#marygaitskill

[yentling]

What i change my username to marygaitskills. Would u still see me as masc.

[marygaitskill]

Mary Gaitskill at Daunts Marylebone, London 23/08/22

[adamwatchesmovies]

Secretary (2002)

I already owned a copy of Secretary long before I heard of 50 Shades of Grey but the public's fascination with the “erotic love story” catapulted this film to the front of my watch list. I knew this one had to be better and was not disappointed.

Lee Holloway (Maggie Gyllenhaal) is a socially awkward, depressed woman trying to adjust to normal life after being released from a psychiatric hospital. She gets hired as a secretary for attorney E. Edward Grey (James Spader). Harsh, short-tempered, and demanding, he's driven every other hire away screaming but Lee’s submissive demeanor means she will take any assignment or punishment, regardless of how awkward or humiliating it may be. Against all odds, they turn out to be exactly what the other was searching for.

If you're looking for a romantic film in which the topic of BDSM is explored. This is it. The topic is neither a punchline nor is it something used to make you gasp in disgust. It's made so very natural because it fits the characters so well. Secretary is better acted, more erotic, better written, and more insightful about both "normal" and submissive/dominant relationships than most romances we see on-screen.

Director Steven Shainberg and writer Erin Cressida Wilson deliver an insightful story. Before now, I never put much thought into what drives certain men and women towards fetishes. Some kind of positive experience hidden deep inside their memories or boredom I assumed (I’ve seen some guys rent weird XXX movies at my video store because they figured after dozens of DVDs with naked women in them, maybe something... different would rustle their jimmies). The bond that develops between Lee and Holloway is one only they could have and this is where much of the drama stems from. They've never seen someone have what they have so for Holloway, particularly, he's unsure how to proceed. For a long time, you're unsure too. Is what you're seeing... wrong? It doesn't feel wrong but you're waiting to see what'll happen. It could go in any direction.

I suppose it’s like that line from Jerry Maguire, “You complete me”. We all know that we’re not supposed to feel empty or unfulfilled when we’re by ourselves, that your happiness shouldn't depend on another person... but some people in your life make it ok to disregard the rule. Sometimes you meet that other person - not even necessarily a lover - that is exactly what you need to straighten things out.

Secretary portrays its subjects as real people, complete with strange quirks, dreams, ambitions, and faults. It also tells a story that's so much bigger than a woman discovering what buttons of hers she likes pressed. It makes you think about relationships in general. What is it about them that makes us feel better, that raises our self-esteem? You understand a little better after seeing this film. (On Blu-ray, February 18, 2015)

[williambenton]

Somebody asked about the song “Untitled” and my dedication to #marygaitskill . I will only say: read Mary Gaitskill, my favorite living American writer. (From Kentucky but don’t let that stop you.) (at Louisville, Kentucky) https://www.instagram.com/p/CE7gXeKluaF/?igshid=19kmg2dpuyofy

[yourdisappointedarms]

A good haul from @loganberrybooks while I waited out rush hour traffic. #slavojzizek #tarryingwiththenegative #veronicachambers #resist #johnberger #onceineuropa #williamhgass #fictionandthefiguresoflife #marygaitskill #becausetheywantedto #mohammedmrabet #mhashish #wgsebald #austerlitz #nelsonalgren #chicagocityonthemake (at Loganberry Books) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvxwMZwAONI/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=qi8gjtd57piw

[fridaysateightfifteen]

25.03.20 #marygaitskill https://www.instagram.com/p/B-KVlTZnGts/?igshid=1tkfpg6wymefe

[quimbysbookstorenyc-blog]

Loved Bad Behavior and Two Girls Fat and Thin, so I’m psyched to get a collection of her nonfiction. #nonfiction #marygaitskill @quimbysbookstorenyc (at Quimby's Bookstore NYC)

[mirandajfriedman]

ROBBEN MUÑ0Z curated by @qualityinternetcontent >++< Track: LONER by MYKKI BLANCO x JEAN DEAUX >++< Sound: MARY GAITSKILL reading THE FIVE-FORTY-EIGHT by JOHN CHEEVER @robenmunzo @_mykki_ @thatsjeandeaux #johncheever #marygaitskill @newyorkermag (at Vermont Harbor, Los Angeles)

[writingfyeah]

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[christenclifford]

She is genius. Mary Gaitskill essay about Deep Throat and Dreyer's Joan of Arc and rape and Linda Lovelace and all the grey areas of sex was phenomenal. Thank you so much to Tom Cole and Dixon Place and to Mary for supporting @dixonplace and for her work that made the packed room wild and sad. And she adored @svetlanakitto who read first and hilariously from her work in progress Purvs - dirty lez in Latvia - I am so lucky to get to present and co curate with Tom. I said it was 9 years we've been doing #experimentsanddisorders but it's 8 and some - Vera was an infant at our first meeting with Katy, strapped on. Gaitskill' s essay about Lovelace reminded me that years ago I was "hired" to work on a script for a theatre piece about Linda Lovelace. I worked so hard on it, trying to make it complicated and feminist and honest and even imagined directors I could work with. The producers had a giant haunted house in Boston and money and had been friends with Diamano, the director of Deep Throat. I had to audition as a writer and was so excited. I delivered the script as promised - working through a vacation upstate - and they then they disappeared and never even paid me. As Kip Fagen said last night, "Maybe you should have known that a porn director and haunted house wasn't a good thing" but as Mary read in her piece sometimes our instincts are damaged. I was so happy last night was crowded and a packed house and some students and old friends and new friends were there. Svetlana and Mary. Mary and Svetlana. Tom. Ellie. #experimentsanddisorders #lit #literature #dixonplace #marygaitskill #love @svetlanakitto

[marygaitskill]

"Gaitskill was 25 when she read An American Dream, and by that time she was ready for it, that is she was in a state of receptivity both dreamy and bruised, a receptivity that understood that life had a top layer with several layers under it, and that sometimes, one bled through the other in strange ways."

– Mary Gaitskill, Oppositions

[ruseg]

Tweeted

Hello #writingcommmunity. Wondering if you are reading #marygaitskill novella, This is Pleasure. It’s set in the publishing world with a #MeToo theme. Pretty much unputdownable. https://t.co/UdDyTmColn

— Nancy Gendimenico (@ngendimenico) November 30, 2019

[quimbysbookstorenyc-blog]

I read all three of these in the last week, all by women, set mostly on NYC and all amazing. I mean, AMAZING!!! Can’t wait to read more by these authors. #avisitfromthegoonsquad #theflamethrowers #twogirlsfatandthin #marygaitskill #jenniferegan #rachelkushner #womenauthors @quimbysbookstorenyc (at Quimby's Bookstore NYC)

[christenclifford]

This photo does not capture my excitement from last night! Does anyone have a pic of Mary Gaitskill hugging me? She hugged me twice and her luminous numinous grace and intelligence electrified all of us. #marygaitskill #dixonplace #literature #lit #experimentsanddisorders

[marygaitskill]

'Gaitskill writes with such intelligence that it’s hard not to have your mind changed by the nuanced way she tackles painful ethical and intellectual quandaries.'

A stellar review for Oppositions in the Independent – one of November's biggest releases!