#love as a choice

[frogguchi]

crowley suggested that maggie and nina could fall in love while sheltering from the rain to parallel their first meeting in eden and when aziraphale shielded him with his wing. aziraphale suggested the ball and says they would fall in love during the dance, realize they’re made for each other etc. and later on invites crowley to the dance.

crowley suggested something he has experienced before, unexpected, a distant memory still familiar. aziraphale suggested something that hasn't happened yet, offering it later on.

something something about crowley falling in love with aziraphale throughout the years, maybe by chance, by accident, through things that aziraphale does (using his wing as an umbrella, giving him holy water despite disagreeing with it, etc), and he thinks of falling in love as a chance, something that different circumstances lead them to it, until they eventually and inevitably fall in love.

on the other hand, aziraphale falls in love with crowley throughout the years through their actions and interactions, like when before the beginning he liked seeing crowley happy and in eden he was still nice to crowley despite him being a demon. to dance with someone, you would have to ask them to dance. it’s a choice. and aziraphale thinks of love as a choice, something that you have to consider many things before falling in love, and, at the end of the day, he still continues to choose to love crowley even through unconventional means.

tl;dr: crowley could be thinking that love happens through chances, and aziraphale could be thinking that love is a choice.

[not-aurii]

I don't want love to be something that just happens to you.

I want love to be a choice you make, everyday, as an effort and a commitment. A thing that spawns from nurturing. I don't want it to be something that happens to you one day, without a say in the matter. Because then that means you're always going to love me, no matter what - and I don't want that. I want to have earned it. Even more than that, I need the certainty that you will leave me if I hurt you.

Would you still love me if I turned into a horrible person? Would you tolerate it, simply because you love me, so you must?

God, I hope not.

With this, I don't mean I hope you'll give up on me when I'm down or when it gets difficult. The opposite, actually: I want you to choose to stay with me at my lowest, because you know I'm worth it in the end. I want you to be disappointed in me. I want you to question your love, daily, and still come back to the conclusion that "Yes, this is what I want. This love is something I need and want and love."

I want us to question it together. To confront each other on the things that don't work, that disappoint us, that might need to change. I want us to find solutions. Together. I want the effort to be shared and the love to grow in a strong foundation of choice.

I hope love isn't something that happens to you. There is no such thing as soulmates tied by fate, I chose you, and will still choose you everyday. And I can only hope you see me as more than an obligation tied to affection.

[yes7erdays-a1]

WHAT FORM OF LOVE DO YOU EMBODY?

LOVE AS A CHOICE. ⋆⭒˚｡⋆₊ ⊹ [ love is beautiful because it’s built deliberately ] When Casey McQuinston wrote, “That’s the choice. I love him, with all that, because of all that, on purpose. I love him on purpose” and when Jenny Slate tweeted, “I just want someone to grab my little face and scream ‘on purpose, on purpose I am going to care about you’”  and when Jodi Picoult wrote, “After fifteen years, love isn’t just a feeling. It’s a choice”  and when The Good Place said, “If soulmates do exist, they’re not found, they’re made.”

tagged: @rosewolfin

tagging: @mircarnstein, @shieldied, @welshpunches, @prcspcr, @etoilebleu ( ran! )

[justbringtherain]

wake up besties, new quiz just dropped 😌

[a-random-fandom-friend]

Because of Re: Carmilla, I thought you all would enjoy my edition of Carmilla :

The holes go all the way through, the sides of the book are red, and on some pages the text is colored red just under the holes !

I was so happy when I found it in a little french bookshop specialized in queer texts ❤️

[pxxrthotie]

How I look at him after he calls me “baby”, “sweetheart” or “angel”

[kavaleyre]

• The Hanged Man •

“Compared to what Falin went through? This is nothing.”

[elmobloop]

girl's best friend

[mdtaslimstuff]

What is Love? | Insights from The Dance of Life and Loss

An Excerpt from the BookIn a quiet, intimate setting, a group of friends gathered in my reading room to discuss one of humanity’s oldest and most profound questions: What is love? Surrounded by poets, philosophers, scholars, artists, and scientists, the conversation delved into the many layers of love, blending personal experiences and intellectual insights. The Nature of Love: Philosophical and…

[dimeadozencows]

My personal understanding of the situation

[monstersflashlight]

You wake up with a hand around your boob, squeezing it like it's a stress toy. You mumble half asleep, hitting the hand and waiting for them to stop. But they only release it enough to slip their hand under your soft shirt. Cold fingers find your nipple, pinching it and pulling until you are whimpering, not knowing if you want to get more or less of it. They don't give you a choice. His fingers play with your nipple until you are begging, your panties so wet you can hear it when you rub your legs together. Another hand finds your soaked center, rubbing your clit in slow circles, dragging your pleasure until you are shivering with an orgasm.

And when you come down from the pleasure, you remember you live alone...

[mentalfreedomtherapy]

Video Timestamps:

0:00 - 0:05 | Sunrise over a peaceful mountain landscape Text on Screen: "Is Love a Conscious Decision?"

0:06 - 0:12 | Slow-motion waves gently hitting a shore Voiceover: "Many think love is just a feeling, something we fall into. But what if love is actually a choice?"

0:13 - 0:18 | Couple walking together, holding hands, with another aging couple still walking hand-in-hand Voiceover: "Psychologist Erich Fromm says love is a skill—a decision to connect deeply with others."

0:19 - 0:25 | Soft focus on a couple sitting together at sunset Voiceover: "Love isn’t about possession. It’s about nurturing respect and shared interests, growing together in many aspects."

0:26 - 0:35 | Close-up of flowers swaying gently in the breeze Voiceover: "By choosing love, we cultivate meaningful, lasting relationships that thrive with consistent care—nurtured through deep connection, open communication, and the willingness to grow beyond our imperfections."

0:36 - 0:45 | Dreamy clouds passing over a calm lake Voiceover: "So, is love a choice? What do you think?" Text on Screen: "Is love a choice? What do you think?"

YouTube Keywords:

Erich Fromm

Love as a choice

The Art of Loving

Conscious love

Nurturing relationships

Personal growth in relationships

Relationship psychology

Meaningful relationships

Love and communication

Relationship advice

[ronanxing]

harana

[cronchy-baguette]

Is fate something you can earn?

[egophiliac]

did this as a quick scribble at like 1 AM last night and...immediately lost all motivation to ever clean it up. ( ᐛ ) but I had to draw my son being the fanciest little flower boy who ever threw petals down an aisle. oh my god.

[c-rowlesdraws]

Ratatouille would have been a better and potentially much more interesting story if Remy had partnered with Collette instead of Linguini. Two underdogs with talent and passion forced to maintain a dangerous ruse. Fiercely independent Collette giving up temporary control of her body to a creature who, despite the insanity of a rat wanting to cook professionally, she can relate to on a personal level and who she does want to teach. The inner conflict of wondering if Remy’s growing talents are eclipsing her own, if the praise their food is earning belongs more to him than to her. Her guilt over feeling resentment and jealousy towards this little guy who wouldn’t have a hope of realizing his talents if not for her trust and protection. Both of them unraveling the mystery of that sweet but bumbling kitchen boy with the obvious crush on Collette being Gusteau’s secret son, and working together to thwart the new evil owner’s plans to stop Linguini from claiming his birthright. The message of the movie not being this weird, almost smug “some people are born with talent, some people aren’t, and that’s how being a ~great artist~ works”, but something more like, “if you have a dream, you deserve to pursue it, and be supported and encouraged in your pursuit of it, even if other people tell you that, because of some intrinsic aspect of yourself or the circumstances you were born in (like being a human woman in the restaurant industry, or being a literal rat), you have no place pursuing this dream. Also, raw talent can only get you so far, and skill and passion existing in the right balance is key.” I’ve been thinking about this for seventeen years. I’m breaking my silence