, even worse, The People Who Bully Me Are (A Part Of) The Group I Have to Join To Save The World And Suddenly We’re Best Friends. THIS. THIS is almost worse than the fucking love triangle shit. Because lemme tell you something: If bullying isn’t stopped, if the bullies don’t face consequences for their actions, then guess what? IT’S NOT GONNA FUCKING STOP, THATS WHAT. It’ll continue on and on and on until someone won’t take that shit anymore. Yeah, sure, it might seem like it stopped, especially if you’re seeing everything from the view of a character who was suddenly not bullied anymore, but let me tell you: that is an illusion. They just shift to the next victim. And it’s so so toxic to write it like everything is suddenly ok, oh my gosh. Because it’s not, it doesn’t stop, it just shifts to somewhere else, and thousands of bullied kids that read these books are gonna think that it does. And they’re gonna go and look at their bullies and start feeling sympathy for them because they read a hundred and one books where the bullies are actually good guys, so their bullies can’t be that bad, can they? And voila, thats the first step to excusing toxic behavior. The first step to make sure that these kids never speak up against oppressors. 

Some things that I am really sick of in general but even more when seen in y/a literature: 

1) bad and/or lazy writing, especially when it comes to character development

2) casual sexism

3) underrepresentation and/or stereotypization of LGBTQIA characters

4) underrepresentation and/or stereotypization of non-white characters

5) lack of female supporting characters

6) little to no character development seen in male characters, especially love interests/supporting characters

7) reinforcement of stereotypically masculine/feminine character traits

8) little to no explanation offered concerning culture and other specifics of fantasy worlds (also known as WHY WRITE FANTASY IF YOU’RE NOT GONNA INCLUDE SOME ACTUAL FANTASY)

9) romanticization of toxic relationships

10) hypersexualization of teenagers, because no matter how good looking he is, you shouldn’t describe a sixteen year old boy the same way you would a twenty five year old porn star

And the thing is that this isn’t some kind of one time thing. I didn’t just finish a series that i really disliked or read a few bad books in a row. This rant is the product of literal year-long frustration because I literally cannot find anything in the y/a section of bookstores and libraries and publishing companies websites that doesn’t feature at least one of the above mentioned main characters, one of the above mentioned supporting characters, and some variation of the above mentioned storylines. And I am honestly so sick of it, and so are many many more young adults, because in the beginning you just read that shit, you know. And then it comes to the point where you get so sick of seeing the same stories repeated over and over and the same characters used over and over that you start really searching for books that are different. But these books are so rare, and so hard to find! And after some time you start feeling like you’re being bullshitted by authors and publishing companies. Because most of y/a literature is not only cliche and stereotypical and just plain boring after some time, its also often very badly written. And I’m not just talking language here, though that is a part of it. I’m talking major plot holes, complete lack of character development, period novels or novels that feature time travel being so cringe-worthily historically inaccurate that you actually start wonder if the author did it on purpose, a suspense arc that would, drawn, look like a squiggly line or, even worse but sadly even more common, just a downward sloping curve that maybe, if you’re really lucky, curves slightly upwards again in the last five chapters. There are so many y/a novels out there that I seriously can’t imagine ever having been edited or beta read. And lately it seem like most publishing companies out there just don’t care what they publish any more, you know? Its just one love triangle after the other. And honestly society is moving forward at an increasingly fast pace, the current generation of teenagers and young adults is becoming more tolerant and open minded by the second, and the literature that is written for us, marketed towards us is still dominated by heteronormativity, all-white characters, a lack of male protagonists in the romance and of female protagonists in the action/adventure genre, and sexism. Like, okay, if you think a love triangle is necessary for your story, why not write in a bit of representation for the LGBTQIA community and make it a polyamory in the end instead of having your heroine decide between two hot guys? Or just feature a bi protagonist instead of the cliche straight girl? If you wanna write that stereotypical high school romance why not feature a protagonist who is not white for a change? Also there is a huge difference between books written for boys and books written for girls that is honestly, in my opinion, incomprehensible. Especially if you factor that most boys between the ages of 12 and 20 just don’t read novels because they think reading in general is stupid or they can’t relate to the characters that are portrayed. And this is honestly so concerning because most boys are behind their female classmates when it comes to reading and language skills, which scientists say is a result of boys reading less for enjoyment in their free time, especially less fiction. (sources: (x) (x) (x)) And honestly I can see where thats coming from, there is a) very little literature written for boys, and lets be real, how many boys do you know that would voluntarily read something thats explicitly being marketed for girls and b) the literature actually written for boys is tremendously boring and even more stereotypical and redundant than literature written for girls, plus, you sometimes get the very paradox impression that sex is a kind of tabu theme in boys literature. Like in girls literature its ridiculed and treated in some sort of prepubescent giggly way even though most of literature written for girls revolves around sexual and romantic relationships, but it is addressed, even if its done in an immature way. But boys literature is all about action and danger and bros before hoes. Most books written for a male audience don’t even feature a love interest. And again, this is paradox and kind of weird or even ridiculous because boys are expected to be sexually active from a very young age and the teenage years are the years of (sexual) self-discovery, so in almost all media boys are portrayed as very experienced and sure in their sexuality, except for literature aimed towards them, where they are treated the same way little children are treated: you just don’t talk about sex. How can you expect boys to be sure of themselves when you just leave them in the dark about what they are supposed to be sure about? And don’t even get me started on hyper masculinity portrayed in almost every male character I’ve ever seen in a book (honestly, I won’t start on it because I think that a) my point is clear and b) no one would actually have the patience to read this till the end if I did).

So what’s my conclusion? Well, mainly that y/a literature is currently a lot of shit, and it needs to change to fit the needs and interests of the group that it’s trying to reach. The current development in literature aimed towards young women that features a growing hyper-sexualization of teenage boys and a shift to almost exclusively straight romance literature combined with a gradual decrease of writing quality is very concerning, as is the lack of development in literature aimed towards young men, which seems to be stuck in three genres: mystery/thriller, sports, and action/adventure.

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7 INSANELY EASY tips for Career Change at 25 [starting new career at 25]

You are clearly unsatisfied. I was too.

The great news is that you want to get rid of this dissatisfaction.

Why is it great?

Because the spoiler is we all die in the end.

The best tip which I have for you right now is :

Begin with the end in mind and you will always be satisfied with a new/old career choice.

If confusion is floating across your head then just do a quick mental exercise.

Visualize the moment right after you depart from this world.

For meaningful self-discovery you need to imagine that your time has come and now one phrase is written on your tombstone.

It is the essence of your life. “A person who . . .”

What did you imagine getting written?

It was the core value of your life which you stood by.

If the value gets aligned with your career option then you are sure to achieve career fulfillment.

Career change Confusion

You need a career change because right now your core value does not align with your current career.

(you will also find how to find your values in the post below)

Right now, you surely are in that phase of life where your heart is battling against your brain.

My organs also fought at some point!

After this blog post, you will be able to decide for yourself about a career switch.

Be ready to erase any doubts which are about a midlife career change.

Let’s relate and dig into my career change story

Hopefully you would like to know?

I can picture you nodding your head, and if not then please do!

Anyways, I used to own a perception that I was never the one who says I have no idea what I’m doing with my life.

Honestly, medicine as a career option wasn’t my cup of tea.

Want to guess why?

Simply, because the sight of hospitals used to scare the crap out of me.

My dad used to say that you will faint before treating the patients!

Well, he was right.

I refuse to choose a business career path because I had more of a scientific mind.

So what’s my point?

I filtered my career choice through the elimination method.

I’m sure you are with me on this one that the majority of the people choose their career through trial and error method.

It all boils down to this that I was so sure that complications would never seep into my life as I HAD a clear vision.

You must be wondering had I compromised on computer science purely?

Well, no.

I treasured an interest in solving problems, innovating new stuff, and accepting challenges.

All in one packed in computer science!

After having done my A-levels in computer science and a freshmen year, my brain came back to senses.

It finally decided to spill new confusing career ideas.

It suggested starting over.

Here is the interesting part, I questioned myself what do you think you are doing?

The next scene was landing up in the registrar’s office with a major change form.

How did I get into a new career?

Felt neglected by my other skills.

Tough routine (8 am till 7 pm) of computer science kept me stagnant.

Realized not being 9 to 5 people.

I can’t sit in front of the screen and code for hours . . . boring for ME.

Interested in motion graphics, documentaries, designing, and town planning, etc.

These all areas of my interest were offered in Communication and design.

Worked great in computer science but not gifted.

My personal perception:

I need to be above average to compete in the race.

I wanted to become a master of one, surely not computer science.

7 simple steps to decide a revolutionary new career overnight:

How many times do people change their careers?

According to research, people do try to find out other fields or job roles after five years.

As they believe it increases their demand in the market.

Let’s dig into the steps they take and the ones which you have to pursue.

STEP 1: Identity what are the Signs of career change anxiety?

You feel redundant. You say I feel incompetent in my career.

Fear of getting no job/firing

You remain ill, under stress.

Your Mondays are like . . . not again!

Frustration together will uneasiness will flow inside you leading towards depression

Not meeting deadlines or prevailing procrastinate.

Seeing disturbing dreams about your career and future

Experiencing physical fatigue like neck/back pain and irritated eyes.

Your physical appearance ditches you and makes you look as if someone has stolen your car keys.

Meet any of it? Fortunately, there is a solution.

Time for a career change.

STEP 2: Identity what are your fears of career transition?

The heart signals us for considering a career change.

But my mind intervenes!

It populates the idea that after achieving financial stability nothing will go wrong.

Moreover, how frustrating is it when many people intervene in finding a new career for you?

Different people mean different minds owning different perceptions.

They will pour their career change ideas onto your brain.

Cooking a mixed vegetable inside your head!

At this point you start to hate your life.

You must consult only a couple of trustworthy people when truly wanting to start a new career.

But there are more important things to know first.

Career change ideas of people will force several questions to burn through your head.

Like a blazing fire!

Popping questions when starting over:

How will I finance a new career, this is way too costly?

Research shows for people new career means, again years of education with those sleepless nights.

I don’t want to be a student again as the earlier experience had given me blood tears.

No to starting over.

How will finding a second career guarantee me success?

It will burden me with a greater sense of responsibility so I should stay where I am what if I lose even what is in my hands?

What if people I am surrounded with are right about the blunt statement that I will never be able to make it?

Do I see the positive attributes?

Like unlimited motivation of career transition in me which can break all these walls of fear?

I want a new career but what if it is too late?

I have really chosen the wrong career.

As of now I have gained enough bad experience but I will not let my children repeat the same mistakes.

What the ***

What if I compromised?

Though I hate my job and I want to quit it. But what if I switch careers next year? What new career shall I pursue?

I wish for a sudden inspiration badly. As I need a career change but don’t know what to do.

After answering these questions, wait, there’s more

. . .

How I kicked my fears?

I shifted from CS to CND (communication and design) and I heard several whispers. Some loud enough!

It all boils down to ignoring those whispers.

Being on scholarship at the university, I could read several eyes pleading.

Asking to embrace the suck of my new decision!

Those eyes suggesting you deserve better than communication and design.

My ear allowed statements like science students shifting to humanities?

Want to guess what the other ear did? Yeah thrown such statements about my midlife career change out!

Taking a risk is the best favor which you can do to your life, to yourself

Why do some people not choose a new career and remain satisfied?

Unsatisfactory shitty jobs or careers will make your life a living hell.

A surge of regrets will follow ahead.

So avoid that . . . be ready for a quick career change. A journey of setting yourself free.

Want to know why?

At least their bills are getting attention.

But guess what you should realize in a nick of time?

A protest should waver on your lips if your job != passion.

This is a symbol not equal to the python language!

If you have gained enough experience in your field then you are not forced to serve that career your whole life.

You see my point, right?

Life is short thus add some spices to it rather than exhausting your field to an extent that you began to hate it.

Stick with me now.

Step 3: Identity what are the best second careers?

I do want to change my career but to what? I need career change ideas.

But where can I find them?

Guess what? No response.

This is a result of listening to your heart as your mind will betray you at this point.

Want to know why ideas are not populating in your head?

Your mind has left you all alone.

It is harassing your decision and asking to choose for yourself.

Fortunately, there’s a simple solution . . .

Refer back to your values: You do not need any counselor to tell you the idea, your values will do that for you.

Values for career change at 25

This was the major mistake that I made when I was diving into computer science.

I did not reflect on my values.

If you are looking for a career change then it is vital for you to tap into your value system.

What is the value?

The thing which keeps you moving – the pivotal force.

Every goal which you have stems from your value

Value → goal [accomplishments & milestones] → purpose [your true calling & the passion which ends when you die]

The values are meaningful directions.

Next time when you weigh any career, weigh the meaning (value) the career has for you.

What most people do is take the opposite route.

They will dig into the career first and then attach a value with it.

The reality is the value is a compass. The first element in the career selection chain.

There are so many values that a person can get lost.

This blogpost not only lists the basic fundamental values but also details 3 strategies on picking up yours.

What next in career change at 35?

Now you need to make a list of other career options that align with your top chosen value.

At this point, think of these two options:

A new career that is somewhat related to your current field. Or something in the south – completed distance.

This tip will make your selection easier.

Additionally, you can make a list from the recommendations mentioned above or consider these sources:

Use career key website’ as it sorts the career choices by our interest or you can you queendom test. Whichever site helps you.

Use the Lifeline of a close friend for new career exploration!

Visit list courses from your favorites universities online. See which course interests you the most.

Meet with people of your dream occupation along with people who they offer service. You have no idea how helpful that can be.

I know that’s a lot to take in, but bear with me . . . It is time to jump over to the next step.

Step 4: Identify how you transition into a new career by answering questions?

After jotting down your interest areas from the list or other sources, immediately answer these.

What is the motivational drive attracting you for starting a new career?

Which skill set do you own for excelling in this new career path?

What is your awareness level about the practical job in the new field from day to day basis?

Why changing career options sound exciting?

Can you scale the difficulty level which you will face when seeking a job or in a career shift?

Are there several retraining aspects of this job?

What are your sources for funding your new certifications?

Step 5: DECISION -Shall I switch careers?

Change your career if all your thoughts, behaviors, and actions are under your control.

You will truly deserve the benefits of switching to a new career . . .

Just be true to yourself and ready to show utmost willingness.

Your decision will demand your persistence, willingness, and hard work.

Studies show a person must be ready for the challenges which you may face during a career transition. 

After which you will feel that pleasure of success swirling soon within you.

Invest your time and energy researching.

Step 6: When shall I not go for a career transition?

If you are not willing to sacrifice anything then career change will not help you.

The sacrifice can be in the form of a cut-shot in your finances to fund your new certifications . . .

The sacrifice can be of those sleepless nights gifting you eye-bags.

Sacrifice ANYTHING, I also made a sacrifice for my second career.

To switch a major, I had to get my semester frozen.

I had to sit at home for quite a time as I got late in my decision.

Do something different.

I salute those who make a career transition out of dissatisfaction, as that is the true act of heroism.

Every career change means you will not achieve triumph until you face the risk.

You should not transition to new career options unless you are sure of one thing . . .

that your happiness lies with the change of career.

Question: Is it time for a career switch? After all, research says:

Tenure plays a vital role when considering a career transition.

The years served to vary from field to field.

The time interval for which you have been committed to your field helps you in decision making.

Step 7: Practical steps of how to make a career change?

Let me break this down for you . . .

Career transition can stretch from 3 months to a year. A new career could be your own start-up.

If you are questioning that How I can change my life with no money?

Then here’s how . . .

You can take a loan for your business or support your education. Remember time is money. Only if you are not financially stable then get a loan. But take action with a proper strategic approach.

Dig into the courses which provide you certifications today.

Research shows that in this era reconsideration of career is deemed as a positive sign.

With the rise of different complex careers, the transition becomes a form of evolution for many individuals.

Final words for career changes at 25

Take the decision before watching your last breath divorcing your soul.

How awesome is that?

What should I do before starting a new career?

Just start it!

Get rid of that shitty career if the pen’s edge is resting into your mouth . . . and you are wondering what the hell am I doing with my life?

You need to ignore people’s suggestions.

Amazing, isn’t it?

Stand strikingly proud at your decision of career change.

Just give your new career a time without letting your patience wear away.

The most important thing is never to complain to people.

Honestly, no one likes the moaner but those who own the courage to accept the voice of their heart.

Excuse me for being brutally honest.

Not a single person whom I met, including myself, ever regretted the bold decision.

If you truly plan to explore yourself then I can hear echoes of one thing right now . . .

Of your success.

Comment down what do you think.

Ready for it or still confused?

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7 INSANELY EASY tips for Career Change at 25 [starting new career at 25]

You are clearly unsatisfied. I was too.

The great news is that you want to get rid of this dissatisfaction.

Why is it great?

Because the spoiler is we all die in the end.

The best tip which I have for you right now is :

Begin with the end in mind and you will always be satisfied with a new/old career choice.

If confusion is floating across your head then just do a quick mental exercise.

Visualize the moment right after you depart from this world.

For meaningful self-discovery you need to imagine that your time has come and now one phrase is written on your tombstone.

It is the essence of your life. “A person who . . .”

What did you imagine getting written?

It was the core value of your life which you stood by.

If the value gets aligned with your career option then you are sure to achieve career fulfillment.

Career change Confusion

You need a career change because right now your core value does not align with your current career.

(you will also find how to find your values in the post below)

Right now, you surely are in that phase of life where your heart is battling against your brain.

My organs also fought at some point!

After this blog post, you will be able to decide for yourself about a career switch.

Be ready to erase any doubts which are about a midlife career change.

Let’s relate and dig into my career change story

Hopefully you would like to know?

I can picture you nodding your head, and if not then please do!

Anyways, I used to own a perception that I was never the one who says I have no idea what I’m doing with my life.

Honestly, medicine as a career option wasn’t my cup of tea.

Want to guess why?

Simply, because the sight of hospitals used to scare the crap out of me.

My dad used to say that you will faint before treating the patients!

Well, he was right.

I refuse to choose a business career path because I had more of a scientific mind.

So what’s my point?

I filtered my career choice through the elimination method.

I’m sure you are with me on this one that the majority of the people choose their career through trial and error method.

It all boils down to this that I was so sure that complications would never seep into my life as I HAD a clear vision.

You must be wondering had I compromised on computer science purely?

Well, no.

I treasured an interest in solving problems, innovating new stuff, and accepting challenges.

All in one packed in computer science!

After having done my A-levels in computer science and a freshmen year, my brain came back to senses.

It finally decided to spill new confusing career ideas.

It suggested starting over.

Here is the interesting part, I questioned myself what do you think you are doing?

The next scene was landing up in the registrar’s office with a major change form.

How did I get into a new career?

Felt neglected by my other skills.

Tough routine (8 am till 7 pm) of computer science kept me stagnant.

Realized not being 9 to 5 people.

I can’t sit in front of the screen and code for hours . . . boring for ME.

Interested in motion graphics, documentaries, designing, and town planning, etc.

These all areas of my interest were offered in Communication and design.

Worked great in computer science but not gifted.

My personal perception:

I need to be above average to compete in the race.

I wanted to become a master of one, surely not computer science.

7 simple steps to decide a revolutionary new career overnight:

How many times do people change their careers?

According to research, people do try to find out other fields or job roles after five years.

As they believe it increases their demand in the market.

Let’s dig into the steps they take and the ones which you have to pursue.

STEP 1: Identity what are the Signs of career change anxiety?

You feel redundant. You say I feel incompetent in my career.

Fear of getting no job/firing

You remain ill, under stress.

Your Mondays are like . . . not again!

Frustration together will uneasiness will flow inside you leading towards depression

Not meeting deadlines or prevailing procrastinate.

Seeing disturbing dreams about your career and future

Experiencing physical fatigue like neck/back pain and irritated eyes.

Your physical appearance ditches you and makes you look as if someone has stolen your car keys.

Meet any of it? Fortunately, there is a solution.

Time for a career change.

STEP 2: Identity what are your fears of career transition?

The heart signals us for considering a career change.

But my mind intervenes!

It populates the idea that after achieving financial stability nothing will go wrong.

Moreover, how frustrating is it when many people intervene in finding a new career for you?

Different people mean different minds owning different perceptions.

They will pour their career change ideas onto your brain.

Cooking a mixed vegetable inside your head!

At this point you start to hate your life.

You must consult only a couple of trustworthy people when truly wanting to start a new career.

But there are more important things to know first.

Career change ideas of people will force several questions to burn through your head.

Like a blazing fire!

Popping questions when starting over:

How will I finance a new career, this is way too costly?

Research shows for people new career means, again years of education with those sleepless nights.

I don’t want to be a student again as the earlier experience had given me blood tears.

No to starting over.

How will finding a second career guarantee me success?

It will burden me with a greater sense of responsibility so I should stay where I am what if I lose even what is in my hands?

What if people I am surrounded with are right about the blunt statement that I will never be able to make it?

Do I see the positive attributes?

Like unlimited motivation of career transition in me which can break all these walls of fear?

I want a new career but what if it is too late?

I have really chosen the wrong career.

As of now I have gained enough bad experience but I will not let my children repeat the same mistakes.

What the ***

What if I compromised?

Though I hate my job and I want to quit it. But what if I switch careers next year? What new career shall I pursue?

I wish for a sudden inspiration badly. As I need a career change but don’t know what to do.

After answering these questions, wait, there’s more

. . .

How I kicked my fears?

I shifted from CS to CND (communication and design) and I heard several whispers. Some loud enough!

It all boils down to ignoring those whispers.

Being on scholarship at the university, I could read several eyes pleading.

Asking to embrace the suck of my new decision!

Those eyes suggesting you deserve better than communication and design.

My ear allowed statements like science students shifting to humanities?

Want to guess what the other ear did? Yeah thrown such statements about my midlife career change out!

Taking a risk is the best favor which you can do to your life, to yourself

Why do some people not choose a new career and remain satisfied?

Unsatisfactory shitty jobs or careers will make your life a living hell.

A surge of regrets will follow ahead.

So avoid that . . . be ready for a quick career change. A journey of setting yourself free.

Want to know why?

At least their bills are getting attention.

But guess what you should realize in a nick of time?

A protest should waver on your lips if your job != passion.

This is a symbol not equal to the python language!

If you have gained enough experience in your field then you are not forced to serve that career your whole life.

You see my point, right?

Life is short thus add some spices to it rather than exhausting your field to an extent that you began to hate it.

Stick with me now.

Step 3: Identity what are the best second careers?

I do want to change my career but to what? I need career change ideas.

But where can I find them?

Guess what? No response.

This is a result of listening to your heart as your mind will betray you at this point.

Want to know why ideas are not populating in your head?

Your mind has left you all alone.

It is harassing your decision and asking to choose for yourself.

Fortunately, there’s a simple solution . . .

Refer back to your values: You do not need any counselor to tell you the idea, your values will do that for you.

Values for career change at 25

This was the major mistake that I made when I was diving into computer science.

I did not reflect on my values.

If you are looking for a career change then it is vital for you to tap into your value system.

What is the value?

The thing which keeps you moving – the pivotal force.

Every goal which you have stems from your value

Value → goal [accomplishments & milestones] → purpose [your true calling & the passion which ends when you die]

The values are meaningful directions.

Next time when you weigh any career, weigh the meaning (value) the career has for you.

What most people do is take the opposite route.

They will dig into the career first and then attach a value with it.

The reality is the value is a compass. The first element in the career selection chain.

There are so many values that a person can get lost.

This blogpost not only lists the basic fundamental values but also details 3 strategies on picking up yours.

What next in career change at 35?

Now you need to make a list of other career options that align with your top chosen value.

At this point, think of these two options:

A new career that is somewhat related to your current field. Or something in the south – completed distance.

This tip will make your selection easier.

Additionally, you can make a list from the recommendations mentioned above or consider these sources:

Use career key website’ as it sorts the career choices by our interest or you can you queendom test. Whichever site helps you.

Use the Lifeline of a close friend for new career exploration!

Visit list courses from your favorites universities online. See which course interests you the most.

Meet with people of your dream occupation along with people who they offer service. You have no idea how helpful that can be.

I know that’s a lot to take in, but bear with me . . . It is time to jump over to the next step.

Step 4: Identify how you transition into a new career by answering questions?

After jotting down your interest areas from the list or other sources, immediately answer these.

What is the motivational drive attracting you for starting a new career?

Which skill set do you own for excelling in this new career path?

What is your awareness level about the practical job in the new field from day to day basis?

Why changing career options sound exciting?

Can you scale the difficulty level which you will face when seeking a job or in a career shift?

Are there several retraining aspects of this job?

What are your sources for funding your new certifications?

Step 5: DECISION -Shall I switch careers?

Change your career if all your thoughts, behaviors, and actions are under your control.

You will truly deserve the benefits of switching to a new career . . .

Just be true to yourself and ready to show utmost willingness.

Your decision will demand your persistence, willingness, and hard work.

Studies show a person must be ready for the challenges which you may face during a career transition. 

After which you will feel that pleasure of success swirling soon within you.

Invest your time and energy researching.

Step 6: When shall I not go for a career transition?

If you are not willing to sacrifice anything then career change will not help you.

The sacrifice can be in the form of a cut-shot in your finances to fund your new certifications . . .

The sacrifice can be of those sleepless nights gifting you eye-bags.

Sacrifice ANYTHING, I also made a sacrifice for my second career.

To switch a major, I had to get my semester frozen.

I had to sit at home for quite a time as I got late in my decision.

Do something different.

I salute those who make a career transition out of dissatisfaction, as that is the true act of heroism.

Every career change means you will not achieve triumph until you face the risk.

You should not transition to new career options unless you are sure of one thing . . .

that your happiness lies with the change of career.

Question: Is it time for a career switch? After all, research says:

Tenure plays a vital role when considering a career transition.

The years served to vary from field to field.

The time interval for which you have been committed to your field helps you in decision making.

Step 7: Practical steps of how to make a career change?

Let me break this down for you . . .

Career transition can stretch from 3 months to a year. A new career could be your own start-up.

If you are questioning that How I can change my life with no money?

Then here’s how . . .

You can take a loan for your business or support your education. Remember time is money. Only if you are not financially stable then get a loan. But take action with a proper strategic approach.

Dig into the courses which provide you certifications today.

Research shows that in this era reconsideration of career is deemed as a positive sign.

With the rise of different complex careers, the transition becomes a form of evolution for many individuals.

Final words for career changes at 25

Take the decision before watching your last breath divorcing your soul.

How awesome is that?

What should I do before starting a new career?

Just start it!

Get rid of that shitty career if the pen’s edge is resting into your mouth . . . and you are wondering what the hell am I doing with my life?

You need to ignore people’s suggestions.

Amazing, isn’t it?

Stand strikingly proud at your decision of career change.

Just give your new career a time without letting your patience wear away.

The most important thing is never to complain to people.

Honestly, no one likes the moaner but those who own the courage to accept the voice of their heart.

Excuse me for being brutally honest.

Not a single person whom I met, including myself, ever regretted the bold decision.

If you truly plan to explore yourself then I can hear echoes of one thing right now . . .

Of your success.

Comment down what do you think.

Ready for it or still confused?

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