#local queer community be like

[no-sp4g-4-b4by]

Real queer situation going on: for context, my bf and I were poly when we met a few months back, but we've recently gone monogamous. So now he was invited to a drag show by his friend he was involved with not long ago, so we're going there tonight. His other friend is gonna be coming along (she's involved with his brother). And now I Just learned that my ex partner, that I haven't seen since the breakup, was invited by his friend (that I lowkey had a crush on) who himself was invited by a drag queen, is gonna be there tonight!

So gonna be meeting my bf's "ex" and bf is gonna be meeting my ex. And friend I have a crush on. And our other friend is gonna witness all that lol.

What a shit show, I can't wait.

[bugsbenefit]

forever annoyed by the wannabe activism that got so much worse during the pandemic that so many younger people seem to primarily abide by now. where almost all their "action" is online-based and heavily focused on media consumption and "problematic people". it drives me so crazy. i don't know how to tell you that going after a musician or actor or comedian because of their views or statements is the least productive form of activism and i honestly wouldn't even count it as such. if you want to call yourself an activist you actually need to ACT. not just talk online about how person xyz is evil and be done for the day, or say book/movie xyz is problematic and then log off, that's not enough, that doesn't actually DO anything

call local officials, go to protests, talk to people at your uni/school, boycott brands. hell, even talk to your parents about what's going on in Palestine, or other current events, many older people have conservative views, not because of inherent bigotry, but because they don't have enough information and grew up in a media propaganda bubble. or just talk about ongoing events online, keep the pressure on the public and don't let people lean back and forget. all that are actual forms of activism

i'll never stop being mad at the new wave social media wannabe activism that lets people think they're done with their Activism Activity of the day if they called timothee chalamet or noah schnapp a bad person. girl, yeah they are, but actually do Anything else too, that's not the activism you apparently think it is😭

[writterings]

honestly my state's pride was ultimately underwhelming this year for me, but i gotta say it's...somewhat nice that it can be boring? like im so accepted and validated by people in my life that pride no longer feels like (for me) an escape or outlet. i attended this specific event with my mom in 2018 and it was my first pride event. i was still in high school. i remember it literally brought me out of a deep depressive episode for a bit, because of how fun and affirming and safe it was. it was a celebration of me and people like me!

but now i kinda get that everyday in my life. so pride really only offers me a chance to hang with some friends, day drink, smoke weed in public, and pick up freebies at every tent. it's basically like any other holiday to me now. but isn't that amazing? that im so accepted and loved and celebrated as a whole queer person, that i can take something like pride for granted?

i'm super thankful for that. i'm still super thankful for pride.

and, i gotta say, it was really touching to see so many middle school and high school aged kids there, sometimes with their parents and sometimes by themselves. i hope they one day can find pride as "boring" as i do. i hope every queer person can.

[tinystepsforward]

i also realise there's people who are gonna be like "you expect me to believe that tony tinystepsforward is 29, disabled, a sex worker of nearly a decade, worked at automattic for six years, and someone who does as much organising with local trans and prison abolitionist and sex worker spaces as they seem to imply" and frankly you can believe i'm lying if you want, that's your right, just block me or w/e you don't have to be here. but yes i do in fact both work to eat and work for a better world. i just happen to be the kind of person who really struggles with inertia and is always doing a million things. kiasu, as my singaporean friends still call me, though i don't think i fit the classic archetype there at all — it's not a fomo thing as much as a having poor judgement about the feasibility of the ways i want to be generous with my time and energy and skills. i'm working on it. i would like to learn how to rest.

[digitalsymbiote]

God, today was absolutely fantastic.

Got to go visit my GF, and snuggle her a bunch.

Got to play armored core 6 for the first time, with my GF next to me cheering me on.

And then we went to our LGS to play some commander, and we ran into a bunch of cool local queers!!

We had some great games, and it was such a good time meeting and chatting with everyone.

Just, aaaaaaa, am very happy rn

[crows-bottle-cap]

i stole a water because its called be gay do crime not be gay follow the law

[cliveguy]

i feel like there must be a way about talking about transmisogyny in trans spaces without making posts that act like every single trans person comes from a large liberal usamerican city

[witheredgardenparty]

I will never forgive a single one of you

[variousqueerthings]

u know having done a fair bit of volunteering and organising, i do think. that sometimes. if you want something to be better within your specific community, especially marginalised communities. you have to step up and be involved in it. complaining about something being too small or not having the organisational backbone or not offering enough services, etcetc. i can guarantee that a large amount of the time you are looking at like 2-6 people who are doing all of this work for free (who are often spending their own money that they may not have a lot of) to make something happen and they only have the time and the energy and the ability that they have and if something has to pivot last minute, they will not have the financial and networking support to simply shift into another gear. these are the resources that exist, we can only do what they allow

every single event and charity and support service ive been involved in, somebody has complained -- about this space being smaller than the last space, about that being further away than it used to be, about something taking too long, or x resources not existing, ive had trans people show up to a trans community event 30mins before it was open and complain that it was badly organised because nobody let them in, ive had people say they demand more of this or that or less of that and this, this kind of group, that kind of event. and those people have always been people who are benefiting from these spaces and are not giving back to those spaces. they only think about what they're owed, not about what they owe in return, what their own responsibilities are

not everyone can be an organiser, but trust that there is always something that can be done to take the weight off of especially a smaller organisation that has come out of a need. and if you're not helping to carry some of that weight, do not complain, because those 2-6 people who are spending so much time and energy and money and soul on creating something that you are gaining from are closer to quitting than you might think and then who's gonna carry it? the people who were spending all their time complaining and doing nothing? good luck. hope people don't complain

tbh a lot of the time it's even enough to just go to your local community events and acknowledge the hard work put into them. we need people to come to them so we can keep doing them -- often you'll organise something that there is a wish for and people will treat it as more of a "ah well if i feel like it on the day" type thing than a community responsibility, part of what you're giving back in this contract. your tiny local pride could get 10 people or it could get 100 people there and its future funds may depend on the number. your community political meeting cannot organise without people there showing that they care. this panel or arts or research event is for you and it's also for you to give a shit about

but also. volunteer. and don't complain if you're not there with a solution and a hand. step up for your community on a local level

[myriad--starlings]

when will it feel like I'm living my life instead of being pushed along by the currents of time and desperately, futilely, trying to claw meaning and hope and contentment out of the hours I can before they drag me down into the murk again

[rollforjackass]

it's funny and all to talk about crowley teaching aziraphale what ACAB means/why it's valid, but i'm being so serious when i say that he doesn't need to. aziraphale is already ACAB.

when he said in the book that he's "of course morally obliged" to assist local police in their enquiries, he didn't actually mean that shit. the whole premise of the book is aziraphale & crowley not agreeing with what they're 'of course' supposed to do and inventing cleverer and cleverer ways to get around it. when crowley told him to stop them before they got there then, aziraphale's response was "sure i'm down to miraculously knock out 40 policemen but heaven's going to start to notice". he couldn't spare them two fucks if they were fuckless.

aziraphale's the Original Gay. he's lived in soho for generations. he goes to discreet gentlemen's clubs and is basically the mafia in his area, he is the one that london queers would run to if they needed to hide from the cops and he would help them without a second thought. aziraphale says fuck the cops and fuck you too bootlickers, and he says it with a big bright smile.

[much-brighter-ink]

Happy pride month to my fellow queer Arabs. We exist. We are more than just a talking point in your political arguments. Please don’t forget about us.

[legofemme]

Its rlly saddening to want to have a queer community where u can flirt freely without fear of being ostracized or where u can just exist and not need to constantly justify your existence. But to live in the country. Or in literally any non-city places. I dont want to live in a big city. I will never want to live in a big city. I dont want to have to travel into a city for pride or clubs or general lgbt community spaces. I shouldnt be expected to drive for hours just to feel like i can hit on a girl without being called a slur. idk if city people understand what thats like

[purpurussy]

i really do love it when gay dudes have 1 little silver hoop earring in their right ear it's so cute and cunty

[owlbelly]

nonstandardrepertoire

sending so much strength and support your way <3

thanks friend <3 i appreciate that. it's like...shit mostly does not get stirred up for me very much, both because it was a long time ago & i did a lot of work around it, & because 99% of the discussion around big public cases like this centers on men as abusers (i mean, the entire Me Too movement) so it's only this kind of tangential stuff where non-famous survivors start talking about the particulars of their experiences & i have to go "oh wait yeah that sure happened" :')

[plentyghosts]

[Kicks down the door] small announcement: I'm going to start going by he/him. [Puts the door back on its hinges.] Thank you for your time.