#living at home

[lowkeychelsea]

everything about my life right now is just fucking embarrassing. very much giving pathetic loser. but it could be worse. at least i am a child-free pathetic loser.

[livelikealucid]

[blackandbeautifulgirl]

So current dilemma, I want to start therapy, but if I do it at home my parents will either interrupt me or overhear me talking and they will likely yell at me for taking about my shit with strangers.

However, I also don't have a car so I'd have to find a therapist that is a reasonable bus difference away and also find an excuse for why I am leaving to my parents

Also at the back of my head I'm like therapy doesn't sound right for me, but I've never tried so how do I know

[sweatsnervously47]

Listen, I'd have no problem with living at home if my Mom didn't walk around the house with the vibes of a caged tiger slowly circling closer to me.

[hymenopuscoronatus]

03 May 2024

i am much too big for this bedroom

and yet so small in this world

- mantis

[nonconformingwannabelover]

If anyone can help, I have to start paying rent and cover my own food costs (which I’ve already done for two years) from Tuesday if I’m to stay in my parents house. I turn nineteen this year and my parents made me drop out of school so I don’t have any qualifications and I’ve never been accepted in jobs.

Someone very kindly gave me money earlier in the week towards cat food and I’m so happy to say I have enough food to feed him until about Saturday (3rd of June) but help towards that would be amazing too, his cat food costs 13£ for dry food and 4.50£ for wet food. We have some dry food left for him but he eats Nood which is a really good one for his stomach (he suffers with IBD and his medical bills get pretty expensive (up to 150£ a month for checkups and medicine) but my mum currently covers those but I’m not sure if she’ll stop doing that.

Literally anything will help me at this moment, standard cost of food a week is about 20-30£ for me and rent is about 60£ a week (I know it’s 260£ a month for me to stay at home because that cost also goes towards electric and gas.)

If you can spare any money please please do, and if you can’t, then please reblog this, your help means the world to me, literally.

My PayPal is https://www.paypal.me/honeyperidot

[gabr-iella]

There is nothing quite like being at home, to make you want to go back to work.

[nicxxx5]

i hate how my family can never leave me alone in the bathroom, especially my mom

if i spend longer than ten minutes in the shower they are banging on the door

i will spend a while in the bathroom but that is because a.) that is my quiet time and b.) i have digestive issues like everyone else in my family, but no one cares.

tonight i literally got in the bathroom at say 11:50 because i checked a message that was from my friend at 11:46 and i went in after that. i went to the bathroom for 10-15 minutes because of my stomach then i turned on the water at 11:07. i end up getting out at 11:19 but before that my mom is banging on the door claiming i've been in there for over 45 minutes??? i was barely in there 30

after i told her all the times i was checking my phone so i know how long i spent in there and she does not fucking believe me. she said the water was running a long time in the tub and i maybe had it running for a minute BUT THATS STILL TOO LONG BECAUSE MY PARENTS TOLD ME SO!

i can't wait till i can move out again because it's such bullshit. 15 minutes is not that long of a shower. also it's 11 at night and i know no one else is taking a shower so why the fuck does it matter. i am not making that much of a fucking difference on that water bill

[hope-4better]

The worst thing about living at home temporarily is as an adult whose done years of therapy and is self aware enough to know why they’re reacting certain ways. And at the same time being unable to stop it completely. Being old enough to understand why your parents behavior triggers you but having accept you can’t control it or escape it. It’s like being a child all over again with no way out. I hope someday our parents understand being adult children doesn’t change our memories of them or that their behavior is still triggering for their children.

[wordsarefakeokay]

I want to go home

To the time where I could jump on the bed

Even if it left me stitches on my head

I want to go home

Where I can still hear the dial tone

Of connecting to the internet for the first time

And losing the chance to talk to my mom

Over the phone

I want to go home

To the place where there was a lot of space

And I had my own room

And there was a pretty garden

And I got to pretend that what happened in that home wasn't a total nightmare

I want to go home

To the place where I had my own bathroom and

I spent a summer running and

Spent new years eve one year learning what a seizure looked like on my mom and

I want to go back and tell myself not to leave scars on me

That I'm loved

That I love me

That it's going to be okay

I want to go home

To the living room where I could hide by the books and study

To the house where all the important places were just a walk away

To the place where we each had a room and

I could close the door when I wanted to and

To the last place things seemed right in the world

I want to go home

To the roommates that I love

And the spaces we shared

Friday night game nights and drinks and food

And having a goal to work towards

And having someone to come home to I could talk to about it all

I want to go home

To the RV that was mine

Before I woke up in a fire

I want to go home

To a space that is mine

Where no one can look in my room to see if I'm awake

I want to go home

To where the only things in the house

Are the things that are needed

I want to go home

Where I can grow

And rest

And learn

And see friends

All my own

I want to go home

Where I can grow

And breathe

And study

And be

I want to go home

[skipthepreface]

[rynamari]

Fucking this. Like I get along with my mom and brother, still live at home and am 31. First off, I have epilepsy(controlled but still), so it's easier in that regards to not worrying about it. 2, I've got people who are supportive when I need it and can help out with things. 3, we're all close so it's not hostile or anything.

And even if we disregard those things. Where I'm at, in order to rent an apartment you need to be able to be making 3x the rent. So if I find a place that is USD$1k a month, I need to be making USD$3k a month. Like what??

And yet I've been told by people I was in relationships they feel it's weird or that I've got no drive to be independent because I live at home. Like do I want to live with a partner and enjoy the privacy of that? Sure. But I'm also completely happy living at home

Just a reminder that people who still live with their parents as adults deserve respect and for you to stop being ableist. There are multiple reasons someone could still live with their parents! From invisible to visible disabilities, finance issues, and more!

Stop using the “well they’re gonna turn into a creep living in their parents basement” punchline! It’s disgusting. STOP. BEING. ABLEIST. STOP. FORGETTING. THE. POOR.

[bethfuller]

limited perception.

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[boudika628]

Here I am, yet again, in the lion's den. Living at home. In my 30's. Even though I left, when I was 18. Nowhere to go this time. I'm back in the den. Actively victimized. It doesn't make me a victim.

My ghostly appendix, yet again, is self-destructing. The sun never sets. With white blinds, the street lights shine bright. She never turns the lights off either. For fear of satan, sneaking up!

Her religion, is a cult, of herself. Narcissism, Revisited. The lion never stops, bemoaning its prey. I will not join a fantasy, this cult, this lion, a god. It could be any religion, but it's a religion of her.

She cannot reach me. I am untouchable. A sign on my door reads "Avoid her as much as possible!" My life boat is anchored, to the lion's den. Her reality, is but a fantasy. I won't join in her, shared fantasy.

My lifeboat, has a paper wall. Her grunts are audible, 24/7, through all hours of the day. So I sleep when she's awake. I'm awake, when she's asleep. Like an instrument, she plays with you.

You are not a human to her, but a tool. An extension of her will. Instrumentalized. Your ability to be played, demonstrate to her. Her godlike power, she never lies.

She isn't capable, of gaslighting. She truly believes, everything she says. She confabulates; false memories. For her, it's all true.

[evolvedclown]

why do we shame people so hard about still living at home in their 20’s and 30’s when in so many cultures (even with the US), it is perfectly normal and expected to have multiple generations living in one house together? it’s one thing if you’re 35 and don’t have a job or help around the house (if able, obviously. everyone’s got their situations/reasons for not working) but if you do or you contribute by doing the house work or something like that. then what’s the big deal?

it is a privilege to be able to stay at home with your family in your adulthood and as someone who grew up, and am still living in, a very toxic household bc of my financial reasons, it is a privilege to be able to have a family that doesn’t call me a freeloader(surprisingly) for still living at home. take your advantages where you can and don’t shame others for taking help when they can.

we need to get past this individualistic culture mindset in the U.S. of ‘idc what happens as long as it’s not happening to me and mine’ and start thinking of the community. that’s where you’ll get your real help from.