#living at home

[livelikealucid]

[blackandbeautifulgirl]

So current dilemma, I want to start therapy, but if I do it at home my parents will either interrupt me or overhear me talking and they will likely yell at me for taking about my shit with strangers.

However, I also don't have a car so I'd have to find a therapist that is a reasonable bus difference away and also find an excuse for why I am leaving to my parents

Also at the back of my head I'm like therapy doesn't sound right for me, but I've never tried so how do I know

[sweatsnervously47]

Listen, I'd have no problem with living at home if my Mom didn't walk around the house with the vibes of a caged tiger slowly circling closer to me.

[hymenopuscoronatus]

03 May 2024

i am much too big for this bedroom

and yet so small in this world

- mantis

[moderat50]

Do They Really Want Home Ownership?

Many kids are spoiled and entitled. lt seem several young ones don't want the burden, cost, restrictions, responsibility of home ownership. They spend their money on luxury items (rental, clothes, vacations, coffee, expensive colleges, phones...). Unfortunately, they are not saving and, as a result, have little money for a down payment when they want to buy. This is unlike previous generations who were frugal and saved.

They also don't want a starter home (1200 sq ft) but want a upscale house (2500+ sq ft).

Spoiled by low interest rates, ~3%. Note: previously 7% was a low interest rate.

Teach your kids morals, manners, self discipline, etiquette, financial discipline, values... Too many were not taught these lessons and now these adult kids are living at home with there parents still paying their bills.

[nonconformingwannabelover]

If anyone can help, I have to start paying rent and cover my own food costs (which I’ve already done for two years) from Tuesday if I’m to stay in my parents house. I turn nineteen this year and my parents made me drop out of school so I don’t have any qualifications and I’ve never been accepted in jobs.

Someone very kindly gave me money earlier in the week towards cat food and I’m so happy to say I have enough food to feed him until about Saturday (3rd of June) but help towards that would be amazing too, his cat food costs 13£ for dry food and 4.50£ for wet food. We have some dry food left for him but he eats Nood which is a really good one for his stomach (he suffers with IBD and his medical bills get pretty expensive (up to 150£ a month for checkups and medicine) but my mum currently covers those but I’m not sure if she’ll stop doing that.

Literally anything will help me at this moment, standard cost of food a week is about 20-30£ for me and rent is about 60£ a week (I know it’s 260£ a month for me to stay at home because that cost also goes towards electric and gas.)

If you can spare any money please please do, and if you can’t, then please reblog this, your help means the world to me, literally.

My PayPal is https://www.paypal.me/honeyperidot

[gabr-iella]

There is nothing quite like being at home, to make you want to go back to work.

[nicxxx5]

i hate how my family can never leave me alone in the bathroom, especially my mom

if i spend longer than ten minutes in the shower they are banging on the door

i will spend a while in the bathroom but that is because a.) that is my quiet time and b.) i have digestive issues like everyone else in my family, but no one cares.

tonight i literally got in the bathroom at say 11:50 because i checked a message that was from my friend at 11:46 and i went in after that. i went to the bathroom for 10-15 minutes because of my stomach then i turned on the water at 11:07. i end up getting out at 11:19 but before that my mom is banging on the door claiming i've been in there for over 45 minutes??? i was barely in there 30

after i told her all the times i was checking my phone so i know how long i spent in there and she does not fucking believe me. she said the water was running a long time in the tub and i maybe had it running for a minute BUT THATS STILL TOO LONG BECAUSE MY PARENTS TOLD ME SO!

i can't wait till i can move out again because it's such bullshit. 15 minutes is not that long of a shower. also it's 11 at night and i know no one else is taking a shower so why the fuck does it matter. i am not making that much of a fucking difference on that water bill

[hope-4better]

The worst thing about living at home temporarily is as an adult whose done years of therapy and is self aware enough to know why they’re reacting certain ways. And at the same time being unable to stop it completely. Being old enough to understand why your parents behavior triggers you but having accept you can’t control it or escape it. It’s like being a child all over again with no way out. I hope someday our parents understand being adult children doesn’t change our memories of them or that their behavior is still triggering for their children.

[im-not-a-college-dropout]

nov 16

hello friends i am very tired and stressed and i have not been sleeping well over the past couple of days. i think the lack of movement and stuff during the day makes it so i don't get tired as much at night, so i just kind of stay awake and restless. also more weird dreams, but that does mean that i fell into a deep enough sleep at some point for me to go into a rem cycle, so that is good? i'm trying to look into the positives because today has been mentally a lot even though i haven't done much-- though that seems to be the pertinent issue.

umm the new episodes of craig of the creek made me almost cry, and i think i do need to let myself cry at some point but i'm just not there?? i don't know i feel a lot more scattered and anxious today. i am proud of myself i read through fifty pages of the book that i've been meaning to read, though it isn't taking my interest like i would hope so i've just been moving between the upstairs and downstairs of my house trying to find something to do with the space that i take up while i am here. i do plan on leaving the house tomorrow so i can travel to the concert that i'm going to! yay. i am very anxious an djittery today so i hope i do not carry this energy with me into tomorrow. i took my meds i just need to use the sleep.

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[bethfuller]

limited perception.

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[moderat50]

Republicans Against Government Using Its Purchasing Power To Negotiating Lower Drug Prices

Republicans continually fight against the government negotiating lower drug prices. This is so drug companies can keep their large profts. This is in addition to the 14% tax cut Trump/Republican 2017 tax cuts.

[lowkeychelsea]

everything about my life right now is just fucking embarrassing. very much giving pathetic loser. but it could be worse. at least i am a child-free pathetic loser.

[rynamari]

Fucking this. Like I get along with my mom and brother, still live at home and am 31. First off, I have epilepsy(controlled but still), so it's easier in that regards to not worrying about it. 2, I've got people who are supportive when I need it and can help out with things. 3, we're all close so it's not hostile or anything.

And even if we disregard those things. Where I'm at, in order to rent an apartment you need to be able to be making 3x the rent. So if I find a place that is USD$1k a month, I need to be making USD$3k a month. Like what??

And yet I've been told by people I was in relationships they feel it's weird or that I've got no drive to be independent because I live at home. Like do I want to live with a partner and enjoy the privacy of that? Sure. But I'm also completely happy living at home

Just a reminder that people who still live with their parents as adults deserve respect and for you to stop being ableist. There are multiple reasons someone could still live with their parents! From invisible to visible disabilities, finance issues, and more!

Stop using the “well they’re gonna turn into a creep living in their parents basement” punchline! It’s disgusting. STOP. BEING. ABLEIST. STOP. FORGETTING. THE. POOR.

[boudika628]

Here I am, yet again, in the lion's den. Living at home. In my 30's. Even though I left, when I was 18. Nowhere to go this time. I'm back in the den. Actively victimized. It doesn't make me a victim.

My ghostly appendix, yet again, is self-destructing. The sun never sets. With white blinds, the street lights shine bright. She never turns the lights off either. For fear of satan, sneaking up!

Her religion, is a cult, of herself. Narcissism, Revisited. The lion never stops, bemoaning its prey. I will not join a fantasy, this cult, this lion, a god. It could be any religion, but it's a religion of her.

She cannot reach me. I am untouchable. A sign on my door reads "Avoid her as much as possible!" My life boat is anchored, to the lion's den. Her reality, is but a fantasy. I won't join in her, shared fantasy.

My lifeboat, has a paper wall. Her grunts are audible, 24/7, through all hours of the day. So I sleep when she's awake. I'm awake, when she's asleep. Like an instrument, she plays with you.

You are not a human to her, but a tool. An extension of her will. Instrumentalized. Your ability to be played, demonstrate to her. Her godlike power, she never lies.

She isn't capable, of gaslighting. She truly believes, everything she says. She confabulates; false memories. For her, it's all true.